hairline wont solve his problems ,im pretty sure he would choose to be bald and his problems to be fixed than choosing his current life. theres more important things in life than a haircut
I love how many people are highlighting this in his comments. I’ve been SO SICK of ‘youtubers’ for years now. This is the kind of content I miss from my childhood. Down to earth, genuine and human
backupaccount - the reason it feels that way to you is he did not grow up in childhood seeing this kind of thing - authentic or not. It’s very unprecedented what younger people have grown up with. just a generation before them, they grew up similarly with the past 50 years, and before that another 40 or so since major change (automobiles). But no change has been like the internet. Ever. we older types are worried about you all
I'm 54 and my wife and I are VERY worried about our future, gas and food prices rising daily. We have had our savings dwindle with the cost of living into the stratosphere, and we are finding it impossible to replace them. We can get by, but can't seem to get ahead. My condolences to anyone retiring in this crisis, 30 years nonstop just for a crooked system to take all you worked for.
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You're right, the best time to buy in the market is when there's fear. A huge part of my growth has also come during this bear market. This year alone, I have scaled from 180k to over 354k.
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As a foreigner who lived over 10 years in Japan, I have never heard a Japanese man open up about something like this. Thank you for being brave and sharing this! これは本当に素晴らしい話しいです。
@@askjapan9669 to piggy back on this, I have a profound amount of respect for you. For not only thinking and being considerate about this, but opening up and sharing it. I'm sure it not only helped you to get it out, but its definitely going to help a lot of people seeing it and knowing they're not alone, and giving them a better sense of how to cope and deal with issues like this.
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Same brother same.. I think everybody is worrying waaaay too much nowadays. Idk if it has something to do with social media but it's definitely increasing.
@@arcdestroyed Weeell.. You should.. The economy is fucking you younger people up big time. Debt is highly and constantly increasing. You have to work more and more, AND the purchasing power of money is constantly falling.. Its straight up a ponzi scheme.
Hey man, your video just popped up and it really moved me. I am a 28 years old guy from Spain (Canary Islands) looking for starting a family. Your situation it’s a tough one to be in, but i just want to say that i find very beautiful that, regardess of your age, you were able to form a family, have kids, and that you are so deeply concerned about being able to provide for them and for your old ones. I really hope the best for you and your family, good luck with everything!
As an old fck living in France, the only advice I could provide a young dude is to buy housing to ensure you don’t have to rent in your older years. Even something small.
(Probably somewhat obvious) But I would just really stress personal health and good fitness habits if you’re having children near that age. My parents had me in their early 40’s and my younger brother near mid 40’s. They both liked activity but never had a routine, my dad especially but he had a natural high metabolism. My mom’s health started declining into her 50’s especially. She passed away due to cancer (not related to having children) a few years ago. Now I’m 26 and my father is 67, he’s doing okay but I just worry that he doesn’t stress his health enough. I notice he put on quite a bit of weight since this past year roughly, partly due to him not stressing a decade or so earlier as much on healthier eating habits, he’s very much prone to binge eating. He’s aware but I think partially he’s very critical of himself and then he lets that pity drive him back to this nasty habit. The effect this has only escalated with age and I hope he can be involved actively when he has grandchildren. We live together thankfully and I want to improve how we support one another in our faults. We haven’t given up on this yet. Please take care of your health sir, it’s a great gift not only to yourself but also to those who love you most
Keep your chin up, you are a good man and your honesty is a good quality. Wish the best for you and your family, its good they have you on their side to plan for their future.
@@askjapan9669 Keep posting youtube videos. You'll be surprised just how much money you can make with even just 30-40k subscribers. You can lower that 28 year mortgage to even under 22 years by paying the principal with the money from youtube. You can start making videos about your life like how you started your career, your college experience, your experience in your youth, how you met your wife, and so on! Keep it simple and about yourself and you'll gain massive amounts of subscribers and increase your revenue. Also, never take on more debt. You feel like you need a car? don't get that car. Just don't.
Why do you use the word confession? As if being honest about your concerns or feelings is a crime? Genuine question; no malice behind it. Am I reading too much into it?
Your country is undergoing a housing market collapse. You can probably buy a very nice house in the country with a fraction of your savings. Find a remote job, buy a house in the country, plant a garden with your kids.
@@askjapan9669 Sorry but if you want to change your life the only solution is to change your mind which is not so easy and for example be less negative about future noone know what will happen tomorrow that's what we call faith in life or hope for a better future
Don't plan on living in your current home until your mortgage is paid off in 28 years. Your son will be 36, and your daughter 32 by that time. They should be more independent well before that point in time and no longer living at home. Downsize to a cheaper home. Sell your current home once your kids move out, pay off the remaining mortgage amount, and buy a new home (with no mortgage) with the net proceeds. Consider living outside of the metro area since you may not be working at that point. Housing is much cheaper outside of the metro area and you will not have to worry about being close to where your job is located since you will hopefully be retired.
Solid advice ,the old traditional Japanese house can be bought for 20 K in rural Japan ...no point to pay a mortgage until 75 ,I rather retire at 65 and live in the country ,stress free in the nature
You don't count of kids leaving home at that age either. The way economy is working these days , kids are turning back to Parents house after lay off coz they can't afford rent and stuff. High cost of living.
Are there hospitals and health centers in the rural areas? When people get older they might need to be closecto hospitals in case of some health issues.
So to summarize you feel stressed because: Age: - You're 50 - Your children are very young for a 50 year old father - Your mother isn't doing well and is getting older - Your brother has a lot of stress taking care of your mother - Your mother and father in-law are a bit younger, but live far away and could need help as well in the next few years Financial: - You have a mortgage which you'll need to pay for 28 more years - You have a slightly above average salary - You feel stuck in a dead-end job - You feel there are no opportunities for you to find a different job because of your resume not being good enough Well, these are some very valid struggles. If you want to improve your life, then I think you must first look at this list and think 'What can I do nothing about?' and remove those from the list. For example, the new list which you CAN likely do something about, would be this: New list: - Your brother has a lot of stress taking care of your mother - Your mother and father in-law are a bit younger, but live far away and could need help as well in the next few years Financial: - You have a mortgage which you'll need to pay for 28 more years - You have a slightly above average salary - You feel stuck in a dead-end job - You feel there are no opportunities for you to find a different job because of your resume not being good enough Now these remaining points are something you can actively work towards improving. For example the 28 year mortgage, if every year you make one more payment (so instead of 12 months, you pay for 13 months) you'll notice the mortgage goes from 28 years to roughly 23 years. Now this would all depend on your finances and whether you CAN do this or not. I genuinely think you have a lot more opportunities than you might imagine, just make a list of what you want to improve and then one by one make a plan on HOW to improve them.
@@whitecraft1012 This is good advice, focus on what you CAN fix. What else are you going to tell him about things he can't do anything about? Feel good? This is good advice.
Thank you, sir, for your honest, sensible and sincere discussion of your financial and personal situation. I am 1 year older than you and, even though I live in a different country (Australia) I am able to relate to many of your concerns, especially about supporting your young children and elderly parent. I cannot give any false reassurances to you, but I can say that you are obviously preparing as well as you can for your and your family's future. I am also pleased to give a financial contribution (approximately ¥5000) to support your channel and I am keen to see more of your videos. Best wishes to you and your family.
Keep making RU-vid videos. Your video is engaging and genuine and made me care about you. As a middle aged parent with a good job (but with a low income) and who may not be able to retire, I empathize. You will be okay. Trust your own ability. You are doing great and now you’re popular on RU-vid. all over the world on RU-vid.
@@askjapan9669 It sounds like you have a lot of responsibility and you are such a “mensch” as they say in Yiddish (roughly translated: a good guy who “shows up” for others) for taking the responsibilities so seriously. I’m really cheering you on and wishing you the best. This is the first of your videos I’ve seen and I might be missing a piece of the picture when you say your life has been so difficult. I understand that the way things feel can create difficulty just as much as circumstances themselves. I noticed you mentioned being 50 many, many times in the video. Could you be having a “mid-life crisis” as we say in the english-speaking world? If that’s unfamiliar, it’s kind of a realization of time and youth passing, that seems to hit at certain ages. If so, people who experience that usually go through it for a bit and then it gets better. In the past four years, I have experienced the deaths of my dad, my mom, my nephew, and my partner’s mom, all while starting a new career in my 40s. It has been a lot. and I figure I’ll be working for a while too. We don’t have the huge responsibility of children. But being able to buy a house where we live (a very expensive part of California) is going to take a while. But maybe these things are considered to be more normal or common here in the US than in Japan. And one’s expectations and cultural norms can shape how we feel about our circumstances too. I think it is a bit exceptional for you to be so open, especially in your culture, and I admire your ability and willingness to do it! If any advice could be derived from my long comment, it mostly would be about how we interpret our circumstances internally, emotionally. And how different internal frames of mind can even change our outer circumstances, or help us to see new pathways. Wishing you all the best!
@@askjapan9669Hello, my dad also had me when he was 46. I never felt discomfortable about this, we always had good relationships. Now I’m 21 and my dad is still alive and healthy.
I wish that I'd been raised by much older, much wiser parents; my parents were two kids having kids (19 and 17) -- it was horrible. From physically and emotionally abusing their children (specially my mother) to exposing them to the worst possible behavior (my highly misogynist, homophobic, cheating father) to these really ugly, constant teen fights that they had with each other, and that they never really grew out of, because being closed in, just with each other, in that dynamic their whole lives prevented them from growing up in that sense... you name it. They are now divorced and everybody asks them what the hack took them long. My siblings and I wanted them to be divorced decades ao. It was that bad! They really messed me and my siblings up. We are now in our late 30s and early 40s still having to heal our childhood. My sister developed anxiety and chronic depression, she has to be medicated; and both my brother and I have to see therapists as well occasionally. Young parents are toxic. They are still growing up themselves, people should really not have any children before 35.
I am American woman 75, so you are young enough to be my son. Allow me to make a few comments. I would still be working but got pushed out at my company, which was ok because my eyesight started failing. I mention this to assure you that working another 20 odd years might seem daunting but it will probably flash by. The main thing is keeping a good mental state. When I was younger I worried incessantly, now I feel like I wasted vital energy doing so. First, I understand your desire to be responsible for family which I think is deeply ingrained in Japanese culture and in some may even be a more powerful impetus. But - others can and will step into their own responsibility also. It doesn't really matter that you might be older than other fathers. At another place you might be younger than. In 20 years both your children will be grown and with honest discussion at home they will understand they need to step up. You are the center of all your family but at the same time the world can move along without us. I would make a suggestion that you might find something you like doing and make an at home business out of it. Think globally because the rest of the market is doing just that. The borders to commerce have shifted. I wish for you some peace from too much worry and to look for hope because there exist many possibilities.
What you say about where he is something that I’ve read from a lot of other people. I do it myself. The older I get the more I realize some of the things I worried about were pathetic. Most of them actually.
Hello , I am Asian , 40+ just unemployed, lost ,upset , Here I found this video and more on other people aronud the world.I read the comments. Making me feel better and still want to live my life again because I am not alone.I think this problem we all will face someday.Thank you to bring me here and all comments in other countries around.I want to live more years again.
"And this cloud darkening my skies has not come to stay, it has come only to pass" - Some Wise Guy (YT 2024) Sending you love and good luck from the UK bro
You got this man! Be aware many people feel just like you right now. Be aware many people feel just like you right now. And destiny will take you to where you need to be just as it took you here.
I am a bit older than you and trust me I have been there. Just always remind yourself -- be brave! Go out there and embrace changes. You will live a much happier life.
You can do it bro i work from home and im dragging myself to work everyday doesnt make a difference if its work from home or office i still feel stressed, im on sales department and we need to bagged in sales everyday
Guys, think positively and FEEL the emotions. Think and feel as if you already HAVE the things you desire. Doesn't matter who you are, who you think you are, stay positive, no caffeine, alcohol or drugs. Take shilajit resin everyday for 30 days, workout in bursts, not long endurance, and weights, shoulders 1st, chest, legs and squats. No greasy fried foods or veg oil chips etc. Bed by 930 sleep at 10, 4 eggs or 3 per day, dark orange yolk. i could go on and on but stick to it for YOU and your loved ones, bless
I'm a 50 years old Korean man. Your whiteboard summary resonates me deeply since those figures and factors are always in my mind as well. I work as a middle level employee and with not much hope to grow in my career and also in general. Life for middle age men aren't looking bright in any measure. Nothing seems to make my heart pound anymore. I envy your courage to post your inner thought to the outside world and seeking help actively.
I'm just a few years younger, italian. I get bored easily by almost anything, i've always been like that. So i have a job that brings me to meet many different people in many different companies. I wouldn't be able to work in the same place for long. I tried to but i got depressed very soon. I'm always in search for something that makes me excited. I have plenty of hobbies (cycling, model making, videogaming, reading, investing, travelling, playing guitar). When i get bored by one i start a new one to feel excitment. I also would feel bored living in a big city. For me it's important to go out, go to some park, go to some cultural attraction close to me, take some sun when the weather is good.
53 year old here in California. You're not alone. Many of us in the US are quietly worrying about our own economic future. This is honest conversation and it's refreshing to watch. Thankyou
I am in the midwest. AI is taking over in my field. I cannot get a job in my field (went back to school at 47, graduated with perfect GPA just as pandemic hit). I have a good balance in my 401k and investments but everything is so expensive, my health insurance for me, just alone, with a high deductable is $600 a month.
@@vgfika102 I hate to say it but with big companies moving into TX, housing prices will rise as well as living cost, gentrification will happen, taxes will increase and living will no longer be affordable, TX is the new California.
I'm a bit older at 53, live in Shanghai, and can totally empathize with your pains. We call this stage of life "elders above and youngsters below," and it isn't easy. Keep up, We can make it!
Can you explain this terminology? I'm in North America, and our current economic situation here really favors the older generation. Interested how things are elsewhere
@@zhoooou9984 ah, that seems pretty straightforward now that you've explained it. Honestly, I think that's sorta where the developed world is trending, and the natural order of things. Infinite growth, infinite single-family-homes, infinite high-medium class was never possible. Generational housing is going to come back BIG. It's gonna be tough for people with shitty family... Well need to develop alternative practices. Anyways yeah, thx for explaining
@@agxryt@agxryt Oh, the terminology refers to middle-aged people who must bear double the financial burden of supporting their elders (because they are retired and no longer have continuing income) and their youngsters (for obvious reasons). In Chinese, it is called 上有老下有小, which could be literally translated into 'elders above and youngsters below.' I hope this helps.
@@askjapan9669Hi there Thanks for sharing information about your personal life. I want to reassure you that you are not alone I'm in the same situation as you. I'm only a bit older 52, and I have two kids 12 and 9 years old. Of course your kids are older than mine, but I'm older than you, so numbers are very similar. Another difference is that I don't took a loan, as I choose to keep renting instead. To me at my age mortgage it's a BIG NO. I'm now in the wealth accumulation phase and I choose two very safe vehicles for that. Down the road in 10 years from now not too sure what will happen to housing or my pension plan but due to the type of vehicle I have choose to be I'm sure I won't be in bankruptcy.
I'm a 55 year old fellow, living in South Africa, no children, not married, no steady income. Very difficult life looking after family and unable to work due to mental ill health caused by trauma. No savings, a bond and small apartment mortgage. Have been worrying too as i have no family support and my health is not the greatest. Have been chatting with friends in similar circumstances about living in a commune together. I think sharing with and caring for each other will make a better life than trying to do it alone. Just have to be with the right people who are honest and happy.
It's hard out there. That's why we help each other out. Stay strong. I'm not the most religious man but i do believe in hope. Stay strong. This 25 is yours.
You’re a good man that cares for his family and that already puts you above many people. We tend to look at our worst problems instead of looking at what we have, it’s ok to be stressed, I’m in my 30s and have been feeling like I should have kids and a house by now, I already have grey hairs and wish I could look as young as you at 50. it may seem strange to you but some people would trade their youth to have children, good health, and a house they could work towards paying off like you. Many people here in the west know that Japanese culture can put a lot of pressure on people to be successful and live to the highest means, but please know that you are doing so well and you have already become something more than most could ever wish to become. Sending prayers your way today and hoping you can find peace with the amazing life you have, your children will be so proud one day to watch this video.
This is what people forget, especially people who truly worry about their futures. Because they worry, they tend to take really thoughtful steps and are doing far better than those that don't worry or don't care. But it's hard to see that sometimes, and it's good to have someone remind you of what you have and just how lucky you are.
Thanks. I also needed this. I’m 33 and worry/stress about the future as well. So far I’m feeling so hopeless. But your comment made me look at what I’ve achieved so far. And maybe, I’m not doing so bad after all, and there’s still hope if I just keep fighting.
@@padarousou Not really. Throughout many generations, life has been very simple. You grow up, go to college, get married, find a career, raise children, that's basic success. Things have already greatly been accomplished, no matter how much work people put in; more work than their previous generations could have, they're stuck as well. Basically hopeless and worse off. This is due to high inflation, lower employment rates (it's hard af to get a job), never being able to afford a house, and many more contributing issues, people would say that to get by you need a LOT of luck. I recently turned 17, but I still recognize all this. Someone saying they feel hopeless, or that they have nothing to gain or lose isn't such an outrageous statement in our generation. I agree with the person replying to you, without ill-mean, from myself, please elaborate on what we have to look forward to. Of course we get new gadgets, new things all of the time, trends, fashion, media, anything. Even if we better ourselves, get out of depression, lose our bad habits, only very few people will actually have it as good as our grandparents or even parents. (Even if they are currently losing a lot of it now.) The world is more free than ever, but we're all just trying to make it. I can't even grasp the feeling of that shit yet, but all the adults around me don't even have to say a thing to show their struggles, as well as the students n younger people around me trying to build a future for themselves.
Hey brother, thanks for sharing. I can’t give you any advice that wasn’t already mentioned somewhere in these comments. I hope your worries turn into bygone memories. Cheers
I’m 52 with kids that are 9 and 5. My parents are 80 and 77. I can totally relate to this video. You are not alone! We are probably the oldest parents in our kids classes (my spouse is 2 years younger than me with parents about the same age as mine and we help take care of both sets of parents) However, I feel like I’m in better shape than most 35 year old parents. We are way more financially secure than other parents. We have no drama in our lives like many other parents. I think our kids are super lucky to have older parents teaching them the Gen X ways. LOL They are so loved and happy. I don’t think they really want (or know) anything different. It’s all about perspective. You’ve got this!
I'm a 29 year old man from New Zealand, I'm sitting in my office at work watching this video and everything you say hits home. I think that no matter who you are, where you live or what your circumstances are, unless you're lucky enough to be born into extreme wealth we all worry about our future. My mind is constantly filled with 'What Ifs' I don't know what the answers are, except to keep living and pushing forward, trying to have fun and make the most of this weird journey we call life. You're not alone though man, sending you all my love and support. You've got a new subscriber.
@@ronandesouza151 This is so sad, maybe my words will support you, I was born in Russia, my country attacked another country, I can be mobilized for war at any moment, I don't have the opportunity to leave the country yet, I'm working on it, maybe I won't have time and men will be blocked from leaving the country. I do not know what kind of future awaits me, I live one day, remembering the past 7-10 years ago, I dreamed of moving to New Zealand or Australia, no matter how hard it was for you, but you are in the position that many people dream of, I am sure that everything will be fine with you.
I’m 47 in Nevada, house won’t be paid off for 24 more years. I HATE my job. My 401k is underfunded. I also have a parent to take care of. The stress and hopelessness is real. I take comfort in art and God. Sending love from the States ❤
@@hpartidad I’m hoping Bitcoin comes through and helps me out by my 30s. I’m 24 now and I started buying a lot more of it, especially when it dipped to $57K recently. I only have around $360~ in it as of right now though..
@@InfiniteTonygoing to need to invest a lot more than $360 to save you my guy. To put into perspective btc has a market cap of ~ $1.3T Btc is basically digital gold. Gold has a market cap of ~ $15T Let’s say in 10 years btc’s market cap goes up to $15T Your $360 would turn into ~ $4,150 which is a nice gain but not exactly life changing. If you want life changing gains you’ll have to invest in alt coins with much smaller market caps.
Thank you for being brave enough to post this. I struggle with anxiety and worrying about the future and reading this comment section restored my faith in humanity. The outpouring of love and support and advice from people around the world is inspiring. Sending peace, love, positivity, and good energy your way ❤
my dad was 50 when he had me. I'm 21 now and I am so glad my dad was older. I learned many things and still continue to learn a lot from him, with age comes wisdom, and you can teach your kids alot!
I'm glad to hear this, we had our first at 40 and it keeps me up at night we waited so long. But like you i spent alot of time around older family members like my grand parents and even great grandparents until my early 20. Im very grateful for the wisdom i picked up. I'm 46 now.
50 is too old. You shouldn't have a kid too young as you should first be financially stable, but you should also not be too old since you will deprive your child of having a fit father who can do most physical activities with them.
My dad had me at 51 and was a very healthy man until he wasn’t. He died when I was an early adult but I leaned so much by having older parents. My siblings and I were always more thoughtful and mature than our friends. We are all adults people count on, are all successful, etc. both my parents were able to play with us, we would often do hikes, play basketball, dance, ect. I wouldn’t wish for any other parents.
It's difficult to advise. I will be 57 this year and live in Switzerland. We have no children. My wife is a few years older and I am taking early retirement next year. Almost all differences, except age. I think the pension systems and real estate market are also completely different with Japan. Still, I think that certain phases are recognizable. At fifty, everyone has experienced personal highlights and crises. Responsible for the young ones and the old ones. My parents were also a bit older and both died at 80 and 85 a few years ago in 2009 / 2020. My parents-in-law also became very old at some point. When they were in their mid-eighties, we decided to sell our apartment and live in my parents-in-law's parental home and care for them. We did that for 7 years, until they both died, both at the age of 93. Happy years for them, since they could remain in the house the lived for over 60 years. Just a few ideas from my side as I read this back. 1) If the house is a millstone around the neck, are there options to sell it and live cheaper and use the surplus value to minimize housing costs? Maybe also with your in-laws? They can look after the children, you and your wife can work to save a buffer. Financing a home together is always easier. 2) Are there career opportunities at another company? The advantage of more and more elderly people and fewer young people is actually that there are more opportunities on the labor market, due to the drying up of the working population. 3) Your wife can work when the children are older to accelerate the repayment. 4) Realize what you have now: a wife, two wonderful children who love you, a good job and your health. Enjoy the now, what you have now. Live a little more carefree. Look forward to your children growing up, that is also a great gift! With time a solution will be found. Try not to worry about things that don't directly threaten you, but over which you have no influence either. Enjoy small things too. A walk through the park after a fresh rain shower. Nice music, or a spontaneous good conversation with someone you don't know. Taking care of our in-laws was tough, but looking back, it was also very enriching. I did not want to miss it! Things will happen automaticly also solutions will arrive on the horizon at a certain point in time. Kind regards and take care, Ronald.
Hey man. I’m 34 and I’m blessed to still have my father who’s 76. He had me when he was 42 years old and I never realized how much of a blessing it was to have an older parent but I know now that I learned all the old, respectable ways of doing things and I’m very grateful to have my dad even though he was never one of the “younger” “cooler” dads. I love my dad just the way he is and he did all he could to give me and my sister, three years my junior, a better life. We became successful and now help our parents out whenever we can and we don’t mind. One day, they will worry about you. Truthfully, my greatest fear is that I will lose my parents and never got to actually spend enough time with them, especially now that I have my own family to provide for. They will see you’re a great man for caring for them and they will care for you one day. Be well 🇺🇸🇯🇵
Guys, think positively and FEEL the emotions. Think and feel as if you already HAVE the things you desire. Doesn't matter who you are, who you think you are, stay positive, no caffeine, alcohol or drugs. Take shilajit resin everyday for 30 days, workout in bursts, not long endurance, and weights, shoulders 1st, chest, legs and squats. No greasy fried foods or veg oil chips etc. Bed by 930 sleep at 10, 4 eggs or 3 per day, dark orange yolk. i could go on and on but stick to it for YOU and your loved ones, bless
I recently found a job after a semi-long term search. Fortunately it's in my original field and I didn't have to seriously entertain a career switch. But if I didn't I would probably start looking outside of the field I spent 2 decades in, or go back to school. I am almost 40, so there's no shame in switching tracks later in life. Hope this small token of support helps you
11 years ago, when I was 8, like your son, my father was 52. He drinked so much, so my mother had to support me and my 3 years old brother alone. You're grate father and you can be proud of yourself. Hello from Russia.
I'm 28 year old woman from Russia as well and my father was 45 when I was born. He is still working but only because his job doesn't require much energy and is kinda chill. But still the main provider for our family was my mom, not because dad was older or had any bad habits, but because he lacks initiative (he only had two jobs during all his life, the first one he had been doing for 30 years, the current one he has been doing for 15). mum had to be more flexible in order to make more money, she switched career paths.
Your English is really good, so don't take this the wrong way. Instead of "drinked", you should say "drank". Also, instead of "You're grate father", it should be "You're a great father". I'm learning German and always appreciate when people show me how to improve, hopefully this helps :)
omg, hello from Russia too. I’m 19, my father was 57 when he died from covid (I was 17), my mother is fighting cancer and she is still working on a job thatshe hates because she has a mortgage to pay as well. She feels like she is in a dead end too( no job opportunities because she is too old (she is 53 and she works in IT, and she can’t change her work place to a better one cuz she gets rejected because of her pre-retirement age). I am working and studying, and feeling like I have no prospects in life because I am not interested in my studies, I am not that experienced to get a better job rn, the only thing that makes me happy is my small stationery business that doesn’t bring a lot of money. Thanks God I have a small flat (inherited it from my father) and I am studying in uni for free. Otherwise my mother would be x100 more stressed paying for my uni..
It’s an amazing way to show how vulnerable we are! I am 40 but I have exactly the same concerns! You’re working and studying hard but if you’re employed there’s no significant multiple
Guys, think positively and FEEL the emotions. Think and feel as if you already HAVE the things you desire. Doesn't matter who you are, who you think you are, stay positive, no caffeine, alcohol or drugs. Take shilajit resin everyday for 30 days, workout in bursts, not long endurance, and weights, shoulders 1st, chest, legs and squats. No greasy fried foods or veg oil chips etc. Bed by 930 sleep at 10, 4 eggs or 3 per day, dark orange yolk. i could go on and on but stick to it for YOU and your loved ones, bless
Resonates with me, hated my occupation quit 12 years ago at age 49. Started a business but it didn’t take off so closed it down without a loss and bought a small service industry business which is great. Now financially independent when I sell the business I will have sufficient funds to live very well with no debts. Good luck my friend!
How did you handle the anxiety of quitting a stable occupation? I’m 47 and want to quit but I’m Terrified of failure. I don’t even want to start my own business. I just want to find a way to be happy.
@@MyLifeInTheDesert I didn’t have any anxiety because I was so desperately unhappy I couldn’t wait to leave and open a whole new chapter of my life, I viewed it as an opportunity not a challenge?
@@MyLifeInTheDesertI suggest working a part time job on the weekends for stable income, depending on the business you start, you can even continue working full time, it'll just be immensely stressful on your body and psyche so don't do it for long
Well -- I'm sure you'll get lots of advice, much of it well meaning, some not. But here is my perspective, as a 77 year old man. What I hear in you, is a lot or worry about the "future." Can you control the future? No. You can't even predict what will happen tomorrow. None of us can. Do these worries affect your ability to enjoy the moment, to fully embrace the present? I suspect they do. If you paint dark pictures about the future, what good does that do? Does it improve your present? No. Will it pave the way to a "better" future? No. Worry becomes habitual. It becomes a way of life. I'd suggest that you participate in some spiritual practice which grounds you in the present, and breaks the chain of worry. Your culture has a rich spiritual tradition. So does mine. Even if you have no religious affiliation, allow yourself to enjoy all those little things in daily life which are gifts. A grasshopper landing on a leaf. The wind in the trees. A line in a poem. The laughter of your children. The sound of rain on the roof. The tenderness you share with your wife. These things are what life is really all about. Not career. Not a basket of worries about a future you can't control. Not all that dark picture painting. Live fully today. Tomorrow will take care of itself. Worry solves nothing, helps nothing. Worry about the future, robs you of the present.
That’s an amazing advice, although, it’s easier said than done, especially for us who had built a habit of worrying. In my work, I have a pressure to perform and be sharp. And that pressure prevents me from enjoying small things in life, because it feels to me that I always need to think about work in order to stay ahead and not get fired /:
I am really grateful to find this video. The kids playing in next room while the father thinks about such things awakens something inside me. Thank you, sir.
Your story is truly realistic. Most people nowadays have the similar experience - loan, aging society, kid, financial crisis and job instability. You’re not suffer this alone.
I'm 51 years old living in Japan in Hokkaido. Understand your worries and mine are similar. Thank you for you videos about real life. RU-vid needs more of those. The only advice I have for you is to keep being yourself and care for you family. Then everything will turn out well.
@@askjapan9669 just try to be happy with what you have and don’t worry about what you don’t. I see all your points on your white board as all positive. You have many years left of life to love. You have two children. You have great work experience. You have a job. Your parent/parents are still living. You own a home. You have a degree/degrees. Tomorrow is a gift, enjoy today.
I'm an American man who is 51, and I understand your worries. While I don't have a family of my own, I often think about how I can better my position. I think we all do. I wish I could offer you an answer, as I can see this is weighing heavily on your mind. I can tell you this. In the 15 minutes I was able to know you, you are very sincere, very caring, are a good provider to your family, and very brave by posting your concerns on a public platform. And your English is excellent too!! Even though you may not remember certain phrases, you are articulate and still get the idea across. I wish I could speak Japanese half as good as you speak English! I guess what I'm trying to say is: you are already doing A GREAT JOB at things. You have two beautiful children. You are successful enough to manage a team of people (something I've never done!). We all worry about the future. But if you look to your past and what you've accomplished, I don't think you need to worry about the future at all. You are capable and will find your way. あなたはとても良い人です、あなたが平和になることを願っています。
@@haaggus This is correct. Anyone who does not live to want kids is a horrible and miserable existence. Kids bring light into a dark tunnel, and they can help you when you grow old. It is a win-win, and it is good for your mental health.
It’s just a phase of life. Being 50 is scary. I am 54. I experienced what you said and I was in marketing. I am in real estate since I turned 41. I was laid off again (3rd time in 10 years). So I decided to become self employed. I have been doing good and was able to own 3-4 properties during 8 yrs of work. At 48, I made it. So I was hopeful about my retirement until a cancer hit me 2 days short of 50. I have spent the past 4 yrs dealing with my cancer which turned from stage 3 to stage 4. I now thank myself for buying life ins to cover the mortgage. So I am financially ok if I die. Then, I don’t think too much. I don’t have kids. But try to think of anything in 1-2 yr plan. Your pressure came from what happen in 10 yrs and long haul vision doesn’t work at our age. It could be cut short by disease. Just get another lucrative part time job like real estate!
The fact that you have to worry about your finances even if you die is honestly terrifying when I think about it. I pray for you the best and to have a healthy recovery ❤️🩹
Very interesting. I’m 62. My advice is to try to not worry. Looking back, most of the things I worried about never came to pass. My worries were a complete waste and they diminished my enjoyment of life.
True, but easier said than done. I have found grace in mindfulness, which can help you catch yourself when you start spiraling. The important thing is to continue to work on what you value in spite of whatever life throws at you.
He didnt ask "how can i feel better" , he asked for advice on what actions to take. He isnt depressed, he has legitimate concerns about his financials, his parents, and his children
take it how you will, but this comment sorta misses the point completely of what the video was. telling someone to not worry when there are -actual- concerns to be worried about and that "things will resolve on their own/won't really happen" is a very, very privileged response.
I’m 22 and watching this video gives me, weirdly enough, a sense of hope. The majority of my generation is quite fixated on having their lives all figured out by their mid 20s/30s which is quite ridiculous. So seeing you sharing your life and current situation with us and genuinely making an attempt to make meaningful changes is encouraging to say the least. Regrettably, I don’t have any advice to give since I don’t have much experience to look back upon. However, please keep making videos and sharing your journey with the internet. People appreciate it and I’m sure your interactions with your viewers will give you an insight or a better perspective on your situation. がんばって!
I'm in the same position same exact age too. The pressure I'm feeling to not be a burden to my family and start paying some bills and buying a car that doesn't drive slower than a bike is all immense. Especially so in the modern age where everything, making friends, finding love, doing hobbies, not overworking myself, staying focused, is all harder.
Also 22 here lol, but I feel something different from you. This video makes me realize I could wake up in 30 years and still don’t have my life figured out. I need to do something about it now.
Take it from me, I'm 23 years old. My brother's 24 and we live with our 52 year old mother in Switzerland. All our lives we lived with crippling debt, but each one of us takes the burdena step at the time. I personally work about 50 hours a week, shit pay. On nightshift with horrible conditions. It took me 2 years to pay my debt off. As soon as my brother passes, and earns his certificate at the business school he attends. It's his turn. Carrying my burden, I nearly relapsed to my old addictions that kept pestering me at times of anger and despair. Due to my dilligence, patience and hope. I got to be where I am now, finally ready to take the next step. Mister, don't lose hope. If you value yourself more than anything else, you become able to make other things and other people feel valuable. Keep going, soldier.
@ivok9846 it's expectable that a 50 year wants and needs to live a more comfortable life. and the days of grinding for years will be left behind for a 20 something but will be pretty much the end of a healthy, independent life for a 50 years old. I don't want to discredit the hardships original commentor has gone through though
Dad was 51 when I was born and now i'm 24, almost a doctor too. He's a great father and I could have never wished for anything different than that. Don't worry about your age, you still have a lot of time to be a great parent and a very important figure in your children's lives.
Teach your children to love and support each other no matter what. Teach them how to forgive. Loving and forgiving is the best legacy you can leave them.
@@82zerox there are levels, and Japan due to profligate gov. spending, citizens are sinking in sand....It's quite clear in my mind about the structure of the economy and how it affects normies. Now , sit down little man.
My thoughts exactly @82zerox As soon as you said your age I said out loud "he looks fantastic!" Your English is also fantastic 👌 Solution: buy Bitcoin with your savings which is a fantastic long term store of value and absolutely beats fiat currencies as a store of value. Look into it, all the best
My suggestion at 50 - Put as much as you can into retirement, more than you think you need. Income earning capability will taper off over time so you want to get the balance as high as possible while still making good money.
I‘m 59 going in my 60th. This is what I’ve learned. I’m not wiser just because but life taught me… When I found time to think and worry, I found out that I‘m one of the lucky people to have the time to do so. In the past I’ve worked to my limit that I was exhausted that didn’t leave me to even think. Secondly, all those worry, I pondered like you made me feel worse and most of them didn’t end up that way and the rest of those worry concerns I had were managed as I moved along with life. Some tough moments, some stressful but I was able to get through. Third, when quiet moments of the day were present, I’d grab it, fight for that moment as a gift to myself to recharge for the next battle. In German, „Kleine Inseln des Glücks“. Lastly, 90% of our life, we can’t control, only 10% of it. What we can only control is our attitude, our reaction, our approach to life as it presents itself for the day. Manage it step by step. Later on in life, you‘ll find yourself looking back at your age of 50 and say, I wish I could tell my 50 year old self… what is true today, is only valid today. It might not be true for me tomorrow, next month and in 5 years. In the end, being kind to ourselves in the midst of adversity is the helpful solution to battle and enjoy life at the same time. 🕊️🕊️ Real happiness is hidden in inner peace. When you find him there, let me know at @meetarlesa. Take care and good luck. You have a kindred soul and a kind heart. That‘s what matters, the universe will take care of the rest, you hang on and just hold on tight to take the ride. 🕊️🙋🏻♀️
I am writing you from Brazil. I understand your moment and position. As you have fluent English, I truly believe that your best chances are in overseas jobs. Places like Middle East, USA, Canada, Scandinavia, UK and, eventually, some country in Europe. In such places your experience of market and knowledge of the Japanese culture, may have better value than in Japan. Strength and Honor!
I’m Chinese American and have tons of friends who married late and have kindergarten kids in their late 40s. I’m turning 50 soon and recently quit my job for a much less paying job so I can be more relaxed. I still have mortgage to pay but still I’m happy and never worry about the future. I believe taking care of my mental health is as important as taking care of my physical health. Seriously just chill 😂 BTW I’m surprised a Japanese man opens up publicly about his “true” feelings. Our Chinese culture is more open and straightforward but I feel Japan and Korea are not especially Japan. I think there should have more ppl like you. Cheers😊
This is so real and full of raw emotions. The fact I'm 23 and worried about my future like crazy, its reassuring reading through comments and seeing people are also tryna to figure things out. I think ill never know what I'm doing and I hope if someone else reads this, just keep going and moving forward, its only over when you give up. Find a passion, follow it , trust it, and I'm sure itll be alright.
24歳の日本人です。父は67歳で、母は62歳、あと21歳の弟がいます。私の両親は歳が上ということもあり、いろんなことに知識が豊富で、高校や大学を海外で過ごさせてくれたりと本当にいい両親です。たまに他の人よりも早く親の死に直面しなければならないんだなと不安に思うことがあります。今の時代は晩婚化が進み、寿命も伸びているので働かなきゃいけない年齢も長くなるし、考えなければいけないことが山ほどありますよね。It was very interesting to hear about the problems and concerns from my parents' generation.
yeh same here, I'm kinda 24 and next july I am 25. But to be honest I have travelled from India(my country) to west as a medical professional and my parents are like in their 50s and I feel how will I make it as a single kid with no one around. How will I get a job, earn more money, make a stable family, build my bank balance for future to be capable and maintain myself as per society standards. Also now I think genrative AI and tech is my competition. Finding a good job is so difficult. How will I ever cope up with this?
Maybe you can have kids early? This way your parents will be granparents and you have family when they die, and you will be able to talk with your kids sbout grandma and grandpa.
What i am going to say is irrelevant to the video but this is the reason why japnese population is srinking,you work all your life to built carrier,go to collages built portfolio get a job and still struggling to buy a house in your retirement, no wonder people are not choosing to have kids. But you are guiding the future of japan and japan need more people like you , may god bless you and your family.
Just turned 26 today. Woke up wide awake realising I feel so far behind in my life and I'm almost 30, the timelines in my head just don't seem plausable. I would probably never admit this to anyone but since you have been so brutally honest and the comments are the same, I should be brave enough to do the same. Thanks.
Same man, turning 30 in 2 months, been clean off opiates for about a year. All my friends have kids or careers or both. I learned a trade and am very good at it but am burt out on the industry. Trying to start in a new field has been very difficult.
Hey man. Remember that anytime you feel this sensation, it is your ego talking. What I mean by that is you are making a comparison to others to arrive to that conclusion. Any time that happens, it is our ego speaking. If you were alone on this planet, there would be no "late". There would just be doing. The same actually remains true even with 8 billion of us, it's something to really consider. If something is worth doing, it's worth doing "late". Because there is no late, there's just the path that we are on, and it's different for all Tolkien didn't write Lord of the Rings until his 50s. Was he late?
I'm 27 and had been feeling that way the past few years, stuck in dead end jobs just trying to get by, even with the good things in my life like my gf and dog you tend to take those for granted and fixate on the bad, anyway I've gotten a place in a school after summer to learn a trade and I'm feeling a bit more hopeful now. We're all on our own journeys and have our own struggles and it can be so easy to compare to others but it's really the least helpful thing you can do for yourself. Be kind to your body try to eat a balanced diet and if you're stuck in a job you hate try applying for schooling in something you want to do would be my best advice :)
@@nathonso_edits Hey man, as someone who was in your position and the same age and "turned it around" from dead end jobs to being self employed and financially free ($1m+ a year). My advice is to love yourself and be kind to yourself. Stop comparing yourself to others. You'll be surprised how a lot of the shit we worry about or stress about that doesnt make us feel "enough" is just our own perceptions. Look at the positive and youll see just how lucky you are. You are doing alright, all will be well my friend
@@askjapan9669yes, please keep posting videos. You were so opened to explain your situation. As I understand is not common for Japanese to share their concerns like that. This tells me that you could show us more about your life, likes, teach us about marketing in Japan. This could be like a hobby for you and help you giving a new hope for you.
Both my parents were on the older side when they had me, they were a bit younger than you at 42 instead of 46. That being said I am so glad they decided to wait. Their wisdom and self discipline that only comes with age made them incredible parents. They never made a big deal about frivolous things like getting the newest phone or a nice car. They also always had more time to devote to supporting the family because they were past the typical "party age" that overlaps with the average ages for young parents. I wouldn't worry about comparing yourself to other couples just because they are the norm, the fact that you are even worried about your future, let alone humble enough to ask for help on the internet proves you are a better father and a better man than most.
Guys, think positively and FEEL the emotions. Think and feel as if you already HAVE the things you desire. Doesn't matter who you are, who you think you are, stay positive, no caffeine, alcohol or drugs. Take shilajit resin everyday for 30 days, workout in bursts, not long endurance, and weights, shoulders 1st, chest, legs and squats. No greasy fried foods or veg oil chips etc. Bed by 930 sleep at 10, 4 eggs or 3 per day, dark orange yolk. i could go on and on but stick to it for YOU and your loved ones, bless
Man look at it this way, you became conscious about the fact that you are worried about something, you are scared, and even made a video about it, so you took some initiative! That’s an enormous accomplishment and a good first step! Give yourself some time and you’ll that the next step will come along with something good for you! Cheers mate
For some reason I got recommended this video and I after the first 10 seconds I knew I had to watch it. The honesty is so refreshing. You don’t need to protect your house; you just need to protect your kindness. Practical advice? Imagine the absolute worst that could happen, and practice being okay with that. All the best from Australia! You’re awesome, dude!
Why you being so real😭 Im 40, married but no kids. My boss got fired recently by the company and I think I'm not far from that. And the economy was better several years ago and I had bought a rental property. Now things are not sustainable and I've just gotten rid of that and lost about $200k from that as we dont know how much longer we can last with each month we are paying more than we make and I see no light at the end of the tunnel yet. I know there are probably millions of people out there who face the same as me but I consider myself lucky, compare to those suffering at wars still. Bless you man, and your family, and whoever kind hearted person eho come across this video. Keep your head down and plow through those harsh moments 💪
It’s nice they got degrees, but will they realistically get hired? At that age, a Class A CDL license likely can get them a job. If I’m wrong, please tell me how.
I am 25 and already feel old because I didn't use my time in my teens and early 20s.. But I actually have a passion for math and am pretty good in it, but cannot find a job.
I am 39 and totally emphasize with you...I feel the same way and am worried about my future all day long....thank you very much for recording these meaningful videos!! I can look back my life
Thank you for your sheer honesty. I am a 17 year old guy from Australia and I very much appreciate how open you are, into your personal life, for our sake. Unfortunately, I am not very wise, but I wish you luck!
23 Year old guy from the US. Through videos like this and personal conversations I've come to realize that everybody is the same, no matter where in the world you are. The only change is the scenery
Damn, 17 was the age where everything started to completely change for me. Met my wife, was about to finish school and absolutely wrong about everything I thought about life. It hit me like a brick that all safeguards were taken away after finishing school. Nobody cares about you unless you actively do something about it, nothing moves forward unless you actively work towards it. The possibility of doing anything I want is empowering but also pressing. Now I lay the foundation for my later life. Until about 30 I can still change the direction at least moderately. But afterwards I will probably be so involved in everyday life, kids and work that the routine and maintaining my lifestyle will be the only focus in life. It's somewhat calming that we all go through the same experiences
You have two beautiful children, still speak to your brother, mother is still with us, an above average salary job and a house you can call a home. You have done very well with your life my friend! I congratulate you on your acheivements. You, unfortunaltely, are the correct person of the household to be tasked with worrying about the future of your family and yourself. Luckily for you, you are intelligent and strong minded, so you will get through this with grace. Your children will grow up fast, I hope you are able to spend time with them now before that happens! I love your video's, best of luck with your endeavours.
My dearest sir... you inspire me with your honesty towards fear of all details of your life. I am Jeannie writing on my husband's name. In a few days, my husband turns 60 and then later in 2024 I will turn 60. We had a slow start to our time together with much time dedicated to immigration issues. We met late in life and have no children (sad). We will be working well into our retirement years .... your English is wonderful, your honesty will give you clever solutions to "building your beautiful garden" with your family. You will remain younger in attitude because of the young children around you. You will build your outside from people like me and around the world learning from you. You are amazing!
By the way.... I am writing you from Cincinnati/Florence Kentucky area of the United States. I prepare so many Japanese people to fly back to Japan from my CVG airport. I always wonder how life is all the time. How I can make a difference in their lives.... in your case you made a difference in mine.... remember you are not old.... you are like fine wine.... better with age.
Lots of good advice shared here but I wanted to share also the importance of inner peace that God can provide. Don’t hesitate to share with him what ever concerns you have. He hears you and can help. Don’t overthink it, he’s God and we can’t figure everything out about him. Otherwise he wouldn’t be God. He knows and sees a searching heart, so call out to him and give him a chance to help you out with guidance. May God bless you, brother
First step to changing is to have hope. As hope is the most powerful thing we have. It can keep us going even when everything is stacked against us. Be hopeful for your children that they will be able to find a way. Be hopeful in your future that you will be able to find a way. Even if we are kidding ourselves once we lose our hope we have truly gave up on any chance of bettering our lives. You are 50 years old and have a lot more experience and wisdom than I could ever possibly imagine at my age but what I do know is that hope is the start.
I completely understand the career issue too. Where it’s not necessarily an “issue,” like you’re not completely unhappy with what you’re doing, but you’re aware that the compensation simply isn’t enough. And yet, you’re also aware that your resume and the skillset you’ve built over the years aren’t suitable for any other option. It’s so mind boggling.
I'm afraid to say that I'm not in a position where I can give useful advice, however you come across respectable, soothing, and intelligent. I'm subscribing!
Rule number 1: Never ever ever loose "Hope" guard it with your life. Rule number 2: Never ever think of not asking for "Help", we are all on the same boat we look out for each other. Rule number 3: Never ever stop reinventing yourself. We are humans, specialization getting struck is for insects not for us we are always adaptable. Rule number 4: Never ever think you are old. Literally everything in this universe ages there is no point in worrying about it. Rule number 5: Never ever stop living.
I relate 100%. I am 50, live in Australia with an 8yo daughter. We just refinanced our mortgage so now have 30 years left again! I was born in Japan but have lived in Australia my whole life. When we get to this age, we all have the same thoughts and plans to care for our families, it is very, very good.
I'm 21 year old. Immigrated to Canada as a 17 year old. I was constantly in a worry about all the things i have to do , graduate university, get a full-time job, help my family, and ect. Thanks for reminding me that life is long and not everything is rosy. I hope you find your answers and your worries fade.
Guys, think positively and FEEL the emotions. Think and feel as if you already HAVE the things you desire. Doesn't matter who you are, who you think you are, stay positive, no caffeine, alcohol or drugs. Take shilajit resin everyday for 30 days, workout in bursts, not long endurance, and weights, shoulders 1st, chest, legs and squats. No greasy fried foods or veg oil chips etc. Bed by 930 sleep at 10, 4 eggs or 3 per day, dark orange yolk. i could go on and on but stick to it for YOU and your loved ones, bless
As a younger person this was incredibly insightful into the problems I will be facing at a different stage of life because I can’t quite imagine what problems I will face yet. Thank you so much for sharing, you will achieve your goals!
This is the greatest RU-vid content I have ever seen. So compelling and relatable; equally as challenging for him as it is for us. He doesn't have the answers, but most of us don't either. We just live and struggle with doing what's best. We know things could be better, like getting a promotion, but we fear shaking things up because the attempt may backfire and unsettle our situation. I don't have the answers for you, but it seems like there's a lot of great advice in the comments. My thoughts and hopes are with you and your family. God bless you all 🙏🏻
one of my favorite things on youtube is watching videos like these that initially look boring, but they're so real they're more fascinating than anything on tv thanks for the vids, you're not alone!
Im a single mom in Northern Virginia just a few years behind you. My daughter is 19 now. I have debt. They say get a degree and/or get cyber certs. But there's no guarantee you will get the job you seek. Trying to sustain employment here can be very challenging. Its a highly competitive area. I need to be in a position that I can handle yesterday's debt (which is manageable with job security), pay today's debt, and pay for my future security. I also have aging parents in Cali which I think about all the time. Im looking for answers too ❤❤
I'm 27 - my dad is 80 (ie, he was 53 when he and my mom had my twin sister and I). Despite not being able to keep up with me the way some of my peers' dads were able to keep up with them, I have no complaints about the experience I had growing up with an older dad. He's done his best for my sister and I, and that's all I could ever ask for.
This is a rare gem , it is so rare japanese people raise their concern , and it resonates with everyone even for myself to reflect now age 30. Its great to see honest open concern and seeking advise
My dad was 55 when I was born, the only advice I can give you about ur kids, please take care of your health and spend lots of time and share ur wisdom with them. As for your parents, take it day by day. Spend more time with ur mom and have ur kids spend time with her as well.
1 Million+ views... Congratulations! I think it's because you're honestly showing a side of Japan - from a Japanese perspective - that is rarely seen. Hopefully your channel will help you get past some of your worries!
I am 25 years younger than you and yet I feel fairly similar. I am worried for my future, as the cost of living goes up, for now i am studying Japanese by myself. Your English is fantastic, now that I am learning a language as an adult (I learned English as my 2nd language when I was young), I know how difficult that is. My concerns primarily lie about dying alone, as I've never dated.
Im 26, simillar to you, not die alone was my priority xd, now i finally have a girl that is really fulfilling to me, I understand your concern, im still learning, but i would like to share what i learned
Dying alone never scares me. What scares me is the boredom i will experience with this loneliness. How will i complete my life with this loneliness? I'm 42 by the way.
I am only 23 years old(Also stressed out as I hope to have kids and want to prepare for these problems you already have, it's great you are sharing) and I am still figuring it out but let me give a try at some advice. I would love to talk to you in the future and see if you can help me as well with a different perspective. It seems like your core issue is you want to make more money to take care of your kids, mortgage, and grandmother. The only solution I can see to fix this problem is identify how to make more money, I think you recognize that to as that may be why you are creating content on top of your other obligations. I think the first step is to identify how much money you need to make to make your goals and try to find a number above that to account for other problems that haven't occurred. Step 1: I think you should first map exactly how much time/money is your ideal goal to meet. When is the latest you can work at it. That is your ideal scenario. Then add in margin for additional problems. Next I would then figure out what are potential areas that you can utilize your skills to accomplish this. You say you don't want to get a promotion or go to a different job, but sometimes sacrifices need to be made. I feel like you recognize sacrifice way more than me as you have two children and are spending time with your brother to take care of your mother. But before figuring out other opportunities I would identify how you are spending your time right now and figure out how to optimize everything you already have. Work more efficiently do more in less time to free up your time more. Step 2: Optimize your work, life, balance. Try to work more efficiently, accomplish the same by spending less time. After your time is optimized then I would identify what can be done with your free time. I think you already found your answer and it could be content creation. You are already at over 140,000 members following your content across two RU-vid accounts. Try to figure out how to properly turn the content you make into an avenue to promote or make more money. If you don't enjoy RU-vid and that isn't your goal, then I would cut it off, but some change needs to be made and youtube is working for you right now it seems. Step 3: double down on RU-vid? (Suggestion is find new opportunity and test if it works, if it works double down on it) Okay you now probably have doubled down on your new project/job/whatever. If it's youtube by this point you should have made some money with this in some amount of time. Continue it for a little more time and analyize how much growth there is. Then determine if in an acceptable amount of time that solution will be better than your original one. Step 4: Determine if new solution (RU-vid) can outperform your current job. If yes: then slowly ease out of job if possible and focus more on youtube. If no repeat steps two and three. Possible go back to step one if a lot of time has passed.
I going through terminal cancer. Most people everywhere are struggling with money and there future. I learned so much from a monk. The world is tuff place. You have deal with it. But, it’s how you handle it. Positive mindset. Negativity brings negativity in your life. I always in past prayed for money, husband kids. It didn’t work out that way. I’m grateful what I have and stopped worrying about what I don’t have. If you’re lonely communicate with your wife properly. Spend time together. Life is too short to worry about everything. You are blessed to have beautiful family. As long as you can eat and roof over your heads. If your wife needs job talk to each other. Yelling gets you nowhere. Find peace in what you have. Even know because my cancer is terminal. I don’t know how much time I have left. It’s path I was given I’m confined inside I have no immune system. I make best of it. I hope you can find mine fullness and have peace for yourself.🙏
All of our lives are uncertain. I just turned 40 this year. Last year I took a leap of faith. I quit my 9-5 and started my own. I can't tell what tomorrow brings for me and my family, but I am here to be the best person that I can be for my loved ones. Seize the day! Sending love - from PH
