I'm 23 and have never had a girlfriend... 

I'm a grandmother. Let me tell you, young man, youre on the right track! However most girls these days are superficial. Finding your soulmate isn't easy anymore, but don't give up hope and pray on it. I never did. Probably missed him by 100 years! You are very handsome and have a good heart, guard it well. I will pray for you, my Dear!

i'm 25 and virgin and man nothing feels worse than when all of my friends get gfs and talk about their dating lives with me, while I still haven't gotten a date once 🙃

Worst feeling, ur family asks about it all the time. It hurts.

I’m 25, turning 26 soon, and I’ve never experienced love. You’re not alone ❤

Hey don't worry about it man. I'm 27 and never had a girlfriend either. The worst part is my friends and relatives all think I'm too good-looking to not have a girlfriend. But because I'm kind of socially awkward and shy, I was never able to get one.

You have a lot of balls to speak of these personal things. It's admirable. You've actually given me the idea of doing it myself here on RU-vid.

37 and never kissed a girl. and im looking far more weird than you and i was bolding at my 20s. you are not ugly at all. you just look fine.

I'm the same age as you bro and I can totally relate. We are NOT weirdos, we are perfectly normal. We've been taught about a world that is completely different from reality. Discover your passion and go for it, enjoy the little things and strive for great things and if you find someone along the way, good on you, but you must learn to be confortable with being alone because relationships are mostly bs right now.

Hi Mari...my relationship story as a young man was so much like yours! I finally found a girl that I really was drawn to, and I got the "wobbles" for awhile n she almost gave up on me. One day I stepped out and took her out. ...we started getting together to have fun, walk on the beach and stuff. We got engaged. then married. I was 29! ...next August, we will have been married for 50 years. It does happen. My prayers are with you, friend!!

I just turned 24 and never had a girlfriend as well. I don't know anymore at this point. It's hard not to want to give up. I do so much, I'm a great guy (I try to be), and I'm still alone. What's crazy is that there's always people them on the internet who will shit on you and minimize you and look for every fault in you to gaslight you. At this point, I'm not sure I want to continue with life. I guess I have my passions and my job but I can't live the rest of my life for those.

24 after 3 months. I just gave up at this point. I think some people destined to live alone forever. I'm one of them.

I have depression since 10 years, have been diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder 3 years ago and also borderline personality disorder 2 years ago, I'm 25 and never had a boyfriend, got mercilessly bullied in school, physically and emotionally abused by my father, and never ever had any friends. We all are struggling in this life no matter how much people show you their vacation pictures, new car, house, perfect partner etc on social media. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Nobody has life figured out. Remember that. Stay resilient, focus on the good, stop comparing and keep going. You are stronger and braver than you think. You've got this.

You're handsome and well-spoken and articulate, your lady is out there somewhere. Keep living and improving yourself and following your dreams and desires.

23 too bro. Good on you for having the balls to speak your mind. I feel somewhat the same about life right now and always have. I was recently the closest to ever having a girlfriend and did things for this girl I had never done in my life for anyone. She broke my heart yesterday bro. Move forward the time and place will present itself. Gods timing. PS I am 6ft 6, I work out am in shape, play football, am in a band and yet I am deep down extremely awkward when it comes to intimacy and opening myself up. Out in public I am confident but not when it comes down to meaningful relationships. I will strive to improve always. Keep your head up we in this together.

I m 40 and I've never had a girlfriend before. It never happened in my 20's and 30's. People are fucked, I stopped trying. Dont give up.

I was like you. Then I managed to finally somehow ask a few girls out in person. Got rejected everytime. Now I'm still alone at 34 and it's pretty obvious it will stay that way. There's nothing wrong with me either. The fact is our current society doesn't allow for our personality type. Our culture is purposely rigged to promote the worst behaviours to dumb down the future populations. If you're not acting like what's promoted, and you won't be able to fake it, then you're going to struggle. You're not perceived as part of the tribe and women want nothing to do with you, you have no social value.

I’m 29 and I’ve had 1 girlfriend. You are not missing out on anything bro. It’s not normal for people to just bounce around having relationships but for some messed up reason we think it is normal today

I feel the exact same way you do. I’m 23 and constantly sad because I feel like I’m holding onto an ideal in my head of what love is. But if I met you, I’d think you were worthy to want to get to know. You seem lovable to me as a 23 year old woman. I think our generation was raised on our phones and by TV and didn’t get a lot of hands on life experience or parenting. We were put in rooms and listened to one adult who seemed to have all the answers. Now that it’s our time, we’re terrified to realize we have to create our own answers. We’re young. It’s gonna be okay 🤍

I am 23 years old too. The worst thing about this issue is that it can come into my mind suddenly and unintentionally in the middle of a day and cannot do and focus on anything else just because of overthinking about this. 😢

i reached my 30 and i've never had any girlfriend either and still a virgin and not planning to lose it and gave up any hope of being in relationship a very long time ago, and to be honest i feel happy about it because i don't get to suffer any consequences by being with the wrong person, as i see a lot of stories on the news of people killing their spouses and divorces that end up with problems in courts and single divorcees with children to take care of

I'm 31 and never had a girlfriend. Hearing the stories out there with relationships... if that is still true at 40+ I really would not care one way or another. It's not you... everything is indeed broke right now. Work on yourself, work on your spiritual life, and find joy and peace.

damn bruh. its just kinda crazy how nobody is talking about the forbidden e-book that is called crushanygirl

Don't overthink.There is nothing wrong with you. The moment you let go of expectations, overthinking, and try to focus on you, everything will fall into place at the right time. That's what i learned after strugling for many, and many years. Just keep moving and growing, you will get there 100% ❤👊🏻

I'm 24, and I'm not into girls, I'm into guys. I as well, never have been in a relationship. When I was 23, I had the closest thing to a relationship, though I was never official with him. We didn't work, out and it broke my heart - took several months to get over. It doesn't help that I also have attachment issues too, so that's been a huge disadvantage on my end too. I'm currently in therapy and the thing that they told me (after I ranted to them about me and my personal life) is that I have a void in myself, that I'm trying to get others to fill for me, as I don't have it within myself. As a result, I'm going to others, looking for that acceptance, validation, and looking to be valued. So in a sense for me, I have to better myself, and learn to love myself. Cuz I always hear ... that you can't truly love someone or expect someone to love you, if you don't love yourself. So I think that most of us just need to work on ourselves first and learn to love ourselves before getting into a relationship. For myself, I know that is very true, as I basically have no self-love, and when I am in a relationship, I'm certain it won't work out until I work on myself. There is nothing wrong with you, keep pushing through, you got this.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. You're handsome, well-spoken and a deep thinker.

#1. There's nothing wrong with you #2. You live in a country that doesn't value connection at all #3. The vast majority of young women are thotting around #4. You probably don't have the resources yet to go to a country with family values #5. You've actually dodged a bullet by not being with western women (they're too experienced for you) The bottom line is that you are young, you have not been soiled by angry, bitter women who've already been ran through. Your goal right now is not to focus on love, but on your personal and business purpose. You WILL get your opportunity to be with a traditional foreign woman who has no experience like you. You WILL notice how much more social everyone is overseas. Never forget that no matter what age you are, you're a man and you have the options...

I am in the same boat my friend. I am 27 and never had any Girl friend. Never had any kiss, or even a hug or even a handshake lol. Just wanted to experience what it feels to be in love. Someone to talk to. Someone to care about. Someone who cares about you. None nada nope. The world moves on without you. The world forgets you. How did I end up like this. I never thought I will end up like this. All my friends call me a loser. Tomorrow is my birthday and I don't have a single female friend who will wish me. Feels very depressing and comedic. Feels like time is moving so fast and I am still stuck in my teenage years mentality, trying to woo any girl.

Worst feeling ever man. Am 23 turning 24 and never went on a date, don't even know what it feels to touch a woman. Had few crushes in the past, tried with them all and got rejected, had this one girl I really really liked in high school, got brutally shot down and went into depression for months. went to gym, read books, focused on studies, now 23, still no love. Out of sheer desperation, tried online way, chatted with this awesome girl for like 10 days, but she also started ignoring me, rarely replying and that too just emojis. I have watched many YT videos, tried almost all kinds of approaches, ran endless simulations in my mind, practicing what to speak or not when approaching her.....But still at square 1. At this point I don't even know if it is really meant to be or not. I want to give up but that little sliver of hope is what keeps me optimistic but at the same time it's the hope that kills me.

Here's the truth and it might be a little harsh but you need it. In this day and age being 23 and single doesn’t surprise me. With all the tech everyone is socially awkward but that's another topic. You are super likable and attractive but you are gloomy. Just from what I’ve witnessed in your few videos if things don’t come easily you tend to say they aren’t worth it. For instance, life and love. You are too self-conscious. You need to focus on whether or not you like the girl and not care if they like you because they all aren’t going to and that’s fine. You are letting off a vibe and it's probably making the girls you interact with confused. They probably can’t tell you are interested. As a guy you have to put yourself out there and they will choose. The girl in school liked you. I don’t know if you still have a shot. Try asking them to study with you privately. Coffee, whatever. If they say yes, you're half way there. If they say no you won’t die, it doesn’t mean you’re ugly or that life isn't worth it. You are making everything harder than it has to be. Get on it. You aren’t going to be young, fit and good looking forever. And if you show your sensitive side right away, they will run but you haven't got that far yet. Don’t tell them all your problems. Try to have a good time. SHIT YOU WANT TAKES WORK. It's a pain in the ass but that's the way it is. You have all the tools you just have to take them outta the box. Hope this helps.

This is probably one of the most relatable videos I've ever seen! God bless you man! The girls these days are just not like how they were before. One day you'll find the one. I hope I do as well.

Really feel this man, 24 and have only had a couple of relationships but nothing lasts. Was lucky to get them off the ground to begin with. No matter how much I’ve tried self improvement and holding myself accountable for my flaws, nothings ever good enough for anyone. I hope more ppl will empathize rather than point and laugh because that’s just inhuman imo. It’s very sad to see so many videos like this now but it’s just becoming a staple on every platform because of how alone so many ppl are, including myself. Im by no means normal and have had a lot of mental health issues develop over time that I’m doing my best to tackle, so I can understand why there isn’t an appeal there. It’s like deep affection is something that no one will ever show towards me and it’s so painful.

I’m 22 years old and I never had a girlfriend either, you’re not alone man!!!! just keep focusing on yourself and making that money 💯🙌

I am 42 years old and never had a girlfriend. Dude, you are 23, you have still plenty of time but I need to tell you one thing: If you stay negavtive like this things will never change. I know that from my own experience. I can only dream about being 23 again to still be in a position to have my own family. So stay a little bit positive and try to work on yourself before it is too late. And if you wont find a girlfriend, there will be a time when you will accept that. And even if you find a girlfriend, there is a big chance that you will break up. I never had a girlfriend but i am happy that i never experienced how it feels if a woman that you love leaves you.....Being single also has a lot of good things and the best thing is that you have more freedom and dont need to take care of anyone.

Gosh, this was so relatable. I've been feeling the same way lately about love. I like to watch those movies with the wholesome love stories, but it's all a lie, and reality kinda sucks. I definitely know what you're going through, man, and you are a good-looking dude, and you seem like a nice guy. I know it doesn't mean much, but I hope you find you a nice girl, bro.

I am also 23. I am a bright student. But the sadness in my heart that I dont have a girl friend gives me a lot of pain. I actually cant concentrate on my studies. I even have fallen down on my grades. Every evening i cry for my self and truly i even hate my self. Thats how this problem seriously is..

I would say that I think your biggest and only fault that I can discern is that you're blaming yourself for your situation. Ultimately we cannot control our luck, but we have to believe and be ready to strike when the opportunity arises. You can't make someone love you, but what CAN you do to improve your life? I'm in the same boat, although only 21, and my approach to this point is to just focus on improving my life, pursuing my studies and my passions and trying to put myself out there a bit. I haven't gotten anywhere close to a relationship thus far, but it only takes meeting 1 person to change that. My time will come, and I just need to be ready when it does

Look man, I understand its hard. Dont give up. You cant choose where your story begins but you can decide how it ends. Work on yourself and you'll realize its not depression, its you longing for something you always wanted and never achieving it. Go out there and get at it dawg 💪🏾

I’ve often wondered the same thing. I’ve had so many romantic interests run away from me and hide over the years. I kept wondering what I was doing wrong. Then I took the bold move of looking elsewhere-I mean literally, geographically. I’m not sure where you live, but I had been living in the U.S. and had found relationships of all kinds incredibly complicated. I went to the Philippines and found the people there generally (but not always) to be easier to interact with and less complicated. And whereas in the U.S., I had always had to chase after friends and romantic interests alike, there it was they who were doing the chasing. There is nothing wrong with you. There is something wrong with the people who run away from you. Look somewhere else, and you will probably find someone who chases after you for once. And if you really like that person, then maybe you’ve finally found your soul mate! I don’t know when or where it will happen. What I do know is that you are very much deserving of it.

Don’t feel bad man. I’m 19, and I have never experienced love before. I totally relate to you and I have experienced the same thing you have. Just do whatever makes you happy and live life to the fullest. Whether you want a relationship is up to you, bro. :)

I am 46 and am with my first real girlfriend. I met her when I was 34. Don't rush it. Eventually you will find someone who, believe it or not, connects with your shyness. Just keep pushing man. Don't put a timeline on it. The more you plan it the more frustrated you will become. And the harder it will be to find someone. There's nothing wrong with you. You really need to learn how to love yourself. Stop focusing on what you think is wrong with you. We are all flawed. You have a very deep thought process. Figure out how to turn that into your superpower. And wear that as what makes you interesting and attractive.

Wow! You're just like me. I'm 25 and never had a girlfriend ever . Everything you said is exactly me. Seriously. If anything not having a girlfriend was the best decision. Think about it you have more money, no responsibilities, no stress all you need man is a friend that cares about you.

Dude, honestly never have I ever related to a video more than yours in my entire life. I’m 25 and let me tell you I’ve always been a social outcast my whole entire life girls don’t find me interesting at all. I can be the kindest person in the entire world with a great big heart but no one cares to see that all people care about is the superficial stuff which I just don’t understand, and I agree with all the points that you made that it’s just weird and how we is human beings need to be noticed is odd. Honestly bro I’ve given up as well. I’ve tried everything I possibly can and it just doesn’t work out if you’re too boring, they want nothing to do with you. Not only that but they don’t even know what they want and then they’ll accuse us of not knowing what we want. It’s just kind of this weird game that we’re all playing that no one wants to be playing anymore. Not to mention these days with how girls act online and on social media platforms it’s disturbing because you can’t find a good honest, passionate woman these days that’s also my biggest problem is most of the girls that are beautiful either do some type of work that isn’t really good online, it’s just a mess dude, an absolute mess 7:14 And I understand what you mean. I wish things could be like the way they are in TV shows and anime a lot as well but real life isn’t like that and it’s a damn shame that it can’t be.

am 45. never had a gf. am 6'2 too. guys in previous generations were told how to socialize so they had it easier.

You know because I've been single my whole life, I sometimes wonder if there are any good women left. I also sometimes wonder if I was never meant to have a girlfriend, but that's just me on this and I honestly don't really care anymore

I feel exactly the same way. it really hurts because so many people get into relationships so quickly and I feel like I'm never the one people pick. keep fighting, I hope better things come your way.

23 year old guy here too and I relate to you bro. At this point I feel a kind of apathy towards the thought of me ever being a relationship or even talking to a woman but for some reason it brings me peace? Like a big weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Having a relationship isn’t a requirement to enjoy life or to get fulfillment. I think we’re gonna be ok and I hope the best for all of you, whatever path you take.

i'm a girl but everything you said i relate to - at this point, love doesn't feel real and yes, lots of relationships around me do not work out - they are not forever (like our fiction worlds) it just constantly reaffirms that love is just something not meant for us or we haven't found someone yet but knowing that there is someone out there, a guy, who thinks the same as me is so reassuring and i thank you for that

I'm right there with you brother. I'm 23 and never had a girlfriend.

Here's what you should know: Everytime you get into romance, you are risking yourself of a heartbreak. Trust me, it would be like walking barefoot on a burning charcoal. Betrayal is the most painful thing in this lifetime. If you wanna give romance a try, be ready to get hurt. Despite of that, it's not the end of the world.

I'm 23 and have never been in a relationship either. My high school and college experience featured many girls who I tried to get to know in hopes that I'd end up in a relationship but it failed every time. It's very frustrating and demoralizing. It always hurts to be turned down. I have mental issues as well. I have OCD and social anxiety. My social anxiety makes it so hard for me to spend time with girls, as I'm very afraid of being a creep. I also might be mildly depressed. Furthermore, my social skills aren't great and that might be off putting to some people. I wish you the best in finding a woman who you love. 23 is early in life and there is still plenty of time to mentally heal, learn how to relate to girls, and work towards a better life. I know there are men who found their first girlfriends in their late 20s. There is still lots of hope and I hope you find love, happiness, and peace of mind.

i'm the exact same way brother, it's hard but good to know another person is going through the same struggles as me. I hope you find the one and improve on all ur social skills man

I’m 23 too and kinda in the same boat, I never had an actual relationship either just casual intimacy which btw didn’t help my mental state. What I’m about to say sounds corny af but honestly I recently figured out self hatred was the core of all my problems. I was bullied as a child/teenager for being socially awkward, internalized it and hated myself ever since to the point of debilitating depression which caused me to fall behind in university and having “ending” thoughts. Since I went to hating myself to making an active effort to love myself no matter what I can honestly tell my life is improving. I picked up the pace with my studies, work out and take care of myself regularly, go out more and honestly feel like people around me enjoy my company better. It’s really hard at first especially if like me you used constant escapism to cope with reality but it’s the best choice I have ever made. Hope this inspires you to follow the same path if you are still in the same state you were 9 months ago.

Oh man. It is almost looking into the mirror when I was a teen into my early 20's watching couple of these videos... I told my self exactly what you been saying. I was actually very shy. No convendence. Afraid of being rejected. Afraid of choosing the wrong person and then to afraid of breaking up with them. Being stuck. I didn't like myself in that time period. I join the military. It did help me but I do not recommend it now. I feel bad for the younger genetation. We really failed them. School and society just made it worse for boys. society telling young men that they are toxic acting a certain way. If you are a nice shy guy, I get held back from social norms. Women today are giving wrong messages to men. It is so toxic. It is easy to tell this guy he has it good for not jumping into a relationship. I also understand feeling of loneliness. Not fitting in. Want a relationship and not experiencing it. It is depressing. Also feeling being afraid to talk to women and starting a relationship and doing something wrong and being hinge in the wrong way. Again, our society failed this good man right here. All I can say .. We are all going to die one day. Do not exist it by giving up. Actually life gets little better for myself when I go to the age 28. I am glad I didn't get any one pregnant. I finally met my now wife in my 30's. I am so lucky. Life sucks. I've been in war. I seen the world. One day I realize man, I do not have it bad as other humans on this planet. I awaken into reality at that moment.

I'm 23 also bro i feel you i have never been in a relationship as well bro had behavioral issues too growing up i 'm average as well its the generation we live in nobody socializes in person anymore and some women have some of the highest standards known to man kind but there are women out there that want an average normal guy out there i see it daily. don't give up bro and don't settle for less keep doing you

I know EXACTLY how you feel and I'll be 100% with you. I'm 20 years old soon to be 21 and I've seen a LOT of things for someone my age. And let me just do a mic drop....which means I'm about to tell you just EXACTLY what's going on. #1 The reason why you don't get close to anyone is because you have that internal guide telling you "This person isn't right" and tbh it's a protection. It's literally sparing you all the heartache, baggage and regrets that come from a lot of relationships that form and you see how people treat it. #2 You're a pure-hearted honest soul that isn't about anyone or anything phoney and I can tell that the little show people put on *doesn't* impress you at all. Neither does it impress me either. But those girls can sense that they can't manipulate you and immediately lose interest because they're looking for a puppet so they can pull on the strings. 3# It's not you, it's them. I've been through this too many times. They have yet to grow up in ways. People nowadays are very selfish but I can tell you're quite the opposite. That in itself is attractive. #4 Those boys that seem to get relationships all quick and that seem so "successful" are usually not that developed mentally, emotionally, or psychologically. Nor do they realize that internal growth is *needed* for a relationship. You on the other hand, are someone who recognizes that there are things to work on within yourself and you're growing in those areas. Because you're taking the time to work on those areas, you'll be more successful than them. Most guys I've been in a relationship with, I've come to find out that they have a lot of unresolved and unhealed childhood traumas that they need to fix themselves instead of thinking a mate will undo all of that. And as a result I've been through *so much* unnecessary pain because they WOULDN'T own up to their actions. You on the other hand are working on your communication skills which are *vital* for a relationship. So again, you'll be more successful because as a man you recognize the need to improve in those areas. That's highly respectable and attractive. #5 The media portrays a lot of falsehoods in general including romantic love. That's expected. Reality on the other hand can be painful but you're sparing yourself from a lot of unnecessary baggage that comes from all of that. #6 When it comes to myself, my issue is no one cares long enough to make a relationship last. Even though I'm fully capable I can't hold up 100% of that, it should be 50-50 but sometimes it's 89-11 or 67-33 or 45-55. As you may notice, all of these equal 100 but not everyone wants to do their part to keep it 100% with you. People do this in general. So don't worry you're not alone. #7 Don't give up--in any area of your life. I know it may be difficult because people contribute their two cents to a situation and make it difficult for you at times. You're growing to be more at peace with the fact you're a work in progress. Continue. There is nothing wrong with you. By age 23, folks usually have a bunch of exes, kids, child support, unstable relationships, and have baggage. You on the other hand, are choosing a better route which will be better in the long run. #8 I think you're a great guy. You have integrity which most don't. I'd be more than happy to be close to someone like that because you stand for the truth and don't fall for anything. It's still very possible to be close to someone. I believe in you. If you ever need a close friend, I'm here. _caramel_curlfriend_4u is my insta. I'm glad you are honest with yourself. It'll make the process more bearable and more possible for you to grow. Thanks for sharing. Feel free to give me a follow on my IG or here. I'm here to support.

Stay away from dating apps, and if you meet someone that you end up liking you have to get ahead of the game and at least be subliminal about your interest before being placed in the friendzone (easier said than done). I'm an introvert, and started realizing that being direct was hard for me, so I started showing interest to girls "subliminally" to see if there's any chance. Shit sometimes they would end up being more direct with their interest afterwards. This is coming from a dude that doesn't feel good looking. Good luck out there man, just stay away from rushing it cause nothing good comes out of that

You have no idea how much I relate. I've never had special feelings for someone and just don't know how to get a girlfriend. I basically feel like giving up in even trying.

Ever since I was a teen, my grandparents would ask me if I already have a girlfriend every time I see them. I'm 26 by now and sometimes I now feel like saying "No, I don't and you'll two will probably die and will never see me with one. Same goes for me."

A mother of 4, my 17 and 19 year old have never had girlfriends either and they are fine with it. They don't focus on it. They hang out with friends and do their own thing. Nothing is wrong with you. Take it from a 44 year old who has lived and experienced life, if you just go about your life, it will usually happen unexpectedly....and as always pray about it,Jesus knows your heart knows what you need, continue to work on yourself....it will happen...❤

bro you're not alone. I'm a bi guy, only ever had one girlfriend when I was 13....never had sex, never really had a girlfriend and trying to talk to girls now feels weird and foreign. Dating apps have made me feel depressed. I completely understand what you mean about feel about giving up altogether

Relationships are not easy. I've been with someone for 18 years and there's some moments that are really great and some moments that are really painful and depressing. Being single has its problems. Being in a relationship has a different set of problems. I was single until I was 26. It's pretty common. We live in a society that asks 10 year olds if they have a girlfriend. It's so weird. Like, people need to chill. There's no time frame for being in a relationship. This societal pressure to get a girlfriend or a boyfriend is so unhealthy. There's no shame in struggling to find someone to date. That's a part of life. I wish there were adults who would make it a point of talking to teenagers about this. To take the pressure off. Just focus on school and on becoming the best version of yourself. It's not the job of another person to fill the void you have. You need to be confident in yourself and in your own abilities. Making these videos is a good idea. You get to see that other people are just like you. You get feedback from people and advice from people who are older than you. You're going in the right direction. It's a process that takes whatever time it takes. You're not unattractive or weird. You don't come off that way on video at all. Maybe it's because you're alone with the camera. Anyway, I think you're doing pretty good at expressing yourself. Good luck to you. Have a great end of the week.

Hey dude. Former finder of true love and expert on potential screwed up relationships here. After years of searching and always foolishly confessing too soon, I have come to learn from my mistakes and work to improve myself. Now I focused all my energy on strengthening and building relationships with people who care about me, friends I love. And you, my friend, should strive for that path, focus on yourself and your passions. You seem like a smart and kind young man with a bright future ahead of him. Stay strong my dude!

Im 25 year old virgin starting to work on my confidence and my social anxiety. You're not alone dude just don't give up hope

This makes me a lot more grateful for what I had. I have only talked to one girl in my life (with intentions of dating) and she turned out to be my girlfriend of 5 months (I was 17 and turned 18 towards the end of the relationship. I’ve been single for about 5 months now and I feel the same way I did before I met her. Hopeless, thinking I’m not good enough, never gonna find love, worried about what everyone thinks about me. You are not alone man. I hope you find your soulmate man. I’ll pray for you.

I’m 20, and relate with what you’re saying so much it hurts. My advice is this, trust god. I started trusting god, and prayed to him asking for him to bring me the one.. almost 30 Minuets later I met the woman. We both never thought we’d talk so corny, sweet and wholesome, but we talk like that to each other. God is good, he will bring you two together

I'm 27, and I am in the same situation, bro. I feel you, totally.

Me too bro, im almost 22 and I've just given up. I think giving up is the best way to cope. Now I see an attractive girl or if I see a girl that I like, I just say to myself, "Not for me" and that's it. I don't have to go through the pain of trying and failing and being depressed. I think it's better if you don't have any expectations you never get disappointed. Everytime I've tried I've always hit a wall, everytime I thought she likes me back I was wrong, either she didn't like me or she had a boyfriend or there was some favor she wanted from me. I've just told myself that all those smiles and signs are a fake thing that every girl does to attract you to her and make you want her so she feels good about her. I do not hate girls, it's just that I'm ugly and having a partner is not what an unattractive guy like me deserves. I was fairly smart and motivated and enthusiastic about being successful and becoming a great person but not anymore, I don't see the point of having to work hard and achieve something in life and not having anyone to share it with. There's billions of things I could say but nothings gonna make me feel any better, so it is what it is, I accept my fate that I'm not attractive and a thing called love isn't for me and I will have to live with that.

Hey man, don't give up and idk if ur religious but start praying to God and truly know that he always lives you and answers you prayers, might take some time for a few of those prayers but God does not do thing without purpose. I will pray for and just know that when you look for a girl, make pros and cons list of what you like and don't like don't settle for the first thing and when it comes to talking to them, just try not to think about it too hard. Your not ugly in any way. You just gotta pray to God work on your thoughts and your self before trying to get with someone. You can go to the gym it helps alot of us out and just focus on urself first and then start talking to thes girls, don't give up, the right girl doesn't care how you look. The on eyou want is the one that loves you for you try your best man and God bless i will keep you in my prayers bro.

I used to think like you and was very much the same, But i met this girl while traveling and we connected on the first date, i ended up staying the night, and spending multiple days with her at the end of my trip. After that we kept in contact, I came back to revisit and then she visited me in my country. Ended up being a 3 year relationship. In the end we didn't work out but im thankful for finally getting that intimacy and connection you are talking about. We still remain friends to this day. Now being single im back to square one. But i know it's out there, even though it is extremely hard to find again.

You are very cute and you aren’t weird. You haven’t met the right girl, that all. Be patient there are so many of us who are single and have been for years.

You’re such a bright soul. I can say the world needs more gentlemen such as yourself. You’re on the right track as the lady above stated. Don’t give up. Things will eventually fall into place.

You'll be okay man. Take this from someone who hasnt had a "girlfriend" since I was 15. I am now 24, i struggle with anxiety/depression and very much low self doubt/confidence You know what that teaches me though? That I am simply not mentally stable to have a girlfriend and settle down right now. I need to be able to look after my self before I am capable of having a partner and settling down. Maybe its the same with your situation but I dont know for sure. What Im really trying to say that if youre not confident on finding a girl yet. Then work on your confidence, otherwise you literally have no other shot. Build yourself first before worrying about relationships. You're still young and got your whole life ahead of you. If I can still have faith within myself, then there should be no reason you cant either.

I’m 40 years old and never had a girlfriend or a significant other and can definitely relate to you as 17 years your elder.

You're gonna be alright. I was a virgin up to my early 30s, and not by choice. I can tell you're going to be okay simply because of how you're putting yourself out there like you are. The one bit of advice I can give you is, know yourself. Who are you? What are your goals and your passions in life? What do you see as your field of endeavour? See, if you throw yourself into that, you'll find a sense of community and the rest will follow. It's not a magic bullet, everything won't necessarily fall together overnight, but it'll get you on the path you need to be on.

I wish you luck man! I’m a girl that’s never had a boyfriend but I’m not going to give up.💪 I hope you don’t give up because you seem like a good guy and you’re cute. I think part of it’s about timing and where you’re looking. You’ve probably done something like this already, but trying to do things that kinda get you surrounded or involved with people who have similar interests and/or values as you is a good way for meeting people. And if you try to talk to someone and you stumble on your words or something it’s okay. People get nervous and that doesn’t mean you’re weird or anything. I’m kind of shy because in groups of people I don’t know I kind of go quiet and I don’t really know what to say, but as long as you try to talk to people and don’t just give up you will improve in your socializing skills and feel more comfortable and confident. Really, if people won’t give you a chance because you’re nervous you don’t need them. You can find someone else who is actually considerate and not so shallow. Lots of good people exist, it’s just sometimes hard to spot them out in crowds. But really you seem that you’re no lost cause. I don’t see why you shouldn’t have a chance at finding love and getting a girlfriend and all that.😊

Appreciate the raw authenticity in this video, really something special about it.

dude it's because you're an awesome guy! You're intelligent and different. In a good way. God is protecting you from the evil in this world. STD,etc. God is with you brother.

Bro.. as a man to man I can say you ARE beautifull! Go out there and bless yourself making contact with the ladies around you! Be genuine and never forget to love yourself more than anything in the world. If you love yourself, you are getting better at recieving and sending love. We all go through rough periods of doubts and insecurity. Fuck that shit and pull yourself together to go fishing in the pond of love. You deserve it! 🍻 🎉

Man it's so hard but it's kind of a relief to know that you are not alone in that. I love listening to people having the same experience as me

I’m 44 bro . I have watched these women go from fun to be around to a complete nightmare to be around . When I was young I was excited to be with women . Now I can’t stand them . Things and people were different back in the day . I have been engaged and have had a lot of relationships. Meeting won isn’t hard for me but meeting one I want to spend time with is near impossible. You’re a good looking kid and articulate. The thing about the other guys is they don’t care , they have other interests that that value higher than women . I hope you gain some experience and realize your of higher value than the stress your putting on yourself. Relationships sound good in our mind but in reality it’s a ton of work . Focus on you , work hard , learn interesting things and enjoy life .

Keep smiling just like you did at the end, yes you are shy and your going to have to learn to overcome it, but you are handsome, take some more classes you’ll meet more girls and go back and talk to that girl again I promise it won’t be weird.

I understand everything your saying. People like ourselves have these issues at a very complex level. The depths of complexity goes so far it's difficult to explain and describe

Probably not gonna help you guys but im 23 with no relationships since i was 17. Im tall, extremely fit (mens physique bodybuilder), and considered a well above average looking man. Now where what ima say might help, my issue is im autistic and just struggle to talk to people. If you guys put yourself out there you will find someone. Go too the gym and talk to girls, speak too the girls you like at the store. Women seems scared and may not show interest but the reality is women are easily scared and shy. A woman could like you and you probably wouldnt know, ive had many many girls text me after highschool that I was their crush and because of my cold nature they were too scared too tell me. So please stop waiting and just go talk to the girls you like.

Some people are not meant to get married. Live life and enjoy life.

Hey, I just turned 24 and have the same feelings. I’m former military, been to college, fit, and making a decent salary but still nothing. I haven’t given up but I’ve definitely withdrawn and have to lie about my life to everyone. I do so because I’ve been beaten and seriously harassed, lost my career, to the impact of bullying simply because I have no intimate experience. The lies are working but corroding my heart. Honestly I can’t keep doing this anymore

I am exactly like you Mari, except I'm gay and I've never had a partner and wonder what is wrong with me. I also grew up having behavioural issues and dropping out of college, and one can't help but become depressed and bitter when you see people, who are simply themselves, getting overflowing love, admiration, opportunities, etc. because of their presentation. I do believe that energy has a lot to do with this, confidence, optimism and authenticity is something very palpable to others, and it can be off-putting if you don't have it. However, it's unfair since at one point in our lives we were all those things but told that we weren't enough, that we needed to change to fit in. When you can't be comfortable or at peace in your own skin or in your mind then anxiety creeps in as well as hypervigilence, you don't know who to be and eventually it's easier to avoid or push people away as a defense mechanism to protect our hearts. Since our society is so individualist, you're expected to mend these internal wounds yourself... But that's why it's great that you are opening up - it's the only true way to let people in again, and find solidarity through your suffering. I for one would love to be friends with you, you seem so honest, and perceptive.

I feel you bro like I don't want to go to a family reunion and hear stuff like "when will you wanna have a girlfriend"? People think its that easy to have one and shit, its not.

You’re actually doing pretty well from what I can hear. Something falls apart at the end. Either you’re psyching yourself out due to insecurity or your gut is telling you the person isn’t right. I’m like you in many ways, though you seem to be trying harder, to your credit. You’re also better looking than I. You’re clearly aware of some of the deeper issues. The surface level issue is that you’re broody. People, especially early 20s girls, generally like light + fun better than broody + wise, so you don’t get much attention by way of quantity. But of course some do like sensitive bois. Maybe you just need to allow yourself to be a bit less serious when getting to know someone. Women love the fun charismatic guy with a sensitive side. That’s not you, but I think people like us can succeed by inverting this. “Shy sensitive boy who’s comfortable being happy and relaxed and goofy around me” will do the trick for a lot of women. I think you can pull that off. So the play is to figure out what causes you to clam up around girls who you like and/or are interested in you, acknowledge that part of you, and figure out how to heal there so you can be freer. I’m a very stoic person around almost everyone, so people who get to know me are always delighted when they find out I have a goofy side. The problem for me is finding people who will entertain me, you’re an 8/10 in the looks department bro. I’m not ugly but I’m much more plain looking lol. I’m the same age as you, in a similar situation. I wish you all the best.

So relatable. Connecting with people seems impossible so I always get crushes on this wholesome chatacters . They are so interesting and easy to connect mentally with even if it's one sided. Its somehow comforting to know someone else , like you , thinks the same way as me

Mari, I'll be honest with you man, sometimes it's best to be alone. With a majority of the relationships I've been in, I honestly sometimes want to be alone and by myself. Sometimes when you seek something, you'll put yourself through hell just because you think it'll make you happy. It honestly and sadly is only a temporary happiness. Typically it's either an abusive relationship, or they want too much, or they want to rule you. People that come across vulnerable, will sadly be taken advantage of. I've sadly been in that rut my whole life. It's honestly best to work on yourself before you get with someone else. I used to think I needed someone to help me through these things, but what people say is true. You really have to work on and love yourself before you can accurately love another person.

I’m 19 and I had a girlfriend when I was 16 and I will tell you those were the best days of my life until she cheated. And ever since then it’s been so hard because I have to study the people I want to talk to.

same bro, at this point i'm afraid of intimacy and i think the damage of never experience any love leave me beyond repair

I’m 19 and never had a girlfriend either. I am also lost in life and basically relate to you very much, keep on going, you never know how things can take a 180 turn in the moments where you would not expect it.

This is a blessing - in almost EVERY way...I think you are blessed in every way but the comparison to what is "normal" makes you feel like you are not BLESSED af.

Hey man, I have a similar story. I've never had a girlfriend my entire life. I got rejected a couple of times, which didn't really affect my confidence because I totally get why. I have had women interested in me, but there was always something, like them being a bit overweight (I care about health and living to old age), and other things that I don't want to try to change about someone. Other times I've completely msised the clues or ignored them. I dont feel like I'm ugly, I do feel I'm unusual, but I just have only one person who I can relate to on the same level of imagination (best friend). But no women. I decided to keep studying, because my previous studies were 100% male. I'm now studying to become primary school teacher, and have ambitions to become minister of education in my country to better the education to prevent a depressing and understimulating situation. And also to make school and learning fun, to make kids realize why learning is so fun and important. I feel that education should be more in line with what scientific evidence tells, and what things we should abolish in the future, and which values are important in life, and why. I feel like the lack of education is the core of every problem, ever. But it's hard to find anyone who can even listen to this, let alone a girl who likes me that I like too. I realize that I have a lot of work to do on myself, but so many people (in general) are so incredibly surface-level, and trying to find women who aren't and also meet my criteria and also like me, is so hard. I know I will find her, but I feel so deprived of something I never even felt for longer than a month.

I rarely make these types of comments... I fucking get you man. I KNOW this type of sadness. You feel nothing's really wrong with your life, but you still feel SO FUCKING LONELY. Im not going to sit here like a fucking facebook mom or a dumbass motivational speaker saying "everything will be alright sweetie, you're beautiful, you'll find your soulmate, beauty is on the inside" or "keep grinding bro fuck women stay on your purpuse " If you have friends or relatives like these ignore them, they don't give a shit about you. Im a young guy like you, been through similar things, so maybe I can share some advice. Please, live the life YOU WANT TO LIVE. If anyone says otherwise, fuck them. Go outside, talk to someone, anyone, do the things you want to do, within reason. Gather experiences, with or without a partner. Take care of how you look. Prioritise meeting and talking to other people. I know that lonliness is fucking crippling. Sometimes you can't even get up to wipe your own ass. While everyones out getting drunk on Saturdays, you're rotting at your fucking bed watching ig reels. Its not a life worth living, I know that. Stay strong my friend. I pray that you find someone.

I'm 22 and I haven't had an IRL boyfriend yet. And I haven't had anything too serious online. meanwhile I'm definitely attractive, I try to be kind and caring and loving and think I am at least, etc. idk, man. Also I'm glad my comments to you about you being attractive clearly did help lol. At least now you think you're decent.

Bro i feel you. You are right with most of what you say. Life for men is not easy. You have to do it like a roleplay Videogame. You can level up in different points. Give yourself some time and every day try to get better in some way. And after 5 - 10 years you will be even greater than you are now my friend. You are intelligent, i see it in the way you think and speak. Use this for your advantage. Never against yourself. Try to find way to get high income and lift weights but give yourself time. It will get you confidence. Maybe there is someone you know you lives life like you want to live it. Go talk to him. Ask him to be a mentor for you on your way in some points. You have nothing to Lose my friend like most of us. Use this for your advantage. Hope the best for you ❤

Dude, you are literally blessed!! For now, u might think that ur unlucky cuz u didn't find love, but trust me, ur blessed cuz u don't know how happy you'll be later on. Maintain this single streak, and you'll eventually realize why u were so lucky never having a girlfriend

i am proud of you, because you really try hard to improve your life. Nothing is wrong with you. The communication style in your Generation is broken. People hardly connect during the spare time. Everybody is online. I am sorry for you, because I relate to you very much. My life was also difficult because of a difficult start in the family.