Husband Abandoned Me to Attend His Sister's Lavish Wedding While I Was 9 Months Pregnant, I Ruined.. 

Amen.

Bro that is just what I was thinking

Not just her but his children as well. He had no real love for his children. If he had, he would have stayed and standed up for his wife. He took them for granted

Rose colored glasses, as they say. I am just glad ex husb, mil, and sil got royally fucked.

It's the blinders for sure. Those with covert narcissistic tendencies will always appear that way to their victims.

The signs were definitely there, OP is just dumb.

I'm just glad she finally snapped out of it.

Probably a narcissist cover too people can act entirely different to the ones they’re trying to impress and not even be who they are in the slightest then flip a switch and suddenly they’re this cruddy person who you’d rather have on the other side or the known universe

I loved the part where her 5 year old daughter just innocently said: we'll soon have a baby in the house! So adorable ahh

Girly ate with that

​@@_axxika_3715love how the daughter did more than the deadbeat did in the entire marriage 😢

@@mindingmybusiness3915 for real😭😭 so cute

@@_axxika_3715 right and sad that her daughter had witness and didn't what to do

True that.

Even if they didn't investigate, how did she plan to keep the lie going about being a talented chef and owning a chain of restaurants? So stupid.

​@@mikouf9691 She can't even cook? What was going to happen when the in-laws ask her to make a family meal? Wait that's OP's fault I forgot.

This guy (BIL) is wealthy, but did not find this out before the wedding..? Unbelievable.

Reminds me of Anna Sorokin (a con artist and fraudster who posed as a wealthy heiress to access upper-class New York social and art scenes from 2013 to 2017). She was arrested for fraud. I wonder if SIL is the same person 🤔, lol!

Speaking fax!!!

Yea if someones friends or family(assuming they are close with family) are bad people then that person is no doubt the same and just puttingbon an act

​@@karljones7976 Not necessarily. A person's family doesn't always reflect who they are. It might make it more likely for someone to turn out toxic if their family is also toxic but that's not guaranteed. For example: a persons parents could be just the absolute worst kind of people (think: racist, sexist, homophobic, abusive, ect.) but their children (especially if they're taught by others not to be prejudiced like their parents) could end up nothing like their parents. They could even end up abused by their parents possibly even for not sharing their views making them innocent victims of their parents. So while I wouldn't blame someone for not dating someone because their family is toxic saying that the person they were dating is also toxic just because their family is isn't necessarily accurate. In this situation that was likely the case but not always.

@@diamondseraph9369 yea that's why I said assuming they are close with the family. If they are bad people and you're not, you won't be close with them

There's a saying in Spanish that my elementary school teacher would say constantly *_"Dime con quién andas y te diré quién eres"_* which translates to "Tell me who you hang out with and I'll tell you who you are" which seems extremely appropriate for this story

Totally agree!

absolutely contributed to it, no doubt in my mind

Stress is awful for a pregnant woman but especially during labor! It really does make labor significantly harder and even life threatening at times. There are even studies that show cancer sometimes manifests from emotional stress. I 100% believe it.

​@@hadilayyad6147 stress, unforgiveness, bitterness is a cancer in itself

Yeah, he nearly killed her with that, and both of his kids. It's lucky for him that the worst he could be charged with was negligence. Just the fainting could've killed her on the fall, or the baby...

Absolutely, if they're trying to talk about people to you, they're talking about you to people

@@phionella7 I learned this lesson the hard way. It's scary when you realize that everything you thought about someone was a lie.

Exactly. I've experienced this. Just cuz you don't talk bad about others, they will isolate you and talk behind your back

this never happened fool

Exactly. Emotional abuse is different, but is damaging and difficult to recover from.

Honestly can we pretend that was actually what happened? It's so funny.😂

I love this 😂

Absolutely! I think OP wasn't well enough to do that, but I'm definitely tucking away that response for similar situations if I ever need it lol

Or filled it with laxatives.. bottles and bottles of laxatives..

​@@Ohiofelonstate"Smooth move, Ex-Lax."

@@BIGBLOCK5022006 like 10 bottles of it...

Bro was absent for his son's birth but tried to guilt trip his wife by saying stuff like "our child needs a father too" What's even the use of such a good-for-nothing "mamma's boy" father breh😭😭😭

@@NidhishDessai A lying doormat, through and through. I'm glad OP and her kids are safe. Sarah is a badass even for a kid for not believing the in laws when they tried to poison her mind, and an angel for comforting her mother in a time of emotional upheaval.

@CuteDwarf11 the story is fake lol, it's not real

@@Endrat0x Even though, those douchebags got what they deserved - from all sides! 😝😝😝 A VERY SATISFYING REVENGE STORY! 👍

Child Support and Alimony for 18 years!!! CHA-CHING!! $$$$

At least he didn't do some shady shit to steal the baby. I saw a story today where a guy lied to the police to get his wife institutionalised because he didn't like the names she chose for their baby and he wanted to circumvent her and pick the name himself all because she wanted to give the baby her last name, which is the name of her dead ex husband (she was a widow). Instead he demanded she change her name and her older child's name to match his and the new baby's.

@@sweeety969 I remember a story like that, but the wife was actually crazy and wanting to act like her current child was her ex husband/'s. She wanted to use her (exe's) last name and give her child her exe's first legal name. The husband asked for a psych evaluation because he felt like he was treated like a stranger. The therapist noted severe repressed emotions regarding her ex, amplified by pregnancy hormones, so it became a concern to the child. I also heard of a worse jerk than you mentionned where the wife lied to the cops to name her child after her ex husband and ban her current husband from signing the birth certificate. No mental issues there, but the guy later had to adopt his own child when she abandoned it. People are crazy.

I was thinking the same thing just for the comedic turn but sadly it's not realistic 😭

That’s like some fanfic stuff but dang if that wouldn’t be a satisfying ending!

He's not taking on those kids

She missed that seduction (only in fairytale logic) train by not letting him taste her homemade sweets at the family dinner

So many men get away with being cruel to their pregnant wives and during postpartum. It’s awful.

He was as much a gold digger as a sister and mother are.

The main risk factor of homicide in women in the US is pregnancy.

Not a man at all. That's a Mama's boy.

In another story, the guy was mad she didn't want to give the baby his last name so he had her institutionalised and stole the baby from under her. She had to send bottles of expressed milk because he wouldn't allow her access to the baby to even feed it. And everyone was agreeing with him because of the rampant misogyny in the comments. Basically she had an ex husband and a kid with him, and they had last name B. She wanted to name the baby with last name B so they would match but he refused. He insisted on his name (let's say C name) or to use C name and her maiden name (A) in like a hyphen situation but she refused cause she went by B name and so did her other kid so this kid wouldn't match anybody. He then expected her to change her name to hyphen A and C and wanted to adopt her other kid and give it the same hyphen erasing and replacing his dad. Mind you the ex is dead, and she's a widow, right? Her ex isn't a deadbeat, he's dead. So it stings extra hard that he's trying to take his name off the first kid. And when they married she didn't change her name, and kept the old married name that matched her first kid so to change it now would alienate the firstborn. And they couldn't agree on names either because she wanted the feminized version of her ex's name ideally as the first name to their child and he was jealous of a ghost. Like I get it but at the same time, the other guy is dead, he's not coming back, it's irrational for OP to be this threatened by him. Anyway he tried to peer pressure her into seeing things his way by calling his family, her family and her ex's family. 2/3 disagreed with him and he lost that one hard. In fact they completely rejected the idea of him adopting her firstborn and changing his name like he wanted, and the idea of him putting his name on the new kid, because literally she did everything and she shouldn't have to have a different name from her kid and neither should her other kid just for the sake of his pride. Why he wouldn't just change his name is beyond me. I mean I know it's because he's a man and he feels entitled to his name and entitled to laying his claim on everything with it and so on but his arguments all just show how it's not her that won't compromise it's him really. Anyway when nobody agreed with him and even her friends started calling in and calling him out, they ended in a fight over the name where in the heat of the moment she snapped and said something about how she'd rather die than name the kid after him, so he called the police and told them she threatened to kill herself and gaslit her and lied and told them she had postpartum depression and institutionalised her. This is less than a week after she gave birth. She's still breastfeeding the baby. He went around behind her back to get her admitted in a psych hold on the deadline for the baby naming and went in and gave the baby whatever names he wanted (first, middle and last) and changed the locks. She sent her former in-laws to get the kids and he refused them entry. She sent her parents to get the kids and he sent them home with the oldest kid and refuses to let her see the youngest and claims she's a risk to her and now she has to express her milk and send it over because she's not even allowed to hold her newborn baby because of this asshole.

I noticed that, too! Especially when he extends his stay or leaves for whatever reason. What an asshole.

OP is just as bad as them.

Always wondered that. In fairytales the deception never goes that far, for other reasons

I did like the part where he tells op the kids need a father. "yes they do, what kind of father abandons his VERY pregnant wife and small child to go party in another country" also, how much do you bet that mil and sil bragged to everyone about their new found wealth, and how sil would be moving to live in europe?? wonder what they'll say once sil comes back to live with them?? cause the truth is not going to be an option for them, they're too stuck up for that.

Thats horrible, hope your situation is better now

Nah she probably didn’t just see the red flags or ignored them. It’s very common when women love their husbands.

The pink sunglasses of love is usually on when a person falls in love, over time they vanish or fade ! That makes you see clearly, any and all red flags show up! Also people are A-håles, not always stupid and does not jump straight to bad behavior!

He didn't. He just didn't attack and mock her openly to her face when he wasn't with his mom and sister. He didn't do it then, he just got his jollies from watching them do it.

That. Or he was very good at telling her what she wants to hear, lovebombing, or feigning remorse. Or maybe his new' wife isn't going anywhere, so I can start abuse' goal was at 2 babies now, since she seemed to handle one pretty well by herself even when heavily pregnant

Makes sense. His mom and sis did specialize in talking trash behind people backs and acting super sweet and friendly when alone face to face with them

YESSS

Never marry a mama's boy.

Is he too feminine?

@@Garbagecant24no but they are definitely talking shit about you behind your back also

I hear men actually do way more gossip than women but your point still stands

@@hanbaebummie3215 damn

If you overlap moms and sister's MO on him it starts making perfect sense. OP was just blinded by love and desire to work things out, when first noticing it, to really make the connection. While she got to observe MIL and SIL flip-flopping when they were barely more than strangers

Neither did I. I wonder if this is only in some counties.

Probably because op had a dangerous pregnancy previously

my theory is maybe he signed on to be her caretaker during pregnancy? like if she was previously discharged from a hospital into his care, maybe he could be considered negligent for leaving the country without ensuring she have adequate alternative care.

he's the father - the "suppose" protector of the family. The moment the police documented everything and he, SIL,MIL posted everything on net - he cemented the fact that he purposefully neglected and left his own family. He's not just an Ahole, he's also an idiot.

Not in the USA, but IDK about any other countries.

She probably got months or years of 'nice Andrew' imprinted over his image before, while witnessing MIL and SIL flip-flopping at the getting to know them stage, so struggling putting 2 and 2 together that he's just the same

More like a3user, but whatever....

Actually, I can believe that. My water didn't broke but I was bleeding, I got scared so much I didn't dare to move and just screamed for my husband from the bathroom. A friend refused to move until the ambulance came so she just sit there with her water. We both had husband taking care of us, she was alone so I can imagine her slowly crawling to call for ambulance

Have you ever been there? No. You've not so shut up. IDC if you have 10 kids. You've never been in her shoes.

It’s entertaining but I think fake no one who has ever had a baby could buy any of the labour part 😂

Good one😅😊