It's not only in Japan, there is a similar situation in America, and all other western countries. Many people feel depressed, and like they are suffocating. When I start to think about the many problems in the world, I try to remember that it's not worth worrying about things I can't control. I wrote you an email, I hope you don't mind.
Very true. America is going through tough times too. Some couples have to work 2 jobs to keep up with all the high expenses and prices we pay for basic living costs. Where I live, minimum wage is 7.50/hr. Who on Gods earth can survive on that! $60 a day? It will not even be enough to eat, let alone pay for housing. We have a LOT of homeless people living in tents on the streets and under bridges. It’s impossible to believe that people can’t afford basic needs to get by in life. Prices rise and you get WAY LESS for your dollar! I went to the store the other day and beef was almost $20 a pound.
I would recommend not to dwell on your problems so much. That's not to say to completely neglect them but repeating these thoughts in your head constantly will keep you where you are. Don't worry about what you can't fix. Some kind of physical activity for you and your kids will probably do some good too. It puts you in a different mindset even if its just for a little while and gives you more confidence. Confidence helps with making friends as well as achieving what it is you want to do. This wont fix all your problems but I think it might be a good start.
Hello, I frankly do not understand why the 28 year home loan is a problem if you switch to a fixed rate. We bought an apartment in Japan a few years ago with a 2 % interest rate and the monthly rate is about the same what we would have paid for rent. In Europe/the US, mortgage rates are more than double that. If your daughter is now in kindergarden, your wife could work part-time. Or you could also work part-time on the weekends. I often saw middle-aged men working in the Convenience stores, especially at night.
As a Japanese person, I’d like to share my personal experience. I was also simply puzzled as to why he chose a variable interest rate. Given Japan’s historically low interest rates, the rate was 1.8% when I purchased my home. (In my case, due to preferential treatment from the bank because I worked for a large corporation, my rate was 0.8%.) Even without my preferential rate, it seems that a fixed-rate mortgage would have been a better choice.
@@gotakazawa408yes Japanese are playing with fire. The central bank will definitely have to hike rate more than people expect to stop the collapse of the currency. Mr Ask Japan refinance at fixed rate until it is too late.
@@Matmat123_5 The Japanese government will undoubtedly move towards raising interest rates, taking into account the situation in other countries. On the other hand, Japanese individuals have the option to choose between variable and fixed interest rates for their home loan repayments. I'm curious why he chose a variable interest rate and furthermore, why he hasn't switched to a fixed rate even now.
Hey brother keep your head up. We know that you might not be in the right mental space or haven’t been for sometime. But WE want you to know that you have a whole community behind you. A world wide community. We all support you and stand behind you. Keep pushing.
Thankyou so much for inspiring to making my RU-vid channel 50 year old Japanese man I love your videos and without them I would never have had the courage to make my own ❤❤ love from the uk 🇬🇧 & my depression is not good also so I hope your doing well my friend ❤😢😢😢
you remind me of Ryu, you look like him, you are a warrior never give up, my mother died two days ago from cancer it was a long fight we both endure and she stoop up like a warrior but in the end cancer took her away from me, so i know how it feels to care for a mother specially if she´s old or sick, you are great man
Reminds me of song Funny when you want it, suddenly you have it You find out your gold just plastic Every thing you need you already have 👨👩👧👦 All kids go through these phases, it will pass Life is the best teacher 40 year old British man here 🇬🇧💗🤗🇯🇵
Theres something i love about this guy - its okay buddy , times are changing- much more people are staying single - we're seeing this problem in america too
A lot of these problems are occurring in other countries, too. I have many of the same fears for both myself and my family. Inflation, an aging population, a lack of social progress from the government. It's exhausting.
I am a licensed working therapist here in the US, and also teach counseling psychology at the graduate level, have you ever considered therapy? Worried about expense? Love your videos and wish you all the best. Still think you need to go to a retro arcade on Friday nights:)
Therapists might work for some. Definitely not me. I’ve had therapists inappropriately giggle at me. Say useless stuff where I could’ve found a much better answer online. And they’re not rational and fact based. They make you overthink your problems so that you feel even worse bc now you’re so overly focused on it. But that’s good for therapists, bc “a patient cured is a costumer lost”. You might be different tho 👍
In Japan, while therapists do exist, their quality varies widely, even among the best. Generally, many people do not see significant improvement through therapy alone. In such cases, consulting a psychiatrist is more common. However, you might be an exception.
@@gotakazawa408for severe depression (can not function normally for daily tasks ) medicine are very useful. Probably not for light depression like him.
I think the depression and loneliness we all feel (I'm in the USA, 47 with one 20 year old son) may be due to the realization that this is what real life actually is. We do not have the same life or thinking for the most part that we did years ago. So, while I've thought about this many times over the past few years, I think this is just what life becomes. Friends are no longer existent, and life is work, smart phones/social media, cleaning, bed...repeat. I find I'm not as bored/lonely when I go to the store, public market, garden, etc. because it keeps my mind busy. To sum it up, idle time for me quickly turns my thoughts of boredom and loneliness into anxiety.
I appreciate you sharing friend. Depression is hell, I hope you continue to find a way forward. Something that really helped me was planning goals and working out- I also was diagnosed with anxiety disorder, and learning how to manage that made it far better managing my depression
Just take things one day at the time. It can be too overwhelming to look too far into the future. I feel your worries and depression. I've been in very similar situations to your's. Sending you encouragement from Saint Cloud, Florida. I love your videos!!
It makes me really happy to hear the popularity of your content has resulted in you getting ad revenue. Whilst it doesn’t fully fix your financial situation, and isn’t the only problem you’re facing, I hope it helps ease the burden a bit and makes everything else a little easier to deal with! People really relate to your honesty, and I hope you discussing your issues openly helps bring some catharsis, because I think it definitely helps your viewers! Wishing you the best with everything 💛
I know how you feel. I'm only 36 and been in psychologic therapy and i am very thankful for this oppinion, because it helps my mind and my Soul. I worked as an elderly Care nurse my whole live. I understand your sorrows and i wish i could Help you. If you ever need a Talk, i would feel honored and please feel free to write me 😊 And thank you for Sharing this. ❤
You know what would improve your condition? Turn off TV for 3 months and don't read/watch any news online. You'll be surprised how much better you'll feel after those 3 months..
Oh, that has worked miracles on my mental health. Pandémic taught me that this Is the way to survive, meanwhile the Bast mayority of people went deep into social media the only outcome of that Is suffering. Glad i saw that comming.
Yes, that definitely will solve his existential problems. /s Leisure activity is important for mental health. It can be maladaptive if it’s your response to dealing with a stressful situation, but I don’t think that’s the case here.
It's true. During the pandemic all I did was go out mountain biking, taking road trips. If the news didn't talk about COVID I wouldn't even have known it existed lol. The news said everyone was dying, then I walked outside of my house and life was just like it always was. People outside living life. Almost like it never happened.
Regarding your son's education, I believe there's no need to choose a private school; public schools are sufficient. In reality, even if he attends a private middle school, his future ultimately depends on him. Private middle schools do not guarantee success, and since the tuition is expensive, they may not always be cost-effective. In fact, both of my children attended public middle and high schools and went on to high-level universities. This is my personal opinion as a Japanese person.
Thank you so much for this insight into your life and culture. You are carrying so much, but you seem strong. I hope you feel soon that you can breathe, and your family will be okay. ❤
Even though the topic isn’t the most up beat, I still find your voice to be very calming. I just love to listen to what you have to say! I hope you start to feel better soon. You are not alone!
Too many people call that a mental condition. Figuring out how to take care of the family is a lot. But that's not mental to be stressed. I lost my job a year ago because of real people who were not right in the head running the school I worked at. They weren't my children but they never deserved that because of bad administration. Your a good dude!
This is one of the most honest slice of life youtube content creators from Japan. I dont always like those street interview videos too much. I feel like it's been done too much. I dont always like the quirky background music they always put in the videos. His content is RAW and UNFILTERED. Good luck on your future endeavor from a single 33 year old man with no kids from the USA.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts as an average 50 year old Japanese man. It's been very interesting to understand the situation, and to hear the current state in Japan. I hope to hear about more of this in future, and I hope everything will turn out well for you and your family!
I am from a small village in Australia. You are a very likeable person and even though you dont think so, you are doing well, really well - looking after your family and being a family man is a valiant task.
Your age falls into the sandwich generation. I understand your worries and concerns. I have learned a lot not only about the Japanese society from the perspective of the Japanese, but also general concerns from the middle-aged man.
In Japan, the Democratic Party was in power for three years starting in 2009. This change came about due to widespread dissatisfaction with the then-ruling Liberal Democratic Party. However, the three years following the transition were disastrous, often referred to as a "nightmare." Additionally, many of Japan's policies are created by bureaucrats who are public servants, often referred to as the "real shadow cabinet." The biggest issue is that many politicians lack the capability to produce effective policies compared to these bureaucrats. This is my personal opinion as a Japanese person.
@@gotakazawa408sounds very similar to western governments, they don't seem to be serving the people who vote for them but instead they serve something else. Only when it is election time they pretend to be on your side for your vote. Who is benefiting from the policies they create?
it may seem a long time before you pay off your house but you can see it as a future security for your children. It's better than paying rent where you have nothing to show for it at the end. Don't worry about things you can't change. Concentrate on your family by bringing your children up as worthwhile citizens that can contribute to society. Yes, support your family and you will do the right thing by your country too.
You don't have a mental problem. But, depressed. Everyone is stressed with work and financial/family life. You can't solve it with medicine. It will mess up your brain capability. Planning and organizing slowly. Balance your diet. Some people jog or walk. This is good. You are already on that road!👌🏻
I will say I understand how you are feeling. I´m only 39 and i´m depressed. I have financial issues, i´m unemployed been trying for 8 years to get a job but it´s been damn hard because the number of unemployed people are so dang high it is a life of death competition almost to find a job. And something that makes me very sad is that my dream I had sense I was 10 years old is to go to Japan or even move to Japan but with the financial issue having a hard time landing a job I will probably never be able to visit japan as long as I live. I have 2 kids and every day I feel i´m the most useless father ever existed because I don´t have the mental energy to be the father they maybe need me to be. Im worried every day about the state of the world. Are we soon going in to a World war 3 or will there be a new pandemic and so on.
The unfortunate part is that so many people are suffering just like you all around the world. Everyday people are perpetually stuck within this cycle of work, paying bills, sleeping with so little energy remaining to eat, improve themselves and socialize; meanwhile the stress from everything eats away at us. Our leaders are too busy finding more ways to put more money into their own pockets than to help us survive. There really is no easy solution, these problems are momentous and the path to navigate them is nebulous at best. This isn't even to mention those of us that are afflicted with crippling illnesses; which stop us from integrating or being a part of visible society. Regardless of how we are being systemically demolished by the people in power(CEOs, Politicians and their ilk) we can only focus on what is in front of us until such time as we find the eye of the storm. I wish you the best of luck and would like to leave you with this: A dying man needs not a doctor to tell him that he is so but to heal him. If you feel depressed then, chances are, you are to a degree. I understand that mental healthcare in Japan could be improved, so if you do seek aid: I hope you find it.
Best way Ive found to better my mental health is to make a lifestyle change. Which is very hard to do but possible. Change is hard, and scary, but your mental health will never change if you don't change yourself. I'm definitely still struggling with it and there is still a lot of changes I want and need to make in my life, but I'm scared. Break the chain, get out of the comfort zone and thrive.
im from sweden and im only 17 but i feel the same i have always been depressed. got bullied through my entire life for being fat and had some false rumours going around about some stuff that has ruined my entire life and my whole villiage knew about it. had barely any friends throughout my entire life and still am even tho i have lost all my weight and i am not fat anymore got a beautiful girlfriend a year ago that lived on the other side of the country so flew out multiple times to be with her but i was always getting pushed down and she was sometimes rude to me causing arguments for no reason etc. we broke up on our 1 year anniversary and i was with her at the time of the breakup had some issues she found out that i had been smoking weed with friends and she broke up with me making me start smoking more and its been about 2 months and i still think about her all the time i am very depressed and in a lonely state where i have no friends and dont go to school i can barely sleep i have had multiple times where i have been awake for 2 days even tho i take sleep medicine(melatonin) i still cant sleep i have very strong adhd and extreme short term memory loss i feel better watching ur videos they always make me feel like im not alone even tho i am thank you hopefully it will get better for you just need to keep on going and fighting
Thanks for sharing, I'm in a similar situation struggling with depression. It's interesting to learn how things over in Japan is impacting your people. Some of the same crap in America. Hang in there and I look forward to seeing your retro video game videos if you plan to post more of those ❤🎮
You have a lot of responsibility as a man, a lot of people depending on you. I Imagine you work very hard. Future is scary for many people. So sorry you feel depressed. Its a tough road to walk. I hope you start feeling better talking about it. Many people u derstand and feel your pain ❤❤❤
What a blessing it is to have this great channel to supplement your income and for all of us to enjoy. Hopefully you can refinance to a fixed rate if they stay down. Also, try to find a way to bring your mother home if you can. My hope is with you brother!
1.Start 2.cue car sound drving by w/in 12 ft open air. 3.silence everything else to draw in closely for the hook. 4.Reel 'em in. Great to see you, keep surfing bruh.
Keep going strong and keep making content 50-year-old guy, you'll hit 100K soon. Very soon you'll be able to do this full-time and start making real money from your RU-vid content: You'll see.
I don't know much about managing finances, but I know you have the potential to make a lot of money on RU-vid! I love how gentle and kind your voice is, I could listen to you talk about anything haha. P.S. you should do a storytime about how you met your wife, it would be a great video and I am sure a lot of other people are curious as well :)
Your videos are very interesting. lot of these problems are found around the world. Just know you are not alone and you will get through this. My Japanese is rusty but 頑張れ！その問題は難しい。気をつけてください
Limit inflow of news will help. Yes, there's quite some negative news happening in Japan currently. It's pretty much the same in western countries too but different issues. Hang in there
i am also mentally depresses as living in Vancouver Canada makes it so difficult to find a job... I hope I can find anytime soon. but lets hang on each other and be mentally well.
Worry about the things you can control. Enjoy your young children you might be living the best time of your life now. You can worry about the future when it becomes your present.
Focus on one issue at a time, think of all the solutions for that problem and note it down. Analyze which solution seems to be the best and apply that one. If it doesn't work, then try again at a later time. Eventually you will find the correct solution that seems to work. Then move to next problem with same methods. I know a random youtube commentator advice won't be as effective as let's say psychologists or psychiatrists. And I would highly suggest that you check up with them.
I’m in Mauritius and the country is also facing a population emergency but the average person doesn’t know. There is little to no government support and programs - besides statistics and when I’ve tried bringing it up they just brush off. At least Japan is taking many steps to address the problem.
Thank you for making your second channel. It is for emergency should something happen to this channel. I will give you a comment in your community post.
Just one idea, if you struggle with finances, consider that you can learn financial skills. You have lots of items in your house you could try selling. Also you know english, most japanese don't so you can teach. Solutions available, maybe the lack is the willingness.
Try to live in the day and not worry too much about the future. You seem to be good at planning so have more faith in yourself. May be a mindfulness course or cognitive behavioral therapy might help. In the UK, you can get groups like this online. Discuss your worries with your wife and that might lighten the burden on you.
In the USA the current average rate for fixed rate mortgage is 7.62%! For nursing homes you want to say, "residents" as "inmates" are prisoners... Small distinction for some, perhaps.
Keep doing your best and things will be alright man... there is a lot of overthinking and overkill in all this... I mean, worrying already about how society will be in 2030? What could you do about it? Live the present with your wife and kids, that is what you can do that will have positive effect in their lives, forget about governments and estimations for the next 10, 20 years...
Being depressed doesn't generally mean you are ill, it can also mean that things, that you care about are at risk and that stresses you out. Being a father is not easy, respect dude! But having to pay for your home till 78 is tough. Did you know that, when you build/bought the house? Or did sth not go as planned?
The mundane life & anxiety are getting to you. Maybe use some of that vacation time to go over next door to S. Korea with the whole family. Outdoor activity will better for the entire family. Also, check up on your vitamin D deficiency when you get your blood work done. That does wonders for male in their 50's.
Well, maybe aging population has some upsides, like it might make getting some job easier for your children, when companies has less young people to applying for a job. Or atleast it should be in theory. Of course there is other issues that comes with it, like expenses are going up, when there is less working people to take care of the infrastructure. Good thing is that Japan has very good infrastucture, so the impact of the aging should be less painful compared to Korea or China.
Philippians 4:6-7 - do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
