A private pregnancy is a peaceful pregnancy... thank you for honoring this time with me as I navigate this scary and new chapter in life. For anyone feeling the same way as me, I understand deeply, and I promise it turns out beautiful.
Thank you (if you had any idea!) for maintaining my privacy about this news, so I could announce this chapter when I felt ready to... with that being said... is anyone here good with math ;)
This gives me so much comfort as a woman who doesn't feel like having children is right for her, but also wouldn't be against it at all. Thank you for sharing x
This is how I feel too. My boyfriend really wants kids, so I'm comfortable with the idea of having them (and excited) but if I never had kids, I don't think it would bother me either. I personally think its freeing to be able to have that choice. I wish you the best in life moving forward, wherever it takes you and to anyone else out there who feels the same ❤
Honestly, this is 500% how i feel. I’m 28 years old and my husband and I plan to start around 30 but the thought alone scares me. I love children, but I’ve never had that “i want to be a mom” thought. I know ID be an amazing one too! But I’m so scared for all the changes it will do to our marriage and to me as a person! So thank you so much for opening up about this 😭💙
I don’t think I’ve ever commented on a RU-vid video before. Just wanted to comment to let you know you shouldn’t feel alone. Just because people don’t talk about it, doesn’t mean the fear isn’t there. I agree with the above comment. Every year I get closer to that age we planned on having a baby, anxiety sets in and I wonder if my life will change in every aspect and it’s terrifying.
It's ok to feel scared. It's also completely fine to not be ready yet or to never be ready because you like the way your life is now. It's not selfish. As they say, you do you and f*ck peer pressure ;)
I think so!!!!!! She was Kylie Jenner ,with her pregnancy and I love that for her I hope and pray that her having her pregnancy in private and what I think now her baby was good for her and gave her some peace ♥️
I have NEVER seen any pregnancy announcement video that the person isn’t saying how they have always dreamt about being a mother. This was so refreshing and validating for me personally. Thank you for sharing your raw emotions and congratulations ❤️
As a first time mum I can confirm that the grieving process of your pre baby life can last for a long time postpartum, not just during pregnancy. It's totally normal to feel negative feelings while at the same time loving your baby and getting used to your new life together - it's the most massive change you can go through physically and mentally, to become a parent and nothing can truly prepare you for it. It can be so incredibly hard. But at the same time it is so amazing and so full of joy!
I think you had a perfectly normal reaction when you were sad about losing the person that you were. Mother is a daunting new identity for sure. It's very relatable and I'm glad that you showed us this realistic portrayal of a reaction to an unexpected pregnancy. All feelings are valid! And your husband seems like such a good person, a gem among men. Congratulations to you two (math says you are already mom and dad by now)
Honestly, this is the most genuine pregnancy reveal I have ever seen. I can’t wait to be a mom, but I am terrified and not ready all at the same time. Best of wishes!
I just want to let you know that I watch this video pretty often and it gives me comfort. My boyfriend wants to have kids and I know that he’s the only person that I would ever have kids with, but I just love my life so much right now and I’m not ready to give that up right now.
My girlfriend and I wanted to see what a typical Japanese house looked like and found your channel and have been subscribed ever since. We are reacting to this video like someone we know personally announced the news to us. Good for you for showing how you were really feeling! And congrats to you and your husband!
I have always been one of those women who wanted to be a mom for as long as I can remember. Our first baby was so wanted, we tried for 2 years. That being said, my next 2 were unplanned. Any time it’s a surprise, it throws you off. You have that moment of panic of how will this change our lives. You’re going to be a great mom. It’s normal to be scared and overwhelmed.
I'm 34, recently got married and right now I'm also exactly 8 days late. And I relate to so many of the things you said in the start of the video. I haven't taken a test yet and haven't even talked about it with anyone since my husband is in another country and I'll be moving with him soon, too.. so... yeah. I love kids but I've just never craved having a child of my own like that.. it really is a lot to take in. you're an absolutely wonderful person! just because this type of a reaction isn't something people usually share doesn't mean it's not natural or something is wrong with you or that you're a bad person! Good luck for everything!!!
Girl, you’ve got this! It is not wrong for feeling emotions and do not ever hide your emotions in fear of what people are going to think! Be upfront with your emotions and don’t feel bad about it! You will teach your baby that it is okay to express yourself through emotions; even the ugly ones. Congratulations, and life is all about changes; we don’t always welcome it, but we know it will happen and we just need to adjust! You got this!
someone who wasnt ready for her pregnancy and filmed her reaction was jenn im here on youtube. I think mainly people dont want to share or admit that they arent excited for their pregnancy but i'm sure there are plenty of women out there who have those feelings. im excited to see the rest of this journey. if I can math they should be... about 3 months now? congrats!!
This kind of reminds me of our first pregnancy. At the time my fiancé was only 20 (me 24) and ironically we had just had a conversation a week ago saying we weren't ready to be parents right now and IF something did happen maybe we would not go through with it. (to be clear we we're using protection). So a few days after that conversation we we're at my parents house and she was downstairs for a while, i ended up checking on her, when she opened the door to the bathroom she was crying. I asked her what was wrong and she showed me the test. I hugged her and told her everything was fine and i was happy. She was afraid i wouldn't be but you never know how you'll react until it happens. Fast forward 16 years later and we now have 3 kids (youngest is 6) and we are still going strong. Everyone feelings are valid and no one reaction to this kind of news is "normal". So glad you feel comfortable enough to share this with us, i starting tearing up at the end when you guys when about to learn the sex of the baby ! lol
That video of you in the car at the beginning after buying your test… I’ve never felt more validated in my entire life. In my time on social media I have NEVER heard anyone speak this truth on social media. It’s exactly how I felt. Thank you thank you thank you.
I cried... and cried.. and fully intended on putting my oldest up for adoption. My whole pregnancy was an emotional Rollercoaster and I can honestly say I did not get the least bit excited until very close to the end. But omg... the moment he was born... scared sh=tless.. but so completely in love with the little thing. He's 11 now. Can't imagine how I lived without him.
So very proud of you girl!! Too often we see women who announce their pregnancies in a singular way but never shine light to those who may be feeling a wave of different emotions. Thank you for allowing us to see such raw moments in your life and thank you for validating feelings many women also go through. Your RU-vid fam loves and supports you! 💕
Your experience was so much like mine. I never really wanted kids but agreed to do it because my husband talked me into having just one. My whole pregnancy, I was more nervous than excited about becoming a mom. My low expectations actually worked out for me though since the actual experience of having a baby was so much better than I expected, and because of my anxiety, I had prepared and read a lot (I didn't go into it with rose coloured glasses, basically). I had a friend who was the opposite who had a harder time adjusting to reality than I did.
If i may ask how old were you when you had your baby? My husvand wanted children and i never really wanted to have any. When i turned 39 i realized it was either now or never and we decided to try. It took only 5 months and now 7 weeks pregant. I'm very nervous but im sure ill get more excited and attached as i get further along. How old is your little one now? 😊
Not a bad person at all! My BFF cried in her car when they sent her from the doctor's office to the hospital when it was time to deliver. She had spent the previous 9 months dreading being a mother, but when her baby was born she feel in love. I think as much as you love Gus you will be an excellent mommy to a houman lol. Also too You are a cute as can be!
Thank you so much for opening up about this. Not many woman talk about this side of pregnancy and having a baby. I get emotional watching this because I feel the exact same way. I’m 31 and I think about think about it everyday because I feel a lot of pressure and mixed emotions about starting a family. I feel I’ll be an good mother but I’m scared of how much our lives will change. This was very comforting to watch ❤️ Can’t wait to follow along on your journey
Oh its so normal to have these feelings Atlas! I’m studying to be a midwife, it’s something totally normal that you feel! A lot of women feel that way, not ready to say goodbye to your old life and starting a new chapter, somewhat also being excited but mostly sad, and that’s okay! It’s true that not a lot of people talk about this but it’s mostly because they don’t dare to say it because of how it might sound like. I’m really glad you shared it with us because there are a lot of women who are looking for this kind of information. I hope you are doing well!
From Caitlin to Caitlin, I felt this way! My son is 4 months old tomorrow and I turn 41 this month! I’m adapting and it’s great but it’s ok if you don’t feel excited yet or if you get excited and then you worry, I think that’s being a mom. It still all feels like a “fever dream”. Congratulations!
There is nothing wrong with you! Your whole life changed in that moment. It’s okay to be sad for the life you feel like you have to give up for baby. BUT this will be a whole new adventure! It’s probably gonna suck for the first few years, juggling naps and feeling like you can never go anywhere without taking the entire house with you, but it does eventually get better! I have a 7 year old and an 18 month old and I’ve said more than once “why can’t they just be born at 3 years old?!??!?” You’ve got this! Congratulations!!
Congratulations! Our third child was a shock. I rang my hubby at work to let him know - I was too scared to tell him at home 😂 He really isn’t a scary person! His reply was after a long silence … ‘see you later’. Our three are only 3yrs 5mths apart in total but now 20, 21 and 23. I still remember experiencing so many emotions - all are valid but most of all we love them more than anything else and that will never end.
Thank you for being so vulnerable with us and for also sharing this when you were ready. This was absolutely something that resonated with me and I thank you from the bottom of my heart for making my feelings feel valid ❤
I'm so so happy for you Caitlin!!! Congratulations!!! I know it has not been easy being away from your family but I am so excited for this new chapter in your life! Sending you a big hug!
Congratulations!!! Thank you for sharing your journey with us! As someone that’s also never known deep down if I want to be a mom one day, you articulated all of my feelings when I think about starting a family. It’s made me feel less alone! This is so important to share! Congratulations again!
I never wanted kids, never felt maternal and felt like some weird anomaly for many many years because of it. I just pictured myself with lots cats and dogs. 😆 I've never been willing to compromise my life or lifestyle for a child and am sad at the state of the planet we are leaving for the next generations. So, I chose not to have children. Now that I'm older, beyond my pregnancy years and heading into menopause, that is a big load off for me! But I 100% respect the choice that is made to become a mom too! It's so valuable to be able to make that decision. Being a mom is a thankless job and you are so brave for being willing to take on that role. I also respect you so much for being real about your initial reaction. Thank you for that! Last, big congratulations to you, your husband and dog brother Gus Gus. Felicidades!!!
I never wanted children but ended up having one later on. Being a mother is not a thankless job at all. It’s the most wonderful experience one could have. I get love everyday from my daughter, looking after her fills me with happiness and my life has this real purpose now I have her. I wish I’d had children sooner now I know what it’s like.
@@vp2618 For the majority of women, being a mother is a thankless job. My neighbor as I type this is venting about how her daughter didn't appreciate that she took her and her siblings to a water park & she disrespected her & was being super bratty. I'm glad you haven't experienced this but the majority of mothers do.
Every reaction is so different for every one with every pregnancy. I'm so glad you decided to share your journey with us. I've been watching your channel since before covid and it's so exciting to see your family grow. Wishing you and your family good health and happiness. ❤️
As a mom, it's like this no matter what. I simultaneously miss myself and long for the things I could do before I had kids, and love my son's more than any living thing on this planet. The feelings coexist and that's ok.
It's normal to be scared & overwhelmed. I truly feel like being "ready" to be a parent is very uncommon. As a parent myself its scary & overwhelming sometimes. However it's very rewarding as well. Good job at taking your time to share this bc you didn't have to. 💕
this is one of my favorite videos of yours! I connected to a lot that you had to say about the changes that happens when you decide to start a family. My husband and I want a family but the changes that will happen scare me too, and people dont talk about that enough so thank you!
Thank you for being so open and honest with your feelings. My husband and I have talked about starting a family but I have the exact fears you spoke about and it makes me feel less alone knowing I’m not the only one ♥️ that being said I am so thrilled for you guys and can’t wait to see the rest of your journey! Sending you all of the love!!!
Thank you for making this 💖 this was the exact same way I felt and always felt alone. It’s hard to think about the old times, but the new ones def make up for them over time. So again, thank you for making this.
I reacted the same way and we were trying also. I didn’t think I’d feel that way. But I instantly knew things would change, I was so scared I’d lose my independence and how we lived. Congratulations and I hope you guys are enjoying baby Atlas!! 🙏🏼🥰
Sending you all the love, happiness and health 💜 congratulations! I'm so glad you opened up about these feelings, because I know you are definitely not alone!! Change can be terrifying, but new chapters can bring a new kind of happiness even as the old chapter ends. Love and best to you and your family 💕
Being a mom completely changes everything, I never really thought about being a mom before but I love my son more than anything and couldn’t imagine life without him. You’re not a bad person/mom for feeling this way ❤
Your feelings are so valid. I have felt like this with my pregnancies, and it’s so hard to somehow shake those feelings off. Eventually we all get excited but it’s hard to say goodbye to some goals or the path you were currently on.
I’m not a mother yet, but I totally relate. I’m not opposed to starting a family, but I feel I keep delaying this part of my growth because I don’t want to close a chapter of me that I’m still working on… if that makes sense… anyhow, sending you lots of love and happiness. 🤍
I was crying with you during the beginning of the video and also think that I would feel the same way if it happened to me without the planning part! I love your videos and now I'm even more excited to see this next chapter of your life, if you plan to show it too! Lots of love for you and your family! ❤️
Thank you for sharing this! You’re not the only person who would react that way (I know I would at this point) and you shouldn’t feel bad about it! When you enjoy time to yourself it’s hard to process something like that. I don’t think anyone is ever ready to be a mother but I have no doubt that you will be a great one. 💜
So sweet 💕… pregnancy is such a delicate time of excitement and change and fear all rolled up. So many emotions and they’re all valid. I’ve had two babies and motherhood changes you immensely so much that I can barely even recognize my old self. But I also can’t even imagine a world where my babies don’t exist. So excited to see your journey and for your heart to grow more than you ever imagined it could 💕
Congratulations! I very much felt the same way you did, I eventually found my groove as a mama (my babies are 20 and 16 now) and I’m betting you will too! So I’m guessing baby atlas is 4-5months old now?! The newborn stage was always my favorite! Congratulations again! ❤️
*This video made me feel all sorts of emotions!* One minute I’m crying; the second- I feel happy; then I feel so adventurous the next! And I’m 22 (no kids, not married, nothing. hehe) I have not met you personally but I feel like you’ve been a huge part of my life. Thank you for taking us everywhere in Japan! And this *new* journey of yours is absolutely so refreshing to see. You are brave. You are amazing. And I know you will be a great mom! Thank you for sharing this precious chapter of your life with us 🥹🤍✨
I am happy for you!!! Thank you for sharing your side of how you feel being vulnerable with and letting go a part of yourself, with having a kid! Keep doing what you are doing we are all here for ya!I am excited to see what is in store for you and your new found family!
I'm so happy for you 💓 I've been watching you for awhile and you've been a huge inspiration to me to be independent and explore who I am. I'm so excited to watch you become a mom and teach this little one so much 🥰
Social media and the world make you feel bad if you don’t love every second of being a mom. That’s not the truth and it’s not reality. Congratulations and I feel the same way you do
Thank you for sharing! It helps to know others feel the same… having to shed an old you and realizing another chapter can be hard… everything you said in the beginning is super fair!
Aww congratulations! Becoming a mom comes with a lot of emotions. What you felt was totally valid. I hope you continue to share this new adventure with us.
You posted this 2 hours ago and I’m already ready for the next one! 🥺 Congratulations! I’m so happy for you & your family for doing what was best for you! 🤍
thank you so soso much for sharing your feelings!! i’ve always felt the same way about being a mother it’s extremely refreshing to see you feel the same :) 💗💗💗
I love how true and honest this has been , it’s calming to know others feel the same way as I do. Thank you for sharing your experience with us. We love you and can not wait to see this new chapter unfold.
I can not tell you how much I needed this video, you're right, women never talk about this. It's usually only rainbows and butterflies and there is this whole other side for a lot of women that is never portrayed. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings with us and Congratulations!
