I Didn't Think It Would Be THIS Controversial - Why I Still Don't Date 

I've been single my whole life. 😂 I just turned 35. I've been on some dates, of course, but they were more traumatizing than anything. I have no desire to date, and that's okay.

I decided not to pursue relationships at 31 years old after another traumatic breakup. I'm 59 now. Worked out fine for me. I'm a quiet introvert too. I've never been lonely either. I have a good life and peace.

I don't date either- over two years and I don't think I truly feel the need to, and that's okay.

I’ve never seen someone so similar to me. I also don’t want to be in a relationship and I don’t want kids. All my life I thought I was a alien or something, but it is good to see someone that thinks similar to me ❤

I was married once, I've had several relationships although each one was at least 5 years apart, and they didn't last forever. Basically I've been single a huge majority of my adult life. Yes I have three children who are all adults and one grandchild. My boyfriend / significant other actually lives several states away and we get along just fine. Neither one of us dates other people, we just keep each other company by phone and that's good enough for us. We're able to share our day, our adventures, all kinds of things without obligations. And we don't get upset if we don't hear from the other one for a few days.

Please do not argue with people - you really don't owe them that, it is non of anyones business

I will be honest, you are smart and attractive. This could be why some men get mad at this. It is like loosing a really good athlete from your team roster. I hate that comparison but it is the best one I can think of at the moment.

Bumped into this video, thought of staying 'till the end. The biggest bump here is the push, to date, one gets. a) To love others requires you to love yourself first. b) You will not experience 'love' towards others who you are attracted to physically exclusively. Finding yourself in someone else is so much more to be cherished and so-so much more intimate. Being single and by yourself =/= being left alone for who you are. I had to grow up, took a good 8 years or so after a quite bumpy breakup. Now, I have a job, a car, a flat - and I fare pretty good at keeping all these things together. I became lucky to know someone who has a lot in common with me, we try sacrificing our time in favor of the other one. It is hard, but also is mighty rewarding. For me, it was time to either sink or swim; see if I was worthy of companionship or not. Of course, it is daunting. It takes energy, planning, sacrifices. But nobody is really holding a gun to anyone's head. You either take on a relationship, or you do not.

Yup I stopped dating in my 30s and I’m 45 now. My life is more peaceful and problem free this way. ❤ I also don’t get lonely.

I’m incapable of dating, my personality is too avoidant. I’m not happy about it but I’ve made peace with it.

For the first time in my life (I am 33) I have found a woman like myself 😂 Relate to everything you are saying

My last relationship ended in 2019 . I have zero interest in getting into another one . I am lucky that people in my life aren't pushy about it

The reason not dating is such a foreign concept to me is because I enjoy it. I want to start dating again badly. The reason I don’t date is due to money. That is it. Once I get my job situation in order, I can’t wait to jump back into that ring. I guess it never really dawned on me that some people just don’t like it.

Friends last longer than lovers ...

Here is a thought for you. Have you ever tried just dating. No relationships, just dating. This way you don’t have to call them up and tell them what you are doing. This way, people are not really a burden on your life. You call them up and say, “want to go out tonight”? If they are busy, oh well, just call the next one. Be like Charlie Scheen in Two And A Half Men, just without all the sex. lol. I’m not trying to tell you what to do, this is more where my head is at with dating. I do hear you about other people becoming exhausting.

It is OK not to date its a matter of choice its not compulsory leave people make their own choices they have a right to say no if they aren't interested. Screw the controversy its pointless.

My mum understands this quite well. She thinks some people aren't a fit for marriage or long term relationships and thats ok. Her reasons are grounded in religiosity, but she's actually super empathetic in this respect and I've come to appreciate it. Henry Rollins doesn't date. He's quite happy

Nothing wrong with being alone, its alot less stress.

I'm honestly kind of the same.. I had maybe one interest in a boy once in school but soon lost it and to this day I still have no desire to find someone I may or may not stay single.. I'm still only 24.

Same girl. Been single for most of my life. It hasn't even occurred to me and always seemed like something “other people” do, and I haven't felt lonely at all. I thought I'd get interested in dating by this point, but not at all. I don't care how attractive somebody is, if they disturb my peace, or I have to compromise in a way that I didn't have to before I met them, I'm automatically not interested!

Congrats and good on you to be happy as a single person. 👍 I wish more people would be this outspoken about being single. I am almost 50 and have never been in a relationship with a significant other. Ik have had 'dates' in the past but it takes a lot to maintain a relationship and I am not into that. I am happy to be single and go around when I want to. I don't have to consider the feelings/doings of a partner. You can be alone even when you are in a relationship with a partner. Being alone is not about the status wether you are in a relationship or not but about feelings. I am from the Netherlands and I noticed that a lot of North Americans are obsessed to get married and marry their first love after highschool and when that relationship strands they are on the need to find someone else. I ask myself WHY. Why can't you be happy alone and do you really need someone to be happy?

I was sent my own way

i have never dated anyone ever and no one really bats an eye xD

There are certain spots in this where she starts talking so fast that I cannot understand what she's saying.

👍

You have to consider someone else when making food? You might have had a puppy not a relationship.

Can’t relate as a hopeless romantic 😂

You're interesting

Are you on the spectrum?

similar situation here! now at 40 and single since about 5 years. not interested into dating, not even interested in women neither lol. too much energy and time...better off when life is just simple and no hassles