I Lost Ksh 25 Million, Got Divorced, and Ended Up in Mental Hospital; my story

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Magnus life took a drastic turn. He lost $25 million, suffered a painful divorce, and landed in the hospital. It was a dark time, and his mental health was severely impacted. My chat with him delves into his journey within the Kenyan context and the crucial role mental health played in my recovery.
mental health disorders:
The stress and heartbreak triggered mental health challenges I hadn't faced before. This video explores those disorders and the impact they had on my life.
mental health awareness:
Mental health is too often overlooked. I want to use my story to raise awareness about mental health struggles and the need for more resources and understanding.
mental health talk:
Let's have an open conversation about mental health. Share your own experiences and perspectives in the comments below.
mental health motivation:
You can find a way back, even from your lowest point. My story is about hope, resilience, and the strength to rebuild.
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@HardlyTalk 3 месяца назад

I love the way we are uncomfortable with hearing people's truth and seeking to understand them without making conclusions and recommendations. We tell people to own their stories and their journeys but want to censor what that looks like. We want to tell people how to carry their loads just because we cannot relate or take offence. We want to control people's feelings, and put their brokenness or healing in a bottle because we cannot make peace with the fact that healing and rebuilding are messy. Thanks, Jagero for holding space for everyone even when it makes the audience uncomfortable, change doesn't always come from controlled spaces, It comes from people being brave enough to face ruins and finding the beauty left in that mess to start creating new things.

@Muthonie 3 месяца назад

I am unmarried but every day I pray for myself and my future generations to be protected from people who have to think like this or that they don’t think like this. We need to heal!Maybe the future is brighter.

@annegachanja3468 2 месяца назад

Amen.

@TheJagero Месяц назад

Muthonie, I hear you. It can be scary when negativity surrounds us. What was your favorite part of the video? Maybe focusing on the good things can help us heal together.

@Muthonie 3 месяца назад

I can tell his father had a great influence on him either out of fear or simply compliance. He picked this as a template for his life ideologies. We need to interrogate where our downfalls are and change course. All the best.

@TheJagero Месяц назад

That's a really interesting perspective! It's true that parental influence can be a powerful force. Do you think there are any signs he might be questioning his ideologies in the video?

@mercyk2672 3 месяца назад

There are so many women who have been breadwinners and whose husbands just walked out on them. I've always been the breadwinner, but I learnt the tough way, decided to be alone and work on myself. Celibate for more than 10 years now and loving it.

@TheJagero 2 месяца назад

Hey Mercy, thanks for sharing your experience. It sounds like you've been through a lot. There are definitely many women who've faced similar situations, and it's important to have those conversations. Finding strength and independence after a difficult experience is truly inspiring. I'd love to hear more about how focusing on yourself has been rewarding for you. On the channel, we've explored different perspectives on relationships and finding fulfillment. Maybe there's a part that resonates with your journey?

@mim97701 3 месяца назад

I rarely leave comments behind but wow! I can’t believe how such a bright man has not taken his time to heal. I’m a divorcee,who got remarried after working on myself. All the relationships before healing never worked out at all!Please take your time to reconnect with yourself and accept to be helped. Until then you’d never have any working relationship of your calibre.

@user-cf2ky4fc1c 3 месяца назад

I believe so.....He believes having money or wealth can sustain a relationship or marriage .Well,with that ideology he will never truly find genuine companionship.

@VeeKayGreenerGrass 3 месяца назад

@@user-cf2ky4fc1c that's how most men think.

@mim97701 3 месяца назад

That’s right! It’s more worrisome how he speaks ill of his ex wife and women in general! Shows how much he hasn’t healed. To say the very least, I’m worried about the next woman who will have a relationship with him in this exact state.

@CalloutTrash 3 месяца назад

@@user-cf2ky4fc1c which ex wife? There’s 3 of them, perhaps be a weee bit more specific

@VeeKayGreenerGrass 3 месяца назад

Indeed. Introspection and taking time WITH yourself can heal the soul. He is still carrying the hurt so many years after. I also don't think he is being candid about losing money, going to rehab and paying bills. His wife may have been carrying that burden. In any case, she isn't in the interview to speak for herself.

@mercyk2672 3 месяца назад

I love your content so much. It's Sunday evening in the American south and hearing our brothers discuss real issues is so refreshing.

@TheJagero 2 месяца назад

So glad you're enjoying the content! We love having these real conversations too. There's something powerful about open dialogue, you know? Sundays in the South sound pretty relaxing - anything in particular you're looking forward to this week?

@elenaelena03 3 месяца назад

As a woman I feel you hurt by your sentiments towards women, you have a terrible stereotype and you need to change your beliefs otherwise bado relationships hazijakuramba, the ego of a rich arrogant man can cause him all his wealth 😢( including relationships)

@ashtonventures2454 3 месяца назад

he is not stereotyping women wr born evil its time men start speaking out

@TheJagero Месяц назад

Totally hear you, and where my views might have come across as stereotypical, I apologize. Relationships are a two-way street, and building something strong requires mutual respect, not ego.

@africatodayke 29 дней назад

finally, a man telling his story. very rare. big up magnus. your story is not in vain. wishing you healling, happiness and success. it is a sad reality but get a wrong partner(man or woman) and you are doomed. magnus reminds us that if this happens run very hard. as a man, your life is much more important than what people will say.

@user-od1ll3ie6h 3 месяца назад

This is a hurt man who hasn't healed 😢, he has a lot to work on, himself and mindset coz wueh.. I don't think any woman can put up with all this, plus money isn't everything, you can be rich and still be humble and love your woman without getting more other women 😊

@Regkioko12 3 месяца назад

But he is expressing himself. Talking about one's flaws, mistakes and lessons picked doesn't mean he hasn't healed. Relationships are a matter of interest, as a man that has gone through a relatively similar experience, I share his thoughts. Men invest a lot in relations especially to a woman that they genuinely love, when they are disappointed at some point, they heal but pick very hard lessons for future relationships.

@TheJagero Месяц назад

That's an interesting perspective! While the character might be a bit rough around the edges, is there anything specific in the video that makes you think he's coming from a place of hurt? I'm always curious to hear different interpretations. And you're absolutely right about money and humility.

@justinanthenge619 2 месяца назад

If this guy gets a lady at this time of his grief....................... gosh!!! He will drive her crazy! Lord have mercy! Jagero, please encourage him to go for treatment. As a woman and I am in disbelief! There are mature men and Women in the globe! since he has suffered he wants every woman to suffer. It is like the women who suffer in marriage and they want every man to suffer!!! The discussion has become crude!

@TheJagero 2 месяца назад

Thanks Justina for reaching out and sharing your concern. Grief can definitely cloud judgment and make it difficult to form healthy relationships. We understand your worry that this man might not be emotionally ready to date someone new. Patience with oneself and others who are going through loss is important. At DWJ, we encourage open conversations about mental health. We believe seeking professional help is a sign of strength, not weakness. It's also important to remember that everyone grieves differently. There's no right or wrong way to heal. On the other hand, some people find solace in companionship after loss. Perhaps you could suggest some resources for grief counseling in the comments below? Let's create a supportive community where we can be understanding and offer encouragement.

@rogersjimmy2315 3 месяца назад

Wow! Really inspiring. I loved every bit of this conversation. Keep it up, Jagero(the one who builds). 😊

@sarahgoretty2103 3 месяца назад

No. That’s Jagedo. This one means a harsh man 😂😂😂

@TheJagero 2 месяца назад

Happy to hear that. Thank you for watching. Keep it at DWJ for more bold, exciting and informative content.

@travelafrica2391 3 месяца назад

Our grand fathers had so many wives BUT they knew that they would not cater to the sexual needs of all those women so you would always find a small "run away gate" at the back of the woman's house which was built by the husband (to basically cater for the other men) .... but i guess thats a conversation that these modern polygamous men are not ready to have... wanting too many women they cant take care of...

@TheJagero Месяц назад

Wow, I never knew about the "runaway gate" thing! Sounds like there's a lot to unpack there. Anyone else have thoughts on historical polygamy vs. modern practices?

@myexpatlife9179 3 месяца назад

She cooks well, she cleans well, she takes care of the kids, she has a good career… psh. Men will never cease to amaze me

@user-uc2he8vl3j 3 месяца назад

Yeah, that's his preference! You know how women say, he must be financially stable, tall and a provider. Men also have a preference as women do.

@benendettakiilu9910 3 месяца назад

You and I. Wueh.

@TheJagero Месяц назад

Right? It can feel overwhelming at times! What do you think are the biggest challenges women face today in balancing it all?

@williamssarah9389 3 месяца назад

Having listened to this there is somewhere this guy has not healed completely it can be seen from his talk yes there is mental health and staff but he has a big (But)factor in him he needs to work on

@TheJagero Месяц назад

Thanks for listening! It's important to be open about mental health. The topic we discussed can be triggering for some people, and it's a journey, not a destination.

@williamgichukiguillermo 2 месяца назад

Whatever you comment just know its only that it has not hit you hard. I know this guy such an inspiring guy in person. Just remember that in this world anything can happen, be kind.

@TheJagero Месяц назад

True!

@iamlornab 3 месяца назад

Depression is living in the past, anxiety is living in the future- let me leave this here…

@AnnAyubanlyayub 3 месяца назад

You are right the stories have heard of people fighting depression is cause of past trauma, hardship, pain and loss..

@TheJagero Месяц назад

That's a great point! It makes you wonder if there are ways to trick our brains into focusing on the present moment. What are your thoughts?

@Lucyirungu198 3 месяца назад

Interesting episode enjoyed it❤

@TheJagero 2 месяца назад

Glad you enjoyed it

@franciska975 3 месяца назад

I wanna here her side of the story thea is soo much this man ain't saying. 😊😊😊

@user-uc2he8vl3j 3 месяца назад

While there's always two sides of the coin, If this was a woman giving her story, would you have said the same? Be honest.

@TheJagero Месяц назад

It's always interesting to see things from different angles.

@baraka256 3 месяца назад

This is a fully transformed man.

@TheJagero 2 месяца назад

Glad you see it that way.

@nathannyutu3081 3 месяца назад

nice show👍 exactly what happened to me!

@TheJagero Месяц назад

Sorry to hear that

@justinanthenge619 2 месяца назад

Healing is a journey. I feel him. I wish he could go to counseling, with or without the Law, our Lord can help you heal. I feel the pain in his words but when the Lord heals , he heals indeed. do not press for things to happen just move on, we are all different, sometimes we dial "wrong number" but that does not mean that all people are like that. He is a talented man but needs professional support.

@TheJagero 2 месяца назад

Thank you for sharing your thoughtful comment. You're absolutely right, healing is a journey, and it often takes many forms. Supporting someone's healing can look different for everyone. Counseling can be a powerful tool, and for some, faith can also be a source of strength. It's important to respect each person's path. While we may not understand another's experiences, we can offer compassion and support. You make a great point - sometimes things don't work out, but that doesn't mean we give up on ourselves or others.

@HillaryOmil 3 месяца назад

I really enjony your interviews. Very informative and inspiring.. I need to buy a copy of your book , how do I get it?

@TheJagero 3 месяца назад

Hey! Please reach me here: 0721168693

@HillaryOmil 3 месяца назад

@@TheJagero noted sir

@mercyk2672 3 месяца назад

He must be from my era 😅. I also did a stint at KSPS before going to India for my bachelors and then America for my masters, which is where I still am. He sounds so much like my former school mates, I can listen to him all day 😊

@TheJagero 2 месяца назад

Haha, that's awesome! It's always cool to find connections in guests. Maybe there's something about that KSPS era I'm glad you're enjoying the conversation!

@Solve4_x 23 дня назад

Me too, SPS hoyee!

@dianaatieno5579 3 месяца назад

This man has not healed he still has alot to work on himself first

@TheJagero 2 месяца назад

Healing is important for an enriched life.

@kennedyokoth4677 3 месяца назад

He is speaking much sense. Men must learn to love themselves first and only share what they have worked for.....unfortunately, the other gender is the complaining but we understand them

@TheJagero 3 месяца назад

Thanks for enjoying the episode

@CalloutTrash 3 месяца назад

This Dude has 3 ex wives 😂😂😂 basically 3 failed marriage’s. A whole human pregnancy lasted longer than his 3rd marriage. @jagero we love your work boss, check who you choose to put on the podium. This one has a history of hating women.

@TheJagero 3 месяца назад

He is bold enough to talk about some of it. We have to dialogue with everyone.

@africanbrandsstorytellerma8150 3 месяца назад

Yes 3 ex wives. its less than the abortions you've had combined

@CalloutTrash 3 месяца назад

You have good content sir, on this one it’s 🚮. Respectfully so. As a man who is raising sons and daughters, I cringe at ideologies peddled by this chap, seemingly unhinged, Or should we say still unhinged not to mention a few more failed relationships with this kind of output. Expect another story soon.

@CalloutTrash 3 месяца назад

@pattyray328 3 месяца назад

The comment I was looking for😅

@user-uc2he8vl3j 3 месяца назад

Some factual truth that we all don't want to agree!

@TheJagero 2 месяца назад

That's a great conversation starter! We all have those truths that can be a bit tough to swallow sometimes.

@alfonseandia 15 дней назад

Great discussion! Was always wondering why MG is always so knowledgeable on handling women, kumbe he was nyoroshwad. 😂We live and learn every day.

@TheJagero 15 дней назад

Thanks for sharing!!

@Adhisadhis77 5 дней назад

😂😂😂😂😂😂

@wasilwasteve195 3 месяца назад

Magnus like any other man who has gone through a train wreck is very redpill aware. There men out there who do not understand female nature and evolutionary Psychology. Being unplugged and being independent minded is important for all men. Men of such calibre are the prize.

@TheJagero 3 месяца назад

True

@travelafrica2391 3 месяца назад

Jagero, if this guy walks into another relationship with that mentality, trust me, he will never have a stable one..... and what makes him think that one man is enough to satisfy everything a woman wants? we stay because we respect the man and ourselves.... he lost me the moment he spoke of women like humans that are supposed to take care of him and his needs..... more heartbreak is coming your way my friend

@nennenyakio3274 3 месяца назад

Yes

@VeeKayGreenerGrass 3 месяца назад

This is how unhealthy men think.

@user-uc2he8vl3j 3 месяца назад

He's happily married. Actually he's never been happier.

@TheMwendaa 3 месяца назад

@@user-uc2he8vl3jdivorced again actually. Or in the process

@TheMwendaa 3 месяца назад

@@user-uc2he8vl3jrecently divorced

@tsindolihub 3 месяца назад

Great dialogue, many useful lessons for men. How can I get the book?

@TheJagero 3 месяца назад

In the description

@wambuialice957 3 месяца назад

new subscriber from norway

@TheJagero 3 месяца назад

Thanks for subbing!

@antonyngura2532 3 месяца назад

how can i access the book 18 side hustle

@TheJagero 3 месяца назад

Hello. Please reach on this number 0721168693

@agaltoto8506 3 месяца назад

Lol this man got cheated on by his wife but he is a proponent of polygamy. Why couldn’t he allow his wife be polyamorous in peace? But I love his way of thinking. Nobody should kill another for a relationship. This soulmate thing is a fallacy. There’s a lot to learn from him.

@HardlyTalk 3 месяца назад

Polygamy and cheating are not synonymous, modern society has made them so. Polygamy always had structures to it, you had procedures to follow if you spotted someone you were interested in and they had to be accepted and respect the women they met in those homes but cheating is ruthless. But we are at a point where we want to glorify unkindness and ruthlessness to each other simply because we are incapable of being accountable, having compassion and extending basic human decency. That said polygamy wasn't always rosy in most homes, that we can accept and challenge such arrangements

@TheJagero Месяц назад

Maybe his ideal relationship dynamic just wasn't for everyone involved. But hey, at least he's coming at it from a place of understanding, even if it got messy. I agree, nobody deserves violence over love (or lack thereof). On the soulmate thing, there's definitely something to be said for strong connections, but maybe it's more about finding multiple awesome connections in life, not just one all-encompassing one.

@MansaKimani 3 месяца назад

New Sub here, Interesting conversation

@TheJagero Месяц назад

Thanks for the sub!

@julietmaina1 3 месяца назад

Wuuiii..ata mimi id divorce him mara that that so chauvanistic

@TheJagero 3 месяца назад

🫢

@harrietbosibori 3 месяца назад

Soo broken......this theories about women seen it before. Then Umoja was just chilling 😂

@TheJagero 3 месяца назад

Umoja surely!

@adoranancy9093 27 дней назад

Mr. The best way to heal is to own your mistake forgive yourself then move on my brother.

@TheJagero 27 дней назад

You're absolutely right. Self-compassion is important too. This is great advice, especially for anyone struggling.

@candidajamesa5650 Месяц назад

This guy needs to heal. With this mindset he is going to hurt another woman. Nah....he needs to go back for other sessions of healing because wtf.

@TheJagero Месяц назад

Thanks for bringing this up! It's definitely important to address these issues. What kind of healing approaches do you think might be helpful in this situation?

@gazellmusiq2470 3 месяца назад

Relux uko na mpesa,wow! I won 50k from that by using mpesa,i can never forget it

@TheJagero 3 месяца назад

Wonderful

@gari929 3 месяца назад

Jagero,hiyo kicheko naye!!

@TheJagero 2 месяца назад

😂

@sylvamma 3 месяца назад

This gentleman needs to have a ka relationship with his mum if she is there. 2. He is too intelligent and masculine. 3. He needs to know that his partner made a decision to live independent of him. Its not his fault. It's okay to begin again bro. The journey to healing is still on.

@user-cf2ky4fc1c 3 месяца назад

He is a possessive men.

@user-uc2he8vl3j 3 месяца назад

I love this!

@TheJagero Месяц назад

Thanks for the comment! Breakups are no fun, but this guy sounds like he has a great support system in you (and all of us here in the comments!). Absolutely, focusing on healthy relationships and personal growth is key. And hey, who knows, maybe this "beginning again" will lead him to something even better!

@michellemideva1986 3 месяца назад

Quite interesting how this conversation steered away from wealth,to entirely about women!! 😂. I do agree though,Leadership in a man is very attractive!

@TheJagero 3 месяца назад

Perhaps the two are more connected than we acknowledge? 😂

@michellemideva1986 3 месяца назад

@@TheJagero Only that there is a grace I carry as woman that makes, or breaks 😊😊.

@bill838 3 месяца назад

you can tell he came across red pill content recently... hopefully he will go past this phase as this usually leads to incel culture and the femicide cases

@TheJagero 2 месяца назад

Hopefully it is an empowering growth for him, and us all.

@lydiawere5977 3 месяца назад

its clear he was a serial cheat, and got depressed when he learnt his wife was also cheating

@TheJagero 3 месяца назад

🧐🧐

@Sylvia-sd4mf 3 месяца назад

His wife did not see the alpha man in him? Or she was just being herself. But did his businesses fail bcos of his wife or his bad decisions? He seems to be in denial

@steveningutiah7858 2 месяца назад

How can I get hold of the book.." digital goldmine

@TheJagero 2 месяца назад

Hello, Please buy the book here: koamedia.hustlesasa.shop/?pro...

@Stellageuz 3 месяца назад

Murage, my daughter wants to give you a rebuttal on the women side. She's watching keenly. We shall have a call so she can express her thoughts on this.

@TheJagero 2 месяца назад

I'd love to hear your daughter's thoughts on that, perhaps she has a different take! Maybe we can even set up a future "Dialogues With Jagero" episode featuring both of you - that could be a really interesting conversation! #womenempowerment #genderequality

@drmutindikakuti1012 2 месяца назад

"Im a Christian " but yoh!!! Whatdoes he understand or know about what that means?. Probably still reeling from the hurt so he thinks hes talking smart but pretty much smack. Mungu amsaidie apone. Sad broken man

@TheJagero 2 месяца назад

Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Everyone's faith journey is unique, and it's understandable to have strong feelings about it. We respect different perspectives, even if it differs from the one presented in the episode. Perhaps you could share what aspects resonated most with you, or what you found challenging in the video's discussion?

@williamssarah9389 3 месяца назад

😂😂😂😂😂not all i feel bad coz of this categorizing women jump from one man to the other not all women and not all men cheat there are still good people out here who knows the value of friendship and relationship the problem is most people dont want to face themselves and work on there past hurts

@TheJagero Месяц назад

Maybe the stereotype comes from somewhere, but you're absolutely right, it doesn't apply to everyone. There are definitely amazing people out there who are loyal and relationship-oriented. The "facing past hurts" part is SO true. Working through baggage can be tough, but it makes a world of difference. Thanks for adding that layer!

@mirriambeny1868 14 дней назад

What led to the ex wife cheating? My question?

@TheJagero 14 дней назад

More a question for the couples than ours. Should there be a reason?

@njeri.julietwamai8690 3 месяца назад

I wish you name the broker who scammeed you on btc. You can save others.

@TheJagero 2 месяца назад

Thanks for reaching out! I understand your concern about wanting to warn others. Unfortunately, due to RU-vid's community guidelines, I can't specifically name individuals or businesses accused of wrongdoing. There are however, some resources available to help people avoid scams. What are some other tips you'd recommend to viewers for staying safe?

@leniweise-n4d 3 месяца назад

This man is not healed completely.

@user-cw2lq6sk5r 3 месяца назад

Their is no complete healing,as healing is a process.

@user-md6id4bz6j 3 месяца назад

I hope he reads all these comments and seek guidance 😢

@TheJagero Месяц назад

That's an interesting observation! What makes you say he isn't fully healed?

@user-ph8tq3ot4h 3 месяца назад

Women complain about failed relationships on podcast, shows and the comments section is full of castigations towards her abuser. Am shocked. There are women abuser, cheats and violent ones too... They come to the show but you rarely brand them as hurt,not healed, alot of men are suffering, but fear speaking because of judgement. Relationships in the modern day, is a test to both genders.

@TheJagero 3 месяца назад

Spot on! Relationships are a two-way street. More awareness for male victims of abuse is definitely needed. #equality #relationships

@joycegumbo2732 3 месяца назад

Your wife didn't just start cheating, there's a reason!!!

@TheJagero 2 месяца назад

Infidelity can have many contributing factors. While I can't speak to the specifics of this situation, one of my upcoming videos dives into the psychology of cheating in relationships. Maybe it'll offer some insights? In the meantime, if you're interested in exploring this topic further, I'd love to hear your thoughts - what are some reasons you think infidelity happens?

@peninaawuor 3 месяца назад

Why does believe he cant get everything from one woman yet he's traumatised his woman found other men coz he couldn't give her everything.... 😅😅.. double standards

@joycegumbo2732 3 месяца назад

Nothing hurts a man like a woman/ wife who has moved on and is happy without him 😅 so he is calling her all kinds of names, am sure the wife got fed up with his infidelity (which he is now blaming on her). I guarantee you,he was the one jumping from one woman to the other, disrespecting his wife, now that she has left and is happy it's really paining him 😅😅😅😅

@user-qc8up6zb8k 2 месяца назад

@@joycegumbo2732maybe.

@TheJagero 2 месяца назад

It's true, there can be a bit of a double standard there. Sometimes in relationships, we grow and learn about what makes a good partner. On the flip side, it's also important for people to feel fulfilled in different aspects of life, not just relying on one person for everything [adds a different perspective]. What do you guys think? Is it unrealistic to expect one person to meet all your needs, or is communication key? Let's keep the conversation going in the comments.

@meborejoice4229 3 месяца назад

a woman was never made to fend financially for her man and his family (bringing him from grace to grace) even if she has the resources it still doesn't sit right. Let state the fact there are other ways a woman can be a help to a man and grow with him so my dear no woman should be compelled to save a man and his family .

@TheJagero 3 месяца назад

Finances are a partnership discussion. Open communication & shared goals are key for a healthy relationship. #couplesgoals

@carollynne5943 8 дней назад

Two become one.

@peet247 3 месяца назад

He woke up and chose to embarrass himself. Heal some.

@TheJagero 2 месяца назад

Thank you for your comment.

@user-qc8up6zb8k 2 месяца назад

The problem with the interview,is that it was one sided.The former wife did not have her own separate interview.His story is one-sided.

@candidajamesa5650 Месяц назад

Yeah....he is a tad toxic. Glorifying milayas. 😂😂😂😂Milayas for milayas.I was feeling sorry for him....not anymore.

@TheJagero Месяц назад

Guns out blazing

@milkahachar1794 3 месяца назад

What did I just listen to! Are we still on earth or am the one confused....so you're saying that one woman cannot satisfy you,but you think that one man can satisfy a woman!! No dear, don't be selfish.You are right,an individual cannot fully satisfy another person, either a man or a woman,but there are marriage covenants/laws that keep us disciplined....and once these laws are broken,there are repucations.