Woman loses $100k after falling victim to online dating scam | Banfield 

Exactly

My father told us that!

Thank you!

FACTS 💯

Seriously! Even if it weren't a scam, no man should be asking his gf to lend him money period.

Amen

If she would loose some weight and take a little care of herself then she would probably meet someone.

@@londonbridges9739 The smell would still remain.

@@MBoldman50 best comment!

It's sad, Some people want love so badly they are willing to believe anything. Even a lie.🤔

The end!!!!

Or a loser!

Immediately

True. Whatever the excuse They are professionals

Fix what title?

@@gone.golfingThe headline title for the video says “Woman ‘loses’ $100k after falling victim to online dating scam”. The poster said she is fixing the title to say the woman didn’t “lose” the money, she “gave away $100k”. Get it?

I swear, I really wish they would portray this correctly. None of these strangers steal the money. It is given away willingly! It’s so embarrassing that I can’t believe anyone agrees to be interviewed about it.

Look at her.😅

Yup

Stop talking with people that you have not seen after a month. Don't send money unless you know where they live.

But these chubby old ladys are desperate

@@robertsmith3672 Then they're going to be desperate, broke, AND heartbroken. People need to get hobbies. Join a community center, book club, bowling league, etc. ... not futz around online with needy strangers who speak bad English in a pronounced Nigerian accent. There's no excuse for it. If you're savvy enough to join a dating site, you should be savvy enough to know not to give anyone money. And dating sites, gaming sites and the like should create and post short tutorials about red flags, including what different accents sound like.

I've seen a TV program where they haven't met in person yet the female falls for it.

Disgraceful.

She has no choice.

Thank you I was just thinking the same thing.... You being desperate is everyone else fault

@@Anonymous-54545 she had a choice not to wire money to a stranger, it not the wiring service comany's fault or responsibility that she gave all her money away.

True. Same as sending $ to psychics etc. They think people are stupid for doing it so no penalties.

'love makes you blind and sometimes takes the logic to differentiate what's right or not' -

Never met? Hahaha

That's not a relationship. RUN

Because people are so damn dependant on their computers, it doesn't occur to these geniuses to get off your butt, leave your house & actually converse with real people.

Good point.Bravo!😎

With someone she never met.lol...lol

Her stupidity!

Bazinga!

Desperation has no limits!

@@enigmathegrayman2953 Always tell the man or woman you're struggling month to month when money topics come up. No man should ask a woman for 🤑. If he can't get a loan or 2nd job.... 🤷‍♀️

I've been dating someone for almost a year and neither one of us has had deep discussions about each other's finances. These losers start discussing it right away.

Yup. It happens with people from here, too.

Be very wary ladies

True. I dated a man for 5 months, real life, in person. After 5 months, he tried to squeeze money out of me. I told him that I wasn't going to give him any money. I would treat for dinners & lunches, put gas in his car, just, no cash. A month later, he tried again to get money from me for a reason he gave that I found to be a big lie. Although it hurt to let go of him, I knew that it was time. I took him out for dinner, brought with me any gift he had given to me. I gave the gifts back to him, wished him well I was crying & hurting for a long time after that. I got through it.

@@willatag5854 ?? 🤔🤷🏻‍♀️

I think a part of her still believes it

Exactly. These things don't just happen. It would never happen to me. 40K is over the top.

If it sounds too good to be true, it probably isn't☺‼️

There was a saying a long time ago that we should never give a man money. Especially a man you do not know.

@@Saffeyah of course we shouldn’t! Men are natural providers, if they ask a woman they are supposedly romantically interested in for money, something is up! Major red flag! 🚩

Damn right! Be smart people...

i wonder if she gave him 100k in a lump sum. they didn't describe how the payout occurred, or what was the mechanics. was it a loan or a gift, did he ask her for more and she kept paying, what was the hook. all she said was something vague about his supposed kid. i just want to know what some people will believe. i guess if biden won, there must be a whole lot of dummies out there.

No self respecting man would want a one night stand with her

Yeah this is in the aftermath of what happened. No sane person willingly gets conned.

Right ??..I've known guys who value money over pu$$y . Like that's their goal ...$$

I am with you on this

And they are sending SO MUCH money.

You and me both!

Low intelligence.😮

Thank you for saying that cause that’s how I felt too. This woman is a complete moron. She’s completely delusional and frankly it looks like she likes the attention.

You are so right!

I ONLY loan to my brother who is like a twin to me and I know would bail me out if I was in trouble too. I do help other people now and then but not strangers...and it is pure charity, I don't expect 'love" from them.

'lend' - I win!

You don’t loan any amount of money you can’t afford to lose. I’ve loaned money that I never got back. It didn’t break me by any means, but it was the last time that individual got any funds from me.

Yes

As someone in the financial industry .. for 7 years, you’re absolutely right.

wow

I got $40 back from my bank after falling for a fake raffle scam. I paid with a credit card

The cost of scam proofing for idiots will get passed on to everyone else.

Wow lonely hearts crime is the best description. It's very sad

wow

Yes they prey on those needing love.

You are right and this is more reason i am looking for a trusted and genuine platform to invest

Ha. Ha. I remember that ❤

$100k could've used for travel and house

That’s what I would be using it for.

desperation

Loneliness

Right ?

SMH..🤷‍♀️

I lost 50 bucks 😕 😪

Ya they do. They just disagree and refuse to stop giving their lover money. They feel compelled to continue giving money. If they don’t, their lover will get angry, suffer from lack of medical care, or something else too horrible for them to believe.

Some do! I had a friend like that! We kept telling her but she was right & we were all wrong! She was OK to cut her friendship with us but not her 'relationship' . At the end she was out 50k before she figured it out !

@@dr.ellieabdi9540 I had a friend in the same situation, whatever you tell them is a lie because their love would never con them. I tried a few times in as nice a way I could and the way she screamed at me with such venom was unbelievable. In the end you have to just cut yourself off cause it's so hard to listen to the crap they tell you. I've not spoke to her for maybe 4 years and don't know what the situation is but I would never go back to the abuse she gave me.

@@Angie-jm8kp 😓😓😓😓👌

And some haven't even video chatted or met. Just sending money by the boat loads🫣

They lie and say their money is tied up

Pathetic how some women falls for anything!

Well, they do tell the client (“victim”) that they’re filthy rich, but their money is “tied up.” There always a promise of much-more money later, if they give them money now. She did not say, but I have heard and read enough of these to know that there is ALWAYS greed of the client (“victim”) involved. Always. She also did not say, but I would suspect this man told her he is quite younger than she, and that “age is just a number,” and stole photos that show him as beautifully handsome. He then told her that “looks don’t matter. It’s what’s on the inside that counts,” lol.

Not to be an A-hole.. but she set her expectations too high..Did she honestly think she could "bag a rich guy"?..Much less a foreign one?? And if so.. what were the drawbacks on this "dreamboat" ?? The difficult truths too many ignore is there are very few Cinderellas and Snow Whites.. even fewer "princes" that could strolling by into your lives... but are you worthy???

No offense but an oil magistrate would probably be looking for arm candy.

Thank you 💯💯💯

Dudes that ask women for money at the beginning of relationships are losers. I'm a dude. That being said, this is 100% the women's fault - unless he (or his friends) used a gun and robbed you, or held you against your will. I'll say, women scamming men out of money the usual line of business. Via onlyfans, strip club, gold digging, russian bridal websites, alimony, and many more... When dudes get scammed it is 100% the man's fault unless the women (or her friend) hold's him unwillingfully - (drugged and robbed, invited to hotel room and her boyfriend comes out and robs him, ect)...

It's not a man thing. Anyone asking you for money is a red flag. Do you know how many women interested in me online have asked me for money? They immediately lost interest when I wouldn't send any. All of them weren't fake accounts. Some women just feign interest in men because they want money

@@Gurra88 no one asked

@@aplanefliesabove yeah and no one asked for your comment either. 🤷🏽‍♂️

Men too

There MUST come a point when the victim is no longer a victim but is, in fact, a Volunteer to the deception. Realistically speaking, why the heck would a much younger attractive male be interested in an older woman ? We are talking about men with either a 6-pack and/or exciting professions worldwide. WHY would any woman not ask herself why her on line beau has so much TIME on his hands, are in love with you when you've never even met, lead drama filled lives what with locked out bank accounts, teenage children requiring an i-phone replacement, accidents at work yadda yadda yadda.

No one can take advantage of you...unless you let them..!!!!

Absolutely correct.

That is SO interesting but it makes sense that someone is literally paying for that affection/attention. Omg i have a close friend who just went through this scam. Before she knew it was a scam, I knew it.

Ever!!!

Right!!!?? But unfortunately they prey on those who have low self esteem

Theses scammers need some good old fashioned street justice. 🔫

It's that simple. I don't understand how people are still getting played.

I'll give u food and donate clothes....but no $

😂😂😂 best comment here. and true

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And she talks about his “business” and his “son”. She has been scammed but still believes some of his story. Nothing this person said to her was true. There was no romantic relationship, no son, no business trips. It was all a means to an end. I watch the Catfished stories and they all talk like this. When it’s over and they have lost tens of thousands of dollars they still seem to believe there was at a time a mutual love and they were some big wig engineer with a lot of bad luck. Mostly the scammed person is in very deep and it likely takes years for them to return to their full senses.

It's called being insecure ASF

Insecurity, wanting love so desperately, wanting a relationship. Their need to be accepted far outweighs any logical and critical thinking. Love just takes over.

Good question! They must be extremely lonely and extremely desperate, gullible and naive!

Right I'd rather be tiktok friends with someone, bc at least you have video of them, assuming they don't overdo the filters and effects. 😆

There is someone for everyone I see it all the time in real life, the mall the grocery store. The problem is that some people who have a less desirable dating pool like the idea that some super handsome or beautiful person is attracted to them so they get swept away. They like the idea and fantasy that some super hot suave guy wants them damn well knowing that in their everyday life it’s not as realistic. Harsh truth. So when it’s online they can live out their fantasy. Honestly, these people usually fall victim to this because of superficial reason regardless of what they tell the public. Desperation is a bitch

yep...haha...gotta go. Real men dont ask women fo rmoney...they make their own.

How about $5? Haha

How about $5, baby?😮

😂 same

😂 Right?

Look at her.

That's what I do ...I go to their "page" as well .. I only friend people I know or acquaintances

Facebook isn't the only place to watch for these scammers. A lot of RU-vid apps are used by these scammers too!

I just blocked someone on IG of someone who is following me. I kept getting strange messages everyday.

Facebook is full of scammers!

@@michellemcgee3534 so is Instagram.

I had one that I flipped it on and told him I sent it and had them going back and forth to pick it up with a fake pick up number…😂😂😂 … I thought he would catch on after the 2nd or third time. He kept calling for like a week asking me to fix the pick up number. I got tired of scamming the scammer and finally told him to F off and blocked! 😂😂

@@Simplyolivia1000 😂 Sometimes you just gotta fight fire with fire 😂

@@Simplyolivia1000 😂😂😂

@@Simplyolivia1000 that's fantastic made me belly laugh 🤣🤣

ha ha ha

*... you're looking for on a dating....

1st sign was when they ask for $. A decent self supporting honest man/ woman with integrity wouldn't even ask.

A good sign is also that we all know what society deems attractive in terms of physicality and race. If you suddenly have all kinds of attention from someone and you are not part of the group deemed attractive....beware.

Also, they never call you by your name. It's "baby" or My Love, etc. If they are "stuck" overseas, tell them to call the consulate.

I have an accent… I’m far from an scammer… half of the population in USA has an accent….

Exactly...I love when they say I met him/her on this date...no you didn't

Welcome to the cyber world where you work, bank, worship, and communicate with people you never met in person. We've been forming these virtual relationships with people since they invented telephones and moving pictures 🤣

Let me know when yall make AND parent a baby that way. Until then...nawl. 😂😂😂😂

During the grooming process, they can make you actually feel like you've met the person, and have a proper relationship with them. I know because that happened to me. I cut them off when they started hinting that I might send them so money. But I'm not so arrogant to criticise those who don't have that awareness.

Rightly said and this is actually reason i am looking for a genuine and trusted platform to invest instead of me bearing the risk

Truth

How about not a fool? Old fashioned common sense is in short supply.

Not to mention you have common sense...

Me too, I don’t like lending money as it is, let along giving it to someone I don’t know lol, no point trying to scam me you will get nothing lol

Ditto!

You are a realist. Nothing wrong with that.

Rightttt

Salina ... really a shame that your mother fell for this con artist . Especially the fact that you feel it ruined everything and put you in a hole . Sorry but it sounds like she put romance with a stranger first over family and home ... wow I feel so bad for you I really do . I hope somehow you are able to get Justice and get your money back

I'm sorry this happened to your family. I hope good things come your way so you can be free from that hole as soon as possible. My mom fell for it too. $700 in gift cards for a 'package at the airport'. From the 'widow with a child' to the 'military man needs money' she fell for it all. No matter how many times my husband and I warned her it was a scam, it didn't matter. She had super low self esteem at the time due to being divorced from my father recently and nobody could convince her it was a scam. She called us crying one day saying she couldn't pay rent and was going to be kicked out of her place. We paid her rent with the condition that she would never again send money to someone she had never met before. She's been very careful since but it put a strain on our personal relationship for a while. It's hard to watch it happen to someone you love dearly, especially when they won't listen to reason.

I'm so sorry

Can't blame everyone else for your mom's financial abuse of you. When all is said and done you know. I've never used it but start a go fund me?! 😃

I lost $40k in romance scam I lost everything I saved in 10 years I worked in low low minimum wage jobs 4$ in hours.. when covid hit he stole all my money and run to his country Algeria and he send a porn video of me without me knowing to my company and I lost my job and my family

Yeah Dr Phil exposes them all the time until these men and women are left TOTALLY BROKE!

Yes, but they are getting better and better. I almost got scammed and they had my head spinning. It was a learning experience but it can happen to anyone.

💯💯💯♥️

That 419 shit 😭😭😭 Largest economy in Africa and 65% of their GDP is from internet scamming morons. These women are all looking for Prince Charming but they’re only finding the one from Nigeria 🤦‍♂️🤯🤣

There are plenty of people here in America that will scam you, too. Just make sure you don’t give money to anyone, even if they tell you the saddest story you’ve ever heard.

Look at them..😅

And very old woman. A 64yo woman in Brazil sent 35k BRL to a good looking 20-something yo; he was a nigerian scammer of course with fake pics. The lady was retired, she took loans, can't barely aford food now.

i'm a size 8 and pretty darn attractive, judging wrong again, you people are hilarious with your judgements and we know better syndrome, i'd rather be me any day than you even if I had a lesson or 2 to learn about how horrid society really is, catcha!

Yes very attractive according to you!! Lol

@@ellenchristie9608 You might see yourself differently than a guy or you could be lying .

@@misplacednewyawker that's hilarious!

You can be intelligent but still lack critical thinking skills and even basic common sense.

She is intelligent but was very naive. Very sad story.

You need to love yourself and God, before you look outside.

@@grumpyoldlady_rants when you fall in love you don't think intellectually you think emotionally. We need to stop victim blaming people for doing something as basic as falling inlove. We should be blaming the one's who scam.

@@winning3329 are you serious? It’s common sense that it’s sketchy for someone you’ve never met in person to ask you to send them money especially that much lmfao

Lonely older people need to buy a good TV, get 200 channels; join the local senior citizens group, take up a new hobby or exhaust themselves traveling or joining a gym. Lastly they can volunteer in schools, hospitals or someplace else.

You have to realize that they we're "real" for her...sadly duped.

@@ishp2 True. I find it hard to believe anyone could be so gullible. It’s sad.

She bought the con, hook, line and sinker!

To her he is real.😅

@Endless Nameless I had never thought of that! (lol) Now that I've completed my 60th revolution around the Sun, my childhood male friends who literally stopped traffic with women hanging out of windows gawking, are every bit as invisible as I am. Am I a bad person for finding some solace in that? (lol)

@Endless Nameless That's why its so important to be realistic about yourself; young chicks today got a lot of game!

Just don’t send strangers money period. I don’t like to give money to friends and family so it’s pretty easy for me to say no to a stranger.

Yes this I agree with. I think it is a sense of arrogance that they probably ignored more normal unremarkable people in favour of some dreamboat because they have a heightened view of how attractive they are and what they are owed. When you are older you are lucky if you find a new relationship. Nothing is guaranteed. Go for somebody normal. Don't go for the dreamboat that you think you deserve. It is arrogance.

I saw her on another channel. It was a combo of totally emptying out her all her 401k, savings, and she also took out loans and maxed out credit cards. It’s unbelievable. I wouldn’t have done that for friends and family I’ve known my whole life , much less a stranger I’ve never met before.

I thought most of us were broke? We at most are hard pressed to meet a $1000.00 emergency. It astounds me!

I keep asking the same question 🙋‍♀️

​@@rentboy7566😂 wow, insane

I know a lady, here in Nz, on single moms benefit, who went as far as withdrawing her kiwisavwr for a guy she will never meet. Tried to ask some helpline of they could help her but since she was an adult and sending money on her own accord there was no criminal activity involved and there was nothing nobody could do about it. Oh well, I went back to my laptop and continued coding away 😂😂

Preach!!! She was the damn fool!! I swear NO one is held accountable for the asinine things they do anymore!! 🙄

Agree 100% with your comment! No one should have to babysit people and their money! 🙄

Experienced with the guy, who claimed to live in US. He went for a business to UK and suddenly his son was very sick. Asked me to send $3000US but to his nanny. Haha. I 'dumped" him. I love my money more than men.

@@apriwindianaherjawan1396 Lol, me too!

@@apriwindianaherjawan1396 I was talking with this guy for a week he claimed that was from Texas widow and he had a nanny for his child, right there when he said NANNY it ring a bell , 😀😀a Texan will never said nanny, he will say a baby sitter, I block the SOB right there

They always have millions but need a few hundred for fares etc

True. And this is coming from a woman that believed an oil magistrate needed money from her! 😑

I came here from Social Catfish too. Some of the stories on there are mind-blowing

😅😅😅

Some people need a baby sitter.

@@thatgirlwhousedtohavereall5549 Best 2022 internet comment - LOL!

@@thatgirlwhousedtohavereall5549 when you are inlove you thinking with your emotions are not your brain. This can happen to anyone

Can't happen to people that don't trust Anyone

@@winning3329 Bruv, no.

I think they're hilarious. Always pretending to be American soldier

Yep, Michele but what tempted her originally - is that she knew people happily married through this method. I also know at least one person who has been married for years. So, would you say stay away or can they get involved - but no money - and do a background check?? This woman seemed to be an intelligent woman who had every reason to hope for a relationship.

I agree that online dating is risky. I tried it and met a huge proportion of psychopaths in the process. However, I also ultimately met my partner through an app and we’d never have met otherwise. Be smart. Drive yourself and meet in public places until you know each other well. Get to know the other person’s social circle. Don’t give away your red flags but heed them when you see them. Don’t send or spend money, ladies. There is a greater proportion of wicked people on these apps than in the real world, but once in a while you’ll uncover a gem.

I feel the key here is, while we don't wish to scare off our possible forever love by being skeptical about everything, there has to be a level of asking questions. If you ask a question and they get defensive or evasive, that could be a red flag. If the conversation of money comes in to play early in the game especially when you've never met face to face, another red flag.

It is simple common sense.

Such a good way to describe it. Willful ignorance for sure.

Listening to these stories, I keep thinking the fantasy is already in the victim's mind, she treasures it, and the scammer just activates it. People really scam themselves.

@@bluecollarlit Wow…your comment is deep. Good points. 🤔… 💯

Talk shows are now overflowing with women who : are out of shape, have not seen a hairdresser and colorist, are middle aged to elderly. Their ignorance about how the modern world operated announces to the scammer that they are waiting to be victimized and humiliated. How often do we hear, “ I don’t know how gift cards work, “ “ He had to pay a VAT.” His son attends a prestigious school in Cairo,” “ the hospital wouldn’t discharge him until he paid his bill.” When, oh when have we heard of a hospital holding a patient hostage? And the absolute kicker, “ My Queen,”. Before sending money, Take a good look at yourselves, ladies! Please

Low intelligence. 😮

you cold hearted beeetch !!

🤣🤣🤣🤣 omg this is what I am gonna do!!

It's so funny how these men always have kids. Even if these tales were real I wouldn't accept it...Why is it okay or attractive for men to have baggage and mothers are considered damaged goods? I have no kids so I don't want yours, not my responsibility!

🤣🤣🤣

😜😜😜

😆😄😆😄😆😄

She won't.

I've been trying to figure that out for years because I know I'm smarter than a lot of people who have way more money than me.

That's why I didn't feel this was the best journalism because she didn't explain how much she gave the first time she helped him ... doubtful she gave him the full $100,000 right up front . ... so it would have been nice to hear more of the whole story of how he conned her out of the full amount ... but we never got to hear what really happened

No matter how much money one has; can’t buy IQ.

She had to claim bankruptcy so obviously didn't have the money and probably used credit cards or loans. smh.

@@HaightTheGreat 😂😂😂😂😂😁😉 too funny 😁 😂!

So very indeed true Facts Foreal!! 💯💯

Especially when they are keeping all the lies they are telling you. Straight and apart from all the lies they are telling 30 other women/men, they are talking too.

Facts

And don't date "needy" men. If he's always needy, he's likely a loser...and a user.

You know people scam in real life too? Lol

Always has oil involved

Truth. She didn’t send 100k from the get go. She kept giving him money over & over again still never meeting IRL or talking on FaceTime.

Did he even have a son? Scammers know kids pull at heartstrings so they will use kids to breakdown the walls we put up.

If you are a good person, who had suffered much, you hope one day you meet someone special, and by now, you know the perfect package isnt going to present itself. Dont shame this woman. Shame on you. Its a shame we have people preying on people. Its a shame we hear “law of attraction” and things like love yourself and so when you finally DO love yourself and feel worthy, expecting good things to come because you put in work and went through a lot. If it worked out, it would be a non issue. But some of us are used/abused, just watching others have love and lives that we hope to one day have, knowing we will have to sacrifice this or that, knowing life wont hand you someone perfectly. We do the work we are asked or told to do. Then bullshit shows up to court us. Its really not fair. Brainwashed with movies and tv shows, brainwashed with “love yourself first” and any other bad advice. That maybe after years of hell and being alone, that you could have something, someone… venture into feeling worthy. And bam. Its truly horrible because it stems from being treated poorly as a child and a pattern that is truly hard to break. This woman is lucky she had friends and found real support. Dont shame her. Some people are out here doing their best, and dont see it coming, because their minds and hearts could never think that way. And when you DO think that way… its a horrible reality anyway. “Yeah what do you expect” type attitude really pisses me off because it shows how accepted scandal is in society. How prevalent.

Only stupid people do send money 💰 to buy love 🤑🤑🤑🤑🤑🙈🙉🙉🙊

Wow how did you manage to pull that off?

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How can I get hold of this company? I lost all my assests

Company name is recycle and funds put together

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You are either young and naive, or just an ignorant person. It's been shown that virtually anyone can be groomed and scammed in this way, at vulnerable times in their lives. I'm sorry for you that you have no sense or compassion in your soul. You are worse off than she is.

@ Flavor Sweet you'd think she'd figure out it was a scam after he needed $ time after time despite being a successful businessman.

@@diane4488 no she's just pointing out that some people have no common sense and are beyond desperate. You know the old saying "a fool and his money......."

I completely agree.. I would never give or lend anyone that kind of money .. especially not some guy online lol people play victim but in reality they are gullible and believe the sad sob stories strangers say over the internet.. they deserve what they get especially now a days in the world we live in . Unless your married to them and or they’re family then and only then can you trust someone with that kind of money and even in some of those situations you can never 100 percent fully trust . .

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I don't have any sympathy for them at all because it is their fault for being so stupid. They willingly gave their money away just because of some photos and chat lines.

Exactly.

It’s crazy that some of the victims wouldn’t even give money to their own family members. But rather to a stranger

Not to state the obvious but this woman probably couldn't get a date in person. She was ripe for picking.

Or a lobotomy..

That's what I do.

Yes I agree.Id say "My King I'm so glad you brought up the subject of money because I have a big hospital bill that I need you to help me pay".Or "I can fly out to meet you right away if you'll send me the plane ticket"

A desperate, lonely, gullible one...sad.

That kind.