How To Spot A Narcissist | Therapy Thursday | Issac Curry 

That sums up the Narc's tactics 😂.

Don't forget spy & turn a blind eye (if it benefits them)

They give blanket apologies “i apologize for all my wrongs, & I take accountability” but never give any true details & only turn around and do MORE wrong then blame YOU

So correct

Riiiiight! I'm like so does everybody have some form of narcissism?!? 😳😢

Well, if you had narcissistic personality disorder, you more than likely wouldn't acknowledge that you have it. They don't ever really acknowledge that they have an issue. Never. Trust me. We ALL can and do have narcissistic traits. So, when people speak on this, they really need to say the personality disorder. I pray your strength in the LORD. I often wonder if King Ahab was codependent. Because some of the traits can be one in the same.

​@npayne7776 Thanks for asking that question. In the context that I'm hearing this subject matter tonight, it brought up the same question. But I think the answer is no, but that you can unknowingly be a narcissist (the lowkey bashful victim kind) that attracts the outright nasty kind, i think. I'm halfway thru watching this and came to the comments to see if the question popped up plus I have another question lol

@@ladennayoung2939 just so well said! 💯🎁🛐

​@@disaj7460The Holy Spirit has been giving me info pertaining to this subject matter for the past three years. I was Jezebelic, religious, had a victim mentality, a woe is me mentality, unforgiving, harsh on my son, not sympathetic or empathetic at times myself. I feel the Holy Spirit revealed to me that I was codependent due to how I raised. This spirit is in my family on my mom's side. It is a bully and detrimental and deadly in more ways than one. God opened my eyes, renewed me, and changed my heart. So, that I could share this info with others and advise them on how they too can be healed and free. More often then not they tend to reject the info, attack, and is in denial. Even in the body of Christ unfortunately. But all I can do is my part and pray that they are willing to let God in and allow Him to do the rest in Jesus' name. I pray your strength in the Lord in JESUS' NAME. AMEN. The LORD introduced a lot of movies to me based on true stories about people that had NPD and the outcome wasn't very good at all for the most part. Try looking up a movie named Too Close to Home on Tubi if you feel led to and if you get the time. I am sorry that I wrote so much. I just felt led to share all of that with you. GOD LOVE AND CARES FOR YOU AND SO DO I. ❤❤❤

I agree I don't like the idea of putting labels on people. You have to be careful of words you speak over yourself.

Narcissistic traits is not Narcissistic Personality Disorder. There is a difference. This teaching is about those that have the Personality Disorder.

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Most personality disorders aren’t genetic their learned. Narcissistic people tend to create other narcissistic people because of the lack of empathy they received as a child. It’s a blessing you realized this to break the cycle ❤

​@iLoveClothez I didn't say or implied that it was genetic. I said that I believed that it was passed down to them from my late grandmother without going into great detail. And yes it is a blessing that the spirit of the Lord opened my eyes and heart to see what was going on and freed me from it and is delivering and healing me from it daily. I had no idea this was even going on. I was blinded to it. Because it was so familiar to me. I simply couldn't grasp, see, or understand what was going on. Thank you, Lord Jesus for my freedom, healing, deliverance, and spiritual breakthrough. Thank you, LORD. AMEN.

You're not a narc because you're quiet and reserved. Omg please don't speak that over yourself. Jesus also was timid. Please be careful speaking words over yourself. Life & death is in the power of the tongue.

Only by me being a single mother of 4 am I able to mirror his parenting style’s because I usually have to operate in my masculine energy. On the other side when I mirror my mom’s energy it’s mostly easy going. I want to break free from who my parents were and live free…for who the Lord called me to be!

Also aware that his children (us 4, my siblings & I) could have very well been his supply too?! In a way…

I agree this message is on point. In every way. I think the important thing to see is that while in most cases the supply is an empath, what about when you are finding yourself in relationships with multiple narcissists, everytime you get in a relationship the other person is a narc, at this point you may need to realize that rather than being simply an empath perhaps you are a closeted-covert or inverted narc. There is a reason that this is your choice every time. It’s so deep.

@@therenaflint2474 Narcissists are like the negative side of a magnet. They need someone with the positive side to attach to. Two narcissists are like two negative sided magnets. They can hover around each other but they can’t attach together. For a narcissists relationship to work the way they need it too they need one person to absorb all their negative feelings. If they are mad they need to get mad at you. If they are guilty they need you to apologize to them. If they feel weak they need someone to dominate over. Etc… And when they get in relationships with other narcs the other Narc doesn’t want to do those things either for them. An empath or confused person will take it on. For a relationship with two narcs to work they will need to triangulate a third person to take on their games of control, manipulation, shame, blame, anger, etc… They team up together to get what they want. They play “good” cop, bad cop sometimes. One will be covert than the other. I’ve seen this happen with parents and they have a child they make a scapegoat. Or in businesses where the bosses are abusive to an employee. In churches where it gets cliquey. In schools with bullies. With roommates. With romantic relationship and they involve a “friend”, In gov things where they need people intimidated to do things. Etc…

Powerful 💯✊🏽🙏🏾

Yup. They will invalidate you to doubt your talents and gifts so you feel like you’re nothing special. But they expect all the praise and worship for the smallest things. Perfect confidence comes from realizing no matter how the world rates you, you know your value. If you still know authentically you did an amazing job in second place even when the game is rigged, you’ve truly won. Because the real game was them trying to control your mind. 🏆🏆🏆🏆

That's how God will do!!! (Same here) Let God fight that battle for you and be strong. Stay on guard and do your research. It's many videos here and a support group I joined that told me what to expect so that took the edge off of how far the enemy will go. YOu have to be strong in the Lord for this as they will stop at nothing and go through extreme measures to make you pay or hoover you back. YOU GOT THIS though. God will do yet another miracle for you. 2 years out and God gave me the wisdom to navigate the courts, paperwork, representation, documentation, etc. I'm a witness that after it all was done and it didn't take long though he fought God had the judge grant almost everything in my favor even down to him having to pay MORE than what I was asking for then some. Also, once it ends please celebrate Gods' goodness but don't expect it to be over. I had to go almost full no contact once I got the divorce because he tried to turn kids against me, would not co-parent or follow rules set by courts, and played on my phone and continued to lie. Once he realized I was gone on and not giving him any attention or reaction he finally has calmed down. He still tries to act up here and there but I refuse to be around him or talk. Everything is text unless he adheres to my boundaries which is address me properly and only talk to me about the children. I think the hardest thing was He went from wanting full custody to hurt me to barely calling them weekly (that is actually a blessing in disguise) but IT HURT me to know the person I married was actually this awful person who can't even stop being selfish long enough to love their own kids. As the narcissism unfolds every video had prepped me for what to expect and now I can say I no longer need them. God knows what we need and for what season. I pray you are not beating yourself up or feeling like as a believer you have to deal with such foolery. Our faith can oftentimes make this process harder but if God said GO, I pray you much strength and success for God's glory.

@@GodsChosenMekAmoR Thank You so much - wish I could just give you a big hug. Our stories are so similar. God has been good and He has gotten me through so much. I don't think God wanted me to stay because everything from getting the right lawyer, to getting the finances together for the divorce which was supposed to be impossible. We had many happy years together (or so it seemed) and our kids. We were together for 23 years and it was the last 10 years that everything turned into a nightmare. Unfortunately my kids are with him and he's poisoned them against me. I'm grateful for everything that I've been through because hopefully I can help someone else. I believe God's plan for my life is to help others and I'm finally moving towards a point where that can happen. I would never have gotten through this without God and the best part is that it brought me back to him. The last few years before we separated it literally felt like a dark wall was stuck between God and I. You are an amazing, strong, blessed, beautiful woman and I admire you. Thank You for your words of encouragement, advice and kindness and support. God Bless and I will keep you in my prayers too 💜

BOOM 💥 Thissssssss

Literally ‼️

Thankful that you got to have self awareness. That is good. I pray you get help. All the best.

In Jesus name,Amen

It is good that you have self awareness. That is the first step to helping yourself. God bless

Do you acknowledge what prompted you to choose this person as your spouse and father of your child?

@@ladennayoung2939 I was young at the time and he was much older then me But I will take responsibility that I was being his mirror for our narcissistic ways because I babyed his actions when I should of chin check how and who I let in and at the time I didn't know what a narcissist was until now and I had reevaluate myself because now I understand I was being his and I was betraying my family's narcissistic... Now that I know this I'm trying to break these generational curses because if nobody's going to break it has to start with me first since nobody couldn't or won't brake these chains ⛓️....

​@@tiffanysims3605Yes. Once you can acknowledge and accept your part in the matter and why you put yourself in the situation in the first place. Then and only then you can and will be totally free from the destructive, detrimental, and viscious pattern/cycle that you were in. I minister to many women/people in generally but especially women on this subject matter. And one thing I have found with MOST women they don't want to EVER acknowledge that they were the main reason why they were having certain issues in their lives. It is very important to admit that you have a problem. If you act as if there isn't an issue, how are you going to address it? How will things get better? Keep on keeping on and keep on looking up it is the only way in the mighty and matchless name of Jesus Christ of NAZARETH. The name above ALL names. AMEN.

I pray that you be led by the spirit of God, and I pray your strength in the LORD and that you do what you have to do for yourself and your son in JESUS' NAME. AMEN. Because certain environments aren't beneficial for anyone involved.

Amen 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

Me too! Amen!!

I respectfully disagree. If your the supply, your a codependent. Not another narcissist. Yes your trained from childhood to be a dependent, but doesn’t mean your more dangerous than the narcissist. Narcissists seek out supply, so they know the qualities in you that they need.

​@user-nevergiveupneverforget I get what the pastor was saying. In reality, a person with NPD can end up with another person who has NPD. Two of them can end up being together. It happens all of the time unknowingly more often than not. The covert narcissist can be even more deadly and dangerous. Because to the outside world they tend to wear that mask very well.

⁠​A huge difference between narcissistic personality disorder and codependency is EMPATHY. It is extremely rare for two narcissistic ppl to be together because someone has to supply and a narcissist CANNOT supply

@user-nevergiveup….. those of us who have been in a relationship with a narcissist (romantically or parent-child relationship) more than likely are Empaths and also lacked discernment. Which is why we were chosen to be destroyed. Our light shined too bright and the narc needed to deem it to the best of their abilities if they couldn’t eclipse it. Bro Curry announced he is not a therapist but this is something that needs to be addressed. While what he spoke was 💯 we can’t take what he said as the only scenario. If you know, you know. If you don’t know, start thanking Jesus RIGHT NOW!!!

@@Cleansed screaming off the rooftop, YES!!! 🎯 everything you just said🔥👏if you know, you KNOW.

I agree. Didn't agree with the entire message

@@LovelyinspoI agree. As a therapist who specializes in helping victims of narcs. Victims of narcs will mirror some of their behaviors not because they are narcs but out of fear and trying to please the narc. Most victims of narc are experiencing trauma responses and focusing on how “make” the narc love them and treat them good like they did during the love bomb phase. It’s a whole cycle. This means towards victim blaming.

Exactly! Which is why I disagree with the message. The traits he described is common for everyone going through life development. That does not make one a narcissist. People have to be careful of the words they speak over themselves

I agree. Two narcs can't be together. One has to be dominant. Two dominant people can't be together. It would be off-balance for a narc to be with a narcissist.

I agree. This message was a bit confusing because a lot of the characteristics is normal if you experienced trauma. I don't like the idea of being called a narcissist because you mat have been in a relationship or parent who was a narcissist. This blames the victim which is what the narc wants. It's abusing the person all over again

Heyy Another Chicagoan here

Please don't blame yourself. Read my comment and hopefully it will help. You are not a narc. The traits he mentioned is very common traits in general and even more if you have been abused by a narcissist

If you are questioning whether you are a narcissist and reflecting on your behaviour it generally means you are not. Narcissists don’t have the capacity to do that because because they cannot empathise with people.

@@Lovelyinspo yeah, I know I'm not a narc but at the same time, I know the victims of narcissistic and/or controlling people can take on some of their traits. I know i tend to take many things personal when I know logically I shouldn't. I know there's reasoning behind that, starting in childhood through my 20s. A lot of guilt used growing up and so much more with dealing with narcissistic and controlling people.

THHHHAAAAAANK YOU!!! I’m so happy you took the time to write this!!

Thank you 🙏 My heart is hurting for the victims ❤️

I agree. I would love for him to distinguish between empaths and his definition of closeted/mirroring narcissist.

I agree. I, too, have a mental health background. I'm actually working on my dissertation to obtain my PhD in Psychology, so I'm close now.😁 Like you, for me this message is a bit concerning because, to assume and imply that the person on the receiving end of the narcissism is also a narcissist is dangerous. Plus, not everything is linked to narcissism, and I believe society is not abusing this term and labeling almost everyone as a narcissist. On the other hand, however, it is possible and more likely for a child who is raised by one or more narcissistic parents to develop and exhibit strong narcissistic traits in adolescence and adulthood. I agree with Pastor Curry in that narcissism is not an innate condition, but rather one that is developed (most often in childhood). While mental health is a very critical subject, and I'm happy to hear the church finally discussing it, I think it may be safe for the church to partner with qualified mental health specialists to facilitate these discussions.

@@crystalgarry2507 congraulations! Thats so amazing and I am proud of you. I agree fully with everything you said. When speaking on topics like this it could defintely be helpful to allow a qualified mental health professional to speak about this. So many people could use the help espically in the church. It's dishardening when everything gets demonized.

Narcissists are heavily attracted to empaths, they think they are easily manipulated due to their kind and caring nature ❤

He said he couldn’t unpack it all so I’m thinking he left out codependents or empathetic persons. This is the first time I’ve ever heard of a closeted narcissist- oxymoron in my opinion

@@kaoshi_kutie EXACTLY! This video seems like "victim blaming"

@@terribryant7699 Right!