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These are words to live by. To me, they apply to every aspect of a person's life emotionally, physically, spiritually, and most importantly financially. Although i am a very intuitive woman, sometimes i just wish i was as wise too. Tamarra, i am glad to see that you are not only listening but also taking notes. I have subscribed to Chloe's channel after watching only 1 video. It's so resourceful and informative! #WinningSeason
@Stop the foolishness, seriously.You sound bitter, brotha...if you take the time to find the right woman for you she will appreciate all your efforts to provide and protect
Paul Hogue don’t be silly. Money is money, it doesn’t matter the amount. $40-50 can mean a lot to some people. how many folks can say they have life insurance? Get a clue and buzz off joker
I’ve never heard of men with money complaining about providing. That’s why it’s comical to me when men on social media are triggered, it shows me how poor you are.
Have you ever heard of a divorced man who had to give half his money away to someone undeserving and he wasn't happy about it? To be honest, I don't totally disagree with the video. However there are some who will hear this and not ask themselves what it is that I need to bring to the table to broker this agreement and foster long term happiness for both partners
the thing is 50/50 means the woman does 150% especially as a mother and the man does 50% I had to learn the hard way. I cut my losses Im cultivating my feminine energy and leveling up. Thank you Chloe!
You are absolutely right. It especially doesn't work if the man is dumb, not ambitious, lazy, weak, etc. It makes us as women have operate in the masculine to compensate for his inadequacies.
Men are also allowed, in most cases to be unhygienic! I remember my little brother hating to shower as a child. I expressed to my parents that I could smell him before he entered the room. I was scolded and told “he’s just being a boy”. Apparently being a dirt ball is masculine and bathing and brushing teeth regularly is feminine.
One thing I notice.... is you never see Men of a certain caliber on RU-vid channels whining about women. 😂🤣 because those men have better things to do with their lives! Call me what you want. It won’t be a broke ass woman. Only ones triggered and pressed are those that lack. 🤷🏽♀️
. It’s funny that MGTOW men are on women’s forums but you never see women on MGTOW forums... they claim to not want anything to do with women but are everywhere in women spaces😂 🤣
My mom and grandma showed me this without even knowing ! They raised me to independent when needed but find a man worth something. My grandma worked a job but quit whenever she got bored or tired. My grandpa always had the bills paid. They were the best off on the street and had bought a house. My grandma can go shopping whenever however she likes and now my grandad is retired. My mom stayed a house wife and she has time to paint her nails , do hair treatments but takes care of the house. My stepdad has his own company and pays the bills, he comes home and treats her like a lil queen. My mom told me to always keep my appearances up but also my education. I didn’t even kno i subconsciously end up breaking off relationships with guys that don’t have motive and drive. I’m thankful for my family for teaching me. Love can heal a lot but not when both parties aren’t satisfied imo
Fatgoat Goat my grandma had drive and ambition outside of a career. A career is not the only thing that brings you drive and motivation but i mean if that’s your drive and motivation then so be it but that’s not what life is about. That’s not a home nor happiness. It’s a means to an end for some. remember to live your life outside your job and career. Also my grandpa made enough to support the both of them and their children without stress. Bought a house and about 3 cars all were his btw. My grandpa was happy as well. They went to a lot of social events and he loved his job. His job was his second favorite place. When i was little he would trll me stories about his job. He also loved to cook and spent his free time cooking or watching tv and sports or going thrift shopping. He also was happy because he could support his family without stress. Please don’t comment on my family of which you know nothing about. Leave your bitterness to your family. Have a bless one❤️
Fatgoat Goat lol no he didn’t cook or take care of kids as priority . My grandma did that. He just enjoyed doing it at times. He was someone who just liked to make things. His job was relaxed most the time so he didn’t come home super tired. My grandma took on many household chores and also took care of yard work and a lot of the time - manual labor in the house. She pulled her weight significantly. Once in retirement age, they were able to do what they wanted and help their children when needed (they had to beg my mom to take money sometimes bc she is prideful) Sadly he passed away in December so the reply shook me a little. But i’m also a huge advocate for men’s mental health. I wouldn’t want a husband who would feel pressured or stressed out to provide. I would want him to want to provide, but we still work as a team. He still feels happy and is able to do the things he enjoyed. It’s about building together
I’m a white woman with a dusty, noncommittal white man who wasted the last of my child-bearing years stringing me along - even though this channel is mostly geared toward black women it can benefit all women - thank you! I really need this as I plan and stick to my exit strategy instead of falling prey to the “sunk-cost fallacy” of sticking with a mistake because you’ve already put years into making it.
I've never understood how people can say money doesn't matter like ,can you live the life you have without money??? It's always the broke men and women who will settle for anyman over no man chanting this mantra. 50/50 does not work if it only applies to money, it should be across board. Kids,Bills,cooking,cleaning,shopping etc there should be shared responsibility as marriage is a partnership (well should be).
But it's impossible because males can't carry children. And yet they STILL want the child to take on his last names, when it should be both last names of BOTH parents.
I hate those movies where the rich guy is bad and mean and the broke broken dusty is actually the Prince Charming. Hollywood needs to shut up with that nonsense. It's giving naive and unsuspecting girls the wrong impression
White man has mad up this money thing. Not having land and resources shows that someone has been evil. People will realize that most rich people are evil.
@@MrSmith-eg7oh , all of us want to be wealthy and we all have a different assumption on what it is like to be rich. A part of its mile proper, however plenty of the matters are incorrect. Rich humans aren't as desirable as being terrible is terrible. The money would not usually make your lifestyles remarkable, it the lack of it that makes your life miserable. Being wealthy does not automatically make someone happy, however being negative, it is not possible to be one.
So glad I didn’t marry my ex-dusty. He was going to propose but I broke up with him before it happened. I’m a nurse ( with my masters) and he didn’t even have his GED! We went 50/50 (really 75/25). I was so desperate and pickme. I’m now seeking the hypergamy lifestyle. Thanks to Chloe and SheraSeven!
You are 100% correct! Hindsight, I knew at 16 years old that my exhusband was a dusty. His mother knew nothing about being a woman. His father was a bum, couldn't hold down a job and was a womanizer. They didn't raise their their son with values. I knew back then he was not husband material but innately he had potential for such. My marriage ended. His mother, during our marriage bought his underwear, feed him, told him it was my responsibility to take care of the family. After my transplant God gave me the strength to RUN! I filed for divorce and will NEVER go back into that situation, ever again! So, look at them parents too. If they ain't worth crap those kids won't be either!
As a man I approve of this message 1000 percent. And I feel sincerely sad for my sisters who are wasting their lives to the dust. More women need to hear this. Thanks Chloe_
A lot of the Elders had it right... I remember my grandmothers on both sides used to CONSTANTLY preach... "You girls better learn to marry for stability. Hell with that love. Please believe you WILL LEARN to love him while he's taking care of you! 😊
I don’t know. There’s another side to this. What about the women who marry “stability” because they want to be married and they think it’s the time, but they fundamentally don’t love or respect the man they chose to wed? This leads to resentments all around and, at best, a divorce before kids or a broken home after. (And lest us not forget who loses half of their livelihood in such a split... in this case, for something totally outside his control and that wasn’t his fault.) Guess the point is, you BEST learn to truly love him, if you go this way! And learn how to treasure the world he is giving you, and genuinely *appreciate* who he is and what he has to offer. Recognize that you don’t get to “trade in and level up” later, just because you’re restless or now think you deserve woo-woo romantic love in ADDITION to stability. If individuals in our culture were more apt to take vows of commitment seriously, I’d lend a lot more credence to this view of learning to love someone who has agreed to marry you. Instead, unfortunately, this sounds like rationalizations we tell ourselves when we’re chasing one thing, only to later believe that we’ve settled and now we deserve another.
YES, YES, YEEEESSSSSS! 🔑 I had an internship during my undergrad working in family law and it’s definitely the no.1 reason folks divorced. And although I hated helping older angry disgruntled people part ways, it has proven to be some of the most invaluable teachings I’ve had in my twenties. Thanks for all that you do!
I love my father but I can say my mum has been a build a bum her whole marriage (21 years) and he left her for a much much younger and in our conversations his first argument is “your mother emasculated me over and over” unfortunately she raised us 3 girls to be like that, my 2 sisters and I followed her path, big sister married and divorced but stocked in the mindset and collecting dusties, baby sister just married a potential dusty, I’ve always resisted my mums teachings and kind of practiced hypergamy without knowing it. I married a brilliant white guy, a scientist, stable financially etc...we’ve been together for 7 years, married for 2 and it recently slapped me in the face that he doesn’t have the protect and provide trait. I want out of this marriage so bad now. Attraction is gone, and NO WAY to build a multiracial family with a white unfit father. Of course my family is pissed and pushing back on my decision. But I’m already gone mentally! Wish me the best
TBH a financially stable man that provides a stable secure safe environment for their wives allow the woman's femininity and family to flourish. It allows us to be vulnerable in more ways than one because we feel safe. A good video topic would be eve and her husband and how the type of man can really influence not only your emotional/mental health but even your physical appearance. I mean man what a difference. I really love how soft and feminine she is now she looks and sounds great and does not seem worried at all. She looks happy and bm are mad about it.
@@user-nq8nl4wh9w I'm free to browse the internet, just like you. I'm just as uninterested in you, sweetheart. That attitude won't help you with other dudes either.
Eddie MGTOW i dont need “other” dudes im getting married so again boo you are totally not on the radar so you really dont have to worry about women like us who want provider men. You can go to the 50/50 channel im sure you will find women there that will help you with your bills lol
You telling the truth! A man with a Job is bare bones but a man with a Vision is a whole different ball game. A man's posture is to provide & they love it. Not 50/50. If he tells you - he doesn't then you have a boy...not a man.
I blame Hollywood. For the longest time I thought marriage was a fairy tale.. well, it is not and like Chloe said, our hypergamous nature will always kick in. You can't win over nature.
I remember in my twenties, my father would always tell me "DON'T BE CHEAP". DON'T BE CHEAP! How is a man to take care you if he isn't stable, look for stability. I use to get so OFFENED.🙄I didnt understand it then, but I sure do now. My father slick put me on game years ago. He is the ultimate provider, I'd never accept anything less. I'd rather wait 100 years. Ladies there are good men with a provider mindset, it's a mindset that can't be taught at a later age. Trust me, I messed up some good things in my early 20s. I didn't understand back then, but I sure do now.😉 LEVEL UP YOUR STANDARDS! I Promise😉
My mother was tired of being single and I guess settled for a man who displayed so many red flags. He is the 50/50 type. She is the bread winner, now raises his kids, and once my brother and I leave after college soon, she will be bombarded with having to clean, cook, etc because he won't lift a finger. I always thought he was just lazy, but now that I'm watching these videos.. it's as if she's allowed this to happen to herself. She doesn't see herself as the prize, and is stuck in role reversal, with resentment. Luckily they aren't married.. But I never saw it this way until your channel. Thank you.
New subscriber.... WOW! Great content!! I was formally married to a dusty and the marriage broke down for all the reasons you listed. I love being single and cultivating my feminine energy until I meet a true protector and provider
married my 'best friend' who was a dusty and had only sweet words and d to offer me (he made way less than me) and he cheated!! thank God I only spent 2 years of my life with him. I am a high value woman and are lifestyles were incompatible. He would get angry when I spent MY OWN money on beautiful clothes for myself and would think i was 'wasting it'. Anyway, I left today and it doesn't even feel like I left a marriage because he wasn't offering me much (not even afford gifts) and I grew to resent him so much. my next husband will be RICH/Love to provide and the masculine leader I need ❤️
You are so on point💖💞💕 I just divorced my dusty and he went after me for spousal support 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️ was married 13 years and have 2 children but I got my MBA in the process. Now mamma is tired lol
@o0JaeAllDay0o No offense, but marriage laws are set to ensure the higher-earning spouse pays alimony. In this case, the wife is the higher-earner. The good news, however, if she's required to pay alimony it will likely be a temporary requirement versus lifetime payments. It appears many women don't understand marriage and child custody laws. Most women only know the marriage scenario where if the man is the higher-earner, he's mandated to pay court-ordered alimony and child support. Depending on length of marriage, alimony can be either short-term (12 to 48 months), long-term (7 to 10 years), or lifetime payments. Lifetime payments generally cease if the ex-spouse remarries, but most either never remarry or go to a cohabitation/live-in situation to keep receiving payments. Mothers get custody in over 90 percent of custody cases, and child support can be mandated to age 21 along with paying college costs and health expenses during college. Notably, in custody cases where women are required to pay child support it's common for women to default on monthly payments. The major difference is that despite defaulting on child support, few women are punished with jail time simply because most men don't pursue the issue in court. These laws of course vary from state to state, which is why individuals must research their state's laws and consult with an attorney, but ALL of this is worth knowing simply based off Jennifer Hudson, Mary J. Blige, Jessica Simpson, Britney Spears, et al. The interesting thing is that because many women are in the workforce with some women earning much more than men, it's now women who see the uncertainty and unfairness in marriage and child support laws. It's one of the PRIMARY reasons that fewer men seek marriage or even refuse to have kids. It's expected that as a result of some women earning more money, at some point there will be a serious effort toward changes in the system. Most men already are aware of unfair marriage, child support, and palimony laws. Most people fail to realize these laws are not set up based on gender, but are based on who is the higher-earner. As noted by many of the comments, it’s clear that women HATE paying ANY kind of monthly payments to men - even if it’s based on current laws. It’s interesting to note that when these same laws affect higher-earning woman, many women see the system as an unfair simply because they earn significantly more than their husbands. That’s one of the reasons women love to marry higher-earning men - women don’t want to pay money either in divorce or a post-cohabitation situation. When these same laws disproportionally affect higher-earning women is when the system will see systematic changes that makes the entire process fairer and more equitable for both parties, regardless of gender.
@@Foodenthusiast23 No offense, but marriage laws are set to ensure the higher-earning spouse pays alimony. In this case, the wife is the higher-earner. The good news, however, if she's required to pay alimony it will likely be a temporary requirement versus lifetime payments. It appears many women don't understand marriage and child custody laws. Most women only know the marriage scenario where if the man is the higher-earner, he's mandated to pay court-ordered alimony and child support. Depending on length of marriage, alimony can be either short-term (12 to 48 months), long-term (7 to 10 years), or lifetime payments. Lifetime payments generally cease if the ex-spouse remarries, but most either never remarry or go to a cohabitation/live-in situation to keep receiving payments. Mothers get custody in over 90 percent of custody cases, and child support can be mandated to age 21 along with paying college costs and health expenses during college. Notably, in custody cases where women are required to pay child support it's common for women to default on monthly payments. The major difference is that despite defaulting on child support, few women are punished with jail time simply because most men don't pursue the issue in court. These laws of course vary from state to state, which is why individuals must research their state's laws and consult with an attorney, but ALL of this is worth knowing simply based off Jennifer Hudson, Mary J. Blige, Jessica Simpson, Britney Spears, et al. The interesting thing is that because many women are in the workforce with some women earning much more than men, it's now women who see the uncertainty and unfairness in marriage and child support laws. It's one of the PRIMARY reasons that fewer men seek marriage or even refuse to have kids. It's expected that as a result of some women earning more money, at some point there will be a serious effort toward changes in the system. Most men already are aware of unfair marriage, child support, and palimony laws. Most people fail to realize these laws are not set up based on gender, but are based on who is the higher-earner. As noted by many of the comments, it’s clear that women HATE paying ANY kind of monthly payments to men - even if it’s based on current laws. It’s interesting to note that when these same laws affect higher-earning woman, many women see the system as an unfair simply because they earn significantly more than their husbands. That’s one of the reasons women love to marry higher-earning men - women don’t want to pay money either in divorce or a post-cohabitation situation. When these same laws disproportionally affect higher-earning women is when the system will see systematic changes that makes the entire process fairer and more equitable for both parties, regardless of gender.
When I say love doesn't put food on the table people always look at me weird, but it's what I believe even though I've never been in a serious commitment relationship
people think i’m unrealistic & crazy for saying i will only date a man seriously if he has a hypergamous mindset... i love videos like this because they validate my mindset.
My mom married a dusty (my dad) he sucked as a father. Always used her for money and cheated on her. There was a time he didn’t even work always quit his job and my mom had to do it all.
Nobuhle Khumalo I know but he took advantage of my mom and had like 5 girls on the side in another country. Then had a baby by one in that country. So yea he’s a dusty God forgive him and all of us too.
My husband caught me listening to this this morning lol.. he said wow babe she is speaking facts who is she ?.. lol I didn’t tell it was you him bcz you my lil secret 😉
I wish my old friends could watch this video. Oh boy they always made me feel like something was wrong with my standards smh... I guess I was right lol
Wow this is so 100% on target; this is coming from a married woman who has felt some of these emotions. Where have you been? Girl, I needed you 20 years ago (lol).
@@outsideworld76 man itd sad how women feel we/ they should indulge in all the nonsense of this world. Its good to buy youself nice shit but a lot of it is worthless. Like a kids that just want a new toy cause its new.
Construction is a regular smegular job been doing it since I was 18, started of as a laborer now I'm a operator, welder and mechanic...but I OWN (fully paid for) my house its not huge but its in a nice neighborhood its got 4 bedrooms and a finished basement, my truck is paid for, my motorcycle is paid for my camper is paid for and my boat is almost paid for and this year was the first year I went on vacation and I plan on going every year here on out and I'm 29.....I think its dangerous to to women a man shouldn't have a regular job that keeps them looking for the bigger better deal...and looking down on a possibly good man standing right infront of her
@Lizzy Loca I dont understand how this is a response to what i said at all. Are you saying that if he had a high paying irregular that, that would tip the scales in his favor then....what are you evaluating of a average man vs an above average man....because if you standard is higher than the man you settled with and you willing to treat him differently than men who meet your standards, then you should go find a man who meets your standards and leave the other man to a woman who would truly appreciate him...... Also your putting the cart before the horse, WOMEN created the culture of sex before marriage, women control access to sex, if you want a man to marry you before sex than be a virgin.....simple
@Lizzy Loca Why does your whole statement only infer that the problem has to be with him, do women not just not like someone, Ive heard women say he seems nice but there wasnt any spark....Also why would I take someone on vacation with me and get their room if she doesn't want to share a room with me then she must be a platonic friend and like any of my male platonic friends, she can get her own room
Thank you sister!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 And I wish I could have come across this video last year, it would've saved me from a looooooooooot of pain!!! But thank God, now I see how dusty my ex is and always will be!!! And your video just assures everything that I've come to realize after the break up!!! Cause if they don't change when they are young they are not going to change at the age of 52, which by the way is the age of my ex!!! So from the bottom of my heart, thanks for your service, you're doing a great job!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Honestly most women will deny money doesn't matter when they are infatuated, but after a few years down the like and kids get involved, then they wish they married a man who can financially provide for them. Yes we are taught that love is the most important think and am not saying it doesn't if you get my drift. But money is number one and we should teach our daughters to choose Wisley and marriage is not a fariy tale. I once taught that money doesn't matter. But I'm learning the hard way so young ladies please listen and take note. I don't see any woman who wants to work until they 65yrs old much less 50yrs old.
Its so sad when you realize it's too late for you, because you wasted your whole life with a dusty who never could get out of his own closed minded petty ways. Someone that has never grown as a person ever and never will. Smh 😟 heartbroken 💔
its amazing for me to hear of this topic from other people with different dynamics! Being a muslim, this is actually something apart of our religion when it comes to a marriage 100%, however muslim women alike started changing their views on this with the uprise of feminist movement ext. I completely agree with this, very glad to have found you channel Chloe
I absolutely love your videos. I’m in the divorce process with a narcissist. I would love to see a video on narcissism...keep teaching us,we’re listening
I thank you for this content. Blessings to you Chloe. I come from a toxic single mother home. I wanted to see where I am in terms of femininity and how people perceive me and how to show compassion and respect for the right man whenever he comes along in life. Thank you for explaining why relationships and homes can be broken by either a man or woman.
I agree with this lady but most men in their 20s should not be thinking about marriage or a child. Most twenty year old men are still building so he can be a provider to a younger woman he can lead.
Wow! I never knew I needed this information until I came across this channel. Thank you so much for all that you share regarding relationships and hypergamy! As a Black women I truly appreciate all the gems that you share!
I have been learning for the past year to change everything I’ve watched & learned growing up from my family members. I want a better outcome. - it’s like a cyclical toxic journey that I’ve seen for years. && learning not to repeat that cycle. Thank you for your content! 👌🏾😊
This is the hardest part of it. The unlearning and probably not doing what the society expects and chosing ur own path, ur own rules. Coz ppl neva understand it. You hv to hv a strong personality
fuck 50/50. A man should pay for EVERYTHING if he can. If you cannot afford a wife, you don’t deserve one. I told my ex husband you married me to be a wife. If you want to clean the house, let’s get a housekeeper. That is not my job. If I WANT to do it ok, but I am a wife. Not a maid.
Gurrrllll you are me in my head. I believe this 100%...I live by this..People say that I am mean but I don't believe in settling, and broke men turn me off..
No it cannot. I’ve seen firsthand how much of a toll it can take on a marriage. Most marriages can’t survive the immense stress that the lack of money brings. I listen to a popular older MGTOW guy here on RU-vid to hear the opposing side’s strategy so that I can strengthen my game, and he literally encouraged young women to be hypergamous and date men that are older and providers. As soon as he slipped up and said this, I realized that no matter how much men complain about hypergamy, they secretly respect it and would do the same if they were women. BTW, I love your channel. Keep being an excellent vessel of information. You are greatly appreciated.💕@Chloe_
@@iamnicole303 this is where a lot of you modern women are delusional; you have every right not to be with a man when he's on the come up, but don't expect said man to be there for you when his 💰 is right!
There's an interesting dichotomy about men with money, and that is that [we're] usually VERY busy and don't have a lot of time to spend with a spouse, so she typically ends up lonely and will divorce her husband - despite his money. It's difficult to find a balance.
I wish I had that knowledge before getting married and having my beautiful princesses! I definitely had to leave, you can’t change people or transform them into a motivated responsible father! I learned my lesson. Moving on.
49 here! I stopped wanting to work in my mid 40’s… Lol have a nice retired military man who loves to cook fish and hunt and just wants me to be pretty! He wants to marry me offering everything from his health and other benefits..He has his own home and cars. I almost lost him out here thinking the market was flourishing…. No ‘mam! It’s scary out there!
You hit it right on the nose Sis I'm married to a dusty 22 yrs but I finally get it my exit plan is in the works thank u so much for your videos I'll be in touch with you.
If this isnt my marriage to a "t"! I can relate to EVERYTHING you spoke on in this video. Preaching to the choir. I'm so happy i found your channel. Definitely not staying "stuck inside a mistake." All young black women should watch your videos and choose better mates.
I have been binge watching your videos for a few days now. I thank you for these videos. My parents divorced and I will be 23 soon and have been thinking A LOT about my future as far as family and marriage as well as career. I don’t want to be married twice at all. My fear is divorce for myself only because of my parents. With all that being said, thank you for your intelligence!
I feel like what you said in the end describes my boyfriend. The no ambition etc thing. I feel like I should break up and I know I will, but I don't know when or how. I feel really bad about this.
Every time you describe the Dustys and low frequency men on your channel ,I think of black man .I love black man.I have two black sons , Buy a loser that refuses to even make a phone call for over 11 years,I have seven black brothers and my dad was in my life the whole time........but in my dating and relationship life they are the biggest disappointments .I feel like I’m traumatized by the loser things that black men do, normal normal normal.
Men should be taught to build themselves up lol. Young men get caught in a cycle of ass chasing and never focus on themselves. I've come to feel like it's feminine men who go a certain way. This isn't a comment to get viewers or attention. Jus an observation from a video I stumbled across
Thanks for this video Chloe. Truth as always and I say this because I have lived first hand through the things you discuss on your channel. I am much older now and have learned the hard way. I wish I had some advice and insight into some of these issues when I was younger. Young women need this advice today on these topics. Hopefully you are reaching out to many people who will take a different perspective to relationships before they have created a deep hole of quicksand for themselves. Anyway Chloe, you give advice and guidance but it’s always up to the individual to take it or choose to leave it, that all good and fine. However as an African saying goes ‘ don’t bring into your house ant infested firewood and then complain when you get visits from lizards’ 👍👍👍❤️
@@ShadaeMastersAstrology oh and a lot of black women are against themselves but the system is for women. Let a movement happen were a lot of black women start helping black men. I promise you white daddy ( government) will stop. I used to think i was something cause i could get pretty white women but now that i see what they are trying to do i would never date or get one pregnant.
Welp everyone is screwed because that’s all that’s out there and the good ones are taken or you have to fight out 20 women to compete for the number one spot so most women will end up single anyway
Thank you for your content! I am so grateful that you have dropped all of this knowledge and helping us naive-love driven women into the winner’s circle. I’m trying to win in life, and I’ll study all of your content until I do, I will not settle.
All men are treating this like the norm, my best college friend who is Latina married her irish husband and they always did 5050. She helped pay for the wedding too. She looks n dresses feminine but believes in paying her way. Ppl don't even consider it dusty. Men who are teachers for instance with this economy can't provide but it's a respected job. Ppl wouldn't ever call them dusty but a woman they marry would need to work if they want kids. It's the norm. Even my grandparents did this I don't want this set up. But the problem is the vast majority of ppl, very attractive women of all races included, are willing to do 5050 or these men arent uneducated and lazy but they chose jobs that cant support a woman. It will leave women who are unwilling to do 5050 alone a long time. I still would rather wait though. I can never do 5050 again.
Y G i know. I can't ever do 5050 again, 3 years ago was my anullment and I haven't gone back. I just can't. But unfortunately as i said it leaves us alone a long time as most men below 60 are 5050
Mannnnnn you have put all of my feelings and thoughts into words! I've been feeling this way for years! SMDH I feel like I've wasted so many years with dusty men! My kids father and I were together 8 and a half years and 2 kids! I expected him to be provider and faithful ...he wasn't either! I was everything to him and did all this BS and he only have his kids his last name THEN married the next women he got into a relationship with! It hurt at first but that common law BS was hell! Those 8 plus years were hell! My daughter's are still feeling effects from it and we haven't been together since 2014! SMDH I wish I had someone to tell me something anything !! I viewed my mother as bitter and money hungry! Scared me to death. But I understand why now!!! SMDH
I need some advice from you ladies. Lately my own dad has been asking me like crazy to buy him food, and asking me for money. He's 57 and he still works. My mom is the bread winner in the relationship, she works in Corporate America and my dad works construction. My parents are on this debt free journey and trying to save more money so they can retire and relax. I am too on the same debt free journey but he keeps asking me for money and to buy him food. I tell him no every time but he insults and says that I am stingy. I don't feel bad about saying no, my issue is that because this mess is coming from my dad sometimes I wonder if he cares if I end up with a man that can takes care of me. Im not like my mom who feels she should take care of her man and most of the bills. I am hypergamous and want to have that security of being taken care of but I feel like my standards are being challenged by my own damn father. What do y'all ladies suggest?
Honey you have to live your life for YOU. Don't worry about what other people, friends family and parents think. It is your life live it. Develop tough skin because you will always get push back when you go against the status quo. That is why I don't share my personal business with anyone because if you are not strong enough to develop a tough skin people will have you living the life they want you to live instead of the life you deserve and want to have. Just remember the level up journey is sometimes a lonely one. Be your own best friend and work on your mindset and I guarantee you will see and feel a difference. Hang in there. My mom is upset I'm on husband number 2 (who btw is younger than me and a provider) but I am living my best life and I live it well. If I listened to everyone I would jump off a cliff because society basically tells me that I should kill myself because I am over the age of 30. Nope...do you hun....good luck
@Golden Bubble right. He never asks his sons, just me. And it's annoying because I'm the youngest in my family and I'm still trying to get myself together. He even sometimes wants me to serve him, for example make him food or make him a drink. I say no to all of it. My mom does non of what he asks of me because she's too busy working most of the day and having to keep the bills paid. He also contributes to the bills don't get me wrong, but not as much as she does
@@taters2883 My dad is like this. I'm 36. He's 76. My husband is a little younger than me. But he's been a provider for the past 14 years we've been together and it makes my dad jealous cause I'm the youngest and all my siblings are older and their spouses aren't shit or don't make shit. I cut my dad off in July 2020. Ain't looked back and I feel great. Won't even let him speak to my kids and I hate to be like that but he was toxic to them as well and that was the straw that broke the camel's back. Don't worry about how your dad feels. Worry about YOU.
