This girl is so desperate for love she is letting people rob her of her kindness . This world we live in is not currently for kind people , we live in a world of users , liars , manipulators and this is the result . This girl just needs a real friend .
I don't think she's desperate, more that she's young. People are absolute cunts, especially men. The need for connection is NORMAL. Being open to find it puts you in a vulnerable position and it's only through experience that you become wise and strong.
@@dabd8175 just seen your other comments. You sound like a woman-hater and an abuser. You need help. All that hatred is consuming your bones and you're going to end up VERY ALONE although I bet you're already there. I feel sorry for the women in your life. How awful.
my god it is… and once it is in you, it feels impossible to get rid of. you’ll always know it. it’ll always be there just under the surface, at least, that’s my experience.
@@brenttrotter88 This. It's so weird. It's like you have grey-tinted glasses (eyeballs?) and you can't see any other colors. Can't comprehend them. Physically incapable of processing them. If you've not had depression it's hard to comprehend this. I had manic depression which was like feeling the grief of a loved one dying in my arms for every moment I was awake. It took help and time.
Hi Britt. I was a jumper, too, when I was 19 years old. Five stories. I broke almost every bone in my body and barely survived. Three of my family members died by suicide. I am a survivor of severe child abuse. My depression was so bad that I had to have shock therapy twice in my life. Twenty years ago, someone came into my life. Her name is Ramey, and she's a woman with Down syndrome and autism. I became a companion to her. We became the best of friends, so much so that now we're like sisters. She doesn't have any family living near her. She lives in a group home in my town. Every Sunday, I spend the day with her doing all her favorite things. She is so sweet and the smallest things make her so happy. She has taught me how to feel happiness. She LOVES being with me, and I have enriched her life as much as she's enriched mine. If my life hadn't been saved when I jumped, Ramey and I would never have met and had the opportunity to enrich each other's lives. When I'm with Ramey, she often takes a moment to say, "I'm happy" with a beautiful smile on her face. She's teaching me to be happy about the simple things. Who would have known that a disabled person with Down syndrome and autism could have the power to help a person like me with a history of severe depression. Don't give up, Britt. A Ramey just might come into your life someday, and they will bring light into your life, and you will bring light into their life. It can happen. If I can do it, you can do it. Hang in there, girl. Crawl, if you have to, toward the light at the end of the tunnel. Hugs to you.
Love this! When you have a friendship with someone who sees the world in a simpler way, it helps you see things in a different perspective from their point of view. And you have brought so much to this friend’s life!
im so proud of you. i hope you are too. this broke my heart to hear your story, but it also warmed my heart to hear you found something and someone to make life wonderful. ❤
My life didn't even really get going until I was 30. And at 40 it's better than it was at 30. Please don't give up, sis. Your life can and will look so different in the future.
Man I hope so. I'm mentally in the same headspace as Brit and I'm turning 30 in a few days. I have attempted several times, and every day I'm alive, I regret not being successful. I have not seen anything worth living for like people claim. My life is better than 10 years ago, but it's not good enough for me to want to keep living. I feel like I was scammed into staying alive. I feel like everyone lied/lies about a life worth living. Even if I'm "young", I'm tired. I'm very much looking forward to the end.
@@leahanderson7504, really sorry to read this.😢 Have you tried relocating? Living a totally different lifestyle in another part of the world, would be “another life” in this lifetime. It worked for me.🤗
@@leahanderson7504I’m so sorry you have had a hard life up until this point, I’m sorry that people have not been good to you. I want you to know there are still good people in the world, people who will love and respect you for who you are. If you need any type of healing for your soul it’s worth putting in the effort to get well. There’s lots of things you can do that will help, the best one is asking God to help you, he really will. He wants to heal everyone from the trauma they may have experienced, it is totally possible. I wish you well. God bless you.
@@leahanderson7504don't give up...i was in the same boat.....i hit 40 I got in my car 5 ft. snow outside...went to the beach...met some wonderful people and changed my life
Being scammed romantically or financially can seriously screw you up. While suicide is never a good option, her mindset is totally understandable. I really hope she pulls through this. Dr Delony did an incredible job on such a difficult call
Romance scamming has to be one of the most painful and heinous actions one can commit, honestly, especially with how bad the loneliness epidemic is. It's horrible the lengths some people will go to for the sake of money.
You can always come back. She's younger than I was after my life fell apart and I managed to scrape it back together. Just throw everything you have at it, if you're willing to pass you have nothing left to lose and you can put everything into becoming stronger and better.
It is! But this is a woman who deep down wants to live. She hasn’t given up yet, if she had given up she wouldn’t have made this call. I have hope for her ❤
Britt ❤. I had a failed suicide attempt a year ago. When I reached out for help, my therapist said something I will never forget. HOPE = Hold On Pain Ends. I didn’t believe it back then, but today I am glad I stayed. It took a LOT of work and courage on my part, but I’m so glad I stayed. Next month my husband and I are traveling to Japan - first vacation since…and I can’t stop thinking that I would have missed this and many more experiences that I know are still ahead of me. Sending you strength and love. I do care ❤.
Welcome to Japan! It's still hot and humid but the autumn moon is waxing, and some flowers will start blooming again. I hope all the temples and gardens give you peaceful moments of joy.
This is a powerful one. I still stay up at night, asking God to take me, It’s rough and I used to believe nobody cares about me at all nor would care if I died, but John said it best “Two strangers care more about your life than you care about your own”. I hate being a burden to others, and sadly access to information about MAID (Med. Assistance in Dying) is more accessible than how to find someone to talk to without inpatient care, something that hurts more than it helps. Thanks for posting this, Dr Deloney. This showed me that although there isn’t anyone in the same boat as me, but there are people in the same storm.
Same I've always asked God to not wake me up in the morning but he still does . It feels like I'm forced to be alive and on this earth especially for family because it's selfish If I feel like that . I wish God would just to listen to me and not wake me tomorrow.
PraiseGod! Thank You for letting us know about you. I know God Loves you so much and I Pray for absolute BLESSING will come your way. If you have an Alexa ask her to play Christian Music or find a Christian radio station or on your phone. Thats what helps me. Remember the battle belongs to the Lord. PeaceAndLove Lori
@@jalen1838if God is having you wake up each day then that means he has a purpose for you. You just need to find it. Think of others in this world even worse off than you, who are crying for help and there you will find your purpose.
Britt, I'm a fellow Canadian. My partner chose maid for his dementia last December. You aren't where he was at. You still have much to give the world. Don't worry about men and relationships. You can still work and bring joy to the world. Let your light shine!
Exactly. I’m Canadian as well, and many people do not support MAID for reasons like depression or anxiety…and I say that as someone who has struggled with them, too. MAID should be reserved for those with horrible, terminal illnesses where nothing but more pain and more suffering are to come for the patient and their family (i.e. Glioblastoma, ALS, Alzheimer’s or dementia). She still has so much to give, and you never know what life may have in store for you. I’m not religious, but I always try to have hope for a better tomorrow.
@@tarynmacdonald1387 I know someone with severe depression. They suffered for over 30 years with every med and treatment around. I'm sure the way they unalived themself was far less dignified than maid. But drawing that line is hard.
Imagine being 26 and feeling you've got no purpose. Britt I hope you read all these comments and realise you are valued. God bless you darling (and I aint religious!).
The feeling of no purpose is relatable. I recently lost my job and feel like I don't deserve to live unless I'm working or doing something that society considers profitable. 27 has been terrible so far.
@@theclassicstare5713 I'm 52 and lost my job 4 years ago! Totally get the not feeling worthy but the alternative doesn't bear thinking about. The grief and pain it would cause my nearest and dearest would be horrendous. A job will come up eventually, be strong!
@@theclassicstare5713 One of the most tragic things society has done to us is making us think the work we do defines us as people and gives us value. I'm still in the process of deprogramming from these BS expectations and finding my own self worth, and it's far more liberating than any job that's "socially acceptable".
Can definitely relate! Was laid off from work last year and took me an entire year to find a job! It was the absolute worst! Feelings of worthlessness and hopelessness definitely start to kick in after some time. It’s depressing and so frustrating. Then the stress that starts kicking in over paying bills! These are some real hard times we’re living in. God was my only hope.
I’m 22 and bedridden. I have no friends. Can’t even work from home due to my disability. I have non. Stop. Neuropathy. In all four limbs and no one knows why, I can’t walk, I have almost a complete loss of muscle use at any given second.i knew when Canada introduced this they’d have mentally ill young people trying to end their pain prematurely. I wouldn’t suffer like this every day and have to watch other people my age live their lives and have jobs and friends and a relationship while I watch through my window if I didn’t think there was some intrinsic value to my life that I’m not fully aware of. I hope the woman in the video remembers faith comes through pain. You can survive this
I have had non-stop neuropathy in all 4 limbs since I was a little older than you. They don’t know why. Never been diabetic…do you take a nerve med? I couldn’t survive without gabapentin but it makes me drop everything. Hugs and prayers to you and I hope you stay strong. You have so much to offer this world ❤
@@danis4054 Also never diabetic! I was on gabapentin for CRPS in my feet but it made me very sick. The DAY I started to lower off of it is when my neuropathy started. Never before had neuropathy in my arms or legs just the CRPS pain in my feet. From there I’ve been on Lyrica rhe past couple years and that helped but it doesn’t any more so I’m almost off of it. Other than those two the only other things they can give me is pain medication. I’ve done every test multiple doctors could think of but so far the neuropathy is still diagnosed as idiopathic. I wanted to ask because I don’t know anyone else with neuropathy, when I get sick I start to full body twitch and shake with symptoms completely mimicking Parkinson’s and I have to take seizure medicine. I don’t have seizures, I don’t know if the CRPS has completely fried my nerves in my body to that point or what it is, but even after I get better it lasts a few months before dying out slowly until I get sick again. Anything similar happen or should I be expecting a syndrome named after me 💀
I was depressed through my 20s too. I wanted to take my life since I was 18. But things started turning around when I was in my 30s. I honestly don’t even know why. It was just that some good things started happening. The best was that I met my husband and he’s completely taken those thoughts away from me without even trying. I’m pregnant now and I’m so glad I’m still here.
Britt I’m 24 and understand how exhausting depression can be. I’ve struggled with it since I was 13. Although I don’t have any disabilities, my mental health has impacted my body and has caused severe physical pain. Please please please don’t give up❤ please take this opportunity to receive help. I care about you and don’t want you to leave this world
I’m on disability for severe bipolar 1 with psychotic features. I’ve sh🔘t myself in the chest missing my heart by a hairs breath. That was in 2015 and I was 43. Britt really needs help. This has overcome her. She’s like me. My sister told me I paid my electric bill before I shot myself. I don’t know how she knows that but apparently I did. Britt says she doesn’t want to traumatize anyone. When I did, this both my parents were already dead. It was just me and my sister left. My sister almost lost her mind. I just had another episode recently. She has never seen me have an episode before and she thought I was going to die. I traumatized the hell out of my sister. Because previously in 2007, our mother deleted herself. Think of your family, Britt. You can get help.
MAID isn't easy to get. You have to get interviewed by doctors. My mother was just waiting to die . She was given a few months to live. No quality of life. Suffering every day, and when she was offered this, she immediately started the process. This is not meant for people who are depressed.
Nor is there even an actual pathway for people who suffer from simple depression to get access The times where it has been made available, has been because the depression is linked to some other condition for which the pathway is already there. It turns out there are quite a few depressed terminally ill cancer patients
I’ve lived with depression for 17 years, my uncle died by suicide when I was 15 and sometimes I think the thought of staying alive is the scariest thing in the world. But it’s true your family members never recover, not fully. And I know I couldn’t inflict that level of trauma on my family. I hope you find your happy place Britt ❤
My father committed suicide when I was 13, I’m 19 now live on my own. it affects everyone around you forever. Please don’t do it Brit :( you’re loved I promise you ❤❤
@@lisa3341she needs to learn how to stop self pitying herself also. She’s extremely self aware and intelligent, but all her interactions she mentioned were based off of attention seeking. There are some major mental challenges aside from just feeling suicidal.
Britt I get it, I live with severe chronic pain, am bed ridden & recently attempted suicide, it felt great slipping away from life’s pain but the sadness it caused my young nieces & nephews, my dad & sisters ate me up. Their pain at loosing someone they loved so much was unbearable. I still think about it everyday BUT beautiful Britt you are just 26, a baby to me at 56. I promise you life will get better, you can find joy, love & happiness. Please don’t leave us we need you in our world because you are special❤I write this from New Zealand so a world apart I feel you honey. Please don’t give up that caring, compassionate heart.
Omygosh! My heart is broken for you regarding living with chronic pain and you’re still so young only 56 years old - Your comment was so beautiful and powerful for Britt- I pray This young 26 year old reads your heart felt comment to her. Thank You for sharing your comment and please know I will be praying for you. Praying our God in Heaven will Heal your Chronic Pain. PeaceAndLove Lori
This was the most saddening call I’ve heard in this show. Everyone please show compassion to everyone. Even if it’s a random stranger, show that you care to them and they matter. That can make a difference in someone’s life.
Good god this might be the most brutal phone call yet for me at least. Listening to someone who's obviously such a beautiful compassionate human and has completely given up on life in the process of ending theirs is absolutely gut wrenching.
Wow. This call had me in tears. Britt, I can relate to many if your feelings. Listen, the world will not be a better place without you. It will be far worse. I can tell by your voice that you exude vibrance, kindness, and empathy. We need you in this world. Please take the resources that John and Kelly offer you. You’re worth being here and are loved!
Instead of saying “you have so much to give “ she should hear “you have so much connection and love to have “ because I relate to always giving all you have instead of working on yourself
NO MAN or his actions are worth ending your life for, EVER. Trust us Britt when we say that one day in the future when you find your right person you will look back and say THANK GOD I kept fighting because now I AM HAPPY. It will happen, grab life and fight girl!
Exactly, I'm exhausted just listening to her, shes clearly overweight, out of shape, and deeply, naively lonely. Infuriated that there's young kids fighting for their lives against cancer and other ills and this 26yo self pity case is ready to throw it AWAY because she can't get laid?!? HOW SELFISH 🤮
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.porassss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish those were more accessible here. Microdosing was the next thing I planned for my husband. He's 59 & facing many mental health issues, probably CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma for 8 days. Sadly, I had to get a TPO because he's 6'6, over 300 pounds, and displaying violent behavior, always talking about hurting others. He's really aggressive. If anyone out there knows about BPD, is it common to have an obsession with violence?
Thank you for discussing MAID (US medical here, but we do have a PAS program in my state). And for your friend that joined the call. Who ever sold her this false hope, she doesn’t meet any criteria for this service. She needs care, help, clinical support and a strong support system. Really appreciated this call/vid/conversation.
Britt has her entire life in front of her - find an outlet that makes you happy and it will provide self worth. If you read this, you absolutely deserve happiness in this Life. Know that people love you
This brought me to tears. Dr. Jon and the wonderful woman that is offering Britt help are absolute angels. Praying for Britt, that she sees the light and incredible value in her life. 🙏🕊🦋
Hey Britt - I'm a fellow Manitoban. I understand the feeling of intrusive suicidal thoughts, as I also dealt with them a good majority of my life. Someone told me once, "you're not depressed, you're just surrounded by a-holes." At the time, I thought it was incredibly insensitive and took great offence to it, but looking back, I see that there was a lot of truth to it. I'm now in my 30's and have been going to therapy regularly for a number of years, and every year, my mental health gets better. I've also always been empathetic and compassionate - I had to unlearn people pleasing behavior, to set myself free. I learned how to value myself and set (and stick to) boundaries. It was REALLY hard and took years. But wanting to die all the time was harder - like you said, it's exhausting. I'm in a great place in my life now. I still go through phases of depression and anxiety - I know it's a condition I have that will never fully go away, (and I won't pretend that there is a magical cure that will make your depression leave forever and life will be perfect and you'll never be sad again) but it's manageable, and any suicidal thoughts I have now are just a glimpse, a quick flash, and then it's gone. I know it doesn't feel like it right now, but life is so worth hanging on for, fighting through those incredibly dark times. I'm rooting for you, and I know that if you can learn to believe in yourself, that you and your compassionate heart can also change lives. Much love to you.
It's crazy how many ppl are willing to take advantage of disabled ppl. I will be praying for this young lady. Good on you for calling Dr John Brit. We ALL want you to stick around my friend ❤
Stay with us Brit, I've been used myself and it flipped my world upside down. I found my fiancé a year after. Life has become so much better. I love her so much and she loves me. If I gave up I my fiancé would still be hurting looking for me... and that breaks my heart to think about.
I struggle with this a lot, but I need to keep reminding myself that there is no calm and peace after death. There is just death. You won’t be there to experience calm and peace. You will be dead. But if I can create the calm and peace in life, I can be here to experience that.
Hey Anna, all the same words that are here for Brit they are here for you as well. You figured this out correctly. Create that peace. Life is the only place you’ll find it. Go get it sister 💪
I’m her age, in a very similar headspace, struggling with chronic pain in my hands and feet for a year now, out of work. I’ve considered MAID several times. This call came at the perfect time. The way you guys handled it really encouraged me.
I'm so sorry you're going through everything that you are. You are much stronger than you realize. I have a congenital brain abnormality that I recently had surgery for and I'm currently awaiting some cancer testing. I understand chronic pain and even just the fear of new things coming along. But we get this one chance at life. Please stick around ❤ There are so many out there that will gladly hold our hands out to help you limp along while you find your strength along the path. There's so much more out there for you, so much good!
I've had so many times where I wished I was not here anymore; I've attempted to end it all twice and failed, I OD'd on a mix of alcohol and alprazolam (xanax), and I'm in a situation where if it wasn't for family, I'd be homeless. I've been on the job market for 2 years and have very little coming in and i'm genuinely scared more than I care to admit. But I'm grateful i'm still around, and hopeful for a life that is better than what I've had.
This woman cannot give up on life. She has a purpose! She has value! Finding joy in life IS possible! Life is a gift, even with hardship, because of what we can achieve become on the other side of it. Please don't give up, Britt.
There’s a man that has some sort of mental disability in the UK who has been famous for about 60 years, he has had quite a life and they made a film about him called Marvellous his name is Neil Baldwin. For decades he went to a university just to talk to students and with his little gems of wisdom has helped many. He once saved the life of a young women he met one night who told him she was going to commit suicide, he said to her ‘ we all have to die, but why does it need to be now’. she talked to him and got help. If you can find the tv film I would watch it, the world should be more Neil Baldwin. If the young woman is reading this please don’t give up, if I could I would give you a big hug, try to get help it could be an imbalance of hormones. They say try and see greenery, keep busy see people, I know it’s easier said than done. You are worth your weight in gold never forget you are as important to this world as anyone. All my love and hugs to you and anyone else out there suffering from any illness.
“We can heal you, my love.” ❤️ Thank you for this episode and for saying, “thoughts of dying by suicide” VS “committing” it, like a criminal. Britt - I hope you read these comments and feel the love here for you. You seem like a genuine, loving and compassionate person. You deserve to know the joys of life and I believe that better is already on the way. My story - Earlier this year with no warning someone I know went to Niagara Falls and did not return. She has left the biggest hole in our hearts across the community and the world. She had loved ones around her, friends, was well educated with a good job(business owner), a loving boyfriend and then some. You never know what someone is thinking but I can tell you from the other side the grief is immense, heavy and confusing. It haunts all of us, the whys, so many questions. If anyone here feels like their life isn’t worth living I can assure you that you have no idea the depth of your impact on people. Beyond that, you have no idea about all of the wonderful experiences you will have, all the people who will love you, all the blessings that are already on the way to you. You owe it to yourself to stick around until the sh!tstorm passes. Sending extra love to the collective, also from Canada ❤️🇨🇦 (Hi Kelsey,👋🏻 Loved your message. Thank you for your work!!)
Britt, I hope you see this message. It's so normal for us to desire connection and sadly, it's not so unusual to run across the scumbags of the world in the process. Hope is not lost though!! If you take your life then you're dying not for yourself but for the pain people have put on you. Take the time to look for support groups, counseling, and activities in your area. Attend church and meet people! You're screaming so loudly that you're lonely! Remember that there's many people who feel similar to you. Reach out! Make friends! Find connections! You're only 26. I promise you that life WILL get better.
I’ve been fighting unaliving thoughts for the past 4 years because of a couple Disabling spine injuries. I thought loosing my only parent my mom at 15 was the worst thing to happen to me. God gave me a gift a year before my life flipped on itself . I still struggle with these thoughts everyday but I can promise that I won’t leave my kid no matter how hard it gets. I was just crying from the pain last night at 5 am. I will take any amount of pain than take myself out of this world. My kid is just to important to me and I can’t give up on never seeing his smile again. I feel so bad that this lady is being pushed into unaliving as a medical procedure it’s absolutely sick what they’re doing to her and others like her. Half my depression could be fixed if the government gave me disability and I could stop working under the table. I can only work 2 hours a day before I have to spend the day laying down because I’m in so much pain.I can’t work a regular job because I’m on opioid patch 24/7. Instead of living in a rv in a back yard I can get assistant living if I was on disability. It would change my life I’m on my 4th case and have a disability medical determination appointment tomorrow . I can’t imagine how pissed and mentally defeated I’d be if they offered me maid as a solution. I’m already at my lowest in life but with a glimpse of hope
I was manic depressive and almost committed suicide because of some impossible situations that took 11 years to get past. The train tracks looked like the most peaceful thing I had ever seen. An intrusive thought came to me, and I turned around. I am almost 60 now, and I would have missed every moment I have experienced since then that I would not give up with this new mindset I have today. One moment, one quick decision gave me 20 years of uos and yes downs, but I would never wish today That I had of done it then. Let your future self talk to you in the now. The future self that would have no choice. Vision yourself older looking back. It helps, and God bless you and keep you.
This call hit me hard and I feel her 100% having been in that dark place in life. Even though it may not seem like things will be okay, it will! Find a community and never give up!!
Wow! I don't think I've ever heard a more heartbreaking phone call. Dr. John, I believe it's calls like these that make your reasons for going into the field you're in and starting this podcast worth it! YOU ARE SAVING LIVES SIR! Thank God for you! Praying for your peace and healing Brit! God has great plans for your life and Satan is trying to take you out girl! I'm so glad you had the good sense to call this show!
My first suicidal thoughts came when i was 12 and persisted until i was 28. I also resisted the temptation to follow through was out of consideration for others. I am so thankful that i am now free from that constant assault on my mind. My dark days are WAY outnumbered by the calm ones. Bless you, Britt. I love you.
😭 Britt!! I say this with all my heart!! Please stay with us! I know your heart is aching, I know your mind is exhausted! I want to send you so much love. 💗 I’m sorry for the ways people have taken advantage of you. As someone who has struggled with chronic pain from Endometriosis, my heart has so much compassion for you. My prayers and thoughts are with you ❤ I pray for hope for you, I pray for peace in your heart and mind. I pray you see your incredible value. I pray for friends and connections that are healthy. ❤
This is a very difficult topic, but as someone who has been close to several people who were long term suicidal... you have to try and understand that people who WANT to end their lives feel utterly hopeless. They are in a position where they cannot imagine a future that is better. The idea of death brings them peace, because making life better seems so impossible to them... having that idea of that escape is nice to them. They feel like there is no escape from the suffering they feel (whatever kind it may be). They literally can't see things getting better, so to them the idea of living on for an unknown amount of time seems horrific. The issue is.... their perception is extremely warped because pain is all they have known for a LONG time. They need to EXPERIENCE things changing and getting better, not just be told that things will get better. Often people in this situation need a LOT of support or a large change in situation to help them get out of this very trapped, depressed place. It's important we don't just default to telling every person that has the thought of dying that it is terrible or wrong... it's not. It's a very normal thing to consider ending it when you think all you have in your future is pain. The problem is, that isn't true for 99.9% of people. They think it is true, but it isn't. And it is the saddest thing in the world when someone's mind is so warped due to trauma, circumstance and illness that they truly believe there is no other option. But we also have to respect HOW MUCH PAIN someone has to be in to even consider ending things. Never underestimate it. Be kind, and try not to get angry if you ever have someone you care about in this position.
Omg can I just say ur post is exactly how I feel. I have mental illness and a lot of trauma on top of it. Taking a shower feels like running a marathon.
My heart breaks for you, Britt. I myself am also a 26 year old girl who struggles with mental health issues, including suicidal thoughts and attempts that have left me hospitalized. It’s hard as hell to move forward sometimes, but there is always a reason to. There will always be a reason to stay, even when it feels like there’s absolutely none. Keep fighting Britt, the world can’t lose you yet.
I never comment but my heart goes out to you ❤ I’ve been so depressed, poor, and lost before. Ive had two divorces, no parents, and lived on air mattresses. There is another side girl ❤ I got a life coach, found a good church, and started a RU-vid channel to reach people. Keep talking about your feelings but know how valuable you are. You will help so many people through your life
I saw my mother commit suicide when I was 5. She jumped out of the balcony because my father hurt her again and again. That's the first time I swear to protect my mom for the rest of my life, and i would never ever commit suicide. Because it's too painful to see your loved ones give up on themselves. I don't want anyone else to suffer what I've suffered. You can always be yourself and love yourself. And we love you as mothers and fathers, sisters ....... we are in a big family. ❤❤❤ Britt you will be fine and God will always be with you.
Dear Tina…your comment took my breath away. There really are no words. I thank you for sharing and am so sorry that you experienced that. I am floored by your honesty, bravery, and determination to keep moving forward. God bless you🤍
My stepbrother lost his battle with depression near the beginning of last year. I didn't know him well, but I grieved the lost opportunities for connection, my inability to help him when it mattered, and the pure agony it inflicted (and continues to inflict) upon his mom and sister. It was especially jarring because when he passed, I had only JUST moved in with a sibling for safety reasons a day or two beforehand, having come closer than ever before to losing the same battle. I was slapped in the face with the realization of, "That could have been me." And I wish I could go back in time, give my stepbrother a hug, and tell him how often I still think about him, how much his family misses him, and how precious his life was. I also intimately understand why he made the choice he did, so I don't feel I'm in any position to judge him -- he had a hard life and the shroud of pain made it too hard for him to see anything good, either down the road or within himself. I just wish he'd held on long enough to see that things could get better (like they have for me, though I still struggle). I hope to someday get to see him and know him better in Heaven, but first I have a life to live down here. Fighting every day to make it the best it can be.
My heart breaks for her. When it's one bad thing after another, it starts to beat you down more and more, and resiliency starts to wane. Her calling Delony is a cry for help and I severely hope she continues to get it past this call. Bless Britt, sadly so many of us have been taken advantage of by people who we thought loved us... when all we want is connection, love, purpose... and the people keep popping up giving us pain, worthlessness, and abuse. The amazing thing about healing is that you stop placing your value and self worth on other people, and you are able to give it to yourself. Bless you Britt ❤
Been there and lost others to this disease….. this episode was incredibly triggering and scary. Feeling uneasy. Britt… I’ve been there but with meds and therapy it’s possible to live an amazing life life after. I know u see no way out but trust me there’s absolutely a way! Ur not alone and brave for calling out for help!
Britt - I’m 31 and for several years have struggled with a chronic health issue which led to anxiety and depression I’d never felt before in my life. But I remember a time when I was healthy and vibing, so I know I will be there again one day. It seems like you’ve had a challenge from a young age so it’s helpful to know that a better life is possible if you don’t remember or never experienced it before. Your life is so valuable. There’s something that lights your fire in this world and a way to bring peace and happiness to yourself and help others. Maybe you already know what that is to lean into it, maybe you haven’t discovered it yet. I believe in you 💕 here are the legions of people who care about you, your life, and your future. *hug*
This was heartbreaking. I hope to God that she was truly saying "okay" to their offers for help, and putting any amount of faith she had in them, no matter how little--I've been in horrible places where I've said "okay" just to end the conversation. If at all possible, it'd be wonderful to see a follow-up on her story one day. Praying Britt gets all the help she needs and the care she deserves.
Me and my best friend both just turned 30 and are both fighting to keep going. We bounce off each other when we get in those dark places. I hope he never stops replying and he says the same for me. 🙏
About a year ago, I was where she is now. After my first attempt, I looked for ways to not be here and even researched medically assisted suicide. I still believe it is my choice to be here or not. I'm trying to learn to tolerate my existence. But, I'm not gonna lie. Some days are just hard. 🥺
Stay with us Britt! ❤ Please. This IS a passing phase. It gets better. I’ve struggled with depression for about 20 years. You learn when you begin to spiral to be able to get ahead of it and shift course. It gets better ❤
This is what the course should me. As someone who's been through their fair share of mental torment I think we have a void that we are trying to fill superficially and with direction sending us off a cliff. We have a relativistic spiritual crisis.
When i was suffering with PMDD , i had suicidal ideation from the age of 16 to 23 years of age. I had zero self esteem, i was unhealthy and i absolutely hated myself. There's something definitely wrong , and she needs professional help , whether its trauma or hormonal problems. Fortunately ive been getting treatment and i feel so much better. I no longer feel immense pain and emotionally out of control. I feel like myself. Im getting to a healthy weight and no longer feel like hurting myself. Praying for her to find peace and happiness in her life. I brings back painful memories when she stated she looked for places to kill herself cause i used to do the same thing when i was 21.
@@natalietimothy3251 I hope you find treatment soon, it's such an awful thing to suffer through. I'm glad I did my research and made a trip to my doctor and got that sorted out. I thought it was normal cause I was always told " it's just hormones" but it wasn't normal at all. Periods shouldn't be so painful. Always crying or depressed . Best of wishes to those who suffer through such an awful ailment.
Kelsey was made for this. She lives out 2 Corinthians 1!! I cried just hearing the Holy Spirit speak through her. All she went through leads up to moments like this when she can comfort others in their affliction because she too has been comforted in hers. So glad I tuned in. We lift Bret up in prayer.
This woman has hope and can overcome this. I wish I had some help when I was that age, but nobody cares when you're an older man. Just praying for cancer or a heart attack to take me. Please, take help when it is offered.
Britt, you’re loved and important to this world. This stranger on the internet appreciates you. I am so sorry people have taken advantage of you. If you ever travel you have a friend in London❤❤❤
Wow. I never heard that program. I have a daughter who attempted suicide 2 times. Good family. Smart girl , but something in her brain was off. She finally got the help she needed She became a Mom less than a year ago. She married 2 years ago. John is right. Your family and friends will never get over it and they are probably scared out of their minds right now . I’m still traumatized by the experiences if I let my mind go there . Life will get better. Hang on !
Brit, please read this: Get a lawyer, you can find power when you speak truth to power. Threaten litigation. Don't forget that, do it in tandem with emotional recovery. And then, take all the experience you've had building that podcast, and do a podcast on suicide and helping people with it. You have a strong purpose in this life.
Hey. I promise I'm Brit from this call. Believe me, I tried to get a lawyer. The guy who did this was Brian Atlas from the Whatever Podcast. I have proof of the work I did for him. Bc I'm in Canada, employment law will not take the case in Canada as he's in California and I was not able to find a lawyer in California to help me. It's heartbreaking. If you know of anyone who can help legally, please let Dr. Delony know so he can maybe reach out to me. For anyone who reads this: Thank you for your love and supportive comments.
@@charliesmith6156 Hi Brit! :) I'll respond to you directly here: I knew someone in a similar situation, creatives working together on a book and the guy was a complete narc, and broke it off and then started moving forward on his own with PR as if he'd done it all. This person wound up treating him with kit gloves, finessing the situation to be able to make in-roads. I wouldn't recommend that here. Keep moving toward a lawyer in CA, consult labor law organizations, is my first guess. Secondly, if it's who you say it is, it may be a matter of time before he lands himself in hot water with someone else. It's a provocative podcast, which is a nice way of saying it seems attracted to trauma/drama. I think the key here is to focus on you. When you've been subjected to so much chaotic crazy making - in content, at work, and people/people's actions, it takes a lot of time to realize "up from down and left from right" (as a former teacher with some ED students, there is an undeniable truth that it can feel contagious/include transference and it always necessitated end of day transition for my mental health and peace). It may feel like you can't get back what was taken from you, but as you work creatively within yourself, you'll find that this is just one more lie that chaos and trauma want you to believe; you can grow a new garden, however painful at times, so to speak. But the more you grow it, the more that sense of loss and injustice will wilt and the light of health (ie the podcast I recommended you do, a blog, a Medium post or any other channel - any creativity on your end has a way of doing things that are mysterious and divinely healing in a true sense of the word.) Please, start - today. Other people may have "thrown you away," and they really never can when you start to see how this all unfolds spiritually, but you never, ever have to. I speak from experience with a few decades of it, hugs from this mom, to you. ps. please take this stuff 10 minutes at time. Right now, if you can get out of bed, force yourself to eat something easy, and take it 10 min of being vertical you're doing great. a shower, great. get outside, great. don't listen to your head right now, it's an unfriendly neighborhood,Stay vertical, and don't get a case of the horizontals (going back to be) and try this on for 10 minutes at a time. Opposite actions for how you're feeling can bring some real relief.
@@charliesmith6156 omg it was that incel??? That podcast and everyone involved is so awful, makes sense he was preying upon you. I'm actually so glad you got away. Reach out to commentary RU-vidrs with your story. I'm not kidding. Mutahar, Oompaville, moistcritikal, chudlogic, turkey tom, Nicholas Deorio, or even primink. Or any others. This is a huge deal.
i hope brit (and anyone else in a similar spot) is reading these comments seeing all of the people who relate to her pain and are encouraging her to keep going. i got teary-eyed listening to this and i pray everyone reading this finds peace 🙏❤️
I understand how she feels. I can honestly say no one would miss me. I am not important to anyone unless they can get something from me. Strangers can say how much they care about you but when sit in an empty house, you know the truth-it’s just talk. After a while you become “that” person to other people. So I don’t buy it when someone says “I care”. They don’t. I understand exactly where she’s coming from.
It's ok. They don't have to care about you and you can't force anyone. But you are not here on earth to be cared for. People take that for granted. If you analyse relationships from outside, you realise that the real honest care that you seeking, does not exist. Even if you find a single person who cares, like your parent or a sibling, that's pure luck. It's a bonus. Enjoy it for sure, as long as it's available but know, that it's exceptional. Not a birth right. You have to live life, in which the default scenario is that you are alone responsible for your emotional balance, your sanity , your happiness. Because we actually are. We just don't ever have the chance to realise that because most of us have nice people around and we think we get these from them. We aren't. Being alone with yourself is the very basic state. Adding to it, improving it with people, experienses, passions, spicing it up is an option, not a must. Try to get your head around this. Observe people in chosen solitude. Try to understand their mindset. Monks. Even if you are not religious, you can observe a method that is valid for every human being. You might lower your expectations and focus on yourself , to catch up with all the self love, self care, self improvement, admiration of your inner beuty or any buty in the world. You will soon realise your life is too short to soak in everything that there is to experience alone. You wouldn't even have enough time for other people, jobs, etc. And the irony is that they would still look for company because they can't be alone for a sec. They are addicted while you are used to spend quality time with yourself.
I understand how you feel. And I understand how Britt feels. I've been 'there' in the past and I'm struggling today. I've been trying to do a lot of things to 'help' me. When you're on medicare try finding a therapist. And I can't afford to pay. So I've been trying to get help from some You Tube therapists. Reading some of the comments a lot of 'therapists' out there actually cause more harm. I had to get back on meds - the depression/anxiety got too much. I've been diagnosed with PTSD also. I have had too many 'trauma's" in my life that I just kept trying to 'walk through' and it all caught up with me. It's so upsetting that I'm in this state of mind due to the actions of other people. So, I've been trying to do yoga, accupuncture through an accupuncture school that's free to the public, getting back into a 12-step program. I haven't found a church that's a good fit for me yet - I desperately need "community". I've lost my kids too - they made choices that took them down a different path. I feel like I don't have much to live for. And I don't want to feel this way. People say suicide is a "selfish' act. They haven't been in the place that you just can't hardly bear the pain anymore. I've signed up for NAMI. My first meeting is in a couple of weeks. We are sensitive people and I feel that we just arent cut out for this insensitive world. I see other people smiling, laughing and I sooooo wish I could be them. Being 'in my head' is the worst place to be right now. If you want/need to talk we can exchange emails. I wish the other sufferers could have some sort of forum that we could express our true feelings without judgment. The mental health condition in our country is horrible. The suicide rate is horrenduous. There are tens of thousands of homeless in our country and that, too, has become 'normalized'. Drugs/alcohol is just ONE of the reasons. There's lots of ways someone can become homeless. I was "there" too. So I do try to count my blessings. And pray every day. But, for me, living life has been an ordeal to survive. Very few moments of happiness.
I contribute my heavy use of strong psychedelics during my 20’s to be why I’ve been so resilient over my life. The thing about psychedelics is that they don’t intrinsically make you feel good or high. They amplify how you feel already to an unfathomable level. They force you to confront what makes you uncomfortable, no holds barred, you with just your problems. I crave that and that’s why I enjoy psychedelics. It’s not getting high, it’s a journey. Helping others is easier when you have the foundation of knowing you exist without one. Then everything is a plus.
Hi Britt. When I was your age, I tried to take my own life many times, I was too taken advantage of by many men, I never new what love was. I'm 34 now and things are getting better. You wont feel like this forever, I promise
Canadian 🇨🇦 here... MAID is not for people like Britt, nor would she be approved for MAID. Even she is admitting that. There are genuine instances where accessibility to MAID is truly valuable. It's not a simple good/bad issue.
I don’t know why she is saying “MAiD is excruciating”. My stepmom had MAiD after metastatic cancer (to her brain) had her bedridden for months and made her unable to control her bodily functions. She passed very peacefully with my 2 brothers at her bedside in hospice. As there were 6 kids in the family, she didn’t want us all in the room. But my brothers later met us all at her house they told us she was first given a drug to induce sleep, and then another to stop her heart.
@catherinebiermann7940 I'm sorry for your loss 😔 In my experience, people using the MAID option experience peaceful deaths as well. It sounds like Britt may have a difficult life emotionally and mentally. In our limited awareness of her issues, it seems love and attention and good friends and family are desperately needed in her life. I wish her all the best.
Praying for you Britt, just hearing you made me tear up because you’re worthy of living this life. Just know you’re enough and you sound like such a beautiful soul 🤍
You're worth living Britt. Every fiber of you is worth living and you have so much purpose in your life than what you may see right now. You are worth fighting for and you are so very loved. You are not alone and your life has worth. Please dont let any one tell you otherwise because you have hundreds and thousands of others that know that you are worth living. I am 26 years old too. I know what it feels like to be a rock bottom and that death seems like the answer, but I can attest that life has so much more than what you can even imagine. You are alive for a reason and you were born with purpose. And although it seems like not right now, there is light at the end of the tunnel that is worth living for. You are loved and know that God has a greater purpose for you. You are loved beyond comparehension 🙏🏻💚
Not only do we have to live with the burden of living, we have to live with the burden of offing ourselves because people need us. It never ends 😢. This call was so triggering
As a fellow Manitoban, this breaks my heart. I used to be a peer-support counsellor in that province. And having also been someone who wanted to kill myself over my pain, it is way too damn hard to get psychiatric help there. I was prescribed two sessions with a counsellor through my work insurance over the death of a baby loved one, and it ended with a well-intended albeit mildly insulting card from her congratulating me on how far I came. When I tried to open up to her about my pain from my abusive relationship and how it was driving me to want to commit suicide, she told me we couldn't discuss it because my appointment was only to discuss the death. I am in favour of MAID when it comes to fatal conditions ex. ALS, but when I read that they were opening it up for those with depression, I was furious. We have a massive issue with SADS in Manitoba because of our long winters and other cultural issues (especially among our aboriginal population), and it should NOT be easier to kill yourself via medicial assistance than it is to get fu**ing help through our medical system. Sorry - this subject really touches a nerve with me. Hang in there, Brittany. I've been there and believe me, it absolutely gets better. That's not an empty platitiude either. It really does.
I'm a therapist and this is *not* how you respond to someone who is actively suicidal. This can actually make it worse. I hope she is able to get help from someone who will to listen to her without dismissing her experience and guilting her into living (ie., it's painful, other people will not get over it, etc.). For the record, I am not endorsing suicide--it is painful to see people we love go through this and incredibly difficult to feel this yourself. I help people explore the role of suicidal thoughts and what reasons to live are worth it to *them*. We cannot be the ones to judge whether others should live. We don't know their life. It's not our job to convince others to do anything; this disrespects their autonomy. Whatever happens, I hope this caller finds a space to have her thoughts and feelings heard and peace within to find ways to live in a way that makes sense for her. I don't think there's enough training even amongst therapists on how to handle suicidal ideation properly. My heart goes out to this caller.
Dr. Delony pretty much started this segment with the complete fabrication that the Canadian government is somehow promoting MAID use. He could argue against it without making stuff up like that. This shows how out of his depth he is.
Hey Britt, you probably won’t see this but just in the off chance you do but I’m 32 in Ontario and I’m going through the same thing trying to access MAID. I get how tiring depression and other mental illnesses are to deal with. I hope this call ends up giving you some resources to help you thrive and choose to not go through with MAID. However, I just wanted you to know that there is a person out there who is understanding how you are feeling. I wish you the best of luck and I hope you live a long happy life from this moment forward.
MAID is for *irreversible* issues. The kind lady said several times that she is not eligible. I’m Canadian and I’ve never heard of MAID. A simple Google search tells you it is not easy. My husband has a severe mental illness and he doesn’t know about it either. It’s not encouraged. No one is going to help this poor girl die. The only thing that separates MAID from other euthanasia programs is that it includes mental suffering along side physical suffering. That’s it.
I don’t know what he’s talking about “in many ways a government encouraged program”. It’s not encouraged. There are many hoops to go through in order to end your life with dignity.
@@adiem8764you still have to qualify. I just watched a documentary on it. It’s not “easy” to qualify and they have major assessments they do. I’m sure it’s not perfect but I do believe certain people should have access to medically assisted s*icide.
This message is for Britt and then John: Britt: While I don’t know many details about your situation, I can tell you that a lot more people feel these same things that you are feeling. It doesn’t help that we are living in a flawed world that links our worth to the relationships we are in or not in, particularly romantic ones. But despite being told that our worth is dependent on these relationships, it’s just not true. The thing is your life mattered the moment you were born. I really do hope things are at least getting better. Take it a day at a time, when things get like that for me, I try to focus on little tasks, like doing the dishes. Hope those negative thoughts are less and less and eventually are replaced with good ones. John: I can tell you guys want to help but I feel the need to say something. I get that you and your friend were just trying your best to let her know that you care. But the sad truth is not everyone has anyone that loves them. Not everyone has parents and not every parent loves their children. I feel the need to say this because for someone who is privileged with people you love and love you in return, it is a privilege and there are people in this world that do not have that. For those people making the assumption that there is someone when there might not be, can be a trigger. Like the idea that romantic relationships make you worthwhile the assumption that everyone has at least someone is not true. So please, instead of just making assumptions you can ask the questions, like asking someone if they have parents, if they have siblings, and what their relationships are like before making assumptions. I hope you guys were right in your assumption, but I know if you are wrong, it could cause harm. Wishing you all the best.
I looked up MAID, because I’ve not heard about this. This came up: “OTTAWA, Feb 1 (Reuters) - Canadians suffering solely from mental illness will remain excluded from pursuing assisted death until 2027 because the health care system is not ready, Health Minister Mark Holland said on Thursday.Feb 1, 2024” I read more about MAID…my heart sunk!😮
I’m 30. I have no prestigious career, not married, no kids, no house, no car, few family , few friends, trauma and pain…and I’m so unsure about my future or really my purpose on this Earth. I often ask myself why a I here? What am I doing? I definitely think about closing the book and moving on. Idk I definitely relate to her pain. It just seems like life dealt her a crap hand I definitely understand. Somehow we have to keep going and these people who spoke life into is a start their words and spirits had me in tears. This is a new beginning for you young lady. ✨💓
I live in Ontario Canada. The statement that MAID is painful is a lie. A friend's mother ended her life yesterday via MAID. She was in a hospital and the first drug she was given was an anesthetic. My friend and her family were with their mom and everything was peaceful. Do your own research on both sides of the coin.
The fact that Dr. Delony starts his argument off the bat with the complete fabrication that the Canadian government is encouraging MAID use pretty much destroys the credibility of this segment. It's fine to oppose assisted dying, but you don't have to make things up to do it.
I cringed when I heard that too. It is not painful. This woman had an important story to tell and the host and guess hijacked it and ruined it with misinformation.
@MrWookie1981 The guests voice is also very loud Karen like and demanding and dosent sound very empathetic at all. You shouldn't be yelling at someone who has depression. You should be calm understanding and empathetic.
Brit- I get you. I live with chronic pain. My life has been trauma, loss, pain, and suffering. I’ve dealt with these thoughts. I’m so glad that this option wasn’t open for me. I couldn’t stand when people said, “it’ll get better”. Because they said it and nothing changed and I still had to suffer on. I’ve been there. My life has gotten better but it was with lots of help by professionals like they’re recommending. I felt overwhelmed for you when they brought on Dr. John’s friend. Commit to giving her 6 months. Throw yourself into the help they’re offering for 6 months. Write down everything you’re feeling now and at the end of those 6 months, write down what’s happening. Compare them and if nothing has changed or gotten worse, then reevaluate but if you’ve thrown yourself into this, I guarantee, life will look very different. Thank you for being willing to reach out for help and sharing where you’re at. I want to acknowledge your struggle. You have every right to be so sick of what you’ve gone through but you owe it to yourself to try really hard and just see what happens, you have nothing to lose.
