OK: So after the abusive crap show that her first pregnancy was, her kidneys were damaged and they both agreed that they were never having another child. two years later and she just casually says, "I'd like to try for a Girl this time." and gets weirdly religious about it, because they are not a religious couple. But she is all like "this is gods plan" and "god wouldn't let me die". When OP brings up the abuse from her last pregnancy she tries gas lighting him like an upper class Victorian street. Finally he goes to his brothers place to get some clarity, and his SIL tells him he has basically had his head in the sand, she has always been extremely manipulative, it just came out full force while she was pregnant. He has decided he needs to get divorced.
well pregnancy messes with your head too...not sure why they made the first kid since health issues and those pregnancy symptoms are actually standard for most pregnancies...including in healthy people yeah
@@magoo9279 No, she abused him during the pregnancy like striking him, throwing things at him, screaming at him, accusing him of things without reason. If you want, just go look up the story.
@@magoo9279 because he's a man and he thinks he's entitled to a woman's servitude with no side effects despite the fact that the woman is risking her life to give him a kid...women need to stop allowing these monsters to breed tbh, he deserves so so much worse than he got
I know someone who was on Depo. A rare complication was developing a SERIOUS allergy to almost any food. Yeah. She got it. Started on bananas and white rice. Each week try adding a new food. Bad reaction? It's on the naughtly list and that week is shot. One time she was at a commercial building and someone on the other side of the building, through a closed door, was running a cotton candy machine. Epi-Pen shot and off to the ER for her.
my ex wife had a nightmare pregnancy as well. sickness, carpel tunnel in both hands then an 18 hour labour that had to go to emergency cesearan. turned out her pelvis wasn't wide enough to give birth. then 8 hours after birth our daughter started drowning as the c section doesn't clear the lungs of fluid. she turned blue and had to be crash cart revived before spending a week in icu. then a week after release we had to emergency evac the house due to the 2003 canberra australia bush fires which came straight at our suburb. it was one hell of a memborable pregnancy for almost all the wrong reasons. including a week of having to cook and prepare babies bottle on a camping stove. Daughter is fine and just completed a university degree this year.
Sounds like it was a Nightmare for your both, and it seems a Little ODD that with all that suffering that she would want to force you BOTH to go through that A Second Time. NTA. Well, unless she somehow got off on making you SUFFER.
@josephhurst4902. Oh wait. My daughter in-law had horrible pregnancies. First one almost died from her blood pressure being 200/110. No I'm not lying. Thirteen years later got pregnant a second time. She was in the hospital for 3 months before they took the baby at 36 weeks. Every pregnancy she had to stay in bed for 3 months. Then they would take the baby at 36 weeks. Women are stupid.
I think this man is trying to help her honestly, some people may think he is holding her back( most of the comments don't and I appreciate like minded people)but it's just for her safety in general.
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So many people pretend to be want they think a person wants them to be. A friend of mine years ago told me how disappointed she was with her husband. She told me how he change after they had gotten married and asked him about it. He went from a nice loving considerate man to a mean overbearing tyrant that made her life miserable. He told her how else was he going to get her to marry him if he did act nice. 😮
@@shelby-r1e I've seen many men ramble about that nonsense though. They basically say that women "want" x or y and they have to pretend to be x or y. All we want is someone who actually loves us 😂
@@gachatana9656 no, females never want that, which is why you always see so many females initiate divorce. the ungratefulness and deceitfulness are females default traits.
So this short doesn't explain everything but the rest of the story he goes onto explain that she became super mentally and physically abusive to him during her first pregnancy.
um yeah nothing he listed off is her using him as a punching bag so bs on that point. nothing wrong with not wanting to have another kid but dont make stuff up to get out of it just tell her you dont want to go through that again. be upfront about it. all the things he listed are things that are possible in a pregnancy. I have nausea issues and i often cant get to a proper receptical because of how sudden it can hit i wouldnt even want to imagine how much worse morning sickness would be
Ah yes, men's worries and suffering are worthless in the eyes of women. Are you going to care for her during the pregnancy? Do you have anything of value to say, such as actual advice for how he could talk his wife out of another pregnancy or even how to make the next pregnancy less stressful for both of them? Then shut up, and keep your shaming-language bullshit to your self.
I almost lost my wife and first child. I came with in 12-18 hours of both them dying. He was born at 28 weeks. my wife had preeclampsia. It was extremely rough. I did a lot of the same thing you did. quite bitching about it.
