Have you ever heard of a book called "The Rules: Time Tested Secrets..."? It was a great book, and all the advice is perfect, and so is yours. YOu're basically teaching what that book teaches as well.
Also, I would not call the guy until after he's called me at least several times. Then when I knew he was pretty into me, I'd call him. Even then I was hesitant though, because then its hard not to think that he'll feel like the challenge is over. I was pretty picky and careful about that first little while when I'd meet a guy.
The most I see your videos the most I realized that Do not put pressure Give him space Have a walk away power Are the most important things in a relationship. You talk like a real pro. Are you a psychologist? Because you hit the nail on the head!
This is all jokes, ladies if you need a man just be honest . Men like commitment, Men like assurance ,if he’s gonna be with you he needs your true self in , the last thing you need is play mind games and get switched for someone who shows commitment at the first stop
Its funny how of a lot of stuff you say is stuff my mom has told me. She is the youngest of 3 brothers and my grandpa and she was the only girl. You really understand men. Every time i feel anxiety ridden about men I turn your channel on and even when i didnr get the guy i wanted after listening to you i can accept it and I feel so much more comfortable with myself. You help me feel like Im not the only one who has turned into a crazy woman over a man 😂
What if you are his gf and he asked to be in a relationship with u but as soon as u get together he becomes flaky and inconsistent and not affectionate I’ve talked to him about this and give him space is it to late for me to use this on him ?
You’re amazing and the best coach. I’m 64 and dating a 46 year old man for about 5 months. I’m blessed with looking like I’m in my late 40’s early 50’s so when are out I’m pretty sure no one thinks I’m his Mother! Dating at our ages we have both raised our children and obviously will not have anymore. Dating at my age I’m also not looking for a husband but someone for companionship. Your advice still applies even at my age and our age difference.
Not saying to pull away, but don't accommodate what you don't want. If last minute planning is a problem, don't accommodate it. If him saying he doesn't want to be in an "official" relationship is a problem, don't accommodate it. If he's not putting in effort or interest into the relationship and that's a problem for you, don't accommodate it. If it's not actually a problem, then OK don't worry about it. But don't do the mistake that most women do, which is to go along with what you don't want thinking it's somehow leading you to the result you ultimately do what. It won't. It will just cement the dynamic in place the way it currently is now.
I'm ready. I've been seeing a widower for 8 months now. His wife passed away two years ago. We are taking things slow because this is a very delicate situation. We really like each other. With our schedules it's difficult to get together, plus we're an hour away from each other. He's a local truck driver and I work in a nursing home. We get along great. I give him his space. We'll go hours not texting. Which is fine 😊 Do you have any other advice for me? Thank you. I love watching your videos.
You still need to communicate what you want first. If you don't do that first, it's not reverse psychology, just poor communication and expecting him to read your mind/play by your timetable. Then you walk away without the desired impact. Be clear with your intentions and THEN use these tips.
You don't have to play any games. I'm just explaining dynamics and what kinds of results you can expect as a result. You can do whatever you want, just know that the results you're getting are exactly what you're supposed to get.
It’s not games! Aren’t you listening to her? She’s highlighting self love... you have to have self love, self contentment so it radiates!!!! All she’s saying is don’t put everything on another person and anchor them as your happiness. When you love yourself, love your life and not afraid of losing people that are not supposed to be in your life. You don’t become desperate and try to make things work with a person who doesn’t cater to elevate you. Everything she’s saying is in point!
Check out little shamans how to deal with narcissists. Because Caribbean man are notorious narcissist someone wrote on her wall I don’t know if I’m dealing with a narcissist or if he’s just Nigerian. I found that to be hysterically funny and it was just an illustration of how men from different cultures are. When dealing with Caribbean man always be busy always be unavailable and if he wants some of your time he has to pre-reserve it never call him and if he calls you speak for five minutes and then say I’ll call you back but never do m, and if you ever call him please don’t but if you ever do only speak for a limited time. Dealing with men from different nationalities is tricky but I found the universal truth give them space just like she said, and always be on available unless they pre-reserve your time always be busy exercising or getting ready for a party getting ready to go on a trip doing something... let them chase you. Caribbean men only price something that they can’t have. And always look good. Always wear your waist trainer always have your hair fly always have a beautiful clothes and smell good never let them catch you Slipping even when you wake up… Greased lips baby hair laid down nails done, keep it fly.
I'm female and not gay or lesbian or whatever you callit...just major tomboy and I've never liked my slightly lopsided face and body (that only I notice). I think you're beautiful. Your face is not perfectly symmetrical...as just about no one is...but watching and listening to you makes me realize why the odd dude finds me attractive every once in a while...you're smart and kind...and that's fucking attractive AF.
This is really helpful. These are all tips I never knew. I was never really pushy or aggressive in this way with a guy before until I fell head-over-heals a couple of times when I was a teenager. I really didn't know what I was doing wrong and I didn't know what to do with myself. It's too bad we didn't have the technology or RU-vid way back then so I could learn how to be while falling absolutely in love with a guy. When I talked to him during my cancer battle about 9 years ago on Facebook and to this day he still thinks I'm that way.... I'm not! I've grown and learned from most of my mistakes since then. Of course he's married now. And he hovers over me although he's married now. Can you please explain that one?
Dona 4 Him Remember this: in that case It’s Not Your Fault, so don’t bother . Just ignore the guy. Let him hoover and certainly don’t react. He’s not worth it.
you are honestly amazing! i’ve been going through the motions for the past few days and legit binged your videos. i love your approach on things bc you take the man’s feelings into consideration and encourage us to understand him in his natural habitat and to use his love language . i had problems with understanding that he is a guy and that guys are wired differently than girls. i think it’s a common mistake that all women make. we try to force our love language on to others and except them to understand. understanding your partners wants and needs is superr important. thanks erin you have changed my perspective so much!
Your beautiful don’t waste that on mind games and reverse phsyco, real men like real women with real intentions and submissive nature. Men are dominant people they will always look for someone they can keep
So sad,it's late before I watch your videos,,huhuhu,,I did the most embarrassing thing for making him to commit,,now I realized,I'm so much needy for making that actions,,I regret what I've done,now I'm following the no contact rule even if it hurts because he don't even show concern that I've walk away,,,😢😢😢
I’ve had a guy tell me, stop accusing me of lying or I’m blocking you 😂 I find that highly immature.. Long story short he didn’t block me and he still continues to lie 🤔
I'm ready! Your beautiful👍 🤩❤️ & YESSS I've had reverse psychology used on me but bc I'm very aware to it, it didn't work so well on me but I don't think they appreciated that😹😹😹
Very helpful information In my situation specifically.. I want the relationship.. he doesn’t Yet he acted like he wanted the relationship in the beginning, he was super affectionate with me and it felt right After not seeing each other for a couple months he broke up with me and told me he didn’t want the relationship 🤨 I’m confused on why he was even affectionate in the first place hm hm Any advice??
I like this guy. We have been in talking terms since May this year. We share the same workspace and even went out for dinner twice. Whenever we see each other at work, I do feel the connection and he does speak to me whenever we bump at work. However, the texts have reduced. He says he is not much into text and when I give all the space and dont text him, he doesnt call or initiate the text. However, speaks to me whenever we see each other at work. I dont understand if there is still something going as I do know - I did feel a connection and I do when we speak. But not talking daily or chat daily via text or call is concerning me. You know the 'hot and cold' approach. Please help me to overcome this situation. Should I completely move on?
If he said he isn't ready to commit, take his word on it. What he is really saying is that he does not want to commit to you. I suggest taking a step back. Do not respond to his texts and calls quickly. I suggest focusing on yourself, that always helps.
I’m going through the same thing with a younger man. After a month he’s saying he doesn’t want a girlfriend so do I back off from contact with him and see what happens ?
My only mistake it’s that I have kinda committed to him, I have options but I don’t say anything I keep quiet bc I really like him How do I redeem myself?
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Hey, I'm watching you from France. You are amazing and we can clearly feel that its your soul talking, it's so vibrant! Thank you for your mindset and that guidance
Hey I have a question do men do the same psychology on woman? Guy I really liked broke it off with me saying I was being to hot and cold with him, I feel like he still cares and wants the relationship, Any advice on what to do in this situation? Thankyou 💖
He broke it off with you but you feel like he still cares about you and wants a relationship? If that's true, then it sounds to me like he broke up with you out of frustration towards you and feeling like he would not be capable of making the relationship work with you. You'll have to find out if that's the case from him though. I'm just guessing here, I could be wrong. Give him space and either he will reach out to you when he's calmed down or you can reach out to him and just listen to his explanation of things after he's calmed down about it.
@@VixenDaily Thankyou I'm going to give him space it's been nearly a week since I heard from him we left it as a mutual decision that it was over because I didn't want to put any pressure on him, It's a very hard situation to be in, All I want to do is reach out to him but I don't want to look needy, We where good together, I even met all his family too so it's very confusion, Thanks for the advice.
