How To Read People Without Them Knowing

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Fans love Sherlock Holmes for his ability to notice things that most people ignore. While Sherlock is a fictional character, there are ways you can learn to read people in real life to better understand what they’re thinking and feeling without them saying a word. No individual read will be foolproof, but together they can start to paint a picture for you.
⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰
0:00 - Intro.
0:56 - #1: Reading other people's interest.
1:45 - #2: Take note of the direction someone's feet are pointing.
3:12 - #3: Read their emotions.
3:49 - #4: Look for micro expressions on their face.
5:54 - #5: Their breathing shifts from their belly to their chest.
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@PowerMatrixAnime 4 года назад

Sherlock was quite interested in People's Profession and he would sometimes deduce it through people's handshakes, haircuts and so on. Surgeons (doctors) and Musicians tend to have a softer handshake because their hands are very important for their work. Military people usually have great posture and short haircuts. People who do extensive manual labor, their dominant hand is usually noticeably bigger. Kindergarden teachers potentially have dirty clothes near the knees area.

@SNinjaQK 4 года назад

good job sherlock-kun

@error5753 4 года назад

Mentalists like Derren Brown excel in using the cold reading techniques that you are describing. The skill of cold reading is also common among politicians, actors, psychics, etc.

@zach2352 4 года назад

@@error5753 and pickup artists

@minad3804 3 года назад

i am a musician so i know that if you look at someone hands, you can usually deduct what instrument they are playing. Pianists usually have very soft hands, people who play string instruments have rough fingertips from playing, guitarist (idk if this applies to all but I noticed in some of them) have a longer thumb fingernail.

@saraps1 3 года назад

I want to pin this comment.

@jedidragonking5070 4 года назад

Robert Downey Jr's micro expressions are real obvious. You can tell that he's just like "I really don't want to talk about this. I'm here to talk about a movie, not my personal life. Please stop."

@Antman261 4 года назад

there are small elements of that feeling that we pick up on mostly intuitively. But he does things like pull up his nose (think of smelling a bad door), which is a disgust reaction, he squints his eyes briefly several times, and his lips drop as was pointed out in the video. Oh and he's trying to fight the urge to raise or furrow his eyebrows (raise in shock, furrow in anger). He's raises his nose in disgust when he's thinking "How dare this guy ask me this, how dare he betray my trust so cheaply", he's squinting when he's wondering what angle this scum bag might have, how he might be trying to rile him up into a poor reaction, and is sizing him up. He drops his lips when he's reliving memories he'd rather not experience, which immediately precedes the intensified breathing as those feelings trigger his flight or fight response. RDJ is weighing up his professional obligations and his desire to leave the entire time. The self control required to be able to think at all in those sorts of confrontations is intense.

@zainubaali6704 4 года назад

The RDJ interview will forever make me feel uncomfortable.

@jewelcopeland8440 Год назад

What i thought to say " let's keep this professional and about the movies success" usually the interview is always about a project and not about a personal conflict like divorce,past drug issues or who the celeb is dating. And this is neutral not an attack

@nihil_est_divinum 4 года назад

,,Not every hard swallow is a sign of dishonesty" Why is that the most important lesson, I've learned from this.

@bugeye8749 4 года назад

😪 clearly u watch too much porn cause u lonely n scared to approach women respectfully

@nihil_est_divinum 4 года назад

It's a meme, not a d*ck, don't take it so hard B-)

@Astavyastataa 4 года назад

@@bugeye8749 what the frick are women?

@FatmaYousuf 4 года назад

@@Astavyastataa your mom

@360.Tapestry 4 года назад

your personality = memes....

@SliceOfLife39 4 года назад

I don't think that RDJ Interviewer didn't or couldn't read the signs. I think he could and he did. He was fully aware of what he's doing and he pushed on any way.

@JamesRDavenport 4 года назад

Yep. I'm almost positive I've seen him do the same thing in another interview with someone else. What a tool.

@juanvenegas5253 3 года назад

Humans are strange creatures’

@cnh1710 3 года назад

Yes but is a good example to use. Perfect example.

@cjparrott Год назад

totally spot on.... the guy is a tw@t... he's had other similar interviews... ambush tactics for sesational reaction...

@haard_ 4 года назад

"People point their feet towards the things/people they like" That's the reason why a dead guy at a funeral points at the sky

@rexaustin2885 4 года назад

Best comment

@farihasultana2290 4 года назад

Lol

@diiana_aiupova 3 года назад

😂

@chelseavine Год назад

@@rexaustin2885 facts

@BOOKTOOK 4 года назад

"There is nothing more deceptive than an obvious fact" ---Arthur Conan Doyle,

@jimmychoo1205 4 года назад

‘I love you’

@apogaliev2939 4 года назад

Have you read the short book "The Present" yet? It's available free here. Just go to the website: globaltruthproject.com- click on the entry called “The Present.” What it says will turn this world around if it reaches enough people. You will see what I mean when you read the first page.

@abhishekmukherjee1680 4 года назад

@@apogaliev2939 who's the author

@talalkhan8745 3 года назад

Is it not 'elusive' rather than 'deceptive' ? Feel free to correct me if i'm wrong.

@GeoffMitchellProductions 4 года назад

“Lie to Me” is also a great show to watch to learn nonverbal cues. I watched all 3 seasons multiple times to practice learning subtle gestures. Plus Tim Roth was a great actor

@nihalm2684 4 года назад

Thanks I'll check it out

@ThatTypicalLlama 4 года назад

@@nihalm2684 I was SOOOOO angry when it just ended in the middle of the season right after a huge character development scene RUDE

@pgaudetz33 4 года назад

You might like the book, Talking to Strangers by Malcolm Gladwell.

@theeveoftime2052 4 года назад

Pamela Gaudet Wth?! I was at my doctors appointment today and we were talking about this exact book!

@wisdom-for-all 4 года назад

The ability to read people well can be a blessing and a curse. People who can lie and cry simultaneously have the power to dance around dragons with a straight face 😊

@aarna6853 4 года назад

Huh I had a fake friend who was this. She lied well, decieving most everyone, but not me. But when confronted she burst out of tears so that we would get in trouble (we were schol aged then)

@gurkiratsingh8747 4 года назад

@@aarna6853 Damn, you had those skills in school, noice.

@youlleatamuffinandlikeit4596 4 года назад

This is very true. Anyone raised in an abusive environment quickly learns to read people, even if it's subconscious.

@feliciaroyers1646 4 года назад

very wise

@Bunndog 3 года назад

That’s how I got out of mandatory military service lol

@twentyone5923 4 года назад

that's the frailty of genius, john. it needs an audience

@deepaklobo1992 4 года назад

The lessons from watching CoC videos are absorbed and then acted out without thinking about them. I don't need to take notes and consciously remember to act a certain way. And this is why I appreciate the sheer output of this channel - gives me a lot to work with.

@NarangaravZorigt 4 года назад

Usually the *smallest movements and signs* are a _big_ hint about how people are feeling.

@ShortStuffTiff 4 года назад

Soooo happy you finally did this! I remember requesting this over a year or two ago. Sherlock is one of my favorite shows! ❤

@InEccess 4 года назад

You mentioned people stand ridged when they're uncomfortable. Subconsciously I somehow always knew this tell. There was a girl in High School that I was interested in. We talked a lot, we got along well, and there were other tells as well that I was picking up on as well. She was making eye contact, but would look down at my lips while I was speaking, she'd giggle nervously, and her cheeks would flush. Me being the teenage boy filled with confidence, I broke the touch barrier by taking her hands into mine while subtly implying that she should follow me down a hallway before classes started for the day. Instantly, she seized up. She went ridged and her smile dropped. I thought I had misread the situation. Unfortunately, I read it correctly the first time. It was years later when she told me over Instant Messenger that she had a crush on me, and she thought I wasn't interested in her because I let her go after she seized up. Morale of the story is, when someone is uncomfortable, it's not always for the reasons you think. Turns out she was preparing herself for a serious make out session, and I read it as her getting ready to tell me I was in the friend zone. Such is life...

@greencertifiedweb 4 года назад

I started dating a girl and on our 2nd date, we were on a Ferris wheel, I reached over, put my arm around her and tried to pull her closer. She stiffened up so I backed off... We spent the rest of the evening together and I didn't do anything, she seemed stiff for the rest of the evening. When I took her home, I walked her to the door, I think I kissed her on the cheek and said, "Thank you, take care!" She stopped me. She told me that she really likes me, just sometimes has trouble letting people to get close to her. She ask me to give her another chance. We dated for 5 years after that!

@ajonye 3 года назад

I’m not sure to congratulate you or send my condolences

@antibiotic3024 3 года назад

Arent you thinking of maybe getting back to her?

@forgetfulstranger 3 года назад

Aww that's kinda... :(

@ericdinesh63 3 года назад

@@greencertifiedweb Thanks for sharing that experience..brings back memories. :)

@santhosh2192 4 года назад

You don't just need Sherlock's observation skills, you also need to have enough knowledge in almost everything to guess correctly.

@JamesRDavenport 4 года назад

Read a lot, enjoy learning and have the kind of memory to retain as much of it as possible.

@Aegius 4 года назад

The interviewer knew full well that Robert Downey Jr. was uncomfortable. He just didn't care.

@odile8701 4 года назад

Which is likely why RDJ had no problem handling him like a chump. An honest mistake is one thing. But he literally couldn’t have made it clearer that the dude was treading on thin ice, and that it was rapidly getting thinner. Man just figured he’d plow on anyways, and wound up taking a cold bath in RDJ’s contempt.

@gnarthdarkanen7464 4 года назад

That interviewer stepped right into one of the pitfalls of interviewing... He presumed that it's somehow a reporter's duty to make interviewees uncomfortable. There's a fairly popular myth that "Good reporters ask hard questions"... AND that's not exactly the way it works. Watch a bunch of interviews, both great and awful, and you'll notice the best interviewers made the space feel comfortable enough for the interviewees to open up. Some interviewees even gave up unsolicited personal information without even being asked... ...not because a reporter kept probing... ...but because the interviewee felt safe in revealing. If you're asking someone difficult questions, you have to be careful. It's easy to cause them to "clam up" and just refuse to share anything anymore... and even the hardest boiled detective runs out of tricks when the communication just gets cut off. Your "subject" can't be lying to you so you can read anything if he doesn't say anything at all. One sides conversations get you nowhere... and they don't take their time about it. ...remember that. ;o)

@JamesRDavenport 4 года назад

@@gnarthdarkanen7464 Exactly. This dude makes it absolutely clear it's about his career and ego scoring "points" with his professional circle and that he really doesn't give a damn about his interviewee. Nobody wants to deal with an asshat like that.

@gnarthdarkanen7464 4 года назад

@@JamesRDavenport You are correct, up to the point that he'd be fired in half the "professional interviewing circles" I've known... You get no points for not getting answers. THAT is basic "101 stuff" or even high school level. Some people can get by with being a bit of an asshat. Most of us can't... It's just worth pointing out, this guy has no excuse for not noticing how uncomfortable he was making the whole room... NOR does he deserve a pass for deviating so hard away from the promotion, when we ALL know that was the whole point of arranging the interview in the first place... "epic fail" Some bosses might let one screwed up interview pass... BUT not most of them, and certainly not this badly. ;o)

@nannyj9910 4 года назад

Omg actually love Sherlock so much very helpful thank you can’t wait to use these tips

@jaxx-inspiregrowcreate2862 4 года назад

“Crime is common. Logic is rare.”

@aaliyahpatel2819 4 года назад

Omg I’ve ALWAYS wanted to watch a video like this- yes! I’m so excited to watch this- Sherlock is AMAZING!

@CaseyBurnsInvesting 4 года назад

Interpersonal tact requires the ability to read the room.

@CaseyBurnsInvesting 4 года назад

E.V.A V2000 😉

@glitchocity 4 года назад

I (probably being on the spectrum but not growing up in a household that promoted such ideals of mental health for the high functioning) got really good at reading body language. My attention to detail and the smallest things and watching sherlock deduce things paired really well for me in learning more about people. I became and still am really really good at reading people generally speaking. I still have other struggles but body language doesn't lie. I just haaate making eye contact. I found that focusing on the bridge of the nose makes the person perceive eye contact, and equally allows me to asses the micro changes of the face well enough to generally understand what they mean - almost to well at times. This video is a nice collective of what I've been able to intuitively guess at for a long time.

@Akagami753 4 года назад

Oh thank you, i was waiting for Benedict's from a long time. Thank you times 100

@nicolestimothy9921 3 года назад

Sherlock Holmes is my favorite and inspiration when I have a conversation on anyone. In fact I had used the point you given and they shock every word I said. Thanks for the video guide to improve my skills and I love it.

@dvirkomlosh4152 4 года назад

Opened up french captions and now i can read anyone in french!

@yashpandit3551 3 года назад

Please make part 2 on this please it helps helps me a lot

@PrincessSketch13 4 года назад

oddly enough i already did these, but it's pretty cool learning that these are helpful/good!

@jimmyhabershae 4 года назад

Yes! Finally, a Sherlock vid...

@RacherW 3 года назад

YEEES!! This book is amazing! It change my life, really!

@lminnovations2521 4 года назад

I've waited for this video for so long

@etchlad 4 года назад

That book is very helpful to learn how to build rapport with anyone. I've used some of the tactics and practices in the book on my coworkers and it works like magic. Really awesome to see how it applys to real life

@ras_krystafari3333 3 года назад

Ooo I was getting so stoked on applying these to my own bodies observations, cheers for suggesting that mind control is best first and foremost applied to ones self Jocko willink wisdom

@alartan111 4 года назад

Rigid body is a deceiving sign. Is the sign of discomfort but it may be due to high affection for example. Or uncertainty.

@sarthak2121 4 года назад

Wow this is one of your best videos

@adityashrivastava1984 4 года назад

this was the most awaited video on this channel

@JohannY2 3 года назад

Excellent advice. I also use this channel to pick Netflix shows I can watch that will teach me inter personal skills while being entertaining at the same time.

@MrJ691 4 года назад

Yes! Thank you so much for this

@MSordernature 4 года назад

The best video since Ben started doing videos again.

@bosesbroselchen5049 4 года назад

Great Video! Love the topic!

@ashishram4213 4 года назад

Really was waiting for a BBC sherlock breakdown , been a great fan❤ , Thank You Ben...

@honeystars6863 4 года назад

I HAVE NEVER CLICKED THAT FAST

@supsupb0i 4 года назад

thanks for time stamps

@funwithengineering1184 4 года назад

5:17 That's My Sherlock Holmes , He applied it in real life 🥰 I Loved Guy Ritchie's Movies more than Series

@shinobix4925 4 года назад

God knows how long I've waited for a tutorial like this

@calcium9656 4 года назад

Gotta take a moment to appreciate your editing

@joyhaswell751 4 года назад

You totally got me, Charisma on Command. You knew that if I saw a picture of Sherlock, I would click. Good move!

@sheepgray08 4 года назад

The book that is recomended at the end is GOLD

@Catalinddm 4 года назад

07:34 - i am on the cusp of finishing it as we speak and can atest it's a very good book/read.

@lola.odetola 4 года назад

this is brilliant!!

@jorgemedina3449 4 года назад

More videos like this about Sherlock, please

@PaweDawczak 4 года назад

Wow! Very good episode 🔥 !

@508ctk 3 года назад

This was a great video.

@erwtiarns 4 года назад

Big thank you so much

@jessemitchem3880 3 года назад

Thank you!!

@iam_sherlocked8421 4 года назад

every since I watched Sherlock, I've started to pay attention on...everything. Obviously I can't be as good as Sherlock :D like...never, but I still can practice (like, I would be a bit better someday, than I am now).

@47RokuW 3 года назад

Amazing one started this book yesterday

@taleofkaran 4 года назад

Great job.

@lehampton1 4 года назад

I read How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie my senior year in college. As I began to apply it’s principles to my everyday life I saw a huge leap in my popularity. Each new friend I made reinforced my ability and confidence level so that when I joined the workforce as an independent CPA I could talk to a CEO or a apprentice plumber with equal ease. I took each new meeting as an opportunity to expand my network and business contacts. It works!!

@kernel1kadafi 3 года назад

Love this video

@shaul542 4 года назад

Favorite vids on RU-vid

@cristianrojasolivares8343 4 года назад

I hope this video all my life THANKS

@aaronc3396 4 года назад

I already can do that! It’s my talent

@jalensmith7848 4 года назад

This is the video I’ve waited years for😂

@praneelgogoi7769 4 года назад

How about analyzing Davos seaworth's method of negotiation

@WeirdDarknessOfficial 4 года назад

Agreed! That Dale Carnegie book should be mandatory reading for anyone who deals with the public. I've read it numerous times!

@haSHAH1 3 года назад

The point on"yourself" ❤️

@kimia1664 4 года назад

A few years ago, when I had just stepped into adulthood, I used to be really tough on myself and call myself a weirdo, and think that I’m superbad at reading people. I’m not autistic or aspie, but I do have ADHD and my social skills were less than average. So I worked on that part and improved myself, and now it feels like most adults I know, are worse in reading others than I ever was! People really take it for granted, but it’s important.

@TheFuschiaDragonfly 4 года назад

Ok this one finna be good

@muslimali8388 4 года назад

Liked before watching the video..

@runhomie1013 4 года назад

How convenient. I just finished re watching the series 😊

@E-GM 4 года назад

Same 😂

@kiranr3104 4 года назад

This guy is awesome

@AllanGildea 4 года назад

Thanks!

@SS-hw1ou 4 года назад

Many points are from Joe Navarro's book I like this video as it's a quick revision

@TheHumanRanger 4 года назад

The show Lie to Me is a great show on micro expressions

@ajesusencounter8261 4 года назад

Gosh I love the sherlock clips

@abheekkaushal 4 года назад

thank you finally

@KimPosteryournewpenpal 4 года назад

Pls lord I hope nobody can read me when I'm masking my social anxiety 😶 (this is my fav channel for teaching me how not to flub conversations btw. 💜)

@dundee7631 4 года назад

I’m so bad at conversations with people I’m not comfortable with yet😪

@alexy4na 4 года назад

Superb.

@shashwatpandey8766 4 года назад

Please do a charisma study on Elijah Mikaelson from "The Originals"

@jo2juice536 4 года назад

Hell yeahhhh i asked for it along time ago mann i love sherlock plus Benedict cumberbatch

@alireza2108 4 года назад

Hi , can you make video about Cristiano Rolando charisma ? Than you so much

@victoriaramos6601 4 года назад

He estado esperando por este vídeo

@rockingronda3022 3 года назад

Hi, can you please do a video on Tekashi 69 and how to be charming even though everyone around you hate you (something like that ). His interviews are very interesting.

@dipanshujha7293 4 года назад

The game Mrs. Hudson is on!! [Theme plays]

@overanalyzed5258 4 года назад

Not more than a week ago I was wondering if they'd do a sherlock video. I'd also like to see a breakdown of V from V for Vendetta

@abnerbriones2335 4 года назад

Hey, please make a video for the punisher of jon bernthal, we all can learn more about being fearless

@paafii9547 3 года назад

I'm am waiting for you to do a breakdown of Raymond Reddington of blacklist. Great content tho

@ItzaFashionMaritzaAyalaWalker Год назад

Have you ever looked at the show ‘Lie to Me’ great for the micro expression

@dominionjoseph101 3 года назад

I love the book too by Dale carnigie

@mr.darker2731 4 года назад

I was literally reading the book "How to win friends and influence people" and i saw this Coincidence?

@Niko-lt5ku 4 года назад

I noticed the part of microexpressions, and I was wondering if you could make a video about microexpressions? There is a series called Lie To Me which is all about it, and also teaches people about it I figured it would be a great thing to make a video about

@ayoubalharchal1074 4 года назад

Can you do a video on Raymond Redington's from the series 'the blacklist' ?

@helioantonio4336 4 года назад

5:50 when you want to know the truth, ask the question and watch how they will react in the next few seconds.. so you will know read and understand beyond maybe the person's real reaction And also the eyes, they never lie

@joaofranciscopires8601 3 года назад

Actually, body language gives us a lot of information. Sometimes I feel I read it unconsciously, but I believe if I pay more attention to these details I would interpret the people's information more efficiently.

@Laura-Yu 4 года назад

I wish I could actively practice these techniques, but I get too distracted with trying to make a conversation😂

@thepastofd 4 года назад

"People" are also watching!🤔 Gotta check for bluffs too, now.😎😂

@muhammadowais1881 4 года назад

I read this channels mind, that why I'm early af 😂

@lungs808 4 года назад

Even before this I was pretty good at reading people but with this God Tier

@rubenssiomusic 4 года назад

I don't know why, but I think this is one of the best videos made by Ben.

@joeydollas1657 4 года назад

break down shawn spencer from psych! he has a very unique style of charm

@young7931 3 года назад

Best way to understand someone body language is thinking how would you react if you were in the same situation ie: first date and you get hugged by your date the moment you walk in.