HYPERGAMY: It's A Trap | The Happy Wife School Show Ep.17 

Video Timestamps: 0:00 Welcome 6:25 Topic Introduction 13:48 My Message vs Red Pill Community 19:59 Most Women Marry At Their Level 24:07 Women Use Flaws as a "Back Door" 27:30 Women's Pursuit of Happiness in Relationships 37:41 The Solution 47:30 Questions and Comments

I never comment on any videos. I want to say something about what you're doing. I know you read comments all the time, but I just want to say that you are single-handedly improving my marriage just by influencing me with your knowledge on this subject. I've only watched your videos for a week. Your influence has led to some great epiphanies with my wife. Also, I can't ignore the fact that you're also helping me handle these situations 1000% better.. please keep making content 🙏 I am almost in tears typing this.

You are speaking truth. The kind of truth that gets men cancelled for saying it.

I was 23 when I married my 30 year old husband. I married up. He had a career and a new house. He got a young, thin, innocent 23 year old. He is the man of the house. I respect all his decisions. It is easy to do when he is older. Women like older men. We have a beautiful life and family 23 years later.

You're basically telling women to take accountability. That right there is their kryptonite.

I think that woman sometimes fall in love and marry an ideal fictional version of her boyfriend/fiance. Then once his flaws finally penetrate that glamour it shatters the their perception. At that point a woman needs to decide if she can see her husband as a good man with flaws like anything else or she can constantly zero in on his flaws. Too many women choose the latter

Here's the problem with hypergamy: Initially, it is meant to make women pick the top men in their socal circle. This worked out nicely until social media gave women the impression that random NBA players are now part of their social circle...

You are changing relationships. I hope you go totally viral. You are the Jordan Peterson of women’s psychology.

I agree, Karyn. I did stand up to her. She decided to have her family and friends on her side and turn her child before marriage- whom i adopted at age 10 - on me. I kept telling her i need a wife, not a daughter, but she stayed childish...

So why are there not more women like you? Ones that just talk straight sense. God bless you. Keep the wisdom moving.

I think that in most cases you give up your power when you're angry. However there is also righteous anger which isn't the same

A womans past matters as it is an indicator for her future. Accountability is key.

Karyn, i showed my wife your videos, and she initially got SO triggered 😂 but eventually she came around! Took about a week of watching your videos by herself, to come to realize how shes messed up. She did a complete 180 and we havent fought since. So thank you for all your content! Now, to red pill the rest of the women in my family 😅

The problem is when people treat hypergamy is an ideology. Instead of treating it like it just is true as a generality, and what can you do about it. Not as there's nothing you can do about it as a man or even as a woman. As Rollo Tommasi said, "Hypergamy is NOT a straight jacket." The Truth will set you free. Hypergamy being a Truth doesn't mean you are a victim. It only makes you a victim if you let that fact control you.

Usually when men speak out on this subject, a bunch of trolls will assume they are incels 🤦‍♂️ but at the same time, these videos didn’t just pop on your recommendations lol

Anger is a response to perceived injustice, not victimization. Yes, anger can arise from victimhood, however think of any injustice that provokes anger, like murdered babies, and that resulting anger is not from any personal victimization, but rather the injustice of innocent blood shed. The problem is that victimhood has been conflated with injustice for so long in our culture that is hard for Americans to conceptually divorce the two.

A woman’s goal is to find the perfect man and then change him.

Strong symmetry means that women, in their own words, had to “settle.”

Been watching for some weeks now (never commented). Tried sharing with my wife but she is definitely in victim wonderland. Is it too far gone? Not sure, I've made peace with it and am here to support her but I'm not from this country so I will ultimately go back home where women/society isn't always looking for the next best thing, better neighborhood, better school district, larger house, new car, faster internet, you get the point. People where I'm from are ok with life and take it as it comes. Well done professor

I married a woman that had been married before, this was my first. Her ex hit her and it ended in divorce. After being with her for 30 years and being treated the way I was, I understand why he broke and hit her. Not that it was right for him to hit her but it was the result of her treatment of him. I've lived this treatment and understand the frustration. The difference is that I'm a sigma male and she wasn't smart enough to change her tactics with me. The only thing I ever complained about with her was the lack of sex. She figured if she withheld it from me that she could break me, didn't happen. She moved out, thinking that would shake me up, that too didn't work. After a total of 40 years being married she still can't understand that sex is the most important thing to keep a marriage happy and moving forward. I told her that she caused her first husband to snap, but of course it was his fault not hers. Just as everything is my fault in our marriage, and she has done nothing wrong.

The only one that can fill the void in us is God! Our creator, our Most High. With Him as the authority in our lives, He can fix anything broken within us. And he can certainly fix our relationships.

Preach it! This is one of the best perspectives yet on the topic I have run across yet! Thank you!

Ok. I just reached the 45 minute mark. You just said something along the lines of we should be responsible for our actions. I agree with this, and have no problem with being responsible for my actions. However, in a marriage it takes two. The problem is that the laws make the man responsible for the wife's actions no matter what. It's because if she decides to file for divorce, because she decides she's just not happy, he gets to pay, pay, and pay. So, the only way for the man to truly be responsible for his actions is to avoid this stacked deck we call marriage. Then, the man can be responsible for just himself and not be held responsible for taking care of and being enslaved to someone who now hates him and wants to take him for everything she can get. Screw this.

So many RU-vidr's pronounce "hypergamy" incorrectly as hyper-gamy as in hypersonic. Thanks for pronouncing it correctly! Hy-pergamy.

I was watching a different video and it made me realize that men need to start saying no to women. Not in a mean way but in a "you standing up for yourself and not putting up with certain behavior" type of way. Be playful and light with them but don't accept rude behavior. Most women concentrate on what they don't have instead of what they do have. Stop trying to please them. Women, deep down, want to please their man and be with a man who will say no to them because that shows you are in charge and you can make her feel safe. She can't feel safe with a doormat. Almost all men will say yes to a woman or do whatever it takes to get some sex from their wife or girlfriend. It's like giving a kid candy so they will stop screaming in the store. Love and appreciate your wife or girlfriend for who they are and truly see the beauty in them but if they are disrespecting you and you are finding yourself putting in more and more effort while things are getting worse and worse.... just stop. Say no and "hold frame". If they don't want to change and don't want to respect you and/or withhold sex from you, no matter what, you need to start looking into moving on with life without her. You will be much happier and that's the truth. It's going to suck at first but most men who are confident and sure of themselves (at least to a certain extent) know deep down they will be much happier being single than with a woman who is unhappy and ungrateful. Facts!

Karyn, I wish we had you 23 years ago. I could have saved myself from 13 years of trauma tic life with a narcicistic wife.

Struggling with porn is so common I wished you talked about it. Obviously not always, but sometimes women push their men towards it and then they don’t understand the side effects.

12:30 i'm surprised that she views hypergamy as unsupportive or making men angry. when I first learned about hypergamy from red pill, I took it in the most positive way in the sense that I need to raise my standards to get quality women. (I also learned that hypergamy can easily turn into delusion for women who have unrealistic standards!)

Marriage with a license is what gives state courts jurisdiction over marriages. (Read the marriage license). There is another way to get married lawfully. There is a term in the military called rules to engagement. They study the subject (marriage, woman's background, family, job history) and think of strategies and options available before engagement (marriage) to minimize collateral damage if the relationship fails but at the same time reinforce the relationship if it stays in tact.

Used to hear the Negative reinfircement from my Mother-in-Law to my wife " You could have done better" My wife revealed this statement to me a few times. When the kids were grown my wife finished her College degree ( with my encouragement) within a few years I saw all the signs. She filed and BYE. At least the courts were fair. But the damage is done with my relationships with 2 of our 3 grown kids. I appreciate everything that you do. I pray it helps other people.

Hypergamy is not just a socioeconomic thing. It’s a perception of value. Meaning that if a woman thinks she’s missing something from a guy she will mate switch to the next guy who DOES have what she’s missing at the current time.

Such a powerful and truthful channel. Well done for creating it. Your wisdom and understandings are so badly needed in todays world. Wishing you massive success.

Most men want to stay because they are trying to please their narcissistic mothers in their lovers or wives . Forgive your mother's and just do you men ,and boys !

Haven't heard the magic word yet = Forgiveness for personal growth ;especially of parents , of self & understanding of others. "That's life" is so much more comfortable with ur skills .Thanks

Another awesome one Karyn! Lots of good stuff thank you very much. There’s some what negativity and anger on some of the red pill channels and your right about that. Navigating through red pill roads when trying to get healthy emotionally, mentally, spiritually can be tricky. In avoiding all the nonsense that are just anger.Thank you again.

Hi Karyn. Love your chats

Thank you so much for your content Karyn. After watching all of your videos I was hungry for more. I found Lisa A Romano and it has changed my life. The subconscious mind controls everything. We can’t change anything until we learn to look within, at the thoughts we learned in childhood, with a discerning eye. I am now awake. I would love to hear you and Lisa talk about this one day. 😊

Great class Karyn👍I will be stealing the phrase….. Life is hard, GET A HELMET 🪖 😂🤣😂

Your content is fantastic. It won't help our marriage but still, spot on information. In my opinion, or maybe I missed it somewhere, you seem to combine two different things into one word. While there is nothing wrong with happiness or being happy, no one should chase it. You buy a new car, you're happy. You get your favorite meal, you're happy. Unfortunately, those things are fleeting and short lived; leaving someone trying to find something to replace it with. Joy, on the other hand, is exactly as you describe in your content. Joy is finding contentment, love, happiness, forgiveness, fulfillment, etc in what you have. It is what we should wake up in the morning and choose to fill ourselves with. You find joy in your spouse, despite their flaws, looking past them and knowing what blessings you have with them. Our pastor constantly preaches, do not chase happiness, fill yourself with joy instead. Just my opinion, please keep up the great content.

Thank you. Very well said. I got my wife to watch one of your videos, the reaction was that you have labeled all women flawed, I'm typical trying to shift blame and have found a sounding board in you as a traitor to real women. So there you have it! I don't except or receive any of her crap and march on in the truth that sets me free. Keep up the good work. Shalom. ❤

I must say you do look very happy 😂 regards Stephen in Melbourne Australia.

‘Most men want to stay, most men want to work things out?’ Please give empowering advice on divorcing the emasculating adulterating wife and not losing half of your net worth.

This was an incredibly useful show. I love the concept of responsibility and how victimhood never is a good solution. I love your channel every show supplies useful ideas and thought patterns, thank you so much.

Anger is coming from the lens of a victim. Karen, you are brilliant.

Thank you❤

How can you learn and grow from the fact that the system is against you? Does the fact that the divorce court regularly murders the souls of men entail some lesson you can take with you to then better yourself? Not every reaction comes from the victim camp is where I am coming from.

I'm afraid all the dislikes are from women.

I appreciate Karyn Seitz, but I disagree with the idea that anger is always an expression of being a victim. Anger is NOT always an expression of being a victim. Anger is also something that we feel, and something that we feel when we stand up for what is right, or when we set about to put our life in order. Anger can be highly responsible. Karyn Seitz uses anger very effectively and very responsibly, in her own work here.

You said to men: "What is the limitation in me (men) that allowed me to give away my power to my wife in this emasculating way? And have her treat me this way?" How does this work if your wife threatens to leave and take your kids and financially ruin you? What is the limitation there? Not getting married? Not seeing it beforehand? Something else? The man supposed to ignore the welfare of the kids? I definitely believe in agency. I'll need some help finding it here.

🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 06:22 🤔 *Hypergamy Overview* - Hypergamy is a concept that suggests women marry up in social hierarchies. - The red pill community often discusses hypergamy, sometimes portraying it as a fixed and disempowering aspect. 14:47 🧐 *Hypergamy and Men's Empowerment* - Hypergamy can make men feel powerless and stuck in anger if seen as an unchangeable reality. - Emasculation is highlighted as a strategy that can be effective on good men, emphasizing the importance of men taking control. 19:00 📚 *Study on Hypergamy* - A study covering marriages in England from 1837 to 2021 challenges the notion of widespread female hypergamy. - The evidence suggests strong symmetry in marital behaviors between men and women throughouthistory. 23:06 🔄 *Women's Partner Selection* - Women tend to choose partners with similar social backgrounds, lifestyles, and commonalities. - Women might also choose men with potential, even if they currently have flaws, seeking to shape and mold them. 25:12 🚪 *Back Door in Relationships* - Women often choose men with flaws or challenges to have a "back door" in the relationship. - Regardless of choosing up, laterally, or down, women may exploit a man's shortcomings as an exit strategy. 26:00 🕵 *Understanding Hypergamy: Simplifying Truth* - The speaker prefers a simple truth over nuanced explanations. - Hypergamy, as discussed in certain communities, is seen as complicated and disempowering. 27:34 🧠 *How Women Choose Men: Emotional Decision-Making* - Women make choices in men emotionally, seeking romantic feelings, love, and fulfillment. - The emphasis is on the human pursuit of happiness and emotional connections in relationships. 29:50 🕊 *The Constant Pursuit of Happiness* - Humans, regardless of background, share a common pursuit of happiness. - Misunderstanding the nature of happiness leads to seeking fulfillment in external factors. 31:28 🔄 *InternalSource of Happiness* - The foundational teaching is that no external factor can make one happy. - Happiness is an internal experience derived from a healthy relationship with oneself. 32:23 🗣 *Communication in Unhappiness* - Common scenario: women express unhappiness in a relationship without taking full responsibility. - Men often hear phrases like "I'm unhappy" or "I don't think I love you anymore." 34:02 🚪 *Leaving a Marriage: Unhappiness vs. Hypergamy* - Women leaving marriages are more likely driven by unhappiness than hypergamy. - The speaker emphasizes the illusion of thinking a new man will fill the emotional void. 36:08 💔 *Relationships After Leaving: The Cycle* - Leaving one relationship for another doesn't solve unhappiness; it continues the cycle. - Unhappiness often stems from an individual's internal issues rather than external circumstances. 37:45 🌱 *Solution: Taking Responsibility* - The solution for both men and women lies in taking responsibility for their own growth. - Men are encouraged to regain their strength, while women are urged to recognize destructive habits. 39:21 🔄 *Changing Oneself for Relationship Dynamics* - Changing oneself is the only way to understand what a relationship can be. - The emphasis is on taking 100% responsibility for one's experience, regardless of the partner's changes. 43:55 🎓 *Courses for Transformation* - The speaker offers courses for women focused on building a healthy relationship with oneself. - For men, there's a course to help reclaim power and navigate relationships constructively. 46:41 🤔 *Intentions Behind Choices: Victimhood vs. Responsibility* - Choices, like MGTOW or leaving a marriage, should be rooted in responsibility, not victimhood. - Embracing life's unfairness as an opportunity for growth is essential for personal freedom. 49:34 🌅 *Recognizing When a Relationship Is Too Far Gone* - A relationship is deemed too far gone when there's no willingness on both sides to make it work. - Total dysfunction, continuous fighting, and lack of connection signify a point of no return. 51:41 🌞 *Women's happiness and healthy relationships* - Emphasis on making time for personal activities. - Importance of intentional self-care for fulfillment. - Connecting personal happiness to better relationships. 52:10 🆓 *Upcoming updates on free course for women* - Acknowledgment of the question about the free course. - Collaboration with a new website developer for updates. - Anticipated release within the next two months. 52:51 🧠 *Impact of an absent father on women's relationships* - Clarification of the topic's interest in the impact of an absent father. - Perspective shift on responsibility and choice in relationships. - Rejecting the idea that past circumstances define adult relationships. 54:09 🔄 *Life's challenges, choices, and perspective* - Empowering perspective on life's challenges. - Disconnection from the narrative of blaming childhood for adult choices. - Emphasis on personal choices and decisions shaping experiences. 55:32 🎭 *Dealing with life's difficulties* - Quirky response from Candace Owens about life's difficulties. - Encouragement to face life's challenges with resilience. - Urging a shift from victimhood to empowerment. 56:28 🛍 *Wrapping up and personal plans* - Mention of plans for the afternoon with husband. - Decision to make soup or chili for the cold weather. - Expressing excitement about the Chiefs game tonight.

I stay in my lane… no problem. Chasing ‘goddesses’ is a recipe for disaster and destruction. Let those who hyper-game do so at their own peril… no need to get involved

I appreciate the balanced approach here. I know lots of dudes that are martyrs too. We gotta take care of ourselves first. I also appreciate calling out the victim in everyone. For those interested in a deeper dive into victim... look up the karpman Drama triangle. I think "happiness" is a hard thing to tangle with, you implied that it's: meaning, fulfillment... I think that's pretty good and a lot of it and I also think it's one of those things that people have a lot of different definitions for. it's complex. Sometimes, it's challenge, sometimes it's receiving, sometimes giving, it's a lot... maybe we could just say feeling like we're expanding? I also think this gets so complicated in long term relationships... many dynamics at play... people losing themselves... rediscovering themselves, changing... individuating... No matter the case the drama triangle applies and if you can see yourself in that you have the possibility of choice. One thing you don't get at is having kids.... you've never spoken of that, so I don't think you have any Karyn, and I think it complicates things greatly.

Specifically, the term is fortune hunting, which is a term used to describe a woman who is trying to marry rich.

Last week I think you said Hypergamy didn't exist, so I am interested to hear what you say now.

Excelent!

I truly believe happiness is a state of mind.

Great perspective as always! We definitely live in our sob stories- you're right.

A study in England on jumping up in class is difficult because class is a central social issue in England; where in the U.S. race is such an issue. In England, they are not succeding in hypergamy, perhaps because the barriers are more difficult.

Hypergamy is real and practiced by most women. Hypergamy has broken the online dating. Top 80% women want (and don't mind sharing) the same top 4% men. The bottom 80% of the men are invisible to women to top 80% women. During my recent online experience, I am noticing this pattern repeatedly: after two successful dates women are cancelling the already scheduled and confirmed third date at the last moment because she found someone more exciting.

The manosphere seems to be understanding what your saying, but you bring us much quicker to what we are guessing about. The woman wanting to change us from who they picked,to someone we are not, is also a common thing on our (could it be this ?) list. We like who we married as you are, or we would not have got married at all. Do men want to be empowered and all that psycho work? No, we don't. Marriage was a place to rest and love for us. We don't want to fix a deeply unhappy woman. We don't even know how to do that. Do we see flaws in our wife? Yeah, but it's no big deal, nobody is flawless. No woman or man is flawless. The light switch of "on and off" you speak of as what ALL women do is so sad. We never saw that coming at all. A woman really don't need no man, sadly. So we are not compatible long before we ever even met! It's really bad news, but we believe you. Marriage must stop. We are just men, not therapists.

You are definitely “not” the typical “Karen” of today’s society 😂 Keep up the excellent and much needed teaching Karen. You are appreciated🦾

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GOAT!!!!

Women always stay on code and this video is a great example of that.

That study doesn't prove anything, and doesn't take into account the Father's involvement in who the daughter married and doesn't take into account societal stigmas. It certainly doesn't take into account the last several years where those things have changed, and what has happened when women were given the freedom to choose on their own. There are many studies that show hypergamy is real and women do this when those things are removed.

She is my high school sweetheart. Still. 1976 we met. That's who she is to me. But that is not who she is today. 48 years comes to naught. She withheld and I acted out. Gave her all the ammo she could choose from. She couldn't care less about anything that might have anything to do with my well-being or hers. Help. Building her a second house now, almost done! But I'll have to leave.

Great honest presentation as usual. Thank k you for your time and insight. Ms Karyn is so correct on so much. Having said that here is one simple expanded definition of “hypergamy” that is not as nuanced: 18-29 - want “bad boys” Bad boys won’t settle down. 29 - 30 settle with “good man” who is “flawed”. But switch is still only turned on by “bad boys”. Leads to looking for ”happiness”. Really appreciate these videos. Keep up the good work.

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Women lived under male economic domination since the Agricultural revolution, but capitalism, which is women centric as in consumerism, has unravelled that patriarchal economic domination and that is played out in the sexual realm. As a successful guy, I see all women as potential economic competitors for my wealth, no matter how submissive she may appear. On that basis, I purely pay to play.

Hypergamy is a natural propensity. It isnt at root learned behavior or an acquired application. You cant "no, no, no" it away. It is inherent.

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I missed your stream… I’m pissed!!!!

Literally , if a Man finds a Women that will pay attention to him, he should marry her

Twitter spaces allows for call in shows

Stop using the words "always" and "never". Being angry is NOT "always" a victim mindset. Sometimes it's just pure frustration. Some men actually have emotional intelligence and don't get angry because they're a victim.

The white balance on your video camera needs adjustments. The videos are not as clear as they should be. It is hard to watch, and your viewer retention will suffer. Spend time cleaning up your video issues. Your content is good

Ur a sweetheart. Thank God for you. The Holy Spirit is upon you.

I am not Mgtow but i think they are being responsible. They are not 'camp victem'.

Why would you consider walking away from marriage due to the laws and going mgtow to be “victimising” oneself? If I saw a group of lions surrounding a sweet pair of jordans, it wouldnt be victimising myself to choose not to walk in there and grab those shoes. Marriage runs on the same principle.

Thank you for your content. Sorry if it seems my comments are always critical, but I have another thing for you to ponder: I don't like the impulse you seem to have to couch everything you talk about through an individual's interpretive lens, because it seems to deny or downplay the objective reality of a given situation. One example would be, telling people not to live in 'Camp Victim', and to live in 'Camp Take Responsibility'. It seems to deny the possibility that someone could ever legitimately be a victim of something. And I just want to be clear about something, I'm not advocating for someone to take on the 'victim mindset', and wear it like a badge of honor, like is definitely prevalent in today's society. But I don't think there's a problem in recognizing that someone is a victim, and still developing and fostering ways of getting one's self out of that situation. An example of this would be, that you seem to lay responsibility at both men and women's feet for the state of relationships in the wake of women embracing their 'womanly ways'. In that it's women's fault for doing it, and it's men's fault for letting them take their power away and do it. It seems pretty clear to me, that it's fair to admit that men are the victim in that situation. Doesn't mean men can do nothing to help get themselves out of it, certainly encouraging men to take steps to fight off and/or prevent the bad things that are happening to them in those situations is what men should do, but it doesn't mean they aren't a victim. And in particular, with that dynamic, I think it's pretty clear that women are not the victim, they are the perpetrator. They need to stop what they are doing, change their mindset (whether by themselves or with the help of the man or other people, like you!), and take a lot of the advice you give about building up their relationship with themselves and fostering happiness within themselves, but I think it's important to be able to take a step back and recognize who the victim is and who the perpetrator is in that dynamic, just as a statement of objective fact and truth. I don't think it should be seen by men as a failure on their part, when they fall victim to this. There are malicious and nefarious forces actively against them, that of course they can take steps to fight against, but being the victim in these situations isn't their fault.

RU-vid is not letting me post my comment on here and no it not bad at all

Wifes are not a husbands friend. Wifes are a husbands wife.

While I think it’s true that most women do not display hypergamy when a woman gets married it is not true (today) that these same women aren’t sexually active with men who much higher than them in terms of looks and status-and this is the real problem. These same women may “settle” for a man that is more at her level when she turns 30. And this creates one of the issues with a woman’s (today’s women under 40) satisfaction in her marriage as what she was used to “getting” with much higher grade men, who consequently, didn’t want her for the long term. Given the average sexual experience of these younger women this guarantees a high level of dissatisfaction for her in marriage (from an attraction standpoint) and also leads to the reduction in interest, by men, to enter into such “relationships” as they are now discovering that marriage with these women (who are promiscuous) is a very bad decision. This is in addition to the ridiculous expectations that men are responsible for solving a woman’s life and baggage problems (ie: a man has to make a woman “happy”). Promiscuity of the average woman today tells men that women don’t regally care about men and in particular, the preferences of their future husband.

What need to know or willing to learn and using the knowledge 😳. It’s more complicated, men will not emotional open because it will standard used against them directly or in the future bij the dear ladies 😉

Karyn - I love your work and all the good that you are striving for. You are a rarity among female RU-vidrs and it's very refreshing. However, I need to point out that hypergamy isn't just an ideology. It's "basic" human nature. That may seem like a stretch but I don't believe it is. It's not an evolved form of human nature but it is very basic for a large part of society. It's like the natural maternal instinct most women have. A large majority of women want kids but there are outliers who don't. Hypergamy, like you said, is complex so it's a sliding scale. A gold digger is on the extreme end of hypergamy but a woman who loses interest and sexual desire for her husband when he loses his job or gives up his career or business to raise the kids while the wife goes and works is not as extreme but it's still hypergamy in action. You talked about how a lot of women you know are in marriages with guys who are at their level but the question is - are those women truly happy and attracted to their partner? Do they have a great sex life and are things good 80%-90%+ of the time? I would bet that they are not for a lot of them. This is not a bash on women and I'm not bitter at all towards them. I love and appreciate women and we would not be here if it wasn't for them. The truth is a woman can amplify a man's happiness to the point he becomes a better man or she can crush his spirit and ruin him (this realization is why a lot of men don't want to get married - they don't want to take that gamble). I am a truth seeker and the truth needs to be shown to the world. This means all angles and logical viewpoints need to be expressed. If I am proven wrong, I'll change my point of view because I don't have much of an ego... or at least I like to think I don't :) Plus, like you have mentioned, it's not good to have a victim mentality. But, speaking uncomfortable truths doesn't mean one is bitter. With all that said, THANK YOU so much for your work and I hope you continue to keep doing what you do. I look forward to all your future videos because they are very informative and the information is unique compared to a lot of other RU-vidrs.

let’s just keep it simple women are upset, because the truth is out the …they made the videos

I suspect the hypergamy is seen most on the dating sites rather than actual marriages and we should not mistake the business model of the @whatever podcast for real life. The problem is not hypergamy per se, whether it is real or not. The actual problem is the partner "upgrade" quest because of the (perception) that there is someone else out there who is better. No-one cares if women marry up, as long as they aren't stomping on previous marriages to do it. Its the female equivalent of divorcing the wife and marrying the secretary. It may not be to increase social standing, but it does appear to be a quest for a better man. Marrying for life is the only way out of the problem in either case, but (to steelman the redpill stance), there isn't a way out of being a victim if every woman you meet has financial and social incentives granted by the legal system. Your best hope is to find a community with extremely strong moral values, and have those values yourself. At least in the olden days, men who ditched their wives were not praised and financially compensated for doing so. The solution to the happiness question is contentment. We need to identify envy and treat it like the destructive thing it is. Give happiness and you will be prized. As for the sex thing, I don't think women realise how much men will respond to positive reinforcement. The unique thing about it is that for men, giving is also extremely rewarding. Without endorsing porn at all, I would note that its mostly the portrayal of women enjoying sex. Women can be very demanding in this area because her enjoyment is a large part of the payoff - just make sure you can communicate that enjoyment to him.

For every action there is an equal but opposite. The MGTOW or RED pill is a necessary correction for the %80 of women who leave or divorce a good man!😎

I’m lower social status than my wife. We have problems, none of them relate to that difference. Many men don’t understand what they bring to the table and many don’t do the hard work to understand the women they are with. I simply asked my wife and she told me.

I am blown away by your channel. I have nuanced (I'm male) disagreements. Those shows and who they bring on, for instance. Try being a single male, with a modicum of success, and see what shows up to your dating advances - I can assure you that what you see on those channnels is closer to reality than not. However I am happily hopeful that men pay attention to what you're saying about hypergamy. It would take a longer forum to explain how I know for a fact that they (red pill shows) are not only misrepresenting this phenomenon, but they are feeding power into that mistaken illusion. this is causing a male reaction that will not serve the growth of decency on this planet. You Karyn, are doing a wonderful job articulating what is the closest conceptualization of reality. One day perhaps we can go into depth on these nuances that I believe my perspective of 30 years of first hand bombardment of this confused female thinking has given to me.

I would have to disagree with the idea that truth is always simple. Quantum physics is very nuanced and complex, and no one completely understands it, but that doesn't mean it's an illegitimate science.

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Maybe the older generation is less hypergamous. But a slightly above average dude cant even get a date with an average girl this last decade

It’s the cowardice of women. It all comes back to accountability.

love is a emotional to women love is a commitment to men … they monkey branch before the leave … that’s NOT. cool

I had to stop what I was doing in order to chime in. You’re not a man, save your “study.” Hypergamy is everywhere!!!

Only men watch these videos. Women are perfect in their minds and don’t tolerate criticism.

I'm sorry, but if female nature is how you describe it, and I believe it is and you are describing it with the most beautiful precision, would you women love yourselves, if you were us?? Once you understand it, what is there left to love? What we want, a nice and happy woman, we are never going to get no matter what we do. So, what's the point, for a man??

Isn't it properly termed hyperandry, not hypergamy?

Hypergamy isn't a straight jacket. But as Karyn pointed out, Red Pill Rage IS a straight jacket.