I have found that an unmade bed leads to 'broken window syndrome'. This is where for example, a window gets broken in a neighbourhood and not fixed, the area seems less cared for. Then someone might drop some rubbish, someone else will do some graffiti, and so on. As far as the bedroom goes, an unmade bedroom is the broken window. This may lead you to just drop things on the bed when you come in from your day, leave clothing on the floor, leave a dirty tea cup on the bedside table etc...This chaos then has a ripple effect on you home, your day and your life. It is good to apply this idea to your whole home and tidy up after yourself. We've all been there, wondering, how did my home become so messy! For those struggling with health and weight, know that your choices for the first meal of the day also impact the rest of the day. The first unhealthy choice makes you feel bad, so you are less likely to have the energy to make a good food choice after that. Love yourself by having nourishing food for breakfast! I hope these ideas help someone :-) Thank you Nick for a fantastic teaching!
So a way to look at it isnt your depreiving yourself of being you. Which is how some people will see it ( you arnt living a genuine self) but rather your shaping it from a lower negative mindset to a higher healthier mindset via the tasks you do.
I have spent a lifetime observing [with deep fascination] how a human's interior life projects itself outward into their home's interior landscape. Your home is You - reflecting a mirror of truth back to yourself. The untrained mind is unconscious of these subtle patterns because much of society has neglected the cultivation of nuanced mind-training & self-knowledge in favor of compulsory mind-conditioning schools that have had misplaced priorities. One may look at this is OCD/ overthinking/ overanalyzing... but I invite you to consider that we all have layers of filters that influence how we perceive what's in front of us & all around us. Do you *see?* or do you subconsciously overlay & pre-categorize what you are looking at? Well, Who doesn't? How much are you really *fully present* in each moment of your day? Or do you insulate yourself against what you cannot yet face about yourself & your own reality? No one judges you but your own self, who only wants you to develop in ripeness over your lifetime driving this human vessel. Your unconscious will always talk to you in symbolic language; it will use dirty clothes on the floor, dust everywhere, un-attended-to bed, in the most vulnerable sanctuary that you repose & repair in, to reflect to you your inner turmoil that needs your attention & full awareness. Put your own house in order, both inner + outer; get your priorities right...starting with developing a right relationship with self. House usually sorts itself out as a natural consequence of returning to being in balance.
I wake up, immediately open the curtains for light and then make my bed. The night before I make sure my things are in order and all dishes washed so I can start my day in a happy place.
I have always made my bed nice and neat every day since I was old enough to make my bed. Loved seeing a well made bed however that all changed 3 months ago when I got a kitten, I still make my bed in the morning and then kitty bounces all over it. I have now learned to enjoy kitty more than a well made bed.
200! Wrote this down in my notes as a piece of mental tech that seems to have drifted away. But read this comment after... Cool- thank you , enjoy the channel :)
A quick tip to be able to make bed quickly: no need to put a lot of stuff there, you won't need them when you sleep. Simplify it. Perhaps use only 1 or 2 pillows and a blanket, that's it. No more items. I used to have a lot of 'aesthetic decorations' on my bed. Like different kinds of throws, with many decorative pillows, in all different colours and sizes. It was such a pure hassle. Yes it's pretty to look at, but totally unnecessary because at the end of the day from all those pillows, I only use one 😥 Since then, I threw them all away and simply have two pillows and a blanket on my bed. Tidying it up literally only takes less than minute 😄
Agree. I dont need to make the bed because if this. I only have fitted sheet, blanket and pillow. In fact I dont because the position of the pillows obviously helped with sleep so I dont wanna move them. When I make the bed, it takes me forever trying to adjust to a comfy position.
Haha. I'm glad we found the connection ☺️ but it's ok, in Buddhism we say just 1. Stop doing that habit and the 2. Start doing the new good habit now ☺️
Proscrastination is resistance. It’s all it really is. There is a great book called ‘the war of art’. It really simplifies the understandings and makings of procrastination🌞
All you say is profoundly true…. I had good parents and learned early in life to make my bed. I don’t think there’s ever been a single day in my life when I haven’t made my bed as soon as I get up. I agree with you that it is the foundation of a disciplined life. I make my bed, wash my face, brush my hair and get dressed, then meditation whilst the world is still waking up - sublime, and lays the foundation for a peace filled day….thank you again for your insight….blessings.
It makes totally sense now why "home tasks" are the first thing therapists told depressive people to do. I'm a depression survivor that didn't do their bed because of it so yes, I can tell this helps! When your surroundings are "healthy" your brain understands it as you're healthy too. It may take years to recover but it's seriously worth it.
Thank you so much for sharing this Paula. When I work with teens, this is one of the first things I assess as well as it directly relates to their mental health. Cleaning the room can make such a big difference :-)
@@paulawolanski3237 My roommates and I have a dog and a cat ... I prefer not to sleep with their fur on my sheets. Mentally I thing it instills a good habit. Something to build from in other areas of life.
@@paulawolanski3237 it retains body odor and home dust. If you live in a hot country like me, it gets worse; if you live in the country side or poorly urbanized areas it can host insects. It works basically as clothes. You don't go outside with your clothes wrinkled and with body odor right? Well, it's the same with beds.
It is not judgement . It is performing an action with positive intention and receiving positive results . Quoting Buddha is a positive inspiration . Thank you . You , yourself as much as anyone in the entire universe deserve your love and affection ~ Buddha 🙏🏼✨💕
I prefer to make sure that my sheets are cooled down before making my bed. I read something years ago about bacteria and warm bed sheets and that got stuck with me. So I get up quickly, do some reading and diary writing and then make my bed. Then breakfast etc. and start of the day.
I believe in tasks, goal setting and mental tone.. However I was taught, sleep is a ritual. Before starting your day.. anything-a morning prayer is essential. After a gratitude prayer, I was trained by to "air out your bed", open windows, spray your linens with essential oils, sage, or burn incense in the room ( especially, when you have wild dreams). If I have nightmares, I change my sheets..as the bed "airs" out, you take care of your hygiene, and as you are dressing, or finished dressing to make your bed.(later in life I was encouraged not to put or store things under my bed.. Feng Shui) When finished always check your room, pick up and tidy. It really sets a tone for accomplishment. If you can do this..it helps your day routine..and mindsets. Thank you for your encouragement.
Yes I agree, first thing open the curtains then the window to let all the stale air out and fresh air in, pull the covers off and let the bed and pillows air, then go back after breakfast and make bed up, clear away beside table glasses, cups, tidy around floor area of slippers and nightwear.
Yes, when you buy a new mattress there is usually manufacturers care guidelines included in the package. Over the night the mattress absorbs your sweat so you have to remove the blankets to let the mattress breathe and dry properly so you dont get mold and other issues. As such making your bed is counterproductive and in the long run it could be bad for your health and the longetivity of the mattress. Our parents and grandparents didnt know better so they thought us wrong.... the bed needs to air out.
I made my bed a safe space over the past three years. Before I used to suffer from depression, anxiety and a lot of other worries, especially during bedtime. I started getting out of bed each time I had negative thoughts. I’d go to my balcony and think there. Now three years later, I have trained myself to actually feel happy and rested in bed. I am allowed to have negative thoughts, just not in my bed. Part of that practice is making your bed❤️
@@nickkeomahavong01 thank you for your reply, And I’m doing good! My best friend passed away recently and I decided to make a special place for her on my balcony, so I can spend time with her there whenever I’m alone. The moral of the story is that you can get through a lot, just by being kind and taking good care of yourself❤️
I always make me bed every morning as soon as I wake up. My former boyfriend always made the comment that I was wasting my time and didn't need to make the bed since I would be sleeping in it again that night. I told him it was something I like to do and that it made me feel I was starting my day off in an organized and positive manner.
I heard a funny story or read it somewhere, probably on youtube or from a comedian someone's kid asked "Why do I have to make my bed when I'm just going to get into it again?" and they said "Why do you wipe your butt when you're just gonna poop again?".... not quite the same but just say that to anyone who asks.
I'm the exact opposite Words like 'organized' and positive ' make me want to run away. I'm actually organized, but I hide that from myself. It creates more room for a wonderfully spontaneous and blissful day if I don't focus on it.
A co worker once asked me what kind of exercise regime I followed...I replied: I get up in the morning & I make my bed, I dust, sweep, clean my bathroom/kitchen, I take out the garbage, I walk to work & back home. I love to make my bed...I love changing the sheets & airing out my pillows, blanket, duvet ...I like choosing what colors to pick when I change my bedding...more often I choose white. Today I chose different shades of blue for bedding. It is so satisfying....luxurious; & I try not to hang out in my bedroom but keep it for my meditation/prayer time, & sleep. Cheers from Italy.
I thought I was the only one, except the walking to work and back. I had 4 long haired cats so vacuuming every morning was a must. I could never sleep in an unmade bed..it messes with my head.
@@brandonnguyen9555 what you say definitely has some truth to it, because I'm very similar to the original commenter and most certainly have mild OCD. The need to have everything in my home "just so" can be maddening, which is far from being balanced.
Man...sorryyyy....I dont agree with this at all. I am totally into Buddhism of course thats why I watch these things....BUT...there are just too many variables and you are not taking into consideration artistic or extremely intelligent individuals. Too broad this whole thing and a guessing game IMHO
Not a problem my friend. Like I said, take what works for you and disregard what does not. Keep in mind that for Buddhist monks, this is simply part of our training, and everything we do is part of a self-training to simply prepare us for one thing, and that one thing is meditation. We just fine that having good habits and a clean outside world translates to a better meditation. And again this is simply from the lens of a Buddhist monk training :-) thank you for taking the time to watch and share Phil. Hope you are safe and well :-)
I agree, there are more important things to do early in the morning than making the bed, it can be done anytime. If your sleeping alone,fine ,you can make the bed immediately but if you're husband is still in bed when you wake up, is it possible
If you want to understand you need to leave America or the western world for that matter and touch other cultures you have only one view of an ever expanding reality full of inumerable possibilities, so before you define that you do not agree with something from the get-go. Peak just a little closer you might find there is something there you didnt see before.
This is lovely. Never thought of how such a small act if making my bed could influence my life. But then our life consists of a series of small acts. Blessings to you Nick.🙏
I am definitely person one, but sometimes I make my bed quicker because my cat only likes to sleep on made beds and she won’t stop meowing (complaining) until I make my bed for her to sleep on haha
Up to my 40's did everything expected of me, mowed lawn when needed, opened all mail, and made my bed. What did it buy me, well, life chaos ensued, lost everything I valued. Now, just do what needs to be done, no timetable, never open mail throwing into a box, bed making is for bedtime, and see no difference other than less stress. Only thing in life that matters is Love friendship, and helping others who need help.
This is fascinating. Thank you.Personally, I open the bed and take the sheets and pillows to a chair, airing the bed and the room for at least an hour (I work at home), and afterwards make my bed. This subject of making the bed immediately was discussed by my friends and me recently. They make their bed immediately. I like the sun to clean the bed for a while before I make it. Now I see perhaps it may be the seed for procrastination, yet how about allowing fresh prana to the room and sheets?
Wonderful. I think either one is okay as long as the intentions are there. Which seems like your intentions are dead on. Keep up the great work my friend :-)
This was a wonderful way to breakdown how the habits we develop can have control over our mindset. We underestimate the power making our bed can have. Even just seeing my bed nicely made can relax my mind before sleep.
Ditto. I’m a very productive person, and the rest of my house is clean and tidy. I simply don’t make my bed unless there’s a possibility of people seeing it.
I feel sluggish in the morning. If I don’t leave the bedroom, I will get back into bed. I make the bed next time I am in the room. If I was rushing off to work, my brain would be clearer. I’m old enough to know I can’t snap my fingers and turn into a ‘better’ person
That small little nugget was the most profound thing I have heard in a long time.The biggest problems have the simplest solutions don't they! Thank you:)
I cant agree more. When I was in college and living in a dorm with roommates, I saw this first hand. Here in the Indian colleges we didn't have washing machines so we washed our clothes by ourselves. I washed my sheets every 10-12 days. I had roommates who wouldn't wash their's for two months sometimes. They would turn over their sheet to sleep on the "cleaner side" after one side got dirty 🤣🤣
while i agree with you, i think this is a privileged point of view. $15 at the laundromat for bedding is like 4 days of food for me. so once a month is all i can afford.
@@havvasweb A bucket of water and laundry soap is less expensive. Where I live, there are no laundromats. We wash our linens in the river and carry them back to our houses to dry, or we use a bucket in our kitchens in the dry season. I spend about $0.30 in detergent to wash my sheets.
I'm gonna be that guy. 100% divided into thirds is 33 1/3%, not 30%. I'm clinging to my desire for accuracy at the expense of my humility (not very Buddhist of me).
he didn't talk about the remaining 10%. he'll probably talk about that in a separate video. make sure to subscribe so you may learn the secrets of what happens in 10% of your day. (I'm gonna go on a limb and say it's related to pooping and stuff 😁😁)
To me making the bed can be very important for it influences how much you will want to do during the day. What I mean is once you make the bed, you'll want to keep up the good habits and will want to do more during the day. I never feel right if I don't make the bed, I feel lazy and not to motivated for any other task. Kinda silly but that's how it is for me.
That's beautifully stated Matt. These little habits and wisdom you cultivated seem small but they are so big. Keep up the great work my friend. Greetings to you from Thailand 😊😊 stay safe.
I am both person one and two, sometimes I make my bed straight away, sometimes I wait but everytime I make up my bed as soon as I get up, I seem to get more done for some reason and feel much more energetic and when I come back to my room I feel so fulfilled and relaxed entering a clean space, I love your videos and I thank you so much for sharing your process
My child's 7th grade teacher taught the kids to make their bed right away when they got up so they would see a clean, nice space when they came back from the shower. My child then taught me to do it. I've been doing it ever since and some days it feels like the most powerful gesture I can make to bring order to my life. Making my bed has become a powerful symbol for me. What a great teacher. She may never know how her efforts to help the kids have helped so many others.
My spouse is a mix between number one and number 3 and he embodies both of those characteristics/ habits. I keep telling him that there’s some psychology behind it, that promptly making your bed upon waking leads to a more organized life and better mental clarity but he always claims that to be silly. Thank you for the confirmation!
CAN CONFIRM! im an awful mix of #1 AND #3 as well!!! Its so unfortunate 😫😫 and i have mixed emotions about it too 🙄🙄😅😅Ive never been made to do anything & its really cost me some lifeskills. i feel let down by those who DIDNT raise me! & EVEN MORE STRONGLY COMPELLED to create a better routine for my 7yo IMMEDIATELY.... This video offered causes to explain effects, identified probs without assigning blame & omg- dare i say SOLUTIONS?! Nothing silly here, sir. I pray your husband grows more humble; I learned modesty & self humor are vital to TRULY HONEST self critique... and I send you my compassion, patience & love.
Wakes up at 4am go do the bathroom things gets dress go back to bed for a few more minute so wife can cuddle cause she likes it that way. At 5 am go to my car and drive to work and wife stays in bed because we work different hours. Kinda rude if i rolled her out of the bed just to fix it.
Hello Kimberly, couldn't help it, because you look gorgeous. All I really want to say is, for 3 months, you got to wake up and sleep on your own bed, no one else, because you can get used to solitude,(completely different from loneliness) self-esteem, and of course develope initiative. Peace with you and take care
I thought I had it all together, but seems like just making your bed doesn’t do the trick. No more pressing the snooze button and slouching around from now on
I was raised from a young age to make my bed first. Mom always said, "It is the biggest thing in the room, make it look neat." I am now 50, and though I have lived in typical American (USA) houses, my car, a tent from last frost to first frost, a hammock, and traveling the US East Coast staying in strangers' homes - I have very rarely not made my bed shortly after waking. Even during hospital stays, I get up as soon as physically possible and make the bed. I end up on top the covers with a homemade quilt on my lap, but that bed is made. My bed is the single neatest thing in my life. My art supplies and my creations (30+ types of art gear), my bookshelves, my plants and the extra stuff life seems to require (clothes, kitchen and bath things) ... mmm, I'm an artist. Everything is in a state of 'loosely organized' chaos 90% of the time - but at any given time something was just organized neatly. Five times in my life I have reduced my total belongings to less than 200 items. I'm due to do that again. I want to anyway. But after 3 straight years of losing loved ones, I am on a different reducing my possessions journey. I'm still figuring it out.
There's a fourth scenario: I get up, three hours later my husband gets up, and I finally get to go back to the bedroom, make the bed, and use the bathroom. Meanwhile, in my pajamas, I've cleaned the kitchen, had breakfast, and started work (I work from home).
This is almost exactly me! Hubs get up hours later, as he’s a night owl. I’m a morning person, so by the time he gets up I’ve already showered, meditated, done a gentle yoga practice, cleaned the kitchen (we are a house of 9 people) and then begin my studies/work. Somewhere around lunch time I can get back into the bedroom and tidy up. 😆
Weird observation. A guy I was with had a messy bed every time I'd come over. He ended up being very careless with my emotions or how to treat me. Makes sense now...
This is strange. I make my beds according to the season. On winters I throw all my blankets on the floor, do my chores, wait till the bed has cooled off. Then I make my bed. In spring and summer I take all my blankets and pillows out to air out and keep them in the sun all day. In the evening I bring them in and make my bed. 🤔
This is so true. Ever since I can remember I was up with the alarm and fixing my bed. If I skipped it something felt off. Like it was ruining my flow. I always have liked to be organized and I love fixing problems. This was so accurate. Thank you for this video.
My type of person is not of the three: I always make my bed before I leave home in the morning -- I don't like an unmade bed. But when I make my bed depends on the morning. I need "my time" in the morning so I get up 1.5 hours before I have to be at work. I read, I plan, I write, when no one is awake but me. I love the morning hours -- they are meditative and contemplative for me.
I sleep on the couch coz my dog sleeps dead center of my bed & goes to sleep early. I don't want to disturb him, so I sleep on the couch, no blanket,coz my house doesn't have a/c & gets really stuffy, even during the Winter months. Usually at some point during the night, my dog wakes up & realized I'm not there, then joins me on the couch. I don't have an alarm because I don't have anywhere I need to be. I'm older, so I'm done with school, & disabled, so I don't work anymore. I was an only child, so I prefer to spend my time alone. I spend nearly 100% of my time in this one room, only leaving to go to the kitchen for food, which I eat in my room, or to let the dog out or in. My landlady also has a small dog, so we take turns picking up all the dog poop e ery other day. Once a week I venture out to the store to get groceries & supplies. I used to take the dog to the park every day, but my car broke down & I can't afford to fix it, so we don't go to the park anymore. I'm in constant pain, & have no friends or family. When I die, the government will cremate my body & throw my ashes into a mass grave with all the other indigents & people who no one cared about, but I don't mind coz I know that I am not this body. All in all, though, I'd say it's been a pretty pointless existence. I never wanted to burden anyone, & that I have accomplished. Now I just lie around watching videos on RU-vid & wait to die. The dog keeps me company. I scratch his back & give him food & lots of treats. I think it's mostly a symbiotic relationship. I feel bad I can't give him more exercise. I hear him chewing on a water buffalo ear right now. I'm going to watch another video & try to go back to sleep. Every day is nearly the same.as the one before. I just turned 53, but I'm not close enough to anyone for them to know when my birthday is, so for the 14th (15th?) year straight, it passed without acknowledgement from anyone but myself. All I do is try to distract myself from the pain, keep my mind occupied so I am less aware of my suffering. In my youth, I travelled the World. I can't even revisit my memories because it makes me sad to think of what I can no longer do. Like I said, it was all pretty pointless. I hope I can fall asleep again soon.
Hi Nannette, Happy Belated Birthday!!!! I hear you! I hear your pain & sorrow! At home, we were taught not to burden anyone so we learned not ask for help. Sometimes we all need a little help! If you watched this video you might be willing to take a step forward. Open your heart and let people in… take a walk without a car & observe life, even through your pain. Forgive yourself for your past so you can heal and move forth one baby step at a time. You might meet someone out there one day that needs your help!
I usually get up, open the window to air the room while I go to the bathroom. After that I make up my bed. But I always kept it simple, 2 pillows and a blanket. No decoration stuff needed. I opt for nice home textiles instead.
I'm in my 50's. I remember my mom trying to teach my brother and me to make our beds, but I guess she gave up, because she made it most of the time. Even when I came home after graduating from college, she would go into my room and make my bed, all the way up into my 30's, when I finally could afford to buy a condo. So now I hardly ever make my bed. And I love my mother and late father, but do struggle with procrastination, perfectionism and a lot of insecurities. I think kids need their parents to patiently help them learn skills rather than doing most practical tasks for them, so that they start adulthood knowing they have skills.
Perhaps this isn’t as straight forward as one would think...but I feel like I’m a little bit of all of these rolled into one. In the past I made my bed every day- (type 1)-mostly because I found it more enjoyable/restful to climb back into at night with it being neat and tidy. For some unknown reason I just fell out of that habit and drew the conclusion that it’s mostly a waste of time (type 3)... but I am far from careless at work. My change in bed making habits did nothing to effect my work. I am a procrastinator (type1) when it comes to big decisions/changes, but when it comes to things like deadlines I tend to take the bull by the horns and turn my work in early to avoid stress (type2). However, it is worth noting that I have been struggling recently with an inability to stay focused, and have struggled with making decisions and choices my entire life-seemingly regardless of my bed making habits. I did just recently receive a promotion at work...so I don’t really see how the correlations in this video are totally accurate in real life for me personally. I’ve watched several of your videos and liked them but this one kinda left me scratching my head. I’m willing to give making my bed another shot for a couple of months just to see if anything happens or comes of it, but I’m not seeing the validity at this point. Any thoughts?
Yes just experiment and see how it goes. But making the bed isn't just about work or big decisions, I think they impact the qualities of our mind, our refinement. So it may be bleed out through other areas. But like I said just experiment with it :-)
I would do 3 weeks of making my bed and 3 weeks of not making my bed, while observing closely the quality of my thoughts when I wake up and when I go to sleep. Really take the time to observe your emotional stability/ state, the pattern of thought that goes on in your head and your general mood. Personally I find it refreshing and easier to focus on my tasks after. Since I've already accomplished one thing today, I feel more enticed to accomplish other things. And when I go to sleep a fresh bed is like a cloud, that feeling alone was enough to make me wanna do my bed everyday lol
I would think the idea of wasting time by doing something nice for yourself like making the bed you can enjoy coming back and getting into at night, as an unexamined erroneous assumption that just cultivates the feeling of pressure and shortage of time that keeps on building up over the years and tents to create this latent feeling of unease and restlessness that is always there like a constant humming that slowly drives you mad without you even realizing it because after a while it doesn't raise above the threshold of your conscious awareness anymore. And this will most definitely affecte ones life in many ways without one even realizing it. Just my two cents... 🙂🙏
When I get out of bed, I like to pull the covers back and allow the bed to air out, have breakfast, clean up and then make my bed. It just makes my bed feel fresher, almost like putting on freshly washed linens. Thank you for your thoughtful video.
I definitely need to focus my attention on completing one task before my day starts. I jump out of bed and think if I stop to do anything I think wastes time is unproductive. This causes me to rush from task to task never completing anything to my satisfaction.
I’m so glad I discovered your channel a few days ago! I’ve actually been struggling with procrastination so hearing that the root cause is similar to the first scenario was truly a wake up call (pun intended) for me and I truly appreciate this gentle reminder. Thank you so much for this, Nick! I hope you have a good day, keep well and safe.
I grew up hearing my grandmother say, " how you make your bed, you lie in it." My bed is not just a physical space, it is my mind as well. My physical bed is a yoga mat. But in the bed of my mind is where I think the organization needs to occur.
Thank you very much for your insightful information. When I was much younger, I suffered from severe depression, and the therapist said that even if I could do nothing else that day, if I could get myself up and make my bed then I could say that I accomplished at least one thing. From that one step, I was able to progress and grow and overcome my depression. I have made my bed every day since, for the past 40 years, and it was my first step on the road to learning I can succeed at life. I am very grateful to you for your teaching, Nick. Again, thank you so very much!
This is my mum speaking back in the day, except her only explanation was “you need to find some discipline!” Listen to your mothers people, and this excellent video.
@@nickkeomahavong01 he has a similar concept as yours regarding base habits and with emphasis on self-development via responsibility. Although Jordan Peterson explains it best, his summary is you cannot promote meaningful change in self/household/community if your room is always a mess.
I'm a number 2 person....getting the bed made first makes it less likely to be drawn back into it..lol..and it looks that much more welcoming at niight when bedtime comes.
I am in awe how you contextualized making a bed to our daily habits. It is really a great message that made me think deeply and reflect how I neglected this small detail. May you continue to be a source of wisdom for us who are in constant restless and anxiety. Thank you very much.
Love this. My Mom always said you were not an adult until you learned to make your bed every day. I've tried to get it across to my grand daughter that this is important. She thinks I'm nuts. You validate me and my Mom.
You can follow science, i’ll follow someone who has discipline and a commander navy seals advice when it comes to making your bed. Im not saying this guy was ex navy seal but discipline in life will get you far than being lazy doing simple things. If you cant be arsed doing simple habit and simple things, just imagine when it comes to hard and complex task then. If you know you know.
Yes, making your bed is actually pretty disgusting. The moisture can't get away and the dust mites that feast on human skin cells need a certain level of humidity to survive. You should always strip your bed of the duvet and let both the bed and it breathe. The smells will disappear and your children won't get allergies. The obsession with packing the sweat inside the bed is really staggering
I disagree. You should leave your bed to air in the morning while you go to the bathroom and then make the bed. You should open the window as well during this time to refresh the air in the room
According to it, I’m person 2. But my reasons are actually different. I do what I have to do right away so I can have time to do nothing at all. I’m always finishing everything earlier than everyone so I can have the chance of having nothing to do. That’s pretty much my motivation 😂
That's brilliant. I love this concept. Doing nothing is important too, I've only learnt this in the last couple of years. I waste so much time with procrastinating and also drag my work out, so it takes double or triple the time to finish. This post will inspire me to finish, so I can do something I want like walking in nature, resting, reading, sitting in silence etc etc. Thank you 🙏🏽
I don't always make my bed right away, but I know that when I do make it, I make it well, and I feel so much better about myself, and life in general, for the rest of the day!
I disagree.. you may not make your bed and be productive… You can make your bed and be lazy when you go out in the world… I don’t agree with your analyzation On making beds.. ☀️
I never make my bed, and I’m not careless. I just think bed needs to air out during the day. Also, when you make your bed just before you get in it, you can uncover any spiders or whatever. Ha!
It’s okay. Just fold the blanket, set aside and spray the linens for allergens or with essential oils. Whatever makes you feel good when you come back to sleep again 💜
I'm the procrastinator! I hadn't made that connection! I always make my bed but it's after I wash my face, feed all my pets, wake the children and drink my coffee. My spouse has shift work and I often wake much earlier so cannot make my bed while he's still in it.
Defiled, raped, abused and bullied - consequences depressed and not interested in anything anymore. Don’t get up from bed until evening and don’t give a duck. Any advice for that? No doubt more victim blaming coming. Let me see your real self. Btw that is exactly what it is - judgement.
@@brandonnguyen9555 I agree... I make my bed after brushing my teeth and I am very responsible and on top of my things. Matter of fact I am a clean freak and my house is always in order. My Son NEVER makes his bed (not proud of that as I have always set the example but then again it's his room) and he is very responsible hard worker and very caring.
My grandmother was pretty strict about not making the bed until the bed was cold so that the heat wouldn't get trapped and cause like bug issues or something, I never reflected on the fact that it was hardwired in me from her to wait for the bed to cool before I make the bed. Very interesting, I'm glad I was reminded to question my habits. Thank you. :)
Thank you for sharing Ambi. That's very interesting. I have never heard of that before. It's so interesting how our culture and upbringing impacts our habits.
I was told by a physician to wait a bit before making the bed, letting the bed cool and air out. It had something to do with allergies and minimizing symptoms. Your grandmother might have been on to something. Very interesting.
Taking care of the bed by spreading the blanket to better air out and opening the window right after waking up still takes discipline, so I believe the positive effect holds here as well
I just wrote that and saw your comment! Also only referring to men - yet it is women with the wisdom here! The bed analogy is unskilful which is why these new monks are not the ones to entrust your precious life with.
self-awareness+self-discipline+virtue cultivation= goodness. Goodness+spiritual root & affinity= enlightenment. Make your bed or not is always up to you :)
Im #1....definitely a procrastinator. I was trained at a young age by my mom to make the bed. I shake the sheets, blankets and pillows, and open the shades for light to shine on the covers. I must have my bed made, such a comfort to crawl into a a tidy bed at night. If my husband gets up after me and doesnt make the bed, I'll make it at bedtime before I go to bed. I cant stand an unmade bed!
My natural impulse is: Getting up immediately, make my bed at once, then get on with the rest of the morning and day. However, with time I have learned that the bedsheets, duvet, mattress and pillow need to be aired so now - even though it is almost painful - I often leave my bed uncovered, the duvet hanging off the bed, the pillow by the side. So how when science get in the way of natural impulses?
Then I would get up a little extra early even if it's just for 5 or 10min before your alarm clock goes off. I pull my sheets and cover all the way down to air out as soon as I get up. Open the windows to let the sunlight in, go brush my teeth, wash my face, and put on clothes. Then I go back and make the bed before I leave my bedroom.
I grew up with very much of a different perspective. My mother being French had very specific ideas about child-rearing. So I never learned as a child how to clean things or make my bed. She felt that that was her job and that I should be about the business of being a child. Now as an adult I have trained myself in many of the physical aspects of life. Specifically what I do with my bed every morning is based on a French idea which is that we always use a frame at the end of the bed take all of the bed clothes and flip them up onto the frame exposing the mattress and the bed sheet. This allows the mattress to breathe. If you have been sweating overnight this allows the sheet to dry off. I then proceed to do my morning ablutions break fast and so forth ultimately returning to the bedroom and tidying the bed clothes. If I were a person who needed to go to work I would place this as the last thing I do before I leave. I also have developed a method of flipping all of the bed clothes quite rapidly so I do not have an excuse not to do it. Wonderful conversations!
"Make your bed, make your day". I have always said this out loud every morning as soon as I get up. My husband sees no need to make the bed. Even the dog knows she's not going out until the bed is made. She lies in her bed and waits. You are so on point!
I come back to making my bed after I've been to the bathroom, not because I procrastinate, but because it is hygeinic to AIR the bed when you've been sleeping in it all night. So I turn the covers back to let fresh air through the open window freshen up my sheets while I do what I need to do in the bathroom. Then I come back and make my bed neatly :)
I make my bed right after the bathroom, which is my first need. I comb my hair, dress myself, brush my teeth and feed my cat. I feel organized and it helps me think more clearly. When I return to my bed in the evening after a shower and turn down clean sheets and bedspread, I feel I can relax and meditate it a clean, quiet, comfortable nest I have lovingly prepared for myself. I wasn't always like this, especially when I was younger. I derive peace knowing all is well because I have cared for my needs and my families for the day. There's contentment. It's more difficult now as my health has declined and I can't clean as I once did, but I keep doing what I can everyday. Order has brought me ease of mind. Helped me think critically and take care of everyday needs. Wonderful teaching. Thank you 😊.
I wake up at 5 am everyday. My spouse wakes up at 530 am MtoF and sleeps in on the weekend. I enjoy making the bed at the very start of my day but I have to wait until my spouse gets out of the bed. What does that say about me?
Great post. Reminds me of the words "Accomplish the great by a series of small tasks" and "confront the difficult while it's still easy". The habits of forethought, mindfulness, and love of self are all exercised here.
For any of you single moms out there with a long commute, it’s ok to worry about your bed on the weekends or when you get a job closer to home. From a successful project manager. Now I’m old, work from home, make my bed everyday and love it. I do love this video but I really believe I needed to cut some corners somewhere back then, and bed making lost.
Person who takes 5 minutes to clean up their bedroom, bring in some scent into his bedroom, air filters in his bedroom is indeed a very lucky person.... his mind is around himself at least most of the times and he feels more important as time goes by.
What would be said of the person who lives in the room, doesn’t have much to do outside of it and so returns to the bed a multiple times over and over during the day?
I think this is a huge generalisation? I have never ever "made my bed" in the way you describe it. But I am never late, I don't think I can do "whatever I want" interacting with other ppl, my mind is not cluttered etc. So what changes do you think I could benefit from starting "making my bed" as soon as I wake up in the morning? I mean if I would to start I'd like to know the benefits
Feel free to use it as an experiment and see for yourself if there are any benefits. I'm not sure if you meditate, but if so, it may help to refine the quality of your mind and/or meditation experience 😊
The question is, why would you not make your bed? Wouldn't it make you feel better when going to your bedroom after a long day and find a welcoming tidy and freshly made bed there waiting for you instead of the old mess from last night? In which bed would it feel better to get in? And could this feeling then not somehow affect your sleep and through the day, weeks and years affect your life? On the other hand what could you gain from not making your bed? 🙏😘
@@edzardpiltz6348 I mostly meant the underlying suggestion that if you don't make your bed immediately in the morning or whenever you wake up, would make you a bad person with bad habits in general. That is simply not true
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