I'm ftm pre everything and I've been thinking I'm trans for at least 5 years now but I still can't help but think that I just THINK I'm trans and I've brainwashed myself into having dysphoria. That's probably a result of my transphobic mom trying to tell me I'm not trans. I don't doubt that I'm trans but its more a fear that I'll regret it and made the wrong decision once I start medically transitioning. This video did help me think about it though. Why would I put myself through so much pain if its not real?
I am glad to hear that this video helped you work through some of your thoughts - I hope whatever the outcome is for you, that you are content with yourself and who you become in the coming years!
one way i try to deal with impostor syndrome: just straight up making fun of it impostor syndrome: BUT WHAT IF YOU'RE NOT REALLY TRANS- me: "bUt WhAt If YoUrE nOt ReAlLy TrAnS"
Hey, thanks for this video and reminding myself that it’s ok to have doubts and still be valid and especially the last part. I started looking into voice feminization and it just stressed me out trying to speak in a different voice rather than talking with my real voice. So yea, thanks!
I’m ftm and I came out a yr ago & some change I didn’t start having deep doubt until the end of this year but this video did help me a lot so I definitely appreciate it❤️!
Thank you for this, I'm pre anything mtf, 20 years old and I had heavy doubt tonight. Its still hard to realize that I am infact transfemme (im watching this video and crying duh I am..right?) But I'm working on it. For now all I want is hrt, grow out my hair, I'm changing my voice to be higher and more femme and I love femme clothes. Its hard, and I'm considering coming out to my parents soon but ik how my father is. So it'll have to wait
It just sucks, im afraid that ill lose everyone around me and have nothing if I come out, but, on the other hand, its been 2 years since I came out to myself,, and I have no idea why id keep presenting as a boy, and being so deeply hurt when people dont see me that way, if I wasnt actually trans
idk, i feel like when i think of my future self as a woman (I'm afab), i get this sense of almost.. grief?? like I'm losing something important, and this sense of grief for what i could be has caused a lot of doubt. And yet at the same time, the idea of my future self as a woman is almost panic inducing and feels so wrong, and yet when i imagine myself as a guy.. it feels okay. Good even. So i cant figure out if I should be doubting myself right now, or if im just holding onto the image of what could have been because for the longest time i didn't see it any other way. Advice?
Yeah well I am working on training my voice but the biggest thing right now is I want to get rid of my face short hair. Right now I'm not really worried about changing my name to make it more feminine at least not until I'm a little bit more into my transition because well right now I look like a 12 year old tomboy hey at the beginning of the rest but other than that I look like a guy. So I think it would look really odd if I change my name to something more feminine when I look so much like a guy. And actually I would like to wear more food and clothes but at the same time some of my life I dressed androgynous and so with my job and everything I probably will continue to wear more androgynous clothes but when the opportunities present themselves I plan to dress more feminine
Everyone has the ability to doubt there actions - working through the strain of the emotional process to figure out who we are makes us stronger people at the other end :)
