I caught my BFF’s fiancé with another woman, now she’s canceling the wedding! | Reddit Stories 

BROOO THATS NOT WHAT IM SAYING haha - basically I’m saying that for every 4 years of a relationship people tend to stay together past cheating because the relationship has more momentum behind it. Cheating is never a good thing but sometimes with longer relationships people will look past it. -Sam

​@@OKOPShowTotally get what you are saying Sam. I think people just don't want to break up after such a long time. Like they think they have been in the relationship so long that if they broke up all that time would have been wasted. Which no because you are just "wasting" more years by staying together. More infidelity is probably going to happen. Better to break up the first time, no matter how long you've been together.

I don't see why it's good to boost one and the need to say something negative for a other person just to make a point 🤦

​@OKOPShow, I totally understand your scale, Sam! It's hilarious and can easily be taken wrong but totally get the intent behind it

@@OKOPShow it’s ok Sam we still love you bud!! When you explain it that makes more sense. I must have missed the original explanation of your cheating scale lol. Which is fine my ass misunderstands things all the time. Y’all are awesome. Ps on one of the last episodes you shared your job interview video thing (sorry I can’t think of the label of what the video was for) but it was to get hired for some company and it was a super cool idea.

It's not culture it's oppression and misogyny hidden behind the word culture. It needs to change the woman don't deserve to be looked down upon because of a loser ex partner.

because you asking yourself what you really want. I agree they had both acted stupidly.

My thought exactly.

It was a test.

​@@lisasteel6817 10000000%

It often helps men cause they often realise how much they were thinking of their SO at the time … And I’ve heard so many men and women say that - when they actually hooked up with someone else they felt empty and realised it isn’t want they wanted Sometimes it helps cause we build up the fantasy in our heads - and then that fantasy doesn’t meet up to it Or he likes it more than he likes her … and as the other person why would you want to be an option .. if they leave you for someone else cause or sec with them .. then they were never yours to begin with .. it was just your turn It can and does help some people - and it doesn’t help others That’s the point … sometimes fixing the marriage is realising it was never right to begin with But I agree that sex with someone in his life if messy as ! Go to bar and have one night stand or pay a sex worker But anyway not everyone is built the same so it’s dumb for you to assume that

Seconded! Sophia is a great addition!

I agree... She is a welcome addition to the boys club... 😊😊

Yes! I love how the pie hole jokes and vulgarity has decreased. I mean a that’s what she said or title of your sex tape is funny now and then but some of the earlier episodes were cringe.

Agreed!

Well, he might've felt lonely and desperate in that moment, not knowing if she was ever going to be with him again. Remember he didn't know she missed him too and she felt so ready to get back with him before they talked it out and got back together. It's still stupid that he did it... He really can't go back on that.

​@@iulia.bianca.b I understand desperation...but twice! That what pornhub is for. So you WON'T, do something out of desperation.

@@iulia.bianca.b: But I can’t understand why being desperate and lonely should lead you to the bed of another woman. What’s wrong with just seeking company and some sort of support? And why should that automatically mean that company or support would be a woman? Have these people got no brains?

​@janicevango5791 also wasnt the other woman a coworker for 2 yrs

OMG Yes! The things that can happen to a child in utero....its shocking, really.

In most cultures that have strict rules like that, you can have friends of the opposite sex but you don't hang out with them one on one. Group hangouts or talking on the phone is okay, but taking them on a solo outing at a fancy restaurant is absolutely not. In those cultures, it is seen as wildly inappropriate, especially if you are in a relationship.

Which is why op’s family was very sure the fiancé was on a cheaters date and not something innocent. There were no other people as chaperone. Combined with him going oh no and running with the woman out the restaurant once he saw them looking at him proves he knows it wasn’t innocent by any standards in his culture. Those girls were lucky to have op’s family standing up for them and not just gossiping behind their backs at the wedding or after. They got told before and make a better choice as a result and yet they get labeled as the bad guys because they didn’t just do as others and keep their mouths shut until the wedding was over like everyone else would do in their culture. No good deed goes unpunished. Sadness. The girls should have still talked to op’s family. They weren’t the cheater or drug dealing ex fiancé’s but it seems their culture blames women not men, so maybe the girls are getting verbally abused for not being married even if it was to a drug dealer or a cheater. They might be getting bombarded with gross talk of, “you could have been supportive and guided him away from such things” as if a man would listen to his wife in a culture that doesn’t treat women well.

Oppression isn't culture just feels like major sexism for no reason

@@carolday3381: What I don’t get is why, in the first instance, they were the villains and causing drama for letting Kimberly know in front of her parents (quite rightly, frankly). But we’re also the villains when they didn’t say anything! Madness! These people need to get their priorities right.

My daughter has the biggest crush on Riley 😂❤. He's got a good soul it seems.

Hahahaha! Yes, and certainly he would be, beyond, indignant!

I thought the same thing!

Sam who? 🥸

Girl he definitely got other ass 😂

Who is Ruben?

@@EsoteriaHealing Ruben is from Lilo and Stitch. He's an experiment. They put his picture on the screen and John didn't know who he was so I had to tease him.

I agree that it's not right to give someone permission to do something with the intention of punishing them if they do. However, if the only thing that's stopping you from sleeping around is permission, then you are not a good partner. After that many years of marriage, he should have valued his wife more than that. Even with her permission, he should have cared more about saving his marriage than sleeping around. It shows where his priorities were and his wife was nowhere near the top of the list.

@@Karamarika I don’t necessarily agree with that. We don’t know if he wouldn’t have slept with anyone else had she not given him the idea that he could do it without repercussions. That alone is enough for some people. It’s easy to say he just shouldn’t have done it. But that’s only the case because she turned out to not be fine with it at all.

@@Karamarika absolutely not. The only reason you aren’t sleeping around can be your in a relationship where that isn’t allowed in, and that is completely fine because your following your partners boundaries. Sleeping with other people means nothing about how you feel about other people. Sex for many people is just for fun with people they don’t love and completely different from their partners. It is incredibly toxic to lie to your partner and suggest something is okay to “test them”

@@Gayonetta5000 he should not have done it whether she was ok with it or not. Integrity isn't based on permission or acceptance from one person. I wouldn't want a partner that isn't sleeping around solely because they "can't." They should be choosing to be loyal because they love their partner, not for lack of permission.

Except there was no blindsiding there...she said he could and he did. They both regretted it but there was no blindsiding

I see ... what you are ... saying, but the... ellipses are a bit ... much.

SWOOP!! *ending music for swoop’s videos*

Lol half of these have stories with them, good chance to learn to spot them haha

Pretty much. He's useless.

A trap means the relationship was already broken.

They could also be Romani as they have a courting culture as well!

Indian probably, they are strict like the description of the traditional way of mariage .

We were there for a month 😂 - Riley

​​​​@@OKOPShowlmao i was shocked too with that jacket 😂 i had to stopped the video and searched the comment for explanation

She knew his sexual drive and that he will not emotionally cheat But she did not recognize that she will anyway loose trust.

I think a lot of people don’t understand that for many sex is just fun with anyone not your partner. I get this a LOT as someone in an open relationship where people thing that if you “truly love them” then you wouldn’t have sexual desires for anyone else. But what it really comes down to is that your opinion on sex means nothing here. She lied and said something was okay that wasn’t, he was specifically told it was okay and then people act like “testing” your partner is ever in any way an okay thing. They laugh as if that’s not a huge red flag and incredibly toxic. DO NOT TEST YOUR PARTNER. Don’t lie and expect a different outcome.