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Huge Shout out to the the gal who said, "Im not ready to let go of anything yet, because im still learning from it. I'll Release it when Im done learning. A lot of people not only hold so much in, but others try to mask or find ways to ignore their issues through out life. It's quite difficult to face the things you struggle with and learn from it. Mad respect.
I wanted to quote this but you did already, thank you! It's such a positive perspective on what could also be "I'm unable to let go, I'm failing to", very mature
I absolutely loved this quote, because learning from our garbage is perhaps one of the most important things we can do in this life. The progress we make, and the distance we grow ultimately is why we are here. To take responsibility for learning and letting go properly is something that gives that person my utmost respect.
“It feels silly to be mad at something like this.” I feel like this about everything because I assume I’m overreacting, but sometimes you actually have to just accept it so you can come to terms with it, instead of just trying to shove it back down
Someone told me that every emotion you feel is real. It's okay to be mad or sad over the littlest thing. The thing we have to do is control our reactions to those experiences. We can not control our emotions, however, we can control our reactions. It may be harder for some to control their reactions but there are way to improve that control.
Mad is just a frustrated emotion. No worries. To add to what you said....In order to clear something its important to know exactly and specifically what it is you are "excepting" and why those things happened. I can say to at least one person - it's possible. I'm sixty years old and three weeks ago I got the answer to ALL the questions in my life. I mean that I have been working for 3 weeks now to find a memory of any action, any like, any dislike - why I was abused, why I was abused by that person. Why I feel the way I do, do the things I do, why what makes me happy makes me happy and why I feel the pain so intensely and why I have the the things that I have and most importantly why I have my beautiful wife by my side.....spoiler alert: its not God. It was all the exact characteristics of ADHD. I beg anyone who reads this to check yourself. Its all here on youtube. It's tough but very very empowering to have answers. Forgiveness comes much easier. This diagnosis has been a gift from the universe.
@@-Natty You are right! You may not be able to control what a person says to you, but you can control how you react to it. That's a lesson in itself. Not always easy. They say there are only two emotions; love and fear. Anger is fear based. I agree with that, although it took me a long time to really "get it." You have to dig deep.
“I’m not ready to let go of anything yet. ‘cause I’m still learning from it. And I’ll release it, when I’m done learning”kicked me straight in the gut. There’s a lot of pressure put on people to forgive, as almost a short cut to healing. But it always frustrated me that that was the expectation. And that expectation filled me with resentment and in turn made me hold on tighter to the pain and anger caused by the one who hurt me. So no. I won’t let that shit go. Because I’m still learning from it. And I’ll release it when I’m done learning
Always the best concepts!! This was incredibly touching to watch. I need to let go of the narrative I have created for myself because it is constraining and hurtful.
I'm 27 and tonight I was told by someone I thought of as a mother, who I've known since I was 5 that everything bad that's happened in my life is my fault, that I never take responsibility and that I'm fat, lazy and need to 'give up my dogs and get my life together '. After alot of loss in the last few years and unimaginable grief that comes with it, this hurt me in the deepest parts of my soul. This woman was a woman I looked up to and trusted wholeheartedly with my life and soul. And now I question if I'll ever trust again. Thoraya, thank you so much! I clearly really needed this!! And to all those that have shit they want to let go of, you're not alone, you are loved and pain is only temporary. As sure as the sun rises and sets you will feel peace and love and all will be well again. Love and light 🙏🤍
Thank you so much for this video, it really hits me as I'm exactly concerned about not being able to let things go even though I should. There are so many things I wish I could let go, some that I can share and others I can't, but I feel like I can surpass that fear and try letting it go for once. So I'm not good at making men friends and I have so much resentment towards E. for that he left me when I was needing company the most. I wish I had told him back then. That $#*! still hurts to this day. I felt so alone, used and unloved, it's haunting me and I am used to hating this person so much. It's not good for anyone, and it's not good for me. With that put down, I can let it go. 📝🗑️🔥
"It doesn't say what to do... I guess I better just go find her... 😁" (it was fun to hear myself laugh so hard - i haven't laughed in a while / I smile all the time, but it felt good to roar, ty )
To the one that put that they think about suicide !! 3 things that got me through my feeling on that was. 1) it's a sin. 2) All the people that hurt you to have you feel that way will win, and I could not let them win. 3) A test, If you could really do that then test yourself before you try. Go outside and walk around naked for an hr. if that seems silly, WELL then you still care about something. I tell everyone I run into that opens up and tells me this and yes everyone has those thoughts. You are NOT alone! I tell them that if you truly are done with this life, then try something first! go change your name and throw everything you have away. EVERYTHING! start walking, leave the state you are in and start new. without any family or friends. If that sounds crazy to you then think why? Why do you still care? and that is when you find out why you have the right to live! Because no matter where you go, there you are! We are all the same in a lot of ways, but we are so different too! it's like we are a potion in a jar, and we start with family ingredients then we put some of our own in it and friends, strangers the world adds to our potion. That chemistry that adds up in our jar forms us to a unique tonic! what you let or keep in that jar can make your tonic toxic or medicinal that is up to you! your soul is yours and yours alone! it makes you, you. and that is for you to figure out. its hard but exciting too. It makes you special and that is worth living for. Never let them win and live good lives. GOD BLESS!
Thank you so much! I subscribe to your channel and always enjoy your videos but this one has to be my favorite video of yours so far. I really needed to hear and see this today! 😊
When I was in seminary one the courses I took was called “Forgiveness “ . Another course was “The Problem of War”. And yet another was called “Other Gods”. Of course Area ONE stuff like OT and NT, Philosophy of Religion , etc, etc.. You would make a great “Forgiveness Professor!!!
I’ve seen a couple of these videos and I barely realized halfway through this that it’s Balboa park. I wish every city had places like this within driving range, where nature and art and humans are given space to exist.
I just recently started a book about forgiveness and it’s helped changed my perspective about the topic. It’s called “from forgiven to forgiving” by Jay E Adams its a green and white book if y’all also want to read it 😊
I’ve been trying to let go of something for seven years. As a Christian… Or at least one who’s trying to be a Christian… I feel a little bit ashamed because I haven’t been able to let things go.
So this came up a lot. Forgiveness. what is it for, why? I just wanted to share it with people that do not understand it. For me its a peace of mind we can give as a present to someone that needs it, but does not necessarily deserve it. Its for us to have a chance to try to empathically experience the release of guilt and happiness that comes from it. Its to try our own empathy and feel good about it. Its not about the person you forgive.
to the person who thinks about s****de: I feel you. I love your heart, your courage to share it anonymously and the world is a better place because you're in it. Keep holding on and find someone who listens.
Same bro I'm always trying to hold it together. These videos let me know I'm not alone and it's overwhelming heating people's story you're not alone either brother peace
It’s an awesome project, but after 5 min of watching I realised that I enjoy the background so much - people just walking, riding or playing…it seems so simple, so peaceful Thank you!
I got tears in my eyes for the person thinking about suicide. I was once told I could flip the switch when thinking about not living. To think about LIVING! Do something new EVERY day. Walk backward if necessary...Smile and say hello to someone. Seriously. It helped.
She reminded me of how society makes us feel. Like we shouldn’t feel hurt over the small things. But the truth is no one can justify what didn’t hurt us. We all have our own individual experience. Her exp is valid and feelings are valid.
@@vandalsavage6743 my boomer parents judged and still judge me (a woman) for my emotions. My siblings as well. My best friends parents were like this too when we were little girls. So were all of my aunts, uncles and grandparents. I don't show emotion in front of my friends or romantic partners. I have a dissociative disorder because of this and PTSD. I struggle to feel my feelings to show them in the first place, even in therapy. I know it's important to feel them but I've never had a safe place to do that before. It feels self indulgent to cry and nobody cares when I do. So for me it never helped me get my needs met and I learned that people would distance themselves from me unless I had a "mildly smiling resting face" and no problems. My friends and I often choose sensitive men who are in touch with their feelings. I try to reciprocate and be open with them as well, but as of yet nobody has been able to hold space for me to speak about my feelings, the conversation usually comes back to them. Don't listen to people who tell you you're not a man for having feelings, or that women won't want you. There are plenty around who appreciate this in a partner. Even if this seems to be the norm in your social circle and what you see online. Choose to follow creators who show men who are comfortable with their emotion and happy in their relationships. Choose to seek out new friendships where this attitude is not so pervasive. The whole world is not like this. It's like we've been bought up in a fishbowl and we need to get ourselves into the river ❤
People. They hurt me and I've been too patient with them, couldn't seem to let go. But I'm done holding onto them because I'm pouring into them and they are not pouring into me. I'm wilting as they are becoming greener.
People's opinions of me. I've been so obsessive about what people think of me because I've grown up hearing comments about my appearance (I don't even know what I look like, all I hear is that I'm fat) and my personality. And many around me say I'm never going to get a boyfriend or be liked by people if I don't lose weight. Which is difficult because I have PCOS.
The crazy distrust I have, and the belief that no-one truly loves anyone wholly. I hate feeling like this, but it’s just something I can’t move beyond.
i found it really interesting how people kept reading notes very similar to theirs, i think it was kinda the universe's way of showing them that its okay to let it go
This is really cool because not only does it give the writer a sense of freedom, but also validates them when others are able to relate or otherwise empathize with it.
i noticed this too. It was really touching to hear him speak and it made me wonder also about the role models he has had in his life who may have played a part in how thoughtful and wise he appears at his young age- very beautiful to see
Had an empty jar and decided to do this for myself. Hoping I can do it daily until I can physically move on. First entry.. Tired of being scared to move on. I want to be among the living again. $#*! GO Thank you!!💖🍶
Came across this as I was Journaling about how i have always felt uncared for by my family. And I'm seeing how it has shaped me into a person that makes people not want to be around and when they leave it just reinforces how uncared for and alone I feel. So now I'm looking to let go of these negative thoughts and feelings so that I can stop acting in accordance with them and pushing people away and blaming them for leaving. This healing shit is tough, but we got this. Love yall! 🤍🌷
You wrote basically what I feel- you are not alone. And at least now we know it's within us to do better and feel better, right? Wishing whoever reads this strength, hope, peace and comfort.
What a very insightful thing to say. It takes great strength to come to realisations like this one and admit that we have some work to do, but that's half the battle already. As you're free to take responsibility for your happiness and the person you are, I know that you will go places and attract those wonderful people who love you like you love (or will learn to) love yourself. Wishing you much love from my corner of the world ❤
I think the girl at 1:14 describes in a simple way why many people are holding on to things, because when you are in the process of letting go, you will have to face pain and grief. Eventually, those feelings will dissipate and you will find peace ❤ I hope everyone finds the courage within them to let go ❤️
I haven't been watching your videos for a while because since I started taking a professional path that centers a lot around strong emotions and problems, I started watching way less emotional content and much more light hearted stuff, but I am so glad that you keep doing this! you are awesome! And you are such a valuable creator
I need to let go of blaming myself for not doing more to "save" my father before he passed. He had many underlying health issues and knew he was going to die. In the back of my mind i feel like hos side of the family blames me for going to work that day, even tho he old me too!
Thoraya, Never stop doing what your doing. The love that is coming out of your work is infectious and is exactly what humanity needs right now. Thank you so much.
this is the most wholesome channel in all of youtube, every time i need some faith or some hope, every time i feel like the world is cold and cruel, i come here to feel warmth :)
It's good to see you start posting content again. This is a very good topic. Everybody has something in their life that they need to let go and you just provided that opportunity to them. Thank you for that.
I’ve watched many of your videos, and I usually just watch what I love around YT and never comment or like. This might be my first comment on a video of someone I don’t know, yet I want to thank you for what you do and acknowledge how the world is benefiting from your inspiration to being awareness to the human condition. Your videos remind me that everyone is going through something, and you bring a normalcy to openness and vulnerability, as if it’s not just acceptable….it’s clearly beautiful. May you be blessed with all of the things you secretly dream of experiencing or letting go. Wouldn’t it be cool to find a way to pay it forward somehow that took hold and really upgraded peioels’ lives in a tangible way? I don’t know what the idea could be, yet would be fun to come up with a bunch of ways to bring strangers together to give a little, and have that little helps someone in a huge way. Then just try them out…and share the good vibes about how a little can go a long way when we show up and work together. I’d love to do that and focus on children who are disadvantaged. Big huge thank you for being you.
