What thiers no T on the left? Somtimes privacy does matter because that was stolen from people without asking! I'd like this visit to end this time when these people said it would, so I have a chance at my own life! What's the use in being responsable if people think of you as a place to take advantage and re-run thier garbage of old! Positive thinking! Just tired of being taken advantage of by a big jerk culture! Nasty! Some people are not about guessing at what game to play next to find people all over the world they encountered before and then claiming family! Really not a responsable place, yet they hand out food and clean other people's house's all day long and lot's of other non sence! Maybe people want to raise thier own children and yet again rebrand the burdens of old that they never handed themselfs! Rice paper wall? It's junk! Needed! 2023 anyway, love the one within my Mom's studio! I'm not the painter but maybe I can go reflect at the old bullshit lie of a dr's office and think about multilevel olace's I don't need again just to grow and find out it was bullshit! Prop's? Maybe find more peaceful one's or think about how people keep that! Don't put the blame on me!
My being nice is usually my being afraid of speaking up, sticking up for myself and not wanting to upset anyone. Since I got my own place, certain people tend to stay longer than I planned. It’s not because they want to spend time with me, it’s because it’s a nice quiet drama free apartment. Their living situation is crowded and renting a room from extended family or friends. But I got a small space and can see and hear everything from any room. I told my dad I was taking time off from work. I didn’t really make plans but I could easily do something last minute on my own. He had to come visit me to take care of some documents and since he has such a long drive back I offered “you can come take care of the documents and stay over if you want”. He arrived on Friday afternoon much much earlier than expected and I expected him to leave by Saturday. I noticed he had a big bag for 1 night but he tends to come up with a bunch of stuff and run errands. But I also noticed he got 2 pairs of shoes…. 🤨. I had told him a week ago I had took time off but I hope he didn’t think it implied he can stay the entire time. I may say I don’t have plans but it doesn’t mean it’s an invitation to make my lack of plans your plans. Sometimes my plan is “being by myself and not doing anything” yes ask me what i’m doing “nothing” my plan is to do nothing. You being here is something. I messed up 🤦🏾♀️ Love him… but he gotta go back. 🤗
That's your Dad, you should be more patient, if it was a friend than that differwnt, remember they never told you to leave wjen you lived with them so return the favour
I have a family member who even when I say "I have to get going by such and such a time" STILL stick around. And then they act like I'm being unreasonable.
OMG! I am so drained right now, i can´t even talk about this with my family because they just don´t understand, we have house guests that are going to stay for 2 weeks +, feels like hell to me. I am literally coming to youtube for comfort, I love people but I believe nobody needs that amount of socialization, at least not me.
I'm in the same predicament right now. I'm freaking tired of specifically in-laws. They trying to make our place the vacation spot and I'm not with it. Cheap POS!
I'm from Iran and the culture here says you should be serving your guests as best as you can and you should make them feel as comfortable as they can and that was exactly what my parents were doing. Like their friends coming on our house and they would immediately hand over my bedroom to them so that they could stay for maybe a week or two and that would make me uncomfortable but on the other hand they believed that these are guests and we should respect them and serve them the best way we can because they are just guests ...and sometimes really some of my father's friend would take advantage and they would stay in our house for maybe even a month and my family wouldn't even say anything although they were really tired and they didn't want it. so growing up in that culture makes it's really really hard for me to tell them you know to leave but at the same time I believe it's the right thing to do. Maybe I need to practice a little...
Start doing a deep clean. And have it impact their “living space”. Moving furniture around, clearing out the bathroom, pull out the fridge have the whole house smelling like cleaner and running the vacuum. What the guests gonna say?
I suppose when you give out an invitation to this type of thing, you have to say something along the lines of "Dinner Party at Bob and Joan's house on 10/1 from 4-9". or whatever hours you want. Then when 9 rolls around you just go over to them, thank them for coming, have their coats in hand, give them the, "let's get together soon" line, and make a display of how exhausted you are and want to go to bed. Pretty simple really.
And it can be tricky if the house event is far from where a couple of guests live and it ends in the evening. There’s guests that will manipulate the situation by encouraging the host to pour more drinks and chat longer and while everyone is leaving they hang around. Say if you want no more guest by the hour of 10pm, start cleaning up and packing away by 9pm and send signals you tired and ready to call it a night. And monitor that one person getting extra comfortable.
It’s much easier that this Whenever a person tries to invite themselves just say “Let us know when and what restaurant we should meet” Or let us know in what hotel you are staying we can meet for dinner there
I’m one of those people, that I’m very nurturing and hospitable and I love to make people feel loved and welcomed but people don’t know how to leave. Even when I’m in someone else’s house they try to keep me and kidnap me. My neighbor did that and I loved next door. I’m so glad I relocated to another state. I can tell people have I something to do, they can see me falling asleep and they will still sit there. One time a friend of mine knew my ex was on his way, (he was my boyfriend) at the time and he saw me prepping for him, and he stood there in the hall and did not leave. He wanted him to walk through the door and see him and he wanted to cause problems for me. I knew his wife. We all knew each other but that’s not the point. I never had him over after that again. I told him and I didn’t mean to be rude, but he ask. , how come you don’t invite me over no I said because you don’t know when to leave. You just sit there. Go home to your wife and kids… his wife would call and ask m is my husband there and I would have him the phone lol. But it’s crazy how pipe, come over my place and they know I will cook etc, they get to put their feet up, but I come over even when they have weeks notice, they don’t cook, the house is a mess, dishes in the sink and they expect me to cook and tend to them. They have zero domestic skills and they want to be attended to, even after I traveled a distance. So I just stopped going to their house and it’s crazy because I took public transportation and they had a car. But my friends excuse was she couldn’t find parking, why get a car. She just didn’t want to drive to New Jersey.
This is why I don't invite people to my home unless you are family. I'll meet you out for a meal or coffee if you are a friend. My home is my space to be with my husband and family. A few months back, before COVID restrictions hit where I am, my husband invited two acquaintances through work over without my knowledge. I came home at dinnertime from work. They got ridiculously drunk and stayed til early morning hours. Made a total mess, left food, cans and bottles everywhere and did not offer to clean up. One damaged our fence. Then, my husband was dumb enough to leave his phone on the table unattended. That same person took his phone by mistake, left his behind and we had to drive to swap it. Long story short: Unless you know the person really well, do not invite them to your home. If you want to drink, go do it at a bar or THEIR house. My husband does not invite idiots to our home anymore!
I'm from a family that believes that guest should stay as long as they please and this gets kind of annoying because sometimes some of my family members come without invitation at all and they stay as long as they want they never go out and we can't tell them to leave this is so annoying for me because they have little children that keep on messing up the house getting into rooms they shouldn't enter and even believe it or not opening my own closet They get into the kitchen and bathroom(not guests bathroom) They stay for too long like litterly so long that I feel that I would vomit and they come over without any reason there's no reason to come in the middle of exams... To make matters worse they come and sleepover without us allowing them to They come they don't bring their clothes or toothbrushes or anything so we need to give them toothbrushes, give them from our own clothing So once there was a party in my school and I bought a dress, my 10 year old cousin came over with her friends who I don't even know and have never seen them in my live, so she wanted to change into another outfit so she opened my closet and saw the dress, she got jealous because she doesn't have one like it ,she spilled strawberry milk on it(not by accident), when I entered to my room and opened my closet to put something in I saw what happened and flames where getting out of my ears, I went to ask my mother who did this and my cousin was standing there, she started crying even though I didn't even look at her and kept on shouting and saying that's not me that's not me😣 Then my mother hugged her and told her I know it's not you sweetie.and she told me it's OK you can wash it,I told her that it would never wash away, ran into my room and slammed the door... And the next week they came again when I opened the door for them I told them infront of their parents that they should only stay in the living room and are not allowed to stay more than 2 hours,I know that is kind of mean but the stress whenever they come is unbelievable+I had final exams next week so I think that I did the right thing . Of course the guests didn't do what I requested them to do and stayed till about 9p.m and when they finally left my mother shouted at me and told me how dare you say that you're very impolite this is their home as well and you're grounded,and she almost hit me but I ran away ... And now after my punishment and exams are over I wanted to put an end to all of this and live like normal kids and stop sharing every thing with those unwanted guests so I came to this video..🥺🥺😭😭😵😵😥😢😢😓
ohmygod well done for sticking up for yourself! They are bad parents, and your mum should have repeated what you said…… keep standing your ground…. especially if u have exams these people have no manners ignore them and do what u need to do
Many times I am ready to leave yet my spouse straggles and I end up being the bad guy because I am trying to get him out the door. I feel like we are always the last to leave and don't know how to solve this issue. My spouse can talk and talk with people. If it were up to me, I'd be the first guest to leave.
I only come to this video because of my girlfriend!! I am 25 and she’s 22, we have a 8 month old baby boy and it’s almost every week now she invites her childhood best friend over and she ends up staying over for like 4-5 days straight. It’s getting to the point where I am getting angry because this is some bullsh**
My husband and I had this problem with two single friends, Helen and Ginger (not their real names) when our first child was an infant. They had no experience raising children, no understanding of the responsibility of parenthood, and no regard for our time. I cannot remember what we had to do to convince them that they should leave. That was a long time ago and things have changed: Helen is now married and a mother herself, and Ginger has been dealing with a rare form of cancer in the course of the pandemic and not socializing much.
But what do you do when wife/husband invites family or friends over he/she is completely fine with staying up late with guests but you have to get up early the next day? 😭
Oh I so wish I could do this - we have an obnoxious house guest now (just two examples- he wants us to buy a new mattress for the guest room because the one we have isn't comfortable, he cooks because he doesn't like my cooking - it takes him literally 2 or more hours and he trashes my kitchen - his food is awful - using the hottest spices and peppers on the planet - I could list many more). Without asking, he invited himself for 9 days!! He's my husband's former coworker and rude "friend" - he is also sort of a business partner, and feels entitled - and telling him to leave, or changing his business plans is not an option. 😞 I'm neatly boxed in.
Yes I had a coworker invite me to his house and after less than an hour he told me finish up the beer and go I have things to do. I did just that and the next time he ask me to come over I said "Oh so you can kick me out! NO thankyou". In my book that is hella rude to do!
An old roommate of mine is refusing to find a new rental for himself and he's staying as a guest at my house. He's not even my friend nor do I particularly like him but out of kindness I let him stay here for a week until he can find himself a new place. He's now refusing to leave.
My cousin stayed for 2 days to hang out with me without my permission and I'm losing patience. He won't leave and my mom thinks it's rude to want a guest to leave but apparently it's not rude to invite someone over to hang out with me when I don't want to
When people don’t get the hint and over stay there welcome it is annoying. I had someone stay with me for 2 months they kept saying they are looking for an apartment but were taking so long it got out of hand . It’s like they were not getting the hint when to leave my house . I she stayed at my house for 3 months the and would stay up tell 1 in the morning. It was so annoying I couldn’t say anything because side then I would end up looking like the bad guy I tell you the 3 mo the she styed with me I thought would never finish she finally left . When she did I made a promise to my self I will never have people over stay there welcome if someone was flying to come to my town i would just book them a hotel it was easy that way .
Water has it's own law that we are knotted by a covenant. you may drip a drop but never should you ever drop a drip. That would be wasteful and rude, to be for sure.
Christmas time always stresses me out because of family expecting to stay so long, I don't want it....I don't want people over staying their welcome and I certainly don't want to stay out at other family members houses for too long either.... family don't seem to understand that I don't want them sitting there talking about nothing that's interesting....we live fairly close to each other so there's no need for this...
One of our old neighbours kids. They keep coming to our house dyring weekends and anytime they want. This time its summer holidays and have stayed for a month. They are not even our relatives. They like staying at our place cause thier father and mother both dont work. Moreover they think that we love having them. They willl keep watching tv loudly. And cry if we say ni to them and they want good food everyday. Comeon man .what is this. I have my wfh plus i have yo prepare for my french exams. I cant take this shit anymore
I don't get why people want people to leave so badly, If I had a house, I would want people to stay as long as they want, in fact I would love for there to be always family at my house coming and going, always someone there. Like have you ever seen the show Bojack Horseman? Tod is some random guy who just loves at Bojack house and that's the joke, and also Diane is always there to, it's cool. Also how do you run out of things to say, just talk about anything you want to talk about. Also if your really offended by this, then be careful who you let in because it's your fault if you get into this situation
My sister has a boyfriend who came and over stayed allot and he over stayed his welcome he jumped on the sofa where I was sleeping at 4am on a school night im 17 he is 22 he also would come over to the house wall im not there and use up all my dishes and not clean up his mess and he also came to my basketball tournament wen I only invited my sister
I got a situation. I gotta handle it soon CUZ this cat is driving me crazy. He's 21 and human and talks nonstop, almost as if he feels anxiety if it becomes quiet in the room while he's visiting with Me. He talks about every ant and falling leaf or gentle breeze that were a part of what his day was comprised of. A large majority of his talking is just Banter to Me and I end up not even listening to Him. He fails to add up all the clues he is given that would indicate the fact the that I am not listening and do care about almost anything he caries on about..this is bullshit to have to tell people they talk to much, talk about stupid shit that I do not give one fuck about!! He overstays his welcome and tries to visit me nearly every day...its like he has allotted time to visit a handful of people all the day is long and being alone without someone to hang out with is horrible to him and he cant handle it or tries to avoid it.. He visits from the time he leaves in the morning till I tell him its time go...it bullshits..wtf is the deal.. I m just gonna ignore him...it's not my fault, it's not my problem, it's not my responsibility nor job and I am not required to provide him with his contentment. I hate it I hate it. It'll never end..I want his friendship with limited fellowship. I'm twice his age. Been there done that. My eyes see clearly and still water runs deep. He's a busy bodie.. Don't take life to seriously. You can't even take your tongue or brain with you when you die...You deserve Nothing and many die and get exactly that. You take some things. I know what they are. My bags are packed..you ready for the RAPTURE. Know what I'm going to do? I'm gonna surprise Everybody. I'm going to eat, shit and die. I can't wait. Isn't life great. And eternity sounds even funner. Perfect word , funner...defintion of funner= Super bored,hating it, everything is blahs, not content with ones self. The feeling of always having to be going, hanging out with someone or fixing something, anything so time will hurry along. A yearning to satisfy the desire to go, to move along and keep yourself busy...do your thing go go gagit go. Where is everybody going so hurriedly. On a race to Nowhere and loving every minute of this Life. I can't wait to Die. I'm a CREATOR of Matter. I got it made..just got to die to have it ALL and it's worth every drop dripped. The drip did the dropping. The drop dripped and did the dripping. A drip is on a trip because it's flowing. Drips drop drops of drips one drip at a time.m and a drop drips dropping a drop that drips ;drip drop drip drop drop drip.
Ugh omg seriously like my mom always thinks to call people always like come vist our house and of course the guests always have to go to my room to sleep 🙄 l hate the fact that she always call them abd tell them to stay like firsr who told you you can come to my house like you can't just come to my whenever you want to learn that have their boundaries like my room is ny room l don't care if your staying here or not get out my house it's not your house ldk why you think you can use my bathroom whenever you want to its not your bathroom they also be taking forever in the shower like just do your business and get out people are waiting abd don't come of your not going say anything
