Thanks to Sakuraco for sponsoring our video! Use our code "RNJ" to get $5 off of your first Sakuraco box team.sakura.co/racheljunadventures-SC2401 now! WOOBOY it's been a long time since we just sat down and talked about ourselves to the camera and... I'm so nervous?! It was really fun and I feel like we have so much we could say about our relationship after all this time, so if you guys also/still enjoy these types of vids please let me know??
I really had missed your "sit down and have a chat about anything" videos! I love the cozy, casual feel of them. Feels like just hanging out with friends! Happy 14 years together and I hope we still get to enjoy your videos for years to come ❣
“He’s a very mentally healthy person, which, as a not mentally healthy person, makes me angry” GIRL SAME 😭 literally this is exactly the relationship I have with some people in my life.
I also complain a lot less if others already do. But if noone complains and everyone is just fine... well, if there seems something wrong and annoying to me: someone has to complain about it XD
I was thinking this exact thing. I remember in their early videos thinking he seemed like he was always unhappy/reluctant to participate in videos. Since then he’s become so fun and goofy on camera!
A Canadian here who enjoys listening to you both and watching your adventures in life. I'm 79 next month and was with my husband for 60 years. You have a healthy, loving and respectful relationship and long after I'm gone I'm certain you will still be the same. You are nice people and it makes me feel better about the human race knowing that there are people like you in the world. I began watching because of your cats but keep watching because of you two. Love from Alberta. Xxx💕👩🏻🦳
I used to have it bad. I'm good now but I was bad. Like I secretly loved pink but would pretend like I didn't because it made me feel superior all for guys to be able to say that I'm better than the other girls.
I think there's a big generation in Western society right now that was taught to dislike and judge women for about everything. We were taught basically every type of woman is wrong. It's finally shifting away from that, and we're allowed to be who we want, but it really reached a peak in the 2000s and girls growing up at that time had to internalize it.
It used to be so bad for me. It came from jealousy and insecurity. Once I got over that I'm a girl's girl and rarely does the internalized misogyny pop up and when it does I shut that shit down immediately.
I've personally seen more internalized misandry than internalized misogyny but both are real and have the same roots as to why one would become like that. 1) They're taught to hate themselves and others of the same sex, either by family members, school staff, social media, entertainment, influencers and/or propaganda. 2) They had really bad experiences with the same sex, such as bullying and betrayal. 3) They witnessed others of the same sex do terrible things to other people and/or to their loved ones. 4) They were the only son/daughter in the family thus naturally grew to like and adopt things those around them did and enjoyed, thus thinking what is typically normal for boys/girls is weird. 5) Out of pure jealousy because they aren't getting attention from the opposite sex while others are, thus resort to demonizing and insulting other men/women, portray themselves to be an ally and what the opposite sex desires just to have a chance of getting a romantic partner or laid out of desperation - also known as a 'pick me' (best examples of this are JustPearlyThings, Rachel Wilson, and a good portion of male feminists).
i like how Jun doesn’t like to generalize when it comes to culture. it’s really important not to generalize and feel like we need to all compartmentalize each other and i am working on this every day!
Rachel gave me an existential crisis talking about being a tomboy and how internal Misogyny influenced that. It spoke to me so deeply. I was a huge tomboy and rejected anything girly and tried to be the different kid so bad! It was authentically how I felt at the time but I didn't know it could have been subconciously influenced by misogyny. gah!
You're not alone. I was (unintentionally) raised to believe that those feminine traits/habits/perspectives were frivolous and/or useless, or even straight burdensome. Not true. Not true At All. Its been an unlearning process, letting myself investigate and enjoy the more feminine aspects of life, and not feeling shame for it.
@@X3nophiliacSame. Even the “oh you’re a girl. WHEN YOU GET OLDER AND MATURE, you will start liking 💐 feminine 💐things and being a Real WomanTM” like having tomboy interests or personality is something immature and meant to be outgrown.
That's how I felt! I genuinely didn't like what would be considered stereotypically "feminine" things at the time but I did judge other girls for it and that's where my issue is. @@X3nophiliac
It may not be perfect but y'all have one of the healthiest relationships, talking about this and even disagreeing openly with each other is a true sign of maturity in relationships. Y'all are awesome and peaceful. 🌄
By quite a few metrics, Japanese and English are the most different languages to each other, at least of the major world languages, and thus the most difficult to learn, so the fact than Jun is as comfortable with English as he is, to the point of using colloquialisms and making jokes, is very impressive.
@phantagirlable The Foreign Service Institute, a sub-department of the US State Department, survayed 63 world languages and ranked them according to difficulty; five were ranked at the highest difficulty, requiring 88 weeks of full time study for fluency: Arabic, Cantonese, Mandarin, Japanese and Korean. In addition, both the FSI and the National Virtual Translation Centre noted that Japanese was especially challanging even among those five.
@@Eden_Laikabut what parts were they assessing? If they're also assessing the writing part of language then japan is super hard. I think that when people say Japanese is easy they mostly mean pronunciation and grammar and aren't factoring in the writing.
@@arowace498 It was a holistic survay, so looking at fluency in both speech and writing. But in terms of pronounciation, English and Japanese are very phonemically distinct, and there are plenty of videos, including on this channel, of Japanese speakers struggling with English pronounciations. I get that difficulty is largely subjective, but I can't see a Japanese speaker finding English easier than Korean or Mandarin, if only phonologically, especially given how broad English phonotactics are compared to those other languages.
@@Eden_Laika In my experience I think differences in tonality make up a lot of difficulty. If you aren't used to the tones you can't even hear your mispronunciation. I only took Mandarin for a little bit and didn't make any progress... I was quiet young but I don't anticipate I've made any progress on that front. Anyways, English is more tonal than Japanese, which is much more monotone. It's easier to speak flatter than to speak with tones you can't hear. Which is why i think English speakers find Japanese easier, and Japanese speakers find English hard. Going from Japanese to Spanish or visa versa also seems easier. They use most of the same sounds with vowels. Someone in my family took in a Japanese exchange student and they learned more spanish than english, even while living in the US. I thought that was kinda sweet in a way.
@@arowace498 Okay, now I really don't know what you're talking about. Japanese _is_ a tonal language, in that it has pitch-accent, English isn't. Do you mean prosody? Or are you talking about non-phonemic tone, like for expression?
I think internalised misogyny is from shame. We are shamed into conforming. So when we see someone acting outside of what we've been told is proper our brain remembers that shame and replicates it.
Shame is one of the reasons as to why one would become an internalized misogynist or even an internalized misandrist (personally I've seen more of the latter than the former - depends where you are and what you see). That shaming usually comes from family members, school staff, social media, entertainment, influencers and/or propaganda. There are other reasons as well, such as: -Really bad experiences with the same sex (such as bullying and betrayal) -Witnessed others of the same sex do terrible things to other people and/or to their loved ones -They were the only son/daughter in the family or boy/girl in a friend group thus naturally grew to like and adopt things those around them did and enjoyed, thus thinking what is typically normal for boys/girls is weird -Out of pure jealousy because they aren't getting attention from the opposite sex while others are, thus resort to demonizing and insulting other men/women, portray themselves to be an ally and what the opposite sex desires just to have a chance of getting a romantic partner or laid out of desperation - also known as a 'pick me' (best examples of this are JustPearlyThings, Rachel Wilson, and a good portion of male feminists).
With the I love you conversation. I've been with my husband (1/2 Japanese, grew up til highschool in Kyoto) for 16 years, married for 7. He would never say I love you and neither would his family (Even American mother). His mom recently said when myself and sister in law (also American) came into the family she noticed that everyone started saying I love you more often to each other. But My parents also remember my older sister coming home when she was little and saying that she wanted us to say I love you more. I think that was more of a generational thing, My grandparents on both sides didn't say it very often and were more hard-working farm families. So I think part of it is generational but also cultural. ❤❤
It's almost 4am rn in the UK and I suddenly remembered that I used to watch you guys back when I was like 13 or 14, I'm 20 now and it's so nice seeing you guys again. Nostalgic
Jun is code switching!!! I do that a lot in Spanish and English!! It's genuinely sweet to do, so please!! Don't stop now Jun it's good for both practice and wholesome to watch
I’ve been following you guys for years, and I can tell you something that hasn’t changed. - I always walk away from your videos feeling inspired to be better. Thank you for being genuinely good people. ❤
One of my reason why I learned English, because I love to learn about some stories from people around the world especially like Rachel n Jun. I'm motivated
I definitely want more of videos like this!!! I love hearing about your years together and how you’ve grown together Over time!! Been watching your channel for the longest time and I miss the videos where your together like this!! ❤❤👏👍
I’ve been following you guys since your first channel all the way when you first started and it’s wild how much time as passed. I’m glad to still be hear watching your content and that you both are still hear creating and sharing. ❤
You know, putting out this example of healthy communication, self reflection and how to handle disagreements with a partner might be very valuable on a wider scale! As I was watching I caught myself thinking “imagine you’re someone who has never experienced a healthy and respectful relationship, stuck surrounded by an unhealthy bunch- previously you might have never ever known anything different but there now exists at least one example within your reach, thanks to the internet.” Isn’t that a bit wild?
I've been watching your videos for a looooong time, back when Rachel was still traveling back and forth to Japan and posting on the RachelandJun channel (RIP). So I can definitely see, as a viewer, how you both have grown with each other for the better. Congrats on 14 yrs, may you have many many more ❤
Talking videos like this are great and I miss them so much!! More would be amazing ❤ I think the language aspect of "international" relationships is super interesting. Would love to see a video from you guys talking about your experiences with it, what language is used the most in what situations, how Rachel's journey learning/speaking Japanese has been (since we already know a bit about Jun's English journey haha), if after 14 years you guys feel there's still a "language barrier". Jun discussed some linguistic aspects a bit in this video but I'd love to know what Rachel thinks about it as well. IMO it'd also be cool to hear more Japanese in your videos! ❤❤❤
I enjoy all the videos you put out. Whether it's sitting talking, buying/making things for the cats, or gardening and home stuff. It's all interesting! I especially enjoy when you make things, it's inspiring to me.
I'm so happy that you two are still around! I liked when you made the funny skits that also educated about japanese culture. Most of all, though, I'm just happy that you two are still happy and healthy. Please update us as time allows. ❤ 😊
I can't believe it's been 14 years, probably over 10 years subscribed. Wish there was more videos, but yeah, too cute, give us more of videos with you 2 doing anything. Gives really good feels.
I've been following your channels for 10 years! It's been a journey! haha I was glad you both appeared in my life. I lost count on how many times watching your videos would cheer up the mood. Thanks for being there, Rachel, Jun and the kitties! I wish all the happinness in the world! 🤗🤗🐱🐱
I get that about the money anxiety. I had a similar childhod financial situation, and feel guilty every time i buy something that isnt strictly necessary, or might convince myself that necessary items are luxuries and that i shouldn't buy it even if i need it. It can be a hard habit to break, but im sure its easier with someone supportive like Jun by yoir side❤
I love that Jun's response to being told that his response is not that of a normal person is not to claim he is normal but to point out Rachel also is not normal lol. You two are so funny and adorable. Also, wonderful to see Haku's approach to his workout regime in the video (I highly approve). Kudos to the ginger cat for sending the moles a message.
After living in Japan, I love that Jun has stayed true to his Japanese upbringing. He’s so patient and non confrontational. And it’s so true that different languages bring out certain behaviors. I tend to be a mellow person by nature but get more argumentative in English and more judgmental in Spanish (or the mix of both). I definitely communicate differently with my Japanese coworkers. It does feel more detached but overall understanding. 😊
I've watched your videos for so long and now my 5 year old has been getting into all the old videos about the cats and Rachel -- we've been watching the one about Poki and how you got him, being a trash cat, and the gachapon episode with banana hat Poki. It's so fun to see you both grow and change and love on the kitties.
You know, I haven’t watched any of your videos in probably 5-6 years, but I randomly thought of y’all and needed the wholesome pick me up. Much love, know that your content sticks with people ❤️
I've been following you guys since the beginning of secondary school and I am now in my sophomore year at university. I don't know if this sounds strange but you guys are one of the good parts in my childhood 😂 I was just scrolling through my phone when I stumbled upon your channel again, and it gave me some kind of nostalgia. Time really does fly and a lot has changed but it's so good to see you guys sitting there together. I love the wholesomeness and the sincerity of yours. Stay healthy and stay happy my dear friends. ❤
I started the watching Jun cooking, which I truly enjoy and would like to see more. Then I was introduced to Rachel, which I also enjoy watching too. Jun’s English is perfect.
this is so cute ❤ tbh i remember subscribing for japanese learning tips back in 2014, but now that my japanese is pretty good i’m like: whatever y’all want to make i’ll support w
14 years wow! Congratulations. I have grown up watching both of you, and now as an adult it is amazing to see videos like this! Cheers to more years :,)
Rachel!!!!!!! I know exactly how you feel about the back seat driving thing! I’m also an American married to a Japanese guy and this is the one thing we argue about! I was especially sensitive about any kind of “helpful comments” since I couldn’t drive for a while when I first come here (even after driving for 10 years in the us) then finally driving I get these comments. and i understand now where my husband and Jun are coming from but I can’t help but feel like… insulted? (lol) I’m just use to comments from others in my car not coming from kindness but rather condemnation. But then the opposite for my husband when I reply defensively and he’s totally confused why as he sees it from a place of kindness and helping. Thank you for sharing this cuz it helped me see my husbands side better.
I like these glimpses into your dynamic as a couple, even though it's non of our business, it is so interesting to see how you fit together. Happy 14 years🎉 may you have even happier years
For sit-down videos, I'd love to hear about how your (Rachel) thoughts/feelings/perceptions of Japan have changed now that you've lived here so long! (I'm coming up on 7 years now, and mine have changed a lot, so I'm sure yours have even more!) It would be fun to hear about other recent culture shocks besides driving, too! It's so interesting how they keep coming up just as you think you've uncovered them all. Finally, I'm totally biased because I am a bookworm and work with books for a living, but I'd love to hear about what books you've been loving recently. Always looking for more to add to my endless TBR list! I'd love to hear from both of you your house plans! I know my house to-do/to-build/to-buy list is super long, so I'm nosy about what other people plan to do. Really whatever you want to talk about would be great, though! I've been following since 2012...ish, I think, and I'm just happy to hear from you guys whenever and whatever!
personally i started watching you guys though jun's kitchen. but i love all your guy's content, cats, diy, cooking. all of it is good and i find both your voices soothing, yet also fun to listen too as you two bounce off eachother very well.
I'm Japanese and liked this video! Need more of this kind of cultural differences conversation/discussion! Especially, the backseat driving topic was interesting and I'd love to know more about that and what Rachel was trying to say. Also, this relaxing conversation style video is awesome.
I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 10 years now started when we were 16, and the time went so fast i had the same reaction as Jun when i realized how long it has been. Happy to see other couple that are happy as me with their long time partner
I love you guys. You can talk about anything and I'll watch it. I do love when you talk about cultural differences! Jun is just so level headed and kind and rachel is so fun and expressive.
It was lovely to see you both again. I popped on RU-vid for a moment and when I saw your faces I took a break. My daughter would love the Sakura boxes. I would like to see a video conversation about your aspirations for the future.
Oooh wow, the whole "backseat driving" conversation was really interesting. I am Swedish, and I thought I knew what "backseat driving was" when coming across it. But now I realised I had completely misinterpreted it. I thought it was a good thing, just like how Jun explained it. I didn't realise it was considered something as something bad or negative. So this was fun to learn.
it's so amazing hearing Jun speak so fluently in English... he sounds like he lived in the US for most if his life 😂❤ Rachel is a good teacher and Jun is a good student and vice versa
Hi! Long time viewer here. I think your channel was maybe 2 years old max when I first started watching you guys. It’s so nice to see you both talk. I miss when RU-vid was more simple like this, without gimmicks and clickbait titles constantly. Don’t stress yourselves out, but please do create more 😊
Rachel being visibly uncomfortable when debating about backseat driving is mood😂😂😂 poor Jun coming from place of love but I can totally relate to this❤😂
I love this video! It was so insightful to see how a relationship can grow after so much time and some ways they personally have grown. It’s so beautiful to listen to
I think the difference between english and Japanese is the respect i think, english is outgoing and expressive while because of the culture you are more respectful in japan, easy example is respecting your elders, and i think that translates into how they speak without realizing it.
It goes deeper than this - fitting into the social norm and roles to be politically correct in a specific country and being respectful & very polite doesn’t have to mean it is truthful, it might only be acting because you know the social etiquette very well and want to fit right into it because of saying face & not putting negative attention on yourself … but in reality (in your mind & heart) you might not respect the person at all, so it’s all just an act “for the greater good of society” on the other hand, when you truly respect somebody, you might be more outgoing and open with them compared to somebody you don’t consider to be important to you.. but yeah of course you are totally right that there are quite severe, cultural differences.. but I wouldn’t only put it on the “respect” pov. But ion many things… Like you deal with your feelings, emotions, how you express sour self, how you communicate your emotions, feelings etc. being more introverted VS extroverted etc.
For the driving question, I'd say it depends. If you're going somewhere new, or with a lot of traffic, it can help (varies driver to driver). But if it's familiar, having someone comment can be distracting. It can boost anxiety that you're missing things even if you already saw them, or be confusing if you're taking a specific route and are instructed to take conflicting directions. I'm the type who hates back seat driving, for the above reasons XD
Nagi mike❤ I love your cooking videos, kitty reports, DiY videos, showing some outdoor places and activities, and how you totally are kind to each anothers, human and animal alike. 😊
As an American, who lives in a foreign country for 7 years now and also has a foreign spouse… I totally get you when you said you are less judgmental. I’m not sure why but it was definitely part of me subconsciously judging everything about people. Living abroad has taught me to chill out and let everyone do what they want.
20:50 - I think it's more if someone's constantly advising your driving. We consider the seat beside the driver's seat the navigator's seat here. I think it's more because it was harder for my mom to navigate on roadtrips when I was sitting up front as a kid ( mom wanted me to see everything). I'm from Canada so unsure if it's just a my family thing or not. Totally understood the internalized misogyny part...I thought it was that but it was more I was always slightly sporty (yoga, dance, gymnastics) and I like pastels. I think I mean I'm not hyper feminine but have found a better balance. I'm still working on it (it does stem from my mom's PTSD from having a rougher childhood).
I would love to see cat wall bridges and other wall mounted DIY or purchased, but installed on the channel, items in the future. I enjoy the sit down and chat videos too but I think the reason I subscribed all that time ago was for the DIY content. Looking forward to what you do next. Thank you for making RU-vid videos and all your hard work.
I love listening to you you are so comforting, I am interested in all the content especially living in Japan because I am really interested in that myself
Omg Jun speaks English so well! He even has a native american accent :O (I may be wrong because I'm a native Spanish speaker, but I want to know a native american opinion to see if it is the same than mine)
I love how they learned new things about each other even though the video is about them being together so long 😂❤ I love when couples are interested in growing and finding out new things to talk about ❤❤ being in the married life is fr hilarious 😂😊❤
Hi Rachel! I know this sounds weird but I have panic attacks really randomly and for some reason I don't really know why; your videos take me out of it. I can guarantee that it will pass by the end of the video. Your videos remind me of Miyazaki, how he expresses there is such beauty in the mundane? Which is why it looks so beautiful just to watch a character cut vegetables or go for a walk. I would watch you do literally anything and feel like I've spend time with a comforting friend. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Love this video. It's interesting to see how you have melded your cultures. I've noticed over the years that Jun seems much less formal, and I've always associated the formality with Japanese culture. Americans in general tend to be very informal.
20:51 In Iran we mostly say front seat.(صندلی جلو) If we talk about taxi, it instantly implies, front passenger seat. And its not mistaken by driver's seat if you say front seat. Because if you are the driver. You just say "I was driving" when talking about the in car things.
I had the same issue growing up of not wanting to be girly or feminine because I absorbed a lot of misogynistic messages. I like that Rachel can reflect on herself in this way. Jun comes across as above it all somewhat. I think you can do vlog content, or Japanese culture content or relationship content, travel content, cooking content. Literally anything and we'll watch.
I thank my gf too when she points out something I miss in driving, it's completely normal. Though I can tell she is helping, whereas when Mum does it, it can get on my nerves. I think it's more to do with feeling comfortable around them.
As a french living in Japan for a long time, for the backseat driving it all depends to the relationship you have with the driver. Some driver appreciate when people sitting next to them give them advise how they drive or "oh be carreful". But some french, italian that I know have big egos and don't like to be told what to do "watch out etc". For me it's more I want to feel safe as a driver and as a co-pilot so if I am with a "big ego person" I will not say anything. But if I am with someone I trust or recently with my boyfriend we did a roadtrip in Gifu and I was actively a copilot, give him advises, direction etc and we both feel safe this way. It's not that I don't trust him but it's a team work so yeah... really depends to my relationship with the person driving.
Pure Gold 😂 in germany it is often rude to Do "backseat driving" my husband is annoyed "yeah, i See it/i'm driving etc " . Wish it would be more like in Japan😊
