How to STOP OBSESSING over someone 

And don’t forget ladies …. He’s literally just a guy. YOU and your ideas of him made him special. Imagine your confidence if you put that energy into yourself instead. You would not have the time to even think about the guy anymore. If you are not his dream girl, he is simply just wasting your time

That part about "obsessing over loser who does not even want you" ... had to rewatch several times as it hits.🙈

This popped up at the most perfect time... What in the manifestation 😳

"Learn to be bored with people who ghost you" I love this!!!! Thank you dearest Margarita!

Girl you've been posting a lot these days and the only person I'm obsessed with is YOU

“stop obsessing about a loser who doesn’t even want you” omg you’re right tho… going through a break up rn and this video could not have been more perfect. thank you x

I have emotional attachment issues. When I crush on someone, it creates obsession and I start analyzing what I can do to gain their validation. I was never aware of it until my late twenties. But I’m glad that I can start to shift my mindset now. Being obsessed with someone is truly exhausting….

Yes, i gave him my feminine energy, tenderness, love.... , I need to be loved, not an option. Much love from South of France

Focus on you and the focus becomes you.❤

"He's not Beyoncé"...love it! 🙂

‘He farts or sneezes affects your emotions’ got me 😂💀 I LOVE YOUR CONTENT ❤

Recently broke up with my bf of almost 4 years, met him at 21 and now I’m 25 and I had a really hard time letting go because I invested sooo much energy and time. I was worried I had given him my best years but I have an intuitive feeling that my best years are just starting ❤

The timing babyyyy the timingg

😅 this video really captures my life. I was obsessed with a guy and he would keep leaving me and coming back and I was stuck in horrible cycle of waiting. This time when he came back, I had done enough work on myself to finally have the strength to push him away and feel in control. I've started meeting other men and have strengthened my body, my business and no longer feel the need for the external co-regulation, I used to. Really hope all the women who are going through this become more aware and work towards healthier relationships with themselves first and then take on a partner. Much love to all ❤

Typical timing. I need this...obsessing for another avoidant guy

GIRL I genuinely have never commented on a RU-vid video in all my 27 years of living but your videos having fucking SAVED me! The way you articulate these points seep right into my soul and make so much sense. The concept of “self love” and “independence” have always sounded nice in theory, but your videos provide step by step actions to make those ideas actually achievable. After watching your videos I feel so confident in myself and motivated to show up for me. Your content is so needed and appreciated, you’ve genuinely changed my life for the better during a difficult period of growth - thank you thank you !!!! PS can’t wait for your book!!

18:08 "Because you are lovable... you are." Didn't know these words, could have such an impact on me.❤

THE DIVINE TIMING

For the love of god I can not tell you how much I needed this video right now like nowww. Never thought I will manifest it so quick.

The subject of your videos are always so timely!! it’s like you know exactly what we need to hear 😅

New phase : Obsession with myself. Yes ✨

This is gold.

I cry watching this video cause I'm thinking how stupid I am obsessed my ex that ghost me two weeks ago, thank u margarita ❤

I do feel like I’m missing out on the love of my life that will give me what I deserve! And yes.. learn to be bored with ppl!! Most interesting advice that I heard today!!❤

I'm here because I've been in a 4 year relationship and they quite literally cared more about his friends than he did with me I've known him since I was 5 (childhood best friends)

Girl, I'm gonna watch this video every day until it's over 😂

Magrita I just want to say just when I prayed to god asking freedom from the pain of anxious attachment and traumas of childhood and even other traumatic memories I came across your videos. You’ve helped me step into a really new energy where I can literally see things falling into place without me pushing or pursuing and this is materially, romantically and spiritually. I just want to say thank you.

I need this freaking video right now

Wow. The explanation of anxious attachment from our parents made me cry. I never thought of it that way, but you're completely right.

Just listened to this before I go to sleep and you’re like that mum or sister everyone wishes they had. Your advice and knowledge is so genuine and heartfelt I really really appreciate you and having found your channel. That last 5 mins made my heart warm 🩷🩷🩷

I'm breaking down in tears as I type this. This hit home. I don't know why I always try to stay in control of things and outcomes. I worry and stress more than the person who isn't there anymore itself. It's come to the point where I have to heal this because it's getting way too loud and burdensome. I hate feeling like someone else dictates how I feel internally. It makes me feel safe that I am not alone. At first I could ignore it, but I'm realizing how disgusting it feels to keep this pattern going. I do not wanna live like this anymore.

I ruined it with a secure healthy man who really liked me and then I became an anxious mess and he broke it off (dated 2 months) saying he didn’t develop feelings It was going so so so well when I was relaxed, confident and being myself, and then I started ‘engulfing him’ I broke my own heart

This video is all I need in my current situation to give me motivation to move on after my break up

These games are so repelling to me and it took me a long time healing my fearful disorganised attachment style BUT the last guy fooled me into believing he’s secure, i felt so loved and safe until he ghosted me. It triggered me and now I’m back into this limbo of unhealthy pattern. I broke it off by distancing myself, setting boundaries and going no contact. He’s out. Unfortunately !

My goodness, this is what I recently went through. This man did something to me on the inside that I can’t even begin to explain. I developed a strong liking towards him by the way he carried himself and everything. But, then, I looked deeper and found out he was taken the whole time. I thought there was a possibility that we could be friends or even something more. But, I wish him and his girlfriend the very best. I’m not going to fret, as there are better things to focus my mind on. My writing and myself are the top priorities now.

Oh God...this is my story. I gave so much and never get back anything from him. This is so devastating 😢

If this video came out on your algorithm, it’s time to listen

You are incredibly wise. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us.

Yes!!! I feel repelled by the lack of communication ❤❤ so well said

Don’t understand how much I needed this thank you ❤ putting my energy into myself not half arsed men ✌🏻

The wisdom never ends!!!

Wow!!!! You are SO on point- speaking to my soul! Damn I wish I had learned this decades ago!!! Please keep making these type of videos! Millions of women need to hear it! ❤❤

Girl your videos have been helping so much this last month, your deep and real talk says it all

The timing of this video is impeccable. I have been bingeing your videos lately. I needed this. Thank you !

Omg … I needed this morning!! This resonates and it hits hard. Today is his birthday and I hate when I over please him but I know that I could do the bare minimum and he would still be happy! I just love to make memories with him and I always want to make him feel special but yes you are correct bout I miss the part of me that I gave away! Thank you this is what I needed to start my weekend, my son is getting married and he is having his bday weekend to where we are not spending it together and this where trust comes in, and let me remind you I have caught him 3 times having an emotional affair with other woman and we have been in a sexless relationship for some time now! I have walked away during those times and he can’t seem to let me go and I can see why! So thank for opening my eyes just a little more wider!😢 Have a great beautiful!!

This is incredibly helpful. Currently having a hard time letting him go and it's been a couple of months now... Thank you so much for your videos, they really help

For some reason this hit deep in my soul. Thank you so so much. Can’t express how grateful I am

Watching this on repeat! I’m here watching for the second time, each time I’m crying , missing him & sad that the guy that I love wholeheartedly and the one that loved me so so much and put so much efforts to to win me over and make me fall in love with me, left me saying he doesn’t love me anymore. He said he tried to love me again but couldn’t. I begged him so so much, now I regret begging someone who doesn’t actually love me now. It’s sad yet I’m going to face this pain, I’ll cry when I want to, I’ll miss him went I want to and one day I will get through it with no regrets.

When I was obsessing over a guy, a friend of mine gave me a wake-up call with this: "He is for sure the best choice because who doesn't want an emotionally immature, ugly, and bad lover as a boyfriend" xD It took him from the pedestal immediately

The timing is insane watching from South Africa 🇿🇦

Needed this today. Thank you for always saying what needs to be said!

You always post EXACTLY what I need and what I’m going through, and you give the best advice unfiltered! Thank you for being awesome

you have literally CHANGED my life

i really needed to hear this, thank you. It's exhausting to keep putting effort into something and worry when the other person has either given up or lessened their interest and effort for you out of the blue. I'm going to take a good step back and focus on myself, I'm so tired of worrying and letting his actions affect me.

Thank you Margarita it took me a good two years to detach and if it wasn’t for your videos I guess I’d still be stuck on him

One of the most Valuable videos I’ve watched so far✨ Grateful of you everyday our Gorgeous Lady Margarita🌞

i watched a past video of yours and i loved it subscribed almost instantly after the video was over. just saw this, and i have a problem with obsessing and losing my mind! i love how calm you talk about things and how point blank period you are about things! sometimes things being told more blunt helps, and i just love these videos!

I have just discovered your channel and am realising how much my anxious attachment has affected my life. I can't thank you enough for these videos. I am going through hell right now over this guy and your videos are helping me hugely right now. Thank you 🙏

could NOT have come at a better time

Girl! You explained extremely well in this video. I have been following you for a while and you always nail your videos but this one is very well done! 👌🏽

This video made me cry a lot, thank you

What perfect timing, thank you lady!

Ohhhh my goddddd I literally just thought about this and your video just popped 😭

This is just so on point. I love the way you express information. Rock on, lady!

Or even being already in a very healthy relationship but being so anxiously attached and making him my world

Loooooved this! soo much needed! timing is perfect!

Amazing video! I wish I had your content when I was younger. I am so glad that you are putting your teachings out into the world.

Ugh you have no idea how much I needed this video!!! Thank you for sharing your knowledge and empowering us women!

Beautiful, insightful message. It took me decades a a lot of hard experiences to recognize this.

This was so good, needed, and timely for putting this video out today! 😊❤

Absolutely love this video. Thank you!

The TIMING!!! ❤️

The video started well and just got gradually better. I'm so glad that it is about so much more than 'get over a guy.

I haven't watched the video yet but wwow you're on fire these days Maragarita! And this couldn't be more perfect! Thank you!!

This is GOLD, you are GOLD

Gotta watch this on repeat!

love love love. this video was like a cold glass of water to the face, in the best way possible. such a powerful drop of knowledge -- i feel so clearheaded, ty

*me tuning into class even though I do not relate to this topic at all because I’ve been watching your content for years*

I dont know how to put it...but...this is brilliant video...just hit me and awoke from 4 years sleep...Amazing Margarita, thank you for finding the right words, God bless you and your family!!!

“You need to learn to get bored by that …” It resonated so strongly❤️ Thank you!

I love you!! thank you for always making me feel more secure. whenever I'm in doubt I listen to your podcast (tbh any episode) and I feel so much better!

I really sat there and took notes on everything you said. so grateful that I found you on RU-vid…

Your videos are saving me one video at a time. ❤❤

Badly need this vid right now

Margarita, you are so wise beyond your years. 👏

Wow. This came exactly when I needed it. Almost like the stars aligned for me to go through this obsession just to come out the other end with the help of your video. Out of all margaritas videos this hit home the most! Thank you margarita!💓

you're particularly funny in this one, love it!

Just pre ordered your thenewrulesbook, you're amazing Margarita, and this video is spot on as always!

Thank you Margarita!😍 always explaining things so thoroughly and clear! I signed up for SkillShare too!🎉

hi love!! just wanted to say i came across your channel recently and SO glad I did. I spam watched alllll of your attachment style videos, thank you for putting this information out there for us struggling women💛 (ps cant wait to buy your book)

You are extremely intelligent & insightful. Thank you for making these videos.

Thank you as always needed this

Excellent as always!

So sharp love it!! Thank you Marga 💙

You put things in perspective in such a clear view❤ love your truth! Thank you for sharing

That was THE PERFECT sponsor. I LOVE Skillshare.

I’m so glad I discovered you you’re so smart

Best video ever! So confronting but very helping! ❤

This video... idk girl, your delivery and message really tickled the brain stem for me. Thank you.

I feel so silly ruminating about this guy I needed this video. It is truly perfect timing for me. I want to move on and feel comfortable in my own skin without anyone’s validation. Thank you so much nice video .❤