I haven't even talk to that person since the day i saw that person now it has been six years, I didn't even have any interaction with that person for once. Still i can't forget. Now they have their own lover. Still can't move on from that person. Shit!! I hate myself...
How to stop obsessing over someone 0:28 Recognize the Illusion 1:37 Embrace Reality 2:25 Emotional Detox 3:14 Cultivate Radical Self Love 4:05 Let Go of Attachment 4:40 Seek Support
I was obsessed with someone who didnt want me as much as i wanted them. Blockrd.. deleted them.. will never be able to find their number again... wont have to wait ever for some breadcrumbing message..best feeling ever.
I blocked and deleted too still feel bad but time will heal it. Sometimes I wish we didn’t have all this tech and social media seems like dating has become more toxic.
The thing I find is that if you fancy something it’s normal. But if you repeat patterns of liking someone who is emotionally unavailable you need to remember the realistic expectations and pros and cons and try and love yourself for who you are a lot of points in this video are valid asf hit home awesome :)
Truth is, most of us have probably had someone obsess over us and we didn't want them, yet many of us wind up going through a phase where we obsess over people we can't have.
I’ve never felt so desperate for someone ever before, and what’s worse is these feelings are towards someone I will never see again and even I did, I’d probably never be able to have him. I hate feeling like this.
It’s happening to me right now, it’s the worst feeling I’ve ever felt in my life. I want to fucking die just to stop feeling this shit. Hope you’re doing better every day 🙏
Atp I don't even want him back anymore, he can be with anyone he wants to be, I just want someone to belong to who wants me, platonic or romantic. I want MY person, who wants me.
We all want someone who will want us back. But as the saying goes, people in hell want ice water, but that doesn't mean they're gonna get it. We can want all we want but we NEVER have what we want and most of us will die alone or we'll just settle for someone we aren't really into just to be with someone
@@ITIsFunnyDamnIT I get your point but to have the belief that your person is out there, helps me to move past such situations knowing I did not lost anything, my time with people ended. We drifted apart as we were not truly meant to be. Your POV logically analyzes such things. What you are implying is partially correct but without desire their is no manifestation of your desires. Not wanting anything is just lack of awareness of exactly what we want.It is a part of human nature to crave People or things. It isn't bad to "want" someone or something, only when it is from a point of genuine passion. Wanting something should go hand in hand with the appropriate actions to get it, otherwise we won't get anything just by "wanting".
couldnt agree more. i dont technically want a gf, i just want to know that someone out there really does care for me and to remind me that i do matter to someone (even if it is just one).
Journaling is a good way to reinforce cognitive behavior. I am a very obsessive person, and very possessive. I have been in therapy for years. I actually consider myself “graduated” from therapy. Growth isn’t a straight line. It’s more like a spiral. Each turn around, I can see new things. I learn and expand. I need a journal to go over this emotional and behavioral progress. Learning how to talk to yourself or treat yourself is the number one skill to start with. Your journal will help you to see the good in yourself. The hard work you’ve done. I hope that maybe my sharing what works for me might help others. Don’t count the years. Count how many ways you’ve been there for yourself as u go along. I could go on and on. The rest is up to anyone else if they need it.
It was high time for me to accept that I was not so important for her as I thought I was or as I wanted to be. She is better off without me, so I must be better for myself.
the way I over came my obsession is I looked at the illusion that it was and listened to music that made me think of her till it was nothing but a silhouette of the girl I was thinking of. Factor the fact that the silhouette wasn't in my life and only in my mind the obsession finally melted
"Radical self love is a powerful antidote to obsession, as it shift our focus, n word, toward nurturing our own hapiness and well being" IM SO SORRY BUT THAT MADE MY DAY
This happened to me recently, starting at the end of June. Nearly overwhelming anxiety all through July. My imagination really ran away with me. What has gotten me through it is the realization that it is nothing more than a story. It's a movie, or a really good book that has affected me. August has been barely a blip of concern. I'm nearly completely over her, because she isn't really real, just in my imagination.
I was crushing people, but the cycle is just like a loop. Loving them - self desperate - feels like not worth it for them - and then i give up. In the end i see them with someone else, well thats not really hurt and not worst too but sometimes... I want to be in there position where my crush love me back. Anyway its always happen just like a time loop when im crushing someone lol
I always crush on women I cant have. Women way out of my league. I don't mean to, just can't seem to help it. I know NO woman anywhere wants me, and so I keep repeating this same routine over and over. Keep crushing on different women, and every single one of these women I crush on are always the most stuck up women ever. The types that know they are diva goddesses and look down on people like me. I hate myself for that and I should hate these types and stop crushing on them. I know they hate me.
its just that never ending loop of loving, doubting and then regretting. And in the end you think they didnt love me at all then because they already found someone, and im still here...all alone
same with me It's been 2 years. I remember everything like our conversation, her reactions, and where we were standing at that time. But now it would be better if I never met her. I feel goosebumps whenever I think about that moment. I even remember all the chats. But I don't think she remembers any of these. People are born then Die, I think the only thing we are doing is making memories both good and bad.
This is totally me... I am on the stage of non contact with that person, because I know inmediately when he talks to me the cycle begins.... I find myself rereading old texts and living past times we enjoyed each others company. I been trying to break free since 2021 but no matter how long we stop talking when we connect again the cycle repites itself and I end up dissapointed at the end. Hopefully this time is for good...😥😥
I am going to be honest.The girl I am in love with is my female best friend.😢I told her how I felt and all she said was don't overthink and we continue as we are.Worst part is from her friends I came to the conclusion she isn't ready to get back into dating and now I was left thinking about her.We talk and each conversation we unpack one another's trauma and we leave better.With her I felt at home and no all my brothers all tell him I should give up and move on.To be honest I just wish my love for her was a switch I could flip to make it stop but real life don't work that way
I would say ...go to that person and talk and if they don't have feelings for you just accept , but please don't waste your time and emotions in overthinking about them.
Dealing with this, but with a platonic friendship. Learning to detach is hard, but so is feeling like you're being strung along as a backup plan or a third wheel. Definitely going to keep these tips in mind.
I've had an on off relationship for years with someone who was emotionally unavailable and i knew this truth but somehow when I was with him everything seemed perfect slowly trying to detach myself from this unhealthy loop and this video is something that's really helping me initiate that process no matter how much it crushes me i wanna feel like me again, thanks Psych2go❤
I'm meeting someone in 20 minutes who dumped me for a date with someone else last minute. this helped me find peace within myself, and just accept whatever comes off this. thank you.
I can't get over this person because we used our minds to talk and that experience, I'll never have again.😢😢😢. I lost the only person that truly loved and cared about me because someone else had to sabotage my relationship. When you're not physically attractive and you don't have many options and you lose your true love, you'll never bounce back to where you were before. Let alone find anyone else to love. Makes me very sad. 😢😢
I really needed this video just now. My boyfriend just broke up with me so we could work on ourselves but I love him so much and it hurts so bad. My whole world revolved around my boyfriend. Every day I’d wake up the happiest I’ve ever been because I knew he was there for me to talk to and for me to love. But it’s going to be so hard to not be as clingy or as loving as I used to because I’m sure he wants his space. No matter what though I’ll always love him and somehow someday I hope we get back together again when the opportunity arises. I’ll always love you Ivan. :(
Insane timing on this, also I felt soooo called out when it said "stalking them on social media" with that tone like saying, "I know you've been doing this, I'm watching you, don't lie".
I was obsessed with a guy, but it already passed. However, yesterday I saw him again, and some feelings kind of came back, but not with the same energy. This video appeared at the right time.
*😮Never ever try to...chase somebody....if you need to chase someone it means simply you are mad for that person and on the other hand that person might be enjoying somewhere meanwhile you might be feeling terrible bad and 😢 crying stop all these things right away....start working on yourself you will get more good bnda or bndi beleive me give yourself love first don't to anyone else*
Timestamps 1). Recognise the illusion 0:28 2). Embrace reality 1:37 3). Emotional detox 2:25 4). Cultivate radical self love 3:15 5). Let go of attachment 4:05 6). Seek support 4:40 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
Even after leaving him for 5 years we are back together and I keep getting blocked over minor arguments...it's just emotionally exhausting to love someone i guess...one moment things are good and other you find yourself cursing "why does it have to be me". The extreme emotions I feel in a split second...it's just a burning sensation in my stomach and the fear...it's just heartbreaking that there are few days when things are normal and fights are the new normal.....it's hard.
I miss her so much, it’s been a month. I appreciate people come and go but what I experienced with her during our travels, just me and her and no one else, I don’t think I’ll ever experience ever again. And that’s the painful part and why I’m in a depressive state.
same with me It's been 2 years. I remember everything like our conversation, her reactions, and where we were standing at that time. But now it would be better if I never met her. I feel goosebumps whenever I think about that moment. I even remember all the chats. But I don't think she remembers any of these. People are born then Die, I think the only thing we are doing is making memories both good and bad.
I think this video has helped me in a slightly different way than most of the others commenting. I've been reconnecting with a friend (a girl) recently after years of not seeing each other. Despite that, we've managed to keep in touch over text. In our time apart, I slowly started developing feelings for her, but I never wanted to jeopardize our friendship. But after seeing her for the first time in years, I quickly realized that my feelings for her were stronger than I realized. We have plans to see each other again next weekend, and I plan to tell her how I feel so I can finally know if she feels the same. I'm excited and nervous, and I've been thinking endlessly about her the past few days. After watching this video, I believe it's become a bit of an obsession. This will potentially be my first real relationship, so this is also the first time I've felt this strongly about anyone before. All that being said, I know I must calm down and stop overthinking about it and let whatever happens happen. At the end of the day, she's still my friend, and I'll finally have closure. 😌
when i know i might just make up what he really is, hes not what i want and i know hes not interested or will treat me right. why i still cant stop thinking and have anxiety about him. i hate this so much
Wow. I've had limerence off and on for someone for 38 years. Thoughts and social media only and the limerence isn't always present. This video was very helpful. I wish that I had it 38 years ago. Thank you!
When ever I feel like obsessing over some one, I give my heart a gentle reminder of "beauty lies in the eye of beholder" It's same thing I often say to the person who is obsessed with me. 🌹
Obsessed with my friend. The only close friend I have. I have few other, but maybe she's the one where I find comfort, I find peace and happiness. Yes I idolize her way too much , and yes she seems perfect to me. I have social anxiety and it's worse so I've little to no social interactions to befriend someone else. I'm really weird typa person idk how she became so close to me, but I'm not complaining. I feel blessed to have her (its the 3rd year). But the problem is it has become an obsession. I'd get up and the thoughts start revolving around since. I'd open up my phone and the first thing would be to check if there's any text of hers. If my phone rings I'd think it's hers. At school she'd be the only person I'm looking for. And to make things even worse, I've the worst possessive feeling- it's really bad like it hurts me physically but I don't complain to her cause it sounds absurd. Now I'm learning to control and not to react to that. But i really have no idea what to do about this obsession. Like friendships can be healthy even if you adore someone very much but it doesn't needs to be an obsession. All the things mentioned in the video is related to me like this is the only video that is literally so personal to me. Idk what to do about this.. maybe any suggestions would help 🙂 //10924
I've seen a couple of videos on this channel and also various other ones. This video is really good and spoke to me deeply. I already knew a lot of these things, but hearing them again really reinforced the ideas. They're so true and core to what I've been learning about recently.
I was in Love with someone who said they "Loved me, too, but was not in Love with me". Those words hurt me so much & still do to this day. It has been since 2020 since I saw this person last & unfortunately cannot get that person out of my head & wish I knew what they were doing now. I even sent 2 letters to that person & they sent them back to me unopened. I had a picture of us together, after getting my unopened letters back, I destroyed the picture of us with tears 😢 in my eyes. Yet, to this day, I still Obsess about that person. I want to move on with my life, but I'm really having a difficult time. This person was the only person who really knew me well, emotionally speaking & I'm still feeling the pain.
Wow that must be so hard 😢 I’m sorry to hear that, I hope your doing maybe a bit better now ❤❤❤, I’ve also been obsessing over someone but I don’t know them in real life, their a celebrity really, I haven’t even talking to them but I can’t stop daydreaming and thinking about them, idk if it’s affecting me in a bad way or not, but I do have a lot of brain fog
@@perpendicularmeemees2984 I totally understand how you feel. I've been living with an unhealthy curiosity about where this person may be. I know thais person helped out in a Church thriftshop, but I'm almost afraid of being rejected again.
Not totally obsessed,but some of my behavioural patterns match w obsessive behaviours.Now im trying to be a good partner and practice mindfulness to appreciate each other ; trying to be a better boyfriend....
This video has helped me so much. All of my questions and answers were listed in this video and I can't thank you guys enough. I will definitely use this to be better. Thanks again.
This video is kinda life savior for me.I am currently going through the phase of extreme obsession to someone.I couldn't meet to my desire & it's giving me so much trauma.I don't know when I may get out of this problem😓
This video gave me a lot of important insight on some issues i've been facing and allowed me to think about the objective of my situation rather than only my specific takeaways. This popped up in my recommended at an important time for me if i'm being truthful, and i appreciate that you've taken the time to make something so helpful for others to watch and consider. Thank you :)
Also the lack of dopamine we might feel, and to fill it up this obsession take place. This obsession gives us imaginary obsession resulting in dopamine.
It happens to me at the moment. I didn't even seek help or watch related video. But this video just showed up somehow. Maybe there's a greater power at works, or perhaps just a coincidence. All I can say is thank you. I am very grateful to you. 😊😊😊❤❤❤ I would give 1000 like to this video if I could.
This reached me when I needed it the most. I just fell in love with a new collegue of mine and while he told me he has "some" feelings for me, he has two other persons he is kind of in an open relationship with and we also agreed that a love affair isn't the best option since we are collegues. We thought we were even but because of our quite different upbringing and cultural differences, we got into an argument related to work. It was so bad that almost everyone at work could see that we had something going on as we weren't talking to each other anymore. While we managed to somehow got things sorted out again, I tried to keep my distance from him and just ended up obsessing over him and feeling bad doing so . This video really helped me. (Even though I already did most of the stuff that is said here (like keep some distance, distract myself, talk to friends, realizing that he might not even fit me that well) It's still hard seeing him at work, but I hope with time, I will be able to see him for who he truly is and not the idealized version I created in my head.
I feel called out and so does my inner teen. This video was perfectly timed, can finally heal and begin loving myself rather than getting validation from others. Thank you! Psych2Go
I'm daft and know when I'm being daft. Been dating for a few weeks now and when we're together we have the best time, I feel so relaxed and calm & there's no guess work but when we're apart I'll often take a while to message back when I'm doing stuff but when I do message and a reply takes as long as I often take I'm on edge, anxious. I know it's so daft when I'm aware of it and hypocritical. Hearing from her makes my day in a way I'm not used to & I feel so lucky every time we fall asleep with our arms around each other yet I'll stupidly panic when I don't hear back in an hour. I just keep an eye on the phone like a puppy in the window waiting for it's owner to come back.
1. WOW! This is an awesome fact! We honestly build the 90% of the rest and honestly we're loving an imaginary friend reflected our minds rather than a person. Actually, I never thought in this way before. 2. Honestly, replaying conversations isn't only limited to those who I've a crush. Honestly, it happens with anyone to whom I show any emotion including friendliness or hold grudges. I like if you also clarify this. Is there a relationship between OCD and Obsessive Love Disorder? I'm someone who suffered with Obsessive Love but diagnosed with OCD. 3. Most of the time I do this now but there're considerable occasions where I failed to do so. The problem is I can't recognize exactly why. 4. I honestly love this fact and of course as an atheist who kinda got interested in LaVey Satanism, I tried self-love but my depressive state of mind doesn't allow me to do so despite the encouragements I gained through it. I'm kinda free from religious trauma but not exactly because I severely experience the Micro-traumas you explained in a previous video. 5. Yes, I can let go from it by watching stuff like splatter horror movies and Happy Tree Friends where now it's kinda like just an animation for me. Although, according to therapists, I'm not honestly identifying the reality sometimes. Honestly, is it actually healthy or unhealthy to compulsively watch violence that interrupts sex as shown in horror movies when we get obsessive thoughts about sex? Now, I don't fantasize sex or romance. Also, even though masturbation can help to get rid from sexual urges, still there's no simulative way for romance where I find it better to isolate myself in front of this computer screen. 6. I don't have tips to share but .... Ah .... They're not actually supporting us but rather they are supporting their medical students in our country Sri Lanka. The mental healthcare is damned here. They only want money, not to understand our feeling or be hospitable. They even judge us as stupid.
The best way in my personal opinion, to overcome this and many other things, is through meditation. Any form of meditation can help us be calm, be at peace, be focused, be still and have gratitude. I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder when I was 16. But I always knew something was wrong with me since I was 13. I have suffered for over a decade from it. I used to really hate myself. I’m now 28. This past May, all of it went away. All the anxiety, the doubts, the fears, the insecurities, the sadness, the obsessions, the anger, the hatred, the resentment etc (and all other negative things that can severely affect our mental health and wellbeing). In a matter of days in early May, it all went away. Reading self-help books and journaling every day really played a huge role. Exercising too. Praying too. Trying new things but slowly. We shouldn’t ever chase. Only attract. Control what we can control. Also don’t ever fall in love cause nothing good ever comes from falling. You can love a person but don’t fall in love with them. To truly love a person (and have a person that is good for you), you need to be able to truly love yourself first. Only when you properly love yourself, can you be able to find the partner that is best suited for you. Be the kind of person you want your partner to be. Self-love and self-care. You always have a choice to see the positivity in each and every day.
Thank you. This just popped up at the right time. It was divine timing obviously. I needed this. I needed to hear this and it’s exactly right thank you so much.🙏
I was rejected by a group of people and then projected a sense of belonging to obsessing over someone that could help me heal from that rejection. How? Just because being accepted by that person would mean I was worthier than the ones who rejected me. Or so I thought. I overcame the rejection and the obsession through self healing. It was painful with many breakdowns but I did it. I feel freer than I ever been now. (Just a piece of my personal experiences with obsessing over someone)
