Somebody pray for me I have been crying for 2 days my wife of 13 years out of the blue said she isn't happy and doesn't know if she wants to be with me anymore
My first wife started having an affair only 9 months into our marriage. I stupidly spent 3 years trying to keep our marriage together. If the other person doesn't want to save the marriage, END IT NOW!!!
My marriage has been collapsing for years due to my ignorance and negligent behavior to my wife and our mishandling of disagreements. This video has brought me hope that things can be better and even though my wife has a hard time trusting me and believing me when I say things will be better.
I am going through this right now. I did all the don'ts. I'm now learning to trust the process and do all the do's. These past 3 months have been hell. But again I'm willing to trust the process.
I'm going through this with my fiance. He told me that he no longer feels the same way for me, and that he wants to work on himself, and wants me to be happy. He told me that he can't give me the love and attention that I need and that I deserve someone that is willing to give that to me. I feel hopeless 😞
My wife wants space, I’m afraid she no longer loves me and I know what I did, I basically quit trying, wasn’t there for her when she needed me most and it’s hitting me hard I want to love on her badly but now I can’t, I’ve been awakened I just hope it isn’t too late. I’m doing therapy and she’s isn’t ready for marriage counseling and she just took down a picture of us together that was hanging in our house, that hit hard especially when I was doing better mentally and started to see things clearer
We both brought up divorce because our marriage was so rocky. We've had and in and out relationship for 12 years and have 2 kids. We have never done counseling but he started therapy sessions for himself which he is loving and I'm so happy he took that step. He sent divorce papers recently and now I'm rethinking everything. It is harder to make the divorce decision because I think of my children and we should at least try marriage counseling. He said he's not ready for that step so I feel at sort of a loss.
Idk how to do your “don’t” list. I do understand your good intent. But how can I be patient if my partner doesn’t take responsibility of his actions that upset me. When I bring it up, it gets dismissed. I stand up for myself and I get stone walled and silent treatment until I finally reach out. Despite me telling him it’s unhealthy and offered that the healthier way to resolve struggles is to listen to each other and talk things out. 5 years later and now I’m pregnant, still didn’t change. I believe I’m patient enough. It is the reason why it feels unfulfilling so how can I express that to him without “blaming” him. I pin pointed that talking things out when things get rough rather than being avoidant is a recipe to a happier marriage. Nope, still getting silent treatment and stone walking when I speak up for myself ….
You can't....step back...give space, they will come back if they want, and by then you'll probably get some self esteem and not care especially if you are female
Great video...my boyfriend believes he does nothing "wrong" and needs to change anything ...believes it's all me ...I struggle with jealousy and so I feel space is what I need to do ....and trust the process 🙏
Great video and to the point content. It's key to focus on yourself and accept that only change you can make is for yourself. Whenever I see my ex I can't help but see how she reflects her own issues on me. Once I learned that it makes things easier to listen with intention and not take it personal. Thank you!
This is me now. My wife tried so hard two years ago. Then she left and wants nothing to do with trying and now I’m trying like hell to get some spark from her
I completely empathize with your situation. It can be incredibly difficult to work towards rebuilding a connection, especially if it feels like you are too late. Keep your head up and believe that it is possible! If you need extra support, I'd be happy to help! You can book a session at www.happilycommitted.com -Coach Danny
My wife went from telling me how good life was how happy she is.. went from praising me to bashing my character days later.. I’ve fucked up in our relationship, both of us have. I’m trying to be everything she’s ever wanted but at the blink of an eye she’s just done. I want my wife more than anything. Idk what to do
Same :/ my wife said she’s emotionally and physically exhausted and no longer romantically in love with me and it is crushing me I would do anything for her as well I realize I haven’t done enough with her and our 2 daughters I put work and friends and other things before them and I never meant to I’ve already made most of these mistakes he said not to I just feel bombarded all of a sudden even tho she told me the problems a year ago and as a man I thought I could fix them myself I was wrong and I realize it now I just hope it’s not too late because she wants a divorce told me that 2 months ago I pray I can somehow fix this. I hope you all can as well
I’m in the same boat. I have been praying reading my word and staying consistent in our marriage counseling sessions so I can clearly hear what my wife has issues with and allow myself to be vocal as well.
I don’t agree with one point. If I asked my husband to please secure the trim back in place, it needs to go on properly, like straight, secure etc. If he puts it on half ass and it’s not secure and crooked than of course I’m not going to want it left like that. It says I like things done properly , so it looks like a professional job. If you built a house would you be happy if the trim was crooked and half on…..of course not, you would ask them to redo it properly. It doesn’t mean I am insecure or have a problem, it means I want it done to look professional and not half ass that keeps falling off and has fallen off 3 times. It says something about him, he doesn’t care enough about it to figure out how to do it right once and for all! True story here, peice is still waiting to be attached yet again. There is google and professionals that can teach us how to do anything……no need for excuses most of the time. It’s more like we have different standards and some ppl just plain don’t care.
Thank you so much. You are the first person that truly gives us the path. I’m going thru my wife’s emotional afffair Right now. I am printing the don’ts and do’s to remind me everyday.
For me my life was a huge mess during the times my husband and I divorced. Although we’re back together now even stronger ❤️. I had to use a prayer that I found in one comment here on RU-vid & It worked like magic !!.
If one spouse desires marital therapy (or a similar kind of help/intervention), but the other refuses, is that often a sign the marriage won’t work? Seems like a stupid question, but was wondering abt this particular situation
If she's trying to ruin your life... do you truely want to give her that option... this coming from someone that has to answer that exact same self question daily... my wife is a narcissistic abuser... but I'm still fighting for her even though I shouldn't...make sure you are prepared for the consequences even if you do get her to stay with you...make sure it's worth it to you...
It wasn't my fault. He has a lover. And the lover says he has another wife. It's not my fault. I paid for his flight. I paid for a visa petition. We never even fought.
Bro everything you said is completely unreliable and worthless. What if your partner is doing everything opposite of what you just said to do or not to do and yet. Engage for two-and-a-half years like when she heard a woman I'll actually be that loving person she was instead of being emotionally a Hellion? Give real advice please.
Please help me,the thing is that I hide my past from my gf and she know through the 3rd person, and my hiding perouse was not intentionally. What I can do now. Help me. I want my gf back in my life.
*I'm so excited my broken relationship has been restored my ex lover is back after he left me for another woman* *I was helped by Dr favour He can also help you too*
Been married for 13 yrs and have 2 beautiful girls. We broke up before and I moved out with my kids. And now I’m in the same situation and I don’t know what to do. I truly love him but idk if I should keep fighting or just give up and except reality. Please help. I don’t want to make a mistake and hurt my kids
My wife lives 45 miles away, we have been married for 7 months. She told me today that she will move into an apartment in the same city as me instead of the house we picked out. That's why I told her I want a divorce, she acted like I told her the weather outside.
My husband moved out and wants a divorce since October. He hasn’t changed his mind. I am very heartbroken 💔 He asked me to find a roommate to help with rent. We have planned to have kids this year he said there’s no “we”anymore 😢 He said we are not a family anymore. Despite all these hurtful things he has said to me I still trust the Universe to have a miracle for me and he is coming back and our love is stronger than ever before! He left me mostly because of jealousy issues I had and sometimes I would say hurtful things to him too. I wish I never acted like that. Now he’s burnt out. He never calls or texts anymore unless I do first. Now I have to find a roommate because of the cost but other than that Idk what to do anymore can someone help me with any ideas?
My wife doesn't want to fix our marriage and she don't want to divorce me, but then she don't stay with me anymore for 3 years now, i am stuck and i miss my 2 boys... This is a punishment to my soul... Now i am taking high blood pressure medications
*I'm so excited my broken relationship has been restored my ex lover is back after he left me for another woman* *I was helped by Dr favour He can also help you too*
My boyfriend messages me everyday good morning and nothing else, and he never replies to anything. Im worried that does he loves or no. Bz he doesn't take my calls or messages. Plz do give me some advice
Love your contents. I been seperated two years ago for the never ending fights my wife always started due to lack of financial neseccity . I can not provide enough for her and our one Son.
I’m 22 going through literally 80% of this but I’m a QB and have a beautiful 6 year old where her birthday is in a week or 2 I’m watching about 3-4 of these Today lol
*I'm so excited my broken relationship has been restored my ex lover is back after he left me for another woman* *I was helped by Dr favour He can also help you too*
I am in a situation, where my spouse is the one who made “mistake” and is guilty and wants to fix everything forever. Other then cutting off the ties with the “other person” there is no input from his side. Its me who is dealing with all the pain and trying to bring this relationship back on track. Can you please guide me on this. He is not even ready to go for any counseling, but watch videos and read about it. I am confused how to deal and what to do and how to do without his input. We don’t fight, no argument nothing happens between us. Please guide.
well you are here right, so that means you want to save the union and are wiling to fight for it.. so thats #1. However you also need your spouse to participate in some kind of manner, but you can't force him right.. so are you doing this now? Don't 1) take it personally 2) start arguments 3) blame my spouse Do's 1) be patient w/ myself & my husband 2) take their criticism - it's a window to their insecurities 3) give them space - creates an environment of neutrality, to reflect & gain insight on relationship Also..... keep this in mind Stop "push" behaviors--begging, whining, unnecessary crying (lowers your apparent value) Don't start fights Don't "hover" (spoken like a helicopter pilot's wife!)--don't track, monitor, stalk; destroys trust Manage "business" items together: areas for which you'll have to talk--taxes, children, mortgages; DO keep spouse updated here. Avoid negative interactions, even if they want to fight! Be strong, calm, and gentle. Calling is preferred to text messages due to possibility for misinterpretation/escalation. Then, once trust is built, you can start asking simple, non-emotional questions: "How was your day at work?" Then, allow your spouse to start conversations with you. VERY important that you remain safe, calm, strong, and gentle (even playful/friendly as appropriate?) if your spouse engages you, no matter how he/she has been toward you--but of course, don't tolerate abuse. Be gentle with yourself, too, because you won't be perfect every time. Take it one day at a time. Some days will be better than others. May seem like your relationship is regressing. BEST OF LUCK.. oNe
If your spouse wants out, please be respectful and let them leave. I am presently trying to get a divorce, but my husband keeps fighting it. It’s costing me an arm and a leg in legal fees.
Hey I’m a young single man, i worked as a call center agent in a telecommunication company, i was selling telecommunication services to client , one day I tried to sell a service to one person he said his in tough period due to family issues, I listened to him carefully he gave me advice, but he was in pain, one thing he told me do anything to avoid divorce at start it may look normal and easy to get over, but it’s not. You will end up in pain especially when you will become old alone. My friend don’t divorce, do anything to save your marriage. Be humble and fix your marriage. Marriage is a blessing. Don’t allow your children to live without both parent in a home.
I became bored with the way my wife was acting being noncommunicative so I started talking to other woman thru text but I love my wife she just isn't well at communicating she ended up finding out and started talking to this dude at work I found out and I never realized at the time how bad I had hurt her, so she started a relationship with man at her job. found a photo of them kissing and she finally met up with me yesterday briefly to talk and now I'm fighting for the marriage and it hurts, she just said give her some time to think about therapy and everything, can this be mended?
Don't 1) take it personally 2) start arguments 3) blame my spouse Do's 1) be patient w/ myself & my husband 2) take their criticism - it's a window to their insecurities 3) give them space - creates an environment of neutrality, to reflect & gain insight on relationship
*I'm so excited my broken relationship has been restored my ex lover is back after he left me for another woman* *I was helped by Dr favour He can also help you too*
*I'm so excited my broken relationship has been restored my ex lover is back after he left me for another woman* *I was helped by Dr favour He can also help you too*
We have been separated for almost 7 months. I have mentioned divorce and she said that she doesn't want that. But she says that we are not together. I told her to tell me yes or no so that I can move forward. She just said I don't know.. I Love her so much and don't know what to do.
@@tonychapman2659 - How are things now? She is giving you quite mixed messages . She doesn't want to be with you but she doesn't want to get divorced . The only way the marriage will work is if you are both in it.
*I'm so excited my broken relationship has been restored my ex lover is back after he left me for another woman* *I was helped by Dr favour He can also help you too*
My wife wants a divorce and I take full responsibility for why she does, We've been together 4yrs now and I want to believe I can win her back, I'm reading the comments and seeing that's its possible and I'll take whatever hope/advice anyone can give me. Thanks in advance