How To Release And Reprogram Toxic Shame 

I have been releasing my shame and inner persecution programs as a child over the past few days and I feel so much wiser and safe in the world. ❤️ I've had a false self throughout my life due to my childhood traumas and defense mechanisms as well as ancient inner beliefs and it's the most amazing thing to be able to release them, accept that I am not perfect as well as nobody else and I'm so blessed to be able to change so quickly.

I had a PTSD during these tym. Some tym I have to control a beast inside myself. But I know I don't want to see them again. But love of my god is above all. I love him.

Melanie I’ve been watching your videos for the past 2 years. The information you share is AMAZING. I’ve tried your self-healing methods many times after being triggered...going in...being totally honest about how I feel...being brave enough to feel the pain in my body...to experience the emotions that come up...to release the trauma...and to replace it with the Love of Divine Intelligence. I haven’t been the same ever since! My Life is just NATURALLY and ORGANICALLY EVOLVING! It has worked and continues to work!!! Thank You🥰

It really is true how much i have lost myself, every relationship that has failed has caused me to reflect of what i thought was doing wrong in the last relationship so as not to do the dame on the next one, but the dynamics are so vast that no matter what you do its the same , the only thing that changes is the constant compromise that i have done to myself, to where i dont know who i am anymore

Being raised by a narcissist, I feel like that shame has been at the very core of me every day of my 47 years. Only the older I get, the heavier it gets, the more exhausted I become. & it's the heaviest of weights. I think at different points of my life, my childhood has affected me in different ways....... But in middle age, half the time I look back, and wish the child I was, had never existed, and there in lays a lot of intense feelings of shame - and then the other half of the time, I feel I cant believe how any parent, or any adult even could be so sickeningly and abhorently cruel to a tiny child - and then the shame isn't there for a while, and I wish I could go back and love that child, comfort him, protect him, be something in his life that was never there, and could have changed absolutely everything for .....it's never hate I feel toward myself as a child now really, though it used to be. But I know now I couldn't hate a child like he could, my Dad. It's shame, and it's also empathy.....and the empathy is fairly new. & not entirely understood.

Thank you. I have lost everything due to my narc family. My job, my apartment, my car, all my money and my reputation. They were discrediting me everywhere. Sadly I learned too late (after 40 years) that my biggest enemies were those close to me. I have no idea how I am going to survive in the future but thanks to you, I know, that even if I die hungry on the street, without a home, I am worthy.

There is so much in this video, I paused so many times to absorb this. Thank you 🙏

This is amazing, I feel shame from having an abortion in my early 20s, having a toxic and unhealthy relationship as my first love experience, daddy issues, mommy issues, failed friendships, living with cervical cancer. Just so much for so long but now I am processing it and healing from having it out in the open.

We meet our maker in narcissistic abuse... We learn the hard way that trying to keep and retain a relationship with a false self means that we end up losing so many pieces of ourselves, and our resources, our sanity, our health, and often our wealth... so what happens is we end up broken, we end up sick, we end up empty... and often we don't have the things we used to have that we thought defined us. And the shame can be how did i let my life get to this? How are people going to love me and accept me now that i'm a fraction of my former self. things crumble in a false life.

Absolutely love you channel you’ve helped me so much! It took work but once I healed the way I saw myself I realized that I’m so grateful to have experienced the abuse I did because ultimately it led me to step into my power and really learn how to love and trust myself ❤️❤️❤️

The only shame I did have was getting involved with him Though not anymore there is a massive lesson I’ve learnt from being with a narcissists/ sociopath Almost two years since leaving on my own

Loving and accepting ourselves=in the wounds-in the trauma-in the losses.🙃So Freeing. And Melanie, =when you said =This was meant to be= I paused the video, curled up, =something about it gave me peace. Thankyou for powerful understanding- Blessings 🌟💫⭐️✨⚡️🌟

Your videos are unbelievably inspiring.

Thank you so much for making this video! "Source is the ultimate ingredient".

Yes: the imposition of shame.

I have to say your emails and videos changed my life a ton. People around me have noticed a change and a better me! I can’t thank you enough! NARP has been a journey for me. Both painful and eye opening. I feel like I’m working through things I haven’t seen or noticed before. I’m getting closer to Closure. Feeling empowered and confident.

Wow-This couldn’t come at a more perfect time. Thank you as always! Glad to be continuing on with the NARP program. Saving my life. Hope you have a blessed holiday. Let the healing continue! 💜💙💖

Thank you so much Melanie! It is absolutely amazing that I was able to hear you speak about this today! I was so struggling with shame and guilt....I even wrote about it to other members of NARP.... for the first time I think I actually understood the idea of letting go of accumulated toxic energy from trauma.... and finding ways to replace this toxicity and the feelings of shame and guilt that go along with abuse with positivity and real inner BEING work....This was perfect today, Melanie! I really needed this! So looking forward to your next video that you give to us on RU-vid..... and thank you for NARP!!!! ❤️🙏🕊❤️🦋❤️🦋❤️

I really appreciate the empowering yet such compassionate manner you communicate. Incredibly healing, thank you for having the courage to heal and share your own experience so that you can be a light for others still in the process. God bless

This program and your spot on knowledge (over and over again) I feel you are describing my life experience and Narc experience to an exact tee! It’s all so amazing! I can’t thank you enough! Truly!

This is pure gold, thank you

Beautiful, consoling & reaffirming ♥️ 💜💛💚💙💖💗

This is priceless... thank you ♡

Thank you!!

We have to accept the narcissist is never going to be how we hope they would be. Infact they'll be the exact opposite of how we would like them to be. ☺️

God bless you!

Melody I have a son that's a recovered alcoholic. One year clean. I almost lost him he had stopped talking stop walking stopped eating and was having seizures. I stood by his side for years. He just moved to Mammoth Lakes California and shortly thereafter a girl came into his life. I told him to take it slow. His sponsor told him not to date. 2 months later I'm not sure what the real story is but my son said her parents kicked her out and needed a place to live so he took her in they got mad. Shortly thereafter the landlord where he was staying put in a notice for them to be evicted due to excessive drinking. The girl friend is an alcoholic and mouth off at the landlord. Fast forward to last Wednesday. I drove 400 miles to help my son move. I bought him kitchen supplies and bath accessories. I went from apartment to house 5 times climbing 3 flights of stairs as hes on the 3rd floor. And where was his girlfriend? In the car getting drunk never helped. She went from the car to the bed. I went to go see her and she was incoherent and blacked out. I looked at my son I gave him that look like, what are you doing? That night I hyper extended my knee so I had to take out a hotel for 2 nights. The 3rd night we spent at my sons. He was making dinner and his girlfriend was getting ready to go to her mother's birthday party where my son was not invited. My son was upset. The next morning I woke up after the girlfriend went to work she left the front door open like I don't care about you. That evening she came in sat next to me and started bragging about her parents who do not like my son. And I turned around and told her I don't like your parents and I don't like the way they treat my son. She walked out of the room. My son came home started dinner. Then went into the bedroom and disappeared for a while. He came out and said hes so sick of the negative in the house and started yelling at me. I told him I'm not doing anything. He left the room again and when he came back out he looked me in the face and said get out of my house. Earlier he told me he was going to take off Tuesday today to spend the day with me and yesterday he was going to treat me to get my haircut and color for my birthday but the girlfriend wasn't having it. So 10 o'clock at night I take out all my stuff to my car, no one helped! Mind you I'm in the forest. I called my daughter and she found me a hotel room. I didn't sleep all night. I went home the next day shamed and humiliated. $700 later, another 400 miles back home I received no thank you, No dinner recognition or any recognition for all my time effort. Just get out of the house. I believe this is the 1st step in trying to isolate my son from his family. She's very bossy with him she was caught getting phone calls from 2 other guys that she gave her number their numbers...He puts up with it. Me I'm a worthless piece of dirt to him I wasn't worth the effort. I'm crushed. Does anybody have any suggestions on what I could have done differently? How do you heal from this?

Hi Melanie, my life is well how to put it...transformed? Struggling to find words how incredible this healing journey has been. I think this program has to be part of taxes and given out to everyone entering adulthood to live their healed and true life! I am still struggling with shame time to time. How would you address it.in healings (except catching yourself in the moment and going towards the feeling)?

hii melanie,first and foremost you have changed my life ,i wanna thank you for the system you have created.second i have a question about healing.is there such a thing as too much shifts?does it have any side effects physically or emotionally doing it for 7 to 8 hours a day?

Let go of the shame. It was them not me that was wrong and toxic.

I've said rejection is my core wound, but it may be toxic shame - always having felt like I was inherently defective. I don't know which came first or what caused what, but they both seem to play off of each other. @Melanie Tonia Evans would you have any insight into this?

Arigato! 💕

Can someone summarize what the video discussed. I didn't catch the overall concept

I have a question. Ok so I've always struggled with body image and after the domestic violence from the narc, who bludgeoned one eye 2 years prior and saw I was getting my confidence back and went for the other's with the already low self esteem I feel like what is there to love about me. My soul is fractured. How can I love from an empty space when I hate myself completely. What now. What's the answer.accepting all the wounds makes me feel even worse. Like that's who I am now. A damaged worthless being... trying to be as raw and honest as possible... this is my demon. I feel like a demon. He took every good feeling away about life about myself and then has the audacity to steal my energy when I try to pick myself up. It's like the wound left an opening to my soul. I don't want him stealing any of my energy. I dont think he deserves anything. This may seem harsh but its whati feel and I feel devastatedevery time I see him which isevery day. o despise him. He is my father military and went for the kill

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Is it often a narcissist projects onto the other accusing their partner of being a narcissist?

I can't even look in a mirror.

Is that even possible the title? I don't believe it

Thank you!