I Don't Want To Leave Money To My Husband's Family (I Need Fatherly Advice)

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I Don't Want To Leave Money To My Husband's Family (I Need Fatherly Advice)
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@AnnMitt 2 года назад

Frustrating call. Give 50% to who wife wants and 50% to who husband wants.

@RonniewbNC 4 месяца назад

Exactly. That what we did in our will.

@cheeseburger5555 2 года назад

I’m confused - why is her sister in law a participant in their Will conversation at all?

@catlady2795 2 года назад

Why don't they just leave it to a charitable organization and say forget their family.

@katiejon17 2 года назад

Clearly the caller is from a different culture - and I’m guessing it’s the culture where the adult children are expected to fully financially support the parents and any siblings that are losers. But she’s not going to be blunt here and admit that. Also, the caller’s sister-in-law is pretty bold herself to even think she has a place interjecting herself into the discussion regarding their will. This caller needs to lay down boundaries with her sist-in-law, it she also needs to lay them down with her family. No doubt - her culture is the driving force behind wanting to give the money to her family. No doubt.

@chamomiletea9562 2 года назад

So true about how money magnifies the true personality of a person. I've seen it and it is uncanny.

@DiaJasin 2 года назад

I was just considering drinking you but too tired to walk to the kitchen

@juicysmith38235 2 года назад

@@DiaJasin 🤣🤣

@TheEtherealgrl 2 года назад

Love how Dave stepped in and nipped judgement right in the bud and led with humility.

@ChinaConsultingTravelBlog 2 года назад

I'd rather have my cash bagged up and buried with me over giving it to relatives who are jerks etc.

@canicksmith6629 2 года назад

Lol

@privateprivate4384 2 года назад

Why not just leave your money to a food bank or a homeless shelter.

@marshall2.015 2 года назад

I think she just needed someone to vent to about people she doesn't like, so she called Dave.

@radolfkalis4041 2 года назад

She can leave her half of the money to whomever she wants. He can do the same. I would never give to those who disrespect me.

@gotemfishing2190 2 года назад

Amen to that. Nobody who disrespects me gets anything from me.

@dan24bids 2 года назад

The thing is that, in accordance with the belief system in question, it is not "her half of the money". She is married and therefore it is their money (the money of the caller and her husband). Implementing a system of "my money/your money" in a marriage is only going to cause more problems, and that is especially the case in the instance of this situation. She called to get advice on avoiding problems from this issue

@charlesg7926 2 года назад

@@dan24bids and yes it’s their money. But she doesn’t get to decide that “their money “only conveniently goes to her family. That’s BS. If you don’t realize that, you’re either a fool, a pushover, or you always side with the woman no matter what

@dan24bids 2 года назад

@@charlesg7926 it seems as if we’re talking about different aspects of the conversation. If you read my comment again maybe you will see that I explained the philosophy. No need to get spun up there Charlie

@anthonya459 2 года назад

Theres no yours and theirs when you are married, its OURS.

@codegeek-il5fm 2 года назад

This lady is unnecessarily complicating it. If you both are dead and you have no kids, who cares. Just agree to a 50:50 split and go to heaven with peace. lol some people want to create issues even after they are dead.

@xman666soad 2 года назад

Yes in general they’re called women. Because bored women love drama.

@veeno3983 2 года назад

Dave was VERY patient with this caller who wouldn’t get to the point or articulate the issue.

@nezra3514 2 года назад

its called language barrier. Pipe down.

@huddlechannel2932 2 года назад

I have a very hard time listening when a caller goes off on a rabbit trail, ignores/can't reply coherently to a question

@swiggyhunter4682 2 года назад

I get the feeling that her family is poor, his is at least middle-class and she thinks her family "deserves" it because they "need the help."

@charlesg7926 2 года назад

And I don’t mean to say “women” in a negative way towards ALL women. I’m married, I love my wife, thankfully my wife is a great person and would never do that to me. Plus we have kids. With that said, this wife is one of those “bad women“, just like there are bad men

@anyagee9467 2 года назад

She also said that they were the ones that actually helped them when they needed it. Listen again. You are picking and choosing what you want to hear.

@swiggyhunter4682 2 года назад

@@anyagee9467 There is more to this story. You can hear it in how she speaks about her husband's family.

@pattyajones 2 года назад

Good for you, judgement always does good.

@simplyme922 2 года назад

I have a similar friend. Her family left her out of every shareable asset from familial deaths. And they're not very nice to her. She makes alot of money and doesn't want them to profit from her death.

@Carl-iw9sy 2 года назад

Even though I am not a religious individual I consider myself a good person overall and agree with 95% of Dave's opinions but hearing from my father that I would not get a penny from him for not being religious would be too extreme IMO. It would probably set a mentality on the kids of 'fake it till you make it' to eventually cash in if they thought differently.

@jasontrautsch2373 2 года назад

Each spouse should leave their half of the wealth to any organization or individuals they wish.

@slowridefpv9668 2 года назад

100% agree. My wife and I have had separate accounts and beneficiaries since our marriage. We agreed on this before the marriage. Leaving the only debate the house and personal property.

@bettysmith4527 2 года назад

Simple solution.... Give it to a charity, such as an animal shelter, or whatever charity you BOTH believe in!

@robr268 2 года назад

Regardless of my feelings towards My spouses parents, grandparents or siblings....I would include them if that's an option. It maybe not much but it's something. She has to much resentment in her heart!

@charlesg7926 2 года назад

Agreed! I hate to use such a cliche, but really, she’s “chosen hate”. She could do a good thing that will be FAIR and also make her husband happy… but she wants to cause problems bcuz she’s insisting on being resentful! A big shame. If I was husband I’d tell her NO.

@mrs.carter4775 2 года назад

Kind of in the same boat as this caller but we are leaving everything to our niece and nephew and dog shelters/dog rescues as this is a special cause for us. No one is entitled to anything we give.

@cesaravegah3787 2 года назад

Make sure to leave a dollar to anyone who can contest the wiill and pay not for an attorney but for a good law buffet, make sure that everything is as tight as possible, just saying.

@xmang8769 2 года назад

It Creates a Lot of Confusion and Dysfunctional Issues , Do what you Want and Stand on your Principles

@ghjong001 2 года назад

Normally, when we only hear one side of the story from callers, I wonder how the other side would describe the issue. Just listening to this caller immediately makes me sympathetic to the in-laws.

@J0hnny0 2 года назад

Look! Just leave me the money. I'll put it to good use

@ana10g 2 года назад

i'm hanging up. bye.

@FR-tb7xh 2 года назад

Disagree with Dave on this one. Regardless of how good a law or in-law family member is with money, if they repeatedly treated me disrespectfully or badly, no way would I bequeath to them anything of value. If they knew about my losing a beloved parent and never expressed condolences despite multiple opportunities, I’d consider it deliberate act of omission meant to invalidate my family or me. There is and should be more to our value systems than simple belief in God and going to church. How we treat each other on earth before we go is more important than money.

@sarahwaters8262 2 года назад

I understand your feelings, but forgiveness is important. Take the high road.

@FR-tb7xh 2 года назад

@@sarahwaters8262 I’d have no problem forgiving if they showed any signs of authentic contrition or remorse. But only a fool would forget. Just because I might forgive doesn’t mean I’d throw money or anything of value their way. THAT is the high road.

@Ryan_DeWitt 2 года назад

In other words, she just hates their guts due to various reasons likely something fairly petty and she doesn't want to give them a cent purely for her personal resentment.

@arga400 2 года назад

Which is a reasonable thing to do since nobody is entitled to your inheritance

@vjs4539 2 года назад

@@arga400 except she has a husband who doesn't hate his sister, and half the assets/money is his.

@TheNotSoFakeNews 2 года назад

@@arga400 yeah, she's acting inconsiderately to her husband's wishes.

@simplyme922 2 года назад

Which is her absolute right.

@TheNotSoFakeNews 2 года назад

@@simplyme922 her right to deny her husband's family his inheritance?

@robr268 2 года назад

She just doesn't like them! And they probably don't like her 😆

@ember13dp 2 года назад

Yea, but I wouldn’t want to make papers saying all my money goes to someone who I know doesn’t like me, and I don’t like them.

@grayandgray 2 года назад

It could be the husband has a fine relationship with his family and is acting on that as well. They need to divide up the estate and let her make some decisions with her share. ALSO, this couple is focusing on what would happen if they die together. Not too likely. The real fight will come if the husband wants to carve a share out for others in HIS will and she's still alive...

@tucoramirez9729 2 года назад

Give it to a worthwhile charity organization,,I'd leave them nothing!

@mohitnikumbh593 2 года назад

The one who dies first, losses the argument. Simple. If both die together, both are dead, why to care about money then!.

@theimperfectscrapper5313 2 года назад

Why does she think they care about the legacy money? Too many people thinking what they have and own is coveted by other people.

@Sheryl777 2 года назад

And sadly many times it is coveted by others.

@LaMaiStyle 2 года назад

She sounds like a foreigner and English is her second language. She is correct the niece should of texted her first. The aunt sent out birthday gifts and didn’t get a text thank you. It’s unbelievable how many people don’t say thank you for anything. A lot of kids don’t even say thank you trick o treating. I gave a generous wedding gift to my bff’s teen daughter’s wedding (Mormons). No thank you card! Nobody on my American side says thank you. Guess what? I became less generous. The Thai side of the family does say thank you 🙏 with the wai and a bow. I plan on spending all my money before I die. But if I don’t I would like to leave it to my niece and nephew.

@alexlewis8143 2 года назад

She's mad that the sister-in-law expects her to text her niece on birthday and she thinks the niece should text her on her birthday. And the fact she calls the niece her sister in law's daughter speaks that she doesn't like niece. I'm glad my childless aunt uncle treated us equally.

@gardenofe12 2 года назад

It sounds like she doesn’t want to give their hard earned money to “his side of the family” period. I’m not sure if “her side” is any more deserving or discipline of getting it either. I suggest they give maybe 10-20% to each side if “both sides” are disciplined or deserve it and revisit it every 2-3 years and donate the rest to your favourite charity if you can’t spend it all. This is a very hard question to answer no matter what.

@HangNguyen-ih8rf 2 года назад

I love that “money magnify who you are.” 10000% true

@annstillwell730 2 года назад

Leave to a charity or some cause you belive in.

@patrickchilds5486 2 года назад

Wow she drove me nuts..

@Hk-qg8bv 2 года назад

I’ve worked in banking im setting up a trust but my family literally comes from nothing so leaving nothing isn’t an option…I’ll make sure it’s managed properly

@kamoroso94 2 года назад

That's a really interesting idea that money just magnifies your personality traits.

@leonie3317 2 года назад

If the husband didn’t want to leave money to her family. Would she still follow this philosophy?

@djpuplex 2 года назад

Nope.

@Sheryl777 2 года назад

It would probably depend on what reason he had. If he had a good reason then maybe.

@liberator9248 2 года назад

Don’t give your money to family who doesn’t deserve it.

@VotePaineJefferson 2 года назад

Families aren't entitled to your money. End of discussion, period.

@charlesg7926 2 года назад

@@VotePaineJefferson You’re right! And HER family isn’t entitled to their money either :)

@mariad4183 Месяц назад

I agree with the nit picky stuff BUT they better afford me at least the same courtesy they would to a coworker

@roolyfe 2 года назад

Give it to charity! Just don’t create more spoiled brats! I hate rich 🤑 kids!

@liberalmadness7248 2 года назад

This was confusing. Did she really answer any question?

@rodneyevans8362 2 года назад

Drop this caller, please!

@9liveslisa 2 года назад

Leave your money to who you want to. I'm leaving all my money to a charity. I won't let family members dictate who I leave money to. It's none of their business.

@TheNotSoFakeNews 2 года назад

The point is, if the husband wants to leave it to someone else. So obviously theres a conflict of interest.

@charlesg7926 2 года назад

Ew lol. Give it to your family, don’t just give it to strangers. Have some family loyalty

@thetruth5635 2 года назад

She just doesn’t like those people

@ThePeterDislikeShow 2 года назад

My will is to try really hard to not die.

@andreamichelle1 2 года назад

It was like pulling teeth getting her to explain why she doesn't want to leave money to her SIL. Them not getting along isn't a good reason. She's selected who would receive a portion for her family and her husband has a right to choose as well.

@katiejon17 2 года назад

Actually it is a good reason. However, she doesn’t have the right to override her husband on the matter. They need to divide it and each decides who gets their ‘half’. I’d never leave an inheritance to anyone who caused problems in my life - like my brother-in-law... but my husband looks past his issues, therefor he has the right to leave his brother half of our assets.

@charlesg7926 2 года назад

@@katiejon17 that’s fine. She doesn’t have to like them. Who actually looooves their in laws lol? SHE can leave 50% of money to HER family. And HE can leave 50% of money to HIS family. That’s how it always is supposed to work, anyway. Duh…

@katiejon17 2 года назад

@@charlesg7926 I agree - it’s literally exactly what I said.

@tnotc 2 года назад

It's only money. What good is it to you when you're dead? If you can't agree or can't separate out the money, just give it to someone you both think "deserve" it.

@tmusa2002 2 года назад

Too boring. Had to stop listening early!

@the_real_estate_investor_1430 2 года назад

Hey Dave!!

@Zatoichinisanyon 2 года назад

What happens when one spouse dies before the other? Could one side be completely left out?

@donnafontaine2799 2 года назад

Wondering that myself?

@koopapro 2 года назад

That boi Ramsey too wise 💯

@TheFlyingZulu 2 года назад

She needs to use some of that money to buy a better phone or cell service provider...

@Kyle-xt8ip 2 года назад

Sounds a little petty to me.

@christophercarrigg3775 2 года назад

Talk about spiteful

@christophercarrigg3775 2 года назад

@@wordsalad01 to be spiteful to your family after your gone is the lowest of the low and it makes me wonder if maybe these "disrespectful" family members might have been on to something

@nyajuokskitchen9683 2 года назад

Her sister in-law have the same personality is my sister in-law and I'm not giving anything to her at all, I would rather gift the money to widows and orphans!!!

@mrsmith1339 2 года назад

We have no children. I dislike my Wife's family. If she dies first, they will get nothing. If I die first, I won't care.

@bluerosa1550 2 года назад

Love your answer.

@David-wo9un 2 года назад

Love the “hypothetical” of going through FPU.😂😂😂

@debpratt52 2 года назад

Why would her sister say their money should go to her kid? Why the heck are you talking money with other than your husband?

@COINsimp2024 2 года назад

She wants to be petty from the grave. 😂

@charlesg7926 2 года назад

The sad thing is she’s so miserable, she’s making a will at 40 or so years old, to make herself feel better about keeping money she’s been hoarding away from her husbands family. That’s pretty sad. She needs friends, needs God, and needs to realize money isn’t everything

@Smallvillefreak 2 года назад

I don’t know the entirety of this situation, but it just doesn’t sit right with me when she continues to refer to her niece as “his sister’s kid”. She admitted in this call that the daughter is innocent. You don’t have a legal obligation to her, but she’s your niece and she’s gonna realize that you don’t view her as family. That her aunt doesn’t love her as a niece and only sees her as the sister in law’s kid.

@charlesg7926 2 года назад

Yeah this woman sounds cold and gross and evil. She only wants HER family to have money. The fact she’s wanting to harm/deprive an innocent child shows she puts “blood” over everything. If I was husband I’d leave my family my half (50%) and tell her to shove it

@aplanefliesabove 2 года назад

It sounds like she doesn't like the sister, and she wants to vent about emotional BS! I would have no problem leaving 'some' of the money to the sister's niece. And spilt the rest up among other family and/or organizations. You can not spend money when you are dead! So, knock it off, lady.....

@lkj0822g 2 года назад

Note to self: this is why I am not a counselor....

@MegaEing 2 года назад

so, her side of the family gets cash but his side of the family gets nothing. Seems about right. He wants to give it to his niece - a child! Wife is manipulative and evil.

@edhcb9359 2 года назад

The husband’s family is not irresponsible with money. They just don’t kiss her behind and her side of the family does. 😘

@gardenofe12 2 года назад

That’s a good way of pointing it.

@harknowhere 2 года назад

She sounds like this polish girl I used to talk to

@minervagalvez4748 2 года назад

OMG!!! JUST GET BURIED WITH THE DANG MONEY, TAKE IT TO THE GRAVE ⚰🪦⚰🪦⚰!!! 🙄🙄🙄!!!

@anaa03899 2 года назад

You killed it 🤣🤣

@justwondering1967 2 года назад

You’d get more visitors to your gravesite. 😉

@minervagalvez4748 2 года назад

@@anaa03899 I am laughing with you too 🤣🤣🤣!!!

@minervagalvez4748 2 года назад

@@justwondering1967 HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHA!!! Agreed!!! Too funny🤣🤣🤣!!!

@georgekitchen7945 2 года назад

You can put me on your will. Because am really in need.

@brendondowdy5651 2 года назад

This lady is crazy. Could be cultural difference

@rickm6076 2 года назад

Your next of kin, including through marriage, will inherit your stuff minus your debts IF you don’t expressly will otherwise. Remember that. You can’t just leave them out. You have to expressly and correctly disinherit your next of kin. Simply leaving what the state views as next of kin will be viewed as an oversight on your party and nothing more and their rights are intact.

@evalina98000 2 года назад

👍🏽From Mr. Smith's comment. If her husband dies 1st, his family won't get anything. If she dies 1st, she won't care 😜

@JahAmericanNY 2 года назад

At this point just leave it to the cat or dog.

@donnafontaine2799 2 года назад

Lol😀

@sucessology7570 2 года назад

🙏🙏

@johndone8045 2 года назад

God doesnt own money, human do God doesnt create money, human do

@jzplayinggame 2 года назад

This woman sounds like she has family drama and wants a financial guru to resolve this and is fronting with this inheritance nonsense. Lady get a therapist don’t air your grievances here

@anthonya2349 2 года назад

This lady has no problem, evil people live forever and she's evil.

@ceciliapreziose3783 2 года назад

she desn't like them, what about her family

@paulezay3599 2 года назад

👌

@FlyNizz 2 года назад

She got issue with his family Not that they would misbehave with money Saying they weren’t giving and save their own & dislikes his mother, etc… Sad how ppl marry and their family is unable to just be respectful/ civil

@stevenporter863 2 года назад

50% to his family and 50% to charity (since no kids).

@steveo601 2 года назад

I’ll take 40k to pay back my recent portfolio losses!😆😆😆😆.

@AQArchMageA4S 2 года назад

Just don’t do a will. No sense having a money argument unnecessarily.

@jrwntctv8091 2 года назад

Do a will. Best to get the inevitable argument over and done with.

@sabrinaliu66 2 года назад

This woman is weird I don’t think she is telling the whole truth

@LetsDoItOldSchool 2 года назад

Am I the only one who knows exactly what G.R. is thinking and can‘t say?

@Thundersnowy 2 года назад

Nope Dave. It's the same word. You're choosing who deserves it when you decide someone doesn't deserve it based upon their 'misbehavior.' The generous give without condition. Hence her word 'the innocent.' That kid might waste every penny. Lol. Word tricks.

@Sheryl777 2 года назад

I don't believe that the "generous give without condition" necessarily.

@et5895 2 года назад

The generous give drugs to addicts? If the generous gave without conditions, nobody would have to apply for scholarships or jobs. The word "free" would be everywhere if that were true. Being generous doesn't also mean being a pushover.

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@noopz8035 2 года назад

She can barely form a sentence lol

@camronmurphy9022 2 года назад

She can barely speak English lol

@nezra3514 2 года назад

Racists. Try speaking foreign language and call on a radio show with a complex issues as what she is dealing with.

@Guesswhoswatching2 2 года назад

A lot of talking with no solutions

@GolfDuff 2 года назад

She doesn't want to give money to anybody 😀

@eckankar7756 2 года назад

What a silly woman, she just wants to complain about how she's been treated. What a victim, she's using her will and money to punish family.

@elvisk6352 2 года назад

😍😍😍😍😍😍😍

@rachelharrison7961 2 года назад

A husband and wife don’t have to have identical wills. The husband can leave his money to the wife and his relatives. The wife can leave her money to the husband and whoever she wishes.

@TheDjcarter1966 2 года назад

No if they are joint assets which it sounds like they are they can't unless they both agree.

@rachelharrison7961 2 года назад

@@TheDjcarter1966 Joint assets with the right of survivorship automatically go to the living owner at the death of the other. They are not passed by the will.

@michaelwoods4495 2 года назад

This recalled to mind--eldest grandson said, "Granddaddy, you have a million dollars!" Well, yes, I do, but I had to reply, "I gotta tell ya kid, a million dollars isn't all that much money." Now to the present case--it sounds like she's just in favor of her own relatives and wants to leave his out. She's a stinker. Me, me, me! My Mom! It's a typical female attitude. And now they're married and he's stuck but I might not do it if I knew that going in.

@triple_gem_shining 2 года назад

🤔🤣

@HOLDXSTEEL 2 года назад

Who cares? Y’all be dead

@johnmirbach2338 2 года назад

😁🖖✌👌👍😎

@christophertabako802 2 года назад

I love the part where he tried to work himself into her will lol...... "You could say you don't get the money until you go to financial peace university" My god that was pathetic.........

@janelleg597 2 года назад

It was one example of a stipulation. Calm down

@Buggu3 2 года назад

This is why u shud have children!!!! Ur not going to live 4ever!!! Dear selfish ppl in the world

@jaebeablessings1005 2 года назад

So not a good reason not to have children.

@Buggu3 2 года назад

@@jaebeablessings1005 yes it is…. Life does begin with u… and it sure shudnt have to end with u… period!

@donnafontaine2799 2 года назад

This lady can't even get her point across to Dave good news she didn't have any kids

@djpuplex 2 года назад

Typical woman. It's in there nature, get all the resources and share non. Briffault Law her family must not if done anything thing for her. Drama, drama always. Wonder what he thinks it half his in principal anyways. Stay single, avoid deceitful shady women.