Update: just had it and it was weird cuz my mom has to talk for a little but the therapist was really nice. I oddly still feel a little worried tho. Lmk how yours goes/went
I am soooo nervous for my first time I am almost 13 and I think shes gonna think "she dosnt have any probloms shes a kid!" I am leaving in 1 hour and 15 minutes !!! this helped thank you.
Im going to my first session today and im literally crying from nervousness. I always tear up when trying to answer simple questions or when someone tries to pry. Thank you for giving some examples of goals because I literally have no idea
@@LeeLee-wo3ug im doing ok! She was very nice and i didn’t feel judged for crying. She gave me this recyclable ice pack to distract my anxiety elsewhere and it helped a bit. Thank you for your comment, it reassures me a lot :)
I'm literally the same! It feels comforting in not being alone on how it felt, I'm glad yours is doing great and I hope mine would be just as nice I'm scheduled next week, I hope I don't burst into tears before we even start 🤣
I’m like that too! I’m glad I’m not alone 😭 my first session is today and I’m so nervous and almost cancelled because my brain keeps telling me that my stuff is no big deal 🙃
AHHHHH I HATE CRYING WHEN I GET ASKED SIMPLE QUESTIONS I got asked questions at the hospital and I was crying and I hate that I couldn't stop the tears and then I was trying so hard not to have a big grin so behind my mask
That's so true! I came to therapy for tge first time not long ago and litteraly failed to say what I wanted to, I sounded like such a dumb person I am so ashamed
Wow, you’re so compassionate and understanding. You made therapy not seem scary. It’s disarming in a way. I feel as though I have so much dark baggage to work through and see it as not being fair to unload that on someone. I’m still a bit worried about booking my first therapy appointment but I know I must do it for the betterment of my self and my loved ones.
@@KayKay-or6cd I’m so sorry to hear that, but don’t be scared! My first appointment went well, she was kinda just getting to know me, and yesterday I had a virtual session. I personally didn’t like doing therapy from home but that’s just me, otherwise everything is going okay. No worries, I’m sure this will be good for u ❤️
i have my first session in 20 minutes :)) so nervous bc I've been avoiding therapy for 3 years (since I was 13) and my mom convinced me to at least try one session today. so here I am
@@-arigato_honey_pie-1401 i'm actually 17!! in the comment i meant i was avoiding since i was 13, so i was 16 when i posted it haha but i no longer have therapy, im doing well!
...I just had my first lesson and when the therapist started to talk about suicide I had this switching that makes me smile, because I'm nervous. I was never so embarrassed in my life 😥
Just got outta the hospital and I am being put in therapy. So I’ve been watching videos on how to prepare for therapy, I was scared of going at first but now that I know so many things I don’t think I’m really scared anymore. Nervous yeah, but I think I’m going to be okay, thank you!
To be fair, I don't know if counseling is a good idea for your health because the counselor will leave you to talk to other people or they might blame you for things that are not necessarily your fault. I wouldn't want to talk to someone who will eventually do things like that.
I can't imagine myself past tomorrow, all I know is I want to feel better than I do now. It took me years to finally ask to go to therapy. I'll be going for the first time a week from now. If this doesn't work, i don't know what I'll do.
Least you tried and that is very positive never forget just like going to the gym even if you just walk in and go out you tried that's all that matters
My first session is today. I'll go alone and now idk what to do. I never tell someone that I do the therapy. All parts of my body feel numb. Overthinking n also anxious got me going insane rn🤧😄
I have my first session tomorrow and I’m SOOO nervous bc I’m super awkward and have no idea how to explain how I feel. In some way I always ends up in embarassing and super-clumsy scenes, so I’m probably gonna accidentally break the chairs (it has happened before…)
i have my first session tomorrow and i honestly have no idea how its gonna go. we had a phonecall last day and it didn't really feel nice when we talked :( actually you can't even consider that talking. i couldn't get anything out and my whole mind went blank when she started talking to me and i almost cried. im very nervous about tomorrow i kinda feel like not showing up ughh idk what to do. what if i can't speak when we're talking face to face? what if i just start crying god i fuckinh hate this
lol, I honestly am pretty sure I'm broken mentally by my own doing and being just way too self-aware for years while also kinda getting into a bad depression circle basically ruining my life day by day, and that all happened online through chatting to people while also drinking heavily to kinda party online at first until it became just this weird stumbling in the depression and anxiety just knowing that people know things so learning a way out or coping mechanisms from people would be the only way to maybe get out of it, until I realized it was medical depression and got through it now I don't really show emotion and a lot of times stumble through life seeing myself and everything around me inside my head in this warped fake positive image basically telling myself everything is alright even when it isn't.
I'm nervous for the day I'll get back to therapy The first I had was bc school recommended so my dad made me go, but it also didn't last long enough for me to say a thing, now I kept overthinking that if I was the one going for myself, I wouldn't say anything and it would be awkward. it helped me a little
Important: If you are broken that's okay too. You can fix yourself it's all inside of you . And it's not your fault to ask for help to do so. Just know that you can
My first appointment is tomorrow, and I'm way more nervous than I was when I thought it was in THREE DAYS. I got the dates mixed up and now I'm just trying not to die:'')
Every time I've gone to a therapist I had a horrible time the entire time and was just relieved for it to be over. I think some people just need to start somewhere else on their healing journey when they're not ready for therapy and I wish that was talked about and understood more. Some people really aren't ready and they're too consumed in problems to be able to function in therapy But also thank you for the video, I will be able to prepare for when I am ready! It's helpful to know how to prepare because I'll also know when I'm at the point that therapy will be able to help
can you help me with this thought It was my first time, I opened up and I felt like I got judged. He talked about his life problems, sorta compared and showed how small my problem is. And my problem is NOT small. I am surrounded by such people that it's now getting suffocating living in here. He declared me as immature and negative. should I go for the second meeting with this therapist?
@Ozosawi omg im sorry I completely read it wrong. I thought you were talking about going for a second meeting with a NEW therapist. im so sorry. I meant you should totally drop the first one :((
Even if the patient is inmature and negative i don't think there's a need to make them feel so unconfortable by saying it thay way.. definetely find a new therapist
i’ve had therapy sessions before, but those ones was with my parents about their divorce, but tomorrow morning I have my first session about my eating disorder and i am so freaking out right now
I like your style. My counselor never smiles until end of the session. I feel more like a case study than a client getting help. My counselor never admitted they could not help me/us. My husband still want to look pretty like you after all those sessions we went to. And I still want to wear the pants. We need help. Please make video on counselors stepping up to admit when they dont have the skill to help someone. Thanks
I'm 12 and my first session is in ~3 days (Thursday, and it's Monday as I'm writing this.) I have no idea what therapy is going to be like for me, if it will help at all, if it'll be easy, if it's gonna be nice.. I don't know. I'm also nervous about opening up to my therapist when I go see her because if I can't even open up to my parents about my problems, how will I open up to her? I've had quite a horrible past 5 years so far. Just constantly getting worse and worse. I feel like my issues aren't THAT bad and that there's people that have it worse than me and they could use therapy way more than me, and that I'm wasting their time with my stupid problems. I'm hoping everything goes well.
i feel like I can't be emotionally vulnerable with the therapist I'm gonna be seeing bc to them it's treating a patient not having a conversation with a friend so I shouldn't overshare but literally that's what they're supposed to do what's wrong with me😭😭
About to go now to my first session I expect them not to take me and it all just be me filling out paper work though I've been looking for two years so I have zero expectation of it working at this point
I'm still not brave enough to go to therapy, even if I have been thinking about it for four years now.. there are so many reasons I don't want to go but at the same time I feel like I'm slowly falling apart mentally lol
I feel like am gonna waste my therapist time by telling my problems because its my problem am bad person because i am over scared and i feel like they will think am over dramatic
I have my first session tomorrow and i have to do it with my mom, im really anxious about it cause i wrote some stuff down that ive never told my mom on the form thingy i had to fill out. I really really hope they dont mention anything relating to it :/
I've recently been having appointments with my psychologist, I didn't pay much attention because she asked me a lot of questions (to see if I'm eligible for therapy) and it made me really uncomfortable so I cried often those times lol... I told her about my eating disorder and she told my mom about it, really wish I didn't say anything about it ngl- and she said I'll have to talk to my mom about it with my ed therapist, so that freaked me out haha, really regretting it high key, but maybe it's a good thing since I'm getting help for it... so now I'm having an appointment today with a different person. The psychologist mentioned I'll have to meet with 2 different therapists? One for my depression and the other for my eating disorder? I'm not sure what my appointment will be for today, but I hope it goes well and I don't end up breaking down in front of anyone, it's really embarrassing for me- 😅
Is it offensive to ask a therapist why they think they can help me by talking? I just....I want therapy to be a thing that works...but I don't understand the premise or have faith in it. I feel like I would just offend every therapist I talked to.
Maybe with that phrasing it could be a bit shocking, but I'm sure they'd understand why you want to know how it works. Sometimes asking that question can be not only helpful for setting goals, but also finding a therapist that will help you work towards those goals in the way that works best for you. The thing is, most of the time therapy is more than just talking. Yes, you share your experiences and thoughts, but a good therapist will do more than just listen to you. They provide you with coping strategies, new ways to frame your mindset, some explanation of why you feel the way you do, and much more. I can't say I wasn't just as skeptical as you when I started and I can't say that therapy alone is the perfect treatment for everyone, but I can say that I and a lot of people I knew have had at least some relief from therapy and the outlet it provides. Besides, even if you do only talk, sometimes having a way to work through the small stuff can help you focus on the broader issues more by taking away some of the extra stress. Again, not saying it's perfect, but if you have the resource available I'd say it's worth a try to see if you think it will work for you or not
@@Lofi1teaa helloo- in my experience i actually didn’t feel that the type of therapy was the right fit for me (it was very verbal based and i *really* struggle with expressing my feelings) - but my therapist was really sweet and kind. one of the first things that she said to me was “all your feelings are valid” which really stuck with me and i remind myself of it a lot. so i think that giving therapy a go was really beneficial, even if i didn’t want to continue it. but yeah the first session is usually really casual so you’ll be okay, whatever happens!!
