How to Win At Female Mind Games (w/ Kezia Noble) 

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Spot on, a lot of dudes running around saying "she broke my heart" when they didn't even go on a date with the girl. No, you broke your own heart. Grow tf up.

Anybody else how skilled Stiring is at interviewing?

🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:00 Kezia Noble, a dating coach, talks about her experience helping men in the dating space since 2006 and her transition from relying on looks to charm and mind games. 01:17 Kezia discusses how men who are successful and charming often excel in playing mind games, suggesting that women's game has weakened due to heavy reliance on looks and social media attention. 02:15 Looks are influential, but men tend to go for women with engaging personalities and game, especially in environments where many attractive women are present. 03:10 The sex appeal of older women comes from gratitude, enthusiasm, and independence, making them more appealing than younger women fixated on external validation. 04:34 Older women are more sexuallycurious and less influenced by societal norms, while younger women often face pressure from friends and social influences. 05:30 In dating younger women, men need to compete with friends, family, and societal influences for influence in her life. 08:13 To maintain attraction, men should stay unpredictable, hard to read emotionally, and validate qualities they want to see in the woman. 11:03 Men should avoid being too predictable, show an abundance mindset, and remain emotionally detached in interactions to build attraction. 15:11 Developing an abundance mindset involves faking it until positive results are obtained, reinforcing self-confidence and attractiveness. 18:12 Kezia suggests cultivating multiple options and reference points with women rather than focusing exclusively on one, as this scarcity mindset hampers success. 19:04 The importance of abundance mindset, staying immune to emotional manipulation, and embracing a carefree attitude to attract women. 20:53 Men should strive to be "ice cold" by staying logical and emotionally detached in the face of female emotions, thus gaining respect and maintaining attraction. 21:45 Men's role in relationships has shifted, with some becoming passive. 22:13 Example of a man in a bad marriage who is attracted to others. 23:10 Suggestion to hire a hot trainer to improve the relationship. 23:40 Men often fear losing their partner and stay in subpar relationships. 25:32 Men often stay in poor relationships due to a belief they can't do better. 26:23 Societal pressure and cultural factors can influence relationship decisions. 27:13 Men need to put effort into relationships like they do in their careers. 29:30 Some men may prefer being controlled and following their partner's decisions. 32:42 Friend zone can be emotionally damaging as men fall in love but stay friends. 34:35 Exiting the friend zone requires a strict game plan and avoiding emotional attachment. 36:55 Falling into the friend zone can lead to bitterness and resentment. 39:22 Attraction often comes from the contrast between dominant and vulnerable sides. 41:16 Different personas in public and private settings create intrigue and excitement. 42:42 Women appreciate exploring new things sexually and being open-minded in relationships. 43:10 The shift of women from traditional roles to the workplace has led to a desire for more dominant and passionate experiences in relationships. 44:10 Women are attracted to qualities associated with success like self-belief, passion, and power rather than just material success. 45:08 Superficial success without genuine substance isn't attractive; confidence and risk-taking traits are more appealing. 46:52 Successful risk-takers, often seen as bold and adventurous, are attractive due to confidence and self-belief. 48:10 Boldness and confidence in taking action are essential for maintaining interest in potential partners. 49:08 Good looks might buy more chances, but a clear approach within reasonable time is crucial; hovering without action is unattractive. 50:56 Handsome guys with no game may face harsher rejections as they're expected to have better communication skills. 53:11 Genuine and honest relationship advice is often more effective than generic, people-pleasing guidance. Made with HARPA AI

I’m 24. Over the past 6 months I have been really making an effort to put myself out there on the market. I introduce myself to every women that I see regularly at my rock climbing gym just to get a feel if she has any interest in me. One thing I noticed is that older women in late 20s/early 30s always seem delighted to speak to me and I have no trouble with conversation. Women my age and younger sometimes just seem like they couldn’t give less of a shit that I just tried to start a conversation and just go back to scrolling Instagram or whatever they had their nose buried in on their cell phone. Truly a shame as some of these women are stunning to look at…

Thank you for inviting me on your show. Really enjoyed this 💫

She rode the pua wave, her contribution to the red Pill discussion is insignificant.

Great video. I was never able to take Kezia Noble seriously when she was at the height of her RU-vid exposure. Here she shows a lot more substance and insight than I would have expected, certainly aged well!

50:13 there's also a third situation that most women, including apparently Kezia, are oblivious to. And that's what if the woman notices the guy but she's always occupied with something. Maybe she's talking to someone, maybe she's on her phone with her earbuds in, maybe she's working out, maybe she's reading or walking her dog. Whatever it is, it doesn't allow the guy to approach her. She can make all the eye contact in the world but if she puts herself in a situation that says 'I'm busy', then the guy won't likely approach her. Women ignore this because it puts the onus on them to make themselves approachable and they can shift the blame onto the guy for not being "interested or confident enough".

Absolutely amazing discussion. I have been following Kazia for years and more recently Sterling on RU-vid and in books. I couldn't believe it when I came across your discussion video. I watched the whole thing non stop. Keep up the good work. We need help getting along with the opposit sex.

That trick at around 7:20 is awesome. Tell her what you like most is her wild uncontrollable nature while complimenting her other influencers, so that when they are talking bad about you, she will tell them that you say amazing things about them. Their influence is weakened, because she's an independent wild thing. This is beautiful. This is like playing chess.

Much like you said at the end, I appreciate her honesty. Some of these moments where she describes her train of thought as a woman is going to help men so much more than ''oh just do this and this and that, it'll work'' Good stuff Stirling.

Around 21 minutes in she made a very relevant point to modern times

If i ever try to date again the first thing i want to know about a date or potential date is her values. If they dont line up with mine forget it

her understanding of “game” on both sides of the genders puts her at a disadvantage because she can never truly be seduced. women like this play their game for a bit but get bored quickly because they see every move in hindsight. as a man overtime you’ll sense the lack of purity as well and it’ll turn u off. best to just get someone who isn’t thinking about game 24/7

"I don't want to hurt anyone". It is this intention that leads men on. The pain of rejection would show us this relationship is not to be pursued. Ghosting the man will only drive him into trying to figure out what to do to stop being ignored.

Love the duo. Pls more of you guys

I'm late to the party, but i came bearing the gift of a dissenting opinion 😂 Regarding older women's sex appeal. I DON'T think that its just gratitude and enthusiam. That they're just more thankful to get in the game, so to speak. There IS an energy that they bring thats a sort of combination of the feminine version of confidence and conpetence in terms of how they express their interest, how they communicate, maybe their boldness in sexual interests. To condense this idea, it would be: young chicks are still figuring out what they like and how to act. Older women KNOW both of those things already. And rather than silly moves or making thirst trap videos of them dancing like shaky legged newborn baby deer, they have time tested which actions or phrases, or outfits, or sex moves work to excite or attract a guy. I think older women are sexier because they made it past the awkward trial and error and getting stupid advice from inexperienced friends phase. The whole physical package may not be as tight as it was when she started. But exercise, diet, and a bit of genetic luck can keep a lady in the "i'm a sexual person" game for awhile longer than those who just stop trying. And that experience is a VERY sharp knife.

Excellent. Thank you

holy shit, this woman is based af

Amazing tactics talked about HERE !

I watch your podcasts, your You Tube videos and really enjoy your message & content. Trying to find your book! Thank you for being you!

A real man is about self control, not how many times he scores. In my humble opinion.

Love what you guys said about being in the friend zone. Very dishonest and draining relationship, especially for men.

I say "I gotta ask the wife" or "I have to get home because of the wife" just to get away from people or situations I am not interested in anymore. It just saves the BS people will say to sell me something or keep me somewhere.

"Why do guys stay with a woman when she acts like that?" It's called commitment. Once a man finally commits to someone, it takes a lot to break that commitment. This is why men are so commitment phobic. When a man commits to a relationship, it's because he believes his woman is as committed as he is. And when a woman takes advantage of that commitment, she is betraying her man. I don't think women realize the severity of their behavior. Especially when he doesn't realize what's happening, because it doesn't even cross his mind that the person he has drawn in that close would EVER do that.

I was an introvert in teens. Decided to purposely DO all the things that made me unconfident or nervous. Got fit, got a tan. Got very good with girls. Dont msg ppl online, talk to ppl in person. Catch someones gaze n smile at them rather than just cold approach them. The more relaxed and comfortable you become in strangers company, the more strangers will instantly be in yours.

Great point on dealing with more than one woman at the same time.

The friendzone is broken down nicely.. I always felt the cure was being a leader with personal values and integrity.

so true.. in friendzone i have also been guilty of not trusting women and being heart broken by it.

The crossover we needed.

I thought it was a really great and witty title for her book.

40:33 I appreciate the depth here. It's confusing to me that the woman here can talk about shadows and complex desires and still endorse some of the things she did earlier in this video. In any case, I'm still here. Thanks y'all :)

Yes stoic. ❤

So true Sterling bro & Yh older women all the way

I love her

Physically and financially first. Then status. Confidence comes naturally at that point.

Mama can articulate herself nicely!!!

She is fire😮

Excellent content, here: Kudos to Stirling & Kezia for giving us such a Real, Informative, Helpful & Non-bullshit filled Convo. Many Thanks.

Stirling is absolute expert in this area, and I am so happy I found this channel to learn something I don't know

Kezia is an og in the game i used to watch her stuff back in the day Stirling knows whats up

Success on it's own means the guy is careful and calculating because he isn't as capable. A successful risk-taker on the other hand is an evolutionary jackpot - he is bold instead of careful due to positive reinforcement from his past experience...

My brother in law %100 has been controlled by his old lady since they got together and he loves it. It’s fucking weird.

Good conver 👏

Stirling is absolutely right when he makes the point about women being even more disgusted when a good looking man has no game, compared to average/poor looking men with no game.

I’ve heard Kezia say if you are in London, you have to be really good at banter or you won’t get very far and it’s even local area banter to that part of town and I was wondering if that is unique to the UK or if it is more prevalent other places now and what are the differences?

Yo Cooper, this was a terrific interview. Your questions came from a perspective of someone that is obviously well versed in these subjects. She's good. Her work with and proximity to men has really given her a keen insight into how to explane this stuff to men from a female's perspective. She's like a one-in-a-million mind. The only issue with the things she is saying is that it makes things feel kind of unfair. Most women don't really look better, when they're naked.

Look men even female dating coaches that understand it on some level still work the same it’s incredible. You can even see how Stirling is a little bit disgusted and I love it. What a G

Kezia doesnt at all understand why younger guys go for older women

The sitcom Friends was the psyc-op for the (coincidence) friend zone.

Guy told me one time, There's an old proverb: " beware of scorning the weak cub, for he may grow to be the brutal tiger"...

My best time had when i was not committed and had multiple girls at the same time. Even if they knew, cried, they came back

One thing that turns me off is a lack of awareness about the world we live in.

Discussion aside, these are two beautiful people, great physical presence, great chemistry, and great ideas. Really enjoyed the connection happening in this episode.

I have always been very skilled at getting women, but there is a point where it is impossible to find a woman that I really fall in love with. The biggest mistake a man can make in the modern world is to be in love and really interested in one woman. I am a particularly cold, detached man and sees people as NPCs, all people seem the same to me. The problem I have had in recent years is that the family ties I had were lost and I can no longer have real, intimate relationships. I would love to have children and a family, but I don't see it as a possibility after years of being like this. and I surely have children, but it is because I have met many women who prefer to be single mothers than to share parenting and create a home that implies shared responsibility.

Wow I watched her when I was younger she has to be in her 40s 50s now

Absolutely fantastic conversation. One of the best I’ve heard in a long time. Stirling, Kezia, this was a Master-Fucking-Class!!!!!

This was great. Thanks guys. Need part two

Kezia has been so intelligent using her feminity for business, and to understand male female dynamics

Weman knowingly or unknowly just do what they do! Now you as a guy have to figure out if she knowingly doing or not! She does deliberately then get away from her immediately!

First five minutes of the conversation and already they’re talking past each other. Let’s see if it continues.

2:45 👌👌👌 3:45 Sex Appeal 6:15 🤔🤔🤔 7:35 Validation 🤯 9:45 Unpredictability 12:30 Abundance Mindset 14:35 Self Control 27:15 💯💯💯 28:15 Truth! 32:40 Friendzone 35:30 Simpin! 38:40 Shadow Side 40:15 Alpha Chicks 😉 45:50 Success 48:45 Make the move... 50:15 No Game 😢

mans confidence like that can endup himself being in jail or embarrassing himself most of the time which is not a small thing like they preach... Especially at the bar atleast she gives a smile rather than just a eye contact is the best thing women should do..., bcos they women love ghosting men majority who comeup. To them

Great subject both of u

This is a fantastic interview and Kezia I’ve seen over the years and she has something to say with her experiences.

Great video. On point. You are putting out some truths here. This is indeed reflecting my experience. The effort you have to put in to gain women's attraction is out of this world these days. Or you could also just be lucky with online dating.

kezia noble is an og

Her initial emphasis on older women's attractiveness and benefits makes her sound like she's talking her book.

Good interview

12:15 this focus on stoicism is a bit funny in my mind... Maybe because I was exposed to it during the first wave of my generation, before Ryan Holiday's book on it. Before Tim Ferriss had a podcast. It might be important for some who don't have any control over their emotions or have a low emotional awareness. Absolutely. But it does not end here. It's not just about being stoic. Juking expectations can mean showing enthusiasm and excitement in place of disappointment, insecurity, or defensiveness (which are very common). It can mean being open to life where others are closed to it. This is one of my many problems with the RP space. It seems so obvious that many of these men are just fundamentally driven by insecurity and baggage. For as much as they talk about a sexual marketplace, it truly is an invisible hand that seems to move them which they cannot grasp.

Good points. Adding to the masculine female actions topic, I feel like when a woman prefers to dominate the relationship, she has more masculine energy. She will tend to attract and hold on to a weaker, more feminine man that largely defers to her. This is not the typical scenario, but it can be explained by opposite polarity being attracted. Masculine to feminine. It can be a masculine man and a feminine woman, as is often seen in the world. There is also the case of the masculine woman and the feminine man being attracted and held together.

This is pure gold

Don't usually comment. But that was a great video with tons of value so thank you. May the algorithm forever be in your favour. i also like that you didnt tell me to like subscribe and comment.

31:57 given the rates of erectile dysfunction, I don't think men are sexual light switches. I also think our needs are actually collapsed into hollow takes like these by the RP and PUA spaces.

I'd love to hear Stirling's unfiltered thoughts to each thing she said lol

Good interview, hope you have her back on.

Am I the only one here who's mentioning Benjamin Franklin's advice to young men? "Go for older women; they're much more grateful." (paraphrase)

And that last point is she wasvinvested in the interaction, and they are just not good people, great looking guys and killer game is such a rarity. Woman Proverbs Kings are destroyed by women, hmmm old school game. Great interview both of you have mad skills

Men 101: we like the natural look. Not clown make-up and hair styling. If a woman doesn't know this, she's not an expert. Stirling is right, we aren't that complicated, if you are appreciative and enthusiastic (nice) thats enough for us.

@51:00 - I think I experienced this. Walked into a new gym and a girl got eye contact with me from a distance and gave me this ‘Hiiiiii..’ as though she knew me, with a big smile??? I thought why is she doing this, I’ve never met her before. Acknowledged her in a low-key way. Thereafter, I’ve tried acknowledging her and she just blanks me, literally avoids all eye contact. She’s not my type, so I wasn’t interested, but, she’s now borderline rude to me now and I thought it odd. Maybe this is an example of what Stirling talks about here.

Love the work you’re doing brother 🤘🔥💪🏼

Kezia Noble! Brilliant.

Part of how men bond is with hormones released during stress. So over coming difficulties helps us bond with those who were around us with those difficulties. When in the friend zone the guy is going through and helping a woman with her difficulties and struggles. This will necessarily bond him to her. This is likely where the desire to fck becomes a strong emotional attachment to the woman. There is also the sense, with everyone, that the more time and attention you put into something the more we get emotionally invested in it.

When a really good looking guy doesn’t approach her, she feels rejected. She thinks he doesn’t want her or she is not hot enough for him.

3:10 That's a great point. I don't personally find older women sexier than the younger ones, but the arrogance and bloated egos on young attractive women gets so annoying after a while. I understand that they need their "bitch shield" to ward off the hordes of men trying to fuck them, but on a human level, it's super annoying to deal with over and over again as a man. Older women lose their bitch shield and appreciates getting your attention to a much higher degree. This is all innate properties in women though. It's genetic.

when it come to the abundance mindset, whether youre faking it or not, i heard a good piece of advice once. this guys gf wasnt respecting him and they were having all kinds of problems, so he just started approaching attractive women and just engaging in polite small talk when he was alone, and especially when he was with his gf. it builds confidence and lets her know that he does have options at the same time

Sometimes I think dying in some god forsaken war would be significantly better than modern dating. AAAAAAAAAnd this video proved me correct. Thanks for the info though

KEZIA! 😍😍

Women wait at the finish line to **** the winners

Mr. Stirling Cooper. You beautiful Australian.

Well done, Sterling 👌🏿. Kezia Noble is an O.G. 💯% Before I came across Fresh & Fit, Alpha Male Strategies, STEPHISCOLD, MJ GETRIGHT, J Waller, Bulldog Mindset and Yourself, I learnt a lot about females from Kezia. She is the real deal. Bravo 👏🏿 👏🏿 👏🏿

The best move is not to play at all.

Great show. Excellent insight from Kezia.

I don’t believe in psychology, I believe in good moves. - Bobby Fisher

🔥🔥Truths were told this day.

I get bored with women's games quickly. I'll just dump them and move on. Life is too short.

She knows whatsup. High level girl. She worked together with Gambler who was one of the best. Much better than most all guys u see now.

the only game that you can win by not playing is mind games... I'm too busy to care .. 😎🎹🎹🎹🎹🎹🎹