Happy Esther day. This Star Won't Go Out: www.tswgo.org Join us tonight for the Esther Day livestream: www.eventbrite.com/e/esther-day-virtual-party-2023-tickets-672431961097 It's at 8 PM eastern time. p.s. Added "Happy Esther Day" to the title because it seemed like people were getting the wrong vibe to the title. Sorry about that! -John
We have always known that educational videos are exempt from the 4 minute rule. What we have only recently come to appreciate is that every experience is educational when you are open to learning and growth. 💜
Relatable! That he recognized it and tried again is what the writing process is all about. Drafts can be hilarious though. It was fun to see the thought process this time!
I grew up with a father who couldn't say those 3 words, even the day I moved to the US when we knew we'd never see each other again. I'm 60 now, almost every time I walk away from a friend could easily be the last time. Saying I love you is super easy now. I love you Hank, I love you John, I love you Esther and I love everyone in this special community
Thank you for sharing. My Dad's father, who I never met, only said I love you to him twice. A lot better that never saying it, but my Dad still noticed all the times it wasn't said. He told me he didn't want it to be like that between the two of us. So, we say I love you every time we say goodbye to each other. I'm glad for it.
Two different holidays are being mentioned here, and I wanted to help clarify. Yesterday, the sixteenth of Av was a Jewish day dedicated to the pursuit of matrimony. The thirteenth of Adar, Purim is a day of celebration, and friendship. Queen Esther is the heroine of the Purim story.
My dad’s little brother passed away suddenly when I was a kid and my mom was pregnant with my little brother. It took me a long time to understand how much that impacted him. As an adult, I truly cannot imagine how fundamentally I would be changed if I didn’t have my brother. The day my little brother was born was the best day of my life and sometimes I’m embarrassed it took me so long to realize that. I love him so much.
Seeing John go to say something profound and almost breaking down and then stopping and saying it in a different way that wouldn't sound as written, ending up being more profound within that, is inspirational to say the very least
My father found out this month that he has cancer, and as his only remaining family a lot has fallen on my shoulders. This video on Esther Day also hits differently this year. Thank you John and Hank for both being so open with your struggles, and also the positive things to come out of difficult situations. Happy Esther Day Nerdfighters, DFTBA.
Lean on friends so you’re more stable while your Dad leans on you. My Dad’s diagnosis was in February and after surgery he’s doing better but it was a LONG way from there to here. All the best for strength & peace.
I'm sorry about your dad. Speaking your heart, sharing your sorrow together, talking together about a future with or without him--these are heart-changing actions.
As someone who just lost their father to cancer a month ago (After a long battle) I wish you and your family the best through this journey and hope it ends with the cancer going into remission.
I'm 29, and started watching this channel starting with the beginning videos around age 20. I never connected the dots that Esther and I were the same age. Thank you for sharing that.
It was apparent by the age 5 that my nephew had a remarkable mind, curious beyond any curiosity I’d known, and he grew up into a curious, brilliant, kind man. I’m so happy that, after years of study and hard work, he has now completed the study and practice he has needed to become an oncologist. I am grateful in advance for the people he will help and in fighting the scourge of cancer. And I will take the time today to tell him, again, that I love him.
My identical twin passed of leukemia 10 years ago, very interesting to see the differences in non-twin siblings, we were so close that I almost knew something was seriously wrong beforehand, as we hardly ever spent a day apart, god I miss that part of being a twin. Anyway, awesome for sending this message out to your brother and to everyone ❤cancer sucks, I wish your brother the absolute best.
As a twin (fraternal, but still) myself, that is a pain I cannot fathom and don't think either my sister or I will ever be ready for when it inevitably comes. I'm sorry for your loss. I hope your twin is resting peacefully, and I'm sure they are with you even still, forever and always. Twins are never truly separated, in my opinion. I can sometimes even feel when my sister is not doing well just from a simple text message when I'm miles, and even timezones, away from her. So I hope the same goes for you, that you can feel his presence and support from wherever we go when we pass.
Whether in written work or on Vlogbrothers, John's slightly grumpy and reluctant energy seems to have this neat side effect of helping me feel safe enough to feel my feelings
This hits hard. I was lucky enough to get to say "I love you" to my brother, the night he passed away. Never miss that chance to say it because, "The clock of life is wound but once, and no man has the power, to tell just when the hands will stop at late or early hour." -Robert H. Smith. Sending much love to you and Hank, and I'm proud of you both ❤
This Ester day does hit different for me as well. I'm pregnant. The first 7 weeks were scary because of a previous loss and some bleeding with this one. They are due just before Valentines Day, and I know my frame of reference for love will be forever changed, and I already love this little plum sized fetus so much. Yesterday, we saw them on the ultrasound lying on their back, and sit up and flail their arms around, as if waving "hello." Ester day is also my mother-in-law's birthday. She is Mom. She has earned the title many times over. I have avoided calling my mother "mom" for years, because I am able to see where she didn't deserve the title, but she is making changes that in a few years, she might be worthy of "Grandmother". My father has passed, and my father-in-law hasn't overstepped, but has been there to help with some important dad moments.
Thank you for sharing with us. May the rest of your pregnancy be as smooth and uncomplicated as possible, for you and your tiny human. And Happy Birthday to your mother-in-law! She shares it with someone super special. Happy Esther Day!
As I sit here with my 1 month old napping on me, I hope the rest of your pregnancy, delivery, and newborn days go smoothly and healthily! ❤ Those grandmas can be lifesavers. Happy birthday to your mother in law, and happy Esther day!
Now try it for real. Sometimes writing is easier. Get some dopey dollar store cards, write it out with the TSWGO, link and slap on a stamp before you think too much. I love you internet stranger. I waited too long am now my mom is dead.
Happy Esther Day to this weird community who makes me feel valued on the worst days. Thank you for creating a space where I can make weird art with silly ideas to bring joy and occassionally help with raising money for charity. Big shoutouts to all the Rachels and associates, the NFTWT crew, and the dftbaDOTclub mastodon family.
This Esther day hits different...having gone through my own cancer journey and now realizing Esther and I are the same age. Thank you John for your words and Esther for this incredible day.
This is my son's and my adoption birthday It's his second birthday I adopted him 14 years ago today He is now 26 in a business owner doing very good for himself so beautiful to hear that there is a actual holiday on our special day that we've always considered a holiday Cheers to Esther and to all those celebrating love
Thank you for seeing all of us. My husband is currently fighting esophageal cancer, and waiting six months for disability to kick in has been financially devastating, but things matter so little now. I love you to all my fellow caregivers, family, friends, and to the warriors fighting this sucky disease. ❤
Thank you for this video John. This is the exact embodiment of everything Esther Day is about. As you said so many years ago, it is "a Valentine's Day for the rest of love". Thank you for continuing to honor Esther's wish for us--even if it means you have to say "I love you" to Hank once a year. 🙂
I had a similar heart attack as most did I think, except having been here for long enough went "wait what day is it? Is it Esther Day?" Happy Esther Day everyone, we're glad you're still here and we love you.
almost every Esther Day video makes me emotional, but this is the first that's made me cry. an immense amount of love to everyone who is scrolling through the comments and needs to hear it. I am grateful for your existence.
I am not an active part of this community (I've been here for years but I rarely contribute) but Esther Day has had a pretty important impact on my life. I don't have a huge problem telling people I love them and I think of "I love you" as one of my most important phrases. Not just to my parents or girlfriend but to my brothers and my friends. I am often thought of as weird for standing up as best man at my best friend's wedding and telling him I love him. But to me it is so important that the people in our lives know they are loved. And Esther day has always been a reminder of that for me. Much love to all.
The puff, while very prominent currently, exudes a maturity that previous prominent puffs did not. How fitting for such a mature and wonderful and poignant Esther Day
@@unnamellie The quality varies quite a lot, and of course even if it were truly the best quaity on the planet, that means nothing if you can't afford it. People have gone broke from medical debt even if they did have insurance. And insurance is a racket that only serves to drive the prices up higher. First you pay a solid percentage of your wage to buy the insurance, which only covers a limited amount even under normal circumstances. Insurance "covered" an operation I had, and I still had to pay $2,000 out of pocket. Insurance "covered" some tests I had, and I still had to pay $2,000 out of pocket. And I'm NOT wealthy by any stretch of the imagination.
This isn’t even close to my first Esther Day, it’s more like my 10th or so, but it definitely hits different. Happy Esther Day to everyone! Love you Hank and John. Thank you for everything 🫶🏻
Once again I'm sobbing because of the way he talks about his love for Hank 😭 My favourite John Green quote "I never let the fact that Hank is younger than me stop me from looking up to him" (Might not be the exact quote but i think about the sentiment a lot)
thank you for putting this out, I sent 10 postcards to friends explaining Esther Day and telling them I love them and they are going to have to look it up. Hopefully they pass it on next year
I never really heard those words on a regular basis when I was little. I never heard my parents say it to each other and they rarely said it to me. Yes, when I was older they said it a few times but I have zero memory of them saying it when I was younger. They are important words. Important for the person hearing them. Important for the person saying them. I try to tell my children all the time. I don't want them to have the same memories of not hearing it as I did. Tell the people you love that you love them. Our society needs more of that ❤❤❤
My grandfather passed away on father’s day this year due to cancer. I was a huge Fault in Our Stars fan and I read Esther’s book when it came out. Reading this title I immediately started crying. Thank you for keeping her memory alive and for spreading the message of love and hope. I needed this today
The older I get, the more it feels like Esther Day is coming around more and more quickly! Anyway, glad this holiday came into my life when I was a teenager, it definitely shaped me a lot. I definitely tell the people that I love that I love them. Thanks Esther. And you, Hank and John.
My therapist says that all children need the 4 A's in life: Attention, Acceptance, Approval and Affection. And that includes all the inner children we adults have inside us. This has helped me so much in raising my kids. Thanks for establishing such an awesome holiday. I love you guys.
It’s strangely inspiring to see the near-constant emotional struggles of, by any reasonable measure, an immensely successful human being. We love you, John.
I've always said I love you to my mum, my grandma and grandpa, and they always knew. But when my grandpa went to the hospital in 2020 (not because of covid) and we didn't know what was happening, I made sure to say I love you to him every time we talked (covid restrictions plus I was abroad, so we talked on videocalls, and a few times a day). And not just once, but several times per call. We've talked about so many things and that week...he went to the hospital on Monday, passed on the night between Friday and Saturday... I am still so glad that I told him I loved him more than I had before. We both knew it, but it felt so good to have said it out loud so many times that week. And it is worth it and while I am sad (typing this story is making me cry), that...that makes it a little bit easier.
Using ‘and’ has helped me to provide the positive reframing my nervous system desperately needs without diminishing the validation of how I feel. “This summer has sucked, and I have gotten closer to your brother.” To me, it feels like a better reflection of how enmeshed reality is?
I just wanted to say i only ever learned about esther, nerdfighters and so much more connected to this when esther day already went on for a while. I did not have the joy to know her. but she influenced me deeply, moved me when i listened to her and made me change to become a person with hope and goals and, most importantly, compassion. This star will indeed never go out. And i am proud to be a small, but living proof. thank you esther.
This posted prompted me to text my adult son. He hasn’t been talking to me for the past 10 months. I hear he’s using substances which very negatively impacted the lives of his father and me when he was being introduced to the world and I miss him terribly. So, thanks. I just told him that I love him, and I’ll always answer when he’s ready. 🤞Hope it works. 🤞❤ Happy Estherday. (I like that it sounds like yesterday.)
I think it’s very important to say I Love You as often as you can. Life is unpredictable & so precarious. My brother’s wife died from brain cancer a few years ago & I’m glad I was able to say it to her every now & again before that. My brother & I have always been able to say it. I survived heart failure when the chances were very low & I definitely didn’t see that coming. You just never know what might come your way. Make sure the people you love know you love them! ❤❤❤
In the weird way that a long time online fan, that has occasionally interactions with the person they are a fan of, I love you Hank and John. I also love those of you in nerdfighteria that I have gotten to even in the littlest amount; you all make my life so much better (especially during P4A). Thank you everyone! I hope you have the best Esther day.
As an Ester... so many big Esther shoes to fill. Sometimes it is really hard to sign my light, but I will continue to endevour to honor my namesake, and fight for the star not to go out. 💫
I was just recently thinking about how much I appreciate that my family has grown to end just about any interaction possible with "I love you." We say it over the phone, when leaving for work, when we go to bed, even just passing in the hallway. I took it for granted for so long. But as my grandmother's health starts to wane and my dad gets up there in years, I've started to think about how much it means that I'm lucky enough to have so many chances every day to share these sentiments with my loved ones. I'm also now realizing that the person I express this the lest to is my own sister. I should probably work on that, huh? I don't think I've ever cried so much writing a youtube comment before, either😅.
oh boy I just LOVE starting my day with a hearty bawl. I don't know you guys personally but I do love you. Thanx for making my life a little more bearable.
My mother died of cancer within 3 months of her diagnosis this year. I miss her every day. I wish I could tell her I love her today. Cancer sucks. DFTBA ❤
Happy Esther Day ❤ I am grateful and thankful I have friends and family who I can tell I love them every day, but Esther day is a great reminder how broad and diverse love truely is ❤
The timing of Ester Day this year is particularly painful for me, but that doesn't stop me from being grateful for a day that will remind people to express their love and care.
One of my favorite things to say is "you are my friend and I love you." And I even tell my little brother I love him, too, John -- proving we big brothers can learn. :)
I've saw so much loss but I learned long ago to tell everyone I love them so much it's awekquard I lost my mom June 2023 so not long ago when I'm writing this cuz I know she new how important she was when she was alive that it's the thing getting me through this. please people say I love you as much as you can it's not simping it's the greatest thing we have and most the time we don't know how loved we are
I saw the title of this video and knew it was gonna hit differently. Thank you for making this video, John. We love you, John and Hank. These stars won't go out.
This Star Won’t Go Out paid for a hotel room a few times when my daughter had cancer. Such a great charity. Such a great holiday. Esther was such a great kid. ❤❤
My brother has dysphasia. Finding the help he needed was difficult. I love my family, my friends. Everyone dies and we are never prepared and we grieve our loss.
Todos os anos o vídeo de Esther Day me faz chorar. É lindo, mesmo, especialmente porque é um legado lindo de uma menina muito especial que viveu muito pouco.
Missed Esther day this year, for the first time since I've known about it. I'll make up for it tomorrow, but it comforts me that I spent the day before Esther day with my mum, exploring a city, so even if I didn't say it out loud, we both sure felt it. Happy Esther Day Hank, John, the team behind you, and all of nerdfighteria. Love you
