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Shane Burcaw (he/him) is the author of several award-winning books about disability. He is the President of a nonprofit organization called Laughing At My Nightmare, and a renowned public speaker who has performed across the country at places such as Harvard University, The University of Florida, The University of Connecticut, Princeton University, and many more.
Hannah Burcaw (she/her) graduated from Carleton College, where she studied Sociology and Anthropology. She films and edits the “Squirmy and Grubs” vlog, which has over 800,000 subscribers on RU-vid. Hannah has spoken at prestigious universities and Fortune 500 companies alike about the realities of ableism. On her popular Instagram account, she advocates for acceptance of all people and works to improve the way society thinks about disability.
Shane and Hannah have been together for over four years. They got married in September of 2020 in the midst of a global pandemic in their backyard, with their officiant conducting the ceremony via Zoom. Their interabled relationship often confuses people, because much of society still cannot fathom people with disabilities being involved in loving, intimate relationships. Anyone who watches these episodes will quickly see their relationship is just as “normal” as any other. Sure, Hannah helps Shane use the bathroom and brush his teeth, but those activities do not detract from the emotional, intellectual, and physical connection they experience together.

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@bennelson8035 2 года назад

Shane, I am a fifteen year old who has SMA Type 2. Everything that you said in this video really resonates with me. I just wanted to thank you for showing me that I am not the only person who struggles with this. Have a great day.

@candicayton8322 2 года назад

You sound like a really great person. I don't know much about SMA 2 or what SMA Shane has but I would like to learn more about it. Your amazing and my hat goes off to you.

@bridgetfredericks8332 2 года назад

Oh Ben.....your comment brought tears to my eyes.........I am so happy that you are connecting, whether virtually with Shane, or others with your physical disability. You are young, smart & I know you can take on anything life brings your way! Some days I'm sure are hard....but promise to be your true, authentic & wonderful self and think positive thoughts and then act on them....God Bless!

@erikashears9868 2 года назад

Hey Ben i am so glad you have Shane as a role model! You can write your own story and live a great life for filled and happy as long as you except nothing less!!!!

@duchenne_md6736 2 года назад

I agree 100%, I have duchenne muscular dystrophy. I also felt like I was the only one with this problem. People talk to me like I’m dumb or something. It makes me feel like $hit when people assume.

@probablynicole6090 2 года назад

God bless you! You are so loved and not alone 💗

@Ktd1013 2 года назад

I love that Shane’s message is “please just talk to me like a normal person” and Hannah’s message is “please don’t expect me to talk to you like a normal person” 😂😂😂😂 I can definitely relate to you, Hannah. I’m just not very good with human interaction. 🤷🏻‍♀️

@julialucas1482 2 года назад

Good observation.

@lc4life369 2 года назад

Lol I didn't even put it together like that but kinda funny now that you pointed it out. I'm very much like Hannah. I do like people but it's too nurvewracking to be akward so I avoid people these days. Other than family. I could talk any of my siblings ears off.

@emilyabbey5761 2 года назад

Opposites attract ❤️❤️

@shannonhensley2942 2 года назад

Especially since its Shane's whole job. You can tell just by watching these videos he really does love to talk and make jokes. He made it the center of his life to make sure he gets the oppurtunity to talk to people and has so much to say. However talking to people technically is not really apart of Hannah's job. Yes she talks to a camera but its definitely not public speaking.

@Asdfgqedfglo 2 года назад

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

@jasmineleopard7593 2 года назад

I’m going to be honest. I have had a thought process similar to the chapstick one before and I was sitting here trying to justify it in my mind. “Well I meant it like this..”. But no. I am wrong. You’re absolutely right that it is ridiculous to assume Hannah would just do tasks for Shane that he didn’t even need or ask for. I’m sorry for ever thinking that. I’ll do better

@4WhatItsWorth 2 года назад

The thing I love about this channel is we've ALL had moments of realisation watching their journey. I have had my own (not about this issue but other things early on with the first video I watched- I realised how much of my understanding of disability was completely wrong). Well done for recognising it and growing from it :)

@Yooperskepticz 2 года назад

Yep, I think a lot of us learn about disabilities and relating to people with disabilities from Shane and Hannah. In addition to how fun, funny, relatabke, and entertaining they are, they are also educating.

@jq6540 2 года назад

You make a great point! My husband would flip out if I just suddenly started putting chapstick on him. This is educational. I agree.

@linmonPIE 2 года назад

This is why their channel is so important. We’re all learning here. It’s great that you’re a person who can learn from and admit their mistakes. We need more people like you ❤️

@loon3111 2 года назад

I had the same thought and now I feel like an idiot. Thanks for the change in persepctive.

@maddyv3121 2 года назад

My friend was in a wheelchair due to cancer. She said the worst thing was nobody would look her in the eye or would ask the person with her a question about her. When this happened while I was with her, I told them, “I don’t know, why don’t you ask her”.

@lynhanna917 2 года назад

Good for you - when I was a kid I went to a dance with friends one of which walked with crutches, I didn't want to dance so I held her crutches. We laughed so hard when the boys would ask her to dance, ignoring me, and up she would go, grabbing her crutches on her way to the dance floor.

@ih82r8 2 года назад

You know what, people are damned if they do and damned if they don't. I had a family member who was severely disabled from birth to the point where he was blind and never able to talk. If you tried to talk to him there would be no response and we would have to explain it to the person. Every. Single. Time. because people don't know everything or always know what to expect. But in 2021, if you don't speak to someone who you aren't immediately sure can hear or understand or respond to you, then you get called out by internet trolls for being insensitive. I've been around disability my whole life and I don't believe that people who have less experience need to be treated with the attitude I see from so many people in this comments section. It makes them more unlikely to engage with disabled people. People are not always going to get it right. I remember many times as a kid having to explain to someone who didn't know us, what to expect (or not) from our interactions. It wasn't a big deal or something to get butt hurt over.

@shannonhensley2942 2 года назад

@@ih82r8 the difference here is that the person with the disability gets to have a say in the interaction. I can definitely understand how you can feel that way in your life. But those with autonomy and the ability to interact in a situation deserve to feel however way they do. The majority feel left out and if they say they feel left out maybe we should listen. I had a best friend who was older than me but only 4'7" and having to explain that she's an adult is exhausting. But I'm also not with her 24/7 and know that she still has to experience that without me there. So I still do it because she deserves to be treated like the adult that she is.

@pinklilac7 2 года назад

Sadly this happens in a variety of situations. I remember going with my mom to a drs appt and because she is older and her back is curved (this could actually be either based on age or disability) the dr had a tendency to turn towards me to ask questions. I did the same thing....."How about asking her. She's sitting right there" Frustrating.

@kamelhaj6850 2 года назад

@@lynhanna917 Love it!!

@dashinator924 2 года назад

I couldn’t stop laughing at Shane when he said “I can’t read the cue cards” after Hannah said they weren’t scripted. I love his sense of humor.

@kamelhaj6850 2 года назад

I loved it when he said that Hannah forcing Chapstick on him is his nightmare!

@cherrylovell404 2 года назад

I am in an interabled relationship as well. I am a wheelchair using, quadruple amputee, that also has Multiple Sclerosis. Something that my husband and I encounter entirely too often is, people who compliment my husband with "You are such a great person for being in a relationship with her", "It's beautiful that you are able to see past her exterior...." or my personal favorite, "She is so lucky to have found someone that can love her in spite of...". As if being with me or loving me, somehow, is some kind of insurmountable feat! What about him being the lucky one to have found me?? It's incredibly frustrating for us and significantly shallow of them.

@alicjagodlewska1059 2 года назад

Well, I wouldn’t be in a relationship with a disabled person because of the physical aspect. I left my job in care as it was too hard and my back was hurting me all the time. When you are physically exhausted you can’t see past the health problems. You just want to rest. Good job some people are strong but I understand those who are not like me.

@sueperdue184 2 года назад

@@alicjagodlewska1059 this was a weird comment. Sorry you have physical limitations.

@alicjagodlewska1059 2 года назад

Don’t be sorry 🤣🤣 You don’t have to. No, it wasn’t weird comment - it was honest comment.

@sebastianconstantin5176 2 года назад

@@alicjagodlewska1059 glad to see somebody who isnt afraid to say the truth cause all theyr delusional fans would jump on you.

@alicjagodlewska1059 2 года назад

@Sebastian I have looked after people for 10 years. I truly liked them but it doesn’t change the burden of care. It’s different than dealing with a healthy person. Some people will not admit it sadly but I know what I am saying. You are right!

@thewhisperedword2222 2 года назад

“I’m an adult - I just sit down.” Lol. That genuinely made me laugh. Not at the fact that people are so ignorant, but at your humorous attitude. Love you guys!

@bethannhorton8957 2 года назад

Me too 😂

@SharonCullenArt 2 года назад

I don’t know if it is because I’m an RN and have been a caregiver, but I would never talk down to anyone. Not even a child. They don’t deserve that either. They don’t need patted on the head or talked to slowly. If someone doesn’t know, they will quickly be told, oh excuse me but you’ll have to speak slower…. Treat everyone like an intelligent human being for God’s sake! I never treated a patient this way regardless of age or ability. People are so ignorant.

@Nairozet 2 года назад

The "Not even a child" is what i miss so much in this world. To be honest, i'm more likely to talk down to an adult, if i even did, then to a child. Adults are *supposed to* know better and wiser, but the more experience i have with kids and adults, the more i see that kids are being taught to act stupid and ignorant by their peers. Especially by their parents. Hence why i tell kids things of how their are and ask adults what makes them say the things they say. On that note, people, know the difference between being mature and being an adult. Maturity has little to do with age.

@leimomidevenport1525 2 года назад

I love how fired up Hannah gets, and I don't at all blame her. Shane is a whole ass adult and she's his wife, not his mom. Baffling that people don't get that... Love your channel, content, and relationship!

@wobbledog4085 2 года назад

What does whole adult mean. English is my second language just curious

@sebastianconstantin5176 2 года назад

Hannah is his mom, she dress him, feed him, wash him, she needs to take him with her everywhere she goes. That's what a mom do.

@sonipitts 2 года назад

@@wobbledog4085 It's sort of a slang way of adding emphasis to the description of Shane as an adult. Whole, meaning complete or full. And ass, which is impolite slang used to provide additional emphasis. Think of "whole-ass" as a verbal way to underline or bold-face what you're saying. For example: "Can you believe that guy from next door? He wandered into our party last night and ate a whole-ass pizza all by himself!" Contextually, this phrase should be considered in the category of mildly offensive "street slang," and should not be used in a formal or professional setting, or anywhere you wouldn't use impolite language.

@sonipitts 2 года назад

@@sebastianconstantin5176 Yes, moms do that. But so do partners (as well as nurses and caretakers) of fully-grown adults with this level of disability. The difference being that as an adult with an adult's level of cognitive and mental development, Shane has full agency over himself and his needs, and thus can and does ask for what he wants when he feels like he wants it. And Hannah has neither the obligation nor even the right to "read his mind," do things for him without being asked, do things despite being asked not to do them, do things "for his own good," or otherwise parent him or treat him like a child. He is NOT a child. He is a man with specific care needs. And she is NOT his mother. She is his partner, and parenting him beyond what he asks her to help him with is neither her job nor something either of them want her to do.

@sebastianconstantin5176 2 года назад

@@sonipitts yeah, kids too can say what they want when they want, shane is her kid. a man is the provider and protector of his family, shane is not a man, hannah does absolutely everything. shane is her child. the man also fuck his woman, shane cant do that, so its her kid

@TuggerAbbey 2 года назад

I can’t believe people dont’ think your relationship is real. I watch how you both interact with each other, the loving looks and even finishing each other’s thoughts. How anyone could think your relationship is not real is ridiculous. Just because he sits, doesn’t make him less or a person. I worked with disabled young children and high school aged kids and the way some of the teachers treated them made me angry. Like they were not worthy of their time because they were different. I was always letting those teachers know that they can hear what they say and they have feelings too. Now I am disabled and I look normal and get mean looks because I have a service dog or park in handicapped spot. My biggest wish is that people didn’t’ stigmatize disabled people into a box. Disabilities come in all shapes and sizes and even people who are mentally challenged still deserve love and understanding. Merry Christmas. i hope you both have a wonderful holiday season.

@julialucas1482 2 года назад

Well said. I think bullying should be eliminated from schools entirely.

@KAIJUKING123 2 года назад

As a fellow mentally disabled person this was well said and I couldn’t have said it any better myself

@notthatkaren3868 2 года назад

I have a feeling that those who have channels devoted to proving they're lying, don't really care if they're lying or not. It's all about clicks. I refuse to watch them as I don't want to support that crap.

@jerrywilcox9890 Год назад

@@notthatkaren3868 people with them channels do it to make money of it that's it.

@jessicasheely2967 2 года назад

This is so relatable as an introvert I couldn’t imagine talking on camera like you guys do. So Hannah if I ever see you I’ll totally get that you’ll have no idea what to say you are just a person, who happens to share your life on RU-vid, going about your day. Videos like this are important, would love to see more.

@jerod5636 2 года назад

Yep. Hell I’m not an introvert. I talk a lot. Talking to small groups or whatever doesn’t bother me. Getting me to talk to a camera like they do though? Oh hellll no. My kid has a small channel with a few thousand subs and she wanted to shoot a video of us making a sword (It’s my hobby) but I was so uncomfortable she scrapped the idea halfway through. It’s so weird.

@howiroll740 2 года назад

Weekly Rants would be an interesting playlist. I think you are addressing issues that many of us with disabilities and our partners face very often.

@lulumoon6942 2 года назад

Definitely PSA worthy 👍👍👍

@joycevannatta 2 года назад

You guys respect each other. Hannah doesn’t dictate to Shane what he needs for two reasons: he’s an adult and her husband. Shane, people are so stupid I don’t think an apology could be big enough if they can’t see your an adult. You are a beautiful couple and don’t let them steal your joy.

@joyryde65 2 года назад

Apparently I'm different than other people because I just see y'all as a happy couple nothing more,nothing less,and I love your videos

@kamelhaj6850 2 года назад

Same!!

@Renemor 2 года назад

Same, watching every video from Norway 😍🥰❤️🎆🎆

@mireillelefevre6092 2 года назад

I also see them as a normal couple with an incredibly healthy, respectful and fun relationship!! I can't believe how someone would dare patting Shane on the head, calling him big guy or talk to him as if he would be slower in his mind (and that is not an issue for me either). I guess most people do not have the experience with someone who is dealing with a disease that affects your muscles & they accordingly behave beyond ackward. What Shane and Hannah do to break those invisible boundaries is fabulous & i hope it will help a lot of people 🌟🌟

@sisterrose6836 Год назад

@@mireillelefevre6092 I totally agree. I often get the same thing, as a wheelchair user, myself. I just hope that he calls them out, on it.

@cherylcasey4937 2 года назад

I waited tables in the early 80"s had a couple come in and the man was paralized from the neck down. Asked the wife for her order then turned to the gentleman and asked for his, they both looked at me blankly, and could not believe i asked him and not the wife, isaid your paralized, not mute right? She said no one had ever done that before.After that they became my best customers.If i could i would i would sit with them and feed him so the wife could enjoy her dinner at the same time, as she always had to feed him. it was my pleasure!! Enjoyed them both for years.

@MISNM0 2 года назад

🙂

@bethannhorton8957 2 года назад

Awesome thing you did but you didn't really ask if he was a mute did you?

@sueperdue184 2 года назад

Needed-more folks like you!

@sueperdue184 2 года назад

@@bethannhorton8957 I hope she did!it probably made his day!

@cherylcasey4937 2 года назад

@@bethannhorton8957 i had already heard him speak to his wife, so iknew he wasn"t mute, it was just me trying to lighten the convo lol

@cremedementhe6717 2 года назад

Haha ,when Shane said bluntly "I sit" lol I almost choked on my coffee , ☕ Shane's so funny how he words things.

@lulumoon6942 2 года назад

Totally stealing, it, too!!! 👍

@scutiepie9433 2 года назад

"I sit therefore I am" crossed my mind. 🤣

@juanitasharp647 2 года назад

Love you guys and am also in a wheelchair.. What I hate is being in a crowd like at Disneyland and people are banging into me because I am below their sight line. I had a young man come up to me because he saw I was having trouble exiting a shop because everyone was pushing by me. He helped me by telling the people to let me out. Very scary! Thank you for educating people!

@MC-tl5bf 2 года назад

you should attach a medieval lance to the chair then theyll keep their distance

@gl3875 2 года назад

This video was so well done. I love how you put it so straightforward "Shane is a whole adult" Great message

@brittanyhoward9186 2 года назад

I am genuinely confused about how someone can use the fact that someone had previous relationships to say the current one is fake...how does that make sense?

@hernameispekka_Rebecca 2 года назад

I guess they have a hard enough time to wrap their mind around the fact that Shane got a girl prettier and smarter than they ever could, so the fact that he's had good looking and able bodied exes does not compute in their little minds.

@ChrisW228 2 года назад

I had the same reaction. Having done something (anything) in the past is usually proof that you CAN do it again anytime you want. I guess maybe they’re saying you wrote about this other girlfriend, but now you’re saying Hannah was your girlfriend... like they don’t understand that ~ten years is enough time to have multiple girlfriends at different times?

@ChrisW228 2 года назад

@Right_onRed Source? Links?

@lindacrews9340 2 года назад

I cannot believe how narrow minded people are! You two are so warm, entertaining ,knowledgeable and kind. I applaud you both for your work for awareness for the disabled. Love all your videos ❤️

@Timcrtr1 2 года назад

I totally understand where you're both coming from. Being in a wheelchair myself, the one thing I can't stand is someone to talk to me like I'm a child. I'm a 49 year old man. Talk to me like you'd talk you any other adult!!

@jamesfrommanitoba.1992 2 года назад

Hey Tim, I’m in my 50’s and grey hair and still get it. But I have also gained some weight over the years and now I hear of you lost weight you wouldn’t need a wheelchair. I don’t think it will ever stop.

@mochi_ani 2 года назад

sending love to y’all in this chat - from Chicago!

@denisejaydub 2 года назад

The fact that Shane has to say out loud that he’s a full adult person 😭 some of you are failing society

@meradeya7637 2 года назад

Society is full of idiots 🤦‍♀️

@TerrorSab 2 года назад

@@meradeya7637 yeah everyone is an idiot, for not guessing a child looking person isn't one.

@NYCisland 2 года назад

So true. Too many think people in a wheelchair are also somehow deaf or can't talk or blind or whatever other dumb thing.

@kamelhaj6850 2 года назад

@@NYCisland Even though my disabilities were emotional, many times, people (especially my family) would talk about me right in front of me, like I wasn't smart enough to understand them. or respond.

@heatheramyprice 2 года назад

@@TerrorSab Do you really think he looks like a child just because he's sitting down? I don't know his exact age but I can easily guess it within a decade or so--- he's NOT a child, clearly.

@Drewy62 2 года назад

The important takeaway from Hannah's public topic is that just because you have a presence on social media doesn't mean you want a lot of public interaction.

@Dudeonwheels 2 года назад

Therapy time with Squirmy and Grubs. I can dig it.

@wendiruppe9468 2 года назад

New t-shirt slogan for Shane (think GOT): I sit and I know things. 😂

@consuelacovington8169 2 года назад

Hannah vent away, I appreciate the two of you sharing your journey with us. I hate that people are being so rude. You do not deserve it. I think your family is awesome and I always look forward to seeing your videos.

@susiec333 2 года назад

I totally understand you. My twin daughters are disable and people stare, they ask me questions for them, they assume they have a mental illness just because they have physical disability. When they learn my girls can play the piano or make jewelry to sell at Etzy, they're shocked and surprised, like the girls don't have a brain. It's frustrating. Thank you for changing peoples perspective.

@isabellykken124 2 года назад

This was incredibly eye opening I think you guys should do more videos like this ! I don’t fall into any of these categories of thought but there were things I had not considered before so thank you!

@lisanull900 2 года назад

When my kids were teens my daughter's boyfriend asked me why I treated my disabled son the same as his sisters. (he was truly curious) I asked him why wouldn't I? Then he tells me that's why he liked to come stay with us on weekends. We never saw his disability nor did we treat him "special" due to it. He was just as normal as everyone else. (he's also disabled & his family tended to over protect) That made my heart hurt.

@andrewk4331 2 года назад

As someone in a wheelchair, I have had experiences where I've been treated like I'm a child or talked down to. It is annoying and I wish more people would understand that adults in wheelchairs, with DMD, SMA, or any other wasting disease are just like other adults, we just can't physically function exactly the same as others.

@missygordon5418 2 года назад

I cannot imagine how freaking disrespectful to and annoying this is, although there are plenty of people that talk to "able bodied" people like that, too, but you really should just know that you are far superior to anyone that ignorant.

@scrumps101 2 года назад

I’m old enough to know what life was like before the internet and the one thing I’ve realized about the internet that stands out more than anything else is how many personality disorders exist in this world. It still blows my mind when I see comments saying things like how others should and shouldn’t be living. I swear by two rules that have done well for me over my lifetime: treat everyone with the respect and dignity they deserve and mind your business. I think those would benefit the online community in dramatic ways.

@yomama5304 2 года назад

I like to think I understand your relationship and channel perfectly. That's why I like you both so much! Happy "almost" birthday Hannah.

@sgreen0000 2 года назад

I completely relate to Hannah! I would go crazy if people that I didn’t know came up to speak with me. 🤬😩

@terrychapko8406 2 года назад

I agree with you I went like people coming up to me I didn't know and talking to me

@TheMessianic 2 года назад

One thing I love about the both of you is your honesty. Thank you for being upfront about your relationship, your marriage. Thank you for sharing your lives with us. You both are loved and a compliment to each other.

@dreamweaverdreads2457 2 года назад

Wow do I relate!!!!! Exactly the feels I’m going through today!!! I’m so over the judgment on my life!!!! Trying to lift everybody up, complimenting constantly, and it’s because I genuinely mean it!!!! Best vid I’ve seen in awhile thankyou ❤️

@johnvelas70 2 года назад

Hannah: I can literally count the words I use to speak to other folks in a day. I have no clue how people do it.

@Erik-pr2rf 2 года назад

years ago some people thought the woman i was dating at the time was My PCA or my nurse . i said No shes my better half ( of course they gave looks like Um yeah ok ) i hate how some people think us disabled people cant be with non disabled or its not Healthy for being with normal ..... ive had other issues with non disabled stories ...

@virgloh8934 2 года назад

Oh the fireplace looks so comfy...Enjoyed this video, as usual...have a beautiful evening.

@ellenbedford3888 2 года назад

Love this session! I seriously think people have way too much time on their hands if they analyze every little thing you guys say. Definitely need to do another session!

@kasiapek7575 2 года назад

Polska 😊

@ellenbedford3888 2 года назад

@@kasiapek7575 100%!

@gjack01 2 года назад

I like the venting session! I got frustrated myself thinking about how I would feel if someone started talking to me like I was 2 years old based on the way they perceive me. I feel for you, Shane. You handle the bs a lot better than I would. (I tend to curse like a sailor 😜 )

@mariarandolph8402 2 года назад

Love the humor expressed between the two of them. They are a great team.

@karenriechers2031 2 года назад

I so much enjoy your candor. You shed light on things a lot of people may never even think about. I am grateful for both of you.

@irishkismet2695 2 года назад

Shane's wants are reasonable, he just wants to be treated like everyone else. The best revenge against the shallow people is to continue to be happy together and grow. Nothing a troll hates more 😏

@Nairozet 2 года назад

I'm thinking, answer/talk slow and at the end of the sentence ask, at the same speed, "Did you understand what i said or should i speak slower?"

@tlovestea423 2 года назад

4:31 ".. I SIT." I don't know why that was so funny to me. 💕 also I adore Hannah blessing herself. P.s. this random sit down idea was awesome, thank you!

@seandineen999 2 года назад

Im a college professor with cerebral palsy, I have a phd, and it drives me nuts, to hear people's phony paternalism, and attempts to control you, Shane, I've dealt with those seskapals, Afrikaans for Jackasses, a lot.

@myrnaedmisten599 2 года назад

Keep it real! I love the comment that Shane is a full and complete adult. He just SITS!! Love that so much. Carry on! ❤️

@maryrentscher2316 2 года назад

Ohh I love truth / therapy sessions like this! I hope they make people stop and THINK for a second before they judge or say something. Sometimes it simply amazes me how thoughtless or stupid people can be (although truthfully I have had at least my share of those moments, but I’ve tried to learn from them). Thanks for helping the world understand each other better❤️

@Sherka55 2 года назад

May G-d keep you safe, happy and sharing love for many years to come.💖💖💖

@vanboys350 2 года назад

Thank you both for putting yourselves out there so that people can learn kindness and basic respect. I never comment, but I need to tell you (although you already know) that it is so important. I love the humor, and all other feelings that you both display. I am so glad that I accidentally found you. Thank you for being you!!!!

@mstinak8173 2 года назад

I am a New Sub, I just want to say disability is not why I watch you two! It's The unconditional relationship you show is possible, bottom line. A little give an take for love can move mountain's. I know Shane will be moving them for time to come!! Love from Canada!

@mrs.k6169 2 года назад

Oh My Gosh, YES, that makes me so mad too when they bring up the exes and how you two "are fake". I e been watching you two for a couple years now and your dynamic reminds me so much of me and my husband's relationship. It's obviously genuine and others are just jealous.

@taradois 2 года назад

Please make this a weekly series! As a long-time subscriber, it is fascinating to hear what it's actually been like for you both personally, as your channel has grown. And NGL, I'm totally here for hearing about people who have ALL the audacity, to think they know better than you when it comes to your relationship.

@mrs.anderson2323 2 года назад

I understand being in the "limelight" if you will, you feel you have to explain things. You don't owe anyone an explanation on anything! You guys are great and keep up the good work!

@bethannhorton8957 2 года назад

Amen!! However I love his responses. Lol my son is 21 and totally dependant care. He looks like a teen and looks like nothing is wrong with him until he talks and then we get the stares. I just taught him to say hi to anyone who is staring. He has autism and a rare chromosome disorder called phelan mcdermin syndrome. But if you really think about it. Everyone has some kind of disability.

@julianickels5979 2 года назад

I love you too! Thank you so much for sharing your life with us. I just found you two about 8 months ago and I have been obsessed ever since. I will admit, had I met you then, or before, I probably would have acted like the people who annoy you. But because of your channel, I have learned so much and I feel like I am a better person because of it. I might still act a little goofy, if I ever were to meet you, because I would be so excited to meet the both of you, but I am now confident I could talk you with more respect for you (Shane) as an adult, because you have taught me so much that I just really didn't know before. (I hope that made sense, I feel like I am rambling) Basically, thank you for enlightening me and the millions others whose life you have touched!

@marylabelle803 2 года назад

BLESS YOU BOTH AND YOUR DOGGIE TOO!

@drolllindsay 2 года назад

I’m so thankful for you guys. I have learned so much about ablism and disability. Thank you for being yourselves- not compromising who you are or your relationship because people are so naive/ignorant. You kick butt! ❤️

@PaulRhodes420 2 года назад

You know you don't have to be shy around me! We've known each other for at least a few videos ago! Almost family by now, right!? Shane, I get the same kind of "oh, it's so inspiring to see you out!" I tell them, "that's why I'm here, I'm on my way to the liquor store! I'm out!!!"

@barbaralamb9575 2 года назад

I filled a volunteer position in my neighborhood recently and when a certain elder lady, who knows me yet not very well, ask me if I was capable of filling the position....Like seriously my disability is physical, yes, but I have help with those type of things and I'm fully mentally capable.

@kristi7858 2 года назад

Shane, you are a very intelligent person and a pleasure to listen to. I love that you and Hannah are so natural. You make each other laugh and it’s a pleasure to listen to you both. I love you both.

@Sogonrei 2 года назад

I love how in tune you are with another. You can literally finish each others sentences and have such great respect for each other and laugh alot and love and support each other. Many couples are incapable of "really showing up." You both truly want what's best for each other.

@Saphirah22 2 года назад

Thanks YT for an alert when a video is posted! Not having to wait hours to know it exists is nice. Thanks S&G for all the videos!

@bethnichols2875 2 года назад

I'm fairly new to your channel, yet from the videos I've seen so far, imo, if people actually paid attention to what you both are saying, and how you each interact with each other, instead of just making assumptions, and watching to reply, they would clearly see that although yes, Shane has some physical limitations, which Hannah assists with, he is still a relatively independent person, who has thoughts of his own and a brain he knows how to use. Not to mention, he has a stache and a wicked sense of humor(so clearly not a child), and has had experiences in life like anyone else has had at his age, in being an adult. All subjects you have addressed in past videos. I actually thanked God for bringing the two of you into each other's lives. A true blessing. God bless you both and your families/friends as well. 🙏🕊

@evilangels61 2 года назад

and care taker too...

@jillking23 2 года назад

I totally agree with both of you! Ppl ask the most stupid and silly questions. You wonder if they think about what they are going to say before they say it?? 🤔 Hannah gives the best care to Shane in my eyes and he is equally the same. I think a lot of it is that they can’t understand how someone could love a person in a wheel chair OR any disability. So sad. Love you two! ♥️

@lindajohnson7584 2 года назад

Shane you are beyond whole, you are awesome! You are making great contributions in your life. These people making comments need to get a life!!!

@ceciliamontero2127 2 года назад

Hermosa pareja: estas cosas que enfrentan son parte de su misión de concienciar a la sociedad. Entiendo que a titulo personal puedan llegar a ser duras de digerir porque se repiten una y otra vez pero sigan adelante con humor y amor porque aportan un grano de arena a este mundo. Que tengan unas felices navidades.

@tony-hifi-music951 2 года назад

Love to you both, have a lovely Christmas, love your channel.

@kittycatmommy2364 2 года назад

People only understand from their level of perception. I don't always remember to think about this point but when I do it helps me quite a bit. Some have no filters and whatever they're thinking just flies out of their mouths!! The two of you have an awesome relationship and it must be very hard at times when dealing with people when you come across these situations. You are truly blessed to have each other. I give you credit and have so much respect for the two of you. Sending love and hugs Merry Christmas to you and your families.❤🎄❤🙋‍♀️

@slcncr 2 года назад

What Shane said about how he gets treated very often, like he is a 5 year old and doesn´t understand, really makes me angry. It is sad but it has to be said: There are a lot of DUMB people out there.

@tanyamonet-bakken2687 2 года назад

Hannah...I adore you!!! Don't let the judgment jerks get you down. You are an inspiration (I find myself mothering my husband sometimes and needed this reminder to not waste my energy were it isn't needed or wanted).

@xixxxxix5084 2 года назад

That is why you need to take in a caretakers who comes several times a day. To take care of someone who ha the same physical capacity as an infant is nothing you should do day in and day out on top of your day job. It also puts a strain on your relationship where he is so dependant of you.

@someonerandom6379 2 года назад

I totally feel all of your comments today. My partner is disabled and it seems to open us up to absolute strangers commenting on our life together. I’m with Hannah and have zero patience with their attitudes.

@corenasalyers7288 2 года назад

First of all , I just want to say thank you for such a strong video. Do me a favor and don’t change who you two are individually and as a couple. You both are amazing It’s really sad you even have to explain yourself. You shouldn’t have to explain anything snd ppl need to not judge you two or anyone separately or as a couple and treating you Shane cause if your disability is just wrong and crazy. I don’t know how you do it when ppl look and talk to you like your a child or can’t hear or state we it maybe. Ppl should not treat you or anyone that way. I don’t know how your do it. There’s so much to say just not enough time to express how sorry I am for ignorant ppl. Hanna, I’m the same way the ppl. It’s never that I don’t like someone , just sometimes I don’t have anything to talk about and small talk is a waste You two stay strong and don’t change who you are. Love you both and love your straight forward ness Have a great night 2 more days Hanna for your birthday Yay!!!⭕️❌😃

@lisa-mariegray5510 2 года назад

Nice! The Burcaw family fireside chat! You guys are awesome 😊

@colindodd9639 2 года назад

Shane & Hannah, I've been watching your channel for a few months now as I started at the beginning & have just caught up with them all. I am also in an interabled relationship. We will have been married 20 years in May. Keep up the great work that you both do. I'm from the UK. I agree with you Shane, I get so angry when I'm treated like a little kid.

@amitbenjam 2 года назад

I feel that your hilarious choices for video titles are under appreciated

@elizabethking6363 2 года назад

That's is hyisterical Hannah! I once walked walked by a mirror in the mall and waved at myself and thinking I walked away how much I look like that person I waved at! lol I told my friend that was with me and she asked me if I have been a ding bat all my life or is this a new development?? Then she told me I was in front of a mirror.! 🤣😂

@bethelrod2162 2 года назад

I have been wheelchai bound for several years. I taught in one for three years before my health issues forced me to quit. Co workers treated me very different when that happened. So glad you are getting word out about just being normal. Merry Christmas you two lovely proe.

@andreanne8228 2 года назад

Me during social interactions with people I don’t know or barely know: "How much eye consct is too much eye contact…?" "What do I do with my hands…?" "Oh shit, I don’t know what they just said because I was busy worrying about eye contact and my hands, but they are clearly waiting for my answer…. 😰" "Oh no! Awkward silence! Quick, think of something to say….!!! 😳😳😳😳"

@lorettaanderson1251 2 года назад

Same feelings here too, I'm sure many of us can relate...thanks for sharing!

@sidneywilkey5820 2 года назад

I can so relate to Shane on how the way some adults approach you when you are in a wheelchair. I have been in a wheelchair since I was 18 years old. My wife and I can be in a restaurant ordering a meal and the waiter/waitress look at my wife and will ask what does he want. She will respond, I don't know, you will have to ask him.

@kath2621 2 года назад

I completely understand. I’m a introvert and I struggle with talking to people i just met. Nothing against them I just don’t know what to say. Love your videos.

@jenl784 2 года назад

Lol I could just imagine my husband's reaction if I just walked up and started putting chapstick on him haha people are crazy.

@jacquianderson1438 2 года назад

Love the weekly venting idea!

@Kat-fc7sx 2 года назад

In my opinion you guys are an awesome loving caring couple from Vancouver British Columbia Canada 🇨🇦 Merry Christmas

@jeanettet2295 2 года назад

I love how Shane makes you laugh, Hannah! And I've seen you two as a couple since the first time I stumbled across your channel. I can't get over how people are obsessed with trying to disprove your relationship smh Don't feed the trolls! Love you guys!

@reneelewis7187 2 года назад

What? WHAT? Shane is an adult? AND a valuable individual? Why I NEVER!!! Had I known any of this I would never have continued watching. 🤣😂 Oh Lord, why are people so shallow? I could not even imagine you two being anything different than what we see in your vlogs. Keep being genuinely you...we viewers adore you both. 💕

@BShaw 2 года назад

This channel is so important to me, Shane, you have inspired me to speak about my own issues around my disabilities on my channel.

@wordswritteninred7171 2 года назад

You know those stickers, that people put on cars, that say “baby on board”? You should get one for Your wheel chair that says “ADULT ON BOARD”! Lol. Love. You guys!

@julieclearythefeistyrebelg5660 2 года назад

FANTASTIC IDEA, WORDS WRITTEN IN RED!

@wordswritteninred7171 2 года назад

@@julieclearythefeistyrebelg5660 ty

@craftadventureswithsusanto808 2 года назад

Ignorance is a horrible thing, you two are doing so much to help educate people about real life. Love you both! Big hugs and blessings!

@stacyfabiszewski4633 2 года назад

I totally understand that about Hannah, and the small talk, I just don't know what to say. Thank you both for sharing this today. It really bothers me and upsets me to no end that people think that Shane is a little boy--- I would NEVER come up to you like that EVER! Really people? Hannah is Shane's girlfriend turned wife, disabled people can have a normal life and happy relationship with each other and clearly Hannah and Shane you both do. I NEVER thought you both were FAKE! That's so rediculous that people think this stuff.... I am being nice, I meant to say (SHIT). I am so sorry for you both you get all these comments about this stuff, and that Hannah is Shane's caregiver and nothing else. Again rediculous I am disabled and had a few boyfriends before I met my husband. He See's me for me not my disability,, and Hannah, I am sure you feel the same way about Shane, you fell in love with Shane and what Shane is all about. It drives me crazy when people say....OH disabled people can't ever get a date or a boyfriend/ girlfriend. Thank you so much for this video. Shane you are an amazing Man that has a normal life, and being yourself ,Hannah, you are amazing for being yourself and if you ever meet me.....it's ok I am bad at small talk too, however I would smile and wave like a nut all..... Lol 🤣 I definitely would not make you feel uncomfortable, I have been so lucky to have found both of you years ago and I have been following since. You both brighten up my day and my spirits. I just hate rude and stupid people out there! Love both of you guys and I am so happy for you both. I hope you guys have a fantastic weekend and looking forward to your next video. I get so happy when I see a new one

@bridgetfredericks8332 2 года назад

Stacy.....good gosh you're very good at writing what you see & feel.....your STRONG & POSITIVE post is EVERYTHING I think and feel about Shane & Hannah! They are an incredible couple, with each having their own stengths & weaknesses LIKE ALL OF US....for goodness sakes!! Thanks for sharing :)

@stacyfabiszewski4633 2 года назад

@@bridgetfredericks8332 thank you so much for the compliment, I appreciate you so much, I just write how I feel. I love Shane and Hannah and I have gone through a lot of what they have experienced. I feel like I write so much and I have to stop myself, because I could write so much more, thank you so much, I am strong, you have to be and stand up for yourself otherwise no one will understand you.. I appreciate you, thank you so much for the message. Have a fantastic night and weekend.

@shannonhensley2942 2 года назад

He has a visible tattoo and a mustache 🤣. Its odd how all that goes out the window because he's in a chair and he is shorter.

@stacyfabiszewski4633 2 года назад

@@bridgetfredericks8332 it's just really important to me and you have to be positive, otherwise people will walk all over you and push you around, make fun of you, and say very nasty things. You have to be strong and positive so nothing will bother you, you have to have a very thick skin, and I believe Shane and Hannah do ! It's just sad that they have to remind people constantly.

@MTMFan 2 года назад

Hannah, the stuff about not knowing what to say...... same. Small talk is hell for introverts!

@pattiedixon2429 2 года назад

Can’t believe I am the first on here again. Same as yesterday. I simply cannot wait for your videos. Wait for them and love, love, love them. You two are so special to this old ladies entertainment. You bring me joy, laughter and moments of love for all your experiences. Wish to meet the two of you someday in person. Shane you are adorable but in a grown up way.

@debbrumley5623 2 года назад

There are so many people who do not have a life or anything to do but complain, the heck with them. You two keep doing what your doing I love it !

@lynhanna917 2 года назад

My uncle was in the hospital and I was taking him down in his wheel chair for a "good coffee" and so we could read the newspaper. He wanted to go down on the staff elevator and I instead took him on the public elevator. We got on and moved to the back so more people got on and a woman stood right in front of my uncle and proceeded to adjust her under ware as if the seventy year old in the chair couldn't see everything she was doing. After we got off and I promised him I would never put him through the indignity of the public elevator again we had a discussion on how he feels invisible when he is in the chair. And yes, people talk to the person pushing the chair and not to him because he must be deaf and handicapped.

@TheJeffrey575 2 года назад

Your insights are fantastic! I for one see you as a couple who love each other and have learned how best to compliment your relationship. Hannah definitely is a midwesterner, always honest, speaks up when she has something to say but doesn't insert herself into a conversation for the sake of it. Shane is the communicator of the couple. It became apparent during the Average Joe segment. Keep being you...and keep sharing!

@amberv4223 2 года назад

Keep telling yourself that sweetie.

@marymwood1964 2 года назад

Your not alone, I blessed myself maybe a month ago in front of my caseworker and she looked at me like there she goes talking to herself! It was the first time I ever did that one ... it now makes me lol when I sneeze now ...