Also, when the hair is short. It’s time to highlight those cheekbones, get your eyes to sparkle with extra eyeshadow and jazz up your earrings. Bring the confidence on like Halle Berry or Jada Pinkett Smith. Give them face.
It’s been three and a half years of growth at this point. The start of this had sooooo many people that hated my “burnt Cheetos” and told me to just cut em, but as soon as I embraced it, it didn’t phase me at all. I believed that the growth would come and I kept myself occupied with hobbies and learning what was good for my crown and now I love my knots even more than I thought I would. Keep going and listen to your body because it can tell you everything you need to hear! ☮️
I needed this. I'm three months in and was feeling like I look like a bald salamander, however, I am determined to embrace this journey. It really does help to hear how others are acclimating themselves through the process. Learning how to love your natural beauty is very freeing and informative.
I've had locs for 2 1/2 years. In the starter phase, I got negative comments about my hair from my family all the time. My hair was short, frizzy and I did not and still don't retwist it. They begged me to get my hair done. I ignored them and never felt badly about my hair. It was and still is beautiful! Now that my hair is longer my family all loves it lol. I think a lot of us have hang ups about short hair but we should embrace it and honor the starter stage! I wake up every day thanking God that I am a beautiful black woman with kinky hair and brown skin. It's a blessing 😌😍😇
I'm coming up on my 12 months and I've actually gained confidence during my starter loc journey. I was loose natural for 10yrs prior to my installation and I had 3 BCs during that 10yrs. I think going through that short hair phase as a loose natural I went through that mental breakdown. So fast-forward to my beginning loc journey I knew what to expect coming in. Plus I just have a idgaf attitude about what people think about my hair 😂😂😂 because it's my hair. I have thick skin. Because of this confidence I've noticed people have been complimenting me a lot during my "ugly" phase.
You know what I processed. I felt “insecure” when I was outside but I woke up and loved my hair. I like humble stage because for like 2 months my hair was just sticking up like goku which was a bit awkward. But I’m 8 months and I’m so happy. I just got a retwist and I’m shaking and touching away😂. I think the door of confidence is through the mirror of low self esteem. You have to face it to overcome it and I believe my loc journey is doing just that. The more I stick to it, the less value people’s opinions hold in my inner most spirit ❤
I converted from braids to locs. I wore braids for 6 months. I quickly realized that I wasn’t about that life, spending 4-5 hours getting my hair braided not to mention taking it down and buying hair. I started with 2 strand twists and yes, the struggle was very real. The unraveling, the loose ends, and the frizzies before the retwists didn’t give off a finished, polished ,and “professional” look that I was accustomed to seeing. However, I didn’t give up. I began by focusing on the end results. I am 10 months loc’d and can barely remember how it all started. I am loving this journey.
I am definitely someone who would do faux locs all of the time before my starter loc journey but it’s going really well so far. I get so many compliments with my crazy shrinkage which helps with the confidence piece
I certainly experienced feeling a little insecure in the very beginning because my hair was soo short from the shrinkage. I didn’t feel as feminine with my starter locs when I stepped out into the public. As time went on I started to feel more confident and accepted the new, more beautiful natural version of myself. My confidence is the highest it’s ever been and I have no desire to turn back and not have my locs. I’m 22 months into my loc journey and I’ve inspired my 2 sons, daughter and my 20 year old niece to begin their loc journeys and it’s going awesome for each one of them. They all love it!😀🙏🏽❤️
Same…I received the same comments about my “good hair” and it did floor my confidence at that time as well. I’ve wanted sister locs since I was in my young teens and I’m well into my Fifties now, and I’m just over one year of my third set of traditional locs and loving them!!! Finally feeling beautiful, more confident, and truly not caring anymore about the negativity. Thank you for sharing your professional loc knowledge and personal loc experiences, thank you for sharing your loc testimony. Blessings and good vibes to you❤️
I’m In the starter loc phase I consider myself 4A and fine and am documenting my journey on here! I’ve posted on this exact issue of not feeling Bonita at some points..it’s been so helpful hearing from others going through the same. We’ll get through it starters!!❤ thanks for your knowledge that you share DL🌻
Your positivity has helped me so far, thank you. I'm one week into locs, mind you I did "instant" crochet locs but I did lose about half my hair length and it's been fuzz city on my head. I consider it an "ugly" stage but trying to see that I'm not alone
My only gripe with my locs right now is that they haven’t “dropped” yet. My thick coily roots will have my locs standing straight up sometimes. Once my locs are long enough to hold my roots down I think I’ll be set 🤣
I’m 31 months into my loc journey via two-strand twists. I’ve learned so much in the last 6 months…knowledge I wish I had in the beginning. I embraced all stages but I was lacking on care. Fortunately I found master locticians including you ‘thedigitalloctician’ who got and keep me on track for loc care. I thank you infinitely. 11:16
Consider separating and tucking in the loose ends a couple of times a year with a crochet needle, it’s so easy. Only separating would hide the scalp look. However I had low density hair too with my first set but had micro locs so it grew into full locs and beautiful. Never hindered my growth in Iife. I still have low density hair but 9 years later second set I’m separating , wasn’t planned but I realised I might end up with that look since I have just 60 locs now so I’m only separating. It may just be in my head cos the hair I started with now is much more better than my first set but I am sure I want to separate cos it’s almost Freeform. I have a lot of flat locs and it’s okay. Just be patient. You’ll be surprised .
I didn’t really have a hard time with the early stage. My only issue is that I started with 2 strand twists and people were looking like when are you taking them out? Lol I could be wrong, but I’ve noticed most people that have problems with the. beginning stage never wore their loose natural hair in it’s natural state. It was easier for me because I went through the BC beginning and I wore all the natural hairstyles you can think of so it was an easy transition to loc for me.
We must take charge over our peace, our space and what we allow in it. Opinions are like parts of our bodies that everyone has. Unless I ask for yours then don't share it. We're not defined by what other's think of us. But what we think of ourselves. Black women have had to defend the hair God gave us far too long. If you don't like how my hair looks don't look at it. Don't open your mouth and give an opinion if I didn't ask. Family and all.
I comb out my locs not long ago because I was not comfortable with it and my family told me that locs are not for me, always making remarks on my hair, on the way I have to comb.
Im almost at 2 years in with locs I remember the early stages I did feel weird because I wasn't used to my hair looking a certain way because I always had short hair waves
Yes! For me it’s been a year and my locs are locing veryyy slowly so the bottom half looks like old twists while closer to the scalp there’s budding and locing going on. I say I feel like my hair looks confused rn. Confidence is the ultimate trial
