Immigrant parents have sacrificed A LOT for their children's future and that's why they have such high expectations from their kids. Love your mom she's so sweet
@@user-fj4pd1zx4s that’s not true. Do you realize how hard immigrants have to work to provide their children with better futures? There’s a reason why immigrants are the hardest working in America. They work the hardest jobs and try to give their children the best future they can. There’s a reason many immigrant’s children are very successful, because of the life their parents worked so hard to provide for them. Don’t make that generalization that immigrants don’t work hard, when they are the hardest workers ever.
yes. so many earn minimum wage, and don't buy nice things for themself. they don't eat out at restaurants, they do not order in, they do not travel, because of the minimum wage. i know so many like this. its a life of discipline, hardwork and saying no to immediate gratification.
@@user-fj4pd1zx4s Immigration is extremely hard. Learning a new language, moving away from your family, a new culture,...and yet you need to adjust yourself with a new pace in life.Now many move with kids,so have to focus on them rather than working 60 hrs a week.It's really one of those things that only people who went through it can understand.
@@user-fj4pd1zx4s I complete;y understand your point of view. Part of what you're saying is to take "responsibility"in life. Parents and kids no matter what they're going through. And that's correct.Parents can encourage their kids to become successful like Dr.Rabah or continue to have a minimum wage job for the rest of their lives. It's 100% their call. But immigrant parents do push their kids cause they think it's their "responsibility" they chose to bring their kids into this country :)
@@user-fj4pd1zx4s And please don't get me wrong. I'm 100% against emotionally blackmailing kids. but it doesn't seem like her mom did that, she was being supportive and encouraging to her kids:)
I belong to a conservative Pakistani family. My daughter just turned 6 and I hope n pray I can raise her the way your mama raised you, Dr.Rabah! Thank you so much for this video. Lots of prayers for you and your family ❤️
I come from an immigrant family as well and I believe that it’s very toxic for parents to say things like bringing a B grade home will not be accepted. Or any result other than an A is looked down upon. Some students struggle with grades despite working really hard and that’s how I was too as a student and the toxic Asian culture affected my mental health as well as my performance at school. There’s nothing wrong aiming for the best and doing your best but mocking a lower letter grade is not okay.
agree. I think it’s good to have high expectations if your child can handle it. For them to be struggling and depressed that they aren’t doing well is not okay.
Growing up in Jordan I understand how much your mom fought for you against the conservative community for you to grow up as the successful woman you are, also the amount of trust she gave you!!! But it was all well deserved
Hats off to your mom for setting the standards. The biggest thing that I took from this video is, as parents we have to do better. Better loving our children. More trust. And setting high expectations. Thank you, for the video! I am currently serving on my 17th year in the Army as an Active Duty Soldier and finishing my undergrad in Health and Science. I too, plan on taking the DAT this coming year and proceed to Dental School. Blessings!
First, we absolutely LOVE your Mom!!!Your mother shared so much wisdom! It’s beautiful to see a mother instill excellence in her daughters at an early age! It makes sense that y’all all are bosses! And I love that she advice love and friendship because that’s the foundation for trust. Your mother is phenomenal. And I’m sure she’s very proud!
@@Fifteenblades you are welcome! I’m so glad to be part of this community! Thank you for devoting time to produce and publish high quality videos, Dr. Rabah! Also, you and Chris will be awesome parents and your kids will have wonderful role models for parents, grandparents, and aunts!
I am teary eyed! Thank you for having your beautiful mama share her thoughts and advice! She did an amazing job raising you and your sisters. Love and friendship are truly what make all the difference.
MashAllah your mom is so beautiful inside and out! Thank you for taking your short time with her in Boston to share her with us and record this! She is a natural in front of the camera! And you are both inspirations mA! Now I see where Dr. Rabah gets some parts of the personality I see on her instagram from. All the best!
I really resonated with this video! I’ve always loved fashion, hair, and makeup and I’m in surgical tech school. I find it exhilarating to be able to do both and I’ve even sometimes worried like “am I worthy of this career in surgery” and I felt like this video just solidified and reminded me that it is not a disadvantage to be and do both lifestyles ❤️
I remember one time talking with my friends about our grades and how our parents reacted. My friends parents took them out for dinner,gave them money and even one of my friends got the new iPhone at that time. My Colombian mom told me good job but you can do better🤣🤣🤣
Your mom is so beautiful, funny, and amazing! Please thank her from us for having the courage to come on here and share with us. I can' t imagine how scary it is to be recorded for the first time speaking a second language. I am currently learning Spanish and I know how difficult it can be! Great video (:
Amazing strong women! Your mom is incredible. She is beautiful on the inside and out. I hope I can raise our son with the wisdom she has with you all. Thank you for sharing her with us. ❤️ from 🇨🇦
Your mom reminds me so much of my grandmother! She always pushes me to do my best and because of that I'm a Biotechnology and Pre-Medical undergraduate senior student, hoping to be accepted into medical school by January 2022. Keep posting videos like this, they serve as inspiration to many! 😍
I have a lot of respect for your mom and for you. I have been raised the way your mom raised you and I am also a doctor now. However I would never do the same for my children. Telling your kid that getting and A is not an option beacause there's A+ is simply wrong, harmful and unhealthy. We love our parents but we have to admit that they are humans ans they make mistakes, one big mistake is judging your own kid by the marks he gets. We are raising humans, not robots. And sucess is not about how prestigious is the position you get to and how much money you make at the end of the month. Success is about what kind of human being you beacome.
Your mom is very sweet , she truly is an elegant lady & considering the fact that her first language is Arabic, she spoke English very well, she is so lovely 😍❤
Thank you for sharing. I'm from the Caribbean (born and bred) and migrated to the US. My parents are the same. They expect nothing but the best but they always allowed me to do me and pursue the things I like. I ended up being a chemistry teacher but I also advocate for health and fitness so folks are always questioning how I do both because they seem like a contradiction. My lifestyle never affected my ability to teach well. This video was refreshing.
More videos like this! You’re mom is a gem and you are so blessed to have her! I have two young preschoolers and this definitely gave me some insight moving forward! ❤
Moms should raise kids in order to be happy, not successful. Success is a notion that comes later in life, during the first steps happiness and self respect are the most important. Success comes after and is not a high-priority (so as high grades at school). I think that is a better subject/title! Your mom looks adorable!
God Bless - such a beautiful video with your Mom. I can relate to EVERYTHING and am so grateful for the tough love I got from my parents. Thank you for sharing this. :-)
I have two baby girls, a 1yr old and 3 yr old. I love them dearly! Obviously enough to admit I have so many questions on how to raise girls, how to be a good representation of a woman in front of them. Love this video and your Mom! Thank you!
Your mom is lovely ☺️ she definitely got more comfortable as the video went on! I love how she trusted you at 16 and didn’t listen to everyone telling her not to send you. You should do an interview with her in Arabic so she can be more comfortable and nothing is lost in translation!
Well quite interesting way to interact with your own children :-) but I think the most important thing( it is my personal opinion) let your children know that you CAN be imperfect sometimes. But your mom is amazing.
I am a new immigrant , I am graduate doctor from my home country , preparing for my board exam and starting a family too , both you and your mother are inspiration to me .. please say hi to her from me
I liked your mother a lot. She followed with you and your sisters the same raising strategy my mother followed with us ( me and my six brothers and sisters ). And all of us are very successful in life Alhamdo le Allah. Kind regards from Libya Dr. Rola and you have a new Libyan follower.
This reminded me so much of my mama. My parents immigrated from Pakistan to Germany and came from a conservative background. My mother has also raised three beautiful and successful daughters. I am the eldest one and just started my residency in vascular surgery.
This was so wholesome Mashallah, I couldn’t stop smiling throughout the whole video! 🤩 I relate so much to your upbringing as well (also being an immigrant with sisters only), especially the reaction to good grades 🤣 Inspirational as always 🥰
What a wonderful life story, totally agree with your mom, as an immigrant parent (mom) and from strict background I totally can relate to your story, did same for my 3 boys, B was not an option, made them cry at times but then they thank me saying actually it feels good to have A's, this beautiful woman did such a great job raising her daughters, love from Canada ....Anna used my husbands account : )
Your mother is classy and very well spoke. But am I the only one who felt that this is controlling parenting when she said "nothing less than A+" this is how I was brought up too, and now when I look back I feel its very wrong. tell your kids, "its ok to fail, that's how you learn" not "u should always be the first one". not an hate, its just my point of view
I am a Palestinian-Canadian with older parents who were most certainly raised in a very conservative family in Palestine, but I do not agree with setting my standards to getting " ALL A+'s and A's" ---all or nothing. Yes, school is a TOP priority and excellent grades are absolutely ESSENTIAL to succeed and further your education. BUT, I know many people who have gotten a mix of A's and B's and so on...and are successful Physicians, Pharmacists, Dentists, Lawyers, Engineers, Business people etc today in North America. I think we are human beings...and sometimes we come across a specific course or subject that we may struggle in. Regardless, I would not be disappointed or want to instil fear in my child if he/she makes a mistake in school or doesn't achieve that A+ on some occasions. That can create a lot of pressure and anxiety/stress for someone. I can also tell you..that when you go through the medical school admissions process...each Medical School has a LIMITED number of seats for the incoming class...and usually they get 1000's of applications....if they can only accept 500 students...then 500 will be denied admission and MANY of those students are those A+/A students. So, good grades are NOT the only key to success. There is work ethic, common sense (which I can tell you some medical professionals do not have), community involvement, critical thinking, emotional intelligence etc.. Anyways, just my thoughts.
Thanks for sharing this video, I'm glad RU-vid recommended your video today :). I'd love to get your (or comment readers) thoughts on something. While it's brilliant to see how you and your siblings thrive, a lot of children are crippled (metaphorically) by the weight of high expectations of parents, and do not rise to the occasion as you and your siblings did. I am curious as to how you and your siblings navigated your own feelings around the weight of expectations (perhaps fear of consequence, disappointment, etc.), would you be able to share? Sometimes I wonder, is managing these expectations is a lot simpler for children who are intellectually/academically gifted or intrinsically smart; or what qualities from the parent/child dynamic determine actual success (as opposed to developing psychological trauma in the child).
omg this video is just beyond incredible and valuable. Your mom is so freaking sweet MashAllah ♥️ Please do more videos. I'm definitely so intrigued to know more about you and your family ♥️😍
I really appreciate this! I was always left to study and focus on that but I really wished I learned how to socialize more and take care of my appearance as a young lady
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