How to Respond When Someone Abuses You ? - Sadhguru | Deal With insults | Sadhguru Jaggi Vasudev 

Anger is easy to control

Don't control it become one with it

you don't need to control it, you need to become more aware in the moment and you will not react with anger you can choose to walk away, not respond, respond violently or do whatever it is needed or whatever you choose but willingly not as a subconscious reaction based on passed memory of abuse.

My abuse started from childhood and now 33 I'm free from it and nothing they did can't stop me from being a loving person. God has kept me. 🙏🏽💜❤️💜🙏🏽🙏🏽 1luv to all

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I believe that we cannot avoid abusive people in general, as so many people are not able to properly process their emotions, they don't know how, so we must be a good example all the time for ourselves and for others. Yes, often times you have to not allow yourself to be around an abusive person, when there's a pattern of abuse and when it's severe, as being around it all the time is not healthy, but every situation is different, there are extreme situations that a person must avoid, but most people cannot escape an abusive person, so isolating yourself is not the answer.

@@SydMountaineer when you can’t avoid them you have to outsmart them and call them out on their bullshit the first chance you get

What if the a user is your boss? What if your living requires taking abuse? Is that fair? Is that good? What is that gurus advice for that?

@@ms.annthrope415 That is a very good question. Anyone?

@@ms.annthrope415 It would be wise to take planned risks and find something else to do with your life that brings you joy and love within yourself. Nothing is worth your well being and peace of mind; less you spread the lack of such things to those you surround yourself with by becoming a part of the behavioral cycles of others. Deject toxicity. You will survive the losses; even if you must start from nothing. It is the inner battles when confronted and overcome that yield the greatest results. Get out of your own way. Transform without corruption. When you do you will be even stronger for the victory.

🙏 jay sri krishna

Hare krishna 💖

he was god. nothing is impossible for him .

Same my classmates don't respond to me in better way even though I try to help in academics and many other things like career but still they are selective and always let me down i don't know whether to get angry or ignore move on but one things which hurts me the most is their way they use their body language and words it sucks 🤦‍♂️

he bitch slapped you

What he done to you doesn't determine whom you are 😊 .it hits back wait and watch

He will suffer ,karma comes back,wait and watch,

I have lost that hope already and karma hits back and all but thanks for your consolation ❤️

@@jarammamatha7649 Thanks for ur consolation ❤️

@@jananimahesh-rr1pp I'm already upset and feel very down constantly and stop increasing my grief

Yes absolutely,in that situation what to do for keep ourself calm and handle our anger????

Today someone abuse me and I feel deeply hurt because I treat everyone well and my mind continually think .

I don't mean that we need stay quite while getting abused but stay calm and deal properly .ignoring is best but sorting it matters most

I was so disturbed that someone abused me with vulgar words without knowing me such a cheap person but what uh said I learnt I'm not what he said its his upbringing.I should not worry about that its not my fault thats what his parents taught him I can feel peace now thank you 😌

@@letswatch2268 Buddy you are not alone. I too have faced this issue. Karma will hit them back.

@@cheguevara380 Same isi problem ko mae bhi face kr rha hu pichle 3 saal se .

How do you do it

Not a solution always 😐

@@thesigma3779 true

That's a solution right there.

How pls do say fee things u say

Great point, since his half answer can be frustrating. I just shared 2 expanded perspectives-one as a comment, and the other as a reply to another’s recent comment-if you feel like checking them out. 😉

@craigsilver9, Anger is just emotion. It passes if you don't feed it. Pick up a book, go for a walk, and it will pass in 10 minutes. Contemplating retaliation is dwelling on hateful thoughts (emotion filled thoughts). You can choose to indulge those thoughts, or to focus on something else. Not always easy, especially if the bad behavior is directed at you. It gets easier with practice. Remember what Sadhguru said, "If someone is unpleasant, first try love, and then compassion. If that doesn't work....distance." Sadhguru is correct; by avoiding those who are unpleasant, we eliminate the problem. I'm learning this, too. You're not alone. 🌱🌞🌱

Right? Spiritual bypassing. These guys don't have all the answers. Best to look for help from people who work with trauma and abuse

You can still feel love when someone is abusive to you, right? You can still see the beauty that's in your child or sibling, when someone's abusing you, right? Those things are joy, too. He has talked about prisoners before, even literal prisoners of war, even about Nazi Germany. He's not saying that it does not hurt us, he knows it hurts our emotions, but our emotions are not the same thing as our self, our minds, and that we have the ability to not allow it to change what's inside of us. What he's saying is that no matter how badly you're treated, you have a choice about allowing it to change you inside, you can still be joyful. Yes, abuse hurts your emotions and physical body, but you have the ability to still feel joy - joy is not an emotion, it's a way of being. Also, he understands that it's not the same for children being abused, that they have no barriers like adults do and absorb everything they witness, and he knows the psychological reasons why according to Western medicine. Abuse does change children, as their brain downloads all the bad & good information they witness up until about 11, he knows it is different for them than adults.

Your rt..

So true

Why everyone is against u even ur Friends too.... how come this is true that everyone is wrong and only u are right.

Hope you are out of mess after these interactions with Sadhguru.

It gets better I have been dealing and healing from narcissistic family too. I know how you feel but anger is too heavy a burden for me to carry

Hey I had the same issue, if you need someone to talk, let me know I know how to help. Sending you lots of love ❤️

I have same palms....

Yes go no contact separate yourself

Try to ignore, otherwise you can him/her answer in the same language

Me too

It's only because the poison in you has built up from the past - it sounds like you get triggered easily - triggered emotions are caused by PAST hurts & emotions, rather than the current abuse you are experiencing, so you have to practice how to deal with the past emotions so you don't get triggered, by practicing detaching from the emotion enough to study it from a distance, look at it, see it without feeling it, and figure out what you can do about it (if anything). It's like re-wiring your brain, which takes a lot of work because it took a lot of time and abuse to cause it, but it IS possible, people are doing it everyday. Lisa A. Romano has videos here on RU-vid which are very helpful with this.

If you can please stay far away from her go no contact that’s how mine is too. Forgive her don’t hate if resent her but go no contact.

My mom is abusing me too, she used to punch me in the face, since I was 5 years old. Now she mentally and emotionally abuses me and it’s because she is a bad person, twisted mentally and she will not stop. I only have nice days when I dont see her or communicate. Some people were raised to be evil and abusive and thats what they know they dont know compassion and kindness. Only way to live a nice life is to walk away from this evil. God bless us all Look up reverend wilkerson and watch his talk on the Holy Spirits oath to God it may help you all

She is doing out of love for you

​@@anneagena8236❤️

So let people treat you badly and be happy about it is the message i got from this advice.......

-Try to cooperate with ppl, do your best! -if its not working just choose joy over anxiety and anger -Be joyful no matter what, when u get angry u are poisoning only yourself not others so it doesnt make any sense

@@ania980 thank you so much! Brother..!

@@jbenno7021 thank you so much brother..!

I’ve been following my inner guidance/Heart/Intuition for over four decades, and standing up for others who were mistreated, who weren’t able to themselves. It’s not about looking for such moments, but when such moments show up, TRUSTING how you FEEL from within, and having the courage to do what’s needed. I’ve also been thanked by some people, even strangers, who were afraid to stand up for themselves. So for me, regardless of who says what (within outer world), it’s COMPLETELY WORTH SHARING THIS FORM OF UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.

I have the same question. Somebody ans pls

No, just leave them bro it will backfire on you

@@rohanbhuckory1297 leave them? where move to mars? they are everywhere

until they cut your throat?

Ask god for help from your heart ❤️ be brave

Please listen to bk shivani videos on RU-vid, that really helped me, bless you dear one

Watch SG videos about KARMA. Or buy and read his KARMA book. Every unconscious action we do would be recorded in unconscious memory. Next time when same situation comes up, that memory repeats the action automatically. For example, u put coffee mug in a certain style on the table, and u r unaware of that style. Next time, the style repeats, and u can break it only if u consciously put the mug on table. This is a safe example. Let's see a harsh example. Someone abused u, and u didn't like it, i.e. ur mind judged it -vely, and u felt -ve emotion (ex: anger). All this would be registered in unconscious memory. When same situation repeats next time, automatically u will feel anger. This is the concept of KARMA. Point is, tendencies would be created and stored in unconscious memory. When similar situation repeats, an impulse arises from the corresponding tendency in unconscious memory and enters into the conscious memory. Mind, due to it's inherent nature, gets pulled towards this impulse, and eventually leads to the anger emotion. So, such a friendly mechanism of mind called KARMA (i.e. make repetitive actions automatic so to reduce trouble to the body n mind), many times becomes a negative factor. Solution is simple in theory but tough to implement in practice. It's like this. There will always be a small gap between the arising of the impulse and mind getting pulled towards it. U can use ur decision making power (i.e. the intellectual / analytical / logical / rational mind / buddhi) to prevent U (i.e. ur mind) from getting pulled towards the anger impulse, and thus anger will not arise. Suppose if u fail and anger arose, anger is a -ve emotion, and if U try to be conscious of this emotion in ur body (close eyes and slowly trace the body for this emotion), and the power of consciousness will dissipate the anger emotion. This is how we break the cyclical patterns. This happens automatically when we practice meditation / dhyana yoga regularly.

@@madhukiranattivilli2321 I love your view... You have explained it very well...

@@manishaagrawal2369 Thanks! But not exactly my view. Partly learnt from Sadhguru. Partly from Eckhart Tolle. Partly from Osho. Partly from Advaita Vedanta and Bhagavadgita (Swami Sarvapriyananda). All from youtube. And mixed them to suit the context here. It seems the concepts of karma yoga and dhyana yoga eventually increase the frequency and duration of no-mind states. It should literally mean the amount of time mind stays still with no activity increases. That's actually not true. With more n more practice, mind becomes more n more sharp due to which mind can catch those impulses and ignore them which it used to get attracted to and act upon earlier. It feels like mind got more time but in reality mind became more sharper. Impulse shifts at rapid speed from unconscious memory into conscious memory (neuron cells of brain). It is all up to the mind to either catch+ignore an impulse or attract+react.