How To Dissolve Social Anxiety And Connect With Anyone 

So true.

Can you explain it for me more pls.

@@Noor-sl5ep like imagine talking with a woman at the bar, u should not expect to get her number or expect to get laid. Just go with the flow. U get it? Or do you want another example?

It's good

But how to do it when you are in sale and you need to hit the quota?

beyondego vibes

they ve realised they don't need anyone , which is everyone's case . just need to know it

True

Very true!

@beyondego im assuming its the positive influence they indirectly have on people

Why would you want to be more like Russel brand? The guy's a jackass and a moron.

Mr. John *Butt* I think its better to be yourself man don't try to be someone else

CJ What It’s a matter of knowing when and how to apply these tips according to the outcome you want of any given social interaction (e.x.: persuading people, making people laugh, making a good first impression, trying to get someone to open up to you, etc.)

@@JimboRustles Yeah, he seems kind of obnoxious to me. I don't really feel the supposed charisma.

JimboRustles - you’d be surprised at the number of women who fancy him. When he first hit our screens I was perplexed at the number of seasoned female journalists who would admit this is print in first rate magazines or newspapers. It’s similar to the amount of women I have met who have confessed to finding Mick Jagger really sexy (in his prime in the ‘70s or ‘80s.) There’s no accounting for women.

And you can practice it on your own!

OH NOOOOOO!!! Most people agree that my vids are the worst on RU-vid. I agree to disagree. Please agree to disagree with the haters, dear im

@@chr1staki blah blah blah oh stfu!

Being present when you haven't chipped away enough at your neuroticism can lead to a panic attack, or even an emotional breakdown. That's a very authentic expression of self, and you would definitely get the entire room's attention, but few people are skilled enough to take you out of that state and into a more positive one. Not to mention that not everyone is well-intentioned, and thus being present can sometimes be not safe. You still want to be present, but taking baby steps is easier on the circulatory system :D

@@TheOzumat That is true... but it is also very very difficult to get into such a state too early.. most people have a healthy portion of "fear of the unknown" that prevents that from happening =)

I guess parents are just kids having kids.. they don't have all the answers/ steps to help us grow up. All they can do is their best and that will come from what they were taught etc.. it's all a solo journey my friend!

Even if your parents were perfect, you'd have to find your own path in life. I feel that a parent is there to help guide you along your path, but it is your path. If they define and do everything for you, it's a complete missed opportunity to have guard rails while you try to find your feet. I have a third little one on the way. For me, it is about learning from mistakes. Smart people learn from their mistakes, wise people learn from the mistakes of others. They can listen to me and gain wisdom to avoid some of life's hardships or they can learn the hard way to get wisdom. The point is to gain wisdom and enact it in a meaningful way. It is useless to gain additional objective reality truth/knowledge if you have not incorporated what you already have. I was raised without much meaningful input from my parents. It was enough my parents didn't further the abuse they had from their parents. I hope to further break that cycle and show my kiddos love. Even though I will mess up in countless ways, I hope I'm better for my kids. At the very least, they will have a father that shows them love.

how do u implement it? can u talk more about ur journey pls? Im kinda stuck and don't know where to start

@@Hayatiiiiiiiiiii Can you be more specific? Are you referring to me or someone else?

ho is your life now ? did you improve yourself or you are still at the same point ?

that was captivating as hell

I have those kinda thoughts very often. And I know I shouldn't take it too seriously..And tho I'm able to make the other person happy K fell unsatisfied with how I am. Any advice?

​@@Pacificatorrr It is natural for us to enjoy making someone happy, but you maybe do it because you are afraid of them being angry with you, or disappointed, etc. But this fear is just holding you back, people have to be angry and disapointed with you from time to time. Some of them will do it for selfish reasons and then you will have to let them go, since they don't respect you. Other will have valid reasons for their discontent. You don't have to fear those persons, since they are not going to reject you, they just want to make you understand something, so that your relationship improves. If you keep your fears and try to never anger or disapoint others, you will never realize that you can trust some of you friends and family and that you don't have to be afraid. They will even prefer, when you start to act naturally, to not hide aspects of your personally, to feel confident in your opinion and emotions.

@@Pieherto Thank You So Much Brother! I tried being myself from that aspect today..And Ik it's a gradual process. So I'm just going to take it slow, will try and stay like this. I had been waiting for your reply. Thanks Again Mahn! Everything you told, is really true! And I do get the point :)

@@Pacificatorrr healing your childhood traumas is very very important too. literally what causes us to have these thoughts that are intrusive. Get into shadow work

Wtf did you say

how do you get to that state?

@@ecstasy3692 practice. When you are comfortable enough in social situations you stop thinking about every step and trust that you'll instinctually say the right things. And then you just focus on the contents of the conversation

@@tobortwo3697 so just practice staying present in the contents of the conversation? my mind keeps wandering off and being scared of how people perceive me though

@@ecstasy3692 the more people you talk to, the less you'll worry about it. It can be really helpful to talk to people in a situation where it doesn't matter what they think, like checking out at the store

Same

Thank you btw for inspiring me to get into self development and hopefully inspire others too 🙏🏼

Yes being great at anything takes some work and time to build up!!

@Jon Boy Yeah because they have to, duh.

@Jon Boy not at all......for me, girls are dieing to have conversation and meet new guys/people....

You got this.

Good spot my guy!

Came here to see if anyone else noticed 😂

Watching this 15 minutes after I woke up, I did a double-take a went back myself to see if I saw that right. Aha, sneaky bastards! ;)

I saw the fat Spiderman but didn't realize it appeared only once. What does it mean?

Oh good, thought i imagined that lol

😆😅

U right

I feel like an alien trying to be human.

I'm not from earth. I'm from outer space.

What if we, aliens, gather and just speak our alien language freely.

Hahah well observed ❤️😂😂

Yeah, I noticed that too. And its not like that the rest of the video, weird.

😂😂😂

@@RazgrizAce67 omg yeah wtf

There is always a commenter like you who finds the good details for the rest of us👍🏼

Can you post the link?

Where did you got that from?

please post a link!

Almost seems like the narcissist and codependent styles of relating. Narcissists are typically in their bubbles and codependents are expert “empaths,” meaning that they soak up energy like sponges and are hyper vigilant to danger.

Good luck king

Jambone Thank you I appreciate that

good luck :) hope it goes well

I've never dated someone myself but I can give you some advice: take a deep breath and be open and present in the possibilities of the moment with you date. Know that even without ending together you will still be you. Above all, be a good listener and expose your genuine real character, and luck might come to you.

If you sit on the lap, make sure to start at the knee and then work your way up to the groin. Since you did post requesting tips, I assume you're nervous or self conscience that it won't go well. Much to one of the points of the video, do not go into it with expectations to receive something from the other person. Be a whole person yourself without needing the validation/companionship from the other. You WANT the other person to be in your life; you do not NEED the other person in your life. If you do not feel this way, try to work on building yourself up first. Work on something that has meaning for you and have purpose in your life. If you are not on a path towards that goal, get on it. If you are on that path, keep going. A quiet self respect builds when you know you aim at something worthy and are working towards it. And really, the other person agreed to the date! You have already shown enough promise to someone else for them to be interested in more. You get to find out if there's something there from which to build. I like to ask my self what useful purpose does this emotion serve. If you are feeling nervous, put that energy towards making sure you have all your stuff together beforehand. Double and triple check to make sure you set yourself up for success. If you feel like you're doing too much, you probably are. If you're not sure, ask a friend. Most importantly though, when the date starts, trust that you have done everything you can for this to succeed and put those emotions to bed. It's going to be awkward at times. You're going to mess up things. Having two people explore the possibilities between each other is one of the most messy things we can ever do. Allow yourself the space to mess up. Smile, laugh, poke fun or whatever at the mistakes. Some practical things: Be nice to the wait staff. Give a genuine not obviousness compliment (bonus points if it's something they can control or time/effort is spent!). Eat something small beforehand so the date is about the person, not the food. Allow yourself the possibility that even if you do everything 100% correctly, the other person may just not be the right fit. If this is a common pattern in your life of dates with no follow up, there may be something to work on but know you are never a lost cause! I would think that if you normally go on dates and things go well, you wouldn't be asking for tips, but if this is your first time or if things normally go well and it doesn't this time, it could just be the other person. At the very least, enjoy yourself. Even if the date is dreadful and nothing ever comes from it, give yourself the positivity that you got the chance to go on it. Someone saw something and wanted to know more. That is no small feat in and of itself! Enjoy!!

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Sorry for your loss.

20th like lmaooo

Fancy seeing you here lol

Fantastic idea! I grew up watching him. He was amazing. Oozing Charisma.

~Yes!!!~Well said!!!~

good luck!

How’d it go

I never knew how much I needed it in my life until now.

And I'm up for it 😄

spark.of.madness I second this!

It probably does have something to do with smell, pheromones are a thing and the connection between our sense of smell and other neurological processes is something we often overlook

@@21scandium42 That's a really funny thought! I am totally aware of smell and sometimes feel like I have this crazy superpower in my nose where I can smell stress and arousal and whatnot on people

Here’s an interesting thing to ponder. People may be born a bit sensitive and intuitive, but empaths are made. “Perpetrator bonding.” They were raised with unpredictable parents where they became hyper-attuned to nuances in body language and emotion and are often scanning for the most troublesome person in the room. Which is why you hear many empaths complain about being so. They feel the negative things in the room more than others. The good thing is that if they can learn to hyper-attune to the good and master their mind, they can begin to change things and dictate their feelings more. Not be such an emotional willow waving in the wind.

One thing I've done is immediately repeat their name as soon as I say it, then make a quick association to a movie, show, celebrity, whatever. And then make it a point to use their name again within 2 minutes or so in natural conversation. Voila. I remember their name. Faces you're on your own. I've struggled with that my whole life. 😂

I think he genuinely felt that way about some of the lines, but it also seems like him hedging his bets against people with gripes against it.

Then these videos aren't for you my friend.