I took myself on a date bc hinge just ain’t it 

I think it's incredibly mature of you to have such perspectives at 21. You're right that there's a lot of societal pressure about what your 20s should be. I'm 25 but I'm still trying to finish my under grad and I have family members constantly asking me why I'm still in school and honestly it's tiring to deal with. I've been single forever and my family members also always ask if I have a girlfriend, to which I always make them disappointed with a no. It's taken me a long time to come to terms with what led me to who I am today, and for you to already be thinking like that, I think you're on the right track. It's important to love and be comfortable with yourself before tackling any sort of dating I think. I know I am perfectly content doing whatever I want on my own, but there is always a thought in my head that it would be nice to have someone special to share it with. I'm sure you'll find someone some day, I think you're mature emotionally and attractive. You're only 21, so you have so much time left. Lastly, I want to applaud you for even making a video about this in the first place. It's a personal topic that I think a lot of people wouldn't want to talk about, and you just went ahead and shared your experience with us. I usually don't comment on any videos I watch, but this did resonate with me and I'm sure many people as well. And I wanted to show support for someone willing to share a vulnerable side of themselves for the sake of sending a positive message. And yes we read video descriptions.

Thanks for this video, i really needed to hear it! I’m going on a solo trip this summer, and learning to be comfortable by myself is something I’m still working on. It’s hard when all your friends are dating and you’re the only one who’s single, but loving yourself first is important. Then one day, like you said, you will find your other half unexpectedly.

Thanks so much for sharing this video! As a rising senior in high school, I completely relate to the fears about missing out and not living a "normal" life, and it's especially hard when you don't realize others share your fears in a more "professional" and less personal landscape, when people hide their true selves.

I love seeing vids like these and hearing the music; its so romantic. Then the insight at the end of the vid after your master chef snippet was just the cherry on top. I've always thought I've been good at being by myself and just taking myself out on dates, but I've found it hard to do lately with changing environment. But after watching this, it makes me want to take myself out now. Thanks!

Waiting for that day when Coco will have a million subs and me proudly saying that i subscribed when she had just over a thousand subs😁

There are many things I liked about this video! The fun fact about the ELO in dating apps, this part about finding someone who makes you love more what you already love, and the background music... also the love yourself message is very nice, I liked this video!

I really like how you structure your idea and narrate it through out the video! Great self reflection and also good to know that you have family to fall onto when needed. PS: Nice kiwi accent!

It warmed my heart, i really needed this video right now to cheer me up, so thank you! I identified with every word you said, I had so much fun hearing you speaking about life and everything else. I really like your content and hope that you will continue doing things you love and be yourself, and so more people will get to know you:) keep going with the hard work!!💕🐢

Hi Coco! thank you for the video. The one thing I really have trouble with is truly loving myself, just because of the fact that I do feel the pressure of finding someone and seeing so many people get cuffed or having a lot of fun. But with this video it really showed me that I really don't need those things to have fun at all and I find it awesome that you could do that byurself. Keep up the content really loving it!

i love the fact that she’s literally talking about that we all been through and as for me i have no friends to hang out with, for the past 2 yrs i’ve been on my own and this video is so relatable for me tho, loved it,keep doin’ stuffs like that coco🫡🌟

Hey Coco! Thanks for opening up on your perspective on dating and how being single isn't all that bad. Past couple of months I've been really wanting to have a relationship, and envy those around and close to me who have found their partners and enjoying life with one another. I really feel like I'm ready for one because I've been through so many emotions already, and now I am confident enough to get into one. However, all this wanting of a girl made me hate myself for being single sometimes, and always blamed myself how I'm not even trying. Thanks to you and this video, you reminded me how it is also important to maintain a strong level of love, confidence, and fun with yourself no matter what, even during a relationship. With all this time being single, it definitely helped me find my way onto becoming a better self. I've been working out a lot more, and planning to start meditating soon to keep my stress levels in place from school, financials, and many other life things. Thanks again Coco, and keep doing what you're doing! You'll become famous one day, I'm sure!! :))

Thank you so much for this video Coco. I'm sitting by myself in my 30s and I feel like I lost this skill to be by myself. It definitely helps to see such an inspiring video. Thanks

i discovered you through joma's but i became your fan when i started watching your genuine videos.it feels like you're a friend of mine and you were talking to me. you seem so kind and genuine person who i'd like to befriend and takes care from bad people. please take care of yourself! thank you, coco! 💜

refreshing and relatable. thanks for posting. love the content coco !

Hey coco, thanks for this video truly. I've had a really rough week. This video really reminded me of how at peace i was at being "alone". Lately I've been so swept away by the constant pressure of being "seen doing cool stuff with friends" or of my friends getting married, attached and literally pitying myself for being single. Thank you for snapping me out of this constant loop of societal pressure. Being confident "alone", i think that's a beautiful self that i want to find again.

u are such a good chef and genuine person!! anyone would be lucky to have u

love ur beginning edit, so aesthetic and film-like! hats off to u for knowing how to cook and cook for urself such a great meal..haha

Coco so pretty 😍 You're right, what's sadder is being around the people you love but still feel alone.

aw i loved this video - so relatable and reassuring and felt like a warm hug :)

This was really eye-opening! Really relatable at the same time! Thank you for sharing this in your channel! Much love from a Chinese born Kiwi

This is so genuine and real and relatable and I really love it great job keep it up

Tyty for that voice edit @7:27 // Didn't know I needed that today. Love from LA.

I really enjoyed this video bcuz I related to you so much. There’s no point in “rushing” to get a gf/bf. That would only make it worse. I also just enjoy time or days alone where I could do whatever I want without worrying what my friends think such as going to art galleries or choosing other places to go.

Hey Coco, I just stumbled upon your intern video and started to follow ur channel more. To be honest, you are a really pretty and smart individual so someone will definitely come your way, I doubt you needed those apps anyways (I can also speak from my experiences from hinge). Focus on self and enjoy the moment! A partner or the significant other will definitely come! Keep posting down to earth videos like these, will be a consistent viewer from today :)

this was so well articulated and a beautiful vid coco🥺all the best ♡

new subscriber here! loved this video and how vulnerable it was. this felt like it was a diary entry, and i feel like we share a lot of the same thoughts on dating/love/loving yourself. such an important topic to speak on and the overall vibes are so aesthetic and heartfelt. thanks pretty girl coco! :)

Firstly thanks for your video. I RARELY comment on videos or things due to my own anxieties. However, my overall mood from your day was hopeful and happy. What is impressive is how calm you are when talking about your personal life because personally, I wouldn’t be able to do that. This is also refreshing for me because I tend to think being alone is a sad thing but being able to go your own direction is adventurous in itself and that is exciting. I'm sure it might not matter to some people but I think your doing a great job on you're videos, keep up the good work. P.S. I'm probably that guy that wears the ‘ugliest’ t-shirt ever on a date because I don’t think about what I wear and I thought the sub of “you had one job” was funny.

your opening edit is really great i cannot say anymore!!

Really needed this kinda (solo date) vlog !!

I admire you for this. Got wholesome vibes rushing through my body because I am so similar.

Just wanted to say I stumbled upon your video, and it really made my day. I guess this will be just another comment to you, but I really loved how you're funny, your unconventional thoughts, your thoughts about scents, about enjoying being alone, about you and dating, your weird accent, the way you say "sauce" haha. And YeS, I aCtually read the Description, and I just hope you'll keep making these super great videos! 😊Cheers!

This is also how I spent most of my days and I don’t feel lonely being alone. Coco you’re so cool!

Hii Coco, you brighten up my day when I was feeling down... you are def a huge inspiration to me and made me feel better about myself. I just want to say you are never alone, you def have many many fans who are cheering and supporting you, and one day, you'll meet that one fan who really likes you 💖💖 Keep looking up, and can't wait to see you post amazing vlog videos!

It's been almost 2 year now since i decided to work and college at the same time, I spend my time working and completing college assignments, the free time I have I spend a lot of time thinking alone or resting. I realized that I've been spending almost two years with myself, I just realized recently that I'm feeling tired. I like to spend time thinking about how to reflect on myself thinking about what I have achieved and what I can improve on myself. I feel happy watching the videos you make, I feel I have friends in arms who enjoy their own time and make good use of it. Thanks for the great video

7:15 yeah, I totally agree on that scent idea. Whenever I smell a familiar scent, I do remember a lot of things like special events and moments in my life and also people that are using that perfume and how they are important to me

watching your videos makes me feel younger, and it makes me remembers all my young glory days... Send you best wishes. Enjoy everything around.

my wife BLOWING UPPP this is adorable u deserve every bit

love your edits!!

I think it's great that you find yourself good company. I see a lot of my friends and acquaintances seeking partners to make their lives interesting, but I think that we should just focus on the things that we love to do for ourselves. The right person will come along sooner or later.

Hey Coco, I think this pressure you talked about will always be around when you are single, we just need to accept it, but the good thing is that you are already in peace with yourself 😁 which sometimes people take a while to reach this point (and I talk with my own experience) Continue to live the present moment and doing what is meaningful to you! (don't rush things just because others are pressuring)

self love queen! i definitely resonate with your thoughts, thanks for this 😘

Thank you for making this video. Didn't knew there were others similar to me in terms of being alone.

9:04 Damn cool shott. Also love the vibe of the video. Made me do a lot of self reflection

This is my first time seeing your video and i love it I feel so nice after watching this

I apologize if my english isnt that good as it is not my first language. I just want to say that I really admire you and how I want to live just like you, I recently went through a breakup and realized how lonely I was. I had friends that I would aways look out for when they needed help and I would do anything for them, but when things got hard for me lately, I realize how alone I was and how tired I am by giving my full self for them even if it meant me having nothing left for myself. It didn’t make me sad to know that I was alone, it was because I like to see things in a positive way, I saw it as a sign to take care of myself and make myself the reason to be happy and not rely on someone else. I admire you because it seems like you are leading the kind of life I need right now and I someday hope to be able to live a similar kind of life with or without anyone by my side and still be as happy and content. Much love coco

this whole video is a mood 😌😌😩😩

you got balls of steel, not a lot people can go out alone and enjoy... Confidence level 100

Thank you for sharing this video. This speaks everything of my views on dating and being single. I became a subscriber when you watched your life as an intern to a RU-vidr. I love how natural your videos are. Keep it up.

Knowing u thanks to Joma, and I have to say I really enjoy watching ur vids recently. Keep it up!!

really love ur attitude towards life❤

you are my new fav youtuber love ur video so much keep going coco

Juilliard recitals are a really good time. I used to go by myself when I lived in NYC and it's one of the things I miss the most about the city. It's free and the performers are amazing. Give it a try on your next solo date!

well,,, I found your video randomly. love your channel so far!!! one is probably because of the similar age and also I have the same thought as you on 'being alone'. I can relate so so much. anyways love your videos!!! keep up uploading more

I love your confidence coco and absolutely agree with you☺️

Good contents and really good vibes. Coco, when I was 21-22 years old. I wanna live like this to get to know more about myself but I couldn't. Thanks for this video. It made my day :)

Loving this kind of content! Thank you coco! Keep it up! Hehe

Wow your work is blowing up! Keep it up!

With this video you've just become one of my fav youtubers!

Coco,, i discovered you thru Joma , and this video is so gewddddddd, and so cuteeee, aghhh, this feels like the old time youtube vlog (if you're already born adn watching youtube :D) but I really loveee this kind of content. please pls pls do more.

The video started on a pretty good note with the whole self glam up and exposing dating apps for what they truly are 😤 ... but gawdamn halfway through the video the mood (maybe it was because of the choice of bgm) really shifted and it felt really depressing 😭 especially when she mentions the (limited) human interaction at 13:20 followed by the rest of the dinner for one...I know this video is about being okay with these stigmas but man...it's hard to not feel some sadness. I mean everyone has been/will be like this at some point in their lives so it's relatable. FUCK. 😑 Coco you're still young, very hardworking and ambitious, so it's still best to put most of your focus on yourself for now. Someone who can appreciate you fully will come eventually so don't treat yourself unfairly for not having that person in your life right now. (ANd also wanted to let you know that I do read your video descriptions 😉 Would be keen to see a video about you growing up in New Zealand as it was mentioned a couple of times in this video, or something like a 100 facts about Coco)

Great retro edit style!

It’s was a lot of inspiration, I will surly take myself on a date and give myself more time to be me. Love the video.

really nice vlog! would love to see more of your content coco :)

seeing this video reminds me of my own life except i'm probably a lot older. i've gone on vacations on myself and to movies and bars alone. yes you're right about the apps since they are useless. whenever i thought i had a match on any of them it was always a bot if anyone that all i was matched with. when it comes to meeting women in public i was a magnet for women that needed dr. phil on speed dial. most of the people i know if they are still on earth are either married or doing something that keeps them busy in their life. hookups seem to be more important to half the people over getting to know someone first and seeing if you really connect. just have to say you're not alone with how you feel and i hope you do meet someone that will end up being your other half. i definitely will send this video for my social media single female friends that are in the same situation.

Your videoes are great and really comfy!

coco - just keep grinding - felt everything u expressed

i never write comments, but you're definitely my new role model.. i'm going to try living my life like this in 2023 and see where it takes me :"))

Yo this truly is relatable content!

This really helped me put things into perspective :)

I rly like the way u tried to talk urself through being single, exactly what i thought about it.

Hey Coco, i think this sentence of your do make sense "I want someone that make me like something that i like more because they love it". You can be more of yourself and less thinking how to make others to like you in their way. Thank you for sharing and hope you keep doing the things you like.

Being comfortable to do things alone, especially travelling is the best thing ever.

Ahhhh i needed thisss!!! 😍😍

makes sense, going to galleries alone is nice but IMO its not as good as going with someone you love and can be yourself around, maybe not as a first date but afterwards. Also wanna learn what frags you're interested in atm!

I think the entire video can be summarised in one sentence : "Being alone doesn't necessarily mean being lonely". Being an introvert I completely relate to this video of doing things for yourself rather than what the society norm is.

this is love✨i also enjoy dating my self alone💕

loved this video so much!

As a single fighters i’ve affraid to go out by my self before, i can imagine how if i met someone who knows me and thougt what they think about me cause im on “solo dating”. But this video made me curious, break my overthinking about people think about me and i wanna try my own “solo dating” by my self one day tho. Thankyou for making this video coco, cant wait for ur next video :)

You look great dressing up as you want and being yourself as you are. Go on dates as you are and the dates would definitely be better for yourself whether you like it or not! (: The places that you love to hang around are definitely places that others would love to spend time with you too.

i'm glads for your content , great jobs

I can't be the only guy, who is like.. Where can I find this Coco!? RU-vid is a very addictive medium for drawing people in. As someone who is 30, I would say you're doing the right thing.. focus on yourself, and when you're 'happy' being alone, someone else who is 'happy' too will come along too, and both can be 'doubly happy!'

This video inspired me and made me feel less lonely 🥺

Your videos are actually very thoughtful, moreso than most RU-vid vloggers without it feeling forced. Also side note, you should look up what the real meaning of the biebs love yourself song is about lol

I love your videos! And i love you

I love your view on life. so young but so well put together.

took myself out for a date for the first time yesterday and it was sooo fulfilling, walking around the city by myself, not having to worry about the other person LOL, taking time to do whatever for as long as i want to... i'm already looking forward for my second date haha. i think it's a success :D

I just subscribed tho and I’m enjoying it already

love ur video coco, agree with everything u shared in the video! and We have so much in common too 55555 hope to see u in NY in person one day..felt that connection.. (well, its one way for now..coz u dk me haha) but really like u! also great that u r are so independent in US and seems challenging urself with new things in NY!

This video is pretty amazing 🔥

You have great music taste!

Tus vídeos me motivan, gracias!!

Really liked this video! very down to earth

super wholesome as always! i thrive to be one of those tech guys who likes art...

pls keep on feeding us quality aesthetic content with slight taste of Joma's humor coco

Love your videos coco❤️

一个人待着真的很好呀！做自己喜欢的事情，慢下来，给自己多留点时间，多爱自己❤

well, this was unexpectedly invigorating

Same. I gave up on dating apps so will just focus on overall growth and maybe someone will come alongside this journey.

beautiful video 🥺 hope coco will grwo to million subscriber

I've been single for the past 6 years now because I haven't really cared for chasing relationships. I ALWAYS go to eat out by myself, specifically to this one restaurant so much to the point where the waiters were commenting on it lol. But that's just what I like, not having to worry about being entertaining or coming up with clever things to talk about, I can just sit there in silence and chill while I eat by myself.