How To Stay Positive No Matter What - Happiness Is A Choice 

I’m cuddled up in my blanket alone in my room and on my bed, I am watching this on my tv in the corner of my room, my hairs wet from the shower, I’m in a comfy black flannel and black leggings, I’m in my grandmas house. My grandma and my mom don’t get along. My grandma is abusive and mentally draining. I need to keep a positive mind set cause lately I feel like I’d been falling apart, when I’m with my mom sometimes I have to act like I’m a 44 year old, taking care of my grandpa who is 94 and my sister who is 7. I am 13. Yesterday I was left in a motel room with my sister and grandpa, it was 11:45 almost time for check out and I had no idea where my mother was, there’s a lot more to the story but I rather not go there. I’ve just been so down and sad and confused, even mad at myself for not being able to get a job, a house, money, but then I realize that I’m 13.. and it really drives me up the wall. This video is something I looked up because of all this and more, depression has been peeking into my life and banging on my door. But this video made me have a bigger output on things, I don’t really know how to explain it but thank you.

Guilty plea time: I'm a school counselor, and I TOTALLY stole this to teach to my 3rd and 5th graders about problem solving. They loved it, I gave you credit, I directed them to your website and RU-vid channel. Also very helpful for me in my personal life, I think about it all the time, and it's been freeing to in dealing with difficulty. Thanks Dr. Paul!

I watch this ever so often now, and today it just hit different. Thank you.

BB8! Precious! One of my favorite phrases, being happy isn’t a choice until you know it is.

Wow I love how you said to peel apart a challenge and find something to be grateful for to add to your list. I did this for dealing with difficult people and said I’m grateful in a way because I’m actually learning a lot about creating healthy boundaries and how to respond not react to difficult people.

You're always positive, optimistic, and have great energy Paul - thank you!

This makes so much sense. I came from a tumultuous upbringing with lots and I mean LOTS of trauma including watching my brother die in our home in front my very eyes. And that’s only a tiny portion of my upbringing. Spoiler alert it didn’t get much better after that. Not until I was an adult did things start getting better for me. One of the things I struggled with was relating to others. Because I had been through so much, I really struggled to develop empathy for my friends who were upset over things that seemed to me as trivial as a hangnail. I am so thankful for every experience I’ve had in life because it has caused me to remain acutely aware of the fact that things could always be so much worse than they are now. Boom. Instant gratitude! Thank you God for every trial you have delivered me through!

Yes! I love being positive! Makes me positiveluly happy! 😁

This is the best channel on RU-vid

One step out of anxiety and depression. Thank you!

Thank you for making these videos, you’re a bright man!

The yeah at 15:10 was so passionate it made me feel like someone really loved me and wanted to help me, I just wish I could get a hug 🤗

This video helped me get out of bed I was frozen with anxiety thinking of the worst going into panic that I could fail my two little kids. God bless you this video has saved me 💜❣❣❣💯🙏

Being conscious about our life is the first step to healing!

Another uplifting video, you're a joy to listen to Dr. Paul, like a ray of sunshine on a cloudy day Xx

i think my summary of ur video is more like to see that we've been through much worst past, n we're still fine by now, n we should believe that we have a better future.. That's how to stay positive minded.. Grateful n full of hope.

This is the only time I have not been upset at hearing "it is what it is" lol lol lol thanks Dr. P. Ps. Nearly forgot, hope your nephew in law Talon has recovered since, and if is of any value to know that at least for me there was a meaningful message in his and yours experience through the "truncated" message (that's another bit larger conversation), be it known I have been changed by it, and it is my wish and hope to make that change be for good to others as I serve. Health and light!

I get a kick out of solving negatives not so much emphasis on the focus! Kinda like a jigsaw puzzle. As each piece fits I get my dopamine hit. Life is a struggle at times and ironically this is what I am greatful for. We got this far we will solve earth's problems. I think we're both on the same page and your work has helped me emensly with many pieces of the puzzle. Thank you.

This video is so powerful. Thank you Dr. Paul! The CREATION part is mindblowing! It made me cry and gave stomach butterflies at the same time! Awesome. God bless your life! 💕

Great! We can learn to become positive all of the time. I really needed to hear this, and I will listen to it about a dozen more times, to REALLY get it to be a part of myself.

Thank you Paul. You have just made me realise what my problem was. Thank you!

I agree with most of what you've said....except 'judging' I'd rather use the word 'compare' as the word 'judging could lead to negative emotion/thoughts.

When my son was 16 he totaled his car. I was terrified when I got the call. I arrived at the scene, fire trucks, police cars, every where! He was totally fine. A bump on his knee. I felt like I hit the lottery and he was aggravated with me because he loved that car and he was also traumatized. I explained to him it was actually the luckiest day of his life, and mine. This video really made me think about that day. I really enjoy your content!

I just finished day one of the writing prompt you suggested and wow is all I can say. I just had so many revelations to the "negative" situations in my life and I know exactly why they're there and how to move forward with them. They're honestly not negative at all. There's so much room for growth now that I have this tool. Thank you sooooo much!

Thank you! This really helped me get through a hard time 🙂

I'm a ca student and its really hard sometime staying positive.thanks for advice ☺️

Everyone is spreading negativity like it’s a disease. It’s really frustrating when you are desperate for help and all your loved ones want to do is to heap more worries into you. I’ve finally come to realize that everyone is scared these days. I think God has led me to this video for a reason. I’m hoping it will be an answer to prayer. Thank you Dr. Paul for your amazing work.

You are amazing Dr.Paul❤

I don't usually comment on videos, and I am grateful and thankful that I found your channel. Very nice and well-versed.

I really like this video. Thank you for posting. This is very similar in many ways to Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). We cannot eliminate unhelpful thoughts, but we can learn to live with them and not let them control our lives.

so glad i found your channel!

Thank you. I needed to hear this today. :)

Dr. Paul your videos are phenomenal! I've only watched a few and each one amazed me more than the preivous one! Thank you so much for sharing your insight and wisdom!

I’m so glad I found your videos! I listen to them daily. I love your content and the way you present it! Informative and you keep it interesting. Keep it up :D

I am grateful to have come across your videos. They are helping me in so many ways. Thank you and God bless you.😊

Thank you so Dr.Paul!! You have explained , clarified and demonstrated so much of how our mind works. Thank you! You’ve given me so much more hope and relief that I can do something about it

Finding your channel was a blessing,im working everyday to improve myself and self awarness. Thank you so much for everything that you do for us.

Great work Paul! So much Value! I'll be tuning in!

Wow. I love his fantastic presentation! Thank you !

Had to revisit this video again as I look for support during this challenging time. 😉There is so much to work on personally.💪There is comfort reading the other comments.💚So many inspiring stories of people with resilience. Thank you to all of you who post comments. 💯💛Keeping things real. 🇨🇦The support is marvelous.👍

You're such a good man Paul. You are helping so many people and i think its awesome that you reply to everyone. I grew up without a dad so i had to learn alot of stuff on youtube and this channel helped me TREMENDOUSLY thank you so much.

Am Thankful for your time & help, and Videos. Thank you So much Vary Powerful

I have this habit of overthinking and visualizing scenarios, I'd just like to "unstuck" the thoughts in my head and move on. The more I focus on "clearing" them the more they come forth so I am beginning to think that not focusing on them just might be the trick. Thanks for this amazing video Dr Paul!

Thank you so much for this! GOD bless you! ♥️

Thanks so much Dr. Paul! You are AMAZING!

I literally cried, what an impactful video!! Thank you so much 💕

Really important video. I was having a difficult time a while back, so I tried the "three things to be grateful for" for a few days - and it really helped me re-evaluate things. I find I sometimes need time to absorb something (eg work changes, family issues/behaviour etc) - and I _park_ or put off reacting to it if I can. Then I calm down a bit and re-assess. Really thought-provoking - thanks, Dr Paul.

Thank you , for the first time I really understood the information plus I see a video about forgiveness that linked me with this video and I want to say that I am so grateful for what you are doing here on this channel, may God bless you ! ❤🙏🙌

Haven’t heard “better by 8” before. That’s an awesome tool. It helped me process something today. Thank you 😊

Thank you Doc, you're a genius. Creation + Evaluation. Aweseome

Thank you for sharing truths and principles that work! I came across your YT channel a few weeks ago, while I was in the middle of a difficult time. I have gained so much from what I've seen that has helped me through.

Thank you. God bless you .

It certainly feels better to imagine things will always get “better”, even if I’m deluded! 😂 Probably much healthier also!

Amazing simple yet powerful switch thankq Dr Paul.

I was so tierd of listening to these overhyped "how to stay positive" video's for years... and now I found this one 🤯 best info and methods ever given to me about staying positive ❤️ I actually laughed, while lying depressed in bed, about how simple and so powerful at the same time this is and WHY I never looked at it this way before 😄 This is crazy!! haha Thank you!! ❤️

Love this guy’s advice!

Thank you!

AWESOME ! So clear and illuminating explanation. I feel I have learned watching your video and something essential for living and happily living. Infinite thanks :).

cinnomon, ginger, pachuly ,scent. light. vitamin D ,tumeric, stanford university sunny weather good posture, smiling ,all makes me feel more posotive more coffe also , cashews,and orange juice.

thanx so much.... you're right ... Ifeel much better

This is something I'm struggling with currently, so I'm doing the exercise now in a journal dedicated to my relationships with my wife and kids. This is not an easy exercise! That "freebe" is certainly necessary Thank you for putting this out for us all =)

this video really helped me when i woke up depressed af, thank you!

Thank you so much, great explanation!

Thanks ; God is good, with God everything is possible

I like your expressions. Its so fun to watch the videos and learning a lot along thw way!

Exactly choose life ,we got enough threats that could cause death out in the universe unless we hopefully see it and how to safely deal or get away from it ...we don't need no more prep up and distracting obstacles holding us back from our purpose to keep nature's cycle stay balanced with the universes cycles

This is truly a gem of information! Thank you!!!

Thank you💯

Awesome🧡 love it🥰 Thank you!

I don't know I'm feeling soo down, my head is hurting. I wanna cry my eyes out

Doc, you are an authentic presenter and your material is practical and "real." Thank you for all your expertise and yes, I have subscribed. You are such an important person in my life. Atlantic Canada cheers you on, especially during covid!

Thank you

Thanks for this great video. I've been in a dark place for a long time & your content is a big help. Truly appreciate what you do:)

Counting my blessings! Very interesting, Dr, I loved it very much! Thanks. Kind regards🤗❤️

Thank you so much, Doctor 🙏🙏😍😍

Stay positive 🙏❤️

Thank You so much Dr. Paul.. You are a blessing sent from God...gifted I struggle with reacting .. I am learning though to keep my peace or have peace I need to stop first You video helped my thought process.. God is soon good! God bless you and your family..💕💞

I do this to feel better but seems like everyone else around me just see the negative side of things. For example I am unemployed because of my health issues (that are mostly invisible to other people.) and they see me as a poor outcast. I’m thinking well, at least I have a house and I can afford food and other basics, so things are great actually. Frustrating.

Excellent, thank you.

Thank you Dr Pual .:)

There is something ever so fascinating with a positive mindset. I can ramble on for hours down the streams of philosophy, science and metaphysics, but ultimately I think positive thinking and being a positive individual, is a magnificent state worth trying to obtain and maintain! Allow me to brief: Over the aeons of our existence our world has gone through time. The process of being resulting in the interaction positive and negative energy. To give some insight to my thoughts: There is a duality that I wish to one day frame, the YING and YANG of existence. For now let's say there are 2 energies: POSITIVE and NEGATIVE. Like the AMPLITUDE and TROUGH in the ether. For some unknown reason, they are equal in nature in a sense it brings upon the balance we know as existence. Positivity; for some reason reigns greater. It is the preferred energy state. Our universe is moving toward something. Toward what though? I have no idea, but everything to my existence shows me it, we and everything is moving toward and if you help existence move toward by being positive, (POSITIVE) you will be rewarded by its mechanics that made you and I a reality. This ultimately is happiness which is a state of energy equilibrium. The somewhat resonance of the positive(out) and negative(in) force. Master energy, master existence... 369

Oh my..sooo good...

That thing happened to me..once i came back home , found my mom crying badly like if someone has passed away...i was very very frightened to overcome what was coming next ..my mom said my grandpa passed away..i felt a big big relief cause i was guessing it was my dad..i felt very guilty about feeling that relief

Thanks sir, you are truly a lifesaver.

AMAZING 💯 💯 so many new concepts to me and such great advice!!! Thank you so much!! I’m taking on the BB8 challenge!! God bless your and your whole team!

Always learn so much here. Grateful for this channel

Thank you very much...... I needed it badly. Anxiety and negativity has caused me a lot of damage

This was soooo good! Thank you!!

Rest In Peace Mark Eaton… 🙏♥️

This help me a lot. Thank you Doctor Paul

Loved it!!!

happy thoughts

You are number one!💥👌👌👌👌💯💯

Hello Dr. Paul. First of all, I'm so grateful that I found your channel. May I ask you Dr. Paul? If I'm not mistaken, I heard one time in one of your videos that you give training and certification to aspiring life coaches. I am from the Philippines, and I've been practicing life coaching for almost 3 years, and now I'm planning to build my business around it and get organized. Is it possible for me to train under your program and be certified? Thank you. I would really appreciate it if you can read this. Thank you.

Opposite of gratitude is shame and blame. Shame equals you are bad. Now that we identify your to blame. I now have control how I feel. This is the way of the Sith. How else am I supposed to relieve the inflammation of the stress hormone of cortisol and aldosterone and get my nitric oxide dump to counter the inflammation I feel from automatic negative thoughts and be the dominant person in my life? Otherwise I'm relying on healthy hormones of serotonin oxytocin dopamine endorphins adrenaline... Continue to do but you've always done and get what you've always gotten... Awesome Video keep up the good work :-)

Great Advice Dr Paul

Okay so I just have to say, I stumbled upon one of your parenting videos tonight and watched it and subscribed. I come to this video and when you showed the picture of your family I thought, “I wonder if he is from Utah, he has to be cause he just seems like he might be” ( I’m from Utah by the way) and then you mention the Utah Jazz and I’m thinking, “he has to be!!” So I go and search you up and you are!! I think it’s just so crazy how just seeing your personality, your parenting knowledge, love of family, etc, I just knew you had to be from here. But anyways, Utahns really do have a thing about them that is unique to everywhere else 😂 thanks for being a blessing to so many people and I’m glad I stumbled upon your positive parenting styles and tips!

Paul I have watched you for only a little bit but I have seen all the videos you make and you are great I want to do what you do I really look up to you thank you

Happiness is a choice 👍💓💗🎊

Omg eye opening session