I'm a Mother with Schizophrenia | Answering your questions!

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Parenting is a challenging experience no matter your circumstance, but when you're a parent living with schizophrenia, it can pose an even greater challenge. In this video, I answer questions submitted by you, our audience, about what parenting, and specifically being a mother, is like while living with schizoaffective disorder.
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@LivingWellAfterSchizophrenia Год назад

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@natimarivelez Год назад

My mom passed away in September 2022. She had schizophrenia. She was not in my life and I was raised by my grandparents. Throughout her life she refused to get help and had a constant battle with taking meds. She suffered all of her life. She’s in a better place now. I don’t have any hard feelings towards her. She had a hard life. If anything I am grateful she gave me to my grandparents because they were the best role models I could have ever dreamed of. ❤

@natimarivelez Год назад

@@stephaniec5639 today was her birthday🥹just got this notification🫶🏼

@wonderwoman5528 Год назад

I’m very sorry to read this, Did your mother pass away due to complications from her schizophrenia?

@natimarivelez Год назад

@@wonderwoman5528 she was scared of doctors and hospitals due to paranoid schizophrenia and I think that played a major role in her decision to bypass treatment and let herself go to cancer. Had she seeked medical attention and help years before during so many of her episodes I have no doubt she would be here today. She had end stage vulvar cancer which is very highly treatable unless it metastasizes. She let it go and it will be one year since she passed in a couple months. Schizophrenia ruined her life in many ways and our relationship suffered greatly as a result.

@wonderwoman5528 Год назад

@@natimarivelez I’m so sorry. That is such a recent bereavement for you, and hard to process with the complications from her illness. I can imagine the turbulent relationships you must have had. I’m so sad that she couldn’t have the treatment she needed. I hope you are getting grief counselling and support to help you

@chrissy24-7 Год назад

I'm very sorry for your loss and your mother's traumas and effects on your life. ❤

@anadragoslavic8312 Год назад

My husband's mom was schizophrenic she raised one of the most amazing humans ever.

@innocentnkomondemaluleke369 Год назад

I have schizophrenia since 2018 .I'm married and blessed with 3 kids.i thank God for blessing me with a supportive husband. Watching your video helped me alot I've now accepted that I'm living with mental illness and my meds are helping me alot

@lucykaruku1392 Год назад

@@innocentnkomondemaluleke369 Hi me too I'm from kenya

@lucykaruku1392 Год назад

@@innocentnkomondemaluleke369 I was diagnosed 2021 I'm married and a mother of one

@firstchoicetuber3757 9 месяцев назад

@@innocentnkomondemaluleke369does your medicine are lifelong or you completely recovered

@firstchoicetuber3757 9 месяцев назад

@@innocentnkomondemaluleke369every person scizophrenia is different some recovered completely and some dosnt.. symptoms also some people have severe symptoms and some have recovered after taking medicine

@biNoelle Год назад

I had a uncle who had schizophrenia. He was the best father ever!! Even though the mother of their children left. He did the very best for them. He was always there. From the very beginning. 💚💚💚

@Erikssmaria Год назад

As a child of a parent on the same spectrum, It fills me with so much joy that you have an open dialog with your children at a young age. My mom didn't tell me until I was 15 but obviously I knew something was different about her compared to other moms. Her medication kept her symptoms in check all my life untill I turned 16 when she had to be hospitalized for 6 weeks. I still didnt really understand what her illness ment and that was really traumatic She tried to protect me from her reality, but I really wish I knew at an earlier age so I could have had tools to cope and understand. Instead I was told she had bad weeks of not having energy to do housework and cooking because of her tinnitus, but she was infact trying to cope with voices overwhelming her. My mom was a good mom, a single parent and she did her best with the tools she had and worked hard to make sure we had everything we need and tried to keep us out of her disease

@andrea0911ful Год назад

Honestly my experience knowing my mom was sick at a young age was very traumatizing and very scary and the isolation in the 90’s was very difficult

@Dream7773 Год назад

Bless her heart ❤️ and soul 🙏

@pjewellful2012 Год назад

Yes very scary indeed for many and even deadly for some. I do not feel as though any individual with schizophrenia should be alone as a single parent meaning living alone with children. There absolutely should be another adult in the home. Especially if an individual chooses not to take medication. There are kids who have been stabbed and cooked in microwaves due to having schizophrenic parents and grandparents. My mother has this diagnosis as well so I’m speaking from experience. This should not be taken lightly this is a very serious mental disorder, and we can not ever put kids in harms way . Many parents with schizophrenia do not have the great support system as this very privileged and kind woman making these videos. I’m happy she has that and wish her the best, but that’s not the case for most individuals who have this diagnosis. So I do not advise purposely having kids with this diagnosis, it can be dangerous when you unfortunately have a bad psychosis. And many parents with this illness do include their kids in their delusions. In our family we had a female that begin to believe her baby was a demon. The child thankfully was placed with another family member.

@truthspeaker8863 Год назад

@@pjewellful2012 kids are more likely to be killed by parents who are depressed LMAO so every depressed parent should stop having kids as well. Also, what you are talking about IS POST PARTUM PSYCHOSIS which is NOT EVEN SCHIZOPHRENIA😂 Lastly people without schizophrenia are actually more likely to harm their kids, people with schizophrenia are almost never violence however the media portrays this disorder this way for whatever reason. I've read hundreds of research articles on the matter, these people are more likely to be harmed. Thanks for your unneeded, and incorrect opinion though 😊

@MikeMatthews369 Год назад

Thanks! Your videos mean sooooo much to my family and myself.

@LivingWellAfterSchizophrenia Год назад

Thank you for your support Mike!

@zeddz16002 Год назад

❤ I don't have money.. but If I had I love to help.. Because no-one can't understand me in my country

@hellomarisolmo Год назад

As a mom with mental health problems. I can totally understand your points and advice. I took a lot from this but didn't realize I do need to speak with my children and let them know of my mental health. Sometimes I want to protect them and shield them from it but it is better to guide them and have them understand. Much light and love to you ✨️ 💛

@jesuschristislord6790 Год назад

My Mom has schizophrenia. She's lived with my Grandparents since not long after she got pregnant with me and has been there since the 1980s. It was a unique childhood. My grandparents were my parents. My Mom was more like a sister and my half sister was more like a cousin(she lived with her grandparents and i didnt see her much) I decided not to have kids and im kind of regretting that. Im a male and in my 30s. So i still could. But I have my own mental health issues and unsure. Glad to see you are doing so well in life. I feel alone sometimes. I've never met anyone in my life not on the internet thats dealt with schizophrenia in any compacity. Nice to see someone succeeding.

@fairydust0040 Год назад

I'd like to become a mum someday and I have schizoaffective disorder and ptsd. This video has given me a beacon of hope that I can have children and be ok someday. I'd love to donate but I'm currently on benefits. Thank you for shining a light on this. I've had people tell me that I shouldn't work with children as a nursery teacher when I was recovering and it was heart-breaking for me to deal with comments like that when I'm a victim of child abuse and have severe trauma.

@PawsForAndrea Год назад

I’m new to this channel & am impressed by it, even though it has no direct relevance to me (or anyone I know). I saw your comment & thought I’d recommend another channel I discovered recently: “Crappy Childhood Fairy.” I wish you well in your healing journey :)

@nubs9895 Год назад

The children being a protective factor is so true. I completely believe that if I didn't have my kids, I wouldn't be here. Any time I have those urges, my brain tells me how much it would hurt them and I just can't. I go from wanting to do the thing to wanting to just hold them. All of the professional help I've sought and growth I've made has been to be a good and safe mom for them. Their presence in my life has really helped to reign myself back in whenever my mind tries to take me somewhere else.

@InterstellarDreams Год назад

Awwwwww!! I've never personally wanted kids, but this comment is SO damn beautiful!! All the best to you, and to them.

@kellymurphy6667 Год назад

I have the utmost respect for you in having this position for your children. I myself lost my mother to her illness six years ago which has changed me in ways that I now have parts of me that feel unfamiliar. The biggest loss however has been for my daughters, in loving their most beloved granddaughter. Seeing them grow into themselves has now become bittersweet for what she gave up on and at my lowest points, I feel so angry she never opened to receiving help which has now made my precious daughters (as well as me), statistically more at risk which I don't know that I'll ever be able to accept.

@jojoco120 Год назад

Although I struggle with a different illness I completely agree that having children gives a great strength to us when we are struggling.

@Lawh Год назад

I'm glad you guys have found each other. I have mental health issues and due to that, my chances of finding someone are extremely low. Being intelligent, caring, and kind, I have found that the last thing I need to get over is the loneliness. Or rather, I need to adjust to the fact that this world is a place where a person who is all these things and has worked on being can be totally worthless to others. It always makes me happy to see people who have been lucky enough to find each other and make it work. It's not something anyone should ever take for granted.

@eszterszecsi2804 Год назад

My mom has schizophrenia and my dad opted out of it when I was 13. When watching the movie about Nobel prize winning Nash and his wife I realised a partner who sticks to you and supports you must be a huge difference when you have mental health issues. So I think you should not give up. I am sure there is someone out there who will value you for who you are, the way you are.

@Lawh Год назад

@@eszterszecsi2804 I think my chances have passed, if not only because I find it difficult to put in any effort anymore. I have been run down so to speak, so I think that for me it is too late. But if you still have hope, nothing that is up to you is impossible, and one should always stick to that.

@olive_99 Год назад

just wanted to take a moment to let you know that you can absolutely still find someone. my boyfriend and myself have various mental health issues and despite that he is unwavering in his support and care of me, and me to him. sure mental health issue symptoms can make things difficult sometimes if we aren't feeling well, but we do our best to be understanding of each other

@Lawh Год назад

@@olive_99 As it happens, I thought I would give it one last hail Mary. I am speaking with two people. They're nothing official at this time. The other person I have yet to even see, but I'm still unsure that my circumstance will not have a negative effect, or, whether they end up being horrible people, looking for someone to abuse, which is what usually happens to me personally. I have had one relationship that was incredible, but I was already too broken to enjoy it, and I broke down and we had to end it. She however was extremely young, so she gave me a chance because of that I would imagine. She could have done "better", although I got the feeling that she didn't need better in any other way than what I could give her. It was my one chance, and I blew it. This time though, I am armed with at least a little bit more knowledge than ever before. I have managed to say no to at least a few people that weren't going to be good for me. The latest one I said no to kickstarted an extremely traumatic chain of events. This is not great, because now I have to not only fear if something goes wrong in a relationship, but if something goes wrong when I say no. In these situations, it's already too late once you have began speaking to someone. Men can be directly violent, women however send men to attack men, which is possibly even worse. It's not easy being at the bottom of the entire society, especially, when you yourself don't want to act out on other people and so on. Basically no one cares what happens to you, and this means that people will directly destroy you, or, will sit and watch you being destroyed, since what difference does it make? But thank you for your words, and I am truly happy that you two have found each other. Like said in the original post, this does not happen easily, and you should hold on to each other for dear life if you are good for one another, even if it can and will sometimes be a bit of a ride for sure.

@ingridavainauskaite4674 4 месяца назад

Keto diet with intermittent fasting for 20hours will help you to be in remision without medication

@clintpatty Год назад

On the 2nd question, I got a vasectomy specifically for this reason. I never considered that I might be a particularly equipped parent to help them if I did pass this illness down.

@tishreni5183 10 месяцев назад

A lot of people refuse to believe that having mentally handicap or special needs children/genetic disorders they know about ahead of time cripples society.Who cares if your parents love you?,What good is that gonna do if you're dead from suicide,in jail,in psychiatric hospitals most of your life,or have deviant behavior as a result of these disorders?

@valentinacardona173 Год назад

My ex have schizophrenia and I always wanted to understand what he experienced , heard, saw , thought and felt while he was having an episode so I could help somehow and not make things harder for him. I learned for his expressions , voice, look and moves when he was overwhelmed and distracted so I used to ask him a lot about these things and luckily he was very open and honest . I eventually learned how to calmed him down and be a support rather than a burden.

@mosaicowlstudios Год назад

I had no idea you were a mother. Congratulations and good job! I can't even imagine. I am childless. The strength you have is inspiring! I won't ever have children, but godspeed to you and thank you (for continuing the human race when so many of us are opting out).

@kitkat615 Год назад

don't kid yourself Hailey; there aren't THAT many of us that are opting out.. 😬😬

@mosaicowlstudios Год назад

@@kitkat615 You're right. My perception is altered, I think. I'm one of 11 cousins all over 25-years-old, and 9 of us are childless. Especially at the holidays when we're all together it seems like a general phenomenon. There are basically no kids. It does make family parties really fun though.

@kitkat615 Год назад

@Hailey Wynn wow I wish it was like that in my family. I literally didn't go to our Xmas gathering because there's too many / our family has gotten so big

@123zigzag1231 Год назад

Thank you for continuing the propagation of mental illness. You are out of your mind also! Schizophrenia is hell on earth and is 80% hereditary .Extremely selfish to have a child when you are severely mentally ill

@albertarose1433 Год назад

Lauren, every time I watch one of your videos I’m inspired by how well you manage your mental health and your daily life. You are clearly smart articulate and want to help us understand this illness better. I applaud you for answering all the tough questions and not shying away from them. Rob you’re a wonderful partner and supporter. Blessings to you and your family for all you’re doing to help shine the light on a misunderstood illness that many fear. Thank you to all your doctors and supporters for helping you put this information out there. It has helped many I know including myself, who doesn’t struggle with schizophrenia but with anxiety and depression. Keep up the good fight all of you. We need your voices! God bless you. ❤

@Manicmossoftheforestfloor Год назад

I really needed to see this. I’ve been struggling greatly with my desire to have kids but feeling like I wouldn’t be fit due to how my mother raised me. I realize now that she and I have two completely different skill sets and I want to have kids for the right reasons unlike her.

@prapanthebachelorette6803 Год назад

Wish you the best

@tishreni5183 10 месяцев назад

Passing on a serious genetic disorder is cruel to a child.

@HonestlyYours516 8 месяцев назад

Every case of schizophrenia is different. Like my psychiatrist said, every person's brain is different and as such, every person with schizophrenia or schizoaffective disorder reacts differently to various stresses in their life. Lauren has managed very well with her illness. But, of course, not every person with the above conditions is going to fare as well. What I found to be really important is to try, if possible, to avoid major stresses in your life, which can bring on attacks of psychosis. Also, having a good support system around you is really important in managing your psychiatric condition.

@MikeMatthews369 Год назад

I am a father of three and now a grandfather. I so relate to your story here. My grand daughter is 15 and recently diagnosed. I myself was diagnosed at 19. I understand your fears of losing your children and know it is much harder on a mother. God bless you lady. GOD BLESS

@Burevestnik9M730 Год назад

Diagnosed with what?

@MikeMatthews369 Год назад

@@Burevestnik9M730 schizoafective disorder

@Karrambide Год назад

@@Burevestnik9M730 schizophrenia

@Karrambide Год назад

My best friend was diagnosed at 18. She’s 20 and truth be told yes she still feels hallucinations but it’s gotten better with medicine. I’m grateful she included me in her journey.

@nikkimendoza2720 Год назад

God bless you too Micheal for the life you are living and continue to live

@julieinmpls Год назад

you did all the right things, you really thought it through and took inventory of yourself before making a decision that far too many put so little thought into. If you really want to be a parent and have done this work on yourself honestly, and have committed to take responsibility for it, and have love as your reason for having a child, then you are a great parent, with or without schizophrenia.

@laurieberry4814 Год назад

I am an aunt with schizophrenia and I care about my niece and my three nephews. If I had the chance, I would adopt or marry a man with children. But I have a male friend with no daughters or sons. Congratulations on being a mom. You seem to have a great predisposition. I like how Rob complemented you on being a great mother. I guess that I am not a mom is because people didn’t want me to. I have rested a long time during Covid and I feel better. Watching your podcasts are helpful.

@emilyrose2912 Год назад

I love you! I live with schizoaffective disorder and complex ptsd. Your videos give me hope that I can live normal and things will be ok. Thank you. ❤

@liliankimani9524 Год назад

You are honestly wonderful practical ❣️🙏 and adorable 😘😍. I love you for coming out to dispell what ever fears people may have. Continue being great

@louisehogg8472 Год назад

Like that Rob very much does his part of raising the children, including 'new baby nightshift'. This should be normal, as children come with two parents. It's a shame that many parents don't share the load in this way. Also great that the co-parents do their share and see raising the children as a group project.

@katharinase614 Год назад

I have deep respect to her she is so intelligent beautiful and wonderful women mum she has a great heart and power I hope she will be so happy and better every day

@mhtxi9486 Год назад

So the lesson is awareness when it happens or being able to protect others from the symptoms. Awareness is really important

@deesharpe1108 5 месяцев назад

Lauren Im so glad I found you my late brother and mother (both have passed) have this. Before you I havent seen recovery they never took meds. My kids are adults (one almost 20 and one 25) I was always so scared they would get it as it presents in the 20s with most people but seeing you be so successful gives me hope if they do. Im also a nurse and most of my schizophrenic patients are non compliant so good for you. (Im a critical care neuro nurse). Side note on the video of you being hospitalized Im so sorry the nurses treated you that way. I have never worked in psych but have had many patients with illness and would never treat any of them the way they treated you

@dianafromcalifornia5127 Год назад

Thank you for sharing this! You are amazing ❤

@ashleyjones7714 Год назад

My husband has schizoaffective disorder, bipolar disorder, and major depressive disorder. All I can say is it's been hell being married to him because he's on and off his medications, and he gets offended when I ask if he's taken his meds or even when the last time was he took them. When he takes his meds the day is peaceful and calm, but I can tell right away if he has not because he can be the most angry, enraged, and mean person I've ever seen.

@mikaf8516 Год назад

I’m so sorry you have to go through this. I hope you are doing okay.

@plannergirljones2551 7 месяцев назад

You need to give him a ultimatum to take his meds

@jacqln405 3 месяца назад

My moms had it since i was 5 im 37 now and with out her meds i dont exists you can be ok in life. Sometimes shes so mean but im thankful she is here .

@kylehogan2247 Год назад

My father is schizophrenic, with personality disorders, and he is a far more loving and compasionate parent than my mother who is bipolar and has chronic depression lol I never understood why people always asume the best of 'normal people' and the worst of schizophrenics

@mariamatmos4506 Год назад

Schizophrenia doesn’t make you loving and compassionate, in the same way that bipolar and depression doesn’t make you an as**ole. A mental illness doesn’t make you a better or worse person. That’s a daily decision.

@kylehogan2247 Год назад

@@mariamatmos4506 couldn't agree more. even if it sounds condescending the way you have worded it lol I don't believe that was your intention though

@Satellite_Of_Love Год назад

I actually hear a lot more negativity about bipolar disorder, which I have. I'm always worried about the effect my mental health has on my family. The reason I say this is that I've seen a degree of sympathy from people towards some symptoms of schizophrenia that I haven't seen towards bipolar disorder. Many people associate schizophrenia with hallucinations and psychosis, and thus tend to have some sympathy towards schizophrenic people for that reason. These same people don't tend to associate things like hallucinations and psychosis with bipolar disorder, even though those with the disorder can have those symptoms (like myself). So all they see are the extremes in mood, and not the psychotic symptoms someone with bipolar might be experiencing.

@prapanthebachelorette6803 Год назад

@@Satellite_Of_Love true

@remmywrestledabearonce Год назад

as a mom w/ schizo-affective disorder, this video is very validating & it feels good to know there are others out there who experience life like i do. < 3 thank you!

@brookejoupperi3602 Год назад

I grew up with a mom that had schizo-affective disorder. although it wasn't always easy, I think a lot of people would describe their childhood/relationship with their parents as not easy. I wouldn't change my experience. Parents with mental illness can still be very capable parents and, in my opinion, can create children that are more aware of mental wellness and not be afraid of mental illness.

@alanpavlic Год назад

You are a wonderful communicator.......wishing you the best _

@emanne7470 5 месяцев назад

My mom was my advocate and she has schizophrenia. As I have grown older, I realize incrementally, how vast her empathy was for us and the care and consideration she had as well. I think she struggles with the stigma, and my father did not help at all with it. He was not the man she needed.

@If-u-say-so 26 дней назад

You so blessed that was the case .my story with my mother terrorize me in her delusions.

@banjara101 Год назад

You guys are amazing and I so appreciate everything, fine details ect. My daughter has Schizophrenia and I don't really think she will have children, but if she found a Rob that would be awesome!!! You are exactly right about having kids and how it is stressful, you are very intelligent and it seems that you are doing better than most parents!!

@fenyxvalerii2826 Год назад

God bless you ❤

@nyahmillsaps8341 Год назад

The way she speaks sounds so intelligent.

@lcasa3273 Год назад

Thank you for this video, it is also very interesting to hear you talk about your life and how you and your partner function. ❤

@123zigzag1231 Год назад

I have a mental illness. I chose to have a sterilization. Mental illness is HELL ON EARTH. I can't believe that a person who, at times , loses contact with reality, who is hospitalized occasionally for the disease and contemplates suicide is bringing a child into the world I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy even less on my own children I hope the child is healthy and if it doesn't have schizophrenia and if it does! It doesn't have a psychotic episode at the same time as the mother

@dreamsofturtles1828 11 месяцев назад

I have to agree with you, unfortunately. It is hereditary from what i understand. I knew a schizophrenic young man, his father was schizophrenic. This was a loving, gentle boy who never got it under control, was hospitalized numerous times and, last i heard, was living on the streets. He might be dead now for all i know. It was an absolute tragedy and i wouldn't wish it on any human being.

@fleegreen980 10 месяцев назад

The probability is 6,5%

@fleegreen980 10 месяцев назад

⁠⁠⁠⁠@@dreamsofturtles1828it is not hereditary at all. People have more chances to develop schizophrenia if they have a first degree relative who is affected by the illness. It’s a probability and it is very low actually. It’s 6,5%. The scientists believe that it displays as a result of a combination of both genetic and environmental factors.

@tinachxx110 Год назад

Thank you so much for this video. You are such an amazing women and so self aware. You know yourself so well and I love how well thought out and articulate you are. My father n law had schizophrenia and he was never really around for my husband. He also had a gambling problem. You seem so normal. Don’t ever let anyone tell you that you are different. Especially those therapist. I have major anxiety for few years where I was debilitated. And each time I talk to therapist they would always tell me my Brain is different. Well screw them! Everyone is different, screw being normal!

@yugoslava6409 Год назад

I owe you big apology!!! After watching you for the first time, I made wrong assumptions that all 3 kids are your biological. I thought that they lived with substitute parents while you were busy nursing the baby. I felt great compasion and sorrow for them, not knowing that they actually have one biological parent and her partner to care for them. I feel better knowing that they are taken care well of and that they are lucky to have two set of loving parents. Nothing out of usual except that both parties are doing their best to coparent. My apologies for inappropriate comment!!! Your videos are very informative as there is stigma attached to your diagnosis. Knowing more about schizophrenia from person with diagnoses is priceless. The symptoms of schizophrenia are similar to many mental illness symptoms and that is so good to know. As an autistic person, although not considered MI( but comes with quit a few MI) I can relate to your struggles and challenges. 💓🙏

@LeyasLife Год назад

My father was a paranoid schizophrenic. I turned out fine. I do have a bit of anxiety that I believe are environmentally caused and not so much genetically. However I have 3 children who all have issues on a different scale. My middle child who is 24 has bipolar..My oldest has a lot of anxiety… and my youngest who is 20 I fear may have schizophrenia. She sees things hears things. She even called me from the side of the road once saying that her car was shocking her. She felt electric currents running thru her and the car. Systems have slowly been building for the past few yrs. I don’t know if I would have had children if I knew the stats on schizophrenia. I think it’s 15% chance ur child would inherit the disease. Only because I know how devastating it can be for the person. I’m sure this is something u and ur partner discussed before having kids… But how would u feel if u passed the disease on to ur child?

@tishreni5183 10 месяцев назад

She doesn't care because she's well to do.She also has support in her current state but refuses to see anything other than emotions vs logic on having a baby.

@Desireeandtonyb 8 месяцев назад

As a fellow schizoaffective I have a supportive partner and this video makes me want to have children even more, I know my strengths but through it all I know everything will be okay.❤

@classyboombap 7 месяцев назад

My woman got this too.. started to believe she doesnt have it and stopped her meds again.. have seen alot when a few times she stopped it before and it can go crazy.. for 3 years it was steady, got pregnant and now she stopped again.. havent seen or spoken to her in 2 weeks cause of delusionals against me and it sucks

@ladytimeoin Год назад

I'm also a parent with schizoaffective disorder. I have a 10 and 8 yr old. When I was struggling to stabilise we were able to access additional low fee daycare so the kids were safe when my delusions were leading to dangerous behaviour (to myself not the kids). I definitely find the kids are a protective factor for me. When it was just me it was easier to talk myself out of taking meds or participating in treatment. But as my role as parent I 100% cannot do that without ongoing treatment.

@brookejoupperi3602 Год назад

As an adult child of someone with schizo-affective disorder, I want to tell you that I think it can be a positive experience. Yes, it can be difficult but has made me grow into an adult that is aware of mental wellness and someone who is comfortable around other people's struggles. I wouldn't change my experience for the world. My mother, with all the faults as any other human, was amazing.

@katherinekelly5380 Год назад

I have a family member with arthritis and a friend with Crohn’s disease and another who suffers from migraines and all three have flares or more to manage when they are stressed. Even knowing these folks and understanding how stress can completely knock them out, I never realized the same would be true of someone with schizophrenia, it seems to obvious now that you’ve talked about it - not sure why I had this blind spot

@georgesinclair5967 Год назад

Lauren you're a mother and a hero! You're an inspiration to all of us!

@timsebold3662 Год назад

It looks like you're living a good life. As a fellow schizoaffective, that makes me happy.

@vandavis000 Год назад

I have schizoeffictive disorder and i wont allow my daughter to be in my life to protect her. Its very complicated. But i still love my daughter. Yes i pay for her to live. Im not a deadbeat dad. Just opposite.

@prickleecactus23 Год назад

When you say your co-parents look after the kids when you're feeling unwell, does this include your biological son? If not, who looks after him?

@FranCisco-ff9dt Месяц назад

What a nice mom

@HonestlyYours516 8 месяцев назад

I am very much against anyone with schizophrenia or schizoaffective disorder having children. Not only is there a real chance that you can pass the illness onto your children, but the problems associated with having the above conditions can cause real problems in terms of raising your children properly. You only have to look at the case of the main character of the movie "A Beautiful Mind", John Nash. He had a pretty bad case of schizophrenia and unfortunately passed on the condition to his son. Also, Marilyn Monroe had a mother with schizophrenia who spent much of her life in and out of mental hospitals. Her maternal grandmother also may have suffered from schizophrenia. Unfortunately, Marilyn seemed to have suffered from psychotic symptoms at the end of her life (i.e voices) and was prescribed antipsychotics for it.

@Peace-12230 11 месяцев назад

What urges me and makes me sad that it can be passed down on the Genes im still not 100% sure i have schizophrenia. I would love to have babys sooo much but it just breaks my heart and somehow i dont wanna have because of the genes. What if my babys gonna suffer for forever? I just cant imagine. Much love for this Lady.

@michelles9897 Год назад

Yes! I can definitely see an abundance of empathy, compassion & kindness. 😊

@apriljanebayron680 3 месяца назад

Hey I have a question is there any problem taking paliperidone palmitate depot while pregnant? I have not tell my psychiatrist yet, that I'm pregnant, but before conception I depot with paliperidone. is there any problem the babys implantation?

@deanframe9095 Год назад

I think that being a parent I focus more on my kids then myself. So focusing more on what they need instead of all the time worrying about yourself or who’s watching you or who is trying to poison you as my daughter sometimes thinks. Maybe not you. Not every person who has schizophrenia has strong paranoia. My daughter kind of calms down and she doesn’t think about herself as much, Which is helpful to her do you find that serving your children helps you be stronger to handle your schizophrenia because I think being a mother would help you and your children even with this illness I think would help your illness and become more mentally healthy and stronger mentally you to have something to fight for I have to get back to my children if you’re 5150 or something like that I have to take care of them and it would always bring you home. It always bring you to your medicine. It’ll always bring you to treatment because you have to be there because those children ID pending on you to be there, which is a great responsibility and a stress factor when you have schizophrenia but regulated correctly I think it could be very healing and helpful. What do you think?

@skylerbaker9069 3 месяца назад

My daughter has schizophrenia and I don’t know how to deal with it 😢

@katydidmelanson3609 2 месяца назад

Treat her with respect. Open dialogue. Online research on flare ups. Finding ways to help .. like I find swimming and cycling manages my symptoms... Rest... Podcasts... Things to deescalate ..

@TOMS-ux4zp Год назад

Yes parenting is a learning curve and feeding a baby over night for parents unfortunately can't afford to be a patreon but feel your videos are beneficial to people I don't want to post publicly is there anyway I can contact you personally Rob and you?

@theresamitchell2111 Год назад

You are a beautiful person inside and out. But, here's reality, the added stress of having a baby with other children could cause your mental health to get worse. You will need extra help. It's so hard. You will need your "tribe" to help you stay balanced. Taking care of yourself when you have a newborn AND a child at any age is much harder. Your self care will be so difficult to do unless you have people to help. You will sacrifice your own needs to take care of your children. It's a sacrificial job to be a mom. I know this because I'm a mom with a mental health disorder. I didn't have much extra help. My mental health suffered. The child will, too. Like I said, I'm just giving you a real life example and experience. Your life is your own. Having your own baby stresses your body in so many ways, also. Good luck and many prayers to you and your beautiful family.⁰

@melanienurnberg6288 10 месяцев назад

Danke!

@SunShine-qk4rb 4 месяца назад

Great episode.

@mediaccount4203 Год назад

My mom has schizophrenia and she can't say things well and now she just tells me to get stuff for the house nothing else and its really heartbreaking for me as I'm a 13 year old and can't have a normal talk to my mom.whenever I talk to her she says get rice like eight times and then stops and she just moves around the house with her phone but I do have two sisters and the oldest is like a mother figure to me but as she has the power in the house as my dad is mostly gone on business trips so my sis sometimes blackmail me to do something for her or she will take my phone or ps4 and ya for that I hope that my mom gets better and spanks my sis haha 😁✨😊

@celestewest2785 Год назад

If I can go back to my 13 self I would say this… your not your moms mom. Don’t take on the responsibility of taking care of your mentally ill mother, & don’t let any family tell you you need too! Stay in school, get good grades, take with your teachers, guidance counselors etc, get into a college & leave far as you can! & make your life! Come visit holidays bday summer etc only, never say you will be caretaking your schizophrenic mother later in the future… because kid let me tell you it will ruin your life like me at 35 now, you will have no life but taking care of your mentally ill mom, feeling depressed without any savings & not able to provide for yourself! So hope you really take this message seriously, because now I was I could go back to being 13 & I would’ve done all this… now I feel like it’s too too late… anyways you take care kid, think about future & put yourself first!

@katydidmelanson3609 2 месяца назад

Is there something like a support group, church, online articles or references, channels to help you understand? A lot of us are alone in a way in these settings but we are also as survivors under that same umbrella and in that way you aren't alone... I get it! Stay goal orientated, work hard and make good choices to enable your life to be well.

@barbaraadelman2391 Год назад

I have no doubt you are an amazing Mom and your kids are lucky to have you as a parent.

@Pureimagination200 2 месяца назад

Do you think you would be a good parent if you were without a partner/spouse?

@YellowFlowerInTheDessert 5 месяцев назад

My mom has schizophrenia but she has always reasoned and spoken like a 12 year old 😢❤️‍🩹 She’s done and said hurtful things to us that has hurt us deeply. I wish she had your level of cognition. I’m 40 now and she is 61. It’s a constant pain seeing her act like a every day. It’s a pain in the heart we carry as a family everyday 💔.

@justinbailey6515 Год назад

Semi related question; At what point does the unaffected spouse make the choice to separate from the afflicted spouse for the sake and protection of the children? My spouse has bipolar with both of our kids being on the spectrum. Unfortunately, when the mania sets in, it can create a fair bit of chaos in the house, especially when they decide to self medicate. I worry about the long term health and well being of the kids. I love my spouse but I won't sacrifice the kid's well being.

@kathygildea2025 Год назад

I say, never compromise your children’s safety! If your spouse is willing to get counseling to manage his symptoms, along with medication, which it sounds like he does, and is still having mania, etc… maybe meds need changed… but that takes persistence and a very dedicated love that must go both ways, this journey is not easy! If your effected spouse will not work with you for the better of himself, the family, then I’d say especially if this is causing an unstable environment for the children, then you might have to consider finding an agreeable separation at least until there is change. Hopefully this helps alittle.😊

@truthspeaker8863 Год назад

this iis YOUR situation. you are assuming lauren is chaotic and a danger to her kids😂😂 their situation is NOTHING like yours so they can't answer your question. all the best to you though

@prapanthebachelorette6803 Год назад

It is a good question overall to get several perspective

@markjeffries7150 Год назад

I started having symptoms of schizophrenia in 1979 when I was 12 (I am now 55). I tried to hide them until 2004 when I couldn't hide the symptoms anymore. At that time, I was diagnosed as Schizo-Affective with Clinical Depression. So I had to stop working in 2010. I am grateful for your channel. Some day I would love to meet you and Rob. God Bless.

@robynbrown1549 Год назад

Youre amazing ❤ I think normalizing to out kids we struggle is so iimportant. That way when they struggle with their mental health they know its okay to feel that way too. Parenting is hard I hope you see how great youre doing . ❤ #fellowcanadian

@thepeacockparlor1512 Год назад

You are very sweet and thank you for being so candid on your channel. It has been helpful to me.

@bryonguernsey9794 Год назад

I know you don’t want to hear us praise you for your courage, so I won’t. But I will say as a person Who shares a child with a newly diagnosed schizophrenic mother while living under the same roof together. I have found your willingness to dialogue openly about your experience invaluable! I have no ability to dialogue with this person‘s care team, and anyway thank you for what you’re doing it is truly a lifeline of understanding.

@Neokalix Год назад

Congratulations on breeding with someone who has a severe mental illness. I'm so glad you decided to pass those genes on.

@Pureimagination200 2 месяца назад

My older sister has schizophrenia. There is no way she could raise a child. She can’t even take care of herself. She never had kids.

@123marchello Год назад

She’s amazing. Period. ❤

@Healthymuscles_gr Год назад

You are so gorgeous and amazing! You are truly a gem 💎 Your value is beyond meisure. My grandmother had psychosis and she was the most amazing human I have ever met. Kisses from Greece. 🇬🇷🥰

@MONEYAINTATHANG100 Год назад

delusional...

@eleanormorrison5503 Год назад

I have schizophrenia I'm 18 and I was looking down on myself like I wouldn't be able to have children thank you your inspiring

@outrageoushornet665 Год назад

Schizophrenic people are human being too, look at me, I'm stupid but I live my life like a normal person as well.

@BreeOlson9 Год назад

This is so dangerous. If you are schizophrenic and you see this because you’re thinking of having kids- don’t. Firstly- this last is currently in a Psych ward as I watch this- how’s that going for her kids? And that’s just what little she actually shows us. My mother was schizophrenic and my sister and I have suffered every day of our lives from our absolutely horrific childhoods. Imagine how hard baseline people say it is to have children- it won’t turn out well for anyone a a schizophrenic parent. I never even type this word in but because my phone knows my life- I’m constantly shown people w this. I hate what my mother did to me. I suffer w depression, anxiety, panic disorder, CPTSD and now have developed autoimmune issues as well- oh and OCD. My life is a daily struggle. If you get pregnant and are schizophrenic- get an abortion. Both my sister and I have said we wish we were never born.

@bdegrds Год назад

Thanks for answering my question

@mariachiurciu6619 Год назад

Who are those co-parents? The former partener of Rob and her spouse?

@If-u-say-so 26 дней назад

Unfortunately watching this is triggering, because my mother was a prairie schizophrenic. She was terribly abusive when she had breakdowns. Living a horror show and nobody could help us because of the laws We have to wait till it got really bad. Before the police would intervene She would get help. But I was very aware it was just a matter of time we be back in hell.

@laurieberry162 Год назад

This is wonderful. Prove people wrong. We need more fathers and mothers with schizophrenia. End the stigma.

@HonestlyYours516 8 месяцев назад

I think that it is important to remember that the symptoms of schizophrenia and schizoaffective disorder do not really manifest themselves until the person has reached adulthood. Statistics have shown that men aren't formally diagnosed until about their late teens to early twenties and women slightly later, in about their late twenties to early thirties. That can make it hard for a parent to realize that their young children may become schizophrenic later in life. I just hope and pray that Lauren's children do not develop the illness later on in life, because their is a definite genetic correlation between parents with schizophrenia and their children.

@hayleyprice8345 Год назад

Rob like how you support luaren

@terryabate9231 Год назад

These are hard questions to answer and Lauren you’re doing such a wonderful job!

@Burevestnik9M730 Год назад

My question is: what is your medication regimen?

@Burevestnik9M730 Год назад

No answer, no support. Sorry

@kyliemcgary3063 Год назад

How do u know if u have it I hope I never get it

@lordvader6512 Год назад

I'm wondering if my girlfriend has this along with a good dose of paranoia and emotional outbursts? Sends me texts that are scattered and hard to understand. Claims to see and hear things that don't exist. Believes that me and other people are spying on her, hacking her phone, leaving trash for her in front of her car, etc. Not sure what to do?

@lauren-ww1ip Год назад

have her see a therapist if you can convince her to try it for her anxiety. obviously don’t tell her you think she may have schizophrenia or that she’s delusional or paranoid. i really recommend using “psychology today find a therapist tool” because you can filter by insurance, mental health issue, gender, specialty of therapy used, etc. it’s great. it s how i’ve found my current and past therapists. if you can talk w her and let her know in a very calm and understanding but not like condescending way that you think she has anxiety (and not anything else) and that maybe seeing a therapist (even over video in the comfort of her own home) could really help her start to unwrap everything and figure out what’s going on. ❤ i’m so glad you care so much. you’re a good boyfriend.

@lordvader6512 Год назад

@@lauren-ww1ip She lives over an hour away from me. The other day she was convinced that I was in her neighborhood at the donut shop and didn't visit her. I tried to using logic but didn't seem to work. The other thing she does is make many impulsive decisions that get her into trouble and cost her money. Hopefully I can find her a therapist or psychiatrist that her insurance will cover.

@freetobree5323 Год назад

Leave while you have the chance.. let her get help and if it’s meant to be, you’ll get back together

@stephaniewilson5284 Год назад

Sounds like she has it...if she gets help it may have the consequences of medication which can help or create terrible life issues like weight gain suicidal issues and worse hullicinations. She should however seek councils guidance to start with maybe? If she doesn't seek help it could mean you suffer horrors.

@lordvader6512 Год назад

I think she might have bpd. Probably that and other things that are psychosis related with it.

@kathymarler1446 Год назад

I love how you first educated yourself about mental health disease, then you are applying it in your life, and by sharing it with us, you are educating us by your example! I am deeply grateful! I think you are a very caring person, a great mom and wonderful wife and Rob is also great dad and husband. But especially because of him trying to understand your illness and help you with it and both your willingness to put your private life out there, shows how much you value each other and other people as well. I’m very proud of you both!

@marionstephen5720 Год назад

Thanks for sharing, I learn a lot my daughter may have this mental illness, you help me to understand more what she is going through. Thank you

@jacquelineleitch7050 Год назад

My issue is with the manner in which society easily dispenses with me as a human being because I can’t stand up to bullying (who can when you are so nervous on the one hand and don’t know the degree to which you may be hallucinating on the other hand). But I was able to do group things with the kids enough when they were young that they developed ability with social relationships. I couldn’t maintain that veneer when the kids hit highschool age but they were pretty well figured out by then. But social alienation is a big deal for parents with a mental illness and trying to give their kids a better chance is a lot of work.

@WTF-m6b Год назад

Seek out a hypnotist who is trained in spirit release, or find a spirit release team. A number of cases relate to attached earth bound spirits, some people do not have to live like this

@geoffsansom Год назад

No , seek Jesus . He is the only way for true healing

@NBay_ Год назад

I don’t understand , if there is a chance to that you can transfer this to you kid . Why even take that 1% Chance. Also , copying with this mental condition , no matter what it impacts family and kids. So why put them through it.

@MsFlamingFlamer Год назад

Anyone having a kid is taking a risk. Even if you and your partner are both “healthy”.

@mianeculcea6789 Год назад

Yes, it's a "risk" if you are healthy. But if you are ill, there is a certainity. That being sad, me, as a child whom mother has schizophrenia, I can totally say it made my childhood very sad. But I enjoy life, I have a wonderful life now, even if sometimes I am still sad for the "child" me and of course it's still affecting my adult me in some ways. If I wasn't born, it would not have been a problem at all. If someone would ask me if I wanted to be born, I would defenetley say yes. I had a lot of wonderful experiences in my life too, especially because I create them and maybe I have this optimism and I am more strong and have a lot of compassion because of my sad childhood, I don't know. But if someone would ask me if I wanted to have those problems in my childhood, no, never, because I feel so sorry for my mother, father and siblings too.

@MsFlamingFlamer Год назад

@@mianeculcea6789 my dad is bipolar and I live the most fantastic life now. Ridiculous terrific career and great husband. All life has suffering, that’s the first noble truth of Buddhism.

@truthspeaker8863 Год назад

@@mianeculcea6789 what do you mean if you are ill there is a certainty? 90% of kids born to 1 parent with it don't get it. and 99% of people that have it have experienced really bad trauma, for example it cooccurs with PTSD quite often. I can tell Lauren is not going traumatized her baby lol

@truthspeaker8863 Год назад

Half of Americans have mental illness. Depression has led to people harming themselves and others and depressed parents are more likely to pass depression to their kids. same goes for obesity, diabetes, bipolar, Down syndrome, and every other illness. so should those of us with illnesses stop having kids??? Lets practice EUGENxICS because that would be great, then society would be obesity, mental illnesss, and down syndrome free 😊😊

@myintellect2577 Год назад

Did the husband know of the schizophrenia before getting his child involved?

@oliae2898 Год назад

You sound like an amazing mom.

@warmbreeze43 Год назад

My son is just like you. He’s still in crisis mode at the hospital. He will be turning 35. My heart breaks. Thank you

@tamarabradberry9299 Год назад

I empathize with you. My son is 34 and currently doing well. Same illness. I've had a broken heart since he became ill at age 26. There is hope and still good times. God bless.

@warmbreeze43 Год назад

@@tamarabradberry9299 my son has had this most of his life. Had his first break at 18-20 yrs old. Now I can’t see him or help him. They said he’s an adult. Everything has changed in health care since 2020😭. I’m sorry for your family too. God Bless

@avalauren4731 Год назад

My mom has schizophrenia and her paranoia included not trusting me (but also always expressing that she loved me) it was a hard thing to live with.

@labellavita992 Год назад

My mom has schizophrenia and it started when I was around age 8. Left me super traumatized honestly. I see a lot of comments on here of people being positive but I don’t relate at all. The chance of becoming schizophrenic is the reason I chose to never have children. Would never, ever want to put a child through that. 😢

@gaoda1581 Год назад

@labellavita992 that's very honorable of you

@truthspeaker8863 Год назад

@@gaoda1581 I have severe mental illness and my life is very much worth living. I travel, I'm in one of the best schools in the country as well. I love LIFE!! I know my symptoms were caused by trauma, this disease is caused by trauma. They say it's genetic but in reality almost every human with the disorder had a traumatic childhood so I don't believe it is genetic. It's kind of like saying diabetes is genetic when in reality, environment (the food you eat) is the sole determining factor of if you will get it or not. People with depression which cause people too take their own life and the lives of others are also more likely to have depressed children and this goes for every mental illness! PTSD, Depression, Bipolar, Schizophrenia, with your logic, 40% of Americans should not have children LMAO!!!! should Obese folks and down syndrome folks and and folks with diabetes also stop having kids?? then 80-90% of Americans would not have children. People like you are much like HitHER (ler)