This is a lesson to us mothers to believe our children when they tell us about these things...Her mother failed her...Her mother should have been her pillar of strength...
This also just brings you back to the importance of our parents dealing with their own demons. This mother was clearly carrying traumas herself. What help can a person in this situation space offer a child. Could be she birthed her child under similar circumstances. Could be she lied about her baby daddy being dead cause he was her abuser . Trauma lives in cycles and when we neglect dealing with it such can easy continue 💔 this is me finding justification of this because we were blessed with mothers who would be in jail at this point if someone did this to us
Although very emotional. I am pleased to announce. On Tuesday the 5th July 2022 at 8:30am. I had the privilege of speaking with my son. He is well and living in a neighboring city. We met for the 1st time on Tuesday afternoon. On Saturday the 9th July 2022, i had the privilege of having my son visit me at home. He also met with his younger brother and sister and their families. Thank you to this program and others who all contributed to getting my story to reach the right ears.
I want to convey my appreciation to Relebogile for unpacked. Last night alone, I received a phone call from a family member of my Mom who confirmed that I had been lied to in many ways by my Mom. I will be meeting with her soon to take the discussion further. Thank you to all of you for your well wishes and encouragement. This is very appreciated.
I have an 8-year-old and am so paranoid, don't trust anyone around her. I always listen to her and make sure she is comfortable sharing everything with me. No sleepovers and playdates... we don't visit people and no visitors at our home- thanks to covid.
She lit up when she spoke about her husband and the corners of her smile turn up when she speaks of him. 💟 So overcoming, may she find her son, she deserves that.
Although very emotional. I am pleased to announce. On Tuesday the 5th July 2022 at 8:30am. I had the privilege of speaking with my son. He is well and living in a neighboring city. We met for the 1st time on Tuesday afternoon. On Saturday the 9th July 2022, i had the privilege of having my son visit me at home. He also met with his younger brother and sister and their families.
I only figured out this year that my forgetfulness stems form trying to block out traumatic experiences. What's worse is I forgot & continue to forget huge chunks of my life which are beautiful too until I see a pictures or someone reminds me. Don't get me started on how I used to forgot school work, people's faces, everything. It sucks but I'm making progress. Thanks to the lady for sharing her story. 🖤🐝
Since I watched this channel I have learned that we're all have a story to tell. We need to embrace our stories and be kind to one another because some gone through a lot. Thank you Rele for bringing this channel it gave us new perspective about life in general. We thank everyone who shared their stories with us.
A lot of you guys are complaining that she's mixing up dates (years) Guys this woman has been through alot. Her childhood was messed up and the people who were supposed to guide and protect her failed her so cut her some slack if she's not saying the exact thing. I mean 80% of you guys won't even remember what you ate last night. Only if you guys knew how ones childhood affects their whole life. I hope she heals 🙏 ❤
This is so sad. 💔 I'm not justifying toxic parenthood but I feel like our generation (millennial and Gen Z) expect so much from parents, not knowing that those people went through alot as well and never went to therapy. I don't think some of our parents knew any better. I hope we all strive to be better parents in order to break this curse.
I think sometimes where we see another side of pain that other person went through. It shouldn't take away from the pain the other person experienced. I'm a child who was extremely abused by my parents, I understand their pain too but if you going through pain it's doesn't mean inflict pain on others. I saw how abusive my father was to my mother and us but I work on it everyday to learn from other to make sure I treat people well, God hasn't blessed with children but I love children generally because I want to better. What I'm saying there is no justification for abuse I might choose to forgive them and do better to them than they treated me but there is still no justification.
@@sizakelediya4080 I'm so sorry to hear that 😭😭 I believe it's a result of uhealed trauma, remember the saying "hurt people hurt people". Either way, that was extremely wrong of them! We can't erase the past, let's own our experiences of coming from toxic homes and being raised by such parents. As a woke generation, I think we should forgive them and initiate conversations around these topics with our parents. It's never too late, if they don't listen, it's okay 🤷♀️we'll work on our healing and raise better children
@@ndeshyshilunga3545 It a long journey, I full forgiven my mother. I'm working on forgiving my father now, but I started talking about it last month because anyone who was talking about how loving their father was I get home and cry because mine what so cruel. My mother is separated from him but she is trying but living through abuse change so now she has become sensitive and paranoid. I decided to forgive her and let her be and take what she willing to give. Just accept her exactly the way she is but have boundaries because being around for too long is draining. My father he hasn't changed, he still the same the only difference he can't bit me now because I'm old so I decided to distance and love far. I love my parents with all my heart but I love myself more to know I need to surround myself with positive people and people who love me more. I hung on until 2020 for my last sibling to be finish high and go to tertiary. So life is full of choices my father I don't need him in my life.
@@sizakelediya4080if you have forgiven your mom, I suggest you include her on this healing journey, she could be your biggest source of closure. I wish you well, may you find courage in the fact that Christ loved you first. What you went through doesn't define you. There's a purpose attached to your name. You shall find healing 🙏
Imagine being a child and being let down over and over by the adults that were supposed to love you and vilified by the system that was supposed to protect and defend you 😭😭😭😭 Ai, this episode broke my heart.
Some of these comments are very disgusting. For some of you to pick apart her story and make it out like she is lying ….hmm you should feel ashamed of yourself. Our brains can easily forget details of large sections of our lives due to trauma. Pair that with the fact that she had negligent parents and was young, meaning her brain wasn’t even fully developed it makes sense for her to not fully have a concept of things. Sexual misconduct towards young and vulnerable people is all to common. It’s not your story to believe or pick apart. Lead with sympathy or shut up.
I could not agree with you more i find it so disturbing when people are just mean and want to pick up on small things instead of showing empathy ,people just dont know where to draw the line anymore its disgusting
Yoh mama, my heart aches for you and all the pain and abuse you went through. I cant even understand how you were able to talk about this without crying. I Hope you find your son one day. Youre a very strong woman.
What I like about this show is that it reminds me that I am human. It's ok to struggle, but soldier on,there are people who have it worse than me. I admire their bravery
I just wish we could do that thing they do on tiktok to help find a person....like blowing up the algorithm....so that maybe the video can reach her son
Reformatory school is "stout skool", that's the term I have heard my mom use, but it's basically like Juvy without a sentence. By virtue of the fact that she had children out of wedlock during the National Party ruled SA(Most of which were N. G Kerk members) it meant that she was rebellious. The maths is a bit off, maybe she meant 94 not 84,as to when her mom died. Either way, I believe her, abuse changes people and it makes sense that some things may be buried in her psyque.
I was able to locate a son & daughter for my ex boyfriend! I went thru Facebook...looked up possible names & with help from my ex..we were able to meet them both! Also my ex has 4 grandchildren! My Ex was so appreciative and unfortunately our relationship ended! But it gave me so much joy to find his adult children!
Omg she went trough a lot I wish parents can do better to protect their own kids she need warm hugs it takes the village to give her the support she needed sorry it happend to you may your kids stay protected & their own children's
I like how cc Rele says Wow when shocked instead of being judgemental. This was really hurting 😢💔 it's really a hard nd harsh world # beware of the so-called family friends.
I was 14, I also remember thinking and asking God how, blocked out the trauma of actually being raped. The adults did not bother to ask questions It was like it was better to pretend like nothing is happening. It's amazing how your story could be similar to someone else's
Salome is such a gentle but strong spirit, she has had to forgive and make peace with so much! You can tell though that her life was very traumatic, her brain seems to have blocked a lot of her early life.
I love these conversations. This lady is so strong. I pray she reunites her son. I pray for healing and what she cannot get answers for, God heals her.
Although very emotional. I am pleased to announce. On Tuesday the 5th July 2022 at 8:30am. I had the privilege of speaking with my son. He is well and living in a neighboring city. We met for the 1st time on Tuesday afternoon. On Saturday the 9th July 2022, i had the privilege of having my son visit me at home. He also met with his younger brother and sister and their families.
Beautiful strong woman I mean drop dead gorgeous but most importantly very resilient emotionally stable to have been married 37 years..some people just can walk through trauma unscathed or with very little damage..Good karma
Although very emotional. I am pleased to announce. On Tuesday the 5th July 2022 at 8:30am. I had the privilege of speaking with my son. He is well and living in a neighboring city. We met for the 1st time on Tuesday afternoon. On Saturday the 9th July 2022, i had the privilege of having my son visit me at home. He also met with his younger brother and sister and their families.
I’m so happy and relieved that you found your son and everybody got to meet him, I was so heartbroken by your story and couldn’t imagine how you were feeling through the years. I’m glad that your son is doing well and I once again hope and pray for healing for your family and that this new journey is filled with happiness ❤️🤗
Wow, God is good and always gives us some sort of comfort let down bt so many ppl in her life she still believes in the beauty of life and God bless her husband for loving and supporting her for 37 years in marriage and restoring her trust in men he is serving God's purpose of loving and protecting his wife. Love and light to you ma'am❤️
Although very emotional. I am pleased to announce. On Tuesday the 5th July 2022 at 8:30am. I had the privilege of speaking with my son. He is well and living in a neighboring city. We met for the 1st time on Tuesday afternoon. On Saturday the 9th July 2022, i had the privilege of having my son visit me at home. He also met with his younger brother and sister and their families.
A very sad story indeed. I don't know why but I still see pain through her . Sorry to ask but the years don't make sense but it could be because she's forgotten so many things 😭😭 yerrr guys. I pray she finds healing and i pray she finds her son. No child deserves to go through what she went through especially with parents who are still alive.!
Although very emotional. I am pleased to announce. On Tuesday the 5th July 2022 at 8:30am. I had the privilege of speaking with my son. He is well and living in a neighboring city. We met for the 1st time on Tuesday afternoon. On Saturday the 9th July 2022, i had the privilege of having my son visit me at home. He also met with his younger brother and sister and their families.
I agree with her, her mom might be behind the illegal adoption, she came back from work and never got worried who took her grandson and where they took him. Sad now because she is no more.
Yeeeeeey I say we luck me and my siblings because at home my father he was devil but at church he was an angel dropped from heaven for everyone. Every person needed a place to stay they will stay in our house. I'm realizing now how unsafe that was.
Parents honestly need to start to talk to children about sexual abuse and molestation from an early age. They should be aware about it and not just trust every adult. They should know what rape and child molestation is. This thing of hiding these type of things is not helping at all
Although very emotional. I am pleased to announce. On Tuesday the 5th July 2022 at 8:30am. I had the privilege of speaking with my son. He is well and living in a neighboring city. We met for the 1st time on Tuesday afternoon. On Saturday the 9th July 2022, i had the privilege of having my son visit me at home. He also met with his younger brother and sister and their families.
Although very emotional. I am pleased to announce. On Tuesday the 5th July 2022 at 8:30am. I had the privilege of speaking with my son. He is well and living in a neighboring city. We met for the 1st time on Tuesday afternoon. On Saturday the 9th July 2022, i had the privilege of having my son visit me at home. He also met with his younger brother and sister and their families.
What a journey Salome, you are an amazing strong woman 👩 👏 ❤ I pray to God that you get your son. In more ways than one I've learned so much from you. Sterkte verder, Vrou.
Although very emotional. I am pleased to announce. On Tuesday the 5th July 2022 at 8:30am. I had the privilege of speaking with my son. He is well and living in a neighboring city. We met for the 1st time on Tuesday afternoon. On Saturday the 9th July 2022, i had the privilege of having my son visit me at home. He also met with his younger brother and sister and their families.
I'm sure for her it was so hard to go back to the childhood pain. I'm sure that was trauma living. I'm thinking this mother of her wasn't her mother because why someone else is in the birth certificate but even her treatment was beyond cruel. So many women or men who were raped where you got straight to tell families would act like nothing happened. I learned that when you have adopted a child make sure her mother particulars you have so that you can able to give the particulars to the child when they grow. It might happened his son is not even in South Africa is in other country. Most cases these adopted children they try to look for their parents. I pray they live to find each other someday. Sending love and prayers to her and her daughter because I'm sure it wasn't easier for her too. Life is hard but the strength we have as human beings is beyond. Thank you Relebogile for this story it's open my mind and heart for women who loose their children to the system.
I think her mom was her biological mother but due to the scandal of the affair she had to change the name. Many biological mothers are cruel or unfeeling towards their own offspring.
I’m so broken😞. . .phew!! I’m finding myself not wanting a girl child for this reason particularly, because I know how protective and paranoid I’ll become💔
Although very emotional. I am pleased to announce. On Tuesday the 5th July 2022 at 8:30am. I had the privilege of speaking with my son. He is well and living in a neighboring city. We met for the 1st time on Tuesday afternoon. On Saturday the 9th July 2022, i had the privilege of having my son visit me at home. He also met with his younger brother and sister and their families.
Parents do let their children down. I wonder if Salome's mother is resting in peace in her death because she caused her daughter a lot of pain and unanswered questions. Also, she could have had an undiagnosed mental illness. There was so much secrecy yesteryear . I pray that Salome finds her son one day, with God all is possible.
a sad story indeed hopes she gets healed, and best wishes in locating his son, unfortunately the mother could'nt give her the expected love, sorry madam
Although very emotional. I am pleased to announce. On Tuesday the 5th July 2022 at 8:30am. I had the privilege of speaking with my son. He is well and living in a neighboring city. We met for the 1st time on Tuesday afternoon. On Saturday the 9th July 2022, i had the privilege of having my son visit me at home. He also met with his younger brother and sister and their families.
May God heal all your wounds 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾My ouma told us back then there was a place called called the Magdalena house for pregnant unwes white ladies. Afrikans were not supposed to know about it, but they did.
I am thinking she was not the real mom that’s why the mom was not able give her genuinely love or a hug, then allow her kids to be taken from her, wow, wild!
Her mom really did fail her in the worst way. Some people really shouldn't become parents. It's heartbreaking what she went through. On top of not protecting her, she did dodgy things with her kids. Like what kind of parent does this to her own child. This poor lady was an innocent child who was abused by grown men. I truly hope she finds her son. I strongly suspect that the mom had the son adopted. I also suspect that the woman who raised her was not her biological mother. Something just doesn't add up with her mother. Kukhona okushay'amanzi la.
Although very emotional. I am pleased to announce. On Tuesday the 5th July 2022 at 8:30am. I had the privilege of speaking with my son. He is well and living in a neighboring city. We met for the 1st time on Tuesday afternoon. On Saturday the 9th July 2022, i had the privilege of having my son visit me at home. He also met with his younger brother and sister and their families.
She had a terrible mom, firstly how do you find out your daughter was abused and she's pregnant at a young age and you just let it go like it's nothing, is she really her mom? women who are going to bring children into ths world and neglect them makes me sick.if you don't want a child why have them? It's sickening.this woman suffered.
Although very emotional. I am pleased to announce. On Tuesday the 5th July 2022 at 8:30am. I had the privilege of speaking with my son. He is well and living in a neighboring city. We met for the 1st time on Tuesday afternoon. On Saturday the 9th July 2022, i had the privilege of having my son visit me at home. He also met with his younger brother and sister and their families.
I really respect your channel. You are such an amazing woman. But the dates don't really tally. Maybe the lady was confused. She said the daughter was born in 1980. Claims the daughter was almost a teenager when the mom passed away in 1984.
