I once had a guy cussing me out and charging at me. I stayed calm and waited for him. I think the calm expression on my face convinced him to stop in mid-charge, and I walked away with him still cussing me out. Afterwards I started shaking, but in that moment I was calm and didn't care if he threw a punch at me. In the interest of total honesty though, I should point out that I was about 6 inches taller than him and had some training in Taekwondo and Hapkido.
This is one of the best reasons to train. Knowing you have some tools in your pocket gives you a confidence that your body language will exude. People can detect that and are likely to back down meaning you don't need to use said tools. "It is better to be a warrior in a garden than a gardener in a war."
This is my story too. I'm 6'4" and 70, know a bit of self defence and have worked in prisons but I've never thrown a punch. De-escalate and avoid drunks especially women unless you can fk them😊
I studied Aikido from the age of 9. When I was little I was picked on. Most of the time, I removed myself or talked my way out of things, until I had no other choice. Even once I became a student of Aikido & eventually….as a brown belt, training 3 x a week….my hands would shake. I’d feel nervous in an altercation. Every time, no matter the person challenging me, I felt nervous & worried. My Sensei, Haruo Matsuoka….taught me, this was simply adrenaline in the body. It sounds cliche….but “just breath, relax” was the advice he gave me. He said it, constantly. He used it when I was struggling to learn a move or technique, if I had a bad day at school etc. He said, every situation needed ONE FIRST STEP….JUST BREATH. I still felt fear, frustration, out of my depth…I still got picked on, bullies would find me in the crowd……& I struggled. BUT, I defended myself, I fought back, I tried!! Some days I had more bruises or injuries & other times….I kicked A$$ & took names. I have never started a fight, I have tried always to avoid physical altercations…..but when trouble started….all I knew was….just breath. I believe my successes have always started with “just breath!” Especially when I was able to avoid a physical altercations. Being nervous & feeling fear are necessary when protecting yourself. I don’t believe any human feels no fear or nervousness, in this predicament. I never enjoyed fighting, even when I was seen as “the winner?!” I am thankful I learned how to protect myself though……
@1:25 Take note of his stance. His head and body are instantly defendable and ready to pivot. He’s in a position to execute many offensive strikes if need be against the opponent. For those of you that don't know about Aikido, my best analogy would be a revolving door, like those in department stores. You are the revolving door. Now, let's look down on the door from above. A person trying to pass through these doors exerts pressure on the right side or the left side depending upon which way they want to enter. The opponent exerts the force, and you as the door simply pivot. The damage inflicted upon the opponent is magnified tremendously by the force the opponent is trying to use against you. The door pivots, extends an arm, and he close-lines himself with his own force. The door moves to one side extending a leg in front of the opponent who trips and falls on the pavement. Or, The door pivots in the opposite direction executing a spinning backfist right into the face of the charging opponent. Think on this, young Jedi’s. That is all I have to say.
Love these simple but straight forward videos Azu. You explain stuff on an even level & aren't preaching or talking down, just clear & precise. Just wondered about thinking you've talked the situation down & then take your eyes off your attacker, turn away & get sucker punched......
Whether or not you can walk away depends on the situation. I teach a stance, hands held palms up in front of the chest i what i call the i don't want no trouble stance, as i pull my feet into a cat stance, a 70/30 weight stance, hands are right there in the face of the aggressor, from here a quick chop to the throat is to easy, a back fist, heel palm, elbow, so many hand weapons ready, right leg back both legs in position for a kick hands can block, strike or distract from the foot movement.
Fun fact I have been practicing Aikido for 6 and a half years and that has made me very confident and experience in confrontations and fights and most of the moves you do adn show here on "Aikidoflow" I have already mastered long ago but I still love your videos sensei!🥋🗾
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One other thing I did when I had a job that lead to me getting into regular physical confrontations. I always tried to never tell a lie and never threaten someone. Since I would invariably see the person again if i told them some sort of lie or untruth it would be another thing that could lead to more violence. So I was very careful to either tell the truth, or if I did not know something be honest about it. I also came to see making threats as a form of weakness. time and again my coworkers would make a threat and then when they did not carry out on their threat it would actually escalate the situation. So I came to the conclusion that I would make requests until the time came to use force and then go without giving any threat or warning. The surprise and violence of action would give me a huge advantage in the fight.
I once stay calmed and then got slapped. i was so calm and tears started rolling down my eyes. I confidently cried while my attacker smiled. Thank you for your teaching Masta.
Yes, Gentlemen, the best advice: Walk away, talk you out ! I also like that "Walking away takes a bigger, mentally greater personality. On thing , however-"Dońt be afraid "Stay calm! is never for a beginner. Yes, be afraid, like any soldier charging forward but capable of acting , sometimes not, but fearlessness probably is a privilege of very strong both mentally and physically, too. The best thing is to avoid such areas and those people. If living in an more unstable environment, Aikido is a good choice, as its defense is based on MVEMENTS , and you are not "telegraphing" any attacking movements that only worsen the situation. Best regards. Paul,67, retired instructor of Karate.
I was like laughing with the Senseis about the eyebrows and beards lol... always will come back to your lessons of humility and simplicity of techniques guys... may the Lord bless you all. 💙
My Dad taught me to go for the throat if in danger many years ago and I can tell you now it absolutely takes them out the game!!! Great advice and like you say try to avoid the fight if you can. 😊
Bizzle wrote a song called "who's the man" It's about feeling like you lost because you backed down and exploring the greater harm that might have happened if you choose to be confrontational.
Remember this fights happen because the person is jealous of u or he's a BULLY either way they can't fight or does not know how to and that's what gets people HURT.......
I had someone come at me aggressively, which I suspect might end up in him attempting to punch me. I moved one foot back, into a relaxed side stance... I saw a look of bemusement cross his face, as if he realised (a) I was prepared, and/or, (b) I was doing something he couldn't understand. His entire demeanor instantly changed and the aggression wilted away...
Best lesson is to not be there, walk away, if you can't walk away then run away... if you get into any fight you are going to lose in some aspect, no matter what, even if you win, you are going to lose something... it's the law of the universe... also if you walk away you create the proper mai'ai (distance) that is advantageous to you because the other guy will really have to reach out from his center-line to get you which makes him more vulnerable and weak.
Only fools fight. One punch can see you doing a 10 year stretch and sitting every day in your cell thinking about the life you took. Walk away it's really not worth it.
Best to win a fight on street is to not get involved in one assess your situation. realty this happening resolve its not going to Happen & if it does you take action maximum power with minimal effort it’s best to disengage from a conflict but it kicks off take action
No fear, and you can do anything. It's the fear itself, generally the thought of the unknown holding you back. Training yourself better, drills, sparring, one to one interview techniques all makes it all seam more real, training yourself into it. Don't think?, do, you start thinking about it, you make mistakes, it should flow naturally, and confidence will follow, without the cockiness. You can also at this point, if no attack is imminent, walk away, then if you do also sense the attacker coming from behind deal with that and then do what you got to do to stop the assailant then walk/run away. Better to be tried by ten than carried by 6.
These drama channels encourage paranoia for their profit. If you feel that you have to watch videos to learn to fight then you might have other things to tend to aside the fighting skills. Examine at your environment, your home life, and the friends you choose to associate with.
I would just like to tell a true story i was on a building site doing my thing when this guy who was unpacking the furniture and sending it up into the building he was being a bit mouthy with his mates and he came over to me waveing a Stanley knife making threats as he approached. I was at that time in my breaks studying a book on jujitsu not necessarily for fighting but I was trying to develop a drawing skill for making cartoon films often i would try to go through the moves in my head and work out the moves there was a kick i believe they call it the flick kick it kind of looked like a picture of a fairy about to dance and didn't look like any thing particularly affective or violent as soon as this guy approached within 3 yards or so the picture from the book enterd my minds eye then i pinched my middle finger at thumb together like they do when meditating in yoga bent my left knee and lifted my right leg right between his legs i am sure I felt his balls on my boot it was such a gentle flick of a kick he crumpled to the ground in agony. Later he told me he was a kick box champ from Romania as was very impressed with how effective the kick was. I think it impressed on me how effective visualisation can be.
*DON'T* turn your back when waking away so *backing off* is better advice - and it is far more likely a person will attack if they are drunk , under the influence of a drug than if they are not ; tell them you will call the Police if they dont stop hassling you or if they threaten you - again more likely to make them back off if they arr sober than if they are not
You shouldn’t act calm, you should be calm, you become calm by fighting a lot, continuous contact, adrenal stress,red man suit stuff. You are calm because it is familiar. Has to be done when you are young enough to heal though.
We ALL have Egos. If ya did`nt you`d be dead. Even religious and political and religious peeps that claim to be "selfless" are somewhat Egoistic too and I never suggest you fight anyone unless you know for sure that they don`t have a firearm. If they have a knife, u can still beat them, however u haave to do te right moves.
Then you had best learn that the bla bla bla is the mentality of you. That's what he's explaining. How to get the advantage during the action if it happens. And you hope it doesn't.
@nochampionatall before you start your action...you also need to blahblah inside your mind whether you really can take up your opponents of not...gud luc chum.p...🤣
