I Lost the Majority of my Life Savings in an Online Dating Scam 

I'm wondering if you have reported it to the law enforcement?

You can track your money on the blockchain explorer. The same thing happen to me. The big butchering scam is ruthless. I just recently got all my money back. Their is a way to get your funds back

Thank you so very much for sharing your experience! Hold your head up! Just knowing that going forward you have helped at least ONE person from getting scammed! Go out there and ENJOY your Life! Today is the best day ever! Seize the moment!

Why would I need to fund you? You made your bed,you lie on it!

You are a scammer,pretending to be scammed! 😩

Yeah obviously. I feel bad for none of these people

No way in San Jose

Not necessarily true.. it could be your sister's long lost son who you've never met because you don't have a sister, calling you to borrow $10,000 to get outta jail. That's believable. 😐

@@mercedesmaltese4407 don´t judge we´re all humans and some of us makes mistakes during vulnerable times. Give the guy a break he is opening up.

If they even mention money, walk away. Just stop responding and block.

Lmao

What? But why? A GQ model should be able to help you out 😆 he didn’t want to help you?

Yes. Exactly. Whenever the scammers contact used to contact me, I asked them how much money they could send me. The conversation ends fast.

🤣🤣

lol!

I'm 100％ sure they are Chinese or Indian.

Do you suggest that women are not smart enough to perform a pig butchering scheme? Are you mysoginist?

Nigerian 110% 🤦‍♂😂😂😂👨🏿‍🦲

Got to be careful, regardless. Some of these scammers hire real women to do short video calls to lure in more victims!

Probably a team of people

I can't feel sorry for this guy. If he was 20 ok. We've all been dumb and young, but this guy is clearly in his 30s +

Exactly. It’s astounding to me how these people who fall for these pig butchering scams are both simultaneously naive and narcissistic as fuck. Naive to fall think that a person they’ve never met online is going to actually be their significant other, and narcissistic to believe that some random super attractive girl is going to want to be with them just off seeing their picture online

Yep - he’s desperate.

@@MR_THINQ Lot of similar guys out there....

Lots of people desperately looking for love. Don’t trust the Chinese they hate us honestly, they love our money and selling us their junk. They are worse than the Japanese or Philippines.

😂😂😂

Pray you don't ever fall for crap like this again although I have my doubts 😅

you are smart, not joking, you scammed the scammer, hahahahahaa

😆🥂👍😉

Smart

That is smart! And good advice

@@shaithaimassage I was just lucky because my thing is that I would have to meet a woman in person within a few days of first contact -- not the months and years that scammers want you to wait. But what I noticed is that nearly 80% of the women I ran into were all "traveling on business" even though they said they lived in my hometown. What was really funny and totally made it clear it's all a scam was one woman tried to talk investments with me on Tinder! Tinder of all places!! That's when I knew it was all a BS scamming game. One thing that I found interesting is that pig butchering scams always starts off with pics of Asian models. The standard romance scam is just any porn model the scammers can get ahold of. But what breaks them all is a simple request for a video chat. Here's the thing: Romance scams are usually done by males, so it's hard for them to scam other men since replicating the female voice is too difficult.

Call it lucky if you like, but you had a boundary and you respected it. Is interested as you were, you made sure you'd at least meet the person once before trusting someone, as intriguing as it seemed. That was my biggest mistake! I applaud you for your choices and I'm glad it saved you.

@@shaithaimassage Meeting the person first does not prevent a scam. The criminals will hire women to talk to you on the phone and even meet you. You cannot actually protect yourself from this. It is human nature to want love, and this makes a human being vulnerable.

I tell em im a janitor 😑that soon gets rid

I think you mean "grifting." "Grafting" is the surgical implantation of living tissue.

@@matukonyc i grift a graft! And I have sinned!

And he has the nerve to set up a GFM account!🤯👎🏼

You should probably teach the bot how to spell properly.

I couldn’t finish the video because his “short explanation” was waaay too long and dull. Can’t imagine buying a video to listen to him longer. No.

you're far better off putting $250 in 4 places rather than $1000 in 1 place

Indeed

Oh wow I'm so sorry for your loss

Wow, I'm so sorry for your friend and all of you impacted by this. My heart goes out to you. I really appreciate your words and sending lots of love your way.

😢

I'm really sorry for the loss of your friend. I hope the animals that did this to them get everything that's coming to them and more.

We can talk forever about scammers. Whats needed is solutions and how to get the money back. Bank in australia has not cooperated and freeze his account instead. Anyone with solution ???

“She” doesn’t want to talk on the phone because it’s probably a he.

Even easier...When you start talking to a complete stranger on a dating website and she offers a magic investment ---> RUN !

Maybe it's a guy too. LOL

Block that ass

It is a man that’s why he won’t talk on phone

I was waiting for it.

Could be. My motto these days is, "Don't trust anyone."

@@sandiegan3788Totally agree I steer clear of these funds if I want to help e.g cat rescue I buy food for them be be very careful I don’t trust anyone only those close

​@@sandiegan3788 true dat... I'm getting to the point where I don't even trust my dog.

He is also a scammer!!! He wants people to donate on go fund me to rebuild his savings!! A go fund me isn’t to rebuild a savings! It’s for people in major need. He never got scammed I bet you he is lying

@@sparkles7420 I thought the same thing! He stopped thinking with his brain, got scammed, and now he wants people to donate to help him recoup his loss??? He'll be waiting a very long time for my donation!

​@@sparkles7420I don't think he is

these scammers prey on vulnerable people. the human need for love and companionship is very easy for a predator to exploit. it seems impossble but this happens all the time to intelligent people.

No, it doesn't happen to intelligent people. It happens to greedy fools. This one is counting on other fools to replenish the money he idiotically gave away.

⚠I hope everyone who reads this spam comment realises it's a scam. If you've lost money in a scam, it's just possible that your bank might refund you, but other than that you must accept that your money is gone forever, and you need to move on. Anybody recommending a recovery service, or offering to help you get your money back using ethical hacking or a professional-looking company website, is just a scammer hoping to exploit someone who has proven themselves to be a "sucker". Sadly, all social media and messaging platforms are full of these fakes.

No they wouldn’t. Literally everyone can spot a nigerian prince scam and yet the people who do them are somehow still successful

Not true...they'd just figure out a different scam....

There is one born every minute.

Barnum and Bailey said that.... @@acornsucks2111

Nope! IF people weren't mugs then they would not get scammed.

Maybe they get to people who are very lonely and wanting a relationship? Or they pretend to have an opportunity to make money and the person is in financial need? It’s not appropriate to shift the blame to the victims which people only do to feel a sense of superiority above others and to convince themselves this could never happen to them. Good for them but it’s not accurate and misplaces where the blame belongs. Even if they don’t have strong principles, boundaries and definitions for some reason we would have no clue about doesn’t make them the bad person in the scenario. It’s the scammer thief liar who is the bad person taking advantage of someone’s vulnerabilities. I agree we shouldn’t call an online never met person or even a scammy IRL a person, gold digging, scamming assholes have been around long before the internet. This isn’t new and there are always victims who will fall for it for their individual reasons. But dissing the victim is pretty bad behavior in and of itself, and doesn’t make you better than anyone else.

Yep, my rule with online dating is until my mouth touches a vagina the person doesn’t actually exist

I agree, but it happens because that's what we're able to get. The market's rough. There's really not much available out there, and so we're trying to take what we can. Similar to how the part time, piecemeal, gig economy now constitutes having a "job" these days. Glad I met my wife abroad, in person, 5 years ago. I feel for the young people these days.

Victim blaming in its purest form

​​​​@@M_SCcalling someone stupid /w a weak mindset is not victim blaming. This guy is 100% stupid /w a weak mindset, not a victim. Dude gave his daughters entire savings fund meant for school to a stranger. Call it like it is. Don't be a clown...

It's not even that, it's not a scam. It's just asking stupid people for money... That's not a scam, it's a good way of living because of the amount of dumb people with money that are out there

@@dontbetreadin4777 Well, it's a scam in that the point of the conversation is not for purposes of a relationship, but to trick someone out of their money---if the video itself isn't a scam.

@@dontbetreadin4777it is a scam. and no its not a good way of living. people get killed over shit like this 😭

It’s definitely a scam. They convinced him to put money in a crypto account, gave exorbitant temporary profits, then took it all, eventually.

Dating online is a scam. Don't do it.

Great work *Chargebacktools* You take the fight back to the scammers! Great to have people like you and the Team fighting back for the victims and keeping the scammer from taking miney from the vulnerable

So you regained what you lost right?

@@cgasucksno they got over trauma I’d imagine

@@cgasuckslife isn’t that fair.

Sorry for your loss

This is why I stay off dating sites and never accept friend requests online or on Facebook. I have observed too many victims with broken hearts and shattered lives to fall for any of these criminal tricks. They are all a despicable, filthy bunch of thieves and I sincerely hope Karma comes around and teaches them how to behave as human beings.

Dont be silly he clearly said she was Chinese. Your own people are scammers too. They just do it on an even bigger scale, like sim swapping and hacking.

that is not always the case! if they need a VISA for a Western country, money doesn t matter at all! Even social-welfare Western women get scammed because they re dumb enough to allow musl trash to talk to them on vacation or on the web!

Why even communicate with them in the first place?

With the white colonialism across the world, we deserve it.

Very true

Either way, now he’s begging others to makes him good.

I agree. This guy is ridiculous. He needs to chalk it up as a loss and move on. Don't ask other people to get you out of your own hole.

i don’t believe yall understand or know what “scamming” is

@@pxmpkxn6163- Is it taking advantage of someone else’s greed?

Why are you wasting sympathy on a total mug?

​@@bobjames6622not just a mug, a scammer himself. Who buys this phony story? He should at least be showing photos and real evidence of the scam to his audience. He's a lying bum.

So true

He thought he'd get an asian third world peasant with a filthy sewer. He deserves being scammed.

​@@bobjames6622what does that mean? What can we learn from this?

even people you know and pretend they earn big, never shares their secrets...

Yeah, I feel bad for him, but he sent his money willingly 🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️

this guy was gonna loose his savings somehow. just happened to be this way....

Love. When you love someone you want what’s best for them, like help them make money. Even if you don’t love someone but you care about them enough then you still want to show them how to make money.

And if it’s a secret and so easy to do why would they tell more people about it? I know I wouldn’t ..Maby my family and close friends 🤷🏿

Scam!

Don't fall for this type of comment. The fake companies and ethical hackers who pretend they can get your money back if you've been scammed are just fraudsters looking for an easy target.

That's even the case for some women IRL on dates nowadays. There's a video going around about this chick that asks to see your bank account in the 1st 5 min. on a date because she doesn't wanna waste any time in case you're broke. lol

If someone introduces themselves online, it's a scam!!!😅

@@donnahilton471 Not always but there's way too many scammers out here, & it's only going to get easier for scammers with improving AI LLMs & voice bots, they can literally be indistinguishable from humans online. But AI's to detect scams should also become available, so we'll see how things turn out.

"What I've learned is whenever the conversation switches to money, it's pretty much a scam." Wow! Really!? Who woulda thunk that, eh?

​@@bobjames6622 Nah man, they're just good Samaritans that spend all day on the Internet looking for people they can give free financial help to. Trust me bro. : p

she was a dude named chang

i dont say that to be mean. i say it to let you know not to get sentimental over these morons

You're smart. Just took a while trying to suck you in to build trust. Once you held your ground and it was a firm no, it was over. Good job

Did you only text or did you talk on the phone too?

Smart, you dodged a bullet.

Thank you!

He wasn’t giving, he was investing.

@@Dbb27 yes, by giving this person his money to invest.

@@chowfun1976No he didn’t give or invest with her. He invested with an online brokerage. Still not smart.

Same

​@@chowfun1976No, he did not give her money, he signed up to a site she recommended.. then he did many testruns with small amounts and all seemed legit at first

Amen.

Amen again

Just look at em, might as well have “thirsty” tattooed on his face.

Don't Go In--- Goldfinger!

I very much appreciate that perspective and what you shared. I take that very much to heart. Thank you kindly Laurence

That's the same as me, I lost everything (well didn't 'lose' it, more I expended it all and found God) - I've never been happier, and more grateful, more present, fearless, non-worrying. Sometimes we need to lose all those layers to find the real you. If I were this person I'd just look forward to the version he now wants to be (in the future) and focus on that. I know that's incredibly easy to say, and it's something I'm now trying to do, but he needs to let go of that past. Be present, and I'm quietly confident that he'll make a lot more than he lost and will look back on this as some kind of blessing. Meanwhile he has helped others by sharing his story.

As long as you have your life , your health, your faith , you have everything that truly matters.

Great post. Thanks!

thanks i just get scammed this week and i like your words@@Jez2008UK

Great points.

Yes. It's a highly organized international organization of Nigerians doing this.

I believe you.@@pearlperlitavenegas2023

Yup, a lot of men have been found to be the ones behind these scammer accounts. They have no problem being lovey-dovey and sexting other men to take all their money. And the bonus for them is they know those men will only blame women.

Yep, or Asians

the latter

He is grifting. So even if he was scammed 20k. It is on him. Why socialize the losses. Start over cryptocel

I truly can't believe the amount of people using SM to get subs to basically pay bills, holidays, medication and pets. I'm not against people supporting channels but the sad fishing is next level... I feel bad for those scammed, but they learnt a valuable lesson.

There's another online scam where you make up a sob story and then try to get people to give you money by setting up a go fund me...

If those are your only choices you are dumber than you sound

Thanks. Very much appreciated.

Thank you for your words. I completely agree with all of it. It's a big motivation for making the video.

Soo Sorry.. hope your life improves! 😢

that's happend to me this week oh my god it's so bad

@@oliverarrow8431 So sorry...... I know exactly what you are going through 😭

Sometimes the cost of tuition in the school of hard knocks is very high.

Does anybody have any advice for me since I lost my life savings also. I don't want to lose my condo because I can't pay condo fees and taxes. And on top of all the other stress I'm having a nervous breakdown. I can't believe I was so stupid and naive.

i can spot the certain type, just by looking at his goofy face 😂

@@moiseskerschener2634yessss look at his eyes 😅

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

@moiseskerschener2634 How do you look like?

She didn’t ask him for money. He asked her about helping him with investing. He was never asked for money. He invested. He was the one who chose to invest with an online brokerage. Really bad decisions.

@@dogger37JCwhy not send him a donation to his “go fund me” account than. 😂

It’s simply desperation!

What they would do is keep an itunyil they find a sucker to take the bait.

If they asked for money and your not married never give money only for dates !

savage

Watch the content, pfff he invested on a crypto platform that she says using, and he god scammed the girl also disappeared

@@Tibetchoongchoong Wrong

@@DrFrankenschteinEveryone loves a semantic.

We found the scammer loool

Thank you very much. Your words are felt and they mean a lot. Warm wishes to you

www.ftc.gov/romancescams I might add that the scammer could most likely have been male (ergo, no actual two way relationship was ever really there) Cheers @shaithaimassage

Sorry to hear that person scammed you

True but honestly anybody with even 2 brain cells should know better. This guy is a word that rhymes with Timp, but starts with an S

Brave? He makes money on likes and subs, AND he started a GoFundMe? Nothing "brave" about that. He is basically using a scam story to scam you!

Oh yeah....boy, you sure showed them!....smh

@@kendallevans4079 sounds like you’re a bit of Scammer Sympathizer, huh Bra? You feel sorry for the scammers, do ya? GTFOH!

I love messing with them 😅 they always need a gift card or money for a babysitter lmao

@@kendallevans4079calm down princess sofia he is just joking

Its so Sadistic... :DDDD

Very true he was all alone charting and dating with a woman

Pig butchering scam is usually a Chinese script. We (legal analysts) seldom see this scam coming from Nigeria.

@@JaimeMesChiens sorry now you know them even white guys are in it too they friend request and start with cripto coin investment I just blocked automatically

@@JaimeMesChiens Regardless where this originated from... the point is that more than likely the person running the scam is a guy, not a real woman. The guy simply stole a photo of a woman and posed as her for the scam. In some cases... the guy may have a female assistant in case a short phone call is needed to help convince the victim that this "is legit". Though that assistant is very unlikely to be the woman in the photo. These scams can be run from anywhere. I saw on another You Tube channel where this guy exposes scams... he traced his would be scammer to Nigeria.

Duhhhhhh,of course it wasnt a real girl,taking advantage of stupid grown men,amazing that it happens!!!!

He doesn't get yet "she" doesn't exist.

its not even he...its a network of many.....

Delusional still

It takes time, it’s very common even after people realise

Not helpful .. it’s easy to say if you haven’t gone through being isolated, or lose your partner, or dies, it’s all about people being alone

I think you're right and sharing this and seeing how people are reaching out to share their stories is helping to reveal that. You are very right at least for me. Speaking out has been a very helpful way to heal and turn the pain into helpful medicine. It's a process... and I thank you for sharing

Oh there are plenty. There is a whole channel dedicated to them and telling their story. Several, even after being shown proof will continue to send their scammers money. Even if it means they have to take out loans. I’m glad I am ok with being alone when time I have been single.

Billion dollar industry. Seniors get wiped out and then your tax dollars must care for them.

people keep thinking that there are real people talking to you online.

It’s very common. Unfortunately people who aren’t very smart make it worthwhile for scammers.

It’s called he’s scamming lol

Seriously, whatever he gets will be lost again next time he’s scammed.

Meeting online is not a problem, starting a fake investment on a dating website makes absolutely no sense at all !!!!

I met my wife online and I've been happy for 8 years so far 😊

For many people online dating works, or so they say..For me, only real life relations ever worked..I met online few men, did not do me anything bad, on the contrary, tried to do me good, but it did not feel real...nothing beats real life meeting..sweet and real

I can believe it’s still happening. Some people are very desperate for love and companionship. Some people are dumb.

She didn’t even have to do anything besides be nice to this guy. He was the one who asked her to help him make money investing. This guy in an idiot.

Who's fault is it?

Your name is not Lisa Smith. I think you are a scammer. Even your thumbnail was stolen from another site I saw. Cute dog regardless. Do better in life "LISA."

PhD? Nah. They have the same intellectual capabilities as people who drop out of highschool... If you've seen any romance scammer revealed videos, scammers just shower their victims with generic compliments... This dude has some sort of social deficit in his life, maybe not due to his own actions, there is a loneliness epidemic going around at the moment, but he got suckered in because out of either excessive loneliness or lust.

Thank you very much! Yes they are

Lots of truth here. At the same time I know I was skeptical and discerning. I tried to research this opportunity to see if it was a real thing. What's more, they are very good at their job and know how to build trust. So it is a little more nuanced than that. That's part of why I made this video, to help point the direction and share the clues so people know what to look out for as they are using their discernment to evaluate if something is the real deal or not...

It all comes down to trusting no one. How terribly sad. Devastating.

@@shaithaimassage I'm so sorry this happened to you, but please don't gaslight yourself by saying you were discerning. The huge, enormous, screeching red flag right at the beginning was her refusing to talk or video. And her saying that writing helped her to see into someone's "soul". Please watch lots of scam videos because you are now on many scammer's victim lists. You also need to work on yourself because you're still looking for free money with your GoFundMe.

@@shaithaimassage What are you talking about? You asked her about helping you with investing. She didn’t even have to start scamming you! What research did you do??? It’s super easy to find this scam online. It’s all over the internet with detailed information. Anyone who invests in an online brokerage and who doesn’t vet that brokerage is an idiot. Sorry but you are a scammers dream. It doesn’t get any easier than you. It’s super easy to vet these online brokers and investment websites.

Thank you very much. It's very much appreciated

A Good Life Lesson!!!

Exactly what I was thinking!

Totally agree.

Loneliness. I am lonely too but I compensate through parasocial relationships on RU-vid lollll I never replied to the guys who are oil engineers good looking middle aged with pics all uploaded on the same day on Instagram. It screams catfishing!

It's not a scam, it's just asking an idiot for money and he's more than willing to do so due to unbelievable stupidity

Very lonely men frustrated with western women dating culture. I can see how it'd be hard to understand for someone not in that position. But think about it objectively and it at least makes sense. I got taken for a few thousand from someone in the Philippines. Thankfully I was smart enough to end it before I lost more. I learned my lesson, got back on the horse, and eventually met and married a very good woman from Thailand. We are 11 years into marriage now.

They fall for them because they’re desperate.

Loneliness and desperation for a connection can blind you to obvious/minor red flags. I didn't and would've never sent this person or possibly people any money, but I wasted 4 months being emotionally attached to a random person I had never seen or heard. At first, I thought they were a catfish because of his limited online presence and the lack of me ever seeing him or hearing his voice. This caused suspicions and arguments about him being a catfish. It wasn't until the last week of us talking, that was the first time he hinted at money and said, "Let's not fight through a keyboard, buy me a ticket, I'll come there and we'll fight in person." That's when all of the alarm bells started going off in my head, and I realized some minor red flags throughout our 4 month interaction. A lot of these scammers will play the long game, build up a friendship, etc, over weeks, months, or even years before they hint at or outright ask for you to do something financially for them. Scammers like that are usually smart, strategic, and patient at their con/scam. My experience taught me about long con scammers, I always assumed most scams were short cons where, within the first or few messages, it would be very obvious it was a scam, and I'd spot them easily.

The long game scammers usually juggle multiple prospects simultaneously, all at various stages of the con.

And found a way to make it profitable too with a go fund me. Who’s scamming who I wonder 💭

And teacher got 40.000 . He should ve carry on with it

You're welcome and I thank you for your words. They make an impact!

Thank you for your words of support. Very much appreciated.

Chai!!!

@@shaithaimassageso sorry this happened to you keep strong you can get through this you have done nothing wrong it’s them so pls don’t blame yourself

@@Michelle-qd9gmBut he is to blame. His fault he was as easy as it gets to scam.

This isn’t cat fishing. Quite often they’re not stealing someone’s identity and pictures. They hire real women to do these scams.

This is different. Pigbutchering is a very specific scam

Not at all cat fishing. It’s a pig butchering scam. Cat fishing isn’t even a monetary thing, it’s something morbidly obese and ugly people do to try and feel attractive

@@dogger37JCnone of these people are real women. These are Nigerian men behind fake pictures of women. The idea that these women are real is completely incorrect and actually is a dangerous myth to spread because it makes these pathetic losers think that a real woman was actually interacting with them instead of an 85 IQ Nigerian man. There’s a reason no video chat, and often not even a phone call, are involved in these scams

Thank you. Very much appreciated

Thank you! That really means a lot

Sentimental nonsense.Hes just a silly tw*t

Thank you so much. Yes, you know it. It has that potential power. Your comments are very much appreciated.

More like glad his friends are smarter than he is.

*GREYCYBERFIX* I wish there are more people like you out there. If I would have the knowledge, I would be part of your team indeed. God bless you Greycyberfix!!! Such a shame that the government that is supposed to do what you do, could care less, while you have to take matters into your own hands to do what authorities neglect to do, while taking our tax payers money.!!!!!

His page is on Instagram

@@Smith-zx4jbI think he’s legit, he helped me got all my stolen funds

Very sorry to hear it. I feel for you and wish you well on your recovery

My heart goes out to you as well. Hard to know what it's like unless it has happened to you. I hope your healing process is going well.

Don't feel bad. I had the same thing happen on a dating site. I lost over 1500 dollars being ignorant. I deleted all apps and quit online dating all together

Exactly what I’m thinking too.

I think you are right!!! First of all I don’t think you’re supposed to make a go fund me to rebuild your savings! People on here need to be alerted so they don’t donate to rebuild his savings!!!

@@sparkles7420 click on the link he provided and report it as a scam

The first thing I thought is he’s trying to scam with his sad scamming story! He would be more convincing if he didn’t ask for money at the end. Now I doubt his story.

I'll give you my 2 cents. You gave your money away. Hopefully you learned something. That's my contribution to you.

Thank you very much

Thank you. That means a lot and very glad I could help

Yea so prevalent that you have to be kind of dumb to fall for it.

"Brave"? He's making money with every "like". Nothing brave about that!