My brother's mother-in-law died as a result of a moment of unimaginable, unpredicted violence by his father-in-law, and the families were both struggling with money at the time, so my brother, a master cabinetmaker, built his mother-in-law's coffin by hand, and he said it was one of the most spiritual things he's ever done, and his wife (at the time....violence and loss can really tear people apart) would sit in his workshop as he built it, helping with sanding and finishing, so she could be a part of the place her mom would rest. Making can be such a healing process, and I'm so sorry for your loss.
I'm SO sorry for your loss! Your dress is part of the process for your healing. The bow tie is such a poignant example of passing on the beautiful spirit to others, and on Tuesdays.
My favorite uncle passed away last September. I won't go into detail but it hit me really hard. A few years ago when I was working on my first associates degree there was a mishap with financial aid and my parents and I asked my Uncle for some help. I told him I'd repay him back. He told me to just get good grades that semester. I believe I did but I didn't really care as long as I got a C. But I got my second associates degree in May 2023 I was 2 points away from graduating with honors. I started my first semester of my bachelor's August of 2023, he passed not even a month later. This time I am on my way to graduate with honors I just need to get A's these last 2 semesters. I'm working hard to fulfill my promise and to honor him.
I lost my son 5 years ago. I found grief was my heart crying “I love you and you will always be in my heart and soul”. Now I live life to the fullest,because that what Andrew would want.
@@wrathchild7168 I am so sorry, my condolences on the loss of your son, I lost my son,7 years ago as well. Sending light on your grief journey 🕯️🤍🕯️🕊️🕊️🦋
What a beautiful tribute to your wonderful friend. The other day, I posted a meme with the comment "I don't know who needs to hear this, but..." The meme read "You are as amazing as a dress with pockets." And you are, Stephanie Canada, you are as amazing as a dress with pockets!
I just learned, about 2 hours ago, that a dear friend of mine passed, yesterday. This video was hard to watch. You did well. The dress is beautiful. ❤ from SE Texas ❤
I started crying as soon as I saw the title 💔 I just had the 14 th anniversary of my wife, my soulmate being killed.. that was August 6th..so hearing you speak so endearingly about your friend..that's where the love will ALWAYS lay,in your grief,in your delicious memories.. because as your recall your dear friend,even through those salty bittersweet tears, you will savour the deliciousness of everything they truly ARE..for through you, they live on, forever..in your words ,your memories, your tears and laughter.. my deepest condolences to you and the family 🕯️🤍🕯️🕊️🕊️🦋
@@suek7086 my condolences to you, I've lost my wife and my son 7 years ago, he was 24 years old. I am so sorry for your loss and sending you 🫂on your grief journey 🕯️🤍🕯️🕊️🕊️🦋🦋
Just before my friend took her own life she had asked me to make her grandchildren some toys. She has picked exactly what she wanted to make and the colours for them as well. It was so hard to make those toys. Every stitch felt like a stab. But seeing the children's faces when I have them the toys made it so worth it and I was so grateful to be able to give them something else to remember her by. Still hurts so many years later.
My hearfelt condolances, a beautiful video. I found out what grief sewing was when my father unexpectedly, tragically passed 3 months ago - but here in Oz, ppl almost never wear black to funerals anymore. I did not have suitable, traditional formal mourning attire for HIM. It had to be different and special. I had the fabric and pattern. So I sewed and sewed right up until 2 am the night before the funeral. I was the eldest child,, I gave the eulogy and led the service. So I wanted to look like what my father would have loved me in. Be my best for me dad, one last time. The best last thing we can do is be who we are ffor them in that last moment we see them before we can never see them again. You could not have done better for your friend than be you
What a beautiful tribute to your friend. I lost my best friend in 2021. I questioned if the unbearable pain would ever ease. Grief cycles through us and the waves slowly diminish over time. May you find comfort in remembering him and the blessing he was in your life. I will never be “okay”. But I carry “My Bob” with me by remembering him and the love we shared. Thank you for sharing your heart! ❤
Tying bow ties is my super power, they are art in of themselves and thank you for sharing this story with us. We are none so loved as them that are remembered.
@@Bright_Broccoli it was either in reference to someone else, or a slip of the tongue, which happens. 99.99% of the time, she used they/them, so that's what everyone else should use. Finding any excuse to not use someone's pronouns, especially after they've passed, isn't the flex that you seem to think it is. Learn some respect.
Stephanie I am so sorry my husband and I have you in our thoughts and devotions I lost my Mom last June and I still have had to deal with mourning take time for yourself You have to find your own way to mourn and remember your grief is Yours Mourn your way but know you are not alone
Oh Stephanie, the heavens were crying when you lost your friend. Thank you for showing us grief with so much love, humor, and grace. Thank you for touching my soul.
Grief is a funny thing, a hollow, hungry thing that ebbs and flows with your own heart beat. Take care of yourself, take care of your mind and body. And just know that no matter what you feel, it is ok. You can laugh and smile. You can cry and scream. You can feel everything in between. There is no right or wrong way to grieve, there is no right or wrong way to feel. I hope you find comfort in the little joys of life and support from those around you. Be well.
I bought some ‘carnival day of the dead’ fabric, but was always a little wary to make use of it. My friend & I both got cancer at the same time. I lived & sadly he died. I made an outfit and wore it to show him before his death - he loved it & knew when I wore it next , that it would be at his funeral. It has been worn many times & is not a sad outfit, but something to remember him fondly. ❤
I have just watched this amazing video. I'm still crying my eyes out because I know your pain and loss. I lost my best friend 14 years ago and I still miss her so so much! She will forever have a place in my heart, as I'm sure your dear friend will be in yours. The memory of her, with her, the times we laughed together, hugged each other, stood against the school bullies together, sang as high as we could to sing star. We were inseparable. Thank you for sharing this video so that I could have this moment with her memories again ❤️ After she passed I had trouble with nightmares so I didn't sleep very well. But then she entered my mind, she shielded me from my nightmares she was now my guardian angel and I haven't had those problems since. Thank you again Stephanie and I'm so sorry for your loss!
Grief is like the wake behind a boat. It starts out as a huge wave that follows close behind you and is big enough to swamp and drown you if you suddenly stop moving forward. But if you do keep moving, the big wake will eventually dissipate. And after a long time, the waters of your life get calm again, and that is when the memories of those who have left begin to shine as bright and as enduring as the stars above. -Jimmy Buffett Sending you, yours and theirs peace.
grief is the most painful thing and it catches you off guard as in you will be fine for a few days and then something will trigger the grief again. a memory, an Item, a special date. Be gentle with your self, take as much time as you need. Your feelings are valid no matter what they are. if you like to Journal take time to put thoughts down as you go through this. *HUGS*
Twelve years ago yesterday my fiance was killed in a random backyard accident. Actually the paramedics intubated her against her will and it took three days for her to actually die. I cried every day for 10 years. I'm a little better, but August is just sad. So you take your time. I think the bow tie was a lovely tribute. But that's only the beginning. Blessed be.
😭😭😭 As the friend that received a similar gift when my friend died. IT MEANS THE WORLD. For me, it was a handmade blanket that was made for him for Christmas, but he died December 9th. It's been over a decade. I still have it, and it still brings me comfort. ❤❤❤❤ I will be here when you are ready take your time.
I'm sorry for your loss, this video, the dress, and the bowtie are beautiful memorials. In many ways, I'm glad the weather was appropriately moody for you. One step at a time, one seam at a time. 💜
Sorry for the loss of your friend. I know at this time you will not feel it but, may your memories of your friend remind you of the fun and joy you shared together.
I don't want to be alarming, so I won't name names. But I recognize Dosie Dough. That's where I grew up. I would go into that little cafe after school and just . . . relax. It was one of my safe places in a town and home that was . . . tough when I was growing up. To say the least. Grief is a funny thing. It tears people apart, but can also bring them together. I'm so sorry for your loss. I truly hope you can begin to heal with time.
I wished I could say or do something that would ease your pain, there is nothing I feel I can do but I will see in you the light of healing and peace....I will pray for you to be comforted.....I ache to be able to give you a huge long hug.
Stepanie, that was the most moving and beautiful video. I am so sorry that you had to make it. We never know when will be our last words with someone. Typing thru tears and sending love.
Oh, Stephanie. I am so sorry. I work in theatre, too and have made deep friendships with people I have worked with. I can’t imagine your pain. You honor your friend well.
Stephanie I cried watching this video. Again, I am so sorry for the loss of your friend. You take your time. From your description your friend must have been a wonderful person. The bowtie was such a sweet thing. When you are ready I'll be here for you.
I am so sorry to hear of your friend passing. My deepest sympathies go to you in this time. Your dress was a good way to process your grief and your video a good memorial. Losing friends is hard, I know i have lost many over the years.
Oh my dear Stephanie, my heart breaks for you. Grief is so fickle, part of life we do not want to go through. This was ABSOLUTELY beautiful. It is so difficult to push through but please take all the time needed! His spirit will be with you throughout this earthly life as we are all connected. The dress if FABULOUS and is so beautiful on you. I LOVE those ruffles, and I did in the 1980'S too.💚. Much peace love and light sent to you and your friend. 💚🌻🌻🌻🌻🌺🌺🌺💜
Dear Ms. Stephanie, I am so, so, so very sorry for your loss. Ah, Hon. Saying goodbye is never easy, and it never gets easier I'm afraid to say. I'm glad you got to the memorial to share stories. Because, in the end, we are stories. I'm so sorry his passing was violent. Kindness deserves better. You're in my prayers. Take all the time you need. Virtual hug from Canuk-eh-stan. Love yah. - Cathy (&, accidently, Steve), Ottawa/Bytown/Pimisi
What a great statue of love you made with this video. For your friend who will be in the thoughts of complete strangers now and will hopefully make us think about being kind and open minded and acting according to that. My condolences for your loss. Take your time.
Take all the time you need, sweet girl!!! Losing a loved one is never easy and we all grieve a little (or a lot) differently... Heal as much as possible and we will see you when you walk through that process..... Warm hugs and much love!
I,'m so sorry for your loss. That had to be very difficult. I had a friend like that we lived far apart but yet a call or text or request was never unanswered. She died of cancer and she requested my presence at the end. I had to scrape money together for the trip but i was there to hold her hand and reminince a little. Yes and promise in the hereafter we will find each other again. I miss her everyday.
With this video (and dress and bow tie) you shared lovely memories cherrish with friend and with all of us, your community. I was crying all during this video and I will wait for you here, take your time.
I am so sorry for your loss. Your friend sounds like a very special person. They will be with you always. Be gentle with yourself grief and loss can take a long time to process.
When my father was dying I also went on this journey. I had a dress in my stash that I started some 14 yrs before and stopped because I just wasn't at the level it required. Something about it told me to finish it for him, to honor him raising me and how proud he was of me. He was such a great daddy to me. I finished it the night before his funeral. I'm so glad I did it for him.
Bless you. I lost my mom in April. I know there’s nothing that will make it easier. I will be thinking of all of us who have lost their special people. ❤
This was way too beautiful a tribute, to your friend....I know loss..and it's never easy. Your dress is lovely, and the bow tie was surely much appreciated by the friend. Will be looking forward for your return... hugs Donna
One thing I heard why I was grieving the death of my daughter and brother. Was the reason I was hurting so bad, was that I loved them so much. So just remember he was lived by you very much!
Thank you for sharing. I cried for you and your friend. You did your friend a great honor in remembering them in this manner. You are a good friend and I'm happy to learn that the bowtie will be an item to remember them by. Peace to you.
Stephanie, what a good friend you are, for such a beautiful memorial to your friend. My grand mother told me once after a loss, "for every tear you cry in your grief, the one you lost sends back a smile/giggle." Life hands us sad times and grief, but time will heal the hurt. It may leave a scar, but the hurt will heal.
I want to express my deepest sympathy. I know this content was a struggle to share. Thank you. It has touched me deeply. I have been binge watching your content since I saw you on reels from Atlanta Frocktails with Tricia and Aaronica. I, too, lost someone close to me to senseless circumstances years ago. I am gutted for you having to go through this. It makes you a member of a group you never asked to be in. May you persevere through this process and find a little more peace tomorrow than you have today.
I am so so sorry for your loss, I am going threw the same thing at the moment.. I have her clothes to make a quilt with now.. and I can barely even open the container because I miss her so much. She was riped away to soon from us and I can barely do the thing I love is to sew, as I was starting to teach her.. thank you for making this video.. it means I am not alone in a horrible loss, and to keep moving.
Very sorry for your loss. This was a very touching video and I cried for your loss. I know how much sewing can heal the soul. It did for me when my dad passed and I made memory bears from his shirts. See you in the next video when you are ready.
I am so impressed by your video Stephanie. You found a way to express your grief and I know that's not easy. Your friend was an amazing person. I feel like the more you talked about your friend the more I got to know them. I know what it feels like to experience grief and its not easy. I lost my dad a year and a half ago and my mother five years ago. Please take all the time you need to heal. You have such a wonderful way of expressing your feelings into words, I feel like you would be a great author and a great story teller if you choose to be. The world needs to have more people in the world like you Stephanie. Thank you so much for sharing!
Stephani, this is beautiful. It made me cry. I can feel your love and I understand your loss my older sister who taught me to sew and was my sewing buddy died the day after this insurrection after 31 days on a ventilator it was Covid. We had no Christmas that year and every time I so I want to show her what I’m making or talk to her about the problems. I’m having she’s not there, hold her in my heart and hold her adult children in my heart. I hope that in the coming months, you will have less pain.❤❤
Grief never ends. It evolves, but doesn't really end. Please know that, in sharing your heartbreak with us, you have made it possible for us to send back our hearts to you. I am one who prays, and I shall pray for you. Others will send you their peace in ways that you will know. Love.
This memorial for your dear friend is both beautiful and memorable. Hugs for you and his family during this terrible time of grief. Take your time healing and know that we are here for you.
