Edit again: they unpinned the comment and removed the “physical threats” and changed it to harassment lol Edit; they’re now claiming in a pinned comment that I have sent physical threats against them, their family and “friends”. I am gonna just say this right now that they are lying, that’s not true in the slightest. I have never threaten anyone besides myself they recently “addressed it” but they really didn’t. They said the relationship was “toxic on both sides” which is such BS. I’ll admit the time I gave them a 2nd chance was not healthy at all, but that was only as a reaction to the psychological abuse they put me through. They say they don’t wanna talk about it “bc it will cause more hurt” but no, it’s actually bc the truth would reveal them to be a narcissist. I have so much proof of all of this but I don’t feel comfortable sharing private messages, which is why I’ve been talking about it in the form of my own perspective or w videos they made public hinting at the cheating before ever admiring to it to me. They wish me peace, I wish them karma Mishandling people and then avoiding communication with them is not protecting your peace, it’s avoiding accountability. sometimes we dont want to heal because the pain is the last link we have.. i dont want the link anymore
You don't have to share those if you don't feel comfortable messages, it's social media after all and sometimes they get things out of context , they even admitted it and you obviously don't seem to lie so don't worry
okay thank you for letting us better understand. i’m sorry for what you have gone through and i wish better for both of you. i wish it didn’t turn out this way but i’m glad you are handling it the way you are. we love you! ❤
The only way I got over the mother of my two girls was to think I must have done something to her in order for her to drug me for 3 days sleep with some guy infront of me for them 3 days. Took me 10 years to get over the ptsd I’m still not right now. But my girl I love so much now is a real woman I love and trust. I hope you get through this young lady. Just go out live your life. Go sit by the sea and just watch the water and don’t put words to what you see/sea you’ll get there my lovely 🥰 don’t talk about your ex the more you talk about it the more it’s there for you. Same with mental health the more we the people open up and tell people are problems the more it stays around in your life. Facts.
No one's telling them they can't grieve. Its when they let it consume them to the point that they can't heal, we're going to tell them its not healthy. Like they said when you pick at a scab and it keeps bleeding and you wonder why it's not healing it's because you need to stop picking at it.
You are wise beyond your years AND highly intelligent. This pairing is extremely rare and will lead you to building a successful and happy and fulfilling life for yourself. You are quite remarkable, Bella. This is going to fade I swear to you it will. ❤
My last relationship was my happiest but also it was very toxic towards the end. So I understand how hard it is to get over someone you loved with all your heart. It’s been over 7 months and I’m just now finally being able to breath again after it. I’m finally smiling without faking and you actually helped a lot with that so thank you for being here for us! We’re here for you just as much and with so much more love. Whomever is telling you to get over it needs to shove it because it’s not easy.
I love my ex deeply and I have never been happier than I was when I was with him... Which is why it was so hard for me to admit that he eventually turned into an abusive POS who traumatised me beyond belief. I get it. It sucks, loving someone so much and feeling like you'll only be happy with them despite being with them causing you some of the most intense pain you've ever felt.
@@gothicGumshoe It feels like you died and like you’ll never stability with someone… I stayed with her hoping that my love was enough for her to change and treat me like I treated her. And it gets confusing sometimes because it feels like they do it out love and you will never find someone that will be with you forever but the truth is that I’m just scared… loving is for brave.
@@paulaguzman9659 You’re right love is for the strong. We’re all strong and we all love whether we try to or not, even the people who stopped believing there are many many forms and types of love. We just don’t see them all that way so it becomes hard to balance our love with another’s to be each others forever.
Jayus’s pinned comment that says “they wished me peace, I wish them karma” is the best response I ever seen 👌🏻it’s just so tactful and gets the point across.
Hey, it's okay!! We're all here for you!! I'm glad you're taking steps to better yourself. I'm happy that you took us on this journey of healing. What Mattie did is unbelievably unforgivable and the friends who kept it a secret from you are fake as heck and don't deserve your friendship!
I know this comment will inevitably be lost in the sea of similar comments, but I mean it with every ounce of my soul that you're loved and supported by many people. I'm sorry about the pain you've gone through, but you talking about your break up has helped me cope my break up because for a while it didn't feel like anyone understood the pain I was going through, yk? Idk I just wanna say thank you Bella, and I hope everything turns out alright for you.
You're not alone here either. There are a great deal of us who are going through or have gone through this. It takes time but you will find how to live on.
Here's a little song. 😊 Was it ever really love If the time that you broke up They went out to go hook up with the one they always told you not to worry about? Were they ever really friends If the moment war broke out They admitted that they knew and chose the other side then cut you off and shut you out? Gaslighting are for dicks And fake friends are just some pricks You're better off without them sis You got an army right behind you and we don't take this shit.
We're so very proud of you! You've got this, take your time, scream, cry, laugh and move on, do all of it because we've watched you evolve through everything and this is just another hurdle for you to overcome.
listen bella, no one but YOU can tell yourself how to grieve. i went through a very similar situation and let me tell you, although you probably feel like you’re grieving the loss of the relationship and your partner, you’re actually just grieving the person your partner pretended to be. take as much time as you need to process this, everyone has a different timeframe. one thing that really helped me was making a “burn box”, basically taking a shoebox and filling it with letters i’d written to my ex about all the things i wish i could tell them and how much of a shitty thing they’d done, and then i burned the whole box in a bonfire. bella, take all the time you need, and WE’RE ALL HERE FOR YOU. we LOVE YOU, and don’t ever forget it!
As a victim of narcissistic abuse myself, I want you to know that it's 100% okay to feel everything you're feeling right now and take as much time as you need to process and heal from it. Sometimes it really is difficult to get over someone who's done you wrong because deep down, you still have a soft spot for them in your heart, and it's so difficult to even understand how any of its happening, especially when that person's been constantly manipulating you 💔 It's been over a year, and I'm still struggling to heal from my own abusive relationship, but I've told myself it's OK and that everyone takes different times to heal and deals with things in different ways. Try not to care too much about them, karma will handle that. Narcissists almost ALWAYS have horrific downfalls in the end it seems. You're so strong, and I'm proud of you for speaking up about what's been happening rather than letting it destroy you internally more. May the universe bring you peace and strength on your journey to healing from this 💗
You have our support, and you deserved to be able to talk about this very real thing that has caused you so much pain, cheating is never okay, but I'm glad your going to start your healing journey. Sending so much love to you and your pups. ❤
Look Bella, I can’t imagine not only going through something this horrible but also having the courage to talk about it. What they did was unforgivable and I really can’t look at them the same. We understand completely you talking or not talking about it. We’re here for you no matter what. ❤️
This is very good. I have found from personal experience that just trying to drop it and not have it brought up anymore helps you move on faster. I hope your journey of healing ends up positively for you. And your community will be here to support anything and everything you do. Good luck and godspeed. I hope you can be over them as soon as you need.
You are so fucking strong. You have gone through it all. And, in stead of sulking about it and giving up and just straight-up trash talking your ex, you have doe the extra steps to make yourself feel better, and I hope you are doing this for you because you deserve closure. You deserve to be free. You deserve to be happy and content.
And that’s perfectly fine! You’ve shared everything you wanted with us, and now you just need time to dwell by yourself for yourself. Hopefully you don’t dwell on it too long. Stay happy!!
Wow, this mirrors a situation I'm going through with a friend. He kept saying hurt things and I ended up blocking him. Once he realized he couldn't get any more reactions out of me I began to heal better. I'm glad you're done reacting to your situation to! Everyone deserves tranquility!
you're so strong and you have ALL THE DAMN right to be stressed, depressed, etc. I'll support you, and probably thousands of people would also, you've got this, whatever your ex did IT'S NOT OKAY AND YOU HAVE ALL THE RIGHT TO TALK ABOUT IT!!! We love you so much, hope you can go through this, if needed, take your time, greetings from Argentina 💗✨
You gonna get gone through this shit and one day when you look back trust me you will be so proud of yourself❤️ you are our strong girl we are rooting for you! It will be okay
It’s okay Bella. Addressing the emotions you’re experiencing is one of the healthiest ways to move on. Time heals all wounds. The best thing you can do, is focus on you. I wish you the best. ❤
I'm truly sorry nobody deserves to be kept in the dark especially with cheating. You seem really kind and I hope one day you find the right person. Love you! ❤❤
I felt this. Even though I’ve never actually been IN a relationship. I was (i think) close to one. Ended up one sided. He never told me how he really felt and kept pushing back while I tried to make things work (as I do as a loyal people pleaser). I’m the confrontational type so I told him what’s up and I need to know what’s happening because what frustrated me the most was that he said things, making overthink and get a excited, then not do it and not say anything when I ask him about it.🙄 I’m so done too. It’s taken awhile and I still have many feelings about what he did most times, but i’ve been doing much better and moving on takes time and patience.
you are so strong bella. getting cheated on is truly the most devastating feeling, and to have that covered up by people you thought you could trust, that hurts even more. rooting for you always,, you deserve nothing but the best
It's great that you have been able address it and I hope that you continue to feel better about everything really. When they addressed it it sounded very lazy and they explained nothing but yeah hope ur doing OK ❤
you’re videos have gotten me through so much shit, and it’s our turn to help you. you are so amazing, and you need to take as much time as you need. no one deserves what you’ve been through. you’re so amazing and we’re all here for you.
Cheating is NEVER okay!!! I am so so sorry bella you went through that. Whoever is saying "get over it" "it's time to move on" us fucked up. You definitely deserve your time to heal.
Bella, you actually are doing things right, you have been on this drama for months going up and down all the time and you haven't spoke about it until time passed, you deserved better and everyone knows it, so you did vent, explained everything and got out the pressure of being okay when you clearly were not. Now that you talked about it, it's time to move on, another experience, life puts obstacles in your path all the time because it wants you to overcome them, and us, the millions of people that watch your content everyday are going to help you with that! I believe in you
Time heals all wounds. Had 6 year relationship blow up in my face and it just takes time. Deep breaths. Everyday will be easier than the last. You got this girl ❤
Them pulling that "It was toxic on both sides" nonsense is SUCH bs. Like no, Mattie, you cheated. Stop trying to put off blame on your ex, who you mistreated, for your own actions. Cheaters deserve the worst. Hope they never have a healthy relationship ever again. Cheaters don't deserve love, period paragraph.
Yeah did you see the video Mattie made being like, “ oh I didn’t think anyone cared that much about our relationship that’s why I didn’t address it and we both did fucked up things, it was toxic on both ends” that sounds like they didn’t care about the relationship and even if it was ‘toxic’ they’re not owning up.
No one can tell u how long it takes u to grieve the trauma u endured!! Ur a strong, intelligent, caring human and I would be honored if u were my friend but I would have been the friend that told u the truth from the beginning!! Here's to happy and healthy healing ❤
I’m really proud of how you’re handling this. Not many people can do this, and I know it’s probably not the same on the other side of the camera. But I’m still really really really proud of you and I know you’ve got this. That was really wrong of them, and we ALL know it.
I think you are absolutely spot on with this, and this vid was a great way to address that you will be moving on under your terms. All the power to you, I hope that you are feeling better soon.
They didn't even really address it and it took so long to even say anything of note. And they kinda didn't. And their audience loves them regardless. If they don't want to say anything, fine. It's up to them. I think it's helpful for you to move on, Bella. The relationship clearly wasn't good and it'd be better for you to move forward
They finally came out and said something, still dodging accountability… and kind of blaming it on both of you. Extremely disappointing. You’ll get through this I promise and then one day you’ll be sitting on the couch with your new boo laughing at all your exes and past hook ups. I know it
Im sorry, but maddies video of "adressing this" was absolutely terrible. They tried to shift the blame onto you and say that YOU were toxic, when they didnt provide even ONE reason why. They cheated on you, thats a big ass reason to prove someones toxic. "Bellas toxic" my left ass cheek.
You never deserve to be lied to or cheated on. No one does. I’m glad you came to this conclusion. It will start to help you heal and then you’ll have your scar and your stronger for it.
I understand you're hurting because of them and that's okay! I don't think anybody should have to go through things like this. take your own time to heal. We all will love and support you the whole way
You should handle this in whatever way makes you feel most comfortable and confident with yourself. Cheating is something no one should ever have to go through but then to be told that you have been sending threats to family and friends and lied too it's such a horrible thing. We will support you with whatever way you choose to deal with this horrible thing that is happening in your life right now. Also the fact that your 'friends' knew about it and didn't tell you says allot about them.
The ones telling you to stop talking about it and to get over it are the ones who haven’t had to feel it. You can express it however you want to. It’s not easy. You deserve better than that
Thats such a shit thing to go through and im so sorry that it happened to you. Its nice to see you opening up about this rather than hiding it away. You seem like such a sweet person and you shouldnt have even had to consider the thought. It will take time to heal but when it does it will feel a lot better. Everyone deals with things differently and if posting about it genuinely helps then whos to tell you to stop. Cope how you wanna cope ❤
i'm so happy that you're taking your healing into your own hands and doing what's best for you. i really hope you get better and i cant imagine how it feels to have someone who everyone thought was so sweet cheat on you like that. when mattie cheated on you, they made a big mistake because you are an amazing person and never forget that we love you!!!💞
i myself have had this situation before and i feel that pain and yes telling and venting to the internet isnt the best thing but some people will give you adivice and tell you how that it's messed up. and she wasnt the one and her cheating on you without telling you just says how horrbile of a person they are. know half of youre fans are on youre side and are with you. even if you dont need to say everything we support you bc this entire situation has shown how loyal you truely are to youre audicence ❤know we love youre content Jayus!♥♥♥
You NEED to talk about these things. That’s how we process. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. You give yourself closure, not other people or anything like that. It takes time to heal.
I’m so glad this helped you. We support you wholeheartedly. Whatever helps you heal. They’re a narcissist, a gaslighter. Take a year, take a month, take as long as you want my dear. The narcissist will always do something hurtful, then you react, then they blame you for the reaction. It’s ape shit crazy stuff. You got this. F them. You are capable of love, that is something amazing and special ❤
Its been almost 2 years for me and my heart still aches from being cheated on. I've been called bitter and twisted even though I never did anything, take all the time you need. Talk about it as much as you want or don't. Just remember your not alone and its not your fault, but most importantly your emotions are completely valid and don't let smoke else tell you otherwise. ❤ love and light to you.
That's a healthy step Bella. And you're RIGHT, you have to get it out of your system in your own time and on your own terms. Know that you are loved by many of us out here! Move on, move forward and know that you are stronger and wiser from the experience.❤
You got this! 🙌 Only focus on those that support you! Not everyone is going to be on your side EVER but those who ARE on your side are the ones that count
They are the most toxic person I've ever seen. The audacity to do such an f ed up thing and then proceed to defend themselves by saying "it was toxic on both side" BELLA WAS SO NICE AND SWEET TO YOU. The fact that they're still going to keep posting and act innocent is bad in all ways. Bella I'm so happy that ur not stuck in such a toxic relationship anymore I think it was for the best. Just spend some time with urself now. I can see that you will do so much better without them
I've been through similar stuff multiple times. It's normal and healthy to feel this way. You have to feel your pain to process it. Just keep reminding yourself that you have your own back. The people leaving are creating space for something new and better. Use this hurt as an opportunity to relearn who you are and confront past hurts that are making this harder for you. The hole they left will close. It doesn't matter why things happened this way, or what the other persons intentions were. You'll never be able to understand that because you wouldn't do the same. But it happened and the only thing that will make it better is to accept it, embrace it even. You truly do deserve better, this is an opportunity for it to find you. You didn't lose anything, but its okay to feel like you did and to grieve the times you thought were good. But they were only good because you made them good, you created that connection and you'll create so many more this will become only a short chapter in the novel you'll become. You can't avoid pain, it finds you, so embrace the lesson its here to teach and and become better from it
I’m glad to hear this and mainly for your own peace of mind. Even if you think the constant options of others every time you post don’t affect your healing process, they do. I’ve been to therapy for a long time now and it took me the hard way to understand that when we over share we allow many people to get involved in our lives and it affects how we think. Also funny thin I pick on my scabs all the time and I mean literally which I know is gross but I’m gonna also try to not do that so I let them heal!
Good for you Jayus. You can take all the time you need but know that we are here, supporting you, loving you and we will not stand for what happened to you
You're allowed to vent and talk about it. Especially if you're circle is telling you to just get over it. Cheating takes time to get over. And having someone to listen (even if it's a stranger) helps so much. Keep being you! ❤️
Whatever you need to do is the best thing to do. The people being awful don’t deserve your attention, it’s pointless taking out their own insecurities on a person that has their own shit going on. You’ve got this
i’m glad talking about it helped a lot, but i respect you wanting to let that scab heal instead of picking at it all the time- we care and hope you feel better 🫶🏻🫶🏻
Am actually glad that u took ur time to process things and that whn u wanted to share it all with the world u did...now if u think it's about time u start the journey of moving without talking abt it then it's completely alright and correct...but always remember ur fans and i are always here to support u... fighting and many many strength to u ❤
Bella I am so sorry that you had to go through all this you did not deserve that. And I am also really sorry that people think they are able to tell you how to grieve and act it’s your choice not theirs
We understand, and I’m so proud of you. If you ever are really stuck and need to vent or talk about it, we’re still always here to comfort and support you! I believe in you and best wishes 💗
You don't need validation from anybody. You are your own validation. Talk about it, don't talk about it, I don't think anybody has a right to tell you how to get through this. Godspeed!