"I Gained Weight to Protect Myself" Is BS | Weight Loss Doctor Explains Why--The ARMOUR Excuse 

Ok, I wish I could agree… I really really do… but my body developed early & I had large breasts when I was 13…. An older guy approached me & asked how old I was, I said 13, and he said you don’t look 13…. And then began a very wrong manipulation leading to multiple rapes…. He didn’t see me as a 13 year old GIRL but as as a sexy looking shape…. I didn’t have the boundary skills to get away & my parents got tricked (or in my secret heart I don’t think they wanted to believe this kind of thing really happened in their neighborhood so they never taught me anything about getting away from a sexual predator…) Anyway once that was over, my only thought was I don’t want to look “sexy” - I was TOO YOUNG & guys didn’t seem to care about age, only shape… so gaining weight DID appear to attract less “sexual/lust” attention. It’s all I could think of to do…. And even if somehow it didn’t work, like you say it’s “BS”, I felt it was a bit of armor, and I desperately needed protection, boundaries, protective functional parental figures. 🌟🌟🌟 So when you say it’s “BS”, please please don’t forget unprotected kids….. “VULNERABILITY ISN’T FREEDOM” to a kid being targeted for abuse. Vulnerability with STRONG boundaries can be freedom. To make such a black & white statement is sad to me because it doesn’t include my childhood experience or challenges some of today’s kids experience. Please at least mention us. If it’s BS, then at least the illusion of armor by gaining weight to not attract ALL the predators gave me that small feeling of control over my life (even if you want to prove to me in this video that was BS)… it helped me not consider suicide as a young girl targeted by older, clever-er abusers “I know better, I do better.” Yes, but not if you’re an innocent kid who, due to life circumstances, COULD’T have known better. Please try thinking of your “argument” from the perspective of a young girl. I know you’re kind and want the best for everyone. Please don’t forget me or people like me.

A buddhist monk said that there is no wrong choice in life. You just need to be ready to live with the consequences of your decisions.

I put on so much weight after age 40. Life just happened and I no longer allow them to be excuses. 2/20/21 I was disgusted with myself to be morbidly obese. So that day I started therapeutic low carb lifestyle. Since that time I’ve shed 100#. I have 12# to shed to have normal BMI. What I did was stop the excuses and gave up the carbs. I didn’t want gastric surgery since so many people I know that have done so have regained majority of what they had lost. There have been less than 5 days in 14.5 months that I ate over 20 TOTAL not net carbs in a day. I love how I have my life back at 69 yrs old. I live not having all my joints ache. Losing majority of my body’s pain is the best incentive to keep on my journey. So guys, give up the excuses. Life will continue to go on until u die. Remember whatever it is you”can’t give up”, you can’t until you do. Take care of yourself for you and they off the excuses!!

Dr. V., obesity makes me invisible. The invisibility helps me with my day to day. No cat calls, men not making remarks under their breath, no creepy looks. I don’t need that crap or deserve it. But you’re right, lovingly, we need to get to a healthy weight. 😘

I love Dr. V. He's so brazenly honest... If I could do my life over. I would do it better. ❤️

I appreciate your bluntness with humor while still having understanding for people where they are but also not allowing people to sit in their excuses.

Doc. I’ve said it now that I’m overweight I feel more secure and I know nobody’s gonna pay attention to me. Yes 👍.

It is possible that obese people can be and have been sexually assaulted but the chances of thin or “more attractive” people are more susceptible to getting sexually assaulted. That is what Brown was talking about and why we hold onto fat as “ protective armor”.

I was malnourished and a walking skeleton as a kid, at the same time being raped for years by my pedophile stepdad. And yes, I enjoy being large to discourage being picked on by people.

There is a line in a Tom Petty song called Circus, which says, " All around your island, there's a barricade. Keeps out the danger, holds in the pain'. What you said reminded me of that.

What about adverse childhood experiences (ACEs)? What about the impact of trauma on the body and mind? My problem with your discussion is the application of logic to justify obesity as it relates to the human mind and body. According to your argument, no one would suffer from post traumatic stress disorder and people with high adverse childhood experience scores would not have higher incidences of substance abuse, autoimmune disorders, heart disease etc. Trauma is real and its impact on the human mind and body is real. More and more doctors are starting to acknowledge the role that trauma plays in poor health outcomes. Trauma is truly the gateway drug to adverse health outcomes.

So glad to see you return to weight loss vids. They were a big reason I felt comfortable undergoing surgery. This one really made me self-reflect. I didn't gain weight because of anybody or anything but me. I just enjoyed eating. Period. I was thin as a teen but I could eat and eat and still be thin. Then in a year or two that changed, but my habits didn't. No excuses. It's great that after less than a year following my R-N-Y bypass I have reached my ideal weight again, but I still have to work on changing bad habits. My life is on me now and I had better change the rest or I might as well have kept all that weight on.

Dr. Vuong I hope your reached some people with the information you have provided and if they truly listen and are honest with themselves and began to make some changes for improving themselves the results could be amazing mentally and physically and can lead to a fuller and happier life! Great information and it's free!

For YEARS I battle food addiction and still I hear myself make excuses. Now I’m 45 and I’m so tired of yesterday’s problems with food. September 9 2024 is my gastric sleeve surgery and I am so curious of how I can overcome this addiction. Counseling has helped get this change rolling. I know this is the right direction and the right path to my new normal. 🙏

Dr V spitting FACTS!

Thanks Dr. V for your honesty. I gained because I became extremely depressed & anxious & just stopped caring about myself & my life. I feel terrible because of it & constantly beat myself up for it. I need to snap out of it & start eating better. Thanks, Dr. V. My joints hurt so bad , especially my back. I’m heavier than I’ve ever been. I needed to hear this! Thank you , Dr. V!!

Dr V you are hilarious! Lol The truth never hurt anyone. I love this. Thk you. Decided to revisit my old bad friend Doritos and it turned out horrible. I just said this earlier on my weigh in 10 pound gain in 1 week , 10 bags of Doritos later. Sheesh. No! The buck stops here. You’re right on time Dr V. Keep preaching.

Has anyone ever had this happen. Everyone is nice to me when I am thinner. When I am heavier they treat me like I Don't exist, they don't see me people act like.

Still got unconditional love for you today Dr. Vuong!!! I would like to be bitter and better in my eternal life!!!!! Have a great one!

Dr V I thought I was about to cancel you when I read the title of this video. Damn, but you brought the TRUTH.! You’re so right, if I could do my life over I definitely would/could do it better. Peace and blessings to you, Sir!

i went from age 20---110 lbs at my wedding to age 35--189 lbs I was miserable being married and being a housewife and mother and i hated my living situation so i just gave up and ate a lot. Disappointment, overwork, poor relationships and not paying attention to my own needs all became my reality.

I HEAR YOU AND YOU ARE RIGHT ON TARGET AS USUAL!! Thank you so much!!!!!!!!!!!

Agism too. I dont have people to be my accountability tribe. I have always been curious though. If I had my life over again I would obviously do it the same. I would have to be a different I. I did the best I could at each moment. Truth. I can imagine I can do it better now.

I've had insomnia practically my entire life. My mom said that I struggled to go to sleep even as a baby. Further, I remember having severe depressive symptoms starting as young as 9. I also developed social anxiety during puberty and generalized anxiety soon after. While I do believe I developed obesity partly due to these issues (ie food gave me a high and helped alleviate my depressive symptoms, making me feel happy), I'm not afraid to admit that I just fucking love food more than the average person. I've always been driven to eat food because it just tastes so delicious that I want all of it to myself. People need to admit this more. We're fat because we enjoy food more than the average person, and we choose to eat fattening foods because they taste better than healthier food-period.

I gained quite a bit of weight back in the day because I was really hot and had men picking up on me all the time. I was a single mom and sick of putting up with it. It worked.

Hanging. Interesting take and a realistic take, I will say there is a layered psychological subconscious to weight gain. It is an addiction. But if you want change you need to be willing to be give up what made you sick. Hard truths, but thank you for the video.

Always willing to hang with the doc

Thank you Doctor V. I know better I do better!! 💙

Dr. V I love your videos but have you ever had a weight problem or been obease your point of view seems to come from teaching & science not from your own experiences unless you been there its truly hard to speak to it from an absolute or this is true place ,its a place of using food to cope with shit in life

today is my birthday and it means so much that you posted this video today. you have helped me

This video was so helpful and I need to listen to it from time to time to remind myself of these things. Its so much about being honest with yourself.

Thanks for what you do #1. I HAVE NOT TO TELL YOU THE TRUTH I HAVE LOST BECAUSE I WANT TO BE HEALTHY AND I AM TRYING MY BEST FOR MY KIDS

I was molested by my dad. I def feel like my fat is my security blanket. I’m in the process of being approved to get surgery. I’m starting therapy soon so I can let go of this need to hide behind my weight .

That BS, I have never used that excuse about gaining weight to protect me. I gained weight because I was not doing what I needed to to keep it off and because I look at myself and figured I am ok until this knee pain and arthritis

Dr V have you ever heard about the ACE score which came about from inquiry over rhe correlation between obesity and past trauma. If not, you might want to. I think you might find it interesting.

Years ago I was going to the gym ro loose weight. After each workout I drank a gallon orange juice. After a month, I gained 10 pounds. Lol. I do lawn care now. Walk 5 miles a day still drink OJ. but my weight stays about even.

My uncle used to say, I was honest to a fault. I was 38 years old and I said how the hell does that happen? He said, I needed to change that and that was one strike against me. He was a damaged man and he did his very best to damage me. Honesty is my best policy and if you can't hold up to that, you can't have a relationship with me.👍 That ugliness set aside, everyone have a blessed Mother's Day! ❤🤗 Edit: oh I forgot to mention, I'm fat get over it DOC!

Dr. V, If I could do myself over again, I would be a successful Italian Restaurant owner just like my dad and his younger brother Uncle John, both of whom are now disceased.

My form of obesity is hypothalamic obesity, that which is why I eat too much. Luckily I have that under control, because of medication I am taking. Now. Have you heard of hypothalamic obesity? Now all you have to answer is, yes or no. Once again either that you have heard of hypothalamic obesity or that you haven’t. Once again. Yes, or no. This is caused by damage to the hypothalamus either because that there is a tumor present or that my hypothalamus is also fucked up because of damage to the hypothalamus because of the hypothalamus being in an abnormal position is the case with me.

congratulation dr. V "curiosity"

I did it by fasting.

After my first pregnancy and delivery, I told myself that if I didn't stop eating and lose the pregnancy weight, everyone would know that I was a flaming neurotic. That was my self talk and it worked. I went back to my "fighting weight ". I meant it in a semi humorous way, but the dark cosmic kind.

Greatngs doc...Gary Cumming in Toronto Canada

I like food , it's my friend. An intimate friend.

Yes. When I was hospitalized with Delta, I lost 33 lbs during a 3 week hsp stay.

interesting. In my circle it’s moreso , “I put on the pounds for survival. The skinnies are always the first to die in food shortages “

Don't notice me. Haha you're back to your funny self. 😄

I'm 6'8" in the morning. I've been denied jobs because of my height and also could not enlist because size 15 combat boots weren't available. I'm 6'7" when I go to bed.

hanging on doc.

Hi Dr. V! I love the video!!

I just met you (via RU-vid) and I’m IN LOVE with your personality! Dirty words jokes and all! ❤

Real talk!

My brother has same eyebrows as you. His wife has these issues you talking about and I can at test today it.

I know what you're talking about. I feel uncomfortable devulging how much I weigh, because while I'm offended, I don't want others to feel offended by how much I weigh. I have a form of obesity, called hypothalamic obesity, that which is caused by damage to my hypothalamus. While I don't have any hypothalamic tumors, my hypothalamus is ectopic, that which means it is in an abnormal position in the brain. And my pituitary gland is hypoplastic. Also, my infundibulum, that which is my pituitary stalk is abscent, which is why I have obesity. I have never eaten for emotional reasons like the patients you have treated. Have you ever treated patients with Hypothalamic Obesity? If you want to know how much I weigh, I weigh 392 LBS. My most highest weight, was 470LBS. That was 17 years ago. I was actually the opposite, which means, I have been abused for being obeese. I've been struggling with weight since 5 years old. and I was always active. what does that tell you?

It isn't protection but isolation.

Hangin' in there! 🤗

it happens very young, and many years is a lot of time to undo,

Thank you, for all of your good ideas! Gawd Almighty! I have a lot to live for! Thank you! I know it's out there now!

I’m willing to hang in there

You have motivated me!

I heard people say if you catch that ST you want have anything to work with.

Thx Doc

Never heard that or thought that

Duc Co Vid avoids reporting the terrible events caused by the J&J vaccine - didn't expect anything different~

I am approaching 400 pounds, I'm 385. Starting to think about doing WLS. I am a 44 year old 6'3" male. I dont have any diagnosed disease like hbp or diabetes etc. Could I still be considered for surgery without disease?

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He kills me lol!..but he is so right.

How true!

Do you have grade 8 education,try zinc citrate must not have neuropathy and enzymes related issues

Hanging!

I never see you talking about weight anymore why ❤

Hanging

Hanging with you🤣

What if you can’t justify it and you don’t know why you are 100 pounds overweight?

Is obesity an eating disorder?

Lol Yeah I heard that on Oprah years ago

Hi… what new information can you share with us about China’s Covid crisis? Is it almost here?

Why are you so concerned with debunking women’s “excuses”? Are you just looking for comments? Obviously you know nothing about this. Unsubscribed.

I know better. I do better.

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If overweight women don't want to be noticed, why do they wear the tightest pants?...honesty?

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Heeey, you're that Covid scammer doctor. What's up?

I definitely think people do that, especially young children if they are sexually abused. They start over eating to cope then realize they can gain weight and maybe the abuse will stop bcse he will no longer be attracted to me.

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