This guy is and always be a cheater..he didn't say a word, just stand there like a mischievous kid who was caught ... that's it. Sorry but this relationship will not last. Wishing this beautiful lady the best.
Thank you for your kind comment. So many people blaming her. I find it so sad that such a beautiful girl has such low self esteem. So often women are taught that they have to put up with awful behaviour from men in order to be loved. That's not love it's Co dependency. I hate that so many of us are brought up this way.
What you shouldn't be able to believe; is the amount of people that OPENLY cheat! There is nothing wrong with people talking about being cheated on. Because when someone cheats it's never a secret!
its-miss- muya, gurl ain’t it tho! It’s sad we’re supposed to be listening to the damn topic gurllll....but her skin & braids got us distracted in a good way😂😂😂
I feel like she is an empath,she easily picks up narcissist and cheaters or even bad people,she needs to work on herself a little bit more,I am an empath too so I'm taking time to work on myself rather than getting into relationships
She attracts what she puts out. Now she's at the point where she settled with a cheater but she put things in place in her mind that will limit the chances of him going out to cheat. Power to her to set with a cheater, however she needs to work on her trust issues and confidence within her marriage so they don't end up divorced.
CatsRidingDinos people always think they attract what they are and that all they have to do is change themselves to attract better. The truth is you attract the opposite of you. I bet she’s faithful and loyal and wouldn’t think of cheating on him. Unfortunately that’s the way the world works.
Another reminder of why as women we should KNOW OUR WORTH first before entering into a relationship. You get to set the standard of how people treat you by how you treat yourself and by what you choose to accept.
She has to work on her own self esteem. She can't change him and monitoring a person will not prevent them from cheating either. They have only been married 1yr,2 kids,1on the way & live with her parents,there is so many other things going on in this relationship.
The husband didn’t say anything. He stood there like a little child being chastised and embarrassed. He’s really insecure. Now they can try therapy to restore trust, but the question I have is “Is he even in this relationship?” He’s cheating on you and you keep getting pregnant for him and taking him back. Like is this a “husband and wife” situation or is this a “mother and son” situation? She doesn’t have time to raise him, she already has 3 babies.... This looks stressful as hell...
STRIKER RON who in the hell are you to say what someone else’s place is? Answer that first, RU-vid Jesus... 😑 Secondly, imagine how this story would’ve sounded coming from his mouth instead of hers... He is main person who should be speaking right now...
@@MizzDivineButterfly we men know that when we are guilty we ain't got no place to speak we listen to others and mend our ways , who cares about his side of the story he did what best for his interest and not thinking about his kids or wife. He can Keep his trash thoughts to himself
STRIKER RON You are right as far as his guilt. He is definitely wrong for his behavior. You are watching this clip viewing it as a compassionate man. I am watching as a woman with intuition. HOWEVER, watch this clip again. Listen to the other things going on. He is not the first man to cheat on her. She said “I am always the one who gets cheated on.” SHE said “I check up on him even when he’s with his family.” SHE said “I already have 2 children with him and one on the way and I don’t trust him.” AND they have all this going on in the first year of marriage. I want to hear what HE has to say because I can assure you, part of their problem is that HE is not a partner in this relationship. This is HER show, he has just been going along with it. Look at their body language... He is her child, not her husband. Trust me on this...
@@MizzDivineButterfly what does he have to say about it that he is sorry and etc. If he even opens his mouth they are gonna diss him . and I know whatever she said , I don't need to watch it again
Too much work! The less you trust, the more he'll cheat. You have to trust because you can't stop him. HE has to decide for himself. If he won't do right, do her a favor & go!
Perhaps, he needs to build his #confidence and get a better job. I believe that he is insecure because he cannot provide for his family as he lives with her parents. #Cheating could be a symptom of something deeper. He has to resolve the root cause of the issue to get to a place of real healing.
Atlanta718 this comment is by far the most ridiculous 😂 most cheating isn’t done because the person says . “Mhm I’m insecure & I wanna cheat “ most of the time it’s just happens or in reality. Your tired of hitting the same ole thing so you step out & get something new or the most common . An attractive co worker . You see each other everyday you flirt everyday & boom sex
@@WACG615 you did tho. But the fact that somebody wants something new and they can't just break up with their current partner is the deeper issue. Why not leave??
@@logikpill No. The other person is saying that he is doing all of that and still living with parents INSTEAD OF TAKING CARE OF HIS FAMILY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Okay.you don't trust anyone.you have insecurities. Your husband cheated. And,yet,knowing that,you have 2 children already,with a cheater,and another on the way. Sounds to me like you ain't got no sense
Look here Baby you have your whole life ahead of you and your children need stability in their home. Love DOES NOT hurt. If he doesn't get his act together, than you need to move on. Life is too short for the FOOLISHNESS.
@@MsBrat18 His eyes are clearly tearing up at 1:52, so he definitely cares. He's just on national TV and there's nothing he could say to excuse his behavior.
Girl you need help and healing the work starts with self. My heart goes out to you my sister. My prayer is for the both of them to get themselves together for the betterment of their family.
I really dont belive in this saying.. it means that that person or any person can be labeled based on their mistake for the rest of their lives...even if they make that mistake once. Cheating is a choice.. yes.. but its also an error that can be corrected and treated.. healed from and possible to move on without ever repeating it. It only takes true effort and commitment, hopefully this partner is willing to do the work for it.... its essentially saying... once a failure.. always a failure. And that is not true, we are always the ones who turn around and say to one another, if you fall, get back up and try again. We are not perfect beings. ** Point to note: I am not excusing his behavior, im just saying its not his life sentence.
@@blaqmermaiid but he kept cheating on her over and over. And will continue..why?.well because she is staying with him . she is having his baby..she is damaged..so the only guys that would want her are cheaters and those are the only guys she wants
Not true. Cheating is something ppl can grow out of. Especially women. I cheated on my bf that I was with for 6 years. The next bf I had I never cheated on him.
@@blaqmermaiid I used to think that saying was because of what you said and it couldn't have been further from the truth... people do have choices to be and do better in their next relationship once they have done the hard work on themselves and have forgiven themselves and thus ask for forgiveness from their partners whom they cheated on... but that's not the meaning behind the saying I think.. I think it means that people who cheat once in the same relationship that the cheated on partner took them back in has a HIGH probability to cheat again and again.. now, I am not saying that people who have cheated on their partners or the ones who've been cheated on didn't at least try to forgive and move on and possibly work it out... possibly and I say that with the grit of my teeth because I HIGHLY DOUBT it... I believe if a person has the concious to cheat on their partner there wasn't love, trust, cmmitment, loyalty, and faithfulness there in the first place... and once they do it and their partner finds out even worst it's like a wooops... didn't mean to hurt you but I did so now you have to forgive me AND be with me and let's just hope I can pretend to be faithful and loyal to you... there's a slight chance that I will... just gotta do better with hiding myself next time... it's an insecurity in the cheating partner's mind... have no idea what the insecurity is but I can say that faithfulness and loyalty was NEVER at the root of the cheating partner's relationship and certainly not love... when you truly love someone the one thing you would NEVER want to do is sabotage your happiness and as well as theirs... please don't let anyone else tell you differently... because people that love their spouses and claim to love their spouses wouldn't DREAM dare DREAM of being unfaithful, unfriendly, unkind, disingenuous, and most certainly disloyal and unloving... I think to my own opinion that this is the meaning behind this saying at least it should have that interpretation to it..
This is what I can’t stand about some black women they like to mother their men. Stop babying these MEN. Why did she go and make another child with somebody she doesn’t trust? He probably doesn’t respect her because she’s over bearing and speaking for him. He’s not still with her for love if anything he’s there for the children and maybe financial support from her. Most black men love getting black women pregnant So they can have a place to stay and be taken care of. The black woman will take care of him because she wants her child to have a father because they didn’t have one. These men become weaker and weaker and the roles reverse. The black woman goes to work, she cooks, she cleans, she makes the house hold decisions, she’s educated but too masculine because she’s forced to act as the man and woman. Black women have to stop taking on everybody’s pain and fixing it. Lay back as a woman and let that Man go out there and work and provide!
If they can overcome that, he's the one has to put in the work of rebuilding the trust, love, honesty and respect back, and its not going to happen overnight and he's going to have to apologize over and over again
But she keeps choosing men who cheat on her. Even if she left him, she'd pick another cheater. She needs to figure out what is going on internally that is letting her keep finding and wanting men like that.
I have a hard time seeing her leaving him as the best result. I caught my ex cheating and I left, but it cost our child so much. I constantly ask myself what would've happened if I forgave him and stayed? Now I'm with someone new and I'm apprehensive to have more children because I don't want to be a statistic, having multiple children with multiple fathers. Having to move household to household and not having something stable. My values are different this time around and I choose family above my own happiness.
Why keep having kids with him/get married then if there's no trust there? This is a whole mess. I feel for any friends and family that probably told her a hundred times to drop this dude and she ignored all of it...can't feel sorry for her, she knew what a mess of a man he was to her and still stayed soooo 🙄
@Ann Vo That makes sense. I'm thinking she may have thought things would magically get better if she married him and had kids. She put herself in this situation and now she's asking Steve to help. She shud've worked this out BEFORE the marriage, BEFORE the babies. Or better yet dropped him all together cuz how would their relationship succeed if she can't trust him. She'll just drive herself crazy checking on him all day to make sure he's no longer the same cheater he was before.
Forgiveness is I forgive you period. Not I forgive you but.... The fact that she chose to take him back means that she’s going to make the choice to trust him and that he will do the right thing. Otherwise she should’ve left and certainly not have gotten pregnant again.
Living with her parents: This is a plus for him because he can come and go as he pleases without boundaries. She's trying to keep the peace because her parents probably didn't like this man from the get go. Too, he doesn't have to do anything to provide for his family. He has no incentive because the home belongs to her Dad. Her husband will never change...until she does...
Exactly i thought the first 10 yrs of my marriage if he ever cheated thatd be the end ..turns out it wasn't😥 sometimes you know when its worth fighting for
@@tianamiller6820 after couseling and changing things that lead to the issues and unhappiness in the marriage we are now a yr out from the affair and are a happy couple who communicates and our 4 kids are happy to have their father daily , i understand not all people can or should work it out, sometimes the good outweighs the bad. There is no perfect person i screw up in other ways his just was heart shattering to me. Now if he does it again that'll be the end.
Only married a year and he's cheated before, which means more than likely he cheated BEFORE the marriage but she carried on anyway. He has no reason to stop. You have him your hand AFTER THE FACT!! If a baby was the answer he would've stopped already. This woman needs to heal so she can STOP attracting what she doesn't want. Always keeping tabs sounds VERY draining for both of them.
It's so many reasons why people cheat on their significant others it's no excuse to cheat if you have trust issues and your insecure at the same time it's time to focus on your inner healing. I am so tired of people saying what they want put up with. You want put up with getting cheated on once but you will put up with a lazy ass man just to have a man give this woman a break she will get to a place in life where she will grow and blossom and her own unique way self love and respect is always the key to any situation in life
Sheer bravery...i commend them both. This a couple that WANTS the help. N he possibly is truly ready to walk right in this marriage. Some men get it right away, some fall short n never get it, but there r some men that fall short; take a lil time to get it right but eventually recognize their mistakes n their woman's worth. Finally mature n finally decide to step all the way up n BE A MAN N CHANGE THEIR WAYS. True definition of a man is one that can right his wrongs. N do what it takes to provide changed behavior behind the apology. I wish them well b4 baby #2 arrives. They look like they could go the distance. ❤
How can someone continue living like that and keeps having kids with the same person?!?! What a horrible feeling to have the need to check on everyday he does because you can’t trust him maybe she is also afraid to be on her own.
I will never understand. I'm 25 years old and I understand that there are over a billion people in this world. Hell, my husband might be in Zimbabwe. So I refuse to let myself be embarrassed like this. 3 kids and only 1 year of marriage? So he was cheating probably before the marriage, maybe while you were pregnant AND you still keeping him? WHYYYY
Steve should have uploaded their full interview. She monopolized the entire conversation. As she stated, they live with her parents. She's a homemaker and he works long hours trying save for a house.
Why would she marry him? They already had two kids. She knows he’s a cheater. The last thing they need is another child, when he can’t even provide a home, for the family they already had.
Nahhh, the minute she says she check his location I was like nope. Why put yourself through all that stress over a no good man ?? Peace of mind is worth everything to me. I rather be single than stressing out about if my man is cheating on me or not
Cheaters are cheaters. They cannot help themselves. It's in their DNA! 9 times out of 10 their relationship with God is very weak. ( And that is if they know who Jesus is!)
You took the words right out.. yes!! Your commitment to God is the root of fidelity and commitment.. you HAVE to have a commitment to God first and foremost, got to trust in him, to be faithful to him, to have faith in him, to have belief in him, and obedient to him, and it transforms or transpires into you being committed to yourself, trustworthy, faithful, and loyal in which it allows you to be committed, faithful, truthful, and loyal, just to name a few, in your marriage.. yes... you nailed it! Thank you. 👏🏾😁
@@sugamama9444 I have piece of mind with my fiance she's great and she's always supportive when I get mental breakdowns (I'm a guy so I get embarrassed about my breakdowns but she doesn't care she just wants to help me)
Even in the scripture, the #1 ground for divorce, is infidelity. Sadly, this young lady have given power over her life to a man, that was clearly not ready for marriage and a family. She's trying to force manhood upon him thru this broken marriage and childbirth, which isn't working. Shes going to end up in the backroom of her parents home, with more babies, while he continues on this path to infidelity, if she doesn't get the help she needs soon. My #1 suggestion for her, is not counseling, but laying this burden down before Jesus Christ, giving Him authority and power to enter into her life, this empty marriage and the heart of those children, before they're emotionally damaged, by this unloving and untrustworthy relationship. He can fix it and He will, when she decides to turn it over. She's too beautiful to have to go thru this, just for the sake of having an empty marriage. Ladies, wait on the Lord to bring a man into your life that will love you, value you, cultivate and nuture you, respect you, adore you, protect you, provide for you and admire you. He will. This is very sad.
Forgiving isn't forgetting. Don't get where this misconception is that if you forgive it means you forget and suddenly have no issues with what happened. You can forgive someone and still not take them back after cheating. Forgiving doesn't mean a free pass. She definitely has forgiven him, she's asking how she can learn to trust him again. That's a woman who is even admitting to the fact she is now struggling with insecurity from his mistake. Forgiveness does not restore trust.
If you decide to stay with someone who's cheated, if they don't do the work to regain and repair trust, then the person who was cheated on will never have a peace of mind.
Wow , she has a great straight and courage because these guy always cheat and he is still cheating wow she is still with him , great job done girl don't relent anymore.
The problem with cheater is they have poor character. It doesn’t even matter if he is not cheating on her right now. That poor character will come out of him in other ways as well. He will always find ways to disrespect her and their marriage. He doesn’t know another way.
Sometimes you got to watch what not to do from others mistakes. A woman’s heart is blessing when you do right. Yeah it’s some foul people in this world but don’t be foul to someone who loves you no matter what.
