How to tell if an INTP likes you 

Yes, I can Feel something strong for someone but If I know it's not gonna work ( not the same way for our lives ) I will just hiding it for moving on after

Yup

Sooooo trueeee

Mah as well! Maybe if all intps meet we all be like a room full of really intelligent babooons

I mean I usually make it pretty obvious, I like it. Like generally I’ll make extra effort to talk to the girl, and try to spend more time with her.

The culmination to the end of the video was great. "Just ask them." It made me laugh.

I remember when I was like 17 years old, I wrote an essey for school where I said that quite often I felt like my thoughts were more real than what I could percieve with my senses. I think my teacher though I was crazy.

I feel like that and I'm an INFP but maybe I'm thinking about this in a different way than INTPs would idk

That’s for sure

+Tipsylou Spot on (for some, at least). I like seeing people...but I don't particularly want to speak with them.

Tipsylou ohh well I hate the human race

Tipsylou I've never related to anything as much as this comment right here.

I can’t agree with you more.

Idk, I'm the opposite. When I like someone I'm usually pretty direct and speak freely but only if it's us 2 talking. If other people are involved I become awkward and weird. idk why lol.

+Roi Flip lol same as you

+Flippy Roi I'm a girl intp and same

@@Maquisha1 I speak weird things. And can't look at them aat allllll!! But I hear everything they say. Actually now that I think I just ignore my emotions and think of them as any other person so that I don't behave awkwardly. I'm pretty cool when I don't like you.

Snacking Piece of Trash I'm a guy with some feminine characteristics and, word for word, exactly what you said.

yeah i think small talks are stupid (or superficial?)

Nadeshda Ney agree 100%

Nadeshda Ney if someone opened with hitch to me my nipples would tingle

Nadeshda N i feel you. Being anonymous is such a liberating feeling. :) infj here

Im so awkward all the time to the point where if there's any pressure at all it sounds like im lying if im telling the truth

Kai Chiba I'm infp and I react identically.

Kai Chiba I thought i was the only one!

I am the same and It's happen To me actually. I am like a stalker on his Instagram or Snap or others things but no one know it. I am so good to make people think that I hate the guy but in fact between him and me it's really on an another level

When I am saying something to him I keep thinking about What he can answer or what I was supposed to say for make it in an other situation

Kai Chiba Yo I thought I was crazy, now I know for sure I’m not alone *sigh*

Me too, I don’t know how to react until recently I met this friend that we talk about this stuff and she guides on how to react to people’s emotions

@@zeddicuszulzorander1431 can I steal her for a weak or two so I finally can get the courage to finish my project to become human

Jakob Froberg unfortunately that was one year ago, now we barely talk if at all 😅

@@zeddicuszulzorander1431 is she available now? After 3 years you probably have learned enough and maybe I can borrow her?

Tomi Adewole Couldn't say it better myself. I myself picked up specifically on that statement as well. I really adore people that can bring light to the subjectivity of it all.

Cat Ram subtle distinctions reveal so much about things, eh? :-)

That statement alone got him a subscription from me, the rest was just gravy.

As much as our conscious mind can muster per time of course. Because we strongly believe in constantly shaping our world view with the more information we can gather to help us make sense of it all. Lol

YES

Im infj and im in the same situation right now, please tell me if you did it and what happened ?

@@sabrinasabrina3884 I did. I waited too long and it was awkward. He never replied. My conclusion was that I need to learn to respond better when they first approach me.

+Tizonwar8 I do have such a friend I'm interested in pursuing a romantic relationship with, too bad she's currently dating one of my good friends :(

+Tizonwar8 my brother is like that too!^^

Umm🤚🤚🤚 intp female here and I know what someone is feeling without them even talking...🤔🤔

Nikooru Me too 😂😂😂

+Vanessa Garcia Absolutely. I'm terrible at subtleties.

+Vanessa Garcia I wish I got to understand those cues an hour later. I've been told of people who apparently were flirting with me and never understood how what was being pointed constituted flirting.

neo120590 I’m literally dying of laughter. Felt this bag of weight just lift off me.

R0YALT1 Ha, same!

R0YALT1 😆 thats sooo me

YES.

what would you say are some deal breakers for INTPs

@@danilles.4247 Liars

Deanna Nunley . Yes, it also frustrates me that the world keeps telling me how much easier I have it just for being female, I can have anyone I want easy (Hahaha!) and all I have to do is cry to have my way and I get out of trouble easy just for being weepy and fragile... and all I have to do is get married and have an easy life "You don't HAVE to work!"... Yes, I have to. It's In my fiber. - But you don't have to! Yes.. I do have to for my mental health. - If you can get married and society doesn't look down on you, you don't HAVE TO! SOCIETY DOES LOOK DOWN ON ME! I'm female INTP! Most people don't want to come near me, let alone the very few I like. - But you can still get a man to marry- I would commit slow suicide by depression getting married to an incompatible person and stay home. That's not an easy life. - You feminists are so blind to your privilege and man hating. Bang head on desk. That's when I'm glad I didn't reveal I'm gay. HAHAHA.

WHAT?! I HATE ENTPS. I am an INTP and there are two ENTPs in my life and i hate them both. They have this tendency of wanting the publíc to love them. They get desperate when it comes to the social food chain.

loza berhanu Well you should give this ENTP a chance then. If an ENTP has all those social needs met, all the time, one might posit that he becomes quite pleasant.

yh those are not yet mature entp, my close friend is one and trust me he can be quite a handful at times

zakariya mohamud There's no disputing that. The fully realized ENTP is vastly more than one handful.

I'm an INFP, and don't quite get along with anyone I know lol

This is the easiest way to understand them, if they give you time.

Spot on! Sounds exactly like me. People are put off me very quickly for that reason

Thank You for verbalizing this so clearly! I too will never apologize or feel guilty for someone else's interpretation. Their interpretation is their responsibility not mine.

+c.a you likely don't intend that to be patronizing. It definitely is.

c.a I think a sense of emotional detachment can be very good in many situations. It's being able to figure out which situation requires such detachment that is the key to ensuring we are communicating effectively to people around us. That's just my 2 cents

c.a that you are responsible for your interpretations is a reality. I am curious as to why you project what is your responsibility as "a trait of the INTP"?

stenpablo I’m on the same boat, it’s so frustrating! I’m like, c’mon dude, don’t keep me waiting, make a move!

aaaaaaa same

Being an infp is totally fine with intps, you just have to get used that they are not that talkative and they suck at emotions

I think intp's are good with emotions if the emotions are genuine. I know an infp woman and if she tells me about something she loves i feel genuinly happy like i can absorb her emotions.

INTP's do not expect emotions from a love interest. As a male INTP, I will expect that person to want spending time with me. I value my time with someone, and I will accept to spend time with someone ONLY if I have some interest in that person. A few years ago, this girl always invited me over to talk philosophy. Those were great times, when we would speak for hours about hypothetical questions. I had no romantic interest whatsoever, and I realized it was not reciprocal the third time I had our discussions in her bedroom, and then she wanted me to stay longer. This was the time I told her that there would be a point, very soon, when I would lose interest in these conversations, and would move on ending our friendship. She was dumbfounded and did not understand why. (There is just so much we can hypothesize with one person if philosophy is the only shared interest...) My point is, I will love spending time with someone I'm interested it, but my interest will grow only if the other person is independent (in thoughts and actions) from me.

Ikem Krueger i fucking love yu on the same page your on

What do you mean by direct communication?

Armuotas I’m Intp and I’ve no problem seeing/understanding emotions, except when those emotions are directed towards me. Generally I’ve a great understanding of people

in my INTP opinion, a rejection is definite, therefore it is better to know rather than juggling Schrödinger's box for indefinite time.

Ni Na fair enough

I'm in INFJ... and my person is an INTP and I see exactly what you mea

@jess that teasing kind way makes the other person feels insecure .. Intps scares me when they do that.. As if they are making you feel bad and expecting you to see it as flirting ?!

Adrienne Boulet damn, that's the reason why I ain't that (extremely) perfectionistic anymore. It always turned out bad, so I tried to change myself. Now I'm thinking that it's more like the society doesn't want you to be so extreme in things, what I can understand, but at that moment I really thought it was good, because people say that honesty is good.

Flamen people...They want honesty as long as they can get offended when you’re honest.

I bet you're really interesting to be around :) I love INTP's. Keep being you!

How did he exactly reach out ? Cause I feel like I was missing out my intp's hints ..

@@cocomademoiselle934 he directly messaged me on facebook, introducing himself after he added me, although he didn't message me right away since he was observing me first before hitting me a message XD

@@blancheb3533 we do that to people we really like or...he was drunk or buzzed. The only times I insinuated first was when I had alcohol or I was really into her like I see her as marriage material into her

@@lelelew2735 he saw me as marriage material and we are now engaged to be married

@@blancheb3533 congratulations 🎊!!😊

+Talking with Famous People Hm, as an NTP I'm relieved to hear that you've gotten better at reading people via this Jungian stuff. However, I'm kind of lousy at it still. I am better at reading into people's actions and mannerisms now though. How closely that relates to any truth about how they really are is still a mystery to me. Kinda drunk. Might affect the quality of this post, BUT it probably is the factor that made me comment at all...

Don't worry about how they really are. Worry about managing their behaviors by observing responses to your own behaviors, making mental note, and then trying a different approach. From a more proactive perspective, figure out where they get their juice. Which parts of themselves are they proud of. Give them juice indirectly. You have to be subtle. People want affirmation that's indirect because it seems more legitimate and less likely to be manipulative, and less socially uncomfortable to hear. For example I love praise-y comments, but praise spoken to me directly tends to make me feel uncomfortable. So don't praise them. Just ask them how to do stuff they know how to do. Find genuine areas in which you can learn stuff from them and ask them about it. Another good way to engage is to find an ENTP and sort of ask his advice about anything, even stuff he knows nothing about. He's sure to appreciate the opportunity to tell you very convincing sounding answers!

I've slowly gotten better... I was so bad. Now after doing so much research I know how to do a lot of it but I over analyze it.

I agree. I like to be able to help and get asked to help, but I don't like verbal praise that much, especially if it's in a very general way or if I am not happy myself with what is being praised.

Speaking of being approached by women, have you actually had it happen? It's incredibly odd. Two instances come to mind: Her: "You know they have these beer margaritas at every Thursday. They're really good, you should check them out tonight or next week after work" Me: "Yeah those sound really good, I should do that. But I probably shouldn't because I have to drive an hour home and I can't have my license suspended. I'd probably have to be spending the night in town if I did." (Another girl) Her: "You really remind me of my ex, he was really kind and nice too. Yep. I sure do miss him. He's dead now..." Me: "Uhhh... I'm... uh, sorry to hear that?" Thinking to myself that I must be a bad reminder, I excuse myself quickly. I've gotten variants of the second one a couple times. It got to the point where I thought maybe there's clones of me running around out there or something. These queues are the ones that I picked up on (like hours later), I have no idea how many I might be missing most of the time.

+Caroline Is Online Just vocalize your intentions toward her. If you want to engage in dialogue with her more let her know, ask her out to lunch just to chat. Engage her on her terms, inquire more about her hobbies and current interests. I wouldn't worry too much if it doesn't end up working out. There isn't much you can do to make someone like you, regardless of type. Your best bet with INTPs is to engage on their terms and interests.

+Ziach Thanks for the advice!

Be direct. I'm an INTP and absolutely clueless when someone likes me. It's so bad, that even when someone gives me their number I wonder if they really want me to call. Say "I really like having you as a friend. We should hang out more" or something similar.

INTJ here. I have 2 INTP friends. Im pretty straight forward to my INTPs that 'I see them as a friend and really do enjoy their company, and that I was hoping that they see me in the same way too.' It was hard in away (straight forward approach) but we we're in the same page, so it went pretty well. Though me and my INTP friends don't always talk/meet up alot, but when we do its like as if we picked up where our last conversation was and the time in between didnt matter. I love being friends with my INTPs, since we're both not that needy and respect each other's space. I hope you and your INTP relationship will end up well. 😊

Itamari Laveaux Amen, preach it sister.

I'm married to an INTP, and I have to say that the INTP personality is great. Ok, yes, an INTP may seem a bit boring at first and yes, he doesn't know how to handle other people's emotional reactions, but typically INTPs are the most loyal, steadfast people you will ever meet. Not to mention if they develop their reasoning skills they can be very good at business (and intelligence is definitely interesting... and sexy). If you are a younger INTP who is still a teenager/college student you may not many people who are interested in you in a romantic sense yet... But give everybody a bit of time to mature and soon everybody will be looking to settle down with a smart, loyal person. (oh, and work on your people skills in the meantime;)).

Did you ask?

Snudge Galbraith haha turns out he didn’t like me, go figure! I didn’t need to ask though, his actions were clear.

Cues. Queues means "lines." Ex: I'm going to snort some queues of meth right now. ;-)

This is me

Right there with you buddy.

same

damn bro this hits close to home 😂

I’m an INFJ and although you can’t read my emotions (poker face) when I like someone a lot, I’m pretty forward.

same

Really a very average looking guy.

You'll get em next time, Tiger.

+Nicole Liu Thank you for the compliment! Regarding rejection, I don't view people who I have rejected as any different than before, and I really appreciate their directness. I would just tell your INTP interest about your feelings. Let them know you want to build a romantic connection with them and want to know if they're willing to pursue that. If your feelings don't end up being reciprocated, the best thing to do is to just make it clear it's okay with you and you don't want them to feel obligated to reciprocate them. Let them know how much you appreciate them as a friend, and leave it at that. Regardless, you should go for it Nicole. In the off-chance they aren't reciprocated, you can better direct your romantic attention toward other avenues and nothing changes much with your friendship if you still want to maintain it. The only other reality is that you would have an INTP lover! How exciting.

I posted a comment before I read this. I basically stated the same idea--though, arguably less concisely:)

Thanks for the advice. So 13 days after my confession, he finally tells me that yes, he liked me. Although nothing significant in our relationship has changed, I just thought the least I could do was to not leave you hanging, especially with all the help you'd given me. Thank you to everyone else for their advice as well ^^

sorry if this is late or kinda weird to be responding 8 months later but i was wondering how did it go

Nicole Liu I'd also like to know how it went as I'm in a very similar situation

It's because both types are "sexual infantiles." Both types want the other to "be in charge of managing that business."

I think entps are quiet assertive in dat prospects but intps just do a lot of through thinking and get caught up in to dat so much dat they end up giving a dead signal though dat was not their intention

I agree. I like watching people and reading the situation, it's something of a hobby. It's great seeing how much you can pick about the people around you and it gives you a sense of power.

+Samantha Brian But how well do you perform when it is directed at you? I can watch people go through weird customary social rituals and then get confused about things when I'm supposed to be social. I once asked my mom if I was allowed to eat the cake at my graduation party because nobody else had. I just have no idea. Social people are a mystery to me. They understand people and can actually speak words out loud to them in a coherent, orderly fashion. They intuitively know how to utilize body language to their advantage whereas that is a learned skill at best for us.

Lmao yea

Shabee Gorgee elaborate please

Idk if this made sense..... it sounded so much better in my head

It made perfectly fine sense. I'm just a little slow on the replying to comments lately. Thanks so much for watching and taking the time to comment. --Host Eric

Oooh, I totally want an answer to this too.

Not Zachary but I'm an INTP too so here's my perspective: I know a bunch of ENTPs and surprisingly most of them don't really fit the stereotype I imagined at first. Here are the things I noticed that they have in common: Energetic in their own way but the ways they show energy isn't necessarily partying all night or hyperactive behaviour, creative, witty, quick-thinkers, knowledgeable (this is good but they tend to just accept things too quickly if it's like a random fact they saw online and then they get offended when I point out why it could be wrong), usually friends with everyone but tend to be a little too obviously (to me at least) fake, good sense of humor, tendency to steal ideas/opinions/sentences etc. for popularity, weird need for attention even though they seem to not like people all that much, some of them pretty much live for drama but I prefer that over being passive agressive to be honest, unreliable and sometimes unpredictable to a point where it stresses me out (that's what makes it fun though), difficult to figure out which is one of the biggest reasons why I like them, not oblivious to other's feelings but they just kinda don't care which is fine most of the time I don't really mind but it can make them selfish, some unwillingness to compromise even when it's important to, open-minded but at the same time too stubborn to change their minds and it's almost impossible to get them to just stop and admit they're wrong if the discussion is in public/open for others to see. Buuut these are all tiny bearable flaws (and not all of them are flaws anyway) that I don't mind all that much. That's why INTPS and ENTPs tend to get along. For example over sensitivity and conformity are also flaws (in my opinion) and they might seem minor to others but I can't stand them especially. You guys are still my favourite. My grammar is a mess here but shh.

+who haha most of this is spot on. Need for attention but contemptuous of people? Check. Fans not friends syndrome lol. Fake? Just social chameleons, a bit manipulative, depending on the individual whether that's good or bad. We like to play the game, INTP's often despise the game, and I envy their ability to genuinely not give a fuck what others think, and have little to prove...ENTP have EVERYTHING to prove. We often manipulate people into doing things they want to do but don't feel right about because of their misguided or arbitrary and inconsistent moral code, conditioned by others etc. I feel like the majority of people are full of shit whether they are being "authentic" or "true to themselves". Most don't think for themselves, and their sense of self is based on what they were conditioned to believe. But yeah, thx for the reply, I love INTP, they are just sometimes boring and take themselves too seriously, but among the most refreshing

The fans not friends behaviour is amusing more than anything really. By fake I meant like fake friendly maybe? They're often way too quick to directly tell me how much they like me (or others, I see this happening a lot) even though I can tell that they don't really like me that much. But I guess that's usually the default when it comes to making friends, who knows? I didn't mean fake as in a fake personality or fake ideas or anything. I like the game depending on my mood, most of the time I don't have the energy to put that much effort into getting people to like me and I envy it when others do. And it's not that we don't care, we secretly do sometimes (that damn Fe) but we don't let our feelings affect our judgement enough to change our behaviour. The moral code thing annoys me too, life's too short and meaningless to live by weird moral rules that often contradict each other. They make it really confusing to do the right thing if anything. I agree with all of that. We can be really boring and really pretentious sometimes, true, I'm working on those. Thank you for discussing.

I'm going to make a video on these comments.