How to Soothe Yourself during Hard Times! | Important Mental Health Skill! 

1-put your Hand on your heart 2- hug something like pillow 3- repeat a mantra or affirmation . stay present, connect to your logical self and remind yourself that you are ok. 4- stay calm 5-choose healthy food 6- ask yourself in the morning, what do i need to do to be the healthiest i can be

I've recently had a break-up and I cry often as I get triggered quite easily these days.. Things that I do to soothe myself: 1. Cry - I tell myself in my mind repeatedly over and over again- "it's okay to cry", "let it all out", "I value you" "you are beautiful" "I love you" "I'm there for you always, no matter what" "you'll never be alone" "I'm always with you wherever you go" "you'll be okay" 2. While I'm crying and repeating the affirmations above, I rub my hands on my thighs vigorously with some pressure. I find it's very calming. 3. The bad feeling normally subsides in a few minutes..3-4 minutes of me doing this 4. In my mind I'm also imagining someone close to me - my mom, or even myself, my future husband to be comforting me like this. 5. While I'm doing all this, I constantly also remind myself who else loves me in the world - my mom, my dad, my cousins, my friends, my pets etc. This makes me believe that I'm lovable and calms me ddown. 6. As I'm repeating the above affirmations I imagine someone is taking to me, and I shake my head in agreement that yes, I am lovable and so many other people love me. 6. Once the tears stop flowing and I've calmed down relatively, I lay down on my bed and hug my pillow. Put on some calming music. 7. In a few moments, I feel a whole lot better and I feel closer to myself. A renewed sense of self. Those self soothing moments are really intense and I feel as if I've fostered a deeper connection with myself.. It feels really beautiful and good. I've recently learned to self soothe this way.. I have an anxious attachment style..and I'm learning to be closer to myself to lessen my dependency on others to calm me down. Some good ideas are : get a jacket that makes you feel cosy and put that on when you feel low, identify songs/prayers that really calm you down and play those, journal, read a book. Good luck ❤️

Why do all her videos hit directly what I need at the right time?! 💗

Learn what do you need to nurture yourself. What is soothing to yourself? 1.) Put one or two hand on your heart or your belly, rub your belly. Physical touch soothes. 2.) Have a small pillow to cuddle and hugg like you used to with a stuffed animal as a child. 3.) Create a sort of Mantra or Affirmation. Say something over and over again until you feel what you are saying. Like: "You are Safe. You can do this. You will be Allright Sweatheart". Break the cycle of anxious thoughts. Which phrase would calm you down? 4.) (for empath or highly sensitive people) Do the noise around you calm you or make you more nervous? Do you need more noise (like classical music) or more calmness? 5.) Food with a lot of Magnesium. Or use Magnesium Pills. Be mindfully of the food that you consume. Dit you drank enough water? = Knowing what it is that you need every single day? Be intune with yourself in that way.

The best thing about you is that I get the feeling that you actually care about us listening.. That energy in your voice is the best. Thx!

The distractions of the day eventually go away and you’re left with stress worries of the day or maybe something else. This is so true. You can’t stay busy and shut it out.

I naturally find myself putting my hand on my heart when I’m overwhelmed with emotion and I never understood why until now. This video is helping me in so many ways. Thank you.

Definitely needed this, especially this month

What do you need in that moment? - journalling my small wins & gratitude helps a lot - drinking herbal tea - distracting myself by cleaning & listening to music - listening to guided meditation whilst laying in bed & being wrapped in a blanket

Wow! Slow breathing with my hand on my heart totally changed how I was feeling

Stephanie this was so calming for me.❤️ Reminding me that I can comfort myself and take care of my needs.Thank you 💕

I truly enjoyed this episode! I rate it a 10 out of 10! Thank you for all your videos 🤗, they are truly helping me heal a lot of wounds I didn’t know I had.

I actually still have my baby blanket. I'm 27 and I've slept with it almost every night of my life. I rub the fabric together and it's just comforting, I don't care if its weird..its the only thing that's ever been consistent in my life.

Please start having online classes. So many women need your advice. I know 8 who would sign up. ❤️

Just found your channel, thank the Lord. Lol 🙏😭🙏 I just combined two of the things you mentioned - I found a soothing mantra for myself, and whispered it to myself with my hands over my heart. Whoa that feels so good. I’m no stranger to inner work, but I don’t think I’ve ever truly reached myself at this level until recently in my life. I suspect there’s something very important for me in healing my codependency, abandonment, inner child stuff specifically... Yes. Thank you so much!!! 💜

It helps me a lot to hug myself and to slowly breathe for 20 breaths, or do alternate nostril breathing (a yogic type of breathing)....it also helps to get into yogic child's pose and take 20 deep, slow breaths. While I do these things, I often tell myself "I am safe" and "this is scary, not dangerous".

Thank you for sharing these simple tools of self soothing. I did not realize I was doing that when I hug/lay on my pillow🥰

Just by watching your videos every day and no matter what the subject, I automatically enter a state of calm😊☑️

Thank you! I can't begin to tell you how valuable your content has been. From the bottom of my heart, thank you!

I am going through a tough time ALONE. Everyone with a minor worry has someone on their side to support them.

Stephanie, very valuable information especially now in this time of uncertainty and anxiety. Thanks for your continued help. May you and yours be safe and well.

So many great nuggets as always. “What do I need today/right now”? A personalized mantra for those needs, magnesium supplement, or magnesium in a cup of tea… Some of the best content around, I’m forever grateful for her videos. Stephanie is changing the world one video at a time.

Good topic Stephanie Lyn, thank you for being there for so many!!

Thanks Stephanie. Practical advice during tough times! Very much appreciated!

Stephanie you are just amazing. I love all your videos and most of your tipics speak exactly about what I need. I'm so grateful for your great work, you really helped me a lot in going through rough times in my life and really seeing the good ahead and not just being scared. Sending you lots of love and blessings!

I always needed a coach and meeting you online has been a boon since last few weeks. Thank you so much for helping others find themselves. ❤

This has been so helpful for me! I love your videos- the information is so useful and I can relate to so much of what you say. Thank you so much!

Thank you so much! This is exactly what I needed to hear, a clear explanation on the steps to take and why they help. Each of them are doable for me, I just need to put them into practice. 💛

Thank you quality content as always, your great Steph and a great inspiration to many many people 👍 bless you dear 🙏

I love all your content! 100%! BUT!!! We DEFINITELY NEED TO SEE YOU!

Thank you Stephanie lyn ! I found this weeks episode very therapeutic 🙌👈👏🤙🙏I love 💕 your channel👊

thank you for your lovely advice dear, you are always full of great new topics! Sending love, happiness and peace to everyone! 🙏💠

Would just love a self-soothing meditation with your voice

Thank you so much! These tips are realistic, practical, and helpful.❤

This was very helpful. I just realized I’m already soothing myself I different ways. I also take magnesium to help calm me. I think magnesium is important. The “calm” powder supplement is also really good. Thanks again for the video

Thank you Ms. Stephanie, This video of yours, a True Treasure : )

I was really skeptical about this at first but this was really helpful! I will try the self soothing techniques you've taught me & see if they work for me. Thank you!

Thank you so much my lovely Stephanie God bless you 🙏🌹

Thank you you are helping me deal with my emotional pain from my narssistic wife. Your suggestions help me alot.

Thank you, this is so vital, and I forget this so fast, I had a therapist type online coach start blaming me for my problems and told me that “obviously I’m not ready to change”, (when I wasn’t ready to commit to her course- that she wouldn’t tell me the cost of)- weird - but it caused me SO much more self doubt and shame- this video about self soothing has calmed me down so much- I’m so glad to hear this from you!

Your channel is just amazing..so glad I found you..❤️❤️

Thank you for giving practical examples of self soothing.

I also much prefer seeing you rather than just hearing you but the info is still really good.

These reminders are lovely. Thank you Stephanie!

Hi Stephanie😊 this. Podcast was so informative I had no idea that I could selfsooth like this just a few nights ago I started sleeping with my soft little zebra at night subconsciously I must have known what to do in practicing this technique. Because I’m an empath and highly sensitive living with a narcissist 10 years I sleep in the guest room where I can sleep meditate and spend time with my terrific coach miss Stephanie I’m praying that I can start the nine week course online very soon thankyou you are appreciated!,

Great listen! Magnesium lotion worked/works wonders for me. Topical actually absorbs the best, apparently, plus no risk of an upset stomach lol.

Thank you SO much for this 🙏🏼 ❤️

Some really good tips to take care of yourself. Thank you x

Thank you Stephanie. I will try all these tips!

Wow. The video was very helpful and need of the hour.

I slowly rubbed my chest and it actually made me really emotional and comforted.

Very helpful! Thank you for your post

Self Parenting/Soothing: Hand on heart is something good for being discreet in public. Be careful though, people may think you're having a heart attack! Hugging pillow works well in private. But also, WHAT I DO IS HUG MYSELF! Self love. It really helps me a lot. Magnesium also stops growing pains and muscle cramps, BTW. How I wish my parents had known that! Thanks for all the great videos and great advice. Best wishes.

Very sound advice self soothing method 😍

Thank you for this Stephanie .🥰

Hii, Thank you for sharing and this subject is very helpful during self-isolation :)

Stephanie, can you talk about dealing with an “alpha male” and their toxic traits?

Thank you so much for this!!!

Thanks I really appreciate this. I just started alternate fasting and need ways to self sooth other than eating

Very good. No person learned to self soothe. I don't think the parents knew this eather.

THANK YOU SO MUCH IT HELPS!!!

Always helpful. Thank u!

Loved this ! Especially in this time. Thank you!

Very important skill ❤️🙏💪🏾

Thanks Stephanie for the super useful tips 🙏💝

I defo need to self sooth! Thank u for this video🙂

It's hard for me to stop worrying because in my anixety state is always fear. I'll try these steps not sure it will work for me again im always in the anixety state all the time.

You should do a video How to be your own best friend with a lot of examples. Examples help so much

Very helpful video thank you 🙏

Great video!!!

Thank you

You are my savior

This is difficult when times are really hard. Moving house rn with a bunch of drama. Seem to be self soothing with chocolate 😅

How I sooth myself : I keep my hand on the chest and say this until I feel okay.. 'In the infinity of life where I am, all is perfect, whole and complete. I am divinely guided, protected and supported by the universe, it is absolutely safe for me to be myself in this world, I am safe. All is well in my world.' This affirmation is by Louse L Hay.

I do enjoy seeing you in the video, but I don't really watch the whole thing, so idk why lol. Awesome helpful episode though

What brand of magnesium powder do you buy? Anyone have suggestions? Thanks!

Thank u sooooooo much ❤️

Thank you so much❤

Thank you for this ❤️

You are awesome

Great insight 👍🏾 😘

Thanks so much for the videos Stephanie. I was completely clueless with what an empath was and now I have a better idea, the love was present but everything else I did incorrect, I hope its not too late. I love my empath to death and want her back in my life.

When I used to sleep next to the Narc he would always hug a pillow. It would make me feel lonely.

On a scale of 1-10, I rate this video 11. Thank you, and are you listening or maybe listening is the wrong word? : )

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Great video thank you very much

As I'm curled in a ball with 2 blankets and 3 pillows

wow. I have an unopened bottle of magnesium on my desk. Time to open it.

You are the best

Wow I need this ... The things a person lime me n u could do if we worked together.. Thats alleay a given but play together ? Thats even involves doing leasure tasks such as activities together . WOE.You are my fan tactic music to my ears .. And love your pic. ...

So many good tools! I like how Stephanie explained things and her pace. Just a side note to contribute to gender balance and co-responsibility in parenting. Nurturing and parenting is often associated to mothers because many reasons (tendencies in personalities, stereotypes, etc.) but dads can also nurture and I think it’s good for our collective imagination to perceive them as that and using them in examples, so we try to avoid reinforcing stereotypes. This comment comes from a place of love and collective learning ✨ keep sharing such a good content

I would like to know what advise you have for someone is an empath & noticed all the signs , but pushed it to the limit & ended up getting physically asssaulted... And I am still trying to deal w/ the fact that he legally got away with it.... Because of our ever so helpful law enforcement....

The Magnesium is good taking it at Night

Ice-cream and chocolate work well for me 😅. Joke aside thanks a lot for all these videos.

Good video

Since last October it seems like I've had a black cloud follow me, first my Mother died, a month later my cat had to be put down, I got really sick a month later, then trouble with the estate, which had me getting a lawyer to protect myself against my Covert Narcissist sister, then COVID hit, then I got laid off, and this week my favorite uncle (more like a big brother) was diagnosed with lung cancer and I am falling into depression, I am feeling overwhelmed and don't know how to deal with all of this, can you help?

1:59 our parents used to soothe us as a child…but as a adult we need to know how to soothe ourselves!

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Thanks I snuggle with my comforter because the sick ass narc that is still just sleeping just sleeping in my bed is no use to me. He always wonder why I do that. Stupid ass don't even know what I need. Thank you.