Story 7: the mother CHOSE to have kids, meaning she CHOSE to take on the massive financial burden that kids are. This is just one reason why people should have to be licensed to have kids.
You can't ethically gatekeep reproduction by default, dude. We should teach people enough in general ed to be reasonably sure they'll be decent parents.
@@RenTheWren it's far more ethical to "gatekeep" reproduction than to let just any idiot or asshole have kids they'll neglect or abuse. At least 80% of the world's population should not be parents and I will die on this hill.
@@RenTheWren you can teach some people every relevant subject/skill set and they'd still have no business reproducing. Some people should be parents, but most shouldn't but do out of either some societal obligations or one selfish reason or another. The world is so grossly overpopulated, the human race could stop breeding for a generation and we'd still have too many damn humans.
Story 1: quite frankly OP certainly has a right to be upset for not being involved, regardless of the money. OP is apparently the only family the brother has, so for him to not involve her is a pretty big snub and OP should really reevaluate her relationship with him. Especially in regards to the money she gives him. In particular before paying for the IVF treatment she should investigate wether or not they can even afford to raise kids or if the brother already expects OP to pay for the kids upbringing as well. The story has some updates and has been resolved in a positive manner between OP and the brother. Though I wouldn't be surprised if her relationship with SIL will be quite strained in the future. As OP's exclusion in the wedding seems to come mostly from her, her reasoning: her family knows what she wants and traditionally the wedding is about the bride and OP and the brother don't have the same taste and she doesn't want to feel pressured into changing anything. Apparently the In-Laws didn't even know that the sister was paying for anything, that only came out when they asked her to contribute for the honeymoon. OP also decided to cut off the financial support for the brother in the future, she would pay for the for the IVF, but nothing more. Story 4: I would say the son hopefully has a well thought out prenup, because it says a lot that the DIL focuses so much on someone earning money. Definitely NTA, OP being a homemaker is a decision she has made with her husband, as long as they are both in agreement on that, then there is nothing wrong with that. It's also admirable that she is doing volunteer work as well, the DIL sounds like a horrible person for being so dismissive about it.
S1: OP should stop bankrolling their siblings life. money isn't love. and also this sibling has no love for OP if they can leave out their only family. also sibling and his partner can't afford their lifestyle at all and shouldn't be getting married, let alone starting IVF, if they can't afford it. OP should focus on their life, stop payment on everything for the wedding, and take a vacation. S4: all i have to say is that volunteer work in every community is vital to the functioning of every community and to the quality of life of families in every community. volunteer work keeps families and kids alive, helps people learn to read, feeds people, houses people, helps people learn computers, helps people get jobs, keeps trash off the sidewalks, care for seniors, and so much more. also being a SAHP is vital to the functioning of households/kids of many families, it's a parents choice. so eff that DIL. i'm autistic so i'm blunt, that wasn't blunt. it was mean, sexist, and classist. and S7: that is financial abuse and those kids could have called CPS on their mom at any time. as adults they should report her to the police in case she scams other family or non family.
The mother in the last story is sick and demented. She needs to be committed into a psychiatric facility. There's something majorly wrong with her thought process. Also, I've never understood the whole making your child pay rent when they turn 18. No wonder so many young people find themselves in dangerous living situations. Parenting is not over when your child turns of age. If this is your thought process you need to reconsider having children.
Story 1, first thing 50,00£ a year is not that well off, its only about $64,000. This sister has paid for the brother's masters degree, made the down payment on the brother and SIL's house, will be paying for IVF for SIL, and is now paying 25,000£ for a wedding. This woman is sacrificing greatly for her brother and future sil. My question is thisz WTF Are They Paying For? It sounds like they can't support their lifestyle at all and really shouldn't be getting married until they're more financially stable. And this business with IVF, if sil manages an actual pregnancy how will they afford this child? Will sister have to take on all those expenses as well? These two are friggin leeches.
I heard the story about Kevin before, completely forgot about it, heard it again here. I love that story, and mainly facts guy's way of telling it made me laugh my ass off.
Does anyone else picture Kevin as one of the orange tabby cats that have to share the single braincell? It makes it even funnier when you consider the owner thinks Kevin is just that smart all the time to be able to knock on doors.
story 6: my cat learned that if he stood on the rail of out porch stairs and looked in our kitchen window and meowed when we saw him he got let in. Cats can learn do lots of things i do not put it past one to learn how to make a sound like knocking on a door
I can't stand parents that think their kids owe them for just exsisting...like if you don't want to spend money on your kids, DON'T EFFING HAVE THEM. Its also possible she is just using this as a way to profit from them which is still abusive. Screw that b word.
Story 1: NTA! OP should start cutting back on him and not help as much! It is about the money! Story 2: Neighbor deserves it! Story 3: Blobby did know that OP screwed with him! Quite deserving for revenge! Story 4: NOPE! DIL is rude and an inconvenience, and the son is not seeing OP's side! If you don't give respect, don't expect respect back! Story 5: Don't screw with your employees, or they'll make you cost more! The good managers were probably in the 70s and 80s, so it's expected to find the low-lofe managers that don't give a frick and want to see green instead! Story 6: Yep! I wonder how long it will take before the neighbor finds out the truth! Story 7: Should've moved out once you were able to, OP! Court her to take back your paychecks and possibly extra for the trauma!
Story 7: My wife and I may have inadvertently done something vaguely similar, although we never asked our kids to pay back anything. We sent our kids to parochial school, which wasn't cheap. We did not keep this a secret from our kids, although we didn't discuss the cost of their education with them. The kids did pick up on the fact that it was a major expense, though. The result was that they started getting angry with any fellow students who misbehaved in their classes, because, they would say, "My parents are paying a lot of money for me to come here and get an education, and YOU'RE preventing with me from getting it!" Their teachers loved that line, and I have to admit, it made me proud. Neither my wife nor I prompted it. The eldest came up with it all on her own, and I think she shared it with the younger ones. They've all turned out to be pretty smart, and that goes well beyond school.
The last story is just insane. The average person loses their parents around mid-40's-early-50's (according to a Google search). That means you'd have about 30 years to pay that off before it wouldn't matter anyway. That would be just shy of 2 grand a month.
My guy is acting a little on edge today with the commentary. I mean I agree with everything he had to say but he added some extra jabs in there today with his feedback and definitely seemed to get a little more mad than usual. Did you have a few more cups of coffee before filming this one? Either way, still agree and found it even more entertaining than the usual videos.
Story 1: NTA and I think it's sad...his choice, but still very sad. Stories 3 & 5: what is wrong with people? You should work as a team at work and managers especially should be supporting their staff. Also I agree that the body shaming isn't called for. It's a low blow and some people struggle with their body image to the point of self-termination. Resist the urge to go that low, please, as tempting as I know it can be. Story 4: NTA, I agree that the son is a coward at least, massive AH at worst for allowing his mother to be abused by his partner like that. And I doubt that those tears were real; I imagine they were highly weaponised. And even if they were real, it should cause her to reflect on her behaviour. Story 7: that's some EVIL behaviour on that woman's part. It sounds like she decided that she could get herself a guaranteed lifetime income as long as she could invest for 18~ years and successfully break her cash cows' spirits. She didn't provide for them; she robbed them of a childhood and tried to extort from them in their adulthood.
Story one: I don't care if OP is the most possible person. I don't care if she's a fucking serial killer. If her brother didn't want her at the wedding, he wouldn't ask her to pay for it. Not the asshole. Edit: The stupid editors click baited me into thinking OP wasn't even invited, when in reality she was invited just a guest. Editors, PLEASE stop it with these stupid clickbait titles.
