How To Say No To Anyone (Without Feeling Guilty)

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No is not a conflict word. Saying no can bring many benefits to your life. In today’s video, I share how to say no without feeling guilty.
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0:00 Intro
8:50 Guilt
10:07 The Deeper Emotions

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29 июн 2024

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Комментарии : 30

@milenakljajic8393 9 месяцев назад

😅 yep, “in my culture” we prefer living in “harmony” (aka walking on eggshells).

@4xzx4 9 месяцев назад

I also hate it when you wanna say no, you have to come up with an excuse/explanation as to why you are declining their request... We aren't obliged to explain anything, yet some people want an explanation. It's so exhausting.

@sheilaabrahams1322 8 месяцев назад

No is a complete sentence.

@4xzx4 8 месяцев назад

@@sheilaabrahams1322 Tell that to them...

@tag7592 9 месяцев назад

It's especially tough during the holidays to decline an invitation for dinner at Thanksgiving or Christmas. I always struggle with this. Thank you.

@llkellenba 9 месяцев назад

I may not get an invitation at all for the holidays though I live close to a fairly large family. They are mostly absorbed in their own lives. And their political religious viewpoints. If I do receive an invitation then I have to decide whether to go and walk on eggshells or be ignored like the rest of the year OR just stay home and spend the holidays alone. I put all my eggs in the family basket hosting many a holiday meal in the past-for 20 + people never imaging I’d be left out by myself in my later years. I’m a respectful responsible grateful guest but 🤷‍♀️. My family is cold.

@island661 9 месяцев назад

All you have to say is, I can't make it but thank you for the invitation. Done

@csmithvenice17 9 месяцев назад

If you are in a relationship and you can’t say no, then you are in a dysfunctional codependent relationship and you might be better off alone

@abbeycrouse3020 5 месяцев назад

Can we talk about why we are afraid to say no for once. I’m afraid to say no because most people are unable to HEAR the word no

@richardlenz2655 9 месяцев назад

Correct. “No” from others often saved my live, although the people who gave me a “no” suffered often much more than I, I found out. Mostly people have problems with “no”, because of feeling unworthy 🤭

@michaelvandenheuvel317 9 месяцев назад

My situation here has gone from bad to worse. I honestly am stuck physically, financially, and emotionally. No way forward no way out. Its impossible.

@walterdavis4808 9 месяцев назад

I've been there . The only advise I can give is try to take very small steps every day to improve or change the situation . Over time you will see the progress

@llkellenba 9 месяцев назад

Not physically but No has meant disconnection and exile in my world. Family and friends. Obviously these aren’t positive stable reciprocal relationships. Changes, even small ones, I made to improve my life and alter my role a bit was meant I’m left without connection and support and also the subject of devaluation amongst these people.

@leoniphelan5278 9 месяцев назад

Same

@llkellenba 9 месяцев назад

@@leoniphelan5278 I’m sorry 😞 - it’s a disappointing and painful experience

@leoniphelan5278 9 месяцев назад

@@llkellenba Thank you for responding🙏 I am sorry for your pain too. It is quite challenging to resist the compulsion to move into a Caretaking role just to alleviate sensed disconnection. But I am at the stage of life now where not doing so is the most life giving thing. Is that how you are experiencing it?

@llkellenba 9 месяцев назад

@@leoniphelan5278 true - I did that for decades and never realized once I couldn’t, took a step back from that role or was no longer needed by family I had no further value or place in the family system. That was seriously bitter pill to swallow. Doing my own recovery ❤️‍🩹 it’s becoming much clearer.

@user-mn3wi2id1p 3 месяца назад

Thank you for your videos and all the work you put in! Your videos have been an amazing resource to help with my anxiety!

@corinnaketterling449 9 месяцев назад

That was super😍 helpful and interesting, thank you!

@jwhite5396 9 месяцев назад

All good points I hadn’t thought of, thank you.

@user-co5dy6hl4d 9 дней назад

Another great video I do t know how to say no

@delmarreyna 4 месяца назад

Thank you for this video.

@canada7713 8 месяцев назад

Awesome video.

@phaniraj5142 9 месяцев назад

Well explained and too good a subject in the present era of nuclear family

@csmithvenice17 9 месяцев назад

There is no such thing as a culture that over emphasizes individual autonomy or independence

@Lioness_of_Gaia 8 месяцев назад

Agreed!

@loriweakley9517 9 месяцев назад

❤

@abbeycrouse3020 5 месяцев назад

I can say no and be punished or yes and avoid the bullshit. It’s unfortunate that the people watching these videos are not fucked up. It’s the assholes in this world who need to watch these videos. I don’t have a problem saying no it’s the consequence of saying no that’s the problem. Let’s talk about that

@Mystdryad10 3 месяца назад

Need new people surrounding us. People who can honor and accept your no. Also we ourselves need to ground our own hearts in the knowledge that we are entitled to say no without guilt. It’s ok to say no - it actually is! Whoa. Amazing. Also I find it to be amazing that the ones who can’t hear “no” well are usually the ones who use it just fine.