I'll Take Lonely Tonight by Tim Minchin (Official Video) 

Came here to say this. Soooo rare these days.

is it, though?

Oh come on people didn't get less faithful. Sure there's more divorce which just means less toxic relationship. Sure there's more small casual relationship but it just means the sexuality his freed. I hate the "nowdays things are worse" mentality. What exceptional about Tim Minchin is the attention given to the work of love.

@@mattcraftien974 You missed the point of what I was saying. Most pop music is about easy, 'cheap' love (attraction), casual sex and treating one another as objects as opposed to people. Here is a song about staying faithful while acknowledging that worldly and physical pleasures are a constant pressure and/or battle. Singing about how difficult it is to choose to stay faithful is rare. I think plenty of people are trying and 'nowadays' things are better when it comes to equitable relationships.

@@joshualogan84 Sorry I misread your comments.

Isn't it just.

That's when I started crying

To me that was the least relatable part, but that's what happens when you specifically call out a ranking of values rather than the actions and feelings.

Most irrationaly beautiful line

I can’t listen to this song without him thinking about his daughter as well. Is his daughter also included? I don’t know ...but this gives me another different perspective and taste to this unique and profound song. Thank you Tim!

It's good because its tim minchin. I'm still waiting to see one thing hes released I didnt love.

probably the most truthful way of saying it

Wife*

Love of life, more than wife.

Brilliant 😅

The first time I heard the song I was too worried it was going to go in that direction. As soon as I knew it didn't I re-listened and heard the lyrics properly and almost cried.

I couldn’t agree more. I’m weak in the wake of this work of art.

Yes I sure do I think he is one of a kind

Of course we do, that was the entire point of the song

I just can’t stop watching the video because it’s so much Tim and close-up Tim and dear Lord, what more do I need?

Totally agree. There aren't many songs out there that talk about this subject. It's very confronting to listen to.

To be fair. Wouldnt expect anything less from Minchin.

Tim is amazing at writing these kinds of songs. I'd also say this is a far better love song than any of the "your the only one for me" bullshit. Seriously which is better; "you're the only one for me" "I'm not interested in anyone else" "I met someone, beautiful, witty, kind, wearing a stunning dress and asking me to spend the night with her while I was extremely lonely; yet I turned her down because it would have hurt you"

@@pioneer_1148 This is I think a big reason I don’t like modern music. I always struggle to find a way to express why, when both 40s & Modern cover romance, I only like 40s I suppose I’ve finally found my reason in your wording. Thanks friend

I thoroughly enjoyed reading this comment.

This comment is almost as good as the song. :)

@@AJRM1981 Same, it's like seeing respect define respect.

This might be the best comment I've ever read. I hope Tim Minchin sees it!

Thank you for sharing. God bless

Ironically I live in florida and I met a woman from south africa. It's been 2 years we still are in love. Hopefully I can move her here soon. But we are separated by oceans and 12 k miles

Thank you for sharing that personal moment. Liposomal C ---- for good health

Paddywhack _: Nick Cave and Blixa Bargeld: Hold our drinks ;^}

It’s a boat time

I'm not in the loop on this. What's the boat thing about?

@@OriginalPiMan From the description: "This video is dedicated to the many people who have always wanted me to sing a song in a suit in a boat."

Oh, you're here too? Hey man, love your work!

No wonder I like your music. Thanks for your work bud.

I'm not even surprised you're here. It feels right.

Wait your a fan of Tim as well that makes you more awesome

it's starting to seem like all of the musicians I like know each other... crazy

fr i signed up for laughs not to be punched in the face with emotion

Check out "Apart Together" if you're up for another emotional gut punch

I tear up at White Wine in the Sun, and that's an older one. He's a genius who was too afraid to take himself seriously for a while.

You have taken the words right out of my mouth Noni Doll! Agree 100%

I love crying and laughing at the same time to "you grew on me"

Id agree except for white wine in the sunshine

@@thelyrebird1310 For sure, that's one of them as well.

Agreed. Deeply, deeply human.

I get it though i'm much younger. My biggest hope for the future is always no one will to go through or do the things i've done

From everything I know about Tim's relationship with Sarah, I suspect she was already aware that chicks started hitting on him after his career took off. She was the one who believed in him _before_ that success.

i was thinking about this, too! but i know a little bit about what it's like being a performer and dating performers, and it's not like it is with "normal" people. They're artists and they have a commitment to being open about their deep feelings. I'm sure it was difficult but it must have felt beautifully intimate, too.

I dunno man depends on your perspective, as soon I heard this I sent it to my wife and we both had the same though, what a beautiful ballad to his wife. Sometimes the brutal honesty is more appealing than telling them or pretending it doesn't happen. I hope that makes sense hahah.

If anything she probably would've just felt even more loved by his admission that to "take lonely" is a genuine struggle. A struggle which he will endure over again because his wife is far more important to him than any cheap thrills. It's so humble and beautiful, I think she would be proud of him

I cried too. Have been searching for this song ever since that night two years ago! So happy!!

I've been on both sides of the fence at this point, and I highly doubt that I would ever cheat again, personally. Short story long, a girl I had loved but never dated confessed to me. At the time, I was with the love of my life, and she'd moved a thousand miles to be with me. I politely declined, and we kind of fell out of touch for a while. A few years go by and I end up dating this girl, and while we don't really "click," I clicked with her kid. Taught her to walk, her first word was dad, the works. Her bio dad was completely absent, so I was the only father this kid knew. And I always wanted a kid, and I wanted to be the dad this kid deserved even though I had no ties to her. I didn't feel like this at first, obviously, and it wasn't until after I made the worst mistake that I realized this. The girl came back into my life like a hurricane. She even ended up coming over and staying with my girlfriend and I for about a week, and that's when it happened. I'll be honest, I could tell my girlfriend was jealous from the second the girl walked through the door. The first night the girl was at our place, my girlfriend wouldn't go to sleep until I crawled in bed with her. My intentions were pure, but I have insomnia and didn't feel like laying in bed, so I crawled out of bed and went to get on my computer and hang out with the girl for a while. We talked for a few hours, never a moment of silence. It was always like that when we were around each other. Constantly talking over each other, never getting mad about the other person talking. We got used it, just taking turns when we can. We always clicked like that, just always had something to talk about. Eventually, we start talking about how she still loves me, and she was single right now, and she still wanted to be with me. I just told her I wasn't sure, let me think about it, etc. She tells me she'll help me decide, and proceeds to grab my face and kiss me. And like an idiot, I started kissing her back. Hands started wandering, clothes came off, and before I realized what had happened we were cuddling while naked. Over the course of the next week of her stay, it ended up happening two more times. I regretted it each time, but I'll be honest, I was extremely weak to her advances. My relationship wasn't great, and the time I'd spent talking to her was the happiest I'd been in months. I don't know if it was just my stupid male brain, or because I'm a bad guy or what, but I couldn't help myself around her. Especially with her coming on so strong. And I won't lie, it was actually some of the most intimate and passionate sex I've ever had. We didn't fuck a single time, we only ever made love, if you wanna be cliche(which I do.) I loved the girl, but I wanted to be there for the kid. I chose to stay with my girlfriend, and after the girl left, she didn't come back and I stopped talking to her(after telling her why, of course). I got my just deserts, though. My girlfriend did the same thing to me, except she also ghosted me for 2 weeks with various excuses, while she was staying at his place and planning to move in. She showed up at 4 AM with two of her friends to collect her things and broke up with my in front of our audience before she proceeded to leave. And you know what? It just wasn't worth it. Years later, I still feel every ounce of the guilt and the shame I felt then. When I look back, it's so obvious I should have just broke up with her and gotten with the girl. But hindsight is 20/20. I gotta live with the guilt, and the result of my actions. The girl got pregnant after I stayed with my girlfriend(ex now), and she said she didn't want to tear the family apart, so I'll probably never be with her now. My (ex)girlfriend is still dating the guy she cheated on me with. I was on-and-off with a few girls, but I've just settled into being alone at this point. So this song really hit home with me, personally. On multiple levels. On every level. Truly, it's beautiful work by Tim; perfectly distilled human emotion. Sorry for the long winded comment, I'm a D&D DM and go storyteller mode without realizing it.

@@DefensorsPacis I had a lot of fun reading your story and I mean this in the nicest way possible

@@DefensorsPacis when you look back at this time in your life, there is no need to be overwhelmed with guilt, because these mistakes change us, we learn from them, and this mistake has clearly made you a better person. You can't change what has happened in your past, but you can change whether or not you learn from those mistakes. Bad people aren't those who make mistakes, because we all do, but those who never take responsibility and realise that they have made a mistake in the first place.

@Brad Sanchez Yessir. Intended to be less graphic than just saying "we fucked," and also in part because it just didn't really feel like fucking. We were incredibly close. If I'd just followed my heart, I'd probably still have that. We've known each other for around a decade at this point, and we've loved each other for more than half of that. I don't believe in soul mates, but I will say that she was pretty close to perfect for me. Now, I haven't talked to her in nearly half a year, and it was just casual conversation then. Learn from my mistakes. If you're willing to cheat, the relationship is over already.

@@trybunt Cheers for that. One of my favorite quotes, something I try to live my life by, is: "If you can't recognize your mistakes as mistakes, then how can you possibly learn from them?" It also gave me some perspective on the idea that "once a cheater, always a cheater" is complete bullshit. People aren't just shades of black and white, we're all just grey. Not good, not bad, just human. Yeah, I won't make that mistake again. I also realized, I was effectively emotionally trapped. I felt like I couldn't leave my girlfriend, because I felt like it was my responsibility to keep her safe. And she told me, repeatedly, how much she hated her home life, and she'd say that she'd probably end up killing herself if she had to go back there. The same thing was true for my previous ex, the one I was with when the girl first confessed. I felt obligated to put their happiness before mine. But that ain't the point, huh? Both people gotta put something into a relationship to build or, or it's just gonna crumble from the weight. And with both of those girls, I was the only one trying to keep it intact. I knew well over a year before we broke up that I didn't want to be with them any more, but I couldn't bring myself to break up with them. I was more worried about keeping them happy than I was about making myself happy. Yeah, life's rough. I've come to terms with it at this point. I still feel the guilt, but it's multilayered. Guilty I did it, that I didn't break up with my gf, that I just shut the girl out of my life.. Guilty that I stayed in relationship I didn't want to. I wasted everyone's time.

Yesss! God that would be a great combo!

Maybe a musical

Not until Johnny Depp dies.

Ah but Tim and Depp together?? This is what dreams are made of...

i would watch that

Pretty sure all wives, deep down, know that if given the chance with a legitimate beauty to "shag" for a night or two -- when they are 100% sure their wife would never find out -- most men would take it. Personally, I genuinely don't understand it. If you've chosen marriage, the whole point of it is to be devoted to one another ad infinitum. And while Tim is a bit older, he's certainly not "old." On the other hand, one of the largest shows in the last decade (total guess, never wasted time watching) was Desperate Housewives. Maybe Tim's wife is just as open with him as he with her. An older wealthy woman could easily have a "stud" in a heartbeat. Think this is about Tim, but incorporates all marriages. He's actually honest about it. The majority of the population, specifically those of whom cheat, are hypocrites to the nth degree. Lastly, while I suspect men cheat at a significantly higher rate than women... women cheat. A lot. It's not like Tim is writing Katie Perry songs. He wants it to be a deep expererience between he and his life partner, while sharing the art with all his fans -- and the rest of the world. Quite courageous, at least in the egotistical, pompous entertainment business, ha.

Mine too ... Jesus had it easy peasy 😊

That verse is poetry. Tim is a wordsmith for the ages.

Me as well. Absolutely beautiful

I wonder if it was deliberate or done subconsciously because of the subject matter of the song? Mind you, knowing what we know of Tim, I suspect it was deliberate.

Have you heard "Drowned"? Both versions are really nice.

He can have a dark side too

Thank you.

Feel this way about yourself first, and it will come. Keep your head up, your crown is tilting.

I couldn’t agree with you more

YES!

Me too. I absolutely love Grew on Me but I’ve been playing this on repeat since the first video of this song came online.

I was amused that one female newspaper writer in Australia, writing about Tim, said that every woman she knew had a serious crush on him. That is absolutely true, and it only increases the tremendous respect I have for him in declining "opportunities" in order to remain faithful to his life partner, his wife.

If he ever comes to Norway, I will sell my fucking soul to see him live 🙂

@@franitafranita nah it was in Melbourne, i can understand the confusion tho

I would love to see him live.

The show I had a ticket for at Hamer Hall was postponed, and this damn Covid-19 better be under enough control for me to see it next year at the replacement show!

Now all I can picture is a Hamilton/Matilda mash up

Lord show me how to take lonely tonight! I... don't know how to stay lonely tonight. But Tim is saying NO! (no, no, no) then my coat is on and to the minibar we GO!

@Laura R Barrow I don't really know what in my Haminchton mash-up made you share that personal detail, but I can eerily relate; change the year to 2012 and I'm right there with you. I still like being not alone though, but the dating game has changed so much with all these apps that it's been a rather uncomfortable ordeal to find my tumor. It also doesn't help that I'm in my thirties, but still look like 22; the last time I had to choose lonely wasn't because of cheating, but because the girl flirting with me was underage. But the silver-lining is of course that you get to spent a good chunk of your time with yourself (and depending on what kind of person you are that can be a good or bad thing, I'm on the spectrum so I've always enjoyed being on my own.) Anyway have a nice weekend!

Well this is possibly the most wholesome conversation in a youtube comments section ever

@@jbrisby Ah yes the age old white tradition of hip hop... what? It's a contemporary re-telling of an important American story and last time I checked it was doing pretty well. If you can't handle the packaging of the story, there's always the book (which is also pretty darn good.)

Right? You would walk away feeling really affirmed but also hopeful about the future of the species.

from piece of a master