Skillopedia - Skills for the real world : very nice trips I really don't know how to react when ppl act rude to me so i just ignore it and walk away. Sometimes it is harder when ppl insult me but they did not point to my name as when i walk into the place they are and they start talking shits out without naming to me but i can know they are insulting me.
I told my crush why I like her because she is asked the reasons. Then I trust her and tell the reasons why I like her. Now she spread them in the school. Now everyone humiliated me. Please tell me how to get over this. Please guys. If things gets worst I don't know how to handle. 😭😭😭😭💔💔 I feel like I'm a fool because I trust her😭😭 please help me. What I do to this😭
@balla x Or they have something going on at home and they’re surprised that you react because they can’t even react when it comes to facing the person who has done the same to them
I have been bullied for years. I can’t get rid of person in my life . Initially I cried and got depressed a lot. I was depressed for a long time. Then eventually I accepted the situation. I actually started ignoring the person who bullied me. I started walking away instead of responding to the bully.. I actually developed habit of developing the anger in me to success. I got successful by setting goals for myself and acheived them. I grew in my career concentrating on work., lost weight . I converted negative energy to positive energy. I became a successful confident person. I did not allow bully to win over me . I told myself . Be brave, be strong and fight . Don’t give up. Success will be yours,
I have the same problem I have to see this person everyday and the insults are deadly. It make me depressed and this person get even more upset if I respond.
@Buggs Bunny Probably in his head he is intimidated by the idea that being white is superior to other races and feels insecure about that.The reason for him to say it is he intended to mock white race by refferring that they always see themselves superior.That is the picture he wanna see
When you ignore them, they don’t stop. I had a neighbor who was bullying me all the time, I ignored him and he continued until I stood up to him. He was in shock that I was not afraid of him any,ore and I felt he became scare of me instead. That’s how you deal with a bully, you confront them.
Yep. Confrontation is the only thing a lowlife understands. Ignoring your bully tells them they’re right about whatever they just said. Besides, not putting a bully in their place means they’ll feel free to come back time and again because...what’s stopping them?
Yeah same here my boss wife bullied mi for long time auntil the extent of depression and anxiety but she didn't care but one day l said enough is enough right now she fear me not bullied any more.
I hate those PPL who are consistently talking loud in front of you to insult u indirectly , provided they r fools n failures themselves and teachers don't even scold them ! Hit like if U agree
i hate them really i am gonna to change my school bus because some foolish lol and dumb rough boys always always talk in loud voice and just try to always make comment on me i hate the and want to kill them
That’s why I stopped working at offices since ten years and that’s why I like Amazon Prime and ordering online. The less you deal with people, the more peaceful your life would be. We live in an evil world.
I naturally have a pretty good self esteem, sometimes my self esteem gets too high but I don't realize it until the moment is over. Although I have a higher self esteem, I still get very sensitive when someone insults me or asks what I am doing, I also cry if someone comforts or compliments me.
So true! I have mastered this. I don’t get upset at other people’s insults simply because I understand that’s it’s coming from a place of insecurity most of the time.
@@brendond.3158 It means Homo sapiens which is a person or a thing like you or me lol if you mean something different please give proof or site the evidence I'm kinda curious
I am good at ignoring people, I don't hate people I love them but when I see people who are haters and gossipers I tend to stay far and that is why they hates me.
The fact is some people have a prejudice towards a certain person because of their nationality, Race, Religion And I agree it never stops untill you face them head on!.
@@llewbach77That's discrimination.In Ontaro Canada the thing to do is file a complaint with The Ontario Human Rights Comission.In America If you can prove that someone discriminated against you you can SUE THEM.
I learned the best line... it's simply this when someone makes a rude comment.... "ARE YOU OKAY???" I think this line is fantastic because it deflects it back to the person and makes them think what the heck is going on! You could even add the line ...You don't seem okay !!!
I literally can't. Your advice is good but they literally sit near me just to make fun of me, and I get so mad. It's hard to calm myself down from that.
@@marysimon9982 yes same is happening with me actually they gave me perticular name and just make fun of me every day shout the name loudly in class room to make every one laugh on me but i can't do any thing , but i keep my nerves so clam just to avoid those stupid peoples
1. Express how you feel - “I feel insulted by what you said” 2. Ignore the insult - move onto something else or walk away 3. Return the ‘insult’ with a joke 4. Report the insult - tell someone else who would listen to you 5. Do some self care good for yourself every time you are insulted
My boyfriend’s X abused me for no mistake of mine !!! Before even getting into relationship I did ask both my guy n his x are they over with the relationship... and both agreed ... after few months later this X of his comes back and insults me so much .. that I thought of ending my life .... when checked with my guy .. he coolly tells me that no she din abused me ever neither scolds him ( I never hurt pple ) but other pple hurt me so much that I get into depression...( I seriously don’t know whom to trust and whom should I let go ) Hope I find peace myself !!!
The #1 Mistake is when dealing with those kinds of people is "Being nice". Show them your dark side. It doesn't have to inbolbe violence or being necessarily rude but be assertive.
Even though I agree with the "silent treatment" I feel like giving a rude person a 'slap' once in a while and showing them their place is a great thing. *You savagers out there, keep going you good.*
*REMEMBER* those who insult you or being rude to you : - They hate themself - They hate their job, their life - They see your life pretty happy and not so much stressful and you are reminder that what kind life it would be if they would choose differently. - They really doesn't about you or your life, they just want someone to put down, insult, and being rude to you, because they know that they aren't alone with putting you down, insult or being rude. So they have support for putting you down. - They are weak!
I’ve learned that those people seek a reaction. They want you to stoop to their level. I’ve also learned that if you just simply ignore them and treat them as they don’t exist, they get even more upset until they burn themselves out.
But ignoring is not always the solution. Confronting them immediately is right. We Shouldn't be quiet for the first time so that it doesn't happen again
I believe that people who makes fun of others are completely insensitive because they would not ever realises how their rude comments affect badly to others..
Charu yes like my niece made fun of me. I told her that hurt my feelings and all she said was your too sensitive and made fun of me for the same thing that night the next day and the next day. I know I’m fat without the constant insults. One time I told her I lost 5 pounds since thanksgiving. I’m still overweight but she needs to stop insulting me.
When it comes to such people, I learned and went through a lot. As people differ you know exactly who to respond and who to ignore. I left many communities because of wicked people and every time I left I feel more peaceful believing that God will fight on my behalf. My God is a fighter.
Sometimes getting yourself out of an environment that harbours insults is the best thing you can do for yourself, comebacks to insults and staying calm don't always work.
That doesnt work as well. I had a bunch of women chasing & stalking me on social media to harm me more. Never give up your ground. Hit back hard...and they will scoot. Bullies are shitty people with trash for self esteem.
@@boltb3706 It worked for me. I walked away from a family that I had been very close to for years. The husband was having mental health issues and was on all kind of meds. He used to be fun, but then he changed; and one day I just hung up the phone and cut the whole family out. The other members of the family were hurt the most. I also left a job that I loved. Not many people can say look forward to going to work every day. I did, until my supervisor had a plan to wash me out like he has done to others. It was a losing battle. I retired early and took my pension. The story is much longer in regard to this. My evaluations were exemplary, otherwise. Records show I left in good standing. Big changes were made after I left. There was an investigation as to why I left. Karma is real.
I agree with the narcissistic part and if you are with a narcissist telling them how you feel is the worst thing you can do but you can use this technique with a friend who you know very well and if their actions affected you negatively in that case this can work.
Why world is full of wicked rude insecure people.Good people r doing good for themselves without hurting anyone.Goodness without mental power is a weakness. People should develop there logical powers to cope up adverse situations.karon
The advice was good, but the comments made a lasting impression on me. I have dealt with so many bullies over time, and if people started showing each other more respect, and work together rather than always putting others down the world would be a much better place. To all the people who have experienced bullies I wish we could all unite, and gather all the bullies and put them on some deserted island, and leave us all alone.
Responding to an insult might be the solution at a workplace but except for those places, responding always works against us. I have always tried to explain myself whenever I felt insulted hoping that the person opposite to me would accept his/her mistake but instead they got so satisfied, they start insulting even more. That is the worst feeling ever.
Never explain yourself to people who have no respect for you. Let them know painfully that You Ain't got time for their disgusting stupidity. Sorry that happened to you. They're beneath you And they know it. Insecurities are loud.
It’s their parents’ fault. Bullying is inherited. Parents bully their kids, and when their kids become parents, they bully their kids, and so on. Misery root leads to misery leaves.
4 reason why insult you: 1 insecure, dont feel good about themselves, so they want to control others by putting them down. 2 jalousy 3 lack of understanding of your ability/problem 4 they like you and playful tease you 1 Stay calm, breath a few times first 2 Tell how you feel and that it has concequences what they do (also for the relation) 3 ignore insult completly, change topic, walk away 4 humor, in a nice way 5 report 6 self-care 😄 to feel good 7 document yourself, what you like about yourself, strenghts, achievements, character..
"I wonder why you feel the need to say..." is one thing a psychologist told me I could say. Also, "why would you say that to me?" puts it right back on the aggressor and demands an answer. Very powerful.
My goodness It is incredible being in all of your presence. I am amazed at how some folks jump on someone ( just because their opinion is different) and they completely ignore that their opinion is different to yours yet you aren't doing the same by jumping on them. Sigh I’m glad I found this video & comment section💞
Some people will do it just to get a rise out of you . And when you stand up for yourself justifyingly so with good reason in a positive manner, they feel offended and will play the " victim card". Abusive people most often fall into this category.
The funniest part is, those people who insult others do not have the least of the capability to understand the smart and funny responses we make... it's actually funny too😂😂😂
I have been on the receiving end of insulting people. It is very hurtful. I avoided these people altogether. It's jealousy and Insecurity. Confrontation and ignoring , walking away are the best ways to deal with these kind of people. I take a walk and get exercise; it makes me feel good
That neighbour of mine, had no idea of who he was dealing with. I wrote an extremely strong letter to management who then wrote this neighbour a very strong warning. HE NOW RESPECTS ME.
Just take it in stride. Always be positive, show that it isn't affecting you. Avoid insecure and ignorant people once they expose themselves. A lot of people lack basic social and communication skills. Do not invest in anyone who has personal, emotional or mental issues.
@Tani_Leo if you do the same there is no difference in you and them..! although it's a matter of perspective! every person is different and something that works for someone might not work for someone else.! I would have simply focused on my work if i were at your place,.this works for me....!
Yes 100% truth. Experienced by me. I know a person(family member) who insults cause he's rich and thinks he is superior and above all. He does the same to many people.
My favorite way of disarming someone who's trying to insult me is to say, completely unironically, "Thank you." It almost always throws them off and gets them to leave me alone. But then again, I have a super thick skin when it comes to insults and don't mind taking the self burn. And it doesn't work against everyone. But it works often enough that I consider it a useful tool for my toolbox.
Ignoring has always worked for me. You disarm the other person completely because you take away their power by not giving him/her the reaction he/she is looking for.
Yeah I need to work on my acting skills, because I get easily triggered by peoples disrespectful comments and would love to just be aloof and act like it doesn’t harm me but instead it really takes a toll on me and I will be thinking about it. Arghh why can’t we be nice to each other it makes so much more fun when you spend time with people in a loving environment
I honestly think the absolute best thing you can do when someone insults you, especially when it’s someone bullying you, is to smile. It doesn’t matter how harmful their words are, just smile, even if you have to fake it. By doing this, you aren’t giving them the response they wanted and this makes them angry. From them being angry you have now taken control and turned the tables, but don’t just insult them like they were doing before, simply then walk away (STILL SMILING) knowing that you have automatically just won :)
Smiling at someone bullying you is taking too much energy. It’s not for me. If I am boiling inside and have to fake a smile I would look stupid. I talk back instead. Let them have it. Tell them to F off. Show them I am not afraid and not going to put up with it.
I like this advice and would like to elaborate, I think it would be good to smile but also say something like "Okaaaayyyy and arch your brows while your'e saying it with a tone that reads as if you think they're weird." So when you walk away, you give them the feeling that you think they're weird, which they are. Then smile and walk away, like get me away from this crazy person. lol
Agree to most of the points mentioned here. But ignoring the insult is not always a good thing to do. From my experience i'd say that it will only lead to welling up of negative emotions inside you until one day it wil all burst up especially if an introvert is at the receiving end. That might even lead them to depression. The best way is to keep calm and give it right back probably in a humorous way! Right then and there!
Dont just walk away ...they might think you're scared....also being calm is most important...what the other person says isnt bible....respond without being aggressive
Sometimes you have to walk away. If you don't want to end in prison. Because that is what they want. They don't care to destroy your life. Because they are not happy with their lives. Please walk away from them 🙏
When you ignore this kind of people they try to say something more harsh so that you react, I have been facing this kind very often. And these people never ashamed of their deeds.
My greatest weapon is ignoring them. This makes the other person feel even more insecure about themselves than they already do. By ignoring them, I'm sending a message of "hey, I'm better than you and you're not worth my time." This infuriates them and they simply shut up, after which, they now want to get to know me better as a friend, but my answer is always "no", why give them knowledge about myself that they will try to use against me.
@@Kelle0284 same, they do it again and again just to get your reaction. What you do when you meet these kind of people, because I’m tired of this bullshit.
I HAD THIS VERY PROBLEM AND I REPOTED IT, THANK YOU KEEP ON MY DEAR LADY, SINCE THEN SHE DONT COME AND PASS IN MY SPACE ,NO MORE I AM SO VERY GLAD FOR YOUR STURDES, WE LOVE YOU, GOD BLESS YOU.
I am a nurse, and insulted by many people, several times in same or different situations even without any reason through out the life. My wife and my friends in same profession is facing the same. The level of patience we are carrying is probably unrecordable 😔
I am also nurse . Dnt bother too much about our professional criticism.. End of the day . Just feel contented that u are being Angel in patients life . Ur skilled have helped in someone's pain. I take all insults to make more improvement for in my nursing skill. Battal is not with others .day by day improves ur patience level. Bcoz our professional is so disrepeceted by others. Nothing wil change ... Take insults as a challenge... As I do .. U can slap others without using hands.. By keep patience and dnt give others chance to insult. Keep listening b K Shivani it will sure help u.
thank you! i have been insulted for the past few months but i did exactly what you said. now i know will never let people have power over me because that's what they want.
I stopped insulting myself about the littlest things after being insulted and that kinda worked .Just not having the same mindset as the bullies helps.
I'm 22 year old, i have been stammering since my childhood.. till now most of the people mocking at me when i speak. I was always trying to hide my stammering, now i have accepted my self as I'm.. After accepting my self as a stammerer if someone mocking at me so i even mock with them on my stammering.. And i am a person who stammer so what? But I'm good activity listener.
Never worry about those things which are just gifted to by nature.because u can just never change the nature so accept it and never get affected by what ppl have to say
U know, my uncle was a stammer, but i loved him. He was the most nicest person among my paternal relatives. Value urself, be confident, surround ur self with people who love u. Dont spoil ur time thinking y they cannot accept u with ur dissability.
Exactly. People are so dumb and don't even get what they're doing is not a good thing. And also they have no shame, even if you ignore or tell them how you feel they're still gonna continue being a jerk.
I got insult by a guy un a foodpantry he got crazy because little daughters we're running and he call them rats i insult him back My husband told me to call t the Police he said it was a danger situation and he could hit the keys at the begginig i ignore him but he continue to do it
I needed this just a few days ago I tried to guide a new employee and she was like waiting for me to say anything to her so she rained insults calling me black monkey coming from the mountain and I look like devil because am black. In my entire life I have never come across narcissist it's horrible being insulted because of your color,and the fact that I couldn't respond to her insults that's when she stood like if she was ready to slap me ......I couldn't hold back so I gave a her the *devil* eyes and said to her she can insult me because she is insecure but if she try to point me leave alone slapping I will mash her and fold her like chair then swallow her like a devil she stated so lately she seems afraid and she can not face me so never let the person insulting you to get away with it stand your ground and show them you are human too and the world has enough space for everyone to stand on
I believe using humor is the best defense. Also, not everyone but u got to feel Yourself better. Just knowing, u r making the best of the time u've got, does more than enough.
A good reaction / response would be to act like your mind is somewhere else, you are not really listening or preoccupied, or distracted by something more interesting, or busy, then say, “excuse me”, and walk away.
I had a friend that went to church all the time but always making jokes to belittle me one day I said I'm going to pray for you tonight about your negitive thoughts and he got totally offensive he knew I had a point and said it with empathy and smile on my face he never did it again...
You know what they say: "Hurt people hurt people". Ive got to tell you, that a lot of people don't care if you tell them the truth examples you gave in your video, they'd simply laugh at you and be even more mean, at least that's what my kids tell me. The kids today are even meaner than when I was growing up! It's really sad.
It's not always feasible to talk back to them. The best way is to not take on their energy, theyr toxic energy actually. If you smile & remain detached, you've won...
U know i feel exactly the same. I know this is insufficient but hugs to you for all the time somone was ever rude to you . I wish we could just pack all the rude people and put them together in a corner. How nice that would be ....
Of course a contextually matching comeback is best but in a pinch “so is your mom” or “toss off bully dirtbag” could work. Never cry, bully dirtbags aren’t worth your time or tears. Best to you all. :)
as a working and traveling musician... I have had to deal with this many times.. best advice..treat all people with dignity and respect...even if they wont treat you the same...
One comment I have used was….I’ll take a look at it, and, if I see I need to change, I will.. Do not relinquish your own power! My daughter, frequently asks…why do you say that. What do you mean? And so on…
In the past, I would scream and fight the person. Today, I walk it off, or give the person a neutral expression. Life is just too beautiful to waste carrying someone else"s stress
I really appreciate your opinion. Since 4 years from the day I decided to leave my corporate job and look for other career options which has ultimately lead me to few months of unemployment and less salary as compared to my younger sister who earns very well, she has deliberately made sure to insult me and degrade me infront of my whole family. Sad part is everyone supports her and nobody speaks out for me when she starts insulting me. I am carrying the pain for last 4 years and everytime I talk to her,my soul dies a little bit. I really wish to move on but don't know how to do it.
@@anusshka6 i KNOW HOW YOU FEEL. Ive been there. Its hard, but you have to change your approach. You seem to be more concerned about your sister, than your own wellness. Reboot the system. Write a new narrative, without her in it.
They behave like this in order to heal themselves from hurt and pain, if you're their target then you've been chosen as their teacher. The way you responds back and reacts helps them to resolve their own traumas.
This video is useful as it describes the kind of person who insults me directly and she also stimulates other colleagues to insult me in the workplace. She has the same manner and actions exactly mentioned in this video. She attacks me many ways and pretends like she does nothing.
i think this is because of their parenting ...because what a child see in their home they do the same so if someone parents or home etmosphere was toxic the children or person grew up with voilent torchring or bully nature...
Just ignore them - I was taught that it is not possible for anyone to insult you - it is only possible to insult yourself by accepting what they say about you as being true.
I just thought of the thing I'm going to say to my boss when she insults me. "Insults are not constructive or instructive. If you want me to learn something, I respond best to constructive critique."
Dear reader:You are beautiful and special. I know it's hard, sometimes very hard, but don't let anyone let you down. You can't fight fire with fire so instead of fighting back with mean words and insults, put them out with kindness. They might try to act powerful or rude but you are the real winner when you use kindness. God put you on this earth for a reason, because everyone has potential. Sometimes we make mistakes, and no one's prefect. But it's never too late to try. Live everyday to the fullest, because you have life, the greatest gift of all...
Walk away. My sister is a narc and said mean things to me. Just because they are family doesn’t mean you have to listen to them. BTW we haven’t talked in 2 1/2 years and I couldn’t happier
this happens to me on a daily basis ... and i am not just saying that its true. i am constantly insulted or i get verbally ganged up on when other people feel shitty about themselves im literally their easy target.
@@pawanjindal90 It's what people believe. What you think about them is what you think about yourself and here you are implying a hypothetical situation that neither exists, is relevant, and/or is even (to the basic conscious mind) logical in this situation. The police keep the law and people also have the right to defend for themselves but it doesn't matter. You are good enough, you who you are, and never let anyone tell you how to live your life or whether or not you're living it the right or wrong way because there is no right or wrong way (unless you want there to be). There is only what is and that is what you determine for yourself. I think what he means is just don't bother with them (in here, like in your mind). Move them out of the way and move on with your life. People who speak like that have no right to be loved by you or to even exist in your reality ❤️
Ignoring them is very effective. It sends a signal to them that they are insignificant and mean nothing to you. That drives them crazy and sometimes they will get more aggressive with the attacks. But it puts a public spotlight on them and their behavior. Now everybody looks at them like they have issues. I did this inadvertently not knowing the effects at first, but it's a game changer now.
